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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
16	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security”	Debate	iamexercised	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 07:22 PM

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–	Men care about body count because they're jealous Oh honey, “there’s no other logical reason”? That’s adorable—like logic is just your personal playground where inconvenient perspectives don’t get a turn on the slide. Let’s clear this up: not everyone who prefers a partner with a lower body count is shaking in their boots over ghost peen comparisons. Some people (gasp) just see values, long-term compatibility, and relationship stability differently. And sorry to break it to you, but yeah—for a lot of people, more than 5 partners by 30 is a red …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 04:16 AM
-1	Most girls don’t prefer significantly older men That’s a pretty weak argument. Just because the average age gap isn’t massive doesn’t mean there isn’t a significant number of women who are into older men — averages don’t capture everything. Also, acting like women solely drive relationship choices oversimplifies things; social pressure, financial dynamics, and availability all play roles. You can’t just cherry-pick a stat and pretend it tells the whole story.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 07:39 AM
1	Most girls don’t prefer significantly older men You’re projecting your own preferences as if they apply to all women. The reality is that many women do prefer older, successful men, and no amount of denial will change that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:38 AM
-4	What do you think is going through the mind of a man whose baby passed a paternity test? Oh, spare me the melodrama. You act like a paternity test is some nuclear betrayal when in reality, it’s just basic verification. If a man wants to confirm that a child is his before signing up for 18+ years of financial, emotional, and legal responsibility, that’s not an attack on a woman’s character—it’s common sense. You’re painting this as if every man who asks for a paternity test is spitting in the face of some devoted, saintly mother, when the reality is infidelity exists. It happens. A l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:33 AM
0	Most girls don’t prefer significantly older men You’re missing the fundamental point about attraction and relationship dynamics. The idea of “growing old together” sounds nice in theory, but in reality, women are often drawn to men who are already established—not ones who might become successful later. A 32-year-old man isn’t just wealthier; he’s also more experienced, confident, and socially dominant. These traits make him more attractive right now, not just as a future prospect. Meanwhile, a 24-year-old guy still figuring out his career mig…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 01:15 AM
0	Most girls don’t prefer significantly older men This whole argument is based on a misunderstanding of how dating dynamics shift over time. You’re treating a narrow slice of data—what you and your peers prefer at 22—as if it’s the universal and unchanging truth, while ignoring how women’s preferences evolve as they age. The reality is that women’s attraction to older men is well-documented, and it increases with age. The 1-2 year age gap you mentioned? That’s an average, not a ceiling. Studies show that as women move into their late 20s and 30…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/25 05:00 AM
–	There's nothing for woman to complain about other than "emotional labour" Absolutely, you’re so right. The whole “emotional labor” argument is honestly overused and blown way out of proportion. If a woman is constantly doing all the emotional work in a relationship, she has every right to set boundaries or leave. No one is forcing her to stay in a situation where she feels drained. It’s not society’s fault, and it’s not men as a whole—it’s about personal responsibility. And let’s talk about how this term gets thrown around whenever men open up about things like loneli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 08:01 PM
2	The advocating of age gap relationships While it’s true that many men openly express their preference for younger women, that doesn’t mean young women aren’t interested in older men—just that they may not voice it as openly. Many women, especially those who are more mature for their age, are drawn to older men for their stability, life experience, and emotional maturity. Younger men often struggle with immaturity, lack of direction, or commitment issues, making older men a more obvious choice for women looking for something serious. H…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 04:54 PM
1	Why do you shame men for approaching women? Aww, sweetie, it sounds like you’re deeply invested in my “above-averagely sized meat corridor.” Should I be flattered or concerned? You’re talking about it like you wish you had one. Maybe if you spent less time obsessing over me and more time working on that tragic personality, someone might actually want to visit whatever sad little alleyway you’ve got going on. But hey, keep seething—it’s entertaining.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 07:00 AM
1	Why do you shame men for approaching women? Oh wow, you’re 19 and not overweight? Congratulations, you’ve cracked the secret formula to baseline existence. I’m sure the world is simply in awe of your incredible achievement. For someone who insists they don’t care about male attention, you sure do talk about it a lot. It’s almost like you need everyone to know that you’re young and getting attention, but not that kind of attention, just the right kind—except, wait, none of it matters, because you totally don’t care. Except you do—but only …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/25 02:42 PM
-2	Why do you shame men for approaching women? Ah yes, the classic “I hate male attention, but let me humblebrag about getting it” routine. You clearly think you’re young and hot—otherwise, why the “man who could be my father” line? Gotta slip in that little “I’m so youthful and desirable” flex, huh? The funniest part? Truly confident women don’t need to constantly remind the world they’re getting hit on. But hey, with that attitude, it’s no wonder you’re attracting all the wrong guys and scaring off the decent ones. Keep blaming men though—…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 07:15 PM
11	Believing every man claiming to be baby trapped is wild. The irony. You’re ranting about “red-pillers and conservatives” having a gender bias while doing the exact same thing—just flipped in the opposite direction. You act like men can never be victims and always have some sinister agenda, because God forbid accountability applies to both genders. Yeah, some men are deadbeats, and some women do baby trap—welcome to reality, where people can be awful regardless of their gender. But nah, keep screaming about how men are always the problem while pretendi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 01:21 PM
0	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Lol, this is delicious. You’re trying so hard to act like you’re above it all, but let’s be real—you’re seething. You went from desperately ranking your girlfriend’s looks like a guy who knows he got lucky, to now pretending you’re just here for the laughs. Cute. Nothing screams secure and unbothered like furiously typing to prove you’re winning. And I’m the one who can’t get laid? Sweetheart, projection isn’t just a defense mechanism—it’s practically your personality at this point. If you were …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 12:38 PM
0	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Oh, this is precious. You’re over here frantically reassuring yourself that your girlfriend is the hottest one in the room, while also making sure we all know your friends didn’t settle—almost like you need external validation to believe it yourself. Hate to break it to you, but if you were really dating someone out of your league, you wouldn’t be online bickering about it. A confident man enjoys his life; an insecure one desperately tries to convince strangers he won the lottery. And let’s be r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 11:44 AM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Ah yes, the classic “you need therapy” deflection—because anyone who doesn’t agree with you must be broken, right? Funny how the guy who’s clearly overcompensating for something is the first to hand out psychological evaluations. You’re out here bragging about your “beautiful woman” while subtly reminding everyone that your friends had to settle for “less beautiful but still amazing looking” girlfriends. That’s not the flex you think it is. Sounds more like someone who knows he wasn’t the first …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 11:34 AM
2	Reasons men should not always "decenter relationships" This take is dripping with arrogance and completely ignores the fact that people have different priorities, values, and life paths. The idea that romantic relationships are the ultimate fulfillment for everyone is just self-centered projection. First off, working on yourself while in a relationship is obviously a good thing, but let’s not pretend like relationships don’t fundamentally change the way people prioritize their time, energy, and focus. Some people prefer to build themselves up before…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 07:59 AM
0	Most dating advice given to men tries to turn them into something they're not. This is such a defeatist, black-and-white take that completely ignores the fact that everyone adjusts themselves to be more attractive in the dating world. Acting like this is some unique, insurmountable burden placed solely on “sensitive beta males” is ridiculous. First off, the idea that improving confidence, assertiveness, and emotional control is equivalent to “faking” a personality is nonsense. Confidence isn’t some mystical trait you’re either born with or doomed to lack forever. It’s a sk…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 07:58 AM
1	People who think two parent household automatically means a good one are very naive. Absolutely not. This take is way too focused on the worst-case scenarios while ignoring the broader reality. Yes, toxic two-parent households exist, and yes, some married parents are neglectful, abusive, or just plain bad at parenting. But that doesn’t mean the institution of a two-parent household is inherently useless or that people who value it are just “in LaLa Land.” Stable, loving two-parent homes do statistically offer more financial security, emotional stability, and better outcomes for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 07:55 AM
0	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” So now you’re playing the “where did I say that?” game? Cute. You don’t have to spell it out when your entire argument is dripping with the same tired expectation—men should always pursue, pay, and prove themselves, while women just exist and wait to be chosen. And backtracking? Please. If a guy isn’t pursuing, he’s either not that interested or has enough options that he doesn’t need to chase. That’s just reality, not some victim-blaming conspiracy. But nice try twisting it to avoid admitting t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:53 AM
0	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Wow, you date a “beautiful woman” and have friends who date “less beautiful but still amazing looking” women? Well, congratulations on your totally not-inflated self-perception. But let’s be real—just because your girlfriend isn’t running off doesn’t mean women aren’t drawn to unavailable men. It’s adorable how you think you’ve cracked the code, but your entire take boils down to “just be normal, bro” while completely missing the reality that plenty of women do chase men who barely acknowledge t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:44 AM
2	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Spare me the “most women actually want a nice guy” fairytale. If that were true, the “nice guys” wouldn’t be the ones constantly left on read while the so-called “chaotic” women chase after men who couldn’t care less. And sure, let’s pretend the whole “woman hopelessly chasing a guy who barely acknowledges her” thing never happens. Meanwhile, entire industries profit off women obsessing over unavailable men. Romance novels, reality shows, TikToks crying over “situationships”—but yeah, so exceedi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:43 AM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” So now simply clarifying a point is “moving the goalposts”? Cute. You’re acting like men blindly pursuing and paying for everything has always been some universal law, when in reality, it’s just an expectation women push because it benefits them. If you’ve “always believed” men should do all the work, good for you, but that doesn’t make it right or fair. The real issue is that men are waking up to this dynamic and realizing it’s not exactly an equal exchange. You can double down all you want, bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:42 AM
4	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Ah yes, the usual “women are the prize and men should just grovel at our feet” speech, wrapped in a nice little rant about how men are to blame for everything. It’s funny how you act like men are the ones “throwing tantrums,” yet here you are, writing an entire essay because the idea that men might have standards or expectations of their own makes you seethe. If society truly “proved me wrong,” you wouldn’t be so bothered. But here’s the reality—men are waking up to the fact that blind pursuit, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:41 AM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Ah yes, the classic “No, YOU’RE the one projecting!” defense. Real original. You’re acting like women aren’t out here constantly analyzing men’s behavior, testing interest, and overthinking every little interaction. But sure, let’s pretend that never happens and I just pulled this out of thin air. If it’s such a “bizarre scenario,” then why are you so pressed about it? Funny how the people who swear something isn’t true are always the loudest when trying to deny it. Almost like it struck a nerve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:40 AM
–	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Oh wow, that was a whole lot of words just to say “I’m triggered and need to convince myself this doesn’t apply to me.” You’re practically foaming at the mouth trying to spin this into some gotcha moment, but all you’ve done is prove the exact point you’re arguing against. You’re clearly pressed, but let’s be real—you wouldn’t be this defensive if what I said didn’t hit a nerve. Keep telling yourself that women don’t care what men think while writing an entire essay trying to prove me wrong. The…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/25 06:40 AM
1	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I would bet you probably remember them more than they remember you. You might have been their first, but they’ve likely moved on and found someone else. It’s just how things go—sometimes the “first” stays with one person more than the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:52 PM
4	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD What’s a high N-count these days?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:49 PM
-2	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” I’m not blaming women for chasing or waiting to be pursued. I’m pointing out that both extremes can have consequences. If you chase a man who isn’t interested, you might end up wasting time. If you sit back and expect him to chase, you risk getting involved with someone who doesn’t value you enough to put in the effort. The point is, it’s not about whether a woman chases or waits—it’s about being selective and ensuring that the man who’s pursuing you is genuinely worth your time, not just chasin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:35 PM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Fair enough, but the core idea still stands. It is not about men intentionally playing hard to get like some high school game. It is about men who naturally have options, confidence, and priorities outside of chasing women which makes them harder to get. That distinction matters because women are not drawn to artificial games. They are drawn to men whose value speaks for itself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:30 PM
3	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” If that were true, there wouldn’t be entire friend groups, podcasts, and social media pages dedicated to dissecting men’s behavior. Women might not always cry over men, but they definitely obsess, analyze, and vent about them constantly. Having “30 more lined up” doesn’t mean anything if the ones they actually want aren’t committing. That is why the same women who claim to have endless options still get hung up on one guy who won’t give them what they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:29 PM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Nobody wants to feel like a backup plan, and that applies to both men and women. Just like women avoid desperate men, men also don’t want to be someone’s last resort after they have exhausted other options. Attraction is about genuine desire, not settling out of loneliness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:28 PM
2	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” This is actually a solid take. It’s not about playing some exaggerated role—whether it’s the desperate nice guy or the aloof bad boy—it’s about being a man who is competent, experienced, and discerning. Women aren’t just attracted to confidence; they’re attracted to a man who makes calculated decisions about who he invests in. A guy who falls head over heels for a woman he barely knows signals weak judgment—which, as you pointed out, historically wouldn’t be ideal for survival. On the flip side,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:22 PM
-1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Exactly—but the irony is that many women only feel truly “wanted” when they have to earn it. If a man is too eager or desperate for a relationship, his attention feels cheap. But if he’s selective—if he doesn’t give his time and commitment easily—then suddenly, winning him over feels personal and special. That’s why it’s not just about being “wanted”—it’s about who is doing the wanting and how much effort it takes to get there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:20 PM
-1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” You’re not an anomaly—you’re just proving that sexual attraction isn’t the same as relationship dynamics. You hooked up fast, and now she’s emotionally invested despite your clinginess and questionable behavior. Why? Likely because of a mix of physical chemistry, emotional highs and lows, and the presence of competition (other women in your orbit). The fact that she almost ended things over your messages but still sticks around? Classic push-pull dynamic—she feels both threatened and hooked, whi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:19 PM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” You’re actually proving my point. The key difference is that you were intentionally “playing hard to get” in high school, while these men are naturally high-value and preoccupied with their own lives—which makes them “hard to get” without them even trying. Women aren’t attracted to men who fake disinterest—they’re drawn to men who are genuinely selective and not desperate for validation. When a guy is focused on his own goals, has options, and doesn’t feel the need to chase, that naturally incre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:17 PM
-5	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” He’s not indifferent—he’s selective. He might approach, but he’s not desperate or over-investing in a woman he barely knows. He shows interest, but he’s not groveling for attention. That balance—confident but not needy—is exactly what keeps certain women hooked.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:16 PM
-8	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” It’s almost like both things can be true at the same time, depending on the situation. Crazy, right? Women do expect men to do the approaching, the planning, the initiating, and to “prove” their interest first—otherwise, they assume he’s not serious. At the same time, once a man signals he isn’t immediately available or easy to win over, certain women absolutely do start chasing, questioning, and trying to “earn” his attention. This isn’t some wild contradiction—it’s just the result of human psy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:13 PM
0	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Oh, come on. If women were really as indifferent as you claim, the entire dating industry wouldn’t revolve around decoding “mixed signals,” obsessing over why he hasn’t texted back, or dissecting whether his lack of interest is a test or a red flag. Let’s not pretend that TikTok, Instagram, and entire Reddit threads aren’t filled with women analyzing every minor action a guy takes. The truth is, while some women might genuinely not care, a huge portion absolutely do—especially when it comes to m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:11 PM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” You’re half right, but you’re missing the bigger picture. Yes, women want good-looking, tall men—no argument there. But the key part you’re glossing over is why those men are more attractive beyond just their height and looks. It’s not just about genetics; it’s about perceived value and selectivity. The reason tall, good-looking men seem “hard to get” isn’t just because they have options—it’s because they act like they have options. They’re not desperate. They don’t over-invest in women who have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:10 PM
1	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” you’re absolutely right—it’s not difficult to understand. Attraction is a combination of looks, personality, confidence, and other intangible factors. No one is denying that. But let’s not pretend there isn’t a blatant contradiction in how many women approach dating. Women say they want a man who treats them right. And yet, when a man actually does—when he’s too available, too eager, too interested—it kills the attraction. Why? Because deep down, people (especially women) don’t just want what’s …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:09 PM
-6	The “Hard to Get” Man: Why Women Chase What They Can’t Have and Call It “Security” Oh, absolutely—women should wait for men to pursue them. That way, they can sit back, avoid all risk, and only entertain the men who are willing to put in the effort while they get to be the passive prize. Sounds great, right? Except, here’s the issue: the same women who swear by this rule are also the first to complain that the only men who chase them are the ones they don’t want. The reality is, men who aggressively pursue women from the start are often the ones who do so because they have not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/25 09:08 PM
1	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD so 11 is fine but not 12?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/25 07:37 AM
–	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD that’s 5 grown hairy mens penis inside one woman some of them multiple times. Go outside and count 5 guys and imagine all of them have been intimate in a bed at night with one woman, sweating and exchanging bodily fluids with her. Yes, it’s obviously too much	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/25 06:15 PM
–	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD nothing worse than a jaded 25+ year old woman with an N-count > 5 giving advice to young girls about dating around and exploring her options before settling for a good man. As if a good man is guaranteed even though they have been passed around to low-lifes previously. A good man doesn’t want you or your baggage	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/25 06:06 PM