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This is the sad thing I've realized. I've met tons of people now that I've built my confidence. 90% of people I meet are cruising through life. Very little aspirations, goals, dreams. They are living day by day, week by week with no real passion for anything. My last few girlfriends really became interested in my hobbies and some of them really got into it, doing their own research and stuff. They didn't last because I felt like they were always in the passenger seat and never vice versa where i…
/r/seduction29/12/18 02:28 AM
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Dude, 2 months of "conversation" without a date. You're just a flirty texting buddy to her at this point.
/r/seduction27/10/17 09:22 PM
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Said this before but will copy paste it here again. You will always want to show clear and honest intent with your actions through kino and physical escalation but at the same time, you don't want to flood the girl with your affection. Let's say you have 100% of your affection to give per week and every week it resets back to 100%. If you are interested in only one girl, you would be giving all 100% of your affection to this one girl. This would result in showing too much interest to one girl. I…
/r/seduction18/10/17 10:17 PM
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I am late to the party but I hope people read this. One thing that I'm not liking in this discussion is so many people asking for Tinder advice. That's not what this post is about. Nothing against Tinder or any other online dating solutions but so many of us are missing the point. Please take OP's advice and go approach in the real world.
/r/seduction29/09/17 08:50 PM
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Can confirm. Had the same girlfriend from ages 18-24. Learned about this sub at 27. Am now 32 and getting a lot of attention from girls of all ages. OP, just work on yourself and be disciplined and it becomes a lot easier as you go into your late 20's.
/r/seduction22/09/17 09:07 PM
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Also, there are so many times where I see a girl from a bit further away. Can't really tell how cute she is but initially looks like a 7. As I'm walking towards her, I see that she's more like a 5-6. I then think to myself, "Oh well, I walked this way already. Might as well still say hi." Just now with even less pressure on myself because I REALLY don't care about the outcome.
/r/seduction14/04/17 04:56 PM
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Of course. A phonebook worth of numbers. Many, many dates. Some turned into a relationship. But also tons of rejections. So just relax, this is one of those things that get very much easier after just a few tries.
/r/seduction14/04/17 04:54 PM
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Not really that important. If you want to approach, just do it. All the approaches I have ever did, the girl never looked my way. I didn't wait for any sign from her.
/r/seduction13/04/17 10:44 PM
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I think the most important thing is to not get into a texting habit. If you're sending a good morning or good night text every other day, it's a pretty big turn off. But let's say you're giving pretty low texting attention to a girl. But one day, you give her a "Hey, just thinking about you while I'm in line waiting to pay for my chocolate chip ice cream" text, you will definitely score points with her.
/r/seduction13/04/17 10:03 PM
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No problem. All of us have gone through it. Just know that you will find the emotional power to do it and afterwards, you'll wonder why you haven't done it sooner. Just remember, Trump is President. Humans are killing this world through global warming. People are getting killed. Yet, here you are all worried about saying hi to a girl. In the grand scheme of things man, what difference does it mean to be afraid of something that is suppose to be natural for us guys?
/r/seduction13/04/17 09:54 PM
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It's not even about how hot a girl is anymore when you reach this age. Sure, physical looks are important and it feels good to be with a girl who's attractive but I really don't mind being with an above average girl if they have a good amount of character. I have gone through a bunch of 7's lately because they have a more down to earth personality and are way less high maintenance than a 9. They have proper priorities and are more focused on a having a drama free life. 8.5+ girls are such a head…
/r/seduction13/04/17 09:37 PM
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You'll scare away girls being this forward but the ones who stay and chat with you will usually lead to a date if you stay cool, confident and non-reactive.
/r/seduction10/04/17 11:17 PM
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No attack on you. Just saying, would a confident guy care about all the negative stuff this girl has shown? He wouldn't. Does she really like me and just waiting for me to escalate or is she just using me for validation and someone she can text ? Would a confident guy care if a girl likes him or not? He wouldn't. Good luck man.
/r/seduction10/04/17 11:15 PM
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You can. My interactions usually go like this Me: Hi Her: Hi? Me: How's it going? Her: Good? Me: Thought you're cute so I wanted to come flirt.
/r/seduction10/04/17 10:08 PM
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I'm a extremely confident guy Yet you made a post about a girl? Dude, if she's confusing you, and flaked on you and her texts are boring, just drop her. She might be cool to hang with "when you actually do hang out" but so are a million other girls.
/r/seduction10/04/17 10:07 PM
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Probably just making small talk but you know how you could find out for sure? By suggesting a meet up. Then again, you only interact with her at her work and a lot of people don't like gaming girls on the job so it's up to you.
/r/seduction07/04/17 09:07 PM
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Just next her. A few times I found out a girl I approached has a boyfriend through other means. I just straight out asked her, "Do you have a boyfriend?" Either she lies about it which is an instant next or she says yes she does which is also an instant next.
/r/seduction31/01/17 12:34 AM
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Then spend that week getting more girls and trying to make the number closes more solid This. Meet more girls and get more numbers -> you won't even care or remember who's not returning your texts.
/r/seduction31/01/17 12:31 AM
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Do you text girls this way too?
/r/seduction24/01/17 07:24 PM
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Bringing out your artistic side pulls almost all kinds of girls.
/r/seduction24/01/17 02:53 AM
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I really doubt this dude. Open your eyes. How big is your school?
/r/seduction24/01/17 02:52 AM
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Learn to tease them. It's okay to give girls a little crap sometimes. I actually recommend doing that because that's how you find girls who are not only compatible with your sense of humor but to find ones who are confident in themselves that can take a little.
/r/seduction14/12/16 07:07 PM
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Questions like that are signs of low self esteem. Don't ask. Run your usual game but let her do what she wants.
/r/seduction14/12/16 06:57 PM
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self awareness I think we all understand what you mean but it should read social awareness I believe
/r/seduction03/12/16 12:13 AM
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This is exactly how it is once meeting and approaching girls start becoming routine. I feel a little bad for girls to be honest. At most 5% of the guys hitting on them are of any value. Girls have the choice at the beginning. After a few dates and the girl starts falling for a guy, he has the choice.
/r/seduction23/11/16 08:10 PM
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Move.
/r/seduction23/11/16 07:53 PM
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Fair enough. Some people only go for certain girls while others are fine with a bigger range. It's not really a determination of their gaming levels, just different standards.
/r/seduction21/11/16 11:15 PM
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The OP is having trouble interpreting the signs that she is sending off likely because she is unsure at this point whether he is interested The signs she's giving? She's probably using him for attention and flaunting herself in front of him like "you can't have this. You can try though so I can feel good about myself." you give the freaking worst advice possible of just wait around and she if she jumps on his dick at some point? Where did I say that? My advice was to drop her. I listened to moro…
/r/seduction21/11/16 10:52 PM
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Like /u/EternalVision said, whatever works for you. After being in the game for a couple years, I realize that it seriously doesn't matter what the fuck you do as long as you're confident, cool and comfortable. If you like chatting/texting with girls longer than what this sub suggests, go for it. There are definitely tons of girls out there who are 100% totally fine with that. You might push away the girls who don't like it but does that matter? It doesn't because you're already filtering out th…
/r/seduction21/11/16 10:41 PM
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Me and also my friends who've tried. After my failed attempts, I learned my lesson and just don't game girls with boyfriends anymore. Like I said earlier, I'm not disagreeing with you; people do cheat or do move on quickly. But I'm just speaking from experience that it's not worth it.
/r/seduction18/11/16 08:29 PM
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I've said it many times. If a girl was interested in a guy, she will make it happen (AKA if a guy had to make a post about a girl, most likely she's not interested). I don't necessarily disagree with anything you said, but this girl is text book attention seeking and OP should drop her now. The constant studying together is ridiculous; he should just be acting casual when he runs into her but otherwise act aloof. I have met quite a few girls who were flirty but had boyfriends. None have ever dro…
/r/seduction18/11/16 08:04 PM
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I'm looking for ways to improve and refine my interactions with people when I go out. I'm by no means an expert but I do pretty well socializing. I'm not into the casual lays (so can't really help with same night pulls) but I have gotten into double digit relationships so far. I get that you want to take yourself to the next level. You're approaching people more, you're communicating with people more, but maybe you feel your progress isn't where you thought you'd be at. I'm not sure how long you…
/r/seduction25/10/16 06:21 PM
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I posted this on another similar thread so I'll just paste it here. One day, for whatever reason, the gods will infuse you with power. Emotional power. Doesn't even matter if the girl's a 10 or a 1. All of a sudden, you get a strong feeling that this is it, you're going to approach this girl and eye fuck her. She can reject your approach all she wants, maybe she'll even give you the stink eye. But you don't give a fuck because you did it. You realize you're still alive on this waste of a planet …
/r/seduction21/10/16 04:26 PM
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Maybe it's just me, but when I find out how young a girl is, no matter how cute I thought she was before that, their value decreases to me and I no longer feel as attracted to her. Source: 31 and unknowingly have approached 17 year olds
/r/seduction21/10/16 04:15 PM
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I'd like to emphasize the don't try to please her but at the same time, don't try acting like an asshole. Be considerate but decisive. And really really tease the shit out of her.
/r/seduction07/10/16 07:54 PM
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Dude, did you even read through some of the sidebar?
/r/seduction06/10/16 06:06 PM
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But the problem is that this happens so much (although, as I say, this is apparently 'normal'?) that I wonder if I should carry on trying to 'plough' somehow. Other PUA's say 'never give up until she literally tells you to leave her alone!!" In my experience, about 1 in 3 approaches I can at least have a decent conversation with. The other 2 out of 3 times, either timing is off or she's cold and I eject after a few exchanges. One thought is that maybe I should playfully 'call her' on it? This ha…
/r/seduction04/10/16 09:34 PM
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You can put the odds ever in your favor Getting someone to do something they may have otherwise not done. The way these are worded makes it seem like we manipulate girls/women to sleep with us when that is definitely not the case. This sub is about improving ourselves as a man and that naturally attracts the other gender greatly.
/r/seduction04/10/16 09:28 PM
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One day, for whatever reason, the gods will infuse you with power. Emotional power. Doesn't even matter if the girl's a 10 or a 1. All of a sudden, you get a strong feeling that this is it, you're going to approach this girl and eye fuck her. She can reject your approach all she wants, maybe she'll even give you the stink eye. But you don't give a fuck because you did it. You realize you're still alive on this waste of a planet that we're all slowly killing. At this point, you finally understand…
/r/seduction03/10/16 07:22 PM
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It's called life man. Everyone goes through ups and downs. Anyone can have dreams and inspirations when life is good. But when life is down, that is where the work is at. The only thing that matters is what you do when you're down. Winners use their downs to improve themselves. Losers continue feeling bad about themselves, sometimes even spiraling into depression.
/r/seduction03/10/16 07:10 PM
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Jobs that force you to interact with people. Bartending Server Host Sales
/r/seduction03/10/16 07:03 PM
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By practicing. Talk to more people, try to avoid going on autopilot. Conversing is a skill. You not only need to know what mentality to have, but you need practice sticking with that mentality.
/r/seduction03/10/16 07:00 PM
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For some reason, people on this sub feel that girls are a textbook and that they can attract them by following a process. These people need to understand that all people are complex individuals who have their own various levels of emotional ranges.
/r/seduction03/10/16 06:57 PM
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The thing is, you probably liked her more than she liked you. I've been on some dates where I didn't care much for the girl physically but we had some things in common so I just kept the date on pretty friendly terms and had some good conversation. At the end, some girls would be all over me and I would reciprocate. I don't know why I reciprocated but with a little alcohol, I didn't really care. Next day, they would try to initiate texting and I would just ignore them. In regards to the OP's sta…
/r/seduction22/09/16 09:25 PM
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Lesson learned. 40 days is a long time without a date dude. I usually give a girl 2 strikes to hang out; if she declines both, next. Also, if you offer a girl to hang out over text/social media and she says no in any way, be it a joke or not, go radio silent. If she sends another text asking if you're mad, still ignore. Just ask her again in a few days and if still no, next.
/r/seduction19/09/16 11:45 PM
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Keep approaching and practicing. You think that by just talking to a girl for a few minutes she's going to want to go on a date with you? Of course there wasn't enough attraction; you interrupted her busy day and she has her own stuff going on. But every once in a while, there'll be a girl who really clicks with you and she'll feel it too. She wouldn't mind making her friends wait for another 15 minutes and she'll stay to talk to you a little longer. These interactions are where we really need t…
/r/seduction16/09/16 04:36 PM
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This whole post is just a list of excuses....did you even read the sidebar?
/r/seduction15/09/16 08:53 PM
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Dude, this guy comes into the sub without lurking, reading the sidebar, and learning the basics. Why even bother...
/r/seduction12/09/16 05:15 PM
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First, YOU CANNOT KEEP GIRLS INTERESTED THROUGH TEXT You know...even though I still believe this to be the case but I've run into some girls who lost interest in me because they truly wanted a deep relationship and felt that my lack of texting meant I was just "playing around" and "If I really was interested in them, I would be texting them all the time." I am still going to do whatever I want to do but there are girls out there who do like constant texting. Not for me at the moment but I no lon…
/r/seduction12/09/16 05:06 PM
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I always use this when the girl stops talking and we're just locked eyes. Gets so many laughs and giggles.
/r/seduction24/08/16 06:13 PM
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I would never try to hold a woman's hand on the first date Why do you feel this way?
/r/seduction15/08/16 11:49 PM
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Usually if you have to make a post about a girl, generally it means she's not interested. And I've also done the long distance texting and set up a date when she gets back a couple of times and they never come to fruition. I would say to go meet more girls and focus on those ones who can go on a date. If you want, you can shoot this girl a text when she comes back and see if she wants to meet up then. If not, oh well.
/r/seduction15/08/16 11:45 PM
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How about you go find out?
/r/seduction10/08/16 03:42 AM
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Don't expect anything when you approach. Some girls will be friendly, others won't. And it isn't really a judge of their character how they respond. It's just at that moment, she'll respond with however she's feeling. A girl who's otherwise generally friendly might be having a bad day and just doesn't want to talk to a stranger. What I'm saying is that you just got to keep approaching and you'll learn how to respond to anything a girl dishes out to you. Biggest step is actually approaching more …
/r/seduction09/08/16 09:28 PM
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Just keep practicing. Talking is a skill you can develop. Just talk to a lot of people. Work in retail for a few months or become a bartender.
/r/seduction09/08/16 05:18 PM
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The reason they reply with an awkward hi is because they have no fucking clue who you are. She could be thinking you're a salesperson or some creep. She's just giving herself a little protection. Just tell her why you're saying hi with a smile and be cool and chill. She'll realize you're just trying to hit on her and either she eases up and relaxes or she continues to be awkward and in that case, I usually just eject after a few more words.
/r/seduction09/08/16 05:07 PM
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Is there a reason you keep responding to this guy's post? Are you a coach? Or maybe his alter ego that has his own reddit account. Would make an interesting movie if that was the case.
/r/seduction08/08/16 09:15 PM
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Not all women but you got that right that most are wired that way. I'm just going off topic and saying that if I met a girl who is giving me shit for not giving her enough compliments no matter how playful she's playing it, it's just an instant next for me.
/r/seduction20/07/16 05:08 PM
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I'm going to go against both of you guys here. There's only been a few girls who I came across who said stuff like "that guy's hot" but the best response to me is no response, just like /u/MikeHaines said. I just change the subject. Sometimes right away, sometimes I just ignore her for a few seconds and just sit back and glance around the room. Just no response, no reaction. I don't give a shit if she thinks some other guy is hot and I don't need to show her that I don't care by using some react…
/r/seduction20/07/16 05:02 PM
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It can be very effective to get a girl chasing you and worked up into a frenzy of seeking validation by not complimenting her or giving her any statements of interest. In my experience, these type of girls are not worth any of my attention. Who wants a girl who's own self value depends on other people giving her validation?
/r/seduction20/07/16 04:47 PM
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People in general are pretty lazy. You ever meet up with your friends and you're all just chilling at someone's place all trying to figure out where to eat dinner or which bar to go to? Nobody wants to think. Same goes for setting up dates with girls. You're asking them which day works for them. Just take control of the date by setting a concrete time and place. Not saying this will get girls to say yes, but it will definitely increase the odds of them saying yes. Also, try to tone down the text…
/r/seduction19/07/16 11:47 PM
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I have gone with that opener many times. I guess it doesn't work for me or I don't pull it off :) Maybe I can field test something in the middle length.
/r/seduction08/07/16 09:59 PM
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It's going to collapse because you can't be the "funny guy" forever. This is the problem. You built attraction with a girl by making her laugh and she loves that about you. She continues to see you and date you because to her, you're a really funny guy but to you, you're just a regular dude that has a wide range of emotions and behavior patterns. Once she finds out that you're not always that funny guy, she feels attraction died where in reality, she just didn't really connect with any other par…
/r/seduction08/07/16 09:52 PM
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Explain choppy. I use the "Hey." Her response. "How's it going?" Her response. "You're cute. What's your name?" It seems more casual this way and I feel like I'm selling myself too hard by opening with a lengthy line. Plus shorter sentences is better for beginners. Less pressure.
/r/seduction08/07/16 08:58 PM
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There are so many factors to why a girl wouldn't be interested. And most likely it has nothing to do with you or your game. The most common is that the timing is just off! Maybe she has a boyfriend and didn't want to hurt your feelings. If she didn't have one, she might've been more receptive. There is so many variables so it's not something to worry about if you fail an approach. Just feel more confident that you approached and do it again.
/r/seduction08/07/16 08:51 PM
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These are great! I just want to give a thought out to everyone who's starting to please not have high expectations. 7/10 times the situation is just not ideal to the girl and she will want out. And that's okay! Let her go and approach another. Keep approaching and don't get discouraged. I have gone 20 approaches in a row where the girls are just not in the mood to socialize with a total stranger. Some girls just straight out ignored me! I can't emphasize enough that if a regular dude like me can…
/r/seduction07/07/16 11:02 PM
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I still have faults and mistakes of my own. That's why I still come to this sub. See where I can improve and inner game can always be better no matter how long I've been working on it. I only come with my advice and people can take it as they want. I have experience and am happy to help if need be. The same as when I first joined and asked questions to the more experienced guys before. Picking up girls isn't easy. It took me a year until things really started looking up for me. I still strike ou…
/r/seduction03/07/16 12:51 AM
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Girls don't normally tell me this until we're on a date. I continue to escalate physically after I sidestep the topic. The last time this happened, it was on the 3rd date. My response was "That's too bad. I kind of liked you." Then changed the subject. 10 minutes later I asked if she wanted to grab ice cream. She said okay and then physically escalated from there. Grabbed her when we got to my car and kissed her and that was that.
/r/seduction03/07/16 12:42 AM
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Because 95% of guys don't know what they're doing. Best wing is a cute female friend who you semi flirt with.
/r/seduction01/07/16 06:33 PM
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If you need any wing, it should be a female friend. But in my opinion, I would stay away from having a wing because you can't necessarily control what they say or do.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:33 PM
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I'm going to say if you prefer to meet girls in person, stick with it. In my opinion, online dating apps will make you lazy about approaching and the reward isn't very high.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:28 PM
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Build attraction in person Text less, a lot less Ask her out sooner, a lot sooner So in reality it should look something like: Approach Intent Banter Number exchange Initial text Ask her out No more texting until confirmation text Then repeat for 1000 more girls. As a side note, it seems OP was looking for some magic texting sequence which doesn't exist.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:23 PM
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Juggling 3 girls is enough of a hassle. How long are you spending on dates? It's not a hassle if you don't make it. I love low key dates that aren't that time consuming. Things like lunch dates during the work week, after work happy hour drinks, and dessert dates. I try to keep dates at most 2 hours but usually lasts 60-90 minutes. Sorry, not enough time in the month for that. It's the summer time. People are really busy and going on trips and visiting family/friends, 1 of them is taking graduat…
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:14 PM
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Don't know, don't care.
/r/seduction01/07/16 04:07 PM
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"Thats too bad." Then I change the subject. Of the girls who give me that talk, about half I still pull.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:40 AM
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I'm just dating these girls.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:35 AM
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The only reason I am where I am is because of this sub. Self improvement is never ending. I am still learning from this sub.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:35 AM
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I only day game so coffee shops, libraries, and the mall (especially Nordstrom). I live in a pretty big city.
/r/seduction01/07/16 05:33 AM
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It won't significantly increase your chances though. Girls are just flaky in general and you have to get used to that.
/r/seduction30/06/16 10:54 PM
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I have lots of experience regarding this. I have nothing against older girls, actually I'm dating a 30 year old at the moment. Just happens that the girls I get more serious with are younger. I'm 31 and my last few relationships/flings, the girls were 24, 23, 26, 20 and 19. At the moment, along with the 30 year old, I'm also seeing a 23, 24, 21 and 19. Has it gotten considerably tougher as you got older? It isn't tougher at all, pretty much the opposite. I don't even look that young. I have a pr…
/r/seduction30/06/16 08:51 PM
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Escalate past making out. If you get denied, then you'll get your answer. You know her better than we do.
/r/seduction30/06/16 06:03 PM
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Baby steps. It's all a process. You think friendships are built overnight? Attraction is the same way. First it's casual flirting amongst strangers which leads to number exchange. Then casual dating and then invite them over. This can take a couple of weeks or a few days depending how into each other you guys are. You'll strike out way more often though obviously. Thus is life but you stay confident and do it again with another girl.
/r/seduction30/06/16 06:01 PM
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TEXT HER RIGHT AWAY after getting the number. This is how you do it nowadays. People are so busy these days and you can't let much time go by, otherwise she'll forget your interaction.
/r/seduction30/06/16 05:53 PM
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If you have to make this post, she probably only sees you as a friend. There was another post on here recently that said something to the effect of, "If someone tells you who they are, believe them." In this case, she says you're friends so there you go. Can't get much more direct than that.
/r/seduction30/06/16 05:47 PM
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What the fuck, man. Find a girl who's single. Have some respect and dignity.
/r/seduction28/06/16 10:07 PM
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Yes. Just stop responding to her. Who cares if she gets upset? That's not your problem.
/r/seduction28/06/16 10:00 PM
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It doesn't matter when you text them. In my experience, I actually got better results when texting sooner rather than later. The in-person interaction is where it matters. Truly connect with the girl on the approach or whatever and she will remember you and want to see you again. Thus making your text game seem on point when in reality, you guys just clicked and you could've texted pretty much anything and she would still respond enthusiastically.
/r/seduction27/06/16 09:16 PM
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The positives of doing daygame far outweighs you're fear of awkwardness or being rejected. Believe me guys, I've been "rejected" so many times in day game but have gotten plenty of dates and double digit relationships/fwb's in 2 years.
/r/seduction27/06/16 09:08 PM
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What did your ex teach you? I really love the look of done nails on girls too. Especially when they grow them out (or attach fake ones) and paint them dark or black.
/r/seduction27/06/16 09:03 PM
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It's not harsh at all. You are entitled to whatever level of respect you deserve. I'm not saying you are being a dick but I just don't want to see an awesome man like yourself turn to an asshole that looks down on women. If someone doesn't treat you right by your standards, by all means walk away but if they sincerely apologize and want to remain friendly with you, I feel it's the correct response to forgive them and not hold a grudge and move past whatever differences there were. Edit Doesn't m…
/r/seduction24/06/16 09:45 PM
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I know this comment is in good fun and all. But let's remember though to please respect girls and women. No matter if they are the biggest bitches, don't be an asshole and just treat them as proper human beings. If you don't like someone, just ignore them. Don't feel the need to put bitches "in their place."
/r/seduction24/06/16 06:31 PM
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She responded with what I expected, like it didn't bother her. But I know it did. Funny thing is, I know she'll be back in the future asking for another chance. When you get to this point in life, you realise that no woman will EVER make you feel complete. I don't have time for this BS. My life is the only thing that is important. I understand that you're feeling good about yourself, dumping a beautiful girl and all (and you should, it's a great step further into your best self) But at the end o…
/r/seduction24/06/16 06:26 PM
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True. It's fine if you're in a relationship with a girl, but in dating terms, it's generally not a good sign.
/r/seduction24/06/16 06:20 PM
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I think she'd be upset if I barely texted her. Don't worry too much about her. If she has a problem with something, she'll bring it up if she feels like it. Do what you want to do.
/r/seduction24/06/16 04:29 PM
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Photoshop, make up, selfies from the perfect angle Nothing like taking a girl who's dolled up home and in the morning, she looks like a totally different person.
/r/seduction24/06/16 04:20 PM
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If a girl is calling you "dude," it generally means she sees you as a friend from my experiences.
/r/seduction24/06/16 04:18 PM
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I'd like to go further with what you said by saying if you're going to ignore a girl, do it because you want nothing to do with her, not to get her attention.
/r/seduction23/06/16 05:24 PM
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Not saying all of them are like this but most attractive gamer girls are "ice queens." They're pretty insecure and generally flaunt themselves for the attention on twitch or something. I've dated one and she was a nightmare.
/r/seduction23/06/16 05:22 PM
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just a free meal Coffee for 1st dates (or walks in the park, etc) is a must if you're a serial dater. Why are you paying for meals in the first few dates?
/r/seduction23/06/16 05:17 PM
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A lot of guys that are “gaming” in their 30s are doing it to fill some insecurity, usually from their youth But what if I haven't found "the one" yet....how else am I going to find a wife besides "gaming" edit. I forgot about the part about the partying and clubbing. I absolutely hate night game at this age. No way am I going to find a girl who's serious about relationships there.
/r/seduction23/06/16 05:08 PM
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There was something I read a while ago about some kino ladder. Hug on initial meeting, then touching smaller parts of her such as her fingers, hands. If she seems at least neutral to you touching her, you can move up the ladder by touching her hair or her knees/thighs. Then you can move your hands onto her face/neck and pull her in for a kiss. The pacing is what makes this work and you need to evaluate the situation and the girl to see how fast and far you can go. Practice and experience will he…
/r/seduction17/06/16 08:05 PM
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Women are bored doing the same old things in the same old places with her same old friends. She wants you to take her away from her humdrum life and have you draw her into your exciting world. Men want this from women as well. Wouldn't it be more appropriate to say "people are bored." I understand that as men we are to lead but I don't want to be putting so much more investment than women. I subtly try to steer my dating and relationships so I put in 60 and the girl 40. Honestly in OP's case, th…
/r/seduction17/06/16 07:58 PM
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Why would you reciprocate if you don't mean it? Why are we suggesting that we manipulate the girl? If the girl is giving you real deep compliments and you don't feel the same way, just smile, say thank you if you want, and change the subject. If it's starting to feel like she's falling for you hard and you don't see it going anywhere, talk to her and let her make the decision if she wants to let go of you or not. Don't string her along by saying things that aren't true. Be respectful.
/r/seduction16/06/16 11:13 PM
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"Thank you, I like my hair too." Polite and oh so subtle cockiness.
/r/seduction16/06/16 11:08 PM
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Lately I've been out mostly with one friend who, while can talk to girls and is happy to engage in conversations, isn't hugely interesting. Quite a boring nice guy personality. He talks to them normally and acts like a provider (a girl needs cigarettes, so he'll brag about how he knows how to get them for cheap or where to get them) or like he has them on a pedestal. He won't say anything risky that might offend them and instead will be nice. It works for him sometimes although he definitely get…
/r/seduction16/06/16 10:53 PM
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Local coffee shops. And my secret spot, Nordstrom.
/r/seduction16/06/16 10:22 PM
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Now, it's important to note than men will generally talk about X, then finish talking about X completely until moving on to talk about Y. Women, on the other hand, will talk about X a bit, then jump to A, then over to Y before talking about a bit more of X (in the space of 3 minutes). I guess me and my roommate are women: Me: "What do you want to eat" Him: "I don't know. Let's just order pizza." Me: "Okay. Did you watch Game 1?" Him: "Yeah, I was over at Rob's." Me: "Cool, what toppings do we wa…
/r/seduction08/06/16 05:00 PM
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Not that I'm against people doing it, but this is a good example of why I personally don't try to seduce any of my friends and to even a greater extent, friends' friends, and definitely no FWBs with anyone I'm already platonic with. It gets awkward if you pull a bad move and I try to live a drama free life no matter how small the drama is.
/r/seduction08/06/16 04:50 PM
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Great feedback with the shy girl's IOIs. I feel though we need to either match their energy level or just be a little above it. I've approached too many Non westernized Asian girls and they're just not receptive to high energy strangers coming at them. Also, I agree with the example line in the sense that if they're closed off, we can try to give them a little shit for it but the divorce and kids part seems a bit weird to say to a stranger in the first few minutes. It could be said on a first da…
/r/seduction08/06/16 04:44 PM
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I understand what you're saying with frame control. And I believe this line does create that. But it's very impersonal over text. Also, does a quality man really care if a girl is thinking about him? Sure, it's a playful and cocky text but it's a text that screams "Give me attention." But imagine if you said this in person! It would really establish a good, natural frame if done in conjunction with strong eye contact and a playful smile. But as /u/ThrowawayPUA said, let us know how it goes for y…
/r/seduction07/06/16 11:05 PM
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It works for different girls (as does everything). It's not really that uncommon though so some might've heard this line already. Edit. I typically don't like using lines like this anymore. I did before when I was first starting out and sometimes it drew them in, sometimes they're just like "wtf?" I don't want beginners here thinking to use these "magic" texts to get a girl to respond. It's just so fake, unnatural, tryhard, robotic, impersonal, etc.
/r/seduction07/06/16 10:33 PM
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Generally, girls' reluctance to be social with a stranger. I'm fine approaching and chatting up a girl who is social and bubbly. But 80% of the girls I approach are just so clamped up and awkward that it's tough to escalate without pushing their comfort barrier.
/r/seduction06/06/16 10:01 PM
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Dude, if you find her interesting and attractive, then keep escalating. You won't know what will happen until it does. No such thing as someone out of your league.
/r/seduction06/06/16 09:52 PM
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American guy here. Went to a club in London while on vacation. I approached a girl saying her English accent is hot. She said my American accent is hot. Fun times happened. Edit. grammar
/r/seduction06/06/16 09:49 PM
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Thanks. I guess the mods didn't like this post.
/r/seduction01/06/16 10:43 PM
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What to do between dates? Go meet other girls do I need to do something in order to maintain her interests No, live your own life and don't worry about hers Such as a text in the middle of the week or every other day Not necessary. I would probably wait til after the second date before starting to text about stuff not related to logistics
/r/seduction31/05/16 11:34 PM
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This is the way to go. Personally, I wouldn't say it as harshly, something along the lines of, "Yeah, why am I even here with you..." Just make sure it comes across as a joke. edit. Grammar
/r/seduction27/05/16 10:40 PM
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"so are you following/stalking me?" I wouldn't open with this. It starts the tone of your interaction on the negative side.
/r/seduction26/05/16 09:49 PM
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I think I read a FR on here about this. Guy was sitting at a table in the library studying. Cute girl at the same table. No words exchanged at all. He starts packing up and says to the girl, "I'm hungry. Let's go grab lunch." She's baffled. He continues with something like, "I'm in the mood for sushi. Pack up your stuff and let's get out of here." He doesn't wait for her answer, he still keeps on packing and looks about ready to go. She then follows suit. Fucking bold right there.
/r/seduction26/05/16 09:47 PM
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A little off topic and you guys probably know about it, but people love these type of responses where you hit them with an exaggerated and amplified funny answer. After the laughs and chuckles then you give them the real answer. It's used very often by public speakers, salespeople, etc to create comfort and to establish a relaxed environment.
/r/seduction26/05/16 09:37 PM
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Nice that you are getting further with this girl. Me: Hey. This is me reminding you that you miss me. You use this text often? How's the responses? Seems kind of cringey. Like a passive aggressive approach to being cocky/funny but at the same time hints at wanting a reaction.
/r/seduction26/05/16 09:28 PM
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Go meet other girls.
/r/seduction26/05/16 09:22 PM
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Reddit gives us all awesome, free entertainment :)
/r/seduction18/05/16 11:00 PM
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there are specific people I want to have these relationships with How's the view down there take her from her boyfriend Dude....
/r/seduction18/05/16 10:44 PM
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When you're approaching a girl, maintaining eye contact and smiling is very strong. It grabs her attention, shows her you want her and you mean business. Once you're on a date, if you're just shooting the shit, talking about the weather or something else that's not so exciting, direct your attention to your surroundings. Look around you. Check out people. Then when the topic redirects to something intimate, lock your eyes on hers like you want to fuck her in the middle of the coffee shop.
/r/seduction18/05/16 10:39 PM
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Best response is no response. She says she'll catch up with you when she gets back so let her.
/r/seduction18/05/16 10:32 PM
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Maybe I'm a selfish guy. Maybe I just don't worry much. But I hardly ever text a girl how her day was. Never a good morning or a good night text either. I text what I want to know. Once I get my answer, I just leave it. No, "That's so cool" text. Not even a "Ok" text. I just disappear. One time though, I was waiting in line at Target. It was a hot as shit day and I wanted to pay for my Peanut Butter World flavored Ben & Jerry's ice cream. I was anticipating very much to go start digging into it …
/r/seduction18/05/16 10:25 PM
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I feel jealous of men that flirt with girls who I rejected You're probably just seeing that the girl you rejected has some value since other guys are attracted to them. You can go re-initiate with the girl if you want. Nothing wrong with that. Just don't let your jealousy take you over.
/r/seduction13/05/16 11:02 PM
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I have her number which I got from someone else. I wouldn't contact her at all. Maybe you'll run into her again at another party and then work your game. Go talk to other girls in the mean time.
/r/seduction11/05/16 06:33 PM
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Still, it bothers me to think about how little they must value us Girls do value us. There are tons of girls in healthy relationships with men that they truly love. They want an emotional and physical connection as much as we do. They just go about it in a different way. Edit. Grammar
/r/seduction11/05/16 06:29 PM
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You deal with it by not dealing with it. Find some other girls instead of wasting your time. If you had to make a post about a specific girl, most likely she's not interested. Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction11/05/16 06:12 PM
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Dude, if you can't handle how dating is set up in our society, then don't date. I know what you're getting at. I really do. Life sucks and life's not fair. But stop moaning and complaining and bitching about the world and just accept that's how things are and adapt or die. If you don't want to pay for the girl, then don't. You can also just go on coffee dates or go to the park or something else cheap.
/r/seduction11/05/16 06:08 PM
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Firstly, he should be asking this in askseddit. This sub is more geared towards seducing women, not woman. Focusing on one girl doesn't help him improve. Secondly, all these details about this girl that he's so fixated on isn't helping him, big signs of oneitis on his part. He needs to either go for it and get blown out hard or really just forget about her and approach other girls.
/r/seduction06/05/16 12:37 AM
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Hey man, rejections happen. Sometimes I get into a slump myself after a week of approaching and getting no date out of it. But the next week, I met a fantastic girl who was into me and she's now my girlfriend. Rejections are worth it man. I think that if I did have some dates lined up from that failed week, I might have not had the opportunity to meet this girl and just like that, my life would be a lot different. I could have been with a different girl. The butterfly effect is real man :)
/r/seduction05/05/16 09:46 PM
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I've gone through most of Asia already.
/r/seduction05/05/16 09:35 PM
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Her pants creeped up and I saw that she hadn't shaved her legs for a few days already. Today is Thursday (her second day of classes for the week) and I notice that she's wearing shorts and that her legs are shaved. I'm hesitant to say that she did it because I noticed, but I'm really hoping there is a correlation. Dude, are you serious??? Read the sidebar, especially on inner game please....
/r/seduction05/05/16 08:03 PM
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It's linked on the sidebar, man....
/r/seduction05/05/16 04:54 PM
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Just act normally and if she's still cold, then give her space. At the same time, focus on other girls and stop worrying about her and how she's acting. It's not hard man. Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction05/05/16 03:19 AM
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Good on you, my man. It gets way easier as you do more. Find the approach you like and what works for you and it's pretty much easy as fuck. Soon you're going to have a phone book in your contacts list and will have problems remembering who is who :)
/r/seduction05/05/16 12:21 AM
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Sidebar answers this.
/r/seduction04/05/16 08:13 PM
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Exactly. And since you only get a few seconds, the only thing that should be going through your head is, "Is she cute enough for me to want to approach?"
/r/seduction04/05/16 08:09 PM
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Very true but some girls won't just back down if they really didn't want Chipotle and will still give us crap for suggesting it.
/r/seduction04/05/16 06:02 PM
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I'm more of a grenade. Nice analogy.
/r/seduction04/05/16 05:58 PM
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The reason why we shouldn't dwell on this stuff is because it could mean a million things for a million girls. And the same girl isn't always going to smirk that way every time she makes eye contact. Too many variables to worry about it.
/r/seduction04/05/16 05:35 PM
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Who cares what it means? Stop focusing on little things like that and just approach. Once you've approached 100 girls, you will realize how such a waste of time it is to analyze details like this.
/r/seduction04/05/16 05:05 PM
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Her: "I'm hungry." Me: "What do you want to eat?" Her: "I don't know. Can you suggest some stuff?" Me: "Chipotle." Her: "Can't you suggest something we both would want?" Me: "...I can if you tell me what kind of food you want." Her: "You're so annoying."
/r/seduction04/05/16 04:49 PM
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Almost to a point that it's negligible altogether I'm not saying your approach is wrong. It works for you. But the same can be said for guys who do go the bold route and get rejected. The rejection doesn't even matter. It's all negligible in the grand scheme of things.
/r/seduction04/05/16 03:04 AM
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I don't know how to stop it from being an act By meeting a lot of girls. Lots and lots! You're going to have so much fun. Girls are wonderful. Also, believe in yourself and enjoy life. That's the main answer.
/r/seduction03/05/16 11:39 PM
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Interesting. I've always thought judging and stereotyping come hand in hand.
/r/seduction03/05/16 11:32 PM
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For those at work who can't watch right now, how did he respond?
/r/seduction03/05/16 11:26 PM
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There is a difference between being judgmental and being close-minded. I have no problem reverting on my judgments when I am wrong. But if I just met someone, I can judge them all I want from my prior experiences and assume certain things. All the while, do it without hurting the other party. Judgement doesn't have to come only with negative connotations. Edit: It's when people judge others thinking the way they judged them is the only way that person can be.
/r/seduction03/05/16 11:20 PM
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Try this analogy instead. The first step to getting over a break up is to accept it. A person needs to accept the fact that the relationship is over in the same way as a disabled person needs to accept the fact they won't be able to walk again.
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:56 PM
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I don't put myself out there that way. I get the things I want a different way. Rejection in some form or another will always be in all of our worlds. It is just part of life. Saying you don't put yourself in that position to be rejected is just ignorance. Everyone goes through it.
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:49 PM
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If the girl wanted to hang out with you, she would make it easy for you. If you had to make this post, it means she's not interested.
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:36 PM
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You will always want to show clear and honest intent with your actions through kino and physical escalation but at the same time, you don't want to flood the girl with your affection. Let's say you have 100% of your affection to give per week and every week it resets back to 100%. If you are interested in only one girl, you would be giving all 100% of your affection to this one girl. This would result in showing too much interest to one girl. If you are seeing 10 girls, and for argument's sake, …
/r/seduction29/04/16 10:57 PM
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It is a numbers game to an extent. You can be the most perfect peach but there will always be someone that hates peaches. But I agree, learn from your mistakes so that you will hear 'yes' more often than you hear 'no'.
/r/seduction29/04/16 09:43 PM
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I mean she worked at a restaurant and she told me she used to have guys drop off flowers to her for cripe sake (what losers haha) Easy there man. No need to look down upon other guys to make ourselves feel better. Chasing isn't necessarily a bad thing. Go for what you want and if it doesn't work out, oh well, next.
/r/seduction29/04/16 09:37 PM
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This not only applies to online dating but real life as well. You can literally do the same creepy approach and you will one day find a girl who will be fine with it. I'm not saying to do it but there will always be people who are fine with whatever you do. It's your job to be confident in whatever way you want to approach and to find those people.
/r/seduction28/04/16 10:27 PM
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So give the noobs a break I started in askseddit and that's where newcomers should go first. I got redirected to this sub and spent my time reading the sidebar, books and lurching. "Noobs" are the ones coming in here looking for a shortcut where newcomers are here wanting to change their life.
/r/seduction28/04/16 09:43 PM
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Her appearance matters a lot yes but generally we should be using... Do I want to approach her? Yes: approach. No: don't approach.
/r/seduction28/04/16 09:10 PM
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Even though I'm late to the thread, I really hope people see this comment. This sub emphasizes way too much on the girl and not enough on inner game. I know that most guys are here to get laid but the thing we should all be more focused on is how to generally improve your life and to be happy. Girls and sex isn't the only factor to a fulfilling life. Many posts and questions on this sub talk about girls and how they respond to something OP did or how to get them to respond a certain way. And peo…
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:54 PM
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if she wanted me she would have to prove to me she was worthy Again, people are lazy. She might think you aren't worthy enough to chase. Maybe nobody is worth it to her. I know what you're trying to get at, bro. But this is the reality, that attractive people have a generally much easier time in life and they don't worry about things like this. If you feel she is worth it to chase, then by all means go for it. But if you don't want to put much effort in chasing her, don't expect her to chase jus…
/r/seduction28/04/16 08:31 PM
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What I didn't understand was I was playing the role of the initiator, that it's not her that comes to me, it's me that comes to her People are generally lazy and usually want the easy way out. Add the fact she's an attractive girl that gets many things handed to her and you have your answer.
/r/seduction28/04/16 06:26 PM
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Sure, sometimes people don't want to be social. But there are many other times where people don't mind if you interrupt their book reading. How would you know if you don't approach? If she acts cold, just say "Have a nice day" and eject.
/r/seduction22/04/16 11:22 PM
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It's probably best then to let the girl know so you don't hurt her or lead her on. Then you can go and approach more women. Then again, you said you are "basically" committed to her and I don't know what that means by your standards. To me, it sounds like exclusively dating.
/r/seduction19/04/16 06:15 PM
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Why do you want to approach more women? Is it because you're attracted to them and want to sleep with them? Or do you mean you want to approach people in general, not just women, because you're a social guy and want to give a chance for others to meet what an awesome person you are?
/r/seduction19/04/16 05:59 PM
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Not OP but age really doesn't matter too much. I've had girls initially give me the you're too old talk. I just ignored it and kept physically escalating and they were fine.
/r/seduction18/04/16 09:47 PM
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Most youtube channels on seduction/pick up are pretty useless for real world application in my opinion. They only care about view count. Go out and approach when you're free to and use that as a basis for what to improve on.
/r/seduction18/04/16 09:29 PM
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I've done both. I don't think it matters too much at least for me.
/r/seduction18/04/16 09:14 PM
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You can call them and see what happens. Just don't bring up that they didn't reply to your text. Next time, don't tell them you'll call and just do it when you're free. Most girls prefer texting though, especially from a guy they haven't met yet.
/r/seduction18/04/16 08:58 PM
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I'm not sure of the exact details of the Yad Stop. But I do this same approach every time I pass a girl. Doesn't matter to me if there are others around or not. Once I pass them, I'll turn around and catch up to her and walk side by side, possibly half a step in front ahead of her but still side by side. I'll continue walking the same direction and pace as her and I'll just say "Hey."
/r/seduction18/04/16 08:56 PM
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Why don't you just focus on being yourself instead of trying to figure out ways to manipulate girls? If a girl asks you what type of girl you like, just tell her. Throw in some humor if you want. No need to tell her things that match her to get her to feel good about you or to tell her things that are the opposite of her to get her to invest more.
/r/seduction18/04/16 08:39 PM
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hey ×××, whats up with the formal? Maybe just send that. The other stuff is a bit too much.
/r/seduction15/04/16 07:51 AM
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Some people just don't click. Sometimes you find out after 1 hour, sometimes it takes a month. Doesn't necessarily mean you're doing anything wrong.
/r/seduction08/04/16 10:55 PM
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how do I escalate into a relationship Dude, you need to slow down. Doesn't sound like you even know her much at all. Take baby steps man, get to know who she is as a person first. If she says she's not comfortable with dates, just say something like, "That's fine. Let's just go on a casual coffee date."
/r/seduction08/04/16 10:48 PM
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I love the "Ok" response. It's just so natural, neutral, non reactionary and non threatening.
/r/seduction08/04/16 10:37 PM
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Imagine her sitting on a toilet with explosive diarrhea.
/r/seduction08/04/16 10:33 PM
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Why do guys say they want a second date and then don't text? Why do people not reply do things they don't want to? The same reason you, me and everyone else does. They don't care enough to do it.
/r/seduction08/03/16 11:37 PM
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I'm not disagreeing with what you're saying. Some girls do like to keep guys around for attention. But I don't necessarily think they know they are doing it. At least they won't admit it in public. "Oh he's just a friend." "Sometimes when I'm bored I'll talk to him." "I don't want to ruin our friendship." All are ways of saying a guy is a 'plan B.' And girls who have plan B's / orbiters? They are girls who don't have much else going on in their lives besides guys. It's kind of sad really that th…
/r/seduction08/03/16 11:21 PM
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I don't think that girls "don't know that." I'm sure they do. It's that there is a line where they are happy enough to settle. The guy she's with may not be the best or her dream prince, but good enough.
/r/seduction08/03/16 11:16 PM
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Of course I wanted to buy her a drink Act on this next time. Don't wait for a hint or a subtle invitation.
/r/seduction08/03/16 05:29 PM
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Also: "Yes but I only use it on dorky/cute/indie girls." "Relax, I've only used it 10 times today." "Yes, I've been waiting to use it for when I meet my future wife."
/r/seduction08/03/16 05:20 PM
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bigger assholes most girls are You hit the nail on this. What's crazy is that the girls who know they are leading guys on for "a drink, money to buy something, attention, emotional support etc" play dumb about it and think they are doing nothing wrong. This is one of the main reasons why I don't do night game anymore. These type of girls think guys are not being genuine at bars and clubs but they are no more of a tool than guys who just want sex. I much prefer day game at the library/coffee shop…
/r/seduction07/03/16 11:49 PM
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95% of the questions on this sub can be answered by this.
/r/seduction07/03/16 08:44 PM
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ABC man. Always be closing. Do you want to buy her a drink? If yes, tell her and lead her to the bar. Do you want to see her again? If yes, tell her and then sort out logistics or get her number at least. Why do you need to care about what hints she's giving you? If you feel a vibe, tell her and escalate.
/r/seduction07/03/16 08:33 PM
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Yeah just tell her what you want to do with her. She's a big girl, if she objects, think of an alternative. What you guys are trying to accomplish is if you guys are interested in each other enough physically and emotionally to continue seeing one another. 1 hour is a decent amount of time for a casual date so just enjoy and have fun!
/r/seduction03/03/16 10:06 PM
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Dude, you have the wrong mentality. Are you trying to impress her or something? Just live in the moment and enjoy your time with her. Do you like walking around the water while it's raining? If yes, then go do it. If not, then take her to do something you want to do as long as you're being considerate of her obviously (a friend asked me if taking a girl to a strip club is considered a "fun and different" idea)
/r/seduction03/03/16 09:50 PM
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You should be focusing more on how to keep your own life busy instead of asking about ways to keep a girl interested.
/r/seduction03/03/16 09:39 PM
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Maybe the red pill sub is more your style
/r/seduction02/03/16 05:26 PM
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If a girl wanted to be with a guy, she will make it known. I'm not sure where we stand I think I scared her off she's terrible at texting back most of the time Am I just being the girl? You kind of answered your own questions. If you don't know where you're at with a girl, I feel it's best to either just straight up talk to her about it or just let her go (which is what I would recommend in this scenario). There's enough stress in our lives and stressing over a girl and trying to figure out her …
/r/seduction29/02/16 11:49 PM
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talking to her directly I've approached a lot of 2+ sets. Sometimes it's a girl with her mom at the mall. Sometimes the girl is with a gay guy. Most of the time the target is with a girlfriend. I always approach the non target first. "Hi, don't mean to interrupt your guys' day but your daughter/friend is cute." Half the time they act awkward and I eject. The other half of the time they laugh and then I look at the target and offer a handshake with a "What's your name?" Then I alternate between t…
/r/seduction12/02/16 12:46 AM
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Take a break from approaching and girls and instead work on yourself towards being fully happy within your own skin and mind. Easier said than done but taking a break for a few months helped me when I went through this.
/r/seduction22/01/16 08:37 PM
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So much agreement with this. The advice of "go approach more girls" is the answer to 95% of this sub's questions. Instead, the insecure and inexperienced guys just can't let go of that girl they put on the pedestal and continue crying over what they did wrong.
/r/seduction21/01/16 11:06 PM
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Why are so many commenting she's a gold digger? Why not just give her the benefit of the doubt? This mentality of instantly looking down on this guy's wife as a gold digger is so ridiculous. It's just such a negative way to look at some strangers' relationship. A big reason I'm so sick of today's social society. I just assume people are good until proven otherwise. I make much better friendships and connections with this mentality.
/r/seduction21/01/16 10:42 PM
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What gives? The only thing that "gives" is what you think.
/r/seduction21/01/16 02:09 AM
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Does it sound like she's playing me or is she playing hard to get as she might be looking for a relationship? She's not interested and just using you when she's bored. Girls have acted this way towards me and I have acted the same to other girls.
/r/seduction21/01/16 02:06 AM
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Learn from this and go meet other girls. Why dwell on this more than you need to? Focus on the now, think about the future and learn from the past.
/r/seduction15/01/16 05:19 PM
1

Go meet other girls while still talking to her.
/r/seduction15/01/16 05:16 PM
1

Hands like you said. Then after awhile, take her hand and lead her to another location.
/r/seduction15/01/16 05:13 PM
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al·ma ma·ter ˌälmə ˈmädər/ noun the school, college, or university that one once attended. Sometimes I feel like meeting some girls. Then I decide I'll go somewhere with high traffic for an hour or two. Sometimes I'm running around doing my own stuff and happen to see a girl who looks approachable and I'll go for it. Doesn't matter if you set time or it's on the fly. You'll meet girls.
/r/seduction15/01/16 05:06 PM
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The only girls I date are from the ones I day game approached. I go to my alma mater just to approach. I know where the high traffic areas are and just people watch til I see one I want to approach. It felt weird the first few times I did it but you get used to it. You went to the mall once and didn't do an approach. Try again and this time do one. If it still feels weird, then try something else than day game. I also go to the coffee shops around my alma mater. Easy peasy there. I just sit down…
/r/seduction15/01/16 01:32 AM
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30, almost 31 here. Want to meet/bang a lot of college aged girls? Go back to school for your Master's or PHD. Even if it's just 1 class a semester. If you also have a career, fit, own place with a car, no approach anxiety, it's seriously easy as fuck. Just try to space out your approaches as to not gain a reputation.
/r/seduction05/11/15 11:48 PM
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Quality post. Have girls ever told you that you seem suspicious? I am getting that quite a lot. On the surface it seems like a good thing to be mysterious but suspicious might be a little different. Like they immediately pin me as someone they can't trust. "Is Will even your real name?" Questions like that happen way too often. Or "You seem way to comfortable approaching girls."
/r/seduction29/09/15 10:51 PM
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In other words, pretty much ignore the fact she is seeing anyone else and just work your game. If she brings up the other guy, just change the subject, don't be phased.
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:02 AM
1

Wait til next week to try again. Try offering two possible days instead of just suggesting one by one.
/r/seduction24/08/15 06:14 PM
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I think being more specific on why I think she's cute is a good way for me to seem more genuine in my approach. The other advice is great too. You got any more?
/r/seduction08/05/15 10:24 PM
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Being more genuine is great advice. I've been told that I come off like "I've done this many times" which isn't exactly false. However, what being more genuine is to me is a guy who's never approached a girl before and now has the courage to do so and comes off as nervous. Also, great advice on trying to meet girls "spontaneously" instead of "sarging."
/r/seduction08/05/15 10:22 PM
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Yeah I feel that LMR is causing me to get a lot of flakes because I haven't really formed a strong connection and just becoming "a random guy." I will try to push for a casual instadate and see how that goes.
/r/seduction08/05/15 10:07 PM
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The correct response to when they say they can't go is no response.
/r/seduction23/04/15 09:14 PM
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First text: Callback humor Her response: (Whatever) Second text: Tease her Her response: (Whatever) Third text: "Let's have (lunch/coffee/drinks/whatever) on (this day) at (this time)" Her response: I can't at that time. Sorry! (Doesn't mention when she's free or alternative time) You: Don't respond to that. Try again in a few days or a week later. Repeat above. If this happens three times... Fourth text: Tell me when you're free. Her response: "Next few weeks is a bad time for me." You: Next.
/r/seduction21/04/15 11:49 PM
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How do you get over it? By doing it again. It's no surprise approaching more will get you more comfortable with not just approaching but with talking to strangers. Every guy who's approached felt it was awkward at the beginning. I know I have had disaster approaches but now I can laugh it off.
/r/seduction21/04/15 11:43 PM
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I'm Asian and only approach Asian girls. After approaching around 100 girls this year, I don't agree with the comfort first then intent anymore. I straight up go in, say, "Hi, you're cute. What's your name?" I don't ask her the same old questions of her major, her ethnicity, etc. After I get the name and am shaking her hand, I hold onto her hand and just say I want to take her on a date and go for logistics. Always have a smile, don't break eye contact and don't react if she isn't into you. I us…
/r/seduction15/04/15 06:34 PM
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Can you elaborate on why you feel this way? Sure I know what I'm attracted to and what I'm looking for but even if I only cold approach that type of girl, it doesn't necessarily mean she's available or in the mood to be social or whatever.
/r/seduction10/04/15 06:36 AM
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Who knows why. Maybe you are second choice. Maybe she forgot about you and something reminded her about you. Whatever the reason, if it happens just ask her out again and see where it goes. Try not to dwell on why a girl acts a certain way and just do what you want.
/r/seduction08/04/15 10:23 PM
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What possibly makes them do that? The same reason why you do the same towards a friend. Does it mean the seduction has been successful No
/r/seduction08/04/15 10:05 PM
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girls here are focused on typical college stuff like partying Sure, girls like partying because it's fun. Doesn't mean that they don't want a serious relationship. Try to get to know girls on a deeper level. It's a numbers game at this point. We've all dug through the horse shit, my friend.
/r/seduction30/03/15 09:49 PM
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30 year old here who dates younger girls (mostly college age) Be your confident and mature self. Do not try to impress her with your life lessons/money/career. Don't try to treat her as someone lower than you. Treat her as an equal. Be interested in what she wants for her own future. Do not give her life tips unless she specifically asks for it, can't stress this one enough. Dress your age and wear fitted clothes. Be a man and lead the interaction
/r/seduction19/03/15 02:37 AM
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That's like a top chef telling a new cook how horrible their food is because it's not as good as theirs. Or a master mechanic making fun of a customer for not knowing how to change their oil. Except that the cook and mechanic went through much harder work to get where they are at. The cunt pretty much just lucked out in the genes department.
/r/seduction11/03/15 02:14 AM
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Take it realllllllllllllllly slow I learned this the hard way too (as in losing too many girls from asking them out too early) But I'm still learning how to balance between getting to know her through text and asking them out on a date. Here's what I've been doing so far: Cold approach, #-close, text day off using light banter and getting to know her a bit, stop texting for a day, go back to light banter and then going for the date. Of course every girl is different but this seems the way to go.…
/r/seduction08/03/15 07:09 AM
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SMS is given a low priority on the network, and from 1/100 to 1/20 are lost entirely, even under typical network conditions I work for a wireless tech company. This is not true. If you don't get a text response, it's because she didn't send one.
/r/seduction06/03/15 09:54 PM
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Find another girl/woman who is available.
/r/seduction04/03/15 10:50 PM
2

What really got me into the door of approaching is making myself accountable. You have a guy friend who is your best buddy? Tell him you're going to go get a girl's number today, if you don't you owe him drinks. You have a female friend that you're close with? Ask her to go to the mall with you. When you see a cute girl, tell your friend to wait for you for a few minutes while you go chat up that girl. Or better yet, go hit on some girls with another of your guy friends together. Make jokes with…
/r/seduction04/03/15 10:42 PM
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Yeah. General rule, the longer a girl takes to initiate contact, the less interested they are in you. There are exceptions but rare. You can bring it up again after a while if you don't hear back but don't get your hopes up. Again, always be going after other girls.
/r/seduction04/03/15 09:50 PM
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You wait and bring it up again later. Go after some other girls til then.
/r/seduction04/03/15 03:36 AM
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compliment my shoes What are those shoes? They look great.
/r/seduction02/03/15 11:41 PM
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I don't think this is the way to go. If a girl's not even texting you, why would she even pick up your call?
/r/seduction28/02/15 06:04 PM
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"Whoa whoa whoa, is there some model convention going on around here?" From Simple PU I think.
/r/seduction27/02/15 06:17 PM
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You can say anything you want as long as it isn't offensive. What I love to do is, especially when your target is walking in the opposite direction like you described, is when you're about the pass her, just all of a sudden begin walking backwards like 2 steps but while you're still at least at a 45 degree angle from her so you're semi facing each other. Eye contact and say, "Hi." If she keeps walking in her direction, turn around and walk side by side with her. Then I just say whatever I want. …
/r/seduction26/02/15 10:41 PM
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There is no set answer. It all depends on the girl. Is she responsive to your texting? If she responds relatively quickly and enthusiastically, asking you questions and shit, it's okay to text a little more than usual. If she's taking hours or a day to get back to you, then don't be texting her mundane things as she's probably a busy girl. Learn to adapt to the girl's behavior. Practice makes perfect. As a general rule though, respond whenever you want as long as you're being light and interesti…
/r/seduction14/02/15 12:48 AM
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I don't know what it is but I have trouble talking with people and making friends. I lose the friends I have by being boring and not knowing how to have fun. I want to talk to girls but when the time comes I always just lose motivation to do it. I have crushes on girls but I don't know what to do without being socially awkward. I know girls are attracted to me- they always smile and talk to me when they see me and shit I apologize. This is going to be blunt. We don't give a fuck about your probl…
/r/seduction12/02/15 08:26 PM
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If she's done her nails, compliment them. Then take her hand "for a closer look." This works even when sitting across from her in a coffee house. I do this every fucking single time and it's never awkward. Have fun with it. The last girl I was on a date with was 5'1" and yet her hands were freaky big. I teased the shit out of it for like 20 seconds.
/r/seduction11/02/15 11:24 PM
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I used to feel this way too. My solution was to approach more, get more numbers. Got to the point where I had to choose who I wanted to reply to. Of course, what /u/RPSigmaStigma said about having a busy life helps
/r/seduction03/02/15 10:14 PM
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Live and learn.
/r/seduction30/01/15 08:52 AM
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Thanks for the explanation. So if this happens to me again, it's best in your opinion to just not respond? If you ask for a "date" like you respond to those kind of texts, that could be your problem. Could you expand on what you mean by this?
/r/seduction28/01/15 08:25 PM
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Don't try to persuade her of anything via text. This sounds like a very great idea! Getting a number is great but that's not why we approach girls. We approach to go on dates and to get to know them better in person.
/r/seduction28/01/15 08:10 PM
1

Thanks for your input. Why do you think asking if they are single is a bad idea?
/r/seduction28/01/15 08:08 PM
1

Thanks for the insight. Making the girl feel special kills attraction too doesn't it? By saying I can take someone else, it's an abundance mentality. Am I missing something?
/r/seduction28/01/15 03:39 AM
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Girls tell me I'm mysterious, secretive, guarded, whatever. The key is to not answer her questions about you. I deflect everything. Note: At the same time, while you are asking her questions and she's telling you about herself, give your input on whatever the topic is. I can't stress that enough. Because while you're being mysterious, you want to show that you're still a human being with emotions, values and opinions. Example: On every first date I've ever been on, I never mention what the fuck …
/r/seduction02/01/15 11:31 PM
2

Very true. You never know what kind of response the person will get if you turn them down!
/r/seduction24/12/14 06:36 PM
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I left the podium she was at and went back to my party to let them know how long it was going to be. We ended up going to the bar part of the restaurant to have a drink while we wait for our table. Walked past her to do so but I didn't say anything more.
/r/seduction23/12/14 09:36 PM
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I totally understand. For me, I want to take every opportunity I can to have fun. If she feels awkward about the whole situation, she will let you know and as long as you properly eject without causing a scene, no one gets hurt. To each their own.
/r/seduction23/12/14 09:06 PM
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I'm curious as to what this actually translates to
/r/seduction23/12/14 07:16 PM
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I agree with this. OP, this has happened to me so many times I've lost count. You're the girl's backup plan. Trust me. If she had something better else to do, she wouldn't have texted you to confirm. Even if this was an exception, she ignored you twice and in her confirmation text, she didn't even apologize or give an explanation! How is that acceptable?
/r/seduction10/11/14 06:04 PM
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fake subscription to cat facts I need to try this. Sounds hilarious. Going to google cat facts. Any you know that works particularly well?
/r/seduction07/11/14 04:33 AM
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Whenever you feel like it. For me though, I try to text pretty soon after. Some people think it seems desperate, but as long as you are light and funny, it'll be fine. Girls want to be chased. Wait to long, she might feel like she's second choice and you weren't that interested.
/r/seduction06/11/14 10:27 PM
1

Why the fake group texts?
/r/seduction22/10/14 10:40 PM
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Thanks. I will keep being myself. But this is something I want to fix somehow. Everyone knows I'm dating around, seeing multiple girls, etc. I'm not shy about it. This isn't something that sounds great on paper and this is what's causing her friends to judge me poorly.
/r/seduction08/08/14 06:33 PM
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Serious relationship is always a possibility with the right girl. When you say I should approach the girl more serious, what do you mean exactly? Focus on dating fewer girls?
/r/seduction07/08/14 10:08 PM
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I think a major contributor to my 'player' persona is that I rarely talk to girls outside of dates, e.g. I'd text/facebook once a week at most with a short conversation. This is fine. Unless you're past the 5th date or something and both of you know you're into each other, keep texting to a minimum. Imagine you're on a 2nd date with a girl, she's flirty, cute, touchy. You guys are hitting it off, kissing, lots of touching, hand holding, whatever. But you know she's dating other guys, probably do…
/r/seduction22/07/14 08:47 PM
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28 year old Asian guy here. I pretty much also only date Asian girls. Asian girls who are typically more traditional are so accustomed to the AFC nerdy/geeky guys who don't physically escalate let alone be upfront with their intentions that when a guy like you or mean come in and show how confident and honest we are with our intentions, they get a little scared. Hence they think we are players when really we're just not like all the other guys she knows. Are you showing interest in these girls a…
/r/seduction21/07/14 11:24 PM
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She needs to see that you have many more options than just her. Playful selfies with other cute girls on instagram works for me. I've ran into a few who play hard to get purposely. Turn it around on them and they will chase if they were really that interested.
/r/seduction14/07/14 05:37 PM
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I'm no expert. But it just sounds like something my old AFC self would be saying. How do we know she's one of the best ones in just our approach? Power to you though if it works for you.
/r/seduction12/07/14 09:58 PM
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There's a comment below with the same response as this and it's downvoted? What's going on?
/r/seduction12/07/14 09:41 PM
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Sounds like by saying this, you would be validating that she's one of the "best ones" so early on
/r/seduction12/07/14 09:38 PM
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In the OP's case, I think it's fine to be texting every so often. I think the concept you're referring to is for when guys are texting a new girl too often and about mundane topics.
/r/seduction07/07/14 09:23 PM
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Literally no one give a shit if you have never been to the gym before Just to emphasize, literally no one gives a shit no matter what you do as long as you're not disturbing others. Going to the gym, buying condoms, walking into VS to buy lingerie solo. Nobody cares! It's all in your head.
/r/seduction07/07/14 09:05 PM
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i jack off everyday and think i like my own touch better theres your problem, stop masturbating. join /r/nofap if it helps
/r/seduction06/07/14 11:03 PM
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"Haven't met a girl I really liked enough to make my girlfriend."
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:51 PM
0

WHENEVER YOU NEED A FAVOR, OPEN WITH “I NEED YOUR HELP” I am having issues understanding this. Don't we want to avoid using the word "need"?
/r/seduction16/06/14 09:38 PM
1

You da man.
/r/seduction06/06/14 03:40 AM
1

You're saying you've approached girls on campus? You ever get a negative response for being much older than them when approaching?
/r/seduction05/06/14 01:56 AM
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This is concerning because my end goal is to find a girl I'm happy with and get married Maybe you have your eyes so set on your end goal that minor flags you're seeing are causing you to lose interest. Could be that when you meet a beautiful girl and start obsessing over her, you see this image of her as your wife in your head but once you get to know her, she isn't the wife that you mentally created
/r/seduction04/06/14 05:18 PM
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It's true. There was a video on reddit a few months ago of a Chinese couple in some cafe and the girlfriend was berating her boyfriend in public. For most of the video, the guy pretty much just took it until at the end of the 5 min video, he finally got the nerve to get up and leave.
/r/seduction01/06/14 02:04 AM
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Chinese American here who has spent time living in a few countries in Asia. There's a lot more single guys in Asia as there is women. Now filter the women to beautiful and single and you get a pretty skewed ratio. These women feel they can get away with more because they can easily leave her man and get another one who would tolerate her attitude.
/r/seduction31/05/14 12:18 AM
1

"Stop talking for a minute so I can kiss you"
/r/seduction15/05/14 11:34 PM
2

If you like Kygo, I recommend taking a look at /r/chillstep Nice FR
/r/seduction15/05/14 11:29 PM
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I will usually just be honest and say 'Did you? I forgot.' If they press further, I reply with 'I get mixed up or forget stuff when I'm talking to this many girls.' If she gets turned off, oh well. Even if she does, I just shoot another text later asking to hang out and just ignore this topic. More often than not, they let it slide.
/r/seduction17/01/14 07:21 PM
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I do this all the time. The answer "Okay" when people are generally expecting you to ask deeper questions like "Why wouldn't it work" or "How could you do this to me after what we've been through" usually triggers some type of curiosity where they want to know how you are so "okay" with the break up.
/r/seduction10/01/14 10:18 PM
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