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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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5	Losing attraction to my girlfriend because of her job The made man will date a woman from MacDonalds if she is hot enough. Your girlfriend is evidently not hot enough or there would be other men offering her the ability to quit her job, if you can’t. I don’t mean this to be rude. Just explaining the rationale behind the saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/25 09:11 AM
1	There is a serious hypocrisy in modern dating. Dating a woman who said I paid too much, spent too much on gifts. Fast forward 3 months, she admits she loves being spoiled. There are some fundamental truths to men and women that won’t really change, despite feminist or related ideals. Eventually, the amygdala takes over from the prefrontal cortex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/25 12:45 AM
0	Most girls don’t prefer significantly older men This isn’t ridiculous at all. You are 22 and still have a youthful outlook on your ability to create the life you want with a partner your age. Once you experience the full load of paying a mortgage and raising children in a volatile labor market, you may be surprised by how persuasive a more established and successful man can be. At 22-23, women are at peak physical attraction. You will feel this changing, albeit slowly as you approach 30. You’ve likely never been chased by an attractive and su…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/25 10:59 AM
1	Women's attraction is relative, Men's attraction is absolute. I’ve always agreed with the analogy, “Beyonce could have been picked up by JayZ at a drive-thru, but Beyonce would never have picked up JayZ.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/25 03:10 PM
3	Petition for Protection from Abuse, wants me to leave the house. Yes, my post divorce girlfriend just pulled this nonsense on me in Indiana back in December. I also had a feeling she might do it and was in the actual process of moving out when the police served it and I was required to stop. They were sympathetic enough to give me an additional 5 minutes to grab my work PC and work clothes with an escort into the home. They made it very clear that the moment they handed me the paper order, it took effect. Don’t gamble finding yourself in this situation. I sti…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/25 01:35 PM
13	Petition for Protection from Abuse, wants me to leave the house. Realistically? You could easily get tossed out of your house within 2-3 days for 30 days, with potential for it to be extended. Knowing what I know now, if I were you, I would move as many of your important belongings out of the house today to avoid the risk of losing access to them while you sort out your defense to the courts. If you are served ex-parte, you will be required to immediately vacate the premises without warning. The fact that you happen to know she filed is your warning. Heed it.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/25 12:58 PM
32	How many wives admitted they regret the divorce? When have women ever admitted being wrong, unless there is something for them to gain from it?	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/25 05:33 PM
2	Marriage turned toxic: Evidence ignored by courts TIL this is a global phenomena 😂	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/25 07:25 PM
4	She lied so much in her court filings Wow this thread came at a good time to provide perspective. I too just learned the hard lesson of dating too far on the hot scale, and was slapped with a falsely accused protection order, by the first girl I seriously dated for a year and a half after my divorce and naively signed a joint lease with during the honeymoon stage. It was used to cover up her new workplace affair a year after the honeymoon phase ended, kick me out of my and my kids’ joint house, and allow her new workplace lover to c…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/25 11:04 AM
7	Anyone attribute COVIDs lock down to the down fall of the marriage? Absolutely, it put in perspective that all of the “stuff” (nice house, cars, boat, etc.) meant nothing when I didn’t enjoy any of it with the person I married. The majority of the time I was enjoying my time alone or only with the kids. I realized I would rather have a partnership with significantly less things, than the reverse.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/01/25 06:53 PM
16	How did you handle knowing your Ex had start sleeping with another guy? Start dating, and when/if comfortable sleeping with other women. You will be surprised how these women will slowly change your perspective.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/01/25 07:09 PM
2	How much do you think your car matters for dating as a man? Doesn’t really matter until you’re 50+ and single. At that point many women are marrying for money as much as for love 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/24 03:15 PM
8	I’m out. Make sure you know where her money is hidden before you file. You may never see it without a drawn out discovery process, especially if she cashes.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/12/24 03:10 PM
5	I cannot move on Focus on the reality of her being such a broken person to have done this, not just to you but to anyone. I guarantee she has terrible insecurities of some kind, an Fd up childhood and/or relationship with her parents and/or immature parents. Some path of least resistance where she rarely if ever had to stick with something hard until she achieved the end result. When you can look back and see her track record of poor decision making which has led to her self sabotage in different facets of her l…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/12/24 02:35 AM
8	Wife came out and it's over Find a good therapist. I like a good female therapist who can see through this low quality behavior from your ex.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/12/24 03:22 PM
3	Why is it always the same story? Yep, same story with ex gf. I started as the white knight to carry her away and protect her from her “abusive” ex husband. Then as realities of life kick back in, kids, house responsibilities, bills, having any form of hobby that doesn’t revolve around her, or even glancing at another woman, she slowly begin to devalue me, forced me to change into someone she wouldn’t have been attracted to in the first place, found a new and fresh emotional connection to the next white knight at her new office …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/12/24 03:12 PM
2	Leaving my pregnant wife Correct, if his child goes without his or her father. Anyone who doesn’t get this has clearly never been a father, and has some growing up to do. When your child is born, your life is no longer just about yourself and your own happiness. Welcome to adulthood and responsibility to others. If you want to avoid this reality, there are many birth control options.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/12/24 02:47 PM
2	Leaving my pregnant wife His wife is no longer at the center of this. It is about the child now.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/24 02:09 PM
14	Leaving my pregnant wife Despite the unfortunate and preventable lead up to this, your role as a father to your own child is immensely more important to both child and yourself. You will lose your sense and purpose of being a man over time if you miss the birth and subsequent milestones throughout the child’s life, and your legacy will be forever tarnished if only in your own mind as this reality continues to set in. Move back home. Be the best father you can, even if divorced with shared custody but active in the child…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/24 02:03 PM
1	I feel forever stuck We signed the lease on house together. When order went into effect, I was no longer permitted to be on the premises, even to move my belongings. It is truly a disgusting process to abuse.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/24 03:46 AM
1	I feel forever stuck Bogus protection order. Turns out no evidence is required for the initial temp order to be placed. Total loophole for a selfish ex.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/24 03:39 AM
11	I feel forever stuck If it makes you feel better, I went into a new relationship after the divorce. I was her white knight and soulmate. Sex was of course amazing. Over the course of the subsequent year she continued to devalue me to the point I was a shell of myself. Then she began cheating on me with a coworker, lied all to hell about it, filed a protection order to force me out of my rental to try and keep it a secret, then brought that same man over to stay with her since. Still have to pay the rent and utilitie…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/24 07:39 PM
1	CMV: Status makes men more attractive to women and that incentives men to create hierarchies You are leveraging a logical fallacy to back into your claim as to why patriarchy exists. Here is the reality. Was it the chicken or the egg? Men value their own pursuits more selfishly than woman on average, and they work a bit more harmonious in male only groups toward those pursuits than women do in female only groups on average (more physical strength to complete hard physical tasks, no menstrual cycle, no pregnancy). Men are built to complete physical work biologically. This applies less in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 02:27 PM
5	Anyone else having ed issues with new partners since filing for divorce? Cialis daily will take care of it in the interim. Talk to your doc.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/24 03:19 AM
3	Did you regret getting divorce? My ex became insufferable over a decade and covid lockdowns made me realize that no amount of house or nice things make up for a lack of physical and emotional connection to your spouse. While I miss seeing the kids every day, the ability for them to see me at my best and for our time to be as high quality as I want for them when I see them makes it worthwhile. I’ve been dating someone for over a year that my kids enjoy, who makes me feel appreciated, and who I enjoy spending time with even if t…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/24 04:13 AM
2	My wife is leaving me Solid advice.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/24 05:32 PM
5	My wife is leaving me This. Women don’t just stop having emotions. They are either feeling so hurt by you that they stop caring and detach or they feel a lengthy lack of intimacy, often expressed over time and unanswered. In the second case, it is the care another or others show them that reignites the spark, and often becomes the off ramp and on ramp to a new relationship. Assuming you are not being consistently physically, verbally, or emotionally abusive, not having given a reason to lose trust, the second scenari…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/24 05:29 PM
1	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires Whoever recently said, “women have the equivalent of men’s sexual desire and it is called bitching” is a genius. It really is true (sorry ladies, I accept this weakness).	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 11:44 PM
2	I want to divorce my wife and kids One thing that happens at the end of relationships is confirmation bias. At this stage, you will elevate and nitpick any reason to justify your current or potential near term actions. Watch out for this as it is does distort reality. If you choose to go down this path, you will find after a honeymoon period…8-12mo…that this new person has faults and baggage of her own that you can similarly nitpick into deciding that she may not be your person either, for different reasons (her ex is a pain, her…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/24 03:06 PM
1	The people who claim most women "like bad men" are lying to you. Ignore the liars' tiny sample size, American-bubble "studies" which "prove women like bad men" and just look at it from a women's self-interest perspective. Bad men will hurt them and make their lives worse. If you could only choose one and all others would cease to exist, sure. In reality you have nice guys at work, at the grocery, at the gym, next door all willing to help out, hear you out, even hang out. Sometimes you want a little more excitement than that and the wrong guy only has one job in that moment. Sure, you settle down with less than exciting to provide stability to yourself and your family, but that is just your decision to remove yourself from the market, not a reduction in wrong guy’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/24 11:57 PM
1	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? I met my gf by saying hi while grabbing a late night beverage at a lounge. She was there with friends. Conversation was great. We exchanged numbers and she reached out to grab coffee two days later. We’ve lived together for over a year now. She is gorgeous, authentic, and generally disgusted with the idea of online dating. Not suggesting anyone stop using apps, but do recognize that a lot of women who know their value have little need to use apps and your chances will be better if you make an in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 08:00 AM
–	Average guys are made to feel "dirty" for having a sexual desire Lol, thank you for this comment. It is a truth bomb.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 01:26 PM
11	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? Social Media has made it easier to live behind a screen, especially for men. This is not good for mental or physical health, which are both important attributes for attraction. While dating apps have their place, they are no substitute for getting out into the real world with real people, especially if while doing what you enjoy, and meeting potential mates (directly, or indirectly through association within friend, family or other social circles).	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 07:23 PM
2	If women are your biggest problem, you don't have enough real problems. Happy wife(gf) happy life, and they’re all out of happy. The other things you mentioned are constants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/24 03:41 PM
7	Would you have gotten married and had kids if you knew how the sex "turns off" with your wife? Absolutely not. Those of us who have beautiful children will of course not wish to undo history; however, to then stay in this desert after the fact would be madness. Libido parity and mutual sexual attraction matters. You will feel old beyond your years as a person who needs these and has been dry for years. After divorce, your children still love you, and you feel life coming back into your soul.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/24 12:33 AM
0	[Serious] How young is too young to date if you're not looking for your next wife? I'm 37 (Your age / 2)+7 is the formula you are looking for.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/06/24 09:14 PM
0	This might be the messiest thing you guys have ever read… Ha, Reddit armchair critics. They remind me of my ex. Believe it or not, there are incredible women out there who are both smart and sexy. She works in healthcare, has her own kids, pays her own bills just like the rest of the adults. She came from an unfulfilling marriage. Sometimes people just aren’t right for each other. Sometimes they grow apart. Sometimes libidos simply don’t match. Whatever the reason, there are opportunities for two people who have gone through divorce to come out ahead i…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/24 09:02 PM
0	This might be the messiest thing you guys have ever read… Been there. Now coming up on a year dating someone that is much more compatible. As a perk, she is also younger, drop dead gorgeous, lightyears more kind to myself and others, and gets concerned if we go longer than 12-24 hrs without intimacy. Forgive yourself for how you got to this point, and focus with a trained therapist on the why. We all have fundamental needs and some are formed during childhood such that we cannot escape them forever. Once you understand your unfulfilled needs, you have …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/24 04:11 PM
0	I've never understood why famous male celebrities chose to date/marry other female celebrities Easy, optics and social clout. Look no further than Meghan Markle to see how the game is played.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/23 10:39 PM
6	Should I ruin my life for the sake of my children? Already sounds like you are on the path to ruin. If you lose touch with your kids, you will lose your sense of purpose as a man and father. Missing most of their life events is inevitable at this distance. At the end of your life, they will be the ones taking care of you, but only if they know you were there to take care of them. I doubt you would regret moving closer to them looking back 10-15 years, and you can always move away when they graduate. Responsible and purposeful.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/09/23 08:57 PM
2	Should we just raise the consenting age to 25? Nobody is being “traumatized” by dating Leornado Dicaprio for a few years. If anything, they are getting a PR boost.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/23 03:08 AM
2	A lot of marriages end in divorce and women are often filing for it - but in many of the cases: is it so wrong? Feel 27 is the magic number where you really start to understand yourself and your values at a core level.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 01:13 AM
1	Does unconditional love truly exist? Yes, some parental.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/22 12:34 AM
1	What rules your FWB out from being your actual partner? $$$	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/22 01:33 PM
2	Why are young women so picky? This. I wish all young men understood this. Roles reverse at 35 if you take care of your mind and body.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/22 12:09 PM
2	Single motherhood creates violent criminal men which leads to more single motherhood which leads to more violent criminal men. This downward spiral is going to cause violent men to dominate the sexual marketplace creating a much more dystopian future. Single motherhood does not create violent criminal men. A lack of attention, love, and responsibility on the part of both the single mother and absent father may contribute, particularly if physically abusive. Cultural and socioeconomic conditions, leading the boy to learn/earn everything the hard way himself, joined by way of other boys learning and earning the hard way themselves, are equally impactful on his likelihood of staying in school vs going to prison. These boys are more likely to hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/22 11:51 PM