I think their point is how is viewing porn somehow okay but looking at women not okay. Is it the following part? Like if he followed a pornstar would that be okay?
I think that's what the problem is. They hate themselves for falling into the biological trap and they hate the women for exposing their lack of control over it.
Imagine your ego if you had sex with 200 people by 24! The amount of effort that would require. What she really needs is someone to tell her that as a woman that's not an achievement. Literally any thot could do that.