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“But I’m a nice guy!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:29 PM
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I go back and forth wondering if I’m asexual as well. I used to by hyper sexual, but turns out that was all a reaction to trauma. Now that I’ve “dealt with” the trauma, and learned everything I have about men from FDS, I feel like I know too much to feel aroused by anything. Feeling desired/pursued used to be the biggest thing that turned me on, but now I just feel objectified by the same thing, which is a turn off. Even with the opportunity to be with a very attractive man, I just don’t want to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 04:05 PM
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I don’t like the idea of even putting my face in a catalog of women in their hand, thinking I’m an option. I’m not an option for you. You don’t even get to look at me and consider. Edit: thanks for the awards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:56 PM
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omg thank you but shhh don’t tell anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:39 PM
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Back in gothic romance times, we called these men fortune hunters, and yes, historically they were men. So sorry this happened, you must be so disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:44 AM
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It’s almost funny how much the article painting us in a bad light sounds like an Onion article making fun of FDS criticism. “Can you believe women are encouraging women to not date mentally ill, broke men??? It’s practically genocide!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:22 PM
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In my early 20s I went through a period of feeling so much like something was wrong with me because men were continually losing interest after 3 dates. If I tried to delay sex, they lost interest. If I had sex, they immediately ghosted. I so wish I had FDS back then instead of wracking my brain trying to figure out what I was doing “wrong.” All those dudes were ZVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:05 PM
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I don’t understand who this works on. If a guy acted like this on a date, I’d assume he wasn’t very into me and end the connection there, even pre FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:44 PM
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What is with the pilot analogy? This boy cannot stop talking about being a pilot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:18 PM
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Wow, thank you so much for your incredibly thoughtful and informative post. I truly appreciate the time you spent writing this. It definitely does deserve it’s own post. I LOVE Why Does He Do That. It was the first book I read that alerted me to the fact I was in an abusive relationship and helped me leave my ex husband. And I will definitely check out the other resources you mentioned. I also relate to a lot of what you’ve pointed out here. (I also recently was diagnosed with ASD!) But above al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:15 PM
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I know this is a big ask, but can you elaborate? Because after dealing with my trauma, I’ve become essentially asexual, and I’d like to enjoy sex again, but in a healthier way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:08 AM
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I truly appreciate the work that everyone at FDS does, exposing themselves to this type of hate for all women’s sakes on our behalf. Before FDS, there were no messages or methods for true women empowerment. If I had found anything like this 15 years ago, my life would have been filled with much less abuse and wasted time. I am so grateful for what you all do and what you go through to continue spreading these life-saving messages. Yours are some of the only voices like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:29 PM
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I don’t buy it. If men actually wanted to be desired, they might try to… be desirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:13 AM
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“Most scientists agree that men’s brains are bigger than women’s.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:47 PM
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he didn’t have to, dumb scrote said it in front of me too 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:02 PM
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Sadly, I think it’s up to the individual whether they are ready to change or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:01 PM
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This used to be me. I dated an ugly guy because he actually treated me as valuable (and he was the first). I stayed with him for years of drunken and/or painful sex because I thought he was the best I would ever have and at least he was nice to me. I thought it made me more moral to not be “shallow.” Yet he watched me come from my busy job, work out, put effort into my looks, and never feel like he had to put any effort into himself. He was aghast one day when I suggested he shower every day. As…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:49 PM
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she drags people for lumping “all men” into a category and the very next sentence says she’s “not like other women.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:49 PM
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I’ve been negged as being “too quiet” my entire life by both men and women. Being reserved seems to make everyone around you uncomfortable and I have never understood what they expect me to be shouting about upon first meeting, at work, in class, etc. I have stopped taking offense to it and started accepting that this is how people receive me even though it’s not how I see myself. If it’s a problem for them, it’s their problem, not mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:32 PM
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Even at my MOST pickme, libfem self, I would not have been okay with my SO getting off to photos of my friends, for my sake and theirs! What a creep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:03 PM
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clearly he sees her as a free prostitute he’s entitled to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:04 PM
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So true. It’s like letting monkeys judge art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:25 PM
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I have been doing this lately; not acknowledging/pretending that I don’t even see men around me. I don’t hold the door for them, don’t look at them, don’t nod/smile. Any of those polite niceties just open the door for them to engage and they will take advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:54 PM
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I wish someone, anyone had told me this 20 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:08 PM
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Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:33 AM
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This and because they need to feel like they’ve “still got it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:20 AM
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Agree agree agree. For the longest time I couldn’t figure out why I lost all attraction to my male partners after 6 months of dating. Every time I’ve lost interest in sex, I think, am I asexual? Am I gay? But I don’t objectify women the way men do, so I can’t be gay? Like, it’s hard to even define yourself because all our examples our so male centric and objectifying of women. If I don’t look at a person and want to touch them, am I asexual? Truthfully I think sexuality is just much more complex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:11 AM
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9 awards. I’m done with Reddit today, and society forever. Can we have an all-woman island yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:15 AM
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just reading this made my whole body recoil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:27 PM
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I think he’s attracted to the performance of femininity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:30 PM
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I thought it was a pomegranate and it was taking me way too long to get it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:40 PM
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we actively advocate NOT picking up men. Wut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:14 PM
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that’s exactly what they’re asking. not wearing makeup to them must mean we don’t care about ourselves, not that we just don’t care about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:43 PM
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And when don’t wear it, they’ll say you’re not putting any effort into your appearance and how can you expect to date when you clearly don’t care how you look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:52 PM
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This is just another example of how they prey on our decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:15 AM
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“Obsessed” though? Isn’t that a LVM trait? I’ve always had a thing for guys who like me way too much too soon and it’s not typically worked out well. Currently with one who’s “obsessed” with me and he’s in therapy for being codependent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:51 PM
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Historically men have always been the fortune hunters. Doesn’t anyone read historic gothic romance anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:48 PM
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Right? Like what do you mean you just exist? Do something then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:16 AM
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Why stop there though? What we if all stopped having sex with men and dating them altogether? They don’t deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:22 PM
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Police won’t do shit and will just humiliate her more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:23 PM
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We are WAY too nice to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:48 PM
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My ex husband proposed to me while I was sick on his air mattress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:48 PM
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Why victim blame? When men make us uncomfortable, we respond in ways to not anger them to preserve ourselves. Of course he didn’t deserve a thanks. She said it out of shock and discomfort. I react this way and hate myself for it, too. It’s ingrained. It’s hard to stop. Obviously she already recognizes it’s fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:08 AM
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Yeah I really wish these messages had been around when I was 17.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:42 PM
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Why don’t these women get a puppy instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:33 AM
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This is sociopathic. So sorry you went through that. That’s traumatizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:21 PM
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“Focus on proving them wrong.” Wtf do you think we’ve been doing? You can waste your whole life trying to prove yourself worthy to someone who will never see your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:25 PM
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“In relationships, you need to show up for your partner. This goes back to that “shame” thing; we think if one person doesn’t want to have sex, we shouldn’t have sex.” Uh, we think that because anything else is rape. This article also compares sex to going to the gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:14 PM
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What is it with guys NEVER using the right “then” or “than”???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:28 AM
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Correction: LIFE is hard. LOVE is not. Love makes life easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:36 PM
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Repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:29 PM
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I made the mistake of arguing on that sub once, thinking it was going to be an actual intelligent exchange of ideas. These men’s minds are so warped by entitlement they can’t even write a coherent sentence. After one told me that not having sex with someone was a “manipulative game playing tactic,” I peaced out for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:23 PM
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Oh my God, the comments on that entire thread... I never want to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 09:26 PM
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What was he expecting by telling her this? I don’t any woman who would be allured by hearing a guy is interested in other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 02:07 PM
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Do any of you ladies actually find men attractive (ever) though? When we tell men they’re hot or whatever, I thought we were all pretending for the sake of their ego or trying to fit in or whatever. Even super “hot” men supposedly wearing some sexy outfit, I’m like ...so? Am I the only one who just doesn’t get it, or am I a lesbian and just haven’t realized it yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:58 PM
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I’m almost 30 and I don’t know a single woman who didn’t waste a huge portion of her 20s on LVM. I understand being scared that you don’t have other friends or resources, but it’s likely the reason for that is your boyfriend. He’s abusive, and likely isolating you from others. Even if he’s not doing it directly, he’s probably doing it in subtle, manipulative ways, making you feel like you have to be available to him, punishing you if you ever have plans outside of him, etc. It subconsciously mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:42 PM
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I wasted 5 years of my youth watching a boy play video games. Never again. Not even once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:57 PM
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I love this except for the part where she felt like she had to defend herself to the reader, “don’t worry, I’m no prude—I’m still having casual sex with other men.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:31 PM
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How long into a relationship should you let him get the bill? For instance, if you’re at the point of living together and splitting finances, should you alternate paying or still let him get dates? If you do alternate, how many months into dating do you let him keep paying? At what point do you start to split?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:43 PM
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I realized that my high level of empathy, what I thought was an essential trait, has actually been my greatest weakness. Why should I protect everyone else and give everyone the benefit of the doubt, when not only are they not doing the same, but they are taking advantage of this trait in me. I realized they knew exactly what they were doing and using me. Not just men, but women friends, too. I put everyone else before me, believing that good people do this and would return the favor. No one, no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:21 PM
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Exactly. And this isn’t even geared toward a stranger/hook up. This is supposedly a partner who loves you, that is going to coerce you into sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:13 AM
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Male pandering garbage. This is not just bad advice, it’s dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:12 AM
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More and more I’d like to live on an island of only women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 04:27 PM
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All the men commenting are saying “just own the photo and move on. What’s the big deal?” as if her shame is the problem... makes me want to scream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 02:28 PM
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That makes sense, thanks for your response!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:20 PM
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The objectification does bother me, which is why I don’t like giving him photos of myself. I want him to be attracted to me though, so I’m not sure how I feel about it. Aren’t all men visually stimulated? I’m definitely open to other perspectives on the issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:23 PM
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Presenting casual sex as “empowering” for women is the biggest patriarchy win of the century.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:58 PM
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I’ve been on the fence about this lately. I have an extremely low sex drive and my partner has an extremely high sex drive. He watches porn (very vanilla porn with solo women that look like me exactly—I know this is exclusively what he looks at because I saw his extensive collection when we first got together) and gets off several times a day. I’ve given him a few photos myself and he typically uses those when I’m not in the mood. He’s also always ready and willing and excited about our sex life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 08:44 PM
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I’ve heard the same and I think it’s LVM behavior. They’re insecure because they think if you don’t “need” them, you’ll leave, so they leave first. My current SO has said he feels the same, but it just makes him try harder to add value to my life to keep me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:56 PM
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I have two questions: does FDS have a political affiliation? I see a lot of posts saying derogatory things about “libfems,” and I’m wondering what they mean by this or if there’s an official party platform. Also, what does this group think of Matthew Hussey? I used to listen to him a few years ago and found him helpful but it was before I found this sub. Thanks for the info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:39 PM
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Good thing he kept his pride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 09:18 PM
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“I worry that she’s not as sexual as me” as if not being sexual enough is the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:32 PM
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They want naturally beautiful flawless women who are magically “low maintenance” without any effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:16 PM
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How are they so dumb too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:02 AM
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My ex husband would say this almost word for word. “You telling me I’m abusive is abusive because it makes me feel bad.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:40 PM
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This hits too close to home. I’ve had to have numerous discussions with him about groping and spying. He’ll be good for a few weeks/months, but then he “forgets” I don’t like it. I feel like a goalie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:39 PM
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I am so sorry you went through that, and I’m glad you found that some good came from reporting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:34 PM
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There are so many reasons to not report. I reported mine and the experience with the police was just as traumatizing as the event. I wouldn’t do it again. Reporting is an option, but a really tough one. It’s not just about holding men accountable. It’s about putting the victim through even more trauma. If a woman wanted to report I would stand behind her 100%, but I would never pressure someone to do so who was wary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:08 PM
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Women aren’t rewards, we’re people. What is with this transactionary mind set that sex is given by women when men work hard enough? Last I checked sex was something two people decide to do together because they want to. If a man is working hard on himself, good for him! That doesn’t mean anyone owes him sex. I work very hard on myself as well and would never in a million years think some man OWED me sex (or a relationship) because of work I did on myself for myself. I’d hope someone would want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 11:18 PM
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I don’t see what it has to do with utility at all. Not wanting to have sex with someone means I want their money? are you high?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 10:59 PM
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Whether or not that’s true (maybe some men do feel this way), you still didn’t answer my question: how is it some strategy or game on my part if I don’t want to have sex with someone before I know if I want a relationship with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 10:10 PM
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I’m not saying it’s not sad to not be able to form a romantic relationship. The post is about valuing women in this age demographic over all other aged women. Women in this age category are valued because they are seen as more fuckable. It’s also no one’s job to validate these men. Maybe if they can’t get a date, they should do some self examination and find out what they’re doing that’s so off putting. (hint: it could be their attitude of entitlement).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 10:04 PM
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How is it a strategy or playing games to not want to have sex with someone before you both know if you want the relationship to move forward?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 09:42 PM
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I didn’t realize 18 to 24 year old hotties were the only people capable of dispelling loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 09:33 PM
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So no source then? Cool. Honestly it sounds like we just live on different planets sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:47 PM
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How do they do this, may I ask? Because the women I see are way hotter and have their shit together more than the men they date. I see woman upon woman settling down down down. (Myself included in the past). So I guess our issue is that we genuinely live in different realities. Edit: also do you have a source for the so-called “pathological superficiality” you claim “all women” have?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:40 PM
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Yeah, I was sexually abused in my teens so I would take involuntary celibacy in that era over that any day. Yet I don’t punish the current men in my life for what I went through in my past... hmmm..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:35 PM
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You’re saying it’s women’s shallowness that’s the problem but they’re the ones who feel they “missed out” if they didn’t get to bang a hot 22 year old? Do you see the double standard there? Also if it’s women’s “shallowness” that’s the problem, you’re admitting the women they’re after are objectively hotter than them. So why do they get to look like shit and get with someone who puts more effort into their appearance? And women are the ones who are shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:31 PM
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This is just another example of women being valued for a youthful beautiful body over all else, and for some reason men feel entitled to getting a piece of that. The men who dated me during this era or my life treated me like a prize and I didn’t know to expect anything better. Now, at 29, I’m smarter, more successful, have realistic career goals, dress and look better than I ever have. And I don’t think my current SO feels he “missed out” on my “best years” when we hadn’t even met. Who was I pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 04:27 PM
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I’ve dated men for long periods of time who have approached me both ways, so either can work. If you’re cold approaching, I’d stick to arenas where women are looking to or at least expecting to get approached (bars, night life, online dating, etc.) I would stay away from approaching women at the gym, grocery store, etc. because 1) it’s such a long shot that she’s single, looking, and interested in you in particular, and 2) people are just trying to get shit done and are more likely to be annoyed…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 12:12 AM
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New to FDS but see where they’re coming from most of the time. However some stances seem reactionary. For one, I would never ask a man’s height because I don’t want him to focus on the physical so why would I focus on the physical? (lead by example). I also have a hard time getting on board with requiring them to pay for everything. I don’t understand the logic here. Don’t we ideally want to find a partner that values us for us, and we value them for them? Let’s drop the whole money/sex exchange…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 09:52 PM
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Newish FDSer here and I couldn’t agree more. Men should take more responsibility for preventing pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 09:41 PM
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When I was in high school, my boyfriend’s sister’s son (8-10 years old) would act similarly. He’d try to barge in on me while I was changing when we’d stay with them and hold up my bikinis to my chest to “see what they’d look like,” etc. It made me so uncomfortable. And I was so insecure and uncomfortable around the whole family I didn’t know what to do. Didn’t help that the boyfriend was already sexually abusive and his whole family constantly turned a blind eye, letting him hide away in his ro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:02 PM
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yes. men see you as a prize. I’m a thin woman who looks young and the men who are attracted to me generally want to use me to get revenge on some girl who wouldn’t give them the time of day in high school, and then discard me. When a guy is initially interested in me before getting to know me, I have learned to be extremely wary. Their entire attitude is possessive and abusive and vengeful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:54 AM
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I totally feel you on this with one exception: Wally Lamb. He regularly has his works in progress evaluated by women for authenticity (I know this because my best friend was one of these women during her Ph.D. program). I was pleasantly surprised when I read She’s Come Undone, although I’m sure there are some flaws I’m not seeing. But otherwise, I completely agree and have less and less tolerance for male writers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:49 PM
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and instead we were traumatized with photos of herpes and told to sign abstinence cards...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:08 PM
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You know what else is hard to unlearn? Deep rooted beliefs that you owe men whatever they expect from you, that they get to dictate how you behave, that you’re only worth what men value you for, and that self protection is less important that social acceptance. IDGAF that men have to unlearn entitlement and learn respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:06 PM
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Any dude who uses the term “friendzone” only values women for as fuckable objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:31 PM
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Where can I find this show it sounds perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:21 PM
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