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Let’s be real. Girls mostly dig him because of the clout He’s not a bad looking dude. But he got zero game and walks around with a camera. It’s going to attract groupie type hoez
/r/seduction21/06/26 10:12 PM
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Stop making getting girls your whole reason for going out. Change your context so you’re going out to have fun and spread good energy. And then not only will you not be as disappointed when you go out, but you will have more success too since women won’t smell your desperation from a mile away
/r/seduction22/12/25 05:30 PM
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Idk I regularly tell girls I’m a janitor at McDonald’s and never reveal my real job unless I’ve been on a few dates with them, and I still smash
/r/seduction19/12/25 09:53 AM
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People in Kansas can
/r/seduction11/12/25 08:23 AM
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Yup. Dated a girl and she agreed. She called it yaslighting which I thought was funny asf
/r/seduction08/12/25 11:36 AM
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Eventually, you’ll get to a point where a rejection doesn’t matter and you’ll continue to chop it up with other women unfazed
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:33 AM
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Just look them in the eyes and say “respect” or “your loss” and shrug your shoulders and walk away Throws them for a loop
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:32 AM
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Eh. Me personally… if a girl isn’t making it easy, I don’t want to meet her
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:29 AM
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It’s because hotter girls get approached less imo Many guys approach the mildly attractive girl because it’s not as scary to them Anytime a girl tells me to fuck off I just laugh and say “fuck me yourself you coward” Then walk away
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:28 AM
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I usually break the silent stare by dramatically dropping my jaw or sticking out my tongue Usually gets a reaction then I motion for them to come over to me
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:24 AM
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I actually agree. Women know exactly whats happening around them at all times That’s why when a woman bumps into you on the dance floor, it’s usually not by mistake However, I do think even if women understand whose around them, guys are still largely invisible One time this girl was walking into the club while I was walking out to the smoke section. I said something like “you’re late” and she responded with some non-inviting quip Later on, we run into each other in the club and she’s making out…
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:21 AM
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That was the whole point of “the game” by Neil Strauss I mean, he landed the girl of his dreams at the time, but started to realize all his playboy techniques didn’t work to create real intimacy and a healthy relationship
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:45 AM
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Been there. Eventually, the paying for everything turned to contempt She resented that I wasn’t “being the masculine in the relationship by providing” lol I think her girlfriends also got into her head
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:40 AM
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Oral Dutasteride and oral minoxidil. Start asap
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:32 AM
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Went through this same exact same thing to a T Oral Dutasteride and oral minoxidil saved me. I only wished I got on them sooner Still figuring out the business part but hey, I just convince myself that women like a work in progress and it works! Be delusional in your confidence You gotta sit in front of the mirror and convince yourself until it starts feeling true haha
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:32 AM
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That’s how it goes sometimes. Can be in such a dry spell that you’re shooting your shot with 4’s and even they’re rejecting you Then suddenly one day a 7 is all over you and you’re like “dam wtf” and it gives you a confidence boost Then suddenly the women start rolling in again and you have a roster with more women than you know what to do with
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:29 AM
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Haha. Sad but true. If you treat all women like 6’s, they are way more curious about you Basically, you’re attracted, but could take it or leave it. You’re indifferent, and willing to give them the time of day if they make it easy for you
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:28 AM
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Yea dude. The more you remind yourself that “I’m the prize” the more you will adopt that mentality into your subconscious and eventually, you will reach the point where YOU are the one doing the qualifying Once you get to a point where you’re the one qualifying her, you will put her into approval seeking mode where she is trying to earn your attention and you’re still there deciding if she’s worth your time or not
/r/seduction05/12/25 07:10 PM
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Yup. This comment right here At the end of the day, she probably leaves her tampon in a few more hours longer than she should She might wipe back to front, might be an absolute wreck psychologically with daddy issues asf, might be really clingy and love-bomby The list goes on. You don’t know who you’re dealing with for at least a year of dating
/r/seduction05/12/25 07:07 PM
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It’s too complicated for a Reddit comment, but really, you have to train your mind to see it as their loss if they don’t see your value If a woman walks away from you mid-interaction, you just shrug your shoulders and say to yourself “oh well. her loss. Plenty of other women” You have to see yourself as the prize. It takes consistently to develop this mindset. And it’s something that will go away if you stop being consistent. It’s best to be delusional in your confidence If a woman rejects me ov…
/r/seduction05/12/25 07:01 PM
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Dating Essentials For Men by Robert Glover will help you reframe things in your mind. But it’s the kinda book you should read more than once The main thing is you are putting their worth above your own. Robert Glover is a psychologist so he has some powerful techniques to help you retrain your mind to realize your own value. But you have to be consistent with the techniques
/r/seduction05/12/25 06:51 PM
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He’s not wrong but those lines are all classic AI lines. Only a matter of time before enough girls start catching on AI is fine, as long as you have it refine your line. But using it to generate your lines will give very AI results
/r/seduction05/12/25 05:55 AM
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I’m not into older women. Are there chicks in their 20’s?
/r/seduction25/11/25 08:11 AM
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Yeah that’s fair. I’m not tall but I’m not short. I also rarely get girls giving IOI’s across the bar but I could see how being 5’4 could hinder you more so respect Perhaps I should push myself and develop more resistance to social pressure as you say Even if I don’t want the girl, it can’t be a bad skill to develop more I guess I’ve just found that girls who make it easy off the bat are always the most fun to interact with, most fun in bed, and make the best long term partners
/r/seduction24/11/25 11:32 AM
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Eh. I suppose so. I like girls who make it relatively easy. I don’t mind some playful pushback. But if a girl expects me to chase, I just drop her and spend my time meeting other women Maybe I’ll come back around if I haven’t had much success through the night Approached a 9 last weekend and she wasn’t giving me much. Just turned away the minute someone else entered the convo and I looked away from her Then she sat sort of near me later and my homies girl was like “I don’t get it. You’ve had 3 g…
/r/seduction24/11/25 10:29 AM
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For sure. Just asking you your strategy I get little success on apps because most the girls I’ve met aren’t as good looking irl, and they always tell me “holy shit you’re way hotter in person” meanwhile I’m thinking the opposite For insta… about half the girls I add, add me back. But they are usually dry responses. I almost always get girls laughing irl bc I’m a pretty witty guy, but doesn’t usually land well over text unless they already know me
/r/seduction24/11/25 09:12 AM
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She was bored by texting Texting nukes attraction If you already have a date planned, then just plan to show up for it. No need to text her
/r/seduction24/11/25 08:10 AM
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Care to enlighten me? I rely on my mouth irl to get laid
/r/seduction24/11/25 07:40 AM
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Care to share the vids you watched? I do much better irl and just use apps as a backup pipeline. But wouldn’t mind dialing it in still
/r/seduction24/11/25 07:35 AM
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Would love to see your stats Also, instagram is not primarily a dating app, nor is it marketed as such Ofc hot women are on instagram. Hence why I said they use dating apps to advertise their social media handles and get endless validation
/r/seduction24/11/25 07:28 AM
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Eh. I’m fine with it Fuck dating apps. Until someone creates an Omegle style dating app, dating apps should only be used as a backup 100% of all girls I’ve met up with are less attractive in person without the filters But since almost every dude is dependent on the apps… you stand out so much more irl
/r/seduction24/11/25 07:26 AM
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Consider that crazy dog ladies on Reddit are not the type of women you’d want to approach, so their advice should not be considered Hot feminine women are craving men to approach more. Change your context
/r/seduction24/11/25 06:21 AM
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Any day? Or just weekdays?
/r/seduction24/11/25 06:17 AM
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You’re saying you stick around after you get rejected? Last night, I went to get this girl’s number and she said “I think I’ll pass” It wasn’t in a rude way or anything. So I just looked her right in the eyes and said “respect” I walked away without it, letting affect my confidence, and went onto dance with a super hot older milf who I was kissing all night The more you get rejected, the less it affects you, and you can genuinely see as her loss
/r/seduction24/11/25 06:07 AM
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Most hot girls are not on apps. And the ones that are, do not take dating apps seriously as more than advertising their social media
/r/seduction24/11/25 05:47 AM
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This is precisely the premise of the book: Mode One He recommends just being very direct with women you like, and says if you say it confidently and with conviction, many girls will be super into it
/r/seduction09/11/25 09:39 PM
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Yeah — Have fun with that
/r/seduction25/10/25 08:47 PM
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Because STI’s — that’s why But ig if you ain’t wrappin it up
/r/seduction25/10/25 08:45 PM
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They do. Hot girls get approached by wealthy dudes and dudes who have “more to offer” but they are approached less than sorta hot girls
/r/seduction25/10/25 03:58 AM
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Girls who aren’t THAT hot get approached more than the super hot ones because they are “easier targets” in most dudes’ minds
/r/seduction11/09/25 04:47 PM
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You can do all of this at a bar on a date. A swanky bar is a great first date. Sit right next to her and get her laughing
/r/seduction11/09/25 03:56 PM
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A purpose, a mission, goals, etc
/r/seduction14/08/25 06:17 AM
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Picked one up just yesterday and threw it into the garbage Sup? 😏
/r/seduction14/08/25 06:15 AM
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Being creepy as a state of mind. Once you remove that self limiting belief, you don’t worry about being creepy anymore.
/r/seduction12/08/25 09:34 AM
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Anytime I get accused of shit, I just say “I have nothing to prove or disprove. You can think whatever you want. It won’t change who I know myself to be” Or something along those lines Hooked up with a girl this past weekend who ghosted me. She said she ghosted because she thought I was a fuck boy. I told her “I don’t subscribe to the idea of fuck boys because every man with testosterone likes sex, and if they don’t, they are lying and jealous of the men who do, so they put up a facade to preten…
/r/seduction11/08/25 09:45 PM
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Naw I have 2 fugly ass friends who date way above their league. They are soft 3’s, and even that might be generous One is obese but funny as hell and confident like no other. He’s engaged to a 7, who would honestly be an 8 if she was a gym chick The other is scrawny as hell, and like 5’6. He pulls so much pussy on the reg it’s insane. Every girl I see him with is way out of his league. He’s fucked some 8’s and most girls who fuck him, want to fuck more than once Bottom line is that he’s confiden…
/r/seduction07/08/25 03:38 AM
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Yes thank you. I ask because I just started therapy a couple of months ago I’m not depressed or anything. Just figured, why not see whats available to me However, I am wondering what I’m supposed to be getting out of it because my therapist just asks me to talk, and talking doesn’t solve any problems. I also don’t really have any significant problems in my life at the moment. More so, I’m looking to where I can improve, despite not having any problems. And feeling like therapy is a bit of a wast…
/r/seduction02/08/25 12:10 AM
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Thanks. Sort of. I more am wondering what you mean by CBT helping you see all the options on the table Do you mean options for your mental health, or women? Lol
/r/seduction01/08/25 07:56 PM
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No jokes. I’m asking for clarification on your comment here specifically a cognitive behavioral therapist. They can get you grounded back in reality and help you see all the options you have on the table.
/r/seduction01/08/25 05:12 PM
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CBT helps you see all the romantic options you have?
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:00 AM
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Go to 3 different places on the first date to simulate 3 dates
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:29 AM
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You should buy mass gainer
/r/seduction29/07/25 09:17 PM
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Yeah I prefer to treat them like a bratty little sister. Tease them but be a charming James Bond
/r/seduction27/07/25 12:57 AM
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Considering I know guys who smash and then immediately tell the girl she needs to leave and don’t even call her an uber… I’d say yeah But also, no one owes anyone anything. A kiss is not a contract
/r/seduction21/07/25 03:42 AM
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Not really. This has nothing to do with assault. He went above and beyond to take care of her and check up on her, and then even sent her home in an uber
/r/seduction21/07/25 01:54 AM
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Fr Models is such a mid ass book compared to others on the market that are far better
/r/seduction16/07/25 09:58 AM
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Where tf y’all trying on your clothes to make sure they fit??
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:32 AM
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Go out early and start with socializing with other dudes. Compliment their shoes/fits/haircuts etc Just go out and spread joy and get in the vibe of just being social. You can get a tiny bit of a buzz from it actually That way when you approach girls, it can come from this non-needy or fearful state of just being confidently social
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:25 AM
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Here’s a trick… go in TRYING to get rejected It will help you overcome anxiety and allow you to dismantle some of your fears and not take it so seriously Which oddly enough, will help you not go into a performative mode vying for her attention, which can often have a positive impact on how she perceives you You may be surprised to find out that some girls like you when you’re trying to get rejected because they can tell you don’t want anything from them
/r/seduction15/07/25 04:23 AM
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Dating Essentials For Men — by a psychologist/therapist — Dr. Robert Glover
/r/seduction12/07/25 05:45 AM
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That’s how I felt about Models by Mark Manson
/r/seduction12/07/25 05:44 AM
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My buddy is 47 dating a 24 year old for 2 years now He is youthful and makes girls feel seen Anyone can do it
/r/seduction12/07/25 05:25 AM
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True, but I remember when I was 18 with all that testosterone and sex was the only thing I could think about Didn’t have a choice
/r/seduction11/07/25 06:19 PM
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The validation from sex only lasts a very short time, and is fleeting. You often wake up the next day like “why tf did I do that” Chasing validation gets you nowhere significant. Learn to be confident in who you are. Finding a girl you actually click with and checks all the boxes is 1000% more rewarding than a hookup
/r/seduction11/07/25 06:15 PM
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Literally just go to the gym, get in shape; and become social with EVERYONE Once you learn to become social with everyone, you’ll be able to become social with anyone, which includes women Several of them will not be interested in prolonging the convo. But sooner or later, you will start to notice the girls who do entertain longer conversation. Don’t stay too long. Just say “you kinda seem like a vibe. we should hang out sometime” Pull out your phone, get the number, and contact her a few days l…
/r/seduction11/07/25 06:12 PM
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Wojack Horseman. They made an autobiography about him called ‘Bojack Horseman’
/r/seduction11/07/25 06:09 PM
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Read Dating Essentials For Men by Robert Glover
/r/seduction10/07/25 09:48 AM
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Haha yeah. Happened last weekend. Girl kept telling me “you probably think I’m a slut and never want to talk to me again. But just so you know, I never do this. But I’m ovulating and haven’t had dick in ages” I just laughed. Heard that line at least a hundred times Being a man is like ovulating pretty much 24/7, but x10
/r/seduction09/07/25 08:00 AM
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First for, rid your mind of that poison It’s only going to make you bitter and your antennas will specifically only tune into frequencies that match these beliefs If you start being intentional about what you allow to enter and occupy your mind, you will notice it has an effect on the way you experience life If you feed your mind negativity, it will look for negativity to affirm that what it’s been experiencing is true. Conversely, if you feed it positively, it will recalibrate to affirm that po…
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:37 AM
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Idk who on earth downvoted you, but that’s a bad reason to get into it my friend Your best bet is to get into game because you love who you are, see your value, and want to share that with others and learn and grow Chasing attention or sex for validation is only fulfilling for a fleeting moment Then you wake up the next morning and ask yourself “why tf did I do that?” If that’s all you’re chasing No one can determine your value. Only you can. Others can tell you what they think your value is, bu…
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:02 AM
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Women DO want men the way men want women… but they only experience that when they’re ovulating lol Also… change your frame to believing you’re the prize. Be delusional if you have to. There are less valuable men than valuable women… which makes a valuable man that much more valuable
/r/seduction09/07/25 06:18 AM
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I would assume they were flirting with me and that was their excuse to shoot their shot, and then I would start flirting back But that’s just me
/r/seduction02/07/25 09:23 AM
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Directly? This is something I could prob work on I’m in above average shape and do fine, but could probably be doing a lot better, and even dating hotter girls consistently, if I didn’t look for approach signs first haha Needa take a page outta your book
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:03 PM
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So approach them when they don’t make eye contact? Lol
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:11 AM
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That’s fine. Just don’t be needy and treat her like a human
/r/seduction30/06/25 10:04 AM
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The trick is to go out with no expectations other than to have fun. Women sense this And if you go home empty handed, you still had a fun night
/r/seduction30/06/25 08:56 AM
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I’m neither of these but had a 9 enthusiastic about head. She wasn’t very good at it, but still thoughtful Ofc, she was also BPD
/r/seduction27/06/25 08:44 PM
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So does the dick, apparently
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:16 PM
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Ah. The good o’l pity fuck
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:13 PM
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9s & 10s make my life better
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:13 PM
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“I’d say: we should hang out… but what if you’re boring?” “You strike me as the kinda girl who would put me to sleep if we ever got into deep convo” These are kinda just dumb ones off the dome. Every situation is unique. Also, they will only work if she is already attracted to you. But usually, if she’s entertaining a convo with you, she is attracted to you.
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:12 PM
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My older brother looks like a male model and has absolutely zero rizz He’s very successful as a business owner and salesman. But when it comes to girls, he gets away with a lot. He likes going to places where girls dance and he does things that other dudes would be labeled as “creepy” for like just grabbing a girls waist or grinding up on them. He doesn’t actually know how to start a convo with any of them and do any push/pull, but I think he gets away with a lot because he’s really attractive. …
/r/seduction27/06/25 05:03 PM
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Yeah.. she def wanted to fuck. But good on you.
/r/seduction26/06/25 11:37 AM
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I went to go say hi to your boyfriend and then I bumped into the mirror
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:30 AM
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Maybe they had freshly broken up and you should’ve shot your shot
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:29 AM
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That’s because they either get turned off and lose attraction, or get attached and want something more and realize you’re not the one who’s gonna give it to her The best way to tackle this is to passively bring up the fact that you’re not looking for a relationship, early on A line that always works for me is “I’m happy to keep hanging out with you until you meet your Prince Charming”
/r/seduction20/06/25 08:51 PM
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You don’t ask. You tell. Assume the sale “I think you need to get it over with and kiss me already”
/r/seduction15/06/25 10:47 PM
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A better line is “I think you need to get it over with and kiss me already” She’ll be the one to lean in If she rejects you… she wasn’t that interested in the first place and you should be grateful you can cut your losses rather than waste more time on Her Always go for the kiss on the first date. Even if it’s at the end of the date. And never ask. Assume the sale. She doesn’t have anything else going on and lord knows she’s totally ready to date. Those are just things girls say when they get th…
/r/seduction15/06/25 10:45 PM
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Yet you’re single in your 40’s?
/r/seduction15/06/25 10:01 PM
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So… my finger or yours? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
/r/seduction11/06/25 12:28 PM
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The trick to pass shit tests is to not try to pass shit tests.
/r/seduction30/05/25 05:20 AM
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Men like to be useful. Consider asking him if he can show you how to use a certain machine (even if you already know). Let him show you. Either that or ask him to spot you. This will hopefully signal at least some interest towards him and can lead into a more natural conversation.
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:47 AM
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Then approach women in your league
/r/seduction24/03/25 06:58 AM
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This doesn’t happen as often as you think. It’s a small but vocal minority
/r/seduction23/03/25 02:41 AM
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That’s just shit you hear online from a loud minority. Most women still want to be approached
/r/seduction23/03/25 02:40 AM
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Idk I have 2 friends who are ugly. One is obese and he has a girlfriend way out of his league. He’s super funny and charismatic and well liked. The other friend is a twig. Like, never lifted a weight in his life and forgets to eat. He is the rizz king and punches way above his belt. He always has girls hanging on him. It does help that he has some very minor clout in the music scene, and it’s not like he’s dating 10’s, but still some pretty beautiful women. He’s a super authentic and genuine guy…
/r/seduction15/03/25 10:29 PM
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Are you gonna share what you did to maximize confidence or…?
/r/seduction15/03/25 10:25 PM
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Feel like it’s mostly women hyping her up, as I don’t know any men who rave about her personally
/r/seduction12/03/25 11:27 PM
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Honestly you sound a bit jaded, like you haven’t healed from one too many let downs from men. I fully empathize because I’ve been there and it took other people telling me I had some emotions I needed to fully feel to truly let go of the past and start seeing women as unique individuals again. I wish you the best.
/r/seduction10/03/25 10:10 PM
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That may be true. But just as many bad eggs exist that are women. They may not be expressing their shittiness the same way as men, but they are the same type of bad.
/r/seduction10/03/25 06:52 PM
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That’s a a great idea. #bringbackpolygamy
/r/seduction10/03/25 02:01 PM
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Whether men are good or bad… they have no choice whether they sexualize women or not. It’s called testosterone. The only way to shut it off is to castrate a man. That doesn’t mean that all men only want sex. It just means that sexual attraction is high on the list when selecting a mate. However, sexual attraction won’t make a man stay. It will only make a man consider getting to know you.
/r/seduction10/03/25 01:59 PM
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Sounds to me like you’ve probably had to do quite a bit of inner work to change some of those limiting beliefs around all men being pigs, romance being tedious, femininity being annoying. I’m proud of you. Keep up the good work. You’ll find your mans
/r/seduction08/03/25 04:06 AM
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I mean if you want to change the definition of chasing then go for it. Chasing is feminine. If it works for you to be the girl in relationships, more power to ya. Personally, I’m into feminine women who do all the work to Chase. And all I have to do is simply read their body language.
/r/seduction08/03/25 04:03 AM
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Uhm. I understand the irony here since I’m on reddit right now, and am a somewhat active user. But I think most people on reddit suck. I like the platform bc I have an intense case of ADHD and need to manage dopamine responsibly. Outside of pursuing my purpose, Reddit is one of the healthier ways bc it’s prevents me from doom scrolling instagram or worse, getting back into porn, which is by far the most unhealthy dopamine release and something I avoid at all costs. I’m prob a bit of an anomaly i…
/r/seduction08/03/25 04:01 AM
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Uhm no. That’s not chasing. That’s initiating. That’s escalating. That’s making a move. That’s not chasing her attention. That’s reading her body language and realizing when she has sufficiently chased you to the point that she’s ready to be kissed. Initiating a kiss isn’t chasing. Future said it best: “Chase a check, never chase a bitch” Men who are at the top of their game don’t need to chase. You can chase all you want tho dawg. It’s just extra work you really don’t need to do. But if that’s …
/r/seduction08/03/25 03:25 AM
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Tbh, I would highly recommend you read this book. I know the title perhaps feels a bit misleading. But I can assure you, there will be value for you to extract from it. He wrote the book a long time ago. And he mentions at the very start of the book that he originally wrote it for men, as most dating books are catered to women. But that all of the information still applies, so long as you realize that in every romantic relationship, there is a masculine energy and a feminine energy. He has a vid…
/r/seduction08/03/25 03:23 AM
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Rest your life? That doesn’t seem super promising for men looking to avoid a dead bedroom tbh haha In other comments referencing your attractive qualities, you mention how much you enjoy sex. FWIW, I think most men are looking for a woman who’s not a total hoe, except when she’s with him. That said, most men could not go without sex forever. I wish I could accurately describe our experience with testosterone. But in short, sex is always there in the back of our minds. Sometimes we undress women …
/r/seduction08/03/25 03:08 AM
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I don’t mean this to be rude. But would you mind proofreading your comment and editing it or re-typing it? Your grammatical errors/typos have made it too difficult to understand what you are attempting to express. Particularly, the first paragraph.
/r/seduction08/03/25 02:58 AM
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Curious why you say they were rejected. Care to elaborate? You just said they approached and said “I like you” Tbh, that’s quite socially uncalibrated for a girl to say. Also… you say they were cute but what women think is a pretty woman, and what men think is a pretty women, is an entirely different thing haha Men are cautions and defensive because it very rarely happens, even to male models. They’re simply not being overtly approached by women. Women will drop clues, but rarely come right out …
/r/seduction08/03/25 02:56 AM
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I would chalk it up to you honestly. It takes me a lot longer to figure out dating and it does women imo because women make the rules of the game. As I said, in another comment, men get comfortable and complacent in a relationship and think the woman will never leave. This, coupled with the fact that most women will never overly communicate their true needs, many of their needs go right over the man’s head. He doesn’t realize the relationship is in jeopardy until it’s too late, and she has lost …
/r/seduction08/03/25 02:37 AM
3

Are like what? Sure, you will be attracted to him until the day you die… so long as he keeps making you feel a certain type of way. The majority of men get complacent in relationships. They think, “ wow I’ve locked down this girl, guess I can do whatever I want now” They sit on the couch and drink, beer, or play video games. Rarely making time to deeply connect with their woman. I learned this the hard way myself. A man gets complacent, a woman gets turned off, and she leaves. It’s a tell as old…
/r/seduction08/03/25 02:28 AM
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I think what you are actually learning, is how to step into your feminine tbh. Women who have always been feminine naturally understand all these traits. I reflect back on women who play with their hair, stand extra close so their body grazes you, giggle in a very feminine way, etc. this comes natural to these women who were raised with strong masculine fathers, and feminine mothers. It comes natural to some girls with daddy issues to, but more so as a ploy to continue to get that validation fro…
/r/seduction08/03/25 02:19 AM
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Likely because her skills in the bedroom were lacking. I dated a younger girl about a year or so ago who was just awful at kissing. I sort of tried to direct her how to kiss properly, and eventually mentioned it. And she got all weird like “some people like kissing this way” Which is like… no. Not that many people like it that way. You’re just inexperienced and won’t follow my lead. I also dated a woman for 9 years who cooked, cleaned, was a 9 or a 10 to most men, freak in bed… but she was comba…
/r/seduction08/03/25 02:14 AM
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Making money has such little bearing on what a man wants in most cases. In fact, it can even deter men when a woman is too focused on her career and in her masculine. I actually agree with this dude. Most healthy men would prefer a woman who can cook, clean, suck dick, and who isn’t combative. Men outside of this are either outliers, or not healthy men imo. I’d also submit that MOST women have absolutely no idea how to suck a dick properly. Or maybe just not girthy ones. And yeah, I know most me…
/r/seduction08/03/25 01:20 AM
2

True, but, traditionally, a woman’s seduction was largely the same then as it is now… look pretty, and put yourself in a situation where a man can be useful to you.
/r/seduction08/03/25 01:17 AM
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Haha thank you for acknowledging that For women, male validation is like crack. But most women are terrified? to admit it. I’m convinced women crave male validation more than they crave sex. And sex is just a byproduct of that validation. I also think women are WAY more competitive than men.
/r/seduction08/03/25 01:13 AM
1

It’s pretty easy to be better than most women too, yet… here we are.
/r/seduction08/03/25 01:10 AM
1

Hard disagree bro. Women naturally chase men they’re attracted to and have since the dawn of time. Once you chase a girl, you lose her. Men who are successful with women don’t chase. They may initiate and plan dates, but they don’t chase. All of my best relationships have been when I hit the girl up once a week (only in the beginning) to plan a date. And by week 3 usually, she is the one hitting me up all the time, and all I have to do is assume she’s hitting me up because she wants to see me an…
/r/seduction08/03/25 01:09 AM
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If these women ONLY came up and said “I like you” and that was it… then the man didn’t reject her. He prob just had no idea how to react. First of all, when women approach, as a man, you always wonder what the catch is. Is she trying to harvest my organs? Is she a prostitute? Is this some cruel joke her friends are all in on? Where’s the hidden camera? It so rarely happens (even to attractive men) so we are usually quite suspicious when a woman is so overt. Consider that when approaching men. Yo…
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:59 AM
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To seduce your man, try whispering this into his ear: “I want you fuck me so good I can’t walk for a week” In reality, men dont really need to be courted. Unless you count a healthy sex life as courting. Men could stay at home with their lady watching Netflix and be happy for years to come. The reality is, women won’t tolerate this long term. Netflix is not a date to women. They need to experience the man as being invested in who they are beyond sex. Men don’t need that same thing. Furthermore, …
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:47 AM
2

I would argue that if it truly wasn’t a big deal, you wouldn’t have even made this post. One of mankind’s greatest inherent fears, is the fear of dying alone.
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:39 AM
0

Agreed. I have a friend who is into straight broomsticks. No ass. No tits. I don’t get it. I think it comes from his mommy issues bc his mom is that way. But I think most men want curves like slim thick. Men I know who want anything other than that are the exception, and not the rule.
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:33 AM
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Plus one for polygamy. There’s a reason that was the defacto practice of humanity at the dawn of civilization. And women were totally okay with it. They preferred the safety and security of one omega male, over the loyalty of one weak soy boy. Not much has changed, other than women feel entitled to loyalty. But honestly, I don’t think monogamy is in a man’s nature. And I’m not condoning cheating here because I’ve never done that, and don’t think it’s okay to give your word to monogamy if you’re …
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:30 AM
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Tbf, I do think generally men do understand what they want in women, better than women understand what they want in men subconsciously. Or at the very least, men can articulate it much more clearly if you ask them. Men who want to settle down are generally looking for a woman who is at least slightly above average in looks, sexually conservative (but willing to be freaky with him), feminine, loyal, respectful, nurturing, kind/empathetic, non-combative, and compassionate. There are additional qua…
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:25 AM
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You say you want to lean into your feminine, but then you speak of working on your game so when you meet (feminine) men with no game whatsoever, you can seduce? Them. If you want to lean into your femininity, do that. Focus on being fun and flirty and nurturing. Being all into game is masculine. Look, if you want to meet men, go up to them and say “hey, I find you attractive. Whats your name?” You don’t need game, because unlike women, men arent going to sit there and shit test you. Be firm in y…
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:04 AM
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Yes but doing the work to be confident does not equal game fyi
/r/seduction07/03/25 11:55 PM
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You say you’d pick up the slack but I guarantee you if there is no romance, you will leave. Any man with experience can tell you that women don’t stick around if they’re not being courted. Also, what women say they want, and what they actually respond to, are 2 entirely different things.
/r/seduction07/03/25 11:54 PM
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Which means you need more practice doing it
/r/seduction05/03/25 02:09 PM
1

Nice post. But I would argue that we actually are born with confidence. And trauma and conditioning slowly strips these things away from us. And we have to relearn.
/r/seduction05/03/25 02:09 PM
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Well, I suppose if you already have no dignity or self respect, then you can’t lose it with the Hail Mary. But why even give her that validation
/r/seduction05/03/25 01:14 PM
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That’s the point. Always give her the chance to bring it up
/r/seduction01/03/25 02:00 AM
1

Don’t listen to women about women.
/r/seduction01/03/25 02:00 AM
1

She got offended because it was true
/r/seduction17/02/25 10:27 AM
1

Maybe this is your cue to stop arguing with people on reddit who were never looking for an argument. If people keep telling you that same reply… perhaps there’s some truth to it.
/r/seduction11/02/25 08:08 AM
1

Jesus Christ dude. You need psychiatric help. It ain’t that deep
/r/seduction11/02/25 04:25 AM
1

Okay 👍🏼
/r/seduction11/02/25 04:24 AM
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weakens your whole argument I’m not arguing. You’re the only one doing that. I gave you advice and you’re overanalyzing and over complicating things for yourself when you could have just as easily taken the advice and improved yourself. I really have no more words. Good luck.
/r/seduction10/02/25 11:37 PM
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You get no bitches. So yeah, essentially
/r/seduction10/02/25 01:03 AM
1

Okay. Don’t. It doesn’t affect me either way. I’m giving you suggestions to get pussy. Women are attracted to men with a purpose more than men give 2 shits about women with one. If you want to be boring and have no friends or passions the rest of your life, go right ahead.
/r/seduction10/02/25 01:02 AM
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Go read Letting Go by David Hawkins. It’s not a pickup book. But It will help you a ton with neediness & oneitis.
/r/seduction09/02/25 02:09 AM
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The solution is to get friends and hobbies. As a man, your main priority in life should be pursuing your life’s purpose.
/r/seduction09/02/25 01:12 AM
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Because they’re sluts
/r/seduction19/01/25 02:43 AM
1

The secret is to keep them in the honeymoon phase. Many men can master seduction for a night. Few can master it for a lifetime.
/r/seduction16/01/25 09:09 AM
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+1 for letting go. That book changed my life.
/r/seduction16/01/25 09:07 AM
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Correct. The key is to treat them all the same. Treat the 9 like the 6, and the 6 like the 9. Most men subtly show they’re way interested in the 9. You gotta be indifferent and have an abundance mindset. Realize there’s another bus every 15 minutes.
/r/seduction16/01/25 09:05 AM
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Keep in mind, it’s a constant process. Anytime painful emotions come up, do the technique until there is no more painful emotion there. The more you do this, the less burdened by emotions, and less emotionally triggered you will be in general.
/r/seduction16/01/25 08:46 AM
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You should read this short article to learn what is causing you to be needy and put women on pedestals. Then practice the technique from the article whenever you want to send a desperate text.
/r/seduction15/01/25 02:53 PM
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Naw dont compliment a woman on her looks unless things are really starting to take off and she’s somewhat emotionally invested. You can’t be doin that to girls you just started talking to. Her pussy will dry up faster than the Sahara.
/r/seduction15/01/25 02:51 PM
1

I only play dudes. To the ladies… I’m a gentleman
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:54 AM
1

the main heroin who discovers an amazing man Username checks out
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:53 AM
1

Which part? Work on yourself or tease?
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:53 AM
2

No… she did. Lmao
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:52 AM
2

Faxx. Often when a girl calls you a player, it’s a shit test cuz they like you. How you respond determine whether or not they keep talking to you. If you get defensive, it’s not a good look. If you embrace it, it can have mixed results. I’ve found the best way is to just play coy like “who me? …player? What ever gave you that idea?” And just a little smirk. It’s a great way to engage them in convo. Then you can tease them like “yeah, and I bet you’re into players, so maybe this isn’t such a bad …
/r/seduction10/01/25 09:52 AM
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Toxic masculinity doesn’t exist. Toxic people do.
/r/seduction10/01/25 08:33 AM
1

Yeah my buddy was a bartender in a ritzy ski town and he was swimming in more puss than he knew what to do with
/r/seduction10/01/25 06:34 AM
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What women say they want, and what they actually respond to, are 2 different things. Keep approaching women. It’s only creepy if YOU make it creepy.
/r/seduction06/01/25 06:26 AM
3

Plus 1 for Letting Go by David Hawkins. That book changed my life. Not a book on picking up women, but oddly enough, the book will make you better with women and all your relationships will improve if you practice the advice.
/r/seduction06/01/25 06:13 AM
1

Indians… broke? In what country lmao
/r/seduction05/01/25 01:29 PM
1

“Hey I’m really sorry to do this. but had a situation come up and it’s going to be hard for me to make it to our date. I was looking forward to meeting you Can we raincheck for later this week?” “Great. When are you free?”
/r/seduction04/01/25 08:48 AM
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I’m 6ft and I feel your pain. I’m not short by any means, but I still don’t stand out in a crowd at the club.
/r/seduction04/01/25 04:15 AM
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Haha. No actually sweetheart. I’m in here to give advice to make the world a better place and ensure men aren’t falling in love with only beauty. I enjoy sex just as much as the next guy, but I don’t see 2 consenting adults as using each other. I also think relationship sex is 1 million times better than hookup sex. You can be as shallow as you want. I’m not judging. I just feel bad for you that you will never find true love, and I will happily tell men looking for such things, to steer clear of…
/r/seduction04/01/25 01:14 AM
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She’s right in some regard. However, a woman who’s top priority is a man with money, is not a take home to momma typa girl. She’s for recreational use only, and you should be vetting these type of women before considering long term relationships. If a woman can’t fall in love with you over cheap dates, she ain’t the one. No matter how much money you have. Always start cheap. The focus should be on building a legitimate connection, not on impressing her with your money.
/r/seduction02/01/25 02:29 PM
2

Arrogance is faking confidence. Thinking you’re better than other people because of whatever positive qualities you focus on. Confidence is knowing that you don’t need to be better than anyone else, because who you are is unique, and someone worth being with. You know your value is not determined by anyone else, or what you have to offer, but rather, determined solely by you saying so. True confidence takes work. Confidence means: the ability to confide in one’s self. Be honest with yourself abo…
/r/seduction02/01/25 02:26 PM
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“Hey. I’m not looking for a serious relationship right now, but I’m down to keep hanging out until you meet your Prince Charming”
/r/seduction31/12/24 08:56 AM
2

Coffee in the evening. When the suns going to set. Then if it goes well, “I know a great place down the street for cocktails”
/r/seduction30/12/24 11:58 AM
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Pro tip: go to a coffee BAR kinda towards dusk. So you meet when the sun is still up, then you sit with her into the night when things feel more romantic for her. Or it can just be a regular coffee spot downtown so you can easily transition to a spot close by. “Hey, I know this place with margaritas and tacos down The street. You wanna go?” Other more practical option is to meet for coffee during the day for only 30 minutes or so, to qualify her and see if she’s even interesting or worth your ti…
/r/seduction30/12/24 11:52 AM
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I agree with most of this man. But I don’t think bullying/shaming actually works long term. I think most simps are actually the product of bullying. They already carry an immense amount of shame so they have no self respect. The way I see it, the only way to change simp culture, which I do believe is achievable, is to empower other men to see their own value. To have self respect and walk away from women who aren’t respecting themselves. I already feel like more and more men are waking up to the…
/r/seduction26/12/24 08:08 AM
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AI is already capable of doing that. As far as I’ve read, many women just hire a man to comment to their subscribers because men know men best. I think the other commentor was more talking more about AI for the actual porn. Like imagine getting to customize your own porn star that has a “personal” relationship with you. Beyond that, people could make OF and lie that it is just AI generated content, but it’s indistinguishable from real content. That’s not even taking into consideration, deep fake…
/r/seduction26/12/24 07:59 AM
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Not just called out, but men need to have a backbone and start walking away from such women. It’s all the simping that fucked up so much of modern dating culture. Men need to have some balls and be able to tell a woman no. They need to walk away from women who violate boundaries or display low character flaws. Women don’t have all that power unless you give it to them and fall into their frame. No woman is worth that kinda headache. Walk away and never look back. Heartbreak will make you stronge…
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:33 AM
1

The way to overcome it is to never punish someone for telling the truth.
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:47 PM
5

Yes, ime, this is because women are generally loyal to their emotions. This is the biggest hurdle for women to overcome. It’s important to always put “I feel” before every statement a woman makes. And “in this moment” after every statement. Example: “I hate you” Becomes “I feel like I hate you in this moment” “You never do anything for me!” Becomes “I feel like you never do anything for me, in this moment” Etc
/r/seduction18/12/24 11:45 AM
1

Can you give me feedback on good text game? I have no problem getting laid if I can get her on a date. But I’m mildly autistic and super ADHD and feel like it hinders me over text. I also don’t enjoy texting just to text. I’d rather a phone call or a date but idk how to handle when women are hitting me up expecting to text.
/r/seduction15/12/24 12:41 AM
6

Where do I find out about these trade shows near me? This sounds genius. Tired of 304’s from the club scene and looking for more authentic connections.
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:46 AM
12

How are you bagging flight attendants??
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:42 AM
25

The homeless shelter
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:40 AM
25

Technically, you can show up to most college classes and not pay a dime… you just won’t get a degree.
/r/seduction10/12/24 03:39 AM
6

I’m not good at that part One minor tweak is to complement something she thinks she has control over, rather than her overall beauty. Instead of “you’re cute” it is usually better to say “you have a really cute smile” OR “you really know how to put an outfit together”
/r/seduction08/12/24 12:15 AM
6

Then no reason to perpetuate it. You don’t need to say “let’s be friends” to save someone’s feelings. That’s lying, and still leading them on that you are okay with friendship when you are not. No need to even bring it up. No saying “we can still be friendly to one another” is a different ball game entirely. But personally, I’d just say I’m down for FWB’s while you search for your Prince Charming. Never had it fail.
/r/seduction30/11/24 01:38 PM
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That’s called fading which is a mild form of ghosting. If you really want to scare her away, just start simping hella hard and after enough fuck ups, her pussy will become drier than the Sahara. But in all reality, just tell her you’re not looking for a relationship at the moment, but would be happy to continue to see her casually.
/r/seduction30/11/24 01:05 PM
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As long as you make sure it’s cool with your boy, then it’s no big deal. Just be like “look dawg, I tried to wingman ya but it’s clear she’s feelin’ me at this point. Are there gonna be hard feelings if I reciprocate?” It’s not your job to do this, but best to make sure your friend doesn’t start to resent you if the relationship actually means anything to you and he for some reason thought he had a chance.
/r/seduction17/11/24 09:27 PM
1

It’s possible to meet quality women at the bar but they’ll be few and far between. You’d be best focusing your efforts at other places, whilst just enjoying your time at the bar and being open to meeting someone great, should they come along.
/r/seduction17/11/24 06:06 AM
1

Yeah don’t burn these types of good girls my man. That’s how they become bitter and there’s not enough good girls like this in the dating pool. If you’re don’t want a relationship, set her free and let her find that unless you’re going to be up front about it before you have sex. Future you will thank you for being a good guy when you’re ready to settle down yourself.
/r/seduction16/11/24 10:56 PM
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She’s protecting her emotions and making it clear to you that she’s not a hookup party girl… she’s a woman who respects herself and only has sex after connection and trust has been established. If you’re not interested in anything long term, leave her be, or at least be honest and tell her you’re not looking for a relationship so she can avoid getting attached. Most women will respect you if you make your intentions clear, and often still be down for FWB
/r/seduction16/11/24 05:46 PM
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Underrated comment. You should wait 3-5 days before hitting her up after a date. A woman’s attraction raises not by spending time with you… but by wondering about you and missing you.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:09 PM
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Hit her with “If it’s not a vibe, it’s not a vibe. That being said, I’m Mildly autistic and working on developing my social shortcomings. Would you mind providing me honest feedback about where I can improve for future dates?” Lmao. You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:08 PM
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Save vulnerability for after a connection has developed. Avoid texting as much as possible. The phone is for setting dates.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:06 PM
1

Till they notice their first wrinkle and decide it’s time to settle down lol
/r/seduction15/11/24 04:32 AM
13

Yeah as long as you end things gracefully and in a classy manner, there’s nothing wrong with this.
/r/seduction13/11/24 01:23 PM
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Agreed. The fear of being creepy is a result of 2 emotions. Shame and fear. Most of us are so out of touch with our emotions and won’t allow ourselves to fully feel them. When fear comes up, feel the emotion fully. The only reason you feel fearful is because you haven’t allowed yourself to feel all the fear in your body. It’s extremely uncomfortable. So we push it down. The more you allow yourself to feel fear and shame, the less it will have an effect on you.
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:03 PM
0

Well if she has had guys approach her and turn her down because she’s not attracted… then it almost sounds like she is a virgin, not by choice. She’s making a post about how she hasn’t been able to lose her virginity.
/r/seduction07/11/24 11:26 PM
11

Yup. She reached down and felt their penis and realized it wasn’t 6 inches so she rejected them. Happens all the time.
/r/seduction07/11/24 11:24 PM
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Option 5: approach men you’re interested in You don’t have to say anything overt about your attraction. Just strike up a convo or make a comment in passing. Hell, you could even ask for directions and then ask what their name is? It’s nothing that puts you at risk of rejection. And sure, not all men are going to understand that you’re attracted, they may be oblivious. But the more you put yourself in situations where you’re at least talking to guys you’re attracted to… the more likely you’ll fin…
/r/seduction07/11/24 11:23 PM
13

Problem is, most girls don’t actually mean “let’s just be friends” when they say it. It’s just a way to let you down gently. Personally, I just say “I’m too attracted to you to just be your friend, but let me know if you change your mind” It works about 50% of the time where they reconsider. And if they don’t, then their loss. That being said, I make friends with attractive girls I wouldn’t date, and meet women organically because of it.
/r/seduction07/11/24 09:40 PM
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At your age, and throughout your early 20’s, you will likely have less opportunities. As a man, you have to stumble and fall a bit before you really learn wtf you’re doing with women. My advice… don’t make having sex your whole goal in life. Trust that it will happen, and talk to girls when you have the chance. But focus on building your career and future. Competence also helps build confidence. And when you’re confident and successful, it will naturally be easier to attract women. Shoot your sh…
/r/seduction07/11/24 09:38 PM
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