icanbingsu Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Married Male Friend (early 30s M) is Not Allowed to be in Contact with Me (late 20s F) Let this one go.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/12/20 02:46 PM
10	Am I wrong for having to be assertive at my job? Sometimes you have to be firm. He sounded like a slick one; confident who might have persisted. Don’t feel bad. You are working with what you have so keep yelling. Lol Maybe you can use an intercom system in the lot or ask the owner to install one so you don’t have to yell. Explain it would be more efficient, professional, and create better rapport with the truckers.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/12/20 04:08 PM
6	I keep living in the past Hinging your entire romantic life and future on one guy wasn’t a good idea. It’s kind of sad that you made such progress and gained confidence only to throw it away because he isn’t available Life lesson: you are not entitled to anyone. Think about it in reverse, guy sets his sights on you and you’re not available. Should you be obligated to leave your bf because some rando guy is giving you the look? Can you imagine how many girls probably give him the look each day? Don’t lose what you have ac…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/20 02:05 PM
56	What do you do when masculine women hate you? It’s hard until you put your finger on why they are behaving like that. I think you handled it very well. Your dad’s ex seems just INSECURE and unstable in general.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/20 09:02 PM
6	I don’t understand flirting There is a “sexual” aspect to flirtation that is both physical and verbal cues. I agree with what another said that in general, flirting is just showing interest, which you clearly did. But people interpret it differently. It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong; he seems like he’s just use to the slightly more sexually overt version of it. And it probably helps him gauge how much interest a woman has as well as how likely she is to put out. I honestly wouldn’t push things with him, especially if…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/20 07:46 PM
5	Help dealing with the men in my life? What about your friends? At this point it seems like your bf’s friends are not and are not going to be your friends. I agree that you should not be any semblance of “their moms.” I get it; you probably did a lot to ensure that they liked you but clearly they are too immature or ignorant to see you as you and not just some girl tagging along and cleaning out sh*t. I would suggest you clearly explain all of this to your bf as this thread has giving you more ways to formulate what your feeling and …	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/20 04:35 PM
3	He's a late bloomer with a lot of potential. Should I roll the dice or keep searching? If the guy already knows you’re a school teacher and he’s still talking to you, it seems like that “problem” only exists in your head and you have to consider how your insecurities are coming into play. Or maybe you are looking for faults because you are scared for some reason. “He’s showing a lot of interest.” Are you not worthy of someone’s high standards? Maybe get to know him a little bit more and keep dating others. If he was dating young career focused women it makes sense that he hasn’t h…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/10/20 11:10 PM
7	I think my boyfriend eats too ,I am worried for his health what should I do pls? “But the thing is if he ever get sick I would have failed in my role to take care of him and I just don’t want to see him sick. if eating like that had no impact I wouldn’t care.” This is the problem. You’re treating him like a baby or your son. The next time HE initiates a conversation about it, ask him in a really chill way what his is the method to his madness. Until then, zip it like other ladies suggest. Grab a copy of The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle like others are suggesting. I’m re…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/20 10:05 PM
4	What makes a man who is looking for marriage have a long term relationship with a woman he doesn't plan on marrying? Great tips.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/20 08:17 PM
2	Does anyone have advice on how to cope with sexual assault? Not at all! I’m not upset. You wrote your mom is trying to get you to a therapist BUT is there anything you can do outside of therapy. It sounded like you didn’t want to go.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/20 05:08 PM
2	Does anyone have advice on how to cope with sexual assault? What is turning you off from therapy? Your sessions will be private. Just explain to your mother that you want to pick the therapist and look at a few. You also don’t have to talk about exactly what’s wrong until you feel comfortable. Journaling is great! But This is too much for you to handle on your own. It’s great you recognized you need help, now accept it.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/20 05:04 PM
8	What is a RPW way to deal with an adulterous husband? “My husband never met his father, as his mother divorced his father while pregnant so she could live some weird Mary Tyler Moore single career woman fantasy.” ^ This is why he is opposed to you working outside of the home. He needs therapy. Why worry about being a rpw for a man who is clearly not a captain? It seems like you already know why you should leave. This man is breaking down and is not likely to change. It seems like his behavior is an excuse to get out of the relationship but in a chi…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/20 07:38 PM
31	Can a red pill woman let go of resentment from an affair that resulted in a child? “It’s just so hard to let go of my future that I thought I would have with him.” THIS. This is what messes up most people in general. You’re in love or attached to an idea; things that haven’t even happened and have NO guarantee to happen. I don’t doubt you love him, but you have to ask yourself: are you seeing reality as it is or as you’d like it to be? It’s hard because he made a grand gesture when he realized he couldn’t get away with it any more, but isn’t it too late when the trust is gone?…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/20 02:13 AM
2	how to avoid becoming emotionally dependent on my S.O.? I would reflect on the questions I proposed above, and start journaling. I think you have to really want it. If you’re fed up with the sadness and rejection, and truly feel like you deserve to love and be loved equally, then you’re ready to explore why you lean on others. It’s not easy and can be very hard to accept the past and make a change. It may sound cheesy but you could write two letters, one to your younger self and one to your future self. If you don’t feel motivated by hobbies, how abo…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/20 03:09 AM
8	how to avoid becoming emotionally dependent on my S.O.? It pains you because of your loneliness issues. Not because of who he is. It’s best you deal with the root cause of those issues. Find a friend to explore it with or seek a good therapist. Too many people end up hurt due to loneliness issues, and end up in a vicious cycle. If you have the self-awareness (that’s a good thing!) deal with it sooner than later. Questions to ask yourself: When was the last time I felt lonely? Who was involved? What did I do to deal with/ignore it? Keep going back a f…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/20 06:41 PM
2	How do you stay hopeful about dating when hearing story after story of cheating, emotional abuse, violence, stealthing, pathological lying, and porn addiction among many things experienced by women, as a woman? Getting hurt is inevitable but if you have your priorities and limits set, you’ll brush the loses off. Learn from the good examples in this and other threads and screen each potential partner. Figure out what you want but leave a little wiggle room.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/20 02:34 AM
44	How do you stay hopeful about dating when hearing story after story of cheating, emotional abuse, violence, stealthing, pathological lying, and porn addiction among many things experienced by women, as a woman? Wow. Your dad took all those challenges and aced them.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/20 02:31 AM
3	My boyfriend wants to take a 30 day break from sex to work on our relationship If he feels pressure about the frequency, that likely will contribute to his performance issues. If his drive is just not as high as yours, you might want to accept that. If it’s not acceptable for you, and that’s ok, it might be good to reevaluate your priorities and relationship. It’s really not fair to both of you. And him asking to abstain is likely him trying to get some pressure off him.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/07/20 02:54 PM
2	I'm pretty uncomfortable to expose my body hair which I think is more than usual and I've been getting anxiety with all the thinking. I think it's because of my hormones but I how do I get stable?? Since you saw the endocrinologist when you were under 18, most sane and reasonable doctors, will try not to give drugs to a developing child as there are too many probabilities. The situation sucks but please take some solace in that.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/07/20 02:23 PM
4	I’m going back to work part time, my husband is far from supportive. I think it’s crucial for a man to spend time with his child. And maybe just letting him get use to it will help things work themselves out. But. He’s starting a new job. If he is the main provider and in order to excel at his job, move up, and ensure that he can provide for you and the kids in a stable manner means he has to go above and beyond by being available for the first year or two, then maybe that’s just as important as you wanting to work a few hours. I read that your already pregnant. …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/20 08:50 PM
2	How to deal with comments made by boyfriend: he called me a hippo 🙄 He sounds innocent but lacking in emotional intelligence.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/20 07:45 PM
0	How to deal with comments made by boyfriend: he called me a hippo 🙄 Technically he didn’t call you a hippo. He assigned your spirit animal to be a hippo. Did you ask him why he thought your spirit animal would be a hippo? I didn’t see his reasoning in your post. You could be focusing solely on the ugly image in your mind of a hippo when his intentions could be different. (I’ve seen cute animated hippos and stuffed animals.) You may not be a model, but youre certainly attractive enough for him to date you. I doubt he meant it in a negative way BUT if you ask him …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/20 05:56 AM
3	Will my past always make me be seen as less than to him? Don’t push the worries in the back of your mind on him. It might cause problems and destroy your relationship. You also might not want to marry a man if you’re worried he’s not being honest and up front with his emotions. Meaning, if you think he is honest and up front, lay YOUR worries and insecurities to rest. Also, it sounds like the comments on the videos might be from incels and men who have an unrealistic or maybe immature views on women. Could also have been men from other countries that …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/06/20 11:48 PM
10	Not sure how to feel. Did I betray him? I can see why you feel like you betrayed your ex. You broke up but you told him you would not pursue other people. He left with that and likely took you at your word since he contacted you a few days later. You on the other hand did pursue others. It’s not like you bumped into a new guy on the street. You actively looked for one and then took it a step further by sending sexy pics/nudes. I’m not judging. BUT you essentially left him with a virtuous impression of your dedication and he probably t…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/20 06:06 PM
15	How to stop swearing so much? It’s a little unrealistic to say avoid people who curse, but we tend to mirror those around us for a variety of reasons. I think avoiding hearing curse words helps a lot but the advise above about speaking slower is great.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/20 09:50 PM
3	How do you deal with yourself when you find yourself continually getting mad all over again from things from the past? ACCEPTANCE. I worked through things that kept coming up once and for all by accepting that what happened, happened. There are mental exercises you can do where you re-imagine your past and re-write the events which sort of worked for me, but I’ve found the most success with plain ol acceptance. Sometimes we put all the blame on the actions of the other person, but it takes two. What happened sucked, was frustrating, offensive, horrible, etc. I had to examine how those events made me feel. What i…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/03/20 11:30 PM
21	Badly need HELP: How do I keep him interested and convert from non-serious to serious? Here’s one: he makes a comment about your outfit (maybe wondering why your dressed like that for coffee?) and you put his hand under your bra. I stand by the word predator. Take it how you like. I mean it in the simplest definition of the term. Step out of your shoes for a second, maybe wait a few days and reread what you wrote. Heck. Maybe it’ll take a few months for you to see that you are making things hard on yourself. Trust that you don’t have to do all this plotting when a man likes you. T…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/20 04:05 PM
36	Badly need HELP: How do I keep him interested and convert from non-serious to serious? The way you’re approaching this is psychotic. This is written like a predator. I could only imagine if a man wrote something like this the black lash would be huge. This man was up front and honest about not wanting anything serious and you are doing the utmost to trap him. He’s not even reciprocating (other than when he’s baited by your basic reverse psychology and sexual advances). And I think deep down he knows what you’re up to. You laid out all the answers for yourself in your own writing a…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/20 03:41 PM
5	Hi! How do I stop being naive? Innocent and naivety is very different from submissive and clingy. If it’s the submissiveness and clinginess which are the problem, you need to work on confidence. I like what another poster wrote about evaluating men by your standards and needs vs subjugating yourself only to their standards and needs. It should be 50/50. You should find your confidence and learn to be okay with being single. Trust me: it’s going to hurt a lot more being submissive and clingy and being left repeatedly than figu…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/20 03:09 AM
18	Should I drop my education for him? 110%. If he’s committed, he’ll find a way to cope or you’ll both figure out ways to make it work. You never know what can happen in the future with or without him. Even with him, you might need to rely on that degree one day. You’re almost half way. Keep going!	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/20 09:47 PM
6	Are there really men who don’t cheat or who strive not to? An excellent lesson to learn early: anyone who talks trash (consistently, not a one off) about people they call their “friends” will likely talk trash about you as well.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/20 11:09 PM
41	Am I really being abused? But still held a grudge the next morning? Nah.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/20 12:36 AM
2	I hate this regret so much Totally ok to reply. I agree with what you had to say. What I meant by holding out for so long was just specific to her and her desire to wait for someone she deemed worthy, preferably her future husband. So it’s not about physical time per say, but more about the time she held on to her resolve.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/19 08:06 AM
25	I hate this regret so much What’s done is done so it’s time to forgive yourself. I think your putting undue pressure on yourself by comparing yourself to your current boyfriend’s ex; her losing her virginity to him. The fact of the matter is that you’ve already put him on a pedestal and anything can happen. I sincerely wish you the best in this relationship, of course, and hope he’s the one. But for now, you need to focus on yourself and accepting what has happened and coming to terms with it so that if this is the last p…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/19 05:09 PM
20	Rant: Being an Alpha Widow is not cool or interesting Victimhood is easier than taking responsibility. Hopefully they see OP’s post and get a boost.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/19 03:52 AM
3	How to avoid continually running into the situations? Seemed like a lie to me too.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/19 11:27 PM
7	Being looked down on because you are a well kept feminine woman, anyone ever been there? It’s their self defense mechanism to help them avoid their insecurities. As long as no one is physically aggressive towards you or does anything to impede you, ignore the snide comments. They’ll get over it at some point. Or never! But that’s not your problem. I hope they come around though. I hope your hair grows back fast!	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/19 05:59 AM
6	A situation with new guy, need advice especially from Chinese/Asian women I lived in S Korea for a few years and I concur. The boss is king. If he doesn’t want to go home and deal with his wife and kids, you won’t go home either. If he feels like eating chicken and drinking after work with employees, the employees go. Your unwritten job description will including doing what he wants after work hours and drinking. Things are changing and women can probably get out of it more than men, but it’s still a fact of life there. Some South Koreans prefer to work at internation…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/19 11:45 PM