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I get it. That’s exactly how I felt in my marriage and I became bitter. I was marking the money and helping out at home alot and handling major projects like remodeling. the Point is; your 100% responsible for everything in your life regardless of what she does. So it doesn’t matter what she’s supposed to be doing. You, do you, and if she follows that’s fine if she contributes that’s fine. Don’t rely on her contributions for your happiness and fulfillment. Also that’s why I say don’t take on mor…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/21 03:49 AM
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I’m a more traditional man as well. I and believe in more traditional roles. But a marriage is a compromise. IMO is she wants to work on the marriage and you want to work on the marriage you should work on your marriage. You did take a vow. Your not entitled to a great or even good marriage. You have to make it happen. Now that said, you both have to take ownership and responsibility even for the things you don’t like. From debt to house work to jobs outside the home to washing dishes. Its cruci…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/21 10:07 PM
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Yeah for sure. Just watched it!
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/20 12:09 AM
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Man you have it raw. I’m paying quite a bit as well but it steps down over time. My ex says the same shit. Her line is “it’s the law”. It’s simply ridiculous to expect someone to pay that kind of money out of income. If you have massive assets or some kind of residual income that you created during the marriage then I can see paying a portion but employment incomes change. It’s just not right to force someone into that position. Anyone who won’t get a job cause they “have” to take care of kids s…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/20 11:32 PM
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Me too. I lost a bunch of weight before Covid. Put it all back on. But I’m not beating my self up and you shouldn’t either. For me I’m not feeling really competitive. Little bit for sure but not to much really. My attitude has been I’m just going to chill the f out and enjoy my life.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/20 03:26 PM
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The question is; do you feel physically safe? If you cannot answer that question with a clear yes than you should get out of there and forget about everything else. Now some men and women claim mental abuse and this is much more difficult to clearly define; as a fight with raised voices can be considered mental abuse, Or it could just be a fight. IMO you should not overthink how the future will turn out. Look at the situation now today objectively. Do you feel safe in your home? If it were me, a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/20 04:25 PM
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You should not by any means put up with any kind of violence toward you or your children. Be sure to call the police and have him arrested and get a restraining order if necessary. That kind of behavior is often associated with mental illness. your not in a healthy relationship. You should get to a safe place as soon as possible. It’s not good for your children to experience that. Children need a sense of security more than anything else. Without that sense of security they often develop issues …
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/20 05:48 AM
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Ah man, what a tragedy. He will be missed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/20 05:14 AM
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Definitely another great one! Favorite part is when he puts up the lights.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/20 09:53 PM
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I’m with Spaceman. It’s not a black and white issue. You can’t blanket ban an ideology or way of thinking about men’s issues just cause you don’t like it or don’t subscribe to it. This is a men’s group and we should hear different opinions. I say don’t ban it. We are big boys and can make decisions about what we agree with. I hate the idea that we are to weak or vulnerable to think for ourselves. We men can handle a controversial opinion. Honestly I think Helixfish is a fembot.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/20 05:36 AM
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No women would put up with what you put up with. IMO forget about the assets you own together those are a lost cause. But fight for your future income. If you get out without alimony I would consider that a win. Remember everything is negotiable, you can impute income and use other tactics. No reason she should not be contributing financially.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 12:16 AM
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Also keep in mind everything is negotiable. Don’t let her try to pull crap. Mine would just say I owed her alimony in the months before divorce was official. I didn’t give her a dime till I was ordered and then I made sure no backpay and I have stepdown payment every year. Big mistake I made is not getting cohabitation clause in agreement. She was already in a relationship and now living with dude.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 09:36 PM
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Great advice, they often want to be seen as victims even when they are the offender. That manipulation can lead to trouble for you. My ex would do some nasty stuff then I’d get pissed and she would accuse me of mentally abusing her. So I couldn’t get angry or really question her actions in any way. Luckily for me it didn’t last long when things got to that point. Also mind that asking questions in a way that isn’t polite is mental abuse. Arguing can land you in jail.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 09:30 PM
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You need to find new work. Your torcher yourself. You should have a clean break. You’ve said it yourself and you should listen to yourself. Good chance she’s enjoying seeing you suffer at work and likes the attention. Many women act like they are saints and don’t want anything bad for their ex but in truth love to watch you squirm. Specially younger women. Get away from her, find someone new. Hope you don’t have kids. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/20 02:05 PM
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Won’t deny some men are often the power group. And good point that people often go overboard when they feel victimized. Definitely happens, guilty as charged. Though, I think it’s important to point out that’s a small minority of men who are in that power group due to wealth, looks or brains. most men fit in the middle as would be expected. They have little power in life. In many ways less than women. If your in that middle group, which I am. Nothing comes easy. Sounds whiny and compared to some…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/20 03:09 PM
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Whenever I spend I think is this really worth the cost? If invested, I would make 10% compounded + dividends. Every dollar spent is worth 10 invested (results may vary). I want to buy shit I don’t need but I only use money I don’t work for directly.
/r/MGTOW209/12/20 01:21 PM
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Stay strong brother good things will come. Maybe beating a dead horse but what freedom really means to me is staying healthy having control of my time good financial situation if I’m lucky, doing work I enjoy I don’t think I’m entitled to these things. They are gifts and responsibilities. Cheesy to say but freedom ain’t free. When I was with the ex I was working 8 - 14 hour days at a desk and not exercising. that’s not her fault I should have stepped up. I was trying to hold my marriage together…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/20 03:55 AM
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✅
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/20 11:36 PM
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I get your point. And I don’t agree with with the entire RedPill philosophy as no objective person should. BUT you have to admit there is some truth to all the men’s rights movement stuff. Why is it ok for women and every person with the smallest aspect of off norm persona to identify with a “community” but not men? Why is it ok for women to connect on their issues and hate on injustices done to them and mostly directed on maledom? But not for men to connect on the injustices and be able to rant…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/20 11:34 PM
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Agree on all points. And i posted because all the thoughts about this subject boiled down to the essence of “enjoy being a free man”. I’ve been divorced for almost 2 years I had a relationship since that lasted about 4 months. And I found out she’s been trying to get pregnant. I’ve stated to her I don’t want more kids very clearly and I’m not interested in marriage at this time. She also told she cannot get pregnant due to medical condition. Needless to say I ended it immediately but I’m definit…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/20 05:45 PM
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That’s not the point. Of course I’ve been hurt, everybody has. I take responsibility for my shit. The point is, the narrative is just keep doing the same stuff and expect different results. Just jump into another relationship or marriage and don’t think twice. I’m not saying don’t find great people and great relationships. I’m saying wake the f up.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/20 05:19 PM
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Interesting how the open window theory makes the women the victim and the saint in the act. It’s interesting how going through the window creates responsibility and consequences yet opening the window appears to have or bear no consequences, responsibility or humility.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/12/20 03:37 PM
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I’m some cases it’s unfortunate men actually get shit done. I personally don’t like to leave things unfinished.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/12/20 03:22 PM
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You should have a lawyer look at your case. Did you have a lawyer during divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/20 03:47 AM
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Your saying you have to pay alimony till you die?!?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/20 02:04 AM
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That’s weird
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/20 01:58 AM
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If you have a cohabitation clause in your separation agreement it’s definitely possible. Alimony is usually negotiated and it really depends on the separation agreement. It can be variable or static for n years. For example my alimony steps down every year and of she gets married it’s done. Read your separation agreement carefully.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/20 01:56 AM
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Don’t wait to get a lawyer. Find a good one. Put them on retainer usually 2500 to 5000. You may not have to spend any of it. Don’t tell your ex you have a lawyer. This will immediately inflame the situation. Just tell her you want to do mediation which should be done by an independent third party anyway. Then you can get advice from your lawyer as needed and potentially have them if things escalate. My ex got a lawyer right away and expected me to use her lawyer in mediation. When I asked if her…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/20 05:51 PM
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I second @Anthropologie07. My career started to really take off when ex left. Overall having the extra income was a blessing.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/20 05:35 PM
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Everybody is different so it takes different things and less or more time for each person to heal. It’s been almost 2 years since my ex left and I’m definitely much better than I was on that fateful day. But I’m not really ready for a serious relationship and I’m still working on getting in shape, on my self generally. For me, I’ve been really focused on work. I’ve made a couple good buddies and grown my social group. I’ve picked up riding and skiing as hobbies. I’ve been dating as well but made…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/20 03:18 PM
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Dude, cut her off immediately and get a lawyer. Read the writing on the wall. Save what you can now. My ex ran up 25k on credit cards before she pulled the pin. Then ran up another 25 k plus lawyer fees. If you start seeing this behavior it’s likely worse than you know or think already. You only have to pay if and when your ordered by the court to pay. And that’s based off negotiations. Though if you give her something you may be able to avoid court. Maybe. I spent thousands on lawyers then 4 ho…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/20 03:44 AM
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Definitely need to get focused and make some good decisions at this point. If you don’t start fighting smartly you will get screwed. Make sure to ask for everything you can get in the divorce. You won’t get it all but you’ll land somewhere in the middle. You need to know what you can ask for a for and what your rights are. Wish I would have asked for a cohabitation clause on my alimony to the ex. But I didn’t. Do your research and get involved in your life. Which happens to suck right now but it…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/20 01:07 AM
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Keep in mind, as others have said, that they are kids. Also, that your ex probably sux. Start celebrating stuff with your kids. Unfortunately women are better at celebrating and the kids enjoy stuff like that. Don’t let her have a monopoly on celebrating. I know it’s tough but you have to take on stuff like that. Plan a party and invite your kids. I know it sounds cheesy. All I’m saying is you have to make the effort and not feel entitled to anything. Otherwise you will get lazy and she will hav…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/20 04:20 PM
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I love this Chappell’s Show episode where he tells it like it is. https://youtu.be/mxAQ1okLGQQ
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/11/20 06:04 AM
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It took me a long time to understand the victim mentality and how women use it to manipulate men. I won’t put up with it anymore for even a second. What goes right along with that is the entitlement mentality. both men and women suffer from it in spades. But when mixed with the victim mindset it’s a recipe for narcissism and abuse. My ex was always the victim. Even when she would stay out all night. Come home at 3pm the next day. I wasn’t supposed to be upset angry. Or I would be mentally abusin…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/20 05:28 AM
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What’s great about dude’s giving dude’s advice; we don’t just serve each other platitudes and patronize. Divorce had been one of the worst experiences of my life. I hate that kids are living in a different home with another man. So hope you don’t have to face that. I used to believe in marriage but now I think it’s a crooked deal. It’s a deal that has intricate and hidden consequences. So make sure to protect yourself during the divorce or you’ll get screwed. Now, I don’t wish divorce on you or …
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/20 04:53 AM
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Exchange day is tough for me as well. I have two girls and I always plan fun stuff for us to do. When they leave it’s hard to start the new week with a new cadence. I always tell myself it’s ok to feel lonely. It’s a natural part of life. Mostly because I don’t want to get in the mind set of needing to be with someone else. That’s how I got in my toxic marriage. I would like to meet someone great and have a fulfilling relationship but I don’t want to force it cause of loneliness. Covid definitel…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/20 06:25 PM
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I asked again and again, keeping the pressure on and now she says he’s going back to Canada in June. I’m thinking she’s probably filing for a fiancée visa which makes sense for him to go back for that process. She still will not give me any idea of her plans. Which sucks because I want to start planning to have my kids more. I guess I’ll figure it out sooner or later.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/20 06:45 PM
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Yeah the problem is I have no idea where they would merry.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/20 06:40 PM
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Her family won’t tell me anything. She painted me as the bad guy. Though she’s the cheater and left me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/20 06:37 PM
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Ive asked and the answers are ambiguous and not straight forward. The reason I want to know more is that I want to get more time with my kids and I need the additional financial resources to make that happen. But something seems fishy, getting married to a foreign national is not simple, he’s not employed, can’t get a job here until he gets a visa, I don’t see him going back when his visitor status is up, things just don’t add up. Guess I should ask if anyone has been in similar situation.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/20 01:11 AM
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Yeah I think it makes a lot of sense to lay low for now. She’s 38 and I’m pretty sure she’s itching to have another baby with her new man. I honestly don’t think it’s the best choice fir her or my kids but it could work in my financial favor. Planning for these eventualities feels a bit surreal still after almost a year.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/20 03:32 AM
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Thanks! Good to know.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/20 03:20 AM
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Pretty good resource on this site. Looks like it may be possible and may be worth getting a lawyer involved. We’re talking 10s of thousands over the next 5 years. https://www.colorado-family-law.com/family-support/maintenance-modification-termination
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/20 03:41 PM
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The separation agreement says wife’s remarriage. F&$k! Unfortunately another hard lessons learned.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/20 03:19 PM
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Argh... not what I wanted to hear. But thanks for the advice. Must be some way to go about proving two people are living together and sharing expenses. And abusing the system for their own benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/20 04:30 AM
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I divorced in Colorado last year 2019. The new tax laws suck! But my lawyer added a multiplier into the worksheet to adjust for the tax bull shit. As far as I know maintenance can only be changed if you choose to not lock in the amount. This choice is usually explicit in the agreement. You need to check. In either case child support can be modified as far as I understand. It’s crazy that someone who’s capable of working gets maintenance in this day and age.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/20 01:42 AM
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Which ever way you go you should have a formal separation agreement laying out in detail what each of your responsibilities will be moving forward. You can get a mediator (who is a lawyer) to do this for you both together and amicably. I spent a ton on lawyers and we were basically forced into mediation by the judge. Where we basically worked it all out in a few hours. That said it takes a lot of for-thought and planning to work out the details. Just make sure you know what you want. get it in w…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/20 04:29 PM
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Amen 🙏 leaving the building
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/20 02:28 PM
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Yeah sure, everyone has a choice to be a pos or not. His ex chose to be a pos and so did mine. This is a values problem. Most western women today grew up as princesses. When their dream princess life didn’t happen they decided they’re bored and need some new stuff. My ex is hooked up with a new dude. He’s a pilot, they are going places together and having fun. I’m working supporting my kids and paying her a shit ton of alimony cause she never worked. She just got 100k from our house which she ne…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/20 02:06 PM
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Yup
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/20 06:14 PM
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I have a couple questions for you. Do you have a life outside the marriage? Do you have friends? Do you have hobbies? Do you have a career you enjoy? I’m asking because maybe your way to focused on her and not focused enough on yourself. You sound like a great dad but there is more to a relationship. I truly respect your attitude and truly hope you can save your marriage. Wish I could have saved mine. My advice is to really take your time, don’t rush, and find some peace and stillness. To me you…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/20 11:03 PM
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I ended up spending about 17 Gs on lawyers during the divorce. We ended up in mediation and solved most everything in 4 hours for 1G. We had really bad communication, neither party trusted the other. My ex got the lawyer first so I pretty much had to get a lawyer. So non-emotional advice is if you can avoid lawyers your better off. But if one party gets a lawyer the other should as well. It’s a fact the party without a lawyer will get screwed in a divorce. Unfortunately emotions do play a role i…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/20 10:33 PM
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She won’t even give me his full name. 😕
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/20 02:15 AM
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Probably not the best sub for your question. But yeah, some people suck.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/20 02:43 AM
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Yeah, agreed on letting her know it bothers me. Seems like any communication about any important stuff had that affect. Sad, we agreed we would discuss stuff pertaining to the children. But I guess that bs like the rest of that life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/20 01:44 PM
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Seems so f’d up to me. Kids have been through so many changes. It’s hard for me to believe she could build a healthy relationship in such short time. I know she’s in a different place than I am. Also she has little to no prospects for career at this point. So I’m not super surprised that she’s moving fast but damn it’s f’d up.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/20 03:46 AM
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Great to hear a positive story.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/20 03:33 AM
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STOP! You made a commitment to your wife and your family. I know your hurt I’m sorry. Leaving her may be the right thing but please take your time. Find a place to think. Find some peace and stillness. You deserve the time. Don’t plot and strategize, just be a good person with good values and things will work out for you. You cannot control what your wife does but you can control how you react.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/20 02:55 AM
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All these stories have a similar theme boys. I mean this in a positive way. We are not snow flakes. While each of us is unique. What’s happened to us is not. Don’t forget there are others out there that you can connect with. Others have said it but it’s worth saying it again. It’s not your fault some shitty person cheated and lied. You can’t control that. You can control how you react and take responsibility for your life. That said give yourself time to heal. Don’t push your self to fast. Take …
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/20 05:45 AM
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If you have decision making rights than she cannot do change their names without your approval. But make sure to stay involved and get your lawyer involved if your not sure about your rights.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 04:43 AM
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Take your time, you will be rewarded in spades by not rushing. I think the best thing a person can do for themselves is become truly independent and not need anyone else. Not that you shouldn’t want and find someone but you shouldn’t need an emotional or financial crutch. I think I’m saying this to myself as much as anyone else out there. I’ve been searching for stillness and I know I’m not there yet. I still have lots of anger and resentment. Don’t get me wrong my ex deserves it. But I know it’…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/19 05:45 AM
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Maybe you should slow down and really look at what’s important. Often people in divorce look before they leap. Maybe being alone on New Years isn’t such a bad thing. Maybe the your date will respect you more for being mindful of yourself. Loneliness can be painful at first but it can also be powerful. IMO this is a time of introspection and a chance to find stillness in a hecktic life. Divorce can be catalyst for positive change but you must give it the time and not be afraid to be alone. I’m no…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/19 04:33 PM
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Yeah, if you’ve been married for less than 3 years your not obligated to pay alimony. You would still pay child support depending on how many overnights you have with the kids and your income disparity. If you’ve been married for more than 3 years you pay alimony for 50% of time you’ve been married again depending on your in come disparities. So if you’ve been married for 60 months you pay Alimony for 30 months. I’m sure the judge had some discretion in special circumstances so make sure to cons…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/19 09:32 PM
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Just finished divorce in CO. I used modern family law. They were great but I ended up spending 15g for a 4 hour mediation session. If your ex has a lawyer you should get one as well. If not I would just find a good mediator. Pay the 250/hr and get it done. You need to be careful when negotiating because you pay alimony post tax and she gets the check and pays no taxes. So negotiate based on your take home. They will try to negotiate based on your gross income but you have to fight that shit or y…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/19 05:17 AM
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Word
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/19 04:27 AM
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Don’t let sadness, loneliness and anger rule your thoughts and actions. Think very carefully about what YOU want and go after that. If it’s time with your kids than get 50/50 and work less. Don’t let her and her lawyer’s bully you. Go to court if you need to. A judge will understand your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/19 01:01 AM
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I also know your story too well. I really miss my kids. I only have them every other weekend because my ex is forcing me to pay her an ungodly amount of alimony and I have to work many hours to keep up. While she doesn’t even have a full time job. Sick selfish people. Your better off, though it really sucks now. Do what you can to get 50/50 parenting time.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/19 12:50 AM
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I’m in same situation. Ex wants mo money. I have kids 50% custody I work full time she works less than 20hrs a week on her own business. I’m already paying her $1700 a month but she wants more money to take care of her own kids 50% of time. She left me but still expects to be financially taken care of with no responsibilities. It’s hard to believe a person can be such a piece of shit.
/r/MGTOW24/07/19 03:00 AM
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Hey man, your exactly the point! You need to stop and give yourself a break. I’m going to be a bit harsh here. Your probably an angry dick, your probably kind of shitty at most stuff, you’ve probably fucked up a bunch of stuff, you’ve made a bunch of stupid decisions. I can go on. And I know all this because thats me and all the other guys everywhere. Your not a special snowflake. I honestly believe once you come to terms with your humanity and find true humility you will also see the truth. You…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/19 02:21 PM
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Thanks for the great points. I’m not saying men should not take responsibility for their actions, mistakes or even other people’s mistakes that affect them. In fact I’m saying how you react is your power and responsibility. Men need to stop the self defeating reactions. But I hear over and over “what could I have done” or “I could have been better” most men I have talked to have been trying to be better and self improve. And the women still leave. All I’m saying is recognize your power. Your pow…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/19 02:00 PM
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No it could not have been avoided! You need to realize your stbxw doesn’t give a fuck. Women are great manipulators by nature. It’s in there DNA. She will act like she wants to be your friend and be nice and sweet. This is 100% to get what she wants. I know it’s hard but you need to man up. You need to be ready to fight every step of the way for your needs and wants. Figure out what YOU want and go after it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/19 04:23 AM
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Dude first off, this shit is not your fault. Your ex is leaving because that’s what shitty people do. You need to find your inner man. There’s a real man in there that does not need that woman. And a real women out there that need a man. Go have some fun and let that man out!
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/19 05:29 AM
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It’s real simple. In 10 or 15 years that prenup won’t be worth the paper it’s written on. You will be fucked! My biggest mistake was being with someone who didn’t want to do shit. She lived off me for 10 years then divorced me and took all my shit. If i could do it over I would be a man and give it to her straight. Go get a job and career or get the f out. Unless you have more money than you know what to do with your going to be screwed in about 10 years when she leaves! Seriously if you have an…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/19 05:20 AM
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Find someone to talk to. Also stop being a bitch! Your a man! Stop giving a fuck about stupid shit! Go get a bunch of pussy and enjoy your life. Your going to be old or dead soon stop wasting time worrying about shit you can’t control. Get a good lawyer let him or her take on the worry and you go have fun.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/19 04:57 AM
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Fight my friend. Get a really good lawyer and fight dirty. Your lucky your kids are older so you don’t have to pretend all the time. Don’t be confused she’s not. She will take you for as much as possible. My ex tried the same thing. Let’s just be friends and pay me a bunch of money while she goes and screws other people. Don’t play her game.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/19 04:50 AM
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First off, I’m sorry. It sucks! I’m going through the same thing. Wife left for no good reason. But that’s water under the bridge. Work on letting your old life go. Prepare to offer a deal she can’t refuse. Put together a sweet upfront payment. Give her more than half to get her off your back. The logic; if she gets mo money up front you get a discount and she gets a bird in the hand. The argument is that things do change over time and there are ways you can reduce your alimony palimony over tim…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/19 01:52 PM
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UPDATE: judge has refused to allow a vocational expert. This means we cannot get an expert to evaluate my wife and determine her employment potential. Judge stated that the court can adequately asses her income without an expert. Also the court recognizes she’s under employed. Unfortunately this puts my case in a precarious position. Now it’s completely up to the judge to decide and leaves a lot of room for interpretation.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/19 03:37 PM
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My experience; when a woman loses interest, even for lame reasons, there’s nothing you can do to change that. In fact the more you try the less interested she will be. As @david_velasquez05 says, just do you. Be your best you. Focus on exercising and making new guy friends and rebuilding old friendships. Get a hobby. If you can find a girl with no strings, go for it, but women at this stage will likely lead to more problems. Also start thinking of ways to protect yourself financially. As soon as…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/19 05:00 AM
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Depends on your situation. In my case my wife initiated the temp orders to get money from me. If your fighting over finances this is a good chance to impute income but you must be prepared with vocational expert. If it’s regarding custody it’s more complicated and you should try to get 50% up front. If you think she’ll fight you or try to keep your kids away fight for equal custody.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/19 04:33 AM
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Amen brother! My ex had to be the victim in every situation even when she created it entirely. Women naturally manipulate situations and distort what you say to be the victim. Don’t fall for it!
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/19 07:13 PM
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Simple. Make sure you are making a similar income as your spouse. Most states have a calculation you can look up to determine where you need to be. Your kinda fucked on your assets. Marital assets will be split 50/50 unless you can shelter them somehow as others have suggested. It’s quite difficult to shelter assets because there’s always a trial. Sometimes it’s just best to let it go and move on for your own sanity.
/r/MGTOW27/06/19 03:24 AM
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Hey thanks for sharing. My ex has a marketing background as well. This sets some realistic expectations for me. I’m hoping a bit more though in this economy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/19 07:10 PM
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Truth is funny as hell!
/r/MGTOW21/06/19 12:14 AM
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I did end up getting a vocational expert. I’m hoping this the expert can prove she’s capable of making at least 40k a year. Does that seem realistic???
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/19 07:12 PM
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Not sure about this approach. Her business isn’t worth much but what little income she makes comes from it. Though she’s spending almost as much as she makes. At least that’s the way she reports it on taxes.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/19 07:10 PM
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Marketing
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/19 07:07 PM
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I’m going through the same thing. My “ex” has a business that grosses $70000 a year but she claims AGI is only $20000. Also she has a undergraduate degree from a prestigious university. In temporary orders I tried to impute income of 50g to her but we did not have enough evidence and or information that she could and should be making at least 50g a year. So the judge imputed her income at minimum wage. Tough she admitted she was only working 20 hrs a week on her business. Which is probably an ex…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/19 02:39 PM
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