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10	What are your easiest "hacks" for appearing feminine on the daily? For me, I really put effort into styling my hair. Which means overnight curls, because it doesn’t take even five minutes at night and I get beautiful hair in the morning using the same amount of time it takes to brush it. Light makeup routine consists of concealer, bronzer, blush, mascara. Five minutes. Then in general I’ve styled my wardrobe to be feminine. Lighter colors, lots of pastels as that’s my favorite, nice loungewear so I look out together even when exhausted. Daily walks for the inne…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/22 06:58 AM
11	How do I (25F) bring value to my bf's (33M) life when he is already doing so well on his own? This! It’s not about if he is capable of doing these things for himself, but rather that you the ability to take them off his plate. And I’d also like to point out that you are not married and he therefore shouldn’t receive husband benefits. You shouldn’t cook and clean for him as a habit, that would reflect incredibly poorly on him if he let you do that. The value we as women provide is honestly a lot more than the material things, but since that is what we value in our partner we often get con…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/11/22 06:13 PM
18	How do you STFU without building any resentment? Seriously, how. Are you taking care of yourself? Having a 10 month old and being pregnant and expecting yourself to be graceful and composed 24/7 is not reasonable, especially if you are feeling burnt out and not getting your cup filled on a daily basis. He will have to be patient that his social butterfly, charming wife will return when she is not overburdened with a screaming baby on her hip all day every day. One day he will be able to sleep without hearing baby cries, but as of now he is the father to a bab…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/22 05:48 AM
24	The idea of being a man’s “Type”… I don’t believe in “types” for a second. The deep attraction that leads to a healthy long term relationship is based on more than looks, but chemistry and intellect. Your description of how he might tire and go back to his type seems to me like the opposite of what might happen: if he is with a woman solely based on her being a tall brunette with a big butt, there will be nothing to talk about when her hair is gray and she is inches shorter from gravity taking it’s toll. A HVM will look beyond l…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/10/22 11:12 AM
7	Pregnancy Resources I’m not entirely sure what kind of information you’re finding that you find biased, as there are a lot of different resources. But honestly, your intuition is going to be your most important source. Weston A Price has good pregnancy diet recommendations, ancestral eating and all that jazz.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/22 04:18 PM
4	What's Something You Respect About Your Man? Thank you so much! It really is a labor of love, being in a relationship. I’m actually pregnant right now, and it’s been incredible to watch him step even more into the provider/protector role. I asked him today what he would like to do this fall, and accompanied with all the reno and baby stuff he said himself that he would like to learn to be better at waking up in the morning. Until that happens, if it ever does, I’m going to kiss him awake and help him not be late to work every morning with …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/22 03:39 PM
22	What's Something You Respect About Your Man? His work ethic. It drives me bonkers sometimes because my innate tendency is not to be as hard of a worker (very inspiring to watch him in action!), but once he gets going he can work sleep 4 hours a night working both his day job and with him business. Then he crashes, sleeps for 12 hours and I get to nurse him back to health with homemade cookies. All of this used to bother me, make me doubt the kind of man he is who couldn’t prioritize his own health and just go the frick to bed at a decent h…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/22 06:14 AM
7	controversial thoughts on the female orgasm Some women can have orgasmic births, so it could definitely be a blessing to you even in that regard!	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/22 06:16 AM
23	How do you navigate pre-relationship physical intimacy? It’s wonderful that you are wanting to keep your first kiss special and precious. If that’s something that’s important to you, I think it’s a good thing to keep your standards. But I don’t think it’s something that needs to be verbally communicated, as it can come off, as you say, prudish. You can use your body language to communicate that you has a wonderful time, that you are looking forward to a next date and still avoid kissing if it doesn’t feel right in the moment. If he does go in for a k…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/22 09:24 AM
6	Lost Start in one end and don’t make yourself overwhelmed! Femininity comes from within, a gentle and nurturing spirit and a soft demeanor will make the most rugged-looking woman appear a lot more feminine. I’d suggest starting with grooming: establish an easy-to-do-AND-remember skin care routine, a simple 5-minute makeup you can do consistently every day, and learning to do some overnight curls. I love curling my hair but don’t have 30 minutes to spend every morning, so I let my curiosity guide me a…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/22 07:15 AM
14	I tried ironing for the first time Ironing is the best! I always forget about it and then once I’m going on a trip or something, I always iron both my and my partner’s clothes and kick myself for just not doing it all the time. Even the simplest tunic looks 100x better ironed. Kind of like vacuuming: you could skip it and just tidy your house, but you get a whole other clean feeling if you do it!	/r/RedPillWomen	21/06/22 06:08 AM
14	[deleted by user] Stop taking the reins. Why would he ever want to lead when he can comfortably sit back and watch you do it? It’s never your job to train him to be masculine, your job is to be feminine! It might take a while for him to get what’s going on, but once you are in your feminine energy and just not picking up his slack anymore he will most likely be taking the lead. Laura Doyle plus Fascinating Womanhood will show you ways of doing this, both in book form and podcasts. Definitely recommend!	/r/RedPillWomen	22/02/22 08:44 PM
44	Guy I'm speaking to has tastes that are not my style. I feel insecure You are making way too big of a deal over this. You should’ve just told him “That’s a really pretty dress, but a bit too revealing for me!”. You are getting to know each other and both deserve honesty. If you’re dating towards marriage there’s no reason to be scared of talking about your future husband and that you would only be comfortable wearing something like that in the privacy of your home. It doesn’t mean that he is that future husband, but if he could be then wouldn’t you want him to kno…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/22 05:44 AM
14	Dealing with snappy SO while we are both sick? As for your birth control, if you use protection for seven days after the day you missed it it’s fine. As for being his nurse and getting no respect, I second the previous commenter.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/22 12:38 PM
8	To those who struggle with mental health, what does your husband do to help you through it? First of all, I’m sorry you are going through a tough time. Depression really is awful and I’m glad you are seeking professional help. As for what your husband can do, it’s important to remember that all the work it takes to get better has to come from inside you. Maybe he could help by lightening your load a bit, being extra understanding, holding you tight if you need a good cry. He could encourage you to get outside the house by coming with you on a walk or doing a workout together, but he al…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/21 06:17 AM
1	Wearing hair down Oh and I lose so much hair each day. It’s normal, we lose around 100 strands everyday normally but when going through postpartum it’s significantly more since pregnancy stops hair loss and your hair needs to shed all the old strands.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/21 01:55 PM
4	Wearing hair down I like to do overnight curls using strips of fabric, it takes five minutes and gives me very nice lasting curls for my waist long hair. During the day I wear my hair down, but use a large clip to get it out of the way when cleaning requires and of course when cooking. One thing that helps this is that I curl it all in the same direction, so I can twist it all together in a bun and the curls will keep. But I like the princess-y doll look that kind of curl gives me, it’s not for everyone however!	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/21 01:54 PM
7	Subtle signs a man isn't HVM Simply liking anime just seems like a silly thing to judge a man on. A man can have silly interests and still be a good provider, a loyal husband and father, sexy and attractive lover, fearless leader of his flock. Taking in a interest and blowing it up to the point that it makes him low value is in my opinion ridiculous. If he is obsessed and watches a ton of it, that’s a different problem. Agreed with the gaming though.	/r/RedPillWives	14/12/21 05:44 PM
3	Seeking advice on how to handle arguments with boyfriend. Ignoring the fact that he is being disrespectful to you by commenting on other women’s bodies in front of you, the problem was that you came back without having fixed your attitude. It’s great that you left the room and realized that you aren’t capable of having the reaction you would like right now. But why did you return before straightening yourself out? Take enough time, so that you are calm and not reactive. Do some self care, think on it and reflect on what matters to you in the long run. …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/12/21 02:38 PM
1	I want to get into some new feminine hobbies, any tips or advice? Knitting could be a really nice complement to your partners interest. A nice homemade scarf, hat and mittens for a winter hike will warm more than just his cold body!	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/21 04:51 PM
36	Insecure with my body Confidence is sexy, in women as in men. If he sees you being ashamed of your body it won’t make him more attracted to you. You are his wife and he loves you, the shape of your breasts is beyond your control unless you are prepared to surgically enhance them, so just let it go. Enjoy your body and it’s ability to feel and give pleasure. That’s all this man is looking for! Stay in shape and worry about the things that are in your control.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/21 03:49 PM
1	How soon to be intimate after 1st date I understand that it’s difficult to know when sex should enter the picture, but nobody will be able to tell you that since it’s deeply personal. Remember that you can always wait longer but once that door has opened it cannot be closed. If you don’t feel ready, you’re not ready. If this means you need a wedding ring on your finger that’s perfectly fine and you shouldn’t compromise. For me, that’s not necessary so it wasn’t a requisite for commitment in my relationship. Truth be told, I wish I wo…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/11/21 05:11 PM
11	How soon to be intimate after 1st date You’re overthinking. Stop considering what the man wants and would be comfortable with and stick to your principles. You get to define what a commitment is, if it’s boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged or married. There’s no hard and fast rules on what a committed couple looks like, you need to communicate with your man about it.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/11/21 09:23 AM
31	Masculine traits to cultivate Being able to get stuff done in a timely manner. Having self discipline. Knowing your goals and having vision. You can do all masculine things with a feminine energy, which is the whole goal for me. Keeping soft and kind, warm and bubbly and nurturing even while getting down to business.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/21 09:07 AM
2	Prom dress pressure The peer pressure that comes in high school is crazy, but ten years down the road you’re not going to care about the opinions of those girls. Wear what you like, you are here to make yourself proud; not them. A modest and classic dress is going to look great when you show your grandchildren the pictures and you will be proud of yourself that you kept true to who YOU are!	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/21 05:52 AM
2	still not fully over my first love How long ago was this? You already seem to know all his faults, so maybe make some sort of affirmation where you list them like a mantra whenever you think of him. “This man is not compatible with me. He is a low value man and I am searching for a high value man while also working on my own value. I effortlessly let go of this man and move on with my life.”	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/21 12:30 PM
34	Did I do a right thing? Only you know if it’s the right thing since you are the one living your life. I would’ve done the same thing. You are who you surround yourself with, and if you are spending time with someone who has questionable morals it will either seep into your own moral standards or you will be frustrated by not being on the same page.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/09/21 07:47 AM
17	Can you really not turn a (ex) hoe into a housewife? I honestly believe that a hoe can turn herself into a housewife, but if a man tries to it’s never going to happen. Change comes from within and if you are dedicated to turning your life around you absolutely can. Some doors will be closed to you because of previous choices, yes, but maybe those doors just weren’t right for you anyway to begin with. You cannot change the past and you are an idiot if you never try to change your future.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/21 03:00 PM
2	How do I submit to my man even if it hurts? Terrible advice. Love is a feeling and a relationship has to be based on more than feelings if it’s to last in the long run.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/21 04:44 PM
7	Sex and marriage discussion This is a hard one for me to answer, since I truly believe that it is important to have regular sex and make “sacrifices” in a marriage. However, I have som pretty huge blocks when it comes to sex and intimacy which can make me zone out pretty severely during sex. So right now I’m trying to find some middle ground between being listening to my body and only being intimate when it actually feel good (or at least not bad) and when to just suck it up and do it because I love my man and he needs thi…	/r/RedPillWives	18/03/21 05:47 PM
5	Wives who were first-timers, how did you create excitement in the bedroom? As a woman, your greatest gift is that of receiving. Men are naturally wanting to give, while you are your most feminine self when receptive. Of course sex is give and take for both partners, but I find that my man loves it the most when I am receptive to him and just enjoy everything he’s giving me. Enjoying it all unashamedly, not being afraid of my own sensuality and body but truly giving in to it all. Just think of how our bodies are made, a woman is meant to do more receiving than giving.	/r/RedPillWives	15/03/21 10:08 AM
1	Advice: get the HPV vaccine Thank you, I didn’t know this! I’ve been in a committed relationship for six years and going strong, so it seems pointless to get it now but if I ever plan to have sex with someone other than my current partner I’ll for sure consider it!	/r/RedPillWomen	10/03/21 03:12 PM
8	Advice: get the HPV vaccine Such a good thing to bring up. I got it when I was 12 I believe, it was when the vaccine was quite new and you still had to pay for it here in Sweden. Now I believe it’s part of the vaccine program for children, or at least for the girls. I’m so happy I got it when I was young!	/r/RedPillWomen	09/03/21 08:30 AM
1	I’m feeling really upset about birth control and I don’t know how to deal with it. Definitely get into the fertility awareness method (FAM), it’s a natural form of birth control and it will give you more knowledge about your body which is great when it comes time to have children and also understanding the side effects that hormonal BC can wreak after getting off it. Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, it will give you a wealth of knowledge.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/02/21 11:08 AM
1	Annoyed about husband's toilet time Are you okay with doing home repairs? Because I would get a new door handle without a lock so he can’t lock himself inside and then just let the kids in with toys and leave myself to do some self care. Obviously talking about the issue is the first solution but it appears that he doesn’t care enough to listen. Desperate times...	/r/RedPillWives	20/02/21 08:39 AM
2	Wear makeup at home? I have lash extensions which do a great deal, plus I like to dye my eyebrows at home and take care of my skin. This makes me only have to put on some blush to look fresh and new. My skin has been acting up since quitting birth control about a year ago, but I’ve got a spot treatment that also kind of acts like a color neutralizer. So putting on that and some blush is enough for me most days, otherwise I’ll use a mineral foundation or concealer if I feel awful. Mostly I try to stay away from full …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/02/21 01:10 PM
6	How to gain sensitivity & Feel More It’s a little new agent, but using a regular breathwork practice has been doing wonders for me when it comes to bringing emotions to the surface. There are some tutorials on YouTube, try a few different ones and see if there’s any in particular that you like best. I’ve made up my own technique over time and use some mediation music while lying down burrito-wrapped in a blanket. It’s can truly be a wonderful experience, full body awareness and emotional surfacing. Just the other day I was absolut…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/01/21 03:49 PM
53	Is it okay to leave a man because you feel no passion for him? If the passion is not there now, it won’t be there later. Let him go before you dope your brain up with oxytocin and won’t be able to make a rational decision.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/20 07:28 AM
4	Being feminine? Spend more time in nature, barefoot and being creative. Being feminine shouldn’t be an act, the energy is inside you all along and only needs to be activated. Dancing is great, just letting your body move without restriction. Especially when your mind restricts you, by thinking you look stupid or silly, feeling dumb or like you can’t dance. Just move, flow, inspired by the waves of the ocean. It sounds really hippie but it’s a great way to get the feminine energies flowing. Second, ponder why yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/20 11:17 AM
18	How to rekindle the sexual energy Have you read Come as you are? It explains how female sexuality works and scientifically explains what you can do to improve your sex life. Cannot recommend enough!	/r/RedPillWives	29/06/20 07:27 AM
3	Is it too soon to make food for him? If you like cooking I don’t see the problem. I’d check with him first to see if there’s any allergies or dislikes/preferences, then make a simple no-fuss meal. Don’t make too big of a deal of this, if you were meeting a friend you’d probably do the same so why not do it to impress a man? Also, nice to see someone else from Sweden in this sub!	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/20 07:25 AM
2	I don’t feel worthy By acting that way, you will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you trust him with other matters, you need to trust that he can choose a woman for himself. I’ve been like this before, but he is a grown ass man and knows what he’s doing. If you feel like he is above your level, enjoy it! Spend your life becoming a better woman every day from being inspired by him, but don’t belittle him by questioning his choices.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/20 08:40 PM
6	Depression about men , How to stop it? Only medication usually won’t cure depression. You need to see a therapist and work through your emotions. It’s very hard to do on your own. If you’re already in therapy, talk to your therapist about these thoughts.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/20 08:15 PM
80	Feeling lost. Tired of holding my tongue If you don’t respect his leadership now, you never will. Jump ship.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/20 07:35 PM
22	How to increase my SMV? Have many faults.. Putting in effort is not unnatural. Most “natural beauties” spend loads of time maintaining and primping. Start working out to gain toned muscle, find your Kibbe body type and dress for it. There are so many YouTube videos and online articles about how to dress and look more feminine, Mrs Midwest has good information for beginners. Oh and everyone has hair on their nipples. Hair removal is very personal on what kind you prefer, if you have lots of body and facial hair you might consider waxing o…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/20 11:53 AM
2	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. Perhaps you missed my first comment where I stated quite clearly that if talking doesn’t work she should stay at relatives or a hotel. My point about him being human seems to have alluded you. Precisely because we are fallible humans, our reactions are not always logical and thought through. Yeah obviously it’s not okay to endanger your family and I’ve made that clear. But you also need to see the person behind the bad call and talk to them on a level where they are able to hear you. Maybe I’m n…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 07:36 PM
2	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. Agreed, it is an awful place to be in disagreement with your spouse. The way I interpreted her text was that she brought it up once. Since this is a large issue when she is legitimately afraid it needs to be brought up again and discussed until he understand his wife’s concerns enough to act. It seems like they have some miscommunication and my point is that this needs to be addressed before jumping to life altering conclusions.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 05:16 PM
6	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. This is not a question of self respect and it makes me a bit sad that you view it as such. Having self respect means keeping your back straight through difficult situations, not getting bulldozed while staying true to your values. In this situation, it means talking to your husband and letting him know your standpoint. If he is a good leader he will take this new information and make a good decision for the family. If I told my husband that I would leave him if he didn’t quarantine us, there wou…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 05:03 PM
4	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. Thank you very much!	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 04:50 PM
20	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. Since he is a human susceptible to cognitive fallacies like all other humans, it’s possible that he hasn’t considered how dangerous this virus is. Apparently OP is living in a city where the majority of people do not take it seriously, so he is acting like everyone around him. We are literal strangers to this man and this relationship and have no idea of their dynamics and what has made him act this negligent. First step is a serious conversation, not just bringing it up lightheartedly but expla…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 04:37 PM
3	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. If you are married to a man and have children with him, we as outsiders should assume that the man has been vetted and not found wanting. He deserves respect, even when he makes bad choices which we can all agree that this is. Every man, and woman for that matter, has flaws and shouldn’t be scolded because of a bad judgement. Her husband may not realize the urgency of this matter which is why it should be brought up in a respectful manner. Saying that OP should leave her husband for this is abso…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 04:24 PM
129	My husband is putting me and children at great risk. This is unacceptable behavior and poor leadership from his side. He should be listening to your fears and not make light of it. You need to thoroughly explain why this is of such concern for you and respectfully let him know that you will not put yourself and your children at risk. Either go stay at some relatives house or get a hotel room, to make a statement that this isn’t okay. You should of course not be disrespectful but putting your family in danger is out of the question.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/20 11:42 AM
7	How can I learn to accept that SMV means everything to men? When it comes to attracting a mate, looks are extremely important. There’s no denying this and it’s wonderful that you’re working in bettering your appearance! When it comes to settling down and choosing a partner however, personality and values is so much more important. There’s nothing you can do to change the past, only your current circumstances and the future. You are obviously doing the important work if you’re already seeing results when it comes to male attention. Make sure that your don…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/20 01:24 PM
7	How to show attraction/flirt in a ladylike way I totally get that, but it seems to me that you are too much in your head. Get down into your body and your heart, stop overthinking. If he likes you, he will try to initiate. Just be open and receptive to him, without pushing. Think of it is a waltz: when he steps forward, you step back while still keeping connected. He is leading the dance and you follow. If you act in this dancing way, you’re going to end up where you want to be. Don’t think about it too much, let him lead you and keep your p…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/20 03:41 PM
23	How to show attraction/flirt in a ladylike way Let him lead and chase you. If/when he starts making advances, you can respond in a slightly mysterious way without giving too many details. Try to just enjoy the adventure of getting to know him, intimacy will come along sooner or later so don’t stress it to happen.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/20 12:22 PM
–	What's for dinner? Today is National Waffle Day in Sweden so we’re having waffles for dinner. Through the rest of the week we’ll be having vegan lasagna, sweet potatoes with a bean chili topping and cauliflower curry with a mango salsa and naan. I made sourdough bread today so we might have a lot of bread too...	/r/RedPillWomen	25/03/20 03:51 PM
37	How are you keeping a routine during this time? I’ve trained my brain to associate wearing an apron with working in the house. So as soon as I put it on, housework begins and it’s easier to ignore the big, handsome distraction in the middle of the room lol. Maybe you could even tell your man that when you are wearing your apron it’s go-time and ask that he try to refrain from interrupting you when he sees you wear it.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/03/20 08:19 AM
6	How long did you wait to sleep with your SO? He really is! He’s pretty much been in love with me since 8th grade, when I dated his (still) best friend. Then some years later I made him really angry for a bunch of reasons, then he started seeing me with different eyes. Like I was actually a fallible human woman, not an angel dream girl he idolized since he was 13 and put on a pedestal. Once that happened, he was no longer looking at me like a puppy at his master. Two years later he wasn’t mad anymore and we randomly ran into each other, at …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/20 10:46 AM
15	How long did you wait to sleep with your SO? We knew each other for 10 years before coming together, so once we started dating it got real serious real fast. So maybe a week from our first kiss, we went on holiday together and it happened at the hotel. But this once is rarely the way it happens. We went from zero to let’s-look-at-rings in less than a week lol. The thing I think is important to remember that you do not under any circumstances want to sleep with a man who has made no commitment to you. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men a…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/20 09:59 AM
19	Feminine Hobbies? Sourdough bread baking is a great hobby, it makes me feel very connected to traditional living and my feminine nurturing side. Plus it’s a great way to save money for your family later on. I also dabble with pairing watercolors, just for fun and it does not look nice at all. But it’s fun and creative! If you have the space I would absolutely recommend gardening, either indoors with seedlings and maybe a plant light to grow lettuce, herbs etc. But I mainly take care of my decorative plants and te…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/20 04:31 PM
3	After some very bad relationships, I've become so bitter and crass. Please help me become polite and refined again ♡ Therapy. You don’t need to accept something to forgive it.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/20 06:37 PM
-1	Assuming similiarity of personality would you rather go for a middle class handsome man or a rich, average looking man Money doesn’t make the man. I would much rather be with an average looking, hard working man that I click with and actively wants to provide for me, who makes $50k a year than a handsome millionaire who has no character and can’t make me laugh or feel cherished. Of course being provided for is very important to me, but it’s not only a monetary thing. I need to feel secure in a relationship, with a generous man who treats me right with both his money and manners. A strong personality is going to …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/02/20 03:44 PM
2	I got married and coworkers cant let it go Either go over her head and talk to her boss, look for a new job or even better tell these women that they are being incredibly rude and that your love life is none of their beeswax. If you have a calm and collected attitude but stand firm when you tell them off, most people will be too shocked and stumped to argue.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/02/20 12:33 PM
3	I got married and coworkers cant let it go Honestly this seems like adult bullying. Personally I would bring it up with the supervisor, it’s absolutely not okay for a colleague, never mind several, to call you crazy.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/02/20 11:58 AM
1	As a guy, am i allowed to ask something here? Read this first.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/20 02:35 PM
2	Dealing with refusal to marry I absolutely understand, it’s a risky decision and you can never truly know what the right choice is. It depends on your age too. This is why you really need to consider how important marriage is to you. Personally, I would not stay with a man who wasn’t willing to make a commitment but only you know what is right for you. There are many good men out there who are searching for a woman with traditional values, if you’re under 25 or even 30 you’re probably not going to have a hard time finding a …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/20 04:07 PM
1	Dealing with refusal to marry I absolutely understand, it’s a risky decision and you can never truly know what the right choice is. It depends on your age too. This is why you really need to consider how important marriage is to you. Personally, I would not stay with a man who wasn’t willing to make a commitment but only you know what is right for you. There are many good men out there who are searching for a woman with traditional values, if you’re under 25 or even 30 you’re probably not going to have a hard time finding a …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/20 04:07 PM
13	Dealing with refusal to marry This is a huge difference in how you view your future together. If this is something that is important to you, you need to make a choice if you’re going to stay with him or find someone who has the same goals as you do. You cannot expect that he will ever change his mind and the risk of staying together is that you will subconsciously try to coerce him into marriage which is doomed to make both of you miserable and be a waste of everyone’s time. As hard as it is, you need to evaluate what matter…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/20 01:39 PM
34	At what age is appropriate to teach children about fitness? What about skincare? And makeup? Disclaimer, I’m not a mom so all of these are opinions and could change once I have children but this is how I view it as of now. Fitness and skincare are for me essential in my every day life, so my children will be naturally introduced to them just by being raised by me. Sunscreen runs through my veins and I will always apply it to my kids, and it has to be washed off at night so I guess they will have a skin care routine from being very very small. But once they start becoming interested in w…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/20 12:57 PM
9	Babies or back to school? It’s going to be way easier for you to do it right now. Can you really imagine wanting to leave your 6mo old baby behind while going to school? You’ll be more tired and less motivated because you want to be at home with your child. Anything you can get done before babies, I’d say do it.	/r/RedPillWives	02/02/20 08:54 AM
2	I don't know what I freaking want Obviously you are correct and I think I made the point that she should take a job if she needs it for building character, but that wasn’t what I meant by that it might make no difference. If she winds out on her own at 50 years old after being a mother of four and running an efficient household for 30 years, having had a summer job selling art or waiting tables won’t really be important when applying to an office job.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/20 07:17 PM
3	Help. I hate cleaning Mrs Midwest has some really good videos on the subject of discipline and learning to love your chores. I’d suggest watching those as she will explain better than I can here. The root is that you aren’t cleaning for yourself, you’re doing it for your husband. It’s an act of love, an act of service. You are privileged to have a home to clean, people to clean up after. It will be easier to shift your thinking to this than to learn to love cleaning. If you become more disciplined, it won’t be such a…	/r/RedPillWives	31/01/20 12:33 PM
12	I don't know what I freaking want I think it’s important to cultivate skills that could support you if you ever end up having to depend only on yourself. Having work experience is good for building character, although it is not necessary. Having a summer job could help you in the future if you ever want/need to have a career, but it also might make no difference. You will have to discern for yourself what suits you and your life. If you dream of being a homemaker and housewife, work on cultivating skills that will help you along…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/01/20 12:24 PM
6	Unattractive teen girl - need advice? Firstly, you need to calm down. You are 14 years old, no need to stress! There are women twice your age just now realizing that they need to improve in order to succeed, so you are in no way too late to the game. Stress will age you for than anything, if that’s a motivator to calm down. Second. Try to get braces if your teeth are crooked, or save and plan to get them when you’re older. Be diligent with your oral care, floss daily and maybe even whiten. Figure out your skin care needs, you absolu…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/01/20 10:38 AM
19	Is It Okay To Go Back To Someone You Rejected? My thoughts exactly. OP is 18 years old, there is no reason to settle for any of these men. If he didn’t have a clear career path in mind, that could be okay as long as he held the same values for an early marriage and family. Since he doesn’t, it seems like a poor idea to continue with him.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/20 03:43 PM
17	Laura Doyle's advice vs my therapist's Do you trust your therapist with other issues? Does she know you well? When I doubt, I try to listen to my therapist but apply it in a more gentle way that what might’ve been suggested. You’re right, he can’t read your mind and sometimes you need to tell him exactly what is wrong and how you’re feeling. My personal experience is that instead of saying “this is how you can do better”, you ask “what could we do to make this better?”. This gives him an opportunity to step up and figure it out, make…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/01/20 07:53 AM
8	I’m(19f) so scared that I’ve been too promiscuous First, the hymen isn’t a fresh seal. You can damage it from horseback riding, gymnastics or just being a wild dancer really. Just like everything else in your body, it will heal if it’s broken. If it bleeds during your first time, that’s not a sign that you’re a virgin. It means you’re not properly warmed up. It stretches as you have more sex, but it’s very individual how big or small it is in the first place. So please, do not think about that anymore and educate yourself on your anatomy. I rec…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/20 11:24 AM
1	Biting your tongue - a lifesaver Absolutely! One of the most important things I’ve learned, both for my mental health and anxiety but also for pretty much all relationships in my life, is that I don’t have to talk all the time. Empty space in a conversation is a blessing. When I’m in a group with only men... honestly? They don’t really care if I sit back and let them talk about stuff that I don’t give a fart about! Taking a deep breath and “sinking down in my belly”, rooting in my femininity, is so much better than chiming in w…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/01/20 06:09 AM
15	Biting your tongue - a lifesaver All these small moments are what in the end will cause a happy relationship. It might not seem like a lot, but if you snap ten times instead of STFU ten times it quickly adds up. Something I’m working very hard on, and starting to see results!	/r/RedPillWomen	19/01/20 01:52 PM
5	New here and I would really like some advice I’m so glad for your sake that you’ve come to your senses lol! There is a wast amount of information out there, start with reading on the sidebar where there are plenty of posts about how to be a good partner. Haven’t read it myself, but The Surrendered Wife is apparently a really good book! Maybe if you search the subreddit you’ll find even more book recommendations. Good luck!	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/20 09:46 AM
2	For those who weren’t a virgin before meeting your husband, do you feel a need to make up for it? No, absolutely not. None of us were virgins, and we came together and accepted each other’s past. Unfortunately, I was wild in my younger days. Mostly due to my BPD that at the time wasn’t really treated properly, which isn’t an excuse but it explains a lot of my previous dangerous behavior. He loves and accepts me, and I wouldn’t have chosen a partner who would judge me for the rest of my days. It’s obviously not ideal, but he sees me for who I have become and am today. Not for who he wishes I …	/r/RedPillWives	11/01/20 10:38 AM
166	Am I really being abused? Yeah this is not normal or acceptable behavior. Your Captain should very much be concerned with your wellbeing. I would gather my thoughts about the process, think of a few respectful phrases to include in the conversation and then tell him that what he did isn’t okay and that you feel undervalued and hurt.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/20 08:13 PM
1	Need to vent There’s a lot of things you can do to help your depression, but you probably have a good handle on those things and know what needs to be done. Therapy, exercise, sunlight, keeping your environment and body tidy etc. I’m going to tell you something that’s not fun, but this is what I would want to tell myself at 20: you might be depressed and sick for a long time. Years and years to come. The more you try to repress that you are -actually- sick and pretend that you’re going to get out of this rut…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/20 09:03 AM
1	Keeping up appearances when stressed/busy Let me know how it goes, I’d love to know if it works out :)	/r/RedPillWomen	30/12/19 02:41 PM
1	Keeping up appearances when stressed/busy Yes! Hard to explain how I do it, but it’s very simple. Since the hair is pulled into a high ponytail, all the hair gets collected in the middle and gets equally curled. You have to wiggle the rollers down towards the crown a bit to get the curl as tight as possible since it gets a bit crowded.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/12/19 01:27 PM
4	2020 Goal Setting This year, I want to finish decorating the our apartment. We moved in a year ago and still haven’t put pictures on all the walls etc. I want to start lots of new family traditions, something we can keep up over the years and one day have our children partake in. I’m already pretty good with money, but I want to REALLY sit down and make an actual budget and not just go by gut feeling. This includes doing meal planning, since groceries will be heavily budgeted. As always, I want to read at least 1…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/19 07:22 AM
5	Keeping up appearances when stressed/busy Lash extensions are a life saver. I’ve had them for almost 8 years and probably will have them for many years to come. I also tint my eyebrows at home so they look cared for with minimal effort. I spend my time doing a proper skin care routine, and for makeup I use a cream blush that takes two seconds. Sometimes a bit of concealer under the eyes, but that’s optional. Dry shampoo and a brush through the hair and I am out the door. My hair is long, straight and a bit too thin/shiny (Scandinavian h…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/19 07:11 AM
4	How do I suppress my desire for wanting to have children? I’m dealing with similar feelings, my body is aching to be a mother and my partner isn’t quite there yet. In my experience, there’s no way to suppress this desire. Nor should you try to. Of course it’s not always fun and appropriate to have this yearning, but you need to accept that it’s more than a thought pattern. This is hundreds of thousands of years of biological grooming talking, you are MEANT to feel this way! Try to distract yourself with finding new hobbies, working etc. Whenever I get …	/r/RedPillWomen	26/12/19 08:51 AM
–	What's for dinner? For Swedish Christmas dinner yesterday I was supposed to make vegan meat balls, but they completely fell apart for some reason! So I made lemonade, went and got some puff pastry and made a Wellington instead. Turned out great!	/r/RedPillWomen	25/12/19 07:10 PM