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ikigaiaru/r/askTRP21/02/17 03:27 AM
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If I had to pick one book on game, the book of pook would be it. Required reading full of practical wisdom.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/17 01:50 PM
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You gotta start somewhere. Maybe he won't get a 9 at 19, maybe not even until he's over 25, maybe never, but why not start down that road? It's not about "getting" the 9, it's about being the best you can be for whatever comes into your life.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/17 07:03 AM
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Sidebar Improve yourself to the point where those girls have to convince themselves they are worthy enough for you.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/17 03:04 AM
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Yes, I also don't like the dichotomy. People have different qualities that come out in different environments. However, while I do think he generally plays the alpha in the room fairly well, his level of caring what people think is more of an obsession he vocalizes rather than 'just being like everyone else.' His thin-skinned qualities are usually rare in people of his status who otherwise act so confidently. I think him standing next to a more quietly self-assured Alpha like Putin would make Tr…
/r/askTRP21/02/17 06:55 AM
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I used to be the same way. You are a sexual being but too afraid of rejection and socially conditioned not to show it. You need to consciously start overtly showing your sexuality to women a lot more aggressively to get over your fear. Some girls will give you a negative response, some a positive, the response and outcome don't matter as much as you losing your fear. You need to learn to healthily express your sexuality without shame and apology. You can only do this with a trial by fire so get …
/r/TheRedPill19/02/17 03:25 AM
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Don't confuse acting thirsty and desperate for confident. The "Netflix. My place" text is something you send to a plate you're already banging, not a girl you're trying to attract. It sounds too needy for my taste. Remember, your sex is the prize, not hers. My style is to send something direct but more ambiguous. Be confident but create mystery and drama. I've tried both ways, and while it will work on some girls, I think a confident man knows that he will get laid and doesn't need to demand it …
/r/TheRedPill16/02/17 01:56 PM
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At the beginning, it's always good to be more aggressive (within reason, obviously) than less! Ask her out, kiss her, grab her hand, just do it. There's no method or secret, you just goddamn do it. Rejection is better than regret!
/r/seduction16/02/17 05:01 AM
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No, I would find someone new who respects me instead of slapping her. Not ok in my book.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/17 08:54 AM
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I think you're way over complicating it and I'm not quite sure of your point? AWALT in the sense that they all do fitness tests for evolutionary reasons. It's subconscious and it doesn't mean anything more than that. Quite simple really and I think you might be overdoing it with the theorizing from my perspective.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/17 08:42 AM
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Relax. TRP is a general framework, but it's not gospel. AWALT does not mean that every women will leave you in every situation for ever and ever. It means human beings have general tendencies and working within an accurate and realistic framework is best. Just be the best person you can be, for you. That's it. You can build a loyal family with a wonderful wife with children, it's just hard now in the west so don't get too many hopes up. It's possible, but it's a needle in a haystack. TRP is not …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 04:42 AM
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I disagree. While there is definitely an elite top 0.01%, I don't think they have some sort of deep-seated motivation to turn the world into a science experiment. The explanation is more simple: Life is too harsh for people to deal with. To look at nature dead in it's eyes, with it's cold and uncaring concern, is too much for most people to handle. So instead, naturally, humans create myths as psychological blankets to protect them from the harsh truths of life, nature, death, and our own relati…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 04:31 AM
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I'm not sure you're getting it. What happened doesn't really matter. Attraction and women don't always make sense or fit a formula. So what if you approached her first? So what if he's taller? There are no rules, just experiences. Don't over analyze and start again. You have to be able to bounce back up after a bad night.
/r/seduction07/02/17 07:56 AM
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By "nights like this", I mean, be prepared to get your ego stomped all over in this journey to become better. Be prepared for painful nights, and great nights, part of the process. I have no idea what he said, could have been a million things. Girls are not a science project aka ("if I only I said this, she would have done x,") they are irrational and go by vibes or sometimes don't make any sense at all! The point is to have fun regardless of the unpredictability of women. Nothing you can do now…
/r/seduction07/02/17 04:22 AM
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Yea you prob didn't escalate enough. If I was holding hands I would have gone for a kiss. Not sure what your boundaries are. But honestly regardless, she probably was just using you to play games. Not worth your time. Take your lessons, learn from this experience, and move on.
/r/seduction07/02/17 02:31 AM
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Being aloof doesn't mean being boring. Being aloof means she can't quite pin you down. This makes you mysterious. Mysteriousness makes her feel things. She can't quite figure you out, you follow your own path. Personally, I like being more polarizing than aloof. There is no 'right' way, but being boring is the wrong way.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/17 02:09 AM
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Don't be aggressive, be assertive. An attractive man is calm but clear in his intent. "Tell her to fuck off" might be a bit too aggressive, you can establish the same thing in a less violent way by assertively sticking up for yourself in a calm manner. A natural projectory for a lot of men is to start out wimpy/ beta, then go EXTREME the other way and get really aggresive (to get out of their comfort zone). This is all part of the process, eventually you'll end up somewhere in the middle, but it…
/r/seduction07/02/17 01:53 AM
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I can't count the amount of times I've had nights like this. You're supposed to. It's a trial by fire. It will take a LONG TIME but you are on the right path. Keep going. Keep trying. Everything is EXP points, good and bad experiences. Just collect experiences, keep collecting them. Dust yourself off and try again. and then again. It's not supposed to be easy, it's this pain that will make you stronger in the future. You've got to go back out there though! Courage is not the absence of fear or p…
/r/seduction07/02/17 01:47 AM
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I think it's important to establish the relationship as sexual as soon as you can. I want to know whether she is into me, or not, fairly soon. I'd rather be rejected than waste my time. 4 months is way too long. You might have been too timid in your sexual advances with her. It should be 1 month at the very most before you polarize her one way or the other. If its been 4 months and you are NOT sleeping with her on a regular basis, it's over, she's using you, find a girl who wants to be with you.…
/r/seduction07/02/17 01:40 AM
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Best advice I could give would be listen to actions not words. Ignore her saying "I like you" as ego fulfilling as it may be. Ask, does she make time for you? A girl who likes you will. Actions trump nice words. Always. If you feel like you are investing more in her than she is in you, it's a sign you need to pull back a bit. If she comes back, and her actions show genuine interest, reward her with your time. If not, don't get too invested in a future and find someone who appreciates you the way…
/r/seduction06/02/17 02:21 PM
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Keep in mind that people all don't perceive you the same. Even something like height. If you have a confident and charming presence and good posture, in a girls mind you may appear much taller than you actually are in reality. Sure, you'll never be 6'5, but pass the shit tests about your height and have a great presence and you'll be fine. You might have to work a little harder but being short never stopped me before.
/r/seduction05/02/17 01:59 AM
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I'm the same as you and have to "recharge" after social interactions. I never said introverted means bad social skills. I said most (not all) people who claim to be introverted are just socially anxious. Read my post again.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 08:05 AM
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Exactly this. An attractive man is someone who has lots of emotions but can control them like a master.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 05:45 AM
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Excellent post! I would venture to say about 70% of the people who claim to be "introverted" are just anxious and scared. Even if you are a 'true' introvert, it is good to learn how to at least act extroverted from time to time. These are all good tips, and basically boils down to- if you are scared of doing something (because of rejection) then you must DO exactly that.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 05:41 AM
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If you're scared or irrationally anxious of doing something, then do that. Rinse and repeat. Meanwhile; Read, learn, travel, socialize, lift, and be truly self-aware of your thoughts and emotions.
/r/askTRP02/02/17 11:41 PM
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Relax. It sounds like you're worried about screwing up your LTR if you don't do the right thing. You should be living in your own frame and following your own path. She is along for the ride. Find a life goal or mission, something you can achieve without relying on others attention or affection, then pursue that as your first priority. Almost everything on TRP boils down to finding your own personal mission and having the balls to actually follow through with it.
/r/askTRP02/02/17 11:37 PM
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Best to send something to build suspense but don't actually answer her question. Some random emojis with no words or something silly and aloof (don't actually address her question!) is best. Then be busy and basically ignore her until 24/48 hours before you plan to meet her. Expect a flake and don't take it too seriously. See what happens.
/r/askTRP02/02/17 11:26 PM
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Well then, start again tomorrow. From the beginning. It's never too late.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/17 06:34 AM
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Basically, don't invest more in her than she does in you. If you don't believe you deserve better, you will trap yourself with someone who doesn't respect you. Respect is shown by actions not words.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/17 06:31 AM
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Anyone who disagrees with this post is not being as confident around women as they think they are. You can be a short fat dude but if you fully own yourself, you can do much better than you ever originally imagined. Confidence and charm is everything. Inner game = motivation to live confidently = more experiences = more reference points = more confidence = better inner game (repeat until you die).
/r/TheRedPill30/01/17 06:29 AM
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I live in Japan, so perhaps I can shed light on this. I'm not a fan of alpha and beta talk, but I think it will be a useful heuristic here: The basis of what attracts women is the same, if you are a spineless loser in America or unattractive you won't have any success in Japan. However, it is easier to be ""alpha"" in a country where everyone else is trained to be beta. Just an average American personality is more "alpha" than a Japanese man. So it's easier to create tingles and be dominant. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 02:26 PM
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I'm gonna piss a lot of people off by saying this. Many people (prob over 50%) use TRP as a psychological defense mechanism to stop them from being emotionally vulnerable. They cling to the ideology to protect them from having deep relationships. The most alpha thing you can do is be HUMAN, and be honest. That means sometimes showing "beta" qualities. BUT, it must be done from a place of strength, understanding, masculinity, and abundance of life. Being alpha is being unapologetic for oneself an…
/r/TheRedPill21/01/17 09:24 AM
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Stop the self-pity. Change your posture, breathe deeply, and be a man. Stop thinking and take concrete ACTIONS. Go to the gym. Get in touch with your body. Face your fears. Approach women to get over your anxiety. Travel somewhere, pick up a new hobby, do something interesting. Repeat and keep going when you fuck up. Now get off your stupid computer and DO something.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/17 09:18 AM
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Your looking for girls to satisfy your self-esteem instead of looking within yourself. Try exploring new avenues, take a risk, travel somewhere exotic (you can work as English teachers easily in many countries). Pick up an instrument or a new hobby. When these things boost your own self image, approaching girls in real life will come naturally as a consequence. Of course, If you still want girls, you already know the answer, quit tinder and start approaching. DO, don't think.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/17 09:14 AM
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It's quite a complicated situation in the west right now. This is a bit of a tangent but I think ultimately related... For the baby boomer generation, things got "too comfortable," and people lost perspective on the way the world and the way human nature actually is. We, in the west, let down our guard, and traded the harsh but true wisdom of human nature for post-modernism, moral relativism, and dreams of an (unreachable) utopian/ egalitarian society. The millennials now continually lie to them…
/r/TheRedPill20/01/17 01:29 AM
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Yep. I think there is something within people that likes to cling to ideology and put complete faith in it. Those who are truly "red pilled" take everything on a case by case basis even if we notice overarching patterns.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/17 02:56 AM
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OP, I mostly agree with you. I agree with maybe 60 - 70% of TRP ideas, I think they are very useful in western society. However, among the very healthy mindsets (IMO) found on TRP, there is also a lot of binary thinking, venting, and ideological extremism. As with anything, take the good and ignore the bad. I often think many people go extreme on TRP as a way to "shock" or eliminate all of the blue pill and societal programming out of them. Often, going so far to one ideological extreme (after b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/17 11:57 PM
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TRP is a general accurate framework that is useful to follow. But it doesn't mean that every behavior has to fit in the TRP box every time, even if it is likely. There is also so much info you don't have about the situation... Maybe his gfs self-perceived SMV is very low? Maybe he triggers some sort of psychological thing from her childhood? Maybe she is cheating on him? Maybe it wont last much longer? Who knows. Girls change with the wind.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 06:29 AM
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Start with baby steps. Your motivation will snowball from small progress. Make a list of priorities, focus on a MAX of 3 things at a time. Once habits are established, you can move on making more progress on the other priorities on your list. Be patient. It takes time. Just make sure you are heading in the right direction and don't expect too much too quickly. Success is not a straight line, 3 steps forward, 2 steps back will often be the case. Be tough on yourself, but forgiving. You will fuck …
/r/becomeaman18/01/17 12:34 AM
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No, I think better wording would be: "I've got some free time between 6 - 7 tonight. Let's meet up." It's a yes or a no on her part. Assume attraction, give her a chance to be a part of your interesting life.
/r/seduction16/01/17 11:59 PM
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"I've got a lot to do this week. If you want to meet, let me know so I can check my schedule." This response shows value, assertiveness, and that she is entering your schedule rather than vice versa. If she is interested she will let you know. Your time is your most valuable asset.
/r/seduction16/01/17 11:47 PM
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