TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

ilarym Archive

View 0 posts and 27 comments by ilarym on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
13

OP - I'm going to explain something to you that nobody is saying. What you're missing is perspective. For every one of those people that insulted you, you must have passed by and ignored one hundred decent people. If you're expecting the world to be a soft, cushy place where you can't get hurt, you will definitely be disappointed the more you explore. You really need to develop a thick skin and sharp wit to survive. My advice is not to engage. If you have to say anything, instead of challenging …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 06:51 PM
4

No, he sounds fine. He just needed / needs a partner who values him. You sound like the one who needs to grow.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 07:04 PM
8

Poor analysis. You are victim blaming. He did it out of love, and if she loved him back, she would have appreciated it. Instead, she used him. It's not really his fault. Many women want the man they love to do those things.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 05:26 PM
-1

I agree as long as we are talking about adults. This person wants to talk as if OP married a child without knowing anything about her other than she's in college (a fact which implies she's relatively intelligent and probably mature).
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 04:47 AM
0

I'm not sure how marrying a person is the same thing as preying upon them... I mean he could have just been her boyfriend and then left without any chance of alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 04:42 AM
-1

Wow, judgemental.. what do you have against two adults getting married? Maturity is more relevant to this context either way.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 04:14 AM
2

This is good advice for anyone. Even if you're in a great marriage, it's important to have this perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 06:45 AM
4

I worry that setup incentivizes the caretaker to expedite the patient passing away.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 06:37 AM
1

I've definitely met girls like you are describing, but they didn't need to take a class or learn any specific rules to be that way. They just were that way, and many of them aged fast. But there's a difference between that girl and the girls who don't know better and fall hook/line/sinker for her dating rules. Lot of guys do this stuff too. Following in the footsteps of someone disreputable yet charming.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 07:04 AM
2

Based on this discussion, I feel like many people who are overwhelmed with options start to employ various strategies to reduce inputs. Maybe you have to at a certain point. However, I have to agree that the type of strategy a person takes can tell you a lot about that person. The people you're describing sound gullible / naive to fall for that stuff tbh
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 05:10 AM
1

The keep sleeping with other guys thing is crazy. Everything is a strategy now, I guess. People lack the mental fortitude to make decisions on their own when faced with too many options, so they follow arbitrary rules. The same things happen with too many applicants for job postings. The hiring managers toss out resumes and candidates are weeded without much thought or logic sometimes (e.g. this guy is a job hopper because no stint lasted more than a few years, or this guy is out of practice sin…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:07 AM
1

What's the 12 date rule?
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 01:43 AM
1

So true. Every bit of advice is given with the intention of steering you away from becoming a "bad man". They'll even point to examples of people they've dated or are currently happily married to and say "don't be like him", even though that's exactly who they fell for.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 01:05 AM
3

So often you hear these stories from men. Interesting to hear a female perspective with largely the same arguments
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 09:56 AM
2

This is so true. You can't attract her by being desperate. Work on improving yourself and your confidence, but be ready to take it or leave it with her. If there's any shot of things working out, she'll find your new approach irresistible. If she's already made up her mind and leaves anyway, at least you'll be on a path toward self improvement. You win either way. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 09:42 AM
2

Sounds like she's taking out her own relationship issues on you
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 01:02 AM
1

Yeah the physical aggression thing is nothing to blink at. As men, we can't physically defend ourselves in this situation. Best to walk away from her and don't look back.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 05:51 PM
3

She's being cool about financial stuff and isn't asking me for the dog (all in the paperwork) so at least that's something. Given the circumstances, I'd count this as a win. Hopefully things stay amicable throughout b/c if she decides to get vindictive, she can hit you hard (depending on state laws etc).
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 05:39 PM
2

Never heard of this before. What's their typical rate? Any personal experiences with them you'd be willing to share?
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/22 06:37 PM
2

Also sad to think even this level of justice cost him hundreds of thousands of dollars 💸
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 12:42 PM
1

How in the world did it cost that much? 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 08:04 AM
1

To be honest, I'm not seeing much of a positive outcome from this. Initially reached out to the lawyer to defend myself "just in case" - but that "just in case" is feeling more like an inevitability. She definitely puts my friends down and tries to isolate me and yells at me and calls me names when she didn't get exactly what she wanted. She actually said both my parents physically pushed her, which doesn't sound right at all. They are definitely cranky old people, and I might even buy that they…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 07:27 AM
2

My wife brings up divorce every time we fight and has verbally abused me many times. She also doesn't work (despite saying she would before the marriage) and also moved her younger brother into the house (who has a masters degree in tech related field but also claims he can't find a job when we live in silicon Valley). I take her and sometimes him on vacations, order out, etc. She also claims my parents abused her without any evidence to back it up. She says I abused her by lying (I said I would…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 06:51 PM
1

Did he attempt to represent himself vs her using a lawyer in court?
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 06:28 PM
1

Did he not have a lawyer? That outcome sounds exceptionally unfair..
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 09:57 AM
1

I've always heard there's physical vs mental addiction. It's not addiction so much as dependence.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/21 06:48 AM
1

That's tough man. Have you thought about doing something that doesn't involve Marijuana, like maybe a couple weeks trip to a state or country where it's still illegal? It might give her time to sober up and get a glimpse of what reality is like.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/21 06:46 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter