imacarpet Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	How do I gauge whether a girl is single or not? Why would being at a house party make any difference? What are you scared of?	/r/seduction	04/03/13 01:53 AM
5	How do you guys handle the friendzone? The friendzone doesn't exist.. A girl either likes you as a person or not. If she likes you, she might want to sleep with you. If she doesn't want to sleep with you, then there is no big deal. Either keep her as a friend or don't. But either way, move on and find someone who actually does want to sleep with you. If a disproportionate number of women don't want to sleep with you, then become more attractive. Work on your facing and destroying the fears, insecurities and complexes that make you un…	/r/seduction	04/03/13 01:46 AM
12	Bang With Friends It's not a problem if you don't care what she thinks.	/r/seduction	07/02/13 01:28 AM
2	I let go tonight. It's all in your head. They honestly don't care. Just enjoy yourself.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 06:47 AM
1	Creative ways to get a girls number! oh dear god no	/r/seduction	01/02/13 06:26 AM
1	I keep zoning out and getting in my head too much Minimum of 30 minutes a day in a single sitting. I try to sit for an hour. So on a good day, I get in two hours. I practice mindful watching of breath and metta bhavana.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 06:23 AM
2	Creative ways to get a girls number! Not really, no. Given a choice between pretending to be confident on one hand, and being authentic on the the other hand, I'd try to be real. Hiding behind the Player Mask is one of the worst things you can do. In the long run it messes up your game. Gone unchecked it can mess up your life. Don't pretend to be something that you are not. Just do the scary thing. If you do the scary thing often enough, it become less scary. Your fear will have less power over you. And guess what this does process…	/r/seduction	01/02/13 06:20 AM
2	I keep zoning out and getting in my head too much Acquire presence. Ingredients: Regular physical excercise. (hit the gym bro). Regular meditation.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 04:56 AM
2	Creative ways to get a girls number! You could just actually tell her how you feel. "Y'know, I feel like an awkward teenager asking this, cos you are so hot. But, can I have your number?" No need to hide behind a mask of assumed alpha-ness. Just be straight up.	/r/seduction	01/02/13 04:09 AM
3	Creative ways to get a girls number! You are doing it wrong! First, check the wind direction. Then, depending on where the wind is coming from, perform a triple-backwards sommersault, and sacrifice three chickens to the seduction gods! Anything else isn't Real PickUp!	/r/seduction	01/02/13 04:07 AM
1	Once the opener has happened, i am having a hard time transitioning into the conversation. its the next thing i say i find i am bad at. Is this from your experience? Or is this something that you've read? I approach directly most of the time simply because I can't be bothered pissing around. I've got average looks and I approach very beautiful women. And it works. If it's boring for her, it's because you are supplicating, like the other guys who do it. So don't supplicate while you are doing it. In fact in my experience, the beautiful women that I approach consistently say something like "This has never happened to me before". T…	/r/seduction	13/01/13 07:37 PM
1	Once the opener has happened, i am having a hard time transitioning into the conversation. its the next thing i say i find i am bad at. The difference between an experienced seducer and an AFC, if they both say "Hi, you are really cute, I had to meet you..." lies in where they are coming from. A guy who is good with women is likely to get a better response because a woman can tell that he is confident and unnattached to outcome. He isn't supplicating. No matter what you say, your personality shines through your words. People pick it up. Women pick it up. I'm not sure if I can help you with examples. I know that there's some foot…	/r/seduction	13/01/13 01:00 AM
2	Once the opener has happened, i am having a hard time transitioning into the conversation. its the next thing i say i find i am bad at. Disregard AtticusSeduction. Women actually like it when guys like them. Approaching directly is fine and will get you results. Keep approaching directly. From where I'm sitting it looks like your issue isn't 'technique'. It's mindset. You are kind of overthinking and not quiet relaxed enough. The confidence isn't quiet there. If you keep approaching directly, that confidence will come. One of the things about being open with your intent is that puts you out there. You are doing something scary. …	/r/seduction	13/01/13 12:09 AM
2	Taking a step back: the more experience you gain in-field, the less you approach. I think mass-approaches are good for at least one-thing: getting over your initial fear of approaching. Teaching your brain that you aren't going to die when you get rejected. Beyond that, I reckon it's fine to become more selective, and approaching for your own reasons.	/r/seduction	06/01/13 12:24 AM
3	Taking a step back: the more experience you gain in-field, the less you approach. I've been noticing this myself lately. I don't think it's such a bad thing. I think what happens is that when you start learning, you start doing mass-approaches. At some point your social intelligence kicks back in, and tells you that what you are doing is kinda weird. Over the last few weeks I've been going out during the daytime a lot. In that time I haven't been doing a lot of approaching. Sometimes, where I would have approached before, I don't. Something in my head stops me. I just don't f…	/r/seduction	05/01/13 09:25 PM
7	Forgetting a girl you like without hurting her? Just talk to her and tell her. It's what a friend would do. You don't have any reason to feel guilty. You haven't done anything wrong. You obviously like her and want to do well by her. So just tell her. She might feel pain about it. You can't really protect anyone from their own feelings, and it's not your job to do so. But if you do respect her as a person, just be talk with her and be honest about what is happening for you. Wouldn't you want her to do the same thing?	/r/seduction	05/01/13 12:30 AM
2	What exactly were this guy's mistakes? Being a complete dork. A friend of mine introduced me to the idea of "The Game Hammer". The idea was that an inexperienced guy will just keep repeatedly hitting the girl over the head with "game", as if "game" is a magic percussive tool. As if, if you keeping hitting the girl with game, she will eventually drop her pants for you. The guy in the video seems to have this idea. He rolls up with a ready-made persona, hides behind it and deploys completely uncalibrated routines. When he she doesn't r…	/r/seduction	04/01/13 12:47 AM
2	So you got her back in your place, you are talking, you tell her she is special, she asks how? You fuck up. How do i not fuck up next time? Why would you tell her she is special without meaning it or being able to back it up? It's not as if this compliment will help you get closer to intimacy. You don't have to lay on the compliments to get laid. How do you compliment her without giving her too much power? By being unattached to outcome. If you are saying the compliment in order to get a reaction then you are giving up power. If you don't get the reaction you want, you might be dissapointed, or end up feeling uncertain about how to …	/r/seduction	03/01/13 11:52 PM
6	I am Arash Dibazar - Master PUA and Coach of the Year for 2012. AMA Given that you have no comment history other then this one, my spidey senses continue to tingle.	/r/seduction	03/01/13 09:40 PM
64	I am Arash Dibazar - Master PUA and Coach of the Year for 2012. AMA I'm uneasy with Arash posting the answers on a youtube video rather then posting them here. It seems like it's just a tactic to funnel reddit users to his company, and to generate marketing content. It also detracts from the point of reddit, which is to create conversation.	/r/seduction	03/01/13 11:06 AM
0	What do you talk about right after you approach? I wouldn't entirely disagree with that. I prefer daygame over clubs, so that's where most of my success comes from. But I also like to get to know people/women for who they are in clubs and bars, and I've had some success there. And from my experience in clubs I've found that it's worth putting some energy into just being chill and getting to know each other. Do whatever works for you, but this is what I've found: If you are "high energy club guy" all the time, then women will see you like that,…	/r/seduction	03/01/13 10:54 AM
8	What do you talk about right after you approach? "Boring conversation stuff" is probably fine most of the time. I did a run of daygaming recently, and got great results. Basically, I approach directly ("Hi. You are gorgeous, so I wanted to meet you"). And then I ask her to tell me a little about herself. So of course, the conversation does go to "hobbies and jobs and stuff", like you say. But I don't see that as a problem. If a woman is curious about you, then she's happy to open up and tell you about herself. Keep it light and have fun. Like …	/r/seduction	03/01/13 01:58 AM
2	This archive is well worth your time this really is the ultimate in seeking validation from women And also the ultimate in seeking validation from other men. This is one of the things I hate about the community. So many guys are in it to prove something to the guys around them. Many of the guys who do this don't even realize that they have this motivation.	/r/seduction	02/01/13 09:06 PM
1	Light Reads: Should I Start With "The Tao Of Badass" Or are Authors such as David DeAngelo Better? Mostly, get experience. This is much more valuable then reading time. I recommend: Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking	/r/seduction	02/01/13 08:37 PM
2	Howerd Stern interviews Niel Strauss for an hour about "The Game." Yeah. Totally agree. I've got an idea about this: Neill's job is to sell a story. So he has this story to tell about a period in his own life. Neil might be aware of the "state of the art" of game these days. But the gameplan of most players is so simple compared to the technical approach taken in his book. This presents a problem or two: without a Master Key System to present to lonely frustrated guys, the book and his story lose a powerful hook for potential new readers. I'm not saying that th…	/r/seduction	02/01/13 08:24 PM
2	How do I close a girl who is being held back by the fact that her friend likes me ? There is no problem here. You can only take responsibility for the things you can control. Everything else is out of your hands. I would hate for it to get in the way. Is it in your way? Doesn't sound like it. You know what you want and you have done your best to make your vision happen. Good on you. You should feel good about that. It sounds like the situation is in her way. There's nothing you can do about that. It's her responsibility to deal with her internal conflicts. She knows what you wa…	/r/seduction	01/01/13 06:34 AM
7	How do you handle if someone wants to fight you while with a girl? You don't have to eat a plate of shit just because someone offers it to you. I'm a skilled fighter who has been in street fights. But there's no reason to get involved in a fight unless there's a genuine threat to personal safety. If a dude just offers me a fight, I'll tell him that he's tougher then me, and that he's already won. "No way man, you'd kick my ass. You are a better, harder man then me. I'm totally sorry for offending you. You win." The tougher we are, the more secure a woman will f…	/r/seduction	01/01/13 02:36 AM
5	Let's take a break from theory! What's the funniest thing that has happened to you while out sarging? Oh yeah, that reminds me of another one. Me and wing open two attractive korean women at a bar. We joined their table. After about half an hour we discover that they are mother and daughter.	/r/seduction	01/01/13 02:11 AM
57	Let's take a break from theory! What's the funniest thing that has happened to you while out sarging? Met a really pretty girl in a nightclub. Very pretty eastern european. We got on really well. Didn't go home together. Next day we texted and arranged to meet up at a cafe. When I got there, there was a really cute eastern european girl sitting there. I didn't know if it was my girl or not. Thinking... thinking... oh fuck it, lets take a risk... I went over with a big warm hello. She responded warmly. I sat down with her and chatted. After about 10 minutes she said "Um... do we actually know eac…	/r/seduction	01/01/13 12:30 AM
4	A question about the 3-second rule Personally, I think the 3-second rule has limited value. I think it's great for newbies getting started. It can help guys get over fear of approaching. But after a while I think it's ok to drop it. I don't know how you know when you are at that point though. Personally, I like size up the situation first: Is she really my type? What is going on with her group? I guess questions like that could turn the brains excuse generator, and that's why newbies should follow the 3-second rule. Usually after…	/r/seduction	30/12/12 10:03 PM
1	Is this strategy of making my intentions clear sound? I went on a few dates and I got friend-zoned, I think, because I didn't do any kino... For starters, you can never really tell where a girl is at. You can never tell why a woman decides to take things further with you or not. Sure, physical contact is a great ingredient in flirting. But you can't pin lack of desired outcome on "lack of kino" all the time. Maybe she simply wasn't interested in taking things further. Maybe you aren't her type. Maybe she has other stuff going on. You can never tell…	/r/seduction	30/12/12 09:29 PM
2	How do I close a girl who is being held back by the fact that her friend likes me ? I don't get it. What exactly is difficult about the situation? Your girl has a friend who is attracted to you: this is a problem? Who is it a problem for? Someone is experiencing guilt. Not your problem. Our emotions are our own responsibility. So what exactly is the problem? Perhaps your girl is feeling torn between you and her friend. No big deal. She is the one experiencing uncertainty. Let her make any neccessary decisions. Encourage her to figure out the best solution to her problem. Even i…	/r/seduction	30/12/12 09:18 PM
3	Starting to get feelings for my fwb. What to do? Resisting the feelings you have will be bad for you in the long run.	/r/seduction	30/12/12 09:08 PM
1	how does seddit feel about sandwich_witch comment that made the front post? The reason why we all get the blame for it is that the majority of sexual violence outside of prison happens to be make violence against women. I think that part of being a good man is taking the reality of women seriously. And part of the reality that women have to live with is living in a world dominated by men. A world that blames victims of sexual violence for their own rape. A world in which women are likely to be raped by men that they know and trust. A world rich in media that tells young…	/r/seduction	30/12/12 06:57 AM
3	Stranger Kisses 3 Women In Mall - Justin Wayne Infield Pickup Day Game Kiss Close howcome?	/r/seduction	30/12/12 06:33 AM
1	Two successful #-closes last night, second girl asked me to be her date for a friend's birthday dinner tonight. Tips on how to proceed? What are you afraid of? Why not just go along and have fun.	/r/seduction	30/12/12 06:25 AM
2	How do I escalate in my home? I had this problem massively recently. Maybe I still do. I broke up with my long-term gf a few weeks ago. I started going out during the daytime and meeting women straight away. I brought a couple of them back to my place. When I brought them back, I was like "Fuck. What the fuck do I do? I've totally forgotten everything! I'm as rusty as fuck!" I'll recount my experiences backwards. This is what I did with the second girl: So we came back to my place and hung out. I directed her to my room, and…	/r/seduction	30/12/12 06:17 AM
1	Your response to girls that are cold and uninterested? As a guy who is just out to have a good night, have fun and meet interesting fun people, there's no reason for me to stick around. If a girl wants to be left alone, there's no reason why a guy shouldn't want to respect that.	/r/seduction	28/12/12 10:40 PM
1	Probably the wrong place for this, but can anyone relate, offer advice? /r/NoFap Watch the video in the sidebar	/r/seduction	28/12/12 10:09 PM
2	How did you guys begin to improve and change yourselves? What did you stop or start doing? Broke up with my girl of three years a few weeks ago. Partly thanks to solid meditative practise, I got over it really quickly. I've only approached about ten girls over the last three weeks. Also, at least partly thanks to the meditation my performance has been great. (Of the ten girls I approached I now have 2 playbuddies) So before I started my recent 'campaign', I asked myself if I should do vipassana. The slightly crazy thing is that of the 10 girls I've approached, three of them had recent…	/r/seduction	28/12/12 01:59 PM
1	Seddit, I am afraid sleeping with a lot of women will devalue/unholify sex for me. Please explain. Ultimately, make decisions based on your own priorities and your own values. If you want to minimize the number of your partners, even down to one, then good for you. Do what works for you. However, I will say this: The 'specialness' (or holiness or whatever) of your relationship with any one woman is not dependant on your relationship with other women unless you really want it to be. Sex is a pretty awesome, unique way to communicate. But having sex with someone doesn't make sex with anybody el…	/r/seduction	27/12/12 03:06 AM
2	Looking at pictures of my ex and came to self-actualization instead of feeling emotion like a beta would. Because feeling emotions is a beta thing to do? Good on your for getting over negative emotions about your old relationship, if that is what has happened. However, if you have bad feelings when thinking about an ex, it is because there are things going on in your head that have not been resolved yet. In my personal opinion, the most adult thing to do is face those feelings. Address them directly on their own terms: why are they there? What are they telling you? How can you be at peace? "Negative…	/r/seduction	25/12/12 02:00 AM
1	how do i learn to do "party" conversations? Cultivate the mode of consciousness called "having fun". Getting out of your head and into your body, the present moment and "fun mode" is a thing that can be cultivated. For you, this will take time and effort. Start doing things that get you out of your head: theatresports and dance might help. Something like latin dance, where you can get into "fun mode" once you've acquired some skill. Expose yourself to lots of standup comedy.	/r/seduction	21/12/12 11:49 PM
1	I'm in high school and could use some advice Take Risks. Don't make pickup/seduction your focus. Take your time. Don't be hard on yourself. Don't make pickup/seduction your focus: You've got a lot of life-skills to learn in your path, along with whatever professional skills that you want to acquire. You have decades ahead of you to learn seduction. You won't be missing out if you put learning seduction on the back-burner for months or years at a time. Pickup is addictive, and focussing on it can mess people up. Take Risks: I think that tho…	/r/seduction	21/12/12 11:26 PM
1	Are you gay? "I'm gay for you"	/r/seduction	21/12/12 11:11 PM
3	I don't drink & I feel like this negatively affects my game Limiting your selection pool to people that have made similar lifestyle choices to you, may not be such a bad thing. I've got a similair "problem". I hardly ever drink at all. I don't like being around drunk people. I prefer daygame, because although it takes more time, the candidates just aren't there for me at the clubs. This might not be the ideal solution for everyone though.	/r/seduction	21/12/12 10:59 PM
2	What useful, easy-to-learn, skills should a well-rounded gentleman have? I'm about 6 foot one. I'm taller then both of the other guys were. My girl also mentioned that they didn't expect me to be so tall. I don't look like a fighter though. Which of course is all the more reason to have some training in this department.	/r/seduction	19/12/12 12:35 AM
9	What useful, easy-to-learn, skills should a well-rounded gentleman have? Holy crap. Weird that this should happen tonight. Like, after I made that comment earlier. But I just rolled out some combatatives pre-fight skill on a day two. But this just happened: I met the girl in a big open square. A couple of rough types, drunk and holding beer cans drifted towards me and my girl. One of them gets right up close to me. Starts doing that thing where was being ostensibly friendly, but was really just getting really into my personal space. His front open hand was right in f…	/r/seduction	18/12/12 11:16 AM
2	What useful, easy-to-learn, skills should a well-rounded gentleman have? fighting	/r/seduction	18/12/12 03:21 AM
1	How does one deal with a relapse of their one-itis ? Those feelings come from something inside you. Your imago of her is just an excuse for your mind to throw those feelings up to you. In reality the feelings are independant of her existance. I don't think that there's really a 'game way' of dealing with feelings about a woman. I get 'oneitis' every time I see a girl that I'm really attracted to. It's just part of the game, as far as I can tell.	/r/seduction	14/12/12 04:41 AM
3	Gaming for 10+ years and I've reached a plateau. Still missing something... Something about this seems a little off for me. I'm not sure exactly what but I'll try and break things down a little... You say that you've been in the game 10 years and "10's" won't give you the time of day. You think that this is because you are broadcasting intent. I don't see what the problem is with "broadcasting intent". This shouldn't be a problem. If there is a problem it could be "broadcasting neediness", or "broadcasting attachment to outcome". In my experience, 7's aren't so differen…	/r/seduction	14/12/12 04:38 AM
1	Share thoughts and strategies on staying "in state" Agreed. "State" can be a useful metaphor. But it can also be a crippling one. Best to dispense with the idea of it if it holds a player back.	/r/seduction	08/12/12 06:36 AM
1	General anxiety when I'm with a woman. Is it a medical issue? meditate	/r/seduction	21/11/12 11:16 PM
1	Help with escalating above kissing/making out Sounds to me that it could help if you worked on getting the girl out of a public place. Try this: Let her know that you like her, and you'd like to get to know her a bit. Maybe somewhere a bit less public, like a nearby bar or venue that is quieter. Get her to your second place, connect with her emotionally, and then try moving her back to your place.	/r/seduction	24/10/12 03:37 AM
6	How to get rid of subconscious approval seeking? It's something that you will probably work with for most your life. This is my experience anyway. Once you think you've made some progress, you realize that big parts of your behaviour are based on seeking external approval to make up for some subconcious inadiquacy. "The community" naturally attacts people who feel inadequate, because it offers the possibility of all kinds of external validation. Throughout our whole lives we have been told by TV, movies and commercials that having choice with …	/r/seduction	24/10/12 02:47 AM