ididntwanttoexist Archive

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–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Might be true for other people, but for me, absolutely not. I would only feel this way if a partner died while I was still in love with them. Otherwise if I had a time machine I wouldn't bother, even if it meant dying a virgin who never experienced love or whatever. Just having had these experiences is not something that ever mattered to me in isolation. I'm also not someone who is able to look back on good times with someone if my relationship or opinion of them overall has soured.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 12:15 AM
1	What do you consider the ideal body (for the sexes you're attracted to)? I like skinny, low body fat, but not very muscular. Fitness is appreciated, but most of the muscle visibility would be from low bodyfat. As soon as muscles become ultra defined, rounded, bulging in any way it looks unaesthetic to me. I particularly hate big traps, square booba pecs, or thick arms. I like people who are long-limbed, graceful looking, and don't have fleshy or big features. Fat is a complete turnoff for me. Even the upper end of the healthy range is usually not great to look at out…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/22 07:29 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Skinny runner. I hate fat and don't like a lot of muscle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/22 11:36 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread 4/10 20%	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/22 02:58 AM
1	Q4W - How does it make you feel that your husband/boyfriend/significant other has been rejected by 90% of women he approached in the past? It depends on how many women he's approached in the first place. If he's very selective and 9 out of 10 women he's been interested in said no, I wouldn't care. I also don't consider it a true approach/rejection if we're talking mindless swipe apps when no true communication has occurred, and most people don't even fill out their profiles. The kind of men I like aren't really conventional, so it would make sense for them not to appeal to a wide range of women, but they wouldn't appeal to him eith…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/22 08:42 PM
1	Would a man that comments on PPD be a dealbreaker? Only if I disagreed with what he was saying. Just posting here doesn't mean anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/22 08:04 PM
1	how would you women feel if men wore as much makeup as you? I put on lip color sometimes and that's generally it. I don't have an issue with men who wear light makeup to cover blemishes, and I enjoy artistic eye makeup, but I've never come cross a man who only wore lip color. Everyday full face makeup is probably out. No matter how natural anyone's makeup looks, up close it's always detectable to me. Texture isn't something you can truly hide when you don't have control of lighting, and a lot of "subtle" natural looks on camera look like shit in real lif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/22 07:57 PM
1	What is the minimum standard for a man’s body to be attractive? My bare minimum standard would be not overweight, and no glaringly bad proportions. I'm very averse to fat or any kind of bigness in a guy's frame regardless of whether that's from fat, muscle, or both. I don't like stocky body types. Thick arms, big pecs, and big traps, are all a turnoff. My ideal aesthetic would be someone very skinny without big muscles, straight but not ultra-wide shoulders, narrow waist, legs and arms on the long side, not flat ass, and minimal body hair. I don't have a har…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/22 11:40 AM
7	Disgust toward average men who see sex-workers has more to do with their social status than genuine morality concerns I don't have any moral disagreement with sex work and think it should be legalized. I don't particularly care how the women feel about the job as long as it's their free choice as adults to do it. If no one is actually being trafficked or coerced, it's none of my concern. I just want a guy who views sex the same way as me. I don't even want someone who would be comfortable having casual sex even if thrown at him freely, let alone someone who would go out of their way to pay for sex with a strang…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/22 07:12 AM
11	Do women find Fighters (UFC, Boxing, Grappling,...) attractive? I generally find them repulsive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/22 10:24 PM
4	Which scenario would you pick? Three. Four might great or terrible, depending on what low value means. The rest are awful. I'd have nothing to do with someone who I'd consider low value in terms of personality, compatibility, how he behaves towards me, etc. but if the guy fulfils my own requirements, but is seen as "low value" by society with regard to income, career, conventional looks, status, nonconformity, etc., I wouldn't care. But in that case, it wouldn't really be Pickme behavior, just having different priorities, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/22 10:22 PM
7	Q4W: If you discovered a man wore a hair piece after having sex with him, how would you feel? Someone using a hairpiece wouldn't bother me in general, but I'd never realistically sleep with someone after only going on a few dates, more like several months after the relationship is established and feelings are involved. If after that long he's still not comfortable telling me, it would probably be a red flag. I wouldn't mind if someone didn't tell me until they knew me better, but if he's still sneaking around trying to fix it without me noticing at that point in the relationship, I proba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/22 04:24 AM
3	[question for women] if a guy you weren't that attracted to, asked you to help him with a practice date...would you do it? why or why not? I'd tell him a practice date with me would not be any good for helping him with the average woman because I am a weirdo. My tastes aren't usual and I actively like a lot of things that put normies off, and dislike things others see as positives. Also, even if I thought I could help, I'd never respond to a random message from a stranger like this. I'm on OLD to find a partner, and I don't reply to anything else. I'd only do it for someone I knew already.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 05:58 PM
1	Be honest, would you date the equivalent to yourself? That's pretty much exactly what I'm looking for. In terms of personality and intelligence, I would prefer someone as similar to me as possible. I'm unwilling to consider anyone with too much divergence in terms of values, philosophical, and sociopolitical outlooks. I know a relationship of extreme similarity is the only relationship that would actually work long-term, given that I'm uncompromising, don't really get lonely, and while I find being disagreeable and debates entertaining in general, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/22 08:29 AM
2	Are you guys actually asking your partners N counts? Realistically, this is rarely an issue for me because men with personalities I like are rarely promiscuous. I try to get much information as I can about new people before directly asking them because I don't trust anyone, not just with this topic, or subtly get information without directly asking without outright revealing how judgmental I am about it. I always discuss history and freely volunteer mine. Just hearing an exact number isn't useful information. He doesn't have to be a n=300 manslut …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/22 01:51 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread This makes no difference. The fact that paying for sex could be an enjoyable experience for him means we're not compatible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 04:47 PM
11	Q4W: In your experience, how many women reach their twenties as virgins and why do they? I was a virgin until my mid-twenties because I didn't care about sex outside of a serious relationship with someone I was in love with, and was a combination of extremely introverted, selective, and not really trying that hard to find anyone. I also have a lot of factors that rule out large numbers of people as options, like not wanting kids and knowing this from a young age, atheism, not being into partying/drinking/drugs, etc. etc. OLD would have made it trivially easy to lose it any time I wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/22 07:11 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread No. I'm an atheist, and not interested in any kind of religious or spiritual person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 02:42 AM
4	How important to you is a woman’s relationship to her family, especially her father? And women—how important is a man’s family life to you? All I care about is that if he has unlikable or toxic family members, he doesn't feel an obligation to keep them in his life just because they're family. A non-relationship is fine. I really don't care about the particulars of his upbringing and will judge his personality and any perceived damage on an individual basis, but I'm not interested in anyone who feels some kind of moral obligation to put up with things you normally wouldn't from someone, just because they're blood related. There's als…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 02:29 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread The same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 10:27 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Dealbreaker. If I date someone, they're the only person I'm dating, and I'm not interested in casual sex. I don't do the kinda sorta dating but not really non-exclusive thing. Only interested in people who are the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/22 10:40 PM
1	Women who’ve dated tall men. Are you able to go back to shorter/average height men or have you? My one ex was just under 6ft. I don't care how tall a new partner is. Someone's body shape and proportions are far more important to me than height. I don't know how I'd feel about a guy significantly shorter than me, but I'm under 5'6" so it's not too likely I'll meet someone who someone who happens to fit all my other standards and also is an extreme outlier in terms of male height.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/22 07:44 PM
1	If you could flip a switch and randomise your appearance would you do it? No way. Insane gamble for only possible marginal improvement, and would most likely get worse. This only seems worth it if you were sub 3/10 ugly or deformed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/22 07:31 PM
5	(Rating Male Attractiveness) Anecdotal look at Women vs. Men rating Men 4 4 5.5 4 5 4 6 6 6 4 5.5 Like the girls, all flawed in different ways but overall meh looking people, many with too high body fat to see full potential. Most also have hairstyles or facial hair I hate. Tried to just focus on their basic facial structure/proportions, but it can really change the way someone looks. 3 is being overrated; when you see him talk on the speed date, it looks like he's sculpting hard with that beard to hide lack of definition, and that probably will never improve since …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/22 07:04 AM
2	(Rating Female Attractiveness) Anecdotal look at Men vs. Women rating Women 5 5 4 4 5.5 4 4 5 6 6.5 Most of my initial impressions went down after watching the video. I was gonna give 9 a 7, but she's worse in motion. 5 was a bit better. I think 10 is being way underrated because of the hair. Overall a bunch of unremarkable looking humans who would not stand out without a lot of styling and makeup help, and most of which could do with losing some weight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/22 06:33 AM
2	How many of you would become stepparents? I have no interest in having, adopting, or having any involvement in raising children, and I'm only interested in men who are the same way. There's no version of any relationship or life I want where a child doesn't ruin it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 09:49 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread No. I want a specific kind of relationship with a specific kind of person, not just one for the sake of it. Anything outside of that has negative value, and I'd be better off alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 09:37 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Looks always beat money. Money is almost completely irrelevant to me outside of practical concerns.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 08:49 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread This is only because if you step outside the FSM hugbox approved communication style in these spaces you'll get banned or censored.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 08:42 PM
1	Close Friends and Activities The drinking and partying would preclude me from dating someone anyway. Business trip okay if she's part of the business and there's a good reason for this happening with just the two of them and overnight. No to the rest. But I wouldn't like him having a male friend like this, either. I need a partner to also be my best, closest friend, and I'm not a social person at all and isolate myself pretty deliberately, so only date people who are the same way. If he frequently wanted to run off on vacat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/22 11:07 PM
4	Daily Community Chat Megathread You were probably supposed to say some comforting bullshit that she'll always be beautiful to you but you'd mayyybe worry about her health or something so she can paint you as the bad guy when she lets herself go in ten years. Unless she literally has no physical standards herself for remaining attracted to someone she's also "superficial".	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/22 08:06 PM
4	Daily Community Chat Megathread No. Only a red flag if I suspected the enthusiasm was out of sadism or admiring the perpetrators or something, but just finding true crime interesting is fine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/22 07:29 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread It's very important. I'm not dating a socialist or communist, perpetually offended woke types, social conservatives, or authoritarians. There are key issues where I wouldn't touch someone i.e. anti-LGBTQ, anti-euthanasia, anti-abortion, anti-drug freedom, anti-free speech, radfems, Twitter feminist types. I don't really care who they voted for since you're never going to get a candidate who agrees with you on everything and just because you picked someone as a lesser of two evils doesn't mean yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/22 08:30 PM
15	I’ve seen this claim on PPD. Women of PPD, if abortions were banned tomorrow, would you keep having casual sex? Not interested in casual, but I wouldn't have sex with a partner if there were no option for an abortion, unless they'd been sterilized or it were feasible for me to easily travel elsewhere to get one. If you mean a worldwide ban somehow happened, I'd just stop having PIV sex because it's not that important to me and definitely not worth the risk of being forced to go through with a pregnancy. As to the rest of it, lots of people are dumb, horny, impulsive, shit at vetting each other, bad at lon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/22 12:59 AM
3	Nobody in real life cares about body count Just because people don't talk about it openly, or bluntly ask about it immediately, doesn't mean they don't care. I care, and I care if he cares. If he doesn't, it's a major red flag. It can be down to insecurity, some of the guys here have straight up admitted it is, but not necessarily. People can have values or want people who feel the same way they do about sex and intimacy outside of religious beliefs. For me it's not about an exact number but how he feels about relationships, sex, and per…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/22 05:25 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread No. I'm naturally oriented towards monogamy and was never interested in casual. I'm only ever attracted to one person at a time and I hate everything about the process of finding a partner. The only version of it that doesn't sound terrible is a completely closed poly triad where we're all in love, but I have a hard enough time finding one person I like, so the likelihood of this is pretty much zero.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/22 05:39 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread The sub is still there, just quarantined.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/22 01:12 AM
6	Would an older virgin man be better off with a woman his age or a much younger woman? He'll be better off ignoring age and focusing on whoever is most compatible with him. There's always too much emphasis in these age gap discussions on a bunch of age-group related stereotyping about having "nothing in common" because of situational things and ticking up experience points like a video game, and not on actual core personality differences, shared outlooks, and interests, that don't necessarily have anything to do with what age you are. But for that reason, I think specifically targ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/22 11:32 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread It is okay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 02:41 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Never done it, but would try it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 02:40 AM
1	Do women feel insulted if a man expresses that he wants to hookup? I'd feel repulsed at the idea of having sex with a stranger, but not insulted. At least they're being upfront and not trying to bs about wanting to date me first. If someone just randomly asked me like that out of the blue, with that wording, I'd probably laugh and move on. If it were someone who already knew me somewhat well, and should know I'd never be interested in that I'd be annoyed, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/22 05:07 PM
2	Question For Women: How long would you go without sex in a relationship? Indefinitely. If his sex drive lowered from what it was with age or illness, but it wasn't down to a change in feelings towards me, I wouldn't worry about it. I am very high libido but I don't need another person for sexual satisfaction. If he's giving me physical affection and love, I don't need more than that. I'd be open to dating a completely asexual person who never wanted it at all. The only problem I can see is if he had a problem with me masturbating. I've seen some weird dead bedroom st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/22 05:16 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread I'm torrenting it right now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/22 12:12 AM
10	If the Military Draft is reintroduced do you think it should include Woman? If there is a draft it should include women, but ideally there would be no draft.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 04:53 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Been about 5 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 03:53 PM
9	Q4W: What is your opinion on guys who use prostitutes? I have no objections to it from a personal freedom or moral standpoint, but anyone compatible with me would never be interested in paying for sex for a bunch of intersecting personality/values/views on sex reasons. It's an extremely unlikely scenario, but I wouldn't date a male prostitute or porn actor, either. I don't go out of my way to shame people just for doing things I personally wouldn't be interested in, as long as everyone involved is consenting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/22 03:41 AM
7	Do you care about a guy's "number" if so what ranges are do you prefer? Generally the lower the better. I doubt I'd consider someone with a number above 10, regardless of age, but it's more about personality and how they view sex than an exact number. A high number of past partners just doesn't make sense given the other traits I like in a person. I like introverted, asocial men, who don't chase women or massively prioritize sex, have clear and consistent standards for what kind of person they'll involve themselves with, don't sleep with people they can't see any fu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/22 08:04 PM
4	Would women really reject men on the basis of being intimidated? I don't have any prescriptions about what other women "should" want, I'm just giving some potential reasons why women wouldn't want him, and he wouldn't be compatible with me. lol assuming I'm a bigot. THAT wouldn't be a problem for me personally, nor would his height, though I don't find this particular guy nice to look at. I'm just being realistic about how people tend to behave.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/22 07:56 PM
3	Would women really reject men on the basis of being intimidated? No. It's just a personality and lifestyle mismatch, not intimidation. I'd have nothing in common with someone like this. I don't want a flabby, physically lazy partner who whines if they have to walk somewhere, but there's a big distance between that and someone who makes fitness their entire existence, and I don't like that level of muscle. I'd have nothing to talk about with someone whose main passion in life is exercise to the point he barely has anything else on his profile and is probably g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/22 06:51 PM
4	Women who do not get abundance of male attention. Why? I'm conventionally attractive, but to hit on you, men must first know you exist and have some kind of access to you. I'm extremely introverted and unsociable. I don't participate in any IRL social activities and overall I'm a very private and aloof person. I don't use social media. I don't drink or use drugs and I hate bars, clubs, and parties. My body language is closed off and I've been told I have a strong air of hostility and major resting bitch face. I'm never mean or rude to the ones that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/22 06:17 PM
12	Q4W What are your physical preferences and what are your physical requirements? Requirements: Face aesthetically pleasing to me. Not overweight, or flabby and skinny fat. Not hugely muscular. No drastically bad proportions. No stained or extremely crooked teeth. No awful facial hair, hairstyle, or body mod choices. Basic hygiene stuff. Preferences: Long hair. No facial hair. Not hairy. Very skinny and lean with relatively small waist. Not more than an inch or two shorter than me. Face more beautiful than handsome. Takes good care of his skin, exfoliates and wears daily suns…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/22 10:57 PM
9	Thoughts about Netflix "swindler" documentary. He was a piece of shit and it was cringeworthy and hilarious how quickly he disintegrated into a whiny little bitch begging for help when he became the HoMeLess KiNg, but the women were also so utterly pathetic, especially the muh Disney romance girl, that I couldn't muster up any sympathy. I was laughing at all involved parties for most of the documentary. Falling for generic complements, wanting a fairytale unironically, and believing someone accomplished, internationally connected, and with a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/22 04:57 PM
1	Q4W Out of the 10 guys listed below, how would you rank them from most physically attractive to least physically attractive? Descriptions too vague and focused on physique rather than face, but Edgy Anime Femboy still wins from the last time you posted this. Then 2, 1, and idk, the rest sound like I'd be put off by all their bodies. Skinny fat guy's rank depends on what you mean by that. If he's actually skinny but just not toned and a bit high on body fat, I'd put him above the muscle bros. If he's actual national average chubby with a paunch, then he can go to the bottom. Maybe 7 next because I love long hair, but e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 06:58 PM
2	What does marriage mean to you? Nothing. I'm interested in a lifelong monogamous relationship, but I don't care for marriage in a ceremonial or legal sense. I'll make private commitments to a partner and that's between us, what anyone else thinks about the validity or seriousness of our relationship is irrelevant and I see no need to make a public spectacle of it. I would get married for immigration reasons if I had a long-distance relationship or if it were pragmatic to do so for medical/rights/inheritance reasons but there d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 02:06 PM
2	Q4W Between these 6 guys who would you choose? One anime femboy, please.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 05:37 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't care that much about height, but I don't care about dick size at all, so I'll pick the tall guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 02:27 AM
0	Daily Community Chat Megathread Brilliant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 01:53 AM
5	Daily Community Chat Megathread Average face, bland look, niche religious beliefs will put off most secular and non-Muslim women, smokes, lame bio that sounds like it's been run through Google Translate, all he has are mirror selfies and no social/activity pics which is a red flag for some people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/22 12:59 AM
6	Ladies which man do you prefer in this example. I’m curious Guy 1. He sounds like he doesn't want to be there either, so we can at least bond over that, I guess. 2 is too extroverted, 3 sounds outright obnoxious. I'd never realistically be in this situation, though. I dislike everything about this type of environment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/22 03:08 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I always thought he was gross. By my personal tastes a 3, maybe 4 if he lost the slimy douche styling and facial hair, and kept his hair down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/22 08:27 PM
1	Men getting vasectomies at a young age, yes or no? If you're certain, yes, do it as soon as you can. Old enough to decide to have children, old enough to decide to never have them. Any decision has the potential for regret, including having children in the first place, which no one ever wants to address or even admit happens when interrogating childfree people, and has a lot more potential for suffering than just one guy who regrets not having children. Vasectomy is somewhat reversible and you and still can have children in other ways if reversa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 02:48 PM
11	How would you react if the guy you were seeing told you he was a virgin? I was 25. 20 is nothing. Just the fact that he's a virgin alone wouldn't make any difference, I'd need context. I'd prefer a virgin or low-n man if he were that way for the same reasons I'm low-n, but it tends to be the case that most inexperienced men over a certain age aren't that way by choice. I wouldn't date someone angry or highly insecure about it, or who wished they could be sleeping around but couldn't. 20 is so young it wouldn't really mean anything either way, though, and it wouldn't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/22 08:32 PM
1	Is having no social media presence a handicap in dating? I personally don't care and actually have the opposite opinion from most of the responses, in that I prefer someone who keeps 100% private accounts, if they have them at all, and wouldn't want someone posting pictures of us or revealing any details about our life if we were together. I'm extreme end of private online though, and I'm also a loner who only dates other loners and introverts, and someone very concerned with social clout, constantly uploading stories about every life event, or who ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/22 03:12 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I can see that he meets a lot of conventional attractiveness traits, but he was instantly kill it with fire repulsive to me, especially with the stupid facial hair accentuating his flaws. So like "objective" scale 7, but subjective 3.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/22 07:35 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread It's pretty funny how many regressive views on masculinity suddenly surface in supposedly woke feminist women when it comes to male bisexuality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/22 02:32 PM
1	Q4W: Does this video on consent look like a sexy, realistic or desirable scenario to you? Communication or asking about specific acts you've never done before is fine and something I'd expect, but asking for explicit permission before every little touch or kiss, especially in an established relationship, seems absurd. In some specific situation where the person is extremely nervous or you know they have previous trauma and they have communicated to this to you or something, I'd get it, but not as default behavior. No, though if other people like this that's fine, I guess. But a world…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/22 05:06 AM
1	Are women worried about the growing number of women who are sugar babies, "Instagram models", Escorts, and/or OnlyFans performers? I don't care. I prefer people are free to do these things and is completely destigmatized. It means they're more likely to admit it and makes it easier to avoid them, and the sex workers will have better protection. Anyone who is interested in patronizing sex works is automatically low-value to me regardless of his other traits, and I don't care about a guy's income, so really not worried about how many rich guys are buying 18 year olds.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/22 06:29 AM
3	Are any of you attracted to upper traps? No. Not a fan of muscle in general, but big traps look particularly awful. If a guy already has sloped shoulders they can end up making them look even worse, and gives a permanently hunched look. I think thick or short necks are ugly, as well, and these traps make it look like the neck sunk into the body and his head is popping directly out of his torso.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 07:29 PM
2	What features make a guy physically unattractive? In addition to the stuff you already mentioned, for me: Ugly facial hair (though I prefer none at all) e.g. soul patches, goatees, jaw outlines, huge face-obscuring beards. Ugly haircut (Even though I prefer long hair, involuntarily bald is better than someone who maintains an unflattering haircut). Bad skin, as in dry, unexfoliated, or prematurely wrinkled from sun or lifestyle damage. I don't mind acne or pigmentation unless it's extreme. Scars don't bother me unless we're talking drastic face…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/22 01:31 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread 4.5 His mouth/teeth are very strange. Otherwise not special looking. Good in Death Stranding, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/22 07:41 PM
1	What's worse in your mind a 20 year old fucking a 16 year old or a 45 year old fucking a 20 year old? Neither bother me at all. I'll make my own judgements on individual situations. If it was someone close to me, and I had reason to believe some kind of abuse was occurring, I'd talk to them about it, but otherwise it's none of my business. With extreme age gaps, coupled with a lack of any reason people seem compatible, I'd probably assume it wasn't an authentic relationship. With this situation, I'd probably be more likely to think the 20 year old and 45 year old was the one less likely to be a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/22 06:58 PM
52	Question for women: What is your opinion on circumcising boys? Consider when you have a son for example. Is this something you would want for him? Why or why not? Please discuss Absolutely against all forms of nonconsensual genital mutilation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/22 04:40 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Cute little mushrooms but gotta sort by top to get away from the hairy paunches ruining it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/22 04:03 AM
2	if your partner did gain a lot of weight and looked significantly more chubby, would that be a deal breaker ? I wouldn't tolerate it or expect it to be tolerated. Illness can only go so far as a temporary excuse for very small amounts of weight gain, and I'd say something before it got to the point they were already fat. If you can exercise as much as usual because of some problem, you eat less to counterbalance it. I'm having flashbacks from all the people using "b-but the gyms are closed!" as an excuse for becoming obese over lockdowns. No. I actively want a partner who will say if they think I'm gett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/22 04:42 PM
7	Do women really find men like MGK and Pete Davidson attractive? Yeah, a lot of the recent Adam Driver hype is actually just fangirl Kylo Ren hype.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/22 03:20 PM
30	Do women really find men like MGK and Pete Davidson attractive? I think Pete Davidson is facially ugly. Too fleshy looking, mouth too big, weird lumpy nose, constant derp expression. MGK is much better, like a 7. Kinda pretty face, blond, skinny, I like his fashion. His tattoos are still shit, though. Personal opinions aside, neither are wildly outside of conventional attractiveness standards. They still have wide jawlines, broad shoulders, are tall, in shape if not going for the gymbro look, have hair, decent facial symmetry etc. They have "alt" styles but …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/22 03:19 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I never denied people get lonely, my issue was people acting like this was inevitable because of distance or seemingly using it as an excuse. I know exactly what a long-distance relationship is like, having been in one for years, and never accidentally tripped and fell into emotional cheating like this girl is implying happened. Personally, I didn't find the distance aspect that hard, but if you do, either communicate, or break up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/22 12:16 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Rounding up a part inch isn't a big deal, but anything noticeably off what they'd stated in their profile, and I'd turn around and leave regardless of whether their height bothered me. Same as the people who enter the wrong age then admit the "mistake" in the bio or think you'll later let them off the hook for it because they look younger. I care very little about age or height, but if they lied, they're out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/22 03:01 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Doomed relationship. He's downplaying it as just a kiss but clearly doesn't trust her anymore (rightly). Should have refused the gift and is probably lying about the extent of the cheating and/or her awareness of the feelings she was developing. "Didn't realize" what was happening, my ass. I don't buy all the stuff about this being inevitable because long distance or letting anyone off the hook even the slightest degree because of that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/22 02:40 AM
1	Q4W would you date a man who earns less than you? Yes. I don't care about someone's finances unless they're indicative of other personality issues, like if he's living outside his means then whining about not being able to afford basic needs, or has racked up tons of debt, or is a lifestyle welfare leech. Other than that, I don't want kids and I don't care about getting married, so his finances are not really relevant to me in a practical sense. I can see how a huge wealth disparity could cause problems in some scenarios but my required lifesty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/22 09:16 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread 0/10 I have failed as a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/22 11:13 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/22 05:57 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't really get anything out of sex pleasure-wise that I can't do alone. Sex with someone is an extension of emotional intimacy and closeness I already feel with them, and "amazing" sex is inextricable from romantic feelings for the person and comfort with them, not objective skills at doing stuff to my body. My orgasms are like 70% mental. If sex is extraordinarily physically pleasurable with my partner, that would be a bonus, but not something necessary. Like if my partner happened to be an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/22 01:28 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread 9, depending on what mediocre sex means. If it's boring or uncomfortable I'll go with the 5. If it's pleasant and still emotionally fulfilling but just not particularly mind-blowing in terms of physical pleasure, it doesn't matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/22 10:03 PM
8	What are some arbitrary things that make you immediately swipe left? No profile. Entire profile is a copypasta joke I've seen 1000 times before. Not looking for serious, being non-monogamous, or not sure what they want. Mentioning a recent breakup. An air of desperation or "I can't afford to have standards" attitude. Bland interchangeable profile that seems constructed for mass-appeal and what they think the average woman wants to hear. Allegedly "looking for something serious/real", but has nothing to say about what that entails. Listing their height followed by…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/22 05:04 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Dating apps suck there are no femboys on them :(	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/22 10:28 PM
3	What are the physical traits of men you find the most important inorder for the men to qualify as your partner? A face I find aesthetically pleasing with no jarringly off-putting features is the most important in terms of the way someone looks. Generally I prefer a more "pretty boy" face, finer/softer features, bigger eyes, and actively dislike a lot of the hypermasculine "Chad" features or the standard-issue square-faced, short-haired, bland Hollywood protagonist look. Someone meh looking can grow on me; it's more about not having any of the features I specifically dislike. My evaluation is about meeting…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/22 06:41 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread That's funny! Imagine being this oversensitive. Bullet dodged.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/22 04:51 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread 10 personality 8 face 4 body According to my personal scale, not actual averages. If it's actual, to get a body tolerable to me I'd probably have to go 6 face and 6 body because of obesity rates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/22 05:53 PM
2	Would you indulge your man in his cuckold fetish if he had one? I wouldn't indulge this fetish or be with anyone who had it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/22 07:24 PM
6	Q4W: How important is a guy's face to you? Even if a guy has my idea of a "perfect" body, if I don't like his face he might as well be Jabba the Hutt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/22 04:09 PM
2	What would make you decide that you and a guy are sexually incompatible? Kinks that are unappealing to me. If I'm just neutral I can work with it. Heavily into being exclusively dominant or submissive. I can do either but don't want it to be the only thing, or a lifestyle thing. Wanting me to make lots of noise and/or say stupid shit. DiRtY TaLk is cringe. Will not accept that I simply don't like/am turned off by certain things, and it's nothing to do with his skill or training him to do it better. Bad hygiene. Having an extremely high sex drive, but this would have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/22 11:17 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread 17 I skipped school, rode horses and went on a cruise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 05:02 PM
1	Women only please: Would you stay with a guy who never wanted to get married? Yes. It would be more likely he'd be having to convince me why we need to, if that were something he wanted. The only reason I ever was interested in marriage because of a long-distance relationship for immigration reasons. I don't see a married couple as any more valid or committed as an unmarried long-term relationship. The ceremonial/spectacle aspects are generally unappealing to me and I don't care about social validation. As far as I know, all the legal benefits other than a few minor tax b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 12:11 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Not in the slightest. The opposite of my type. Superior to fatties, but that's about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 05:16 PM
2	Ladies be brutally honest, describe the “perfect” dick curly fry	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/21 07:32 PM
29	[Q4W] Have any of you experienced guys who use dating coach tactics on you recently? Nothing IRL, but I've received many awkward negging/bait-style opening messages with obvious attempts to take me down a peg while still expressing obvious interest online. Copypastad lines were quite common back in the peak PUA years you mentioned. I never respond to any of them. On platforms where there is open messaging rather than just swiping apps, they sometimes get mad that the tactic doesn't work, and send multiple follow-up messages that usually devolves into straight up insults, or occa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/21 07:19 AM
6	Do women who are into “cute” or “feminine” looking guys exist? Another person just saying yes. It's not the norm at all, and whether you choose to lean into it or go the opposite way and try to become more masculine looking depends on what kind of girl you want to attract, mass vs. niche appeal etc. but the other comments have pretty much been over that and where you might find the women who are into it. But we do exist and we don't all grow out of it after high school like is often asserted. And I actually mean I like feminine or androgynous/gender-ambiguo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/21 02:19 AM
8	Q4W: if you see a guy with another woman, does it make him more attractive? No, and if they're clearly romantically involved, totally disinterested.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/21 06:50 AM
3	[Q4M] Why do manosphere men have such an aversion to being a stepfather? No interest at all. Any guy compatible with me would never willingly have a child. Even if I weren't childfree and the hypothetical kid were really easy to get along with and somehow didn't interfere with the kind of life and relationship I want in any way, I don't want to get attached to a kid then lose it just because the relationship didn't work out. I also do not want to be with someone essentially forced to have some kind of relationship with their ex forever because of shared kids. I may a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/21 08:15 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread 0/10 looks 10/10 lolcow	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/21 03:34 AM
3	Personality Type & Risk Of Being Perpetually Single Scientific validity aside, I fit the INTJ definition. In terms of Big Five, I'm like 100% openness but 0% extroversion, with below average agreeableness, and get middling conscientiousness and neuroticism, whenever I take those tests. I generally only like people who fit INTP, INTJ, or occasionally INFP; specifically people that aren't interested in performing extroversion, agreeableness, or positivity for mass-appeal, and don't treat being asocial as some kind of disease they have to cure (in t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/21 04:06 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Guy 1: 3.5 Guy 2: 5.5 Rating by closeness to personal preference, not conventional appeal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 11:36 AM
1	Do you expect your man not to watch porn while in a relationship? I'm okay with a guy continuing to watch porn if he watches it in the same way I watch it, which I realize most men do not seem to, i.e. getting off to the situation/scenario, actions, expressions etc. as a detached observer, rather than being directly attracted to any of the actors, self-inserting into the scene, and simping after specific actors or content creators. I don't really like most live-action porn because it's aimed at people who enjoy it for these reasons, plus generally being filled…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/21 04:32 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Every home should have one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 05:28 PM
6	Women, do you care about a man's sexual history/body count? Yes. I've only been with one person and I don't see sexual experience as a positive. Virgins are also fine with me, but most men aren't virgins by choice, and if they are they're usually religious or some kind of tradcon. I consider my past his business, and his past my business, if we're going to be sharing a life together. If he doesn't feel the same, or is evasive or shady about it, then we're not compatible. I'd actually consider it a red flag if he didn't care about my past. I have no inter…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 05:01 PM
1	would you mind dating someone uglier ? I don't care what other people think of my choice in a partner. I don't feel physical attraction but do feel repulsed by certain traits and wouldn't want to be intimate with someone I outright found ugly. It's not a problem just to be less attractive than me, or if I know they wouldn't be seen as conventionally attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 04:26 PM
1	PPD: When did you lose your Virginity? 25, long-distance, serious relationship with someone I met online. Reasons it took until that age is I'm demi and wasn't comfortable with physical intimacy outside of a serious relationship with someone I loved and trusted. I'm also fundamentally not compatible with most available options, and an asocial hermit with no motivation to maintain any kind of IRL social life. Lasted ~3 years. He wasn't a virgin and this always bothered me, not because of some arbitrary number he exceeded, but more bec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 02:32 AM
7	Ladies, what is your max age gap and why? (Plagiarizing my previous comment) I never cared about age gaps at any point in my life. If someone fits my other standards for a relationship, I don't care what age they are. Certain things may be less likely because of age factors, but not necessarily. I wouldn't pass up some hypothetical "perfect" partner because wrong birthday. I don't have any real preference for someone being close to my age. All else being equal, a slightly younger guy would be better if we were trying to line up deaths b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/21 03:20 AM
0	Question for women: of these two infidelity scenarios, which is worse for you? One would probably feel worse, but I would end the relationship immediately in either scenario.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/21 06:16 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Nah I'm fine with a bisexual twink catboy bf. I find bi guys who have overcome the hurdle of being completely out and open about their sexuality are also less likely to care about other machismo bs that puts me off. "It takes a real man to take it in the ass" etc. etc. I'm not interested in threesomes but the idea of MMF where the MMs are also attracted to each other grosses me out a lot less than FFM. The best porn is where there is no twat in sight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 08:55 PM
7	Daily Community Chat Megathread Dude did the right thing. If she ever does put on weight she's giving off vibes of being the kind of person to never lose it, sees weight gain as an inevitability of age, or will still be using pregnancy as an excuse when the kid is in college. False dichotomies about having time to "keep a model physique" like there's no middle ground between that and getting fat. "A healthy weight range right now, but don’t have good genetics", "Life is so freaking unpredictable and there is literally a millio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 08:06 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yes. If sexual pleasure were only obtainable through sex with a partner, maybe not, but since I can fap all I want it's not a big deal if my partner isn't into sex. I have a high libido, but I really don't care if I ever have sex with another person. I'm childfree and I've had shitty experiences with all forms of birth control, so not having to worry about that would actually be a bonus.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 01:56 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Agree, they are vile and ruin everything. I don't like onions unless they're heavily caramelized, crispy-fried or pureed completely in a sauce. The texture is horrible and I'm always removing them from my takeouts since people just love tossing unnecessary under/uncooked onions into fucking everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 05:32 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I never cared about age gaps at any point in my life. If someone fits my other standards for a relationship, I don't care what age they are. Certain things may be less likely because of age factors, but not necessarily. I don't have any real preference for someone being close to my age. All else being equal, a slightly younger guy would be better if we were trying to line up deaths based on average lifespans, I guess, but it really doesn't matter. Contrary to what many RP men will say though, th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 11:03 PM
7	"High value men" don't make high value partners. Yes, many of these men choose "post wall" women that don't even look particularly young for their age. Even when there are age gaps, they're still clearly not going for the youngest possible women they can get. The likes of Di Caprio are not the norm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 03:58 PM
0	Daily Community Chat Megathread Same. I feel uncomfortable with any overt sexual interest, unless I'm interested back. Maybe if I knew someone I hated was angrily thirsting after me it might be funny, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/21 04:07 PM
1	Number of partners I was a virgin until my mid-twenties, and I've only had one partner. I don't have a strict number cutoff, but I really can't see anyone who is a good personality match with me having any more than 10. I'd prefer 0-3 just because it's always preferable to have minimal possible baggage from previous involvements, and I don't buy the "you must have experience to get a job" way of dealing with human relationships. Even if someone is only interested in sleeping with potential life partners, it also b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/21 08:04 AM
2	Hook Up Culture For Women Is Equivalent To Prostitution Culture For Men You misread my comment. I said I'm in favor of legalization.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/21 12:50 AM
1	Hook Up Culture For Women Is Equivalent To Prostitution Culture For Men People are entitled to have whatever dealbreakers they want. As for how I personally feel about such guys, they'd probably be more likely to be compatible with me, but only if they preferred low-n counts for the same reasons I do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 11:06 PM
0	Hook Up Culture For Women Is Equivalent To Prostitution Culture For Men I'm all for legalizing prostitution for personal freedom reasons and I don't have any moral objections to anyone paying for a (fully consenting, not trafficked) sex worker. I'd still never date someone who has paid a sex worker or had a sugar baby, because that shows we have incompatible feelings and priorities about sex and relationships, not because he gave other women money. I'm not interested in promiscuous men for the same reason.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 10:55 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I disagree with the characterization of what young/old women are like but agree this is a dumb statement. No one is trying to date women their age and upon failure, sadly resigning themselves to dating people ten years their junior instead. It's far more difficult for a man to get a woman significantly younger than him, who is earnestly interested in him (not status/money) unless he's exceptional in some way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 08:00 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Harem army, please. Any man of mine would be fully on board with world domination.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 07:53 PM
1	41% of women would go on a date with someone who voted for the opposing candidate, compared to 67% of men. Why do you think this is? How will this affect relationships when a majority of men are republicans and a majority of women are democrats? Less men care about anything other than appearance which is accounted for in their higher drive to get laid, and accounts for the differences in these surveys. The values and beliefs of their hookups or people they're only short-term tolerating for sex don't matter. They may have higher requirements for a serious relationship, but will take whatever they can get while they're waiting for her to come along, or become desperate enough to start lowering their standards and start hiding true beliefs…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 06:01 PM
2	Low libido is but a mere excuse for low attraction I also lol'd. So many dudes on this sub just don't get it. I can masturbate several times a day but still have zero interest in going out and fucking anyone. Even fully asexual, aromantic, sex-repulsed people can still enjoy the physical stimulation of masturbation and want to do it regularly. I don't know why this is so hard for so many people to understand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 12:22 AM
2	Q4WOMEN: Are there any sexual acts you used to do for exes or hook ups regularly that you won't do for your current partner? No current partner, only did vanilla basic shit with previous partner because that's what they were. I'd be willing to do a lot more than I did, but still have plenty of restrictions and things I'd be willing try once, but know I'm highly unlikely to enjoy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 12:16 AM
1	Q4W: How much is an "alternative" lifestyle choice a detriment to attraction. The food thing may be an issue for me but as long as you're not fussy about the content of the food, I wouldn't care if you ate less frequently. I don't really have set meals either. The rest of it I would be pretty compatible with me. None of this is so outlandish you couldn't find a similar woman. A lot also depends on if and how much you expect your partner to go along with it. I think the biggest barrier you will face is your unwillingness to get married. It's not something I personally care…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/21 07:45 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't think it's that much of a detriment in general. Personalities like this tend to play well with normies as long as they're not completely tone-deaf and know how to dial it down situationally. They're definitely not for me, though. Someone who is genuinely upbeat most of the time is pretty much the opposite of me so I doubt we'd ever understand each other, and I'm annoyed by people who can't seem to take anything seriously. Not that I don't like someone who is genuinely funny, but people w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/21 06:29 PM
8	What are some things that are hard to find in guys these days? Guys who actually have standards and requirements of their own, and actually stick to these regardless of the available pool of women, or how long they've gone without sex. It's a green flag if a guy seems willing to explicitly exclude people on an OLD profile, for instance, and isn't playing the same mindless numbers game out of either desperation or not wanting to put off short-term casual sex options by stating relationship standards. Low n-counts by choice are rare in men. If they can, and i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/21 04:06 AM
2	Q4W: Are you (or have you ever been) afraid of having a guy settle for you? Not really. In terms of being kept around just for sex, I apparently signal hard enough I'm not interested in casual that even on OLD men don't even try. If they do try, they're universally terrible at hiding their true intentions. Men prone to settling in the medium-term until someone better comes along are going to pick an easier target than me. Unless I get really unlucky and meet some kind of highly manipulative sociopath who is also bizarrely patient and dedicated enough to pretend to meet …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/21 09:50 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yes. She also looks "average" but the average is fat, now. Just because it's been normalized to look this way doesn't mean it's not fat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/21 05:09 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 09:00 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Indefinitely. I like sex, but don't need it. I would only be concerned if frequency of sex drastically changed from the norm in our relationship, because it might indicate other issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/21 04:08 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Didn't have one. Effort wasn't required to avoid one since I just was never interested in the kind of situations where casual sex was likely to occur. I never partied, or had any interest in drinking/drugs, and am generally an unsociable homebody. There was plenty of cultural expectation to participate in these things in college, and a lot of assertions that I'd somehow regret not doing things I had no interest in doing and "have fun while [I'm] young" and so on, but I just ignored it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/21 09:12 PM
19	Men and Women of PPD: Who Would You Rather Date? Man 1 seems wildly incompatible with me. All the things about him I suspect are supposed to be positives are dealbreakers. Too social, too extroverted, too sexually experienced. So, gun to my head, man 2, but still would not date this person because "He will likely let you walk all over him if given the chance, because he sees you as the best he is going to get" and my one big physical dealbreaker is fat, and every single guy I've ever seen self-describe as having a "dad bod" has been fat with h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/21 06:20 PM
3	Do extremely loyal men exist or are they only acting? I am the same way. I have no interest in other people when I'm in a relationship and I don't experience direct sexual attraction at all. The part of my brain that sees other people as sexual or romantic prospects just shuts off. If I don't fall in love, I'm fine with being celibate forever. Unlike you, I had no prohibition against porn or fictional characters, but personally naturally lost interest in that, too with no conscious choice involved. I wouldn't really characterize it as loyalty or co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/21 05:31 PM
13	What do you think are the worst and best dating platitudes? "The right person will come along when you stop looking" or some variation on that. People targeting this kind of platitude on dating subs at the inexperienced, people who don't have lives or personalities where they're going to be organically meeting new people very much, or are looking for something specific that rules out a lot of people (childfree, for instance) is especially absurd. Kind of related, but blanket statements that apps are bad and you should delete them all and never look back.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/21 04:11 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread I did this. Distance wasn't the problem in the end. I'd do it again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/21 05:02 PM
2	Would you have sex with the every single guy you right swiped on Tinder? No. I swipe left on anyone with no profile, low-effort/non-serious profile, or have some obvious incompatibility with me, regardless of how pretty they are. Those criteria rule out most people on dating apps. I have swiped right on men who were just ok looking because their profile was articulate/interesting and their personality seemed compatible. If someone is hideously ugly or has some feature I find insurmountably off-putting, I'll swipe left though (e.g. fat) but again most people don't bot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/21 04:55 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Wouldn't give one and wouldn't take one, though nobody who knew me well or was compatible with me would ever offer one in the first place. I'm legitimately only interested in one person at a time and naturally wired towards monogamy, and want to be with someone who is the same way. It's really not a choice for me, and I have no desire for sex outside of feelings for someone, regardless of how aesthetically attractive they are. Despite inexperience I also have no FOMO or curiosity about trying th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/21 10:57 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't really have an upper limit. Realistically probably not over 60, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 06:15 PM
1	Q4W of PPD: What is your personal happiness level, and why is general female happiness low? 3-5 most of the time. The happiness I do find is in creative pursuits and hobbies, but basically I find life to be a net negative thus far. I have plenty of isolated moments of enjoyment, laughs and dopamine hits, but C0p3s aren't true long-term, stable contentment with living, which is what eludes me. I'm not anhedonic and can still distract myself with the things I like most of the time, but the key word is distract, not make myself truly happy. I won't bother going into more details, but I wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/21 09:19 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I wouldn't date a social conservative or a modern leftist, but this still would put me off regardless of whether it's a stealth conservative or not, since politics has so much overlap with values and beliefs, he either hasn't given it much thought, or thinks those things don't matter for compatibility, or he's just looking to get laid and deflecting away from any topic that might get in the way of that. It is generally socially conservative guys who do the last one, though. I hate this dumb libe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/21 04:32 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Cheating alone is enough to end it immediately. If he found out about a kid he made before being with me I'd only be okay with it if a) if the child was produced from the result of the mother's lying/sabotage/rape (I only date childfree men who aren't idiots about birth control) and b) he had zero desire to have anything to do with the child, and gave up parental rights so there was no chance it would ever end up with us. If he reacted with anything other than being horrified, or I suspected tem…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/21 06:31 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Lol so none of these are very close to me on the compass but the closest is futa. Nah. I never know whether to count fetishes as ones I can enjoy in a smut fic vs. anything I actually want to do IRL because those are two very different things. In that case I'm all over the map. All the people who write/draw the stuff I like seem to be exclusively far left socialist types regardless of their content, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/21 09:31 AM
0	Why do women keep tabs on their exes after breaking up? I snoop on many people from the past I dislike out of morbid curiosity/schadenfreude, including my one ex. I have no interest in communicating with him, and if he tried, I'd ignore it. I'm not the kind of person who is able to look back on the good times once something turns sour with someone. But I find it generally fun to internet stalk people, and sometimes I get randomly curious about what some person from ten years ago is doing, it doesn't mean anything. Idk why you think this is a woman-on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/21 12:53 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't care about species when deciding who is important to me. I like pets better than most people, including most of my family, so pets aren't valued any less than the family I do like. I don't literally refer to them as my children or anything but I view the responsibility in the same light.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/21 01:35 AM
6	When women on this sub say they are happy being single what exactly does that mean? I'm not a happy person in general, but I'm far happier being single than with most options I ever encounter, and I'm 100% sure I'd prefer a life alone than spending the next 40-60 years "making things work" with someone unsuitable. It's not even a case of encountering a bunch of people that are 90% perfect and rejecting them because of nitpicks or something, most of them don't even pass the bare minimum, are unlikable in some way, or I feel nothing but indifference, so I'm not even tempted to tr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/21 02:52 PM
1	What are your standards for dating someone in a serious relationship ? Same general outlook on life, politics, philosophical beliefs and values. Don't have to agree with every minute point, but nothing that would cause serious disagreement. Personality and temperament match. Introverted, asocial, not impulsive, similar sense of humor, not a prude or a constantly offended person etc. Atheist, with no other spiritual/magic beliefs. Self-aware, never confused about feelings, communicates with me openly. Is loving and shows affection regularly. One or two similar inter…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/21 12:30 AM
1	QFW: Does penis size is taken into account for judging a man to be HVM or not? Considering I don't even care if he has a penis, it's not a factor for me. The only time I could see myself having a problem would be one that's so big it's painful, but even then I wouldn't leave someone over it if they were willing to forgo PIV.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 11:01 PM
1	Unpopular opinion: You don't need to marry to have a life-time relationship 😀 Since the legal protections are all obtainable without marriage and I don't want kids, I'm indifferent to marriage. The social and validation aspects don't really mean anything to me. However, if a guy's reasons aren't the same as mine and essentially boil down to "I will never fully trust a partner" or "commitment bad" then I don't want to date that guy either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 01:15 AM
1	How important is it for your spouse to be a virgin? Virgins or guys who have only been with people they intended to have long-term relationships with are of equal standing, as long as it's mostly by choice. Anyone who has had casual sex, or wants to do that, is not going to be right for me. I've only had one previous partner, but I'd prefer someone who had been with five actual girlfriends than a guy who'd had one drunken hookup. It doesn't have to necessarily be conscious choice to "save himself" or whatever, could be that he wasn't that motivat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/21 01:08 AM
3	Q4All, Do you prefer honesty over kindness (ie. comforting lies) or the other way around? Honesty. It especially pisses me off when truth is omitted from me because they're too cowardly to say it or start a potential confrontation, than self-serving bs about sparing my feelings. People skipping around the point trying to be diplomatic all the time drives me nuts in general, but I realize this isn't what most people are like, so I go along with it generally unless I know there aren't any negative consequences for not doing so. With people I don't give a shit about, my goal is for the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/21 12:19 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Leclerc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/21 11:55 AM
2	Are relationships important for personal growth? You don't need to specifically have been in a romantic relationship to know things about yourself, or traits you like or dislike in others, or to have specific experiences to grow as a person. Some people seem to learn better about themselves and others through experiencing things directly, but not everyone is like that, and portraying it as some kind of necessary rite of passage to have shitty relationships in order to have a successful one is a bit absurd given the minority of people who stay …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/21 03:34 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yes. If I don't believe kindness is warranted, the person is being too soft on the specific situation or person, or the kind person is being particularly naïve. Kindness can absolutely cost you something. Of course, it's always extra annoying if it's performative or fake and seems more of an arbitrary "this is how a 'good' person should behave" rule they've decided to follow, rather than a natural tendency.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/21 08:48 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't believe there's an age limit that's automatically bad. Once you get past 60 or so, I'd doubt if it was a genuine relationship, but still not necessarily "creepy", and if it was just about sex/transactional etc. I personally wouldn't have an issue with it as long as there's no coercion or deception going on. Creepy is a situation, not an arbitrary number of years between two adults.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/21 07:34 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread You forgot FlUenT in SarCaSm. The male profiles are the same way. 99% of people on OLD write the same vapid shit over and over again, or don't bother to write anything at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/21 06:16 PM
11	What birth control method do you use? Lost virginity later, and only been in one relationship, so my birth control most of my life has been celibacy. I tried birth control pills to manage bad periods when I was younger, and just got horrible bloating/pregnancy symptoms and migraines that were worse than the period pain. When I got into a relationship many years later, I got a non-hormonal IUD, which was a horrible experience and my uterus ejected it after a few days. Tried different pills, more side-effects, my skin and my mood were…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/21 09:39 AM
1	Does seeing a guy receiving interest from other women change your perception of him? I operate on kind of a reverse social proof, in that the isolated weirdo guy is probably more my type and if they seem too sociable or extroverted, it puts me off. Some aspects of "bad" social skills or being "creepy" according to n0rmies would probably be more attractive to me, but it's not even a confidence/shyness thing, but a legitimate lack of interest in interacting with these people thing. If he's the kind of guy to be bothered about making protracted small talk with people, or wanting to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/21 02:43 AM
1	Q4W: Is mental illness in a partner an immediate dealbreaker for you? I'm far more leery of toxic positivity than the opposite, and I'd probably have a hard time relating to anyone completely neurotypical, has always felt at home in the world, and has always mostly been content with life. If he can't appreciate a Schopenhauer meme what's the point? Even when it comes to your example, I find the idea that it can be a separate, managed entity, and not something to ever bother me with, kinda unrealistic for most depressed or anxious people I've ever met. It's not eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/21 01:34 AM
4	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't care about waiting for sex, but I also wouldn't be compatible with someone who thought marriage was necessary or meaningful, so no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/21 11:45 PM
1	Qs4W: Do you hold negative perceptions of men with high n-counts? (1 + 4 kinda answered first, sorry, I just started rambling) Past mistake aside, the tl;dr of this comment is that I don't believe I'd have long-term compatibility with anyone other than someone very similar to me, personality-wise, and I can't fathom how anyone truly similar to me would end up with a high N count. I accepted 7 in the past, even though that number seemed huge to me, only because he was willing to disclose everything in detail from the beginning. A lot of behaviors the took place…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/21 08:01 PM
1	Would it turn you on if the dude acted kinda indifferent to sex? I wouldn't say "turn-on" but it would make me more interested in him, but only if he were legitimately not that thirsty and didn't see sex as a priority, or was just asexual. If he was just a regular guy with high self-control, or if this was part of some kind of hard-to-get game, it would be a turn-off. I don't not sleep around more because of my self-control, I'm just not interested in it until I have an emotional connection with someone, and even then it's not a priority or need. I would pref…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/21 04:16 PM