illlbeback Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Spreadsheet for day to day recording		illlbeback	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/25 09:16 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	Damn. She is going super low now even for her Shit mate, exactly what I fear the most of what's to come. In my case it would not surprise me one bit if it happens. I can imagine the stress and anxiety this causes and to be told to go relax is quite lame. But definitely go do some activities to keep your mind from spinning. I'm at the gym right now to clear my head from last night's lies. Duck and weave mate.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/25 11:47 PM
2	1 year later I hope it will only be one year, but I'm pretty sure this will stretch further for me. Good for you to have held your head high and pulled through. I've had big lows, but it's these sort of messages and the few friends I have left that keep me going, so thanks for sharing and power on.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/10/25 05:49 AM
2	Your best friend just got done with is divorce, what are some advices and tips to help him? Great idea. I'm in Australia, but came from Holland and have had real trouble making friends, the ones I do have have all been approached by my stbxw and a few distanced themselves from me. Lucky some saw through the tactic, but it has been a bitter pill to swallow to see some fall for it so easily. I'm worried I lean too much on my left over friends for support and guidance, so your idea might open up some knowledge from people in the know. I just want to be able to see them and have a laugh an…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/25 06:03 AM
7	Wife cheated during separation I'm with you, I myself always react to quick, I've learned to let the anger, frustration calm and think of the consequences if I react. More often I don't do it and someone else says something or the incriminate themselves, like you said comeuppance/karma do the trick	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/25 03:22 AM
1	Spreadsheet for day to day recording Thanks, I'm a bit late starting as I didn't think this shitshow would happen to me, but better late then never	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/25 02:10 AM
1	Spreadsheet for day to day recording Did you make that yourself, or would that be available through a website. I'm not overly knowledgeable with exel to be able to figure out how to put that together.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/25 10:54 PM
8	Too weak to divorce Amazingly similar situation, I was In your shoes but held on an additional 20 years. I wish I could go back to 4 years and do it then. I don't know your situation, but my wife has all the hallmarks of a narcissist and she'll never change. Going through hell now, but so happy that I finally made the move Mate if you tried the options and it just doesn't feel right, get out now and rebuild. You will come out on top eventually, that's what everyone keeps telling me and I'm clinging to that.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/25 05:01 AM
4	Coming to grips with it all... I'm going through the process myself after 23 years. What I don't understand is that guys let themselves be thrown out of the house. My wife keeps telling me to leave, because she doesn't want to look at me, but I refuse, as it is my house as much as hers. Stay strong my man, because it's seems to be time to move on. I can't yet comprehend the loneliness still to come and all the steps to go through, but the knowledge that I need this helps me no end.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/25 05:18 AM
2	TO ALL MEN EXPERIENCING DIVORCE - USE IT OR NOT Swimming in jelly, is funny enough exactly the right wording for how I'm feeling.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/25 09:53 AM