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This is plain bad advice, RPW or not. Creating a potential argument to “make a point” is not how life works. I was highlighting the RPW part because you’re supposed to be all about it, but this is the exact opposite of how it’s supposed to work.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:06 PM
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I thought one of the main parts of RPW were being direct and not playing games that you expect the other to mind-read 🤔.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:07 AM
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Are American men so cheap that women feel like a man who pampers them are special? Come on. In my experience from dating men from several countries, they find it extremely easy to spend on women - actually, SPLURGING - unless they are extremely stingy! This mean absolutely nothing if the respect and emotional support isn’t there. Even if the man hasn’t got much money and worked hard to earn it, it might mean nothing at all. I expect being treated with gifts and nice dates as one of the minimum r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:37 AM
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No. Some LVM truly enjoy spluring on women they like. But is simply means nothing without real respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:22 AM
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👆Username checks out. Worst possible timing. It might open the door for the man to say it back without thinking and impair your ability to vet correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 01:44 AM
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💓I needed to read this.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 08:41 PM
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I have experienced attraction after several dates with two LTRs... the more I liked them, the better I started seeing them physically. I literally was so in love with one ex that I almost saw an imaginary six pack under certain light conditions. It wasn’t really there. On the other hand, I have dated hot guys whom I realized that I didnt feel attraction to and was irked when they kissed me or touched my hands, etc. My point is, physical attraction might be broader than “hot bod, not hot”. If his…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 10:32 PM
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This happened to me as well, although I’m pretty, my friends were much more. You gotta acept it and understand that when you go out with them, men will be drawn to them first. That means that you gotta try other ways to meet men without them. This can even mean going out with only 1 of your friends or going to different places by yourself or with other people.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 01:49 AM
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Buy the app BrainBuddy and try to talk (even videocalls) with someone all the time for the first week, which is the harder. These two have helped me the most!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/20 06:42 PM
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This might seem a simple detail but is a game changer if your partner is not the passionate-loving type during sex. He can change if he sees positive results for himself when pleasing you the way you like it and paying extra attention to your needs.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 01:43 AM
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I felt this with my current partner for several months, but I think my case was worse because I felt REALLY resentful and hurt. His way of having sex didn’t make me feel loved and didn’t feel really passionate TO ME (he said he liked it just fine). I felt it was too rough, and sometimes I felt like he didn’t even see me, that he didn’t care to please me. I started developing negative feeling towards him and sex in general, and shortly after he started feeling that I didn’t feel attraction to him…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 01:41 AM
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“I love him being crazy for me”. Simply speak with pride with no room for negotiation or further comments. I just smile, say I enjoy doing stuff he likes and nod my head once with absolute confidence. Nobody ever questions my decisions or would dare to tell me I’m being controlled.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 02:30 AM
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You make yourself feel like crap. The first step to real healing is recognizing your responsibility in your own life. I saw you blamed your family, brainwashing and your subconcious. In the end, it’s how you took what your family taught you, and how you have trained your brain to think and react. And if you don’t internalize that not even therapy can help you. If you can go to therapy, you should. Not to be submissive but to learn ways to rewire your thoughts and feelings towards these situation…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 09:25 PM
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What specific actions or steps have you been taking these last 6 years to change? For example, when anxiety from your ex partner being in danger arrives, what do you do? What strategies have you tried?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 05:52 PM
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I’m a professional makeup artist. I love makeup and I don’t consider my face the prettiest and I’m always tempted to contour heavily, but I only do if I’m going for example to a night party. I think the key is to see makeup as an improved version of a real human being. For example: - Using colors that may actually exist in a human body such as muted pinks, browns, and subtle peach, red (avoid fucsia, blue, bright pink, and if you wear red lips don’t do your eyes too dark). - Don’t wear too fluff…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:20 AM
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This. On top of what you said, there are cultural difference that also play a part. For example, in latin america the most heard story since forever is that men are more likely to cheat. Especially in older generations, it was the most common thing that women suffered alone at home while men went out and cheated. Grandmothers accepted it like something most women had to endure, with some lucky ones who found a man who loved them profoundly and didn’t hace eyes for nobody else.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 01:45 AM
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I’m sorry but is very unlikely! There are some men who choose to abstain for spiritual practices that don’t require their partners to follow the same path, for example yogis and taoists, but it’s unlikely that they’d want to date a woman who doesn’t, because those kind of men (the ones that choose chastity) are usually EXTREMELY commited to their practice. Another example I could think of (it’s not to be mean) is a man who is well below your SMV and are desperate to get you. Or that they think t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 12:57 AM
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My advice is: Look for social patterns for yourself that apply to your context, and ignore common online advice, because it’s probably written by americans, ESPECIALLY stuff about crafting and reading bios. The obvious thing would be: if you see a picture of a guy drinking at a party, that’s probably what you are going to get... a guy who likes drinking and partying. If he’s with two women side by side he wants you to think he’s got lots of chicks. Simply look for guys who seem nice and well ada…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 01:20 PM
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2.5 years, we broke up almost 4 years ago and I still think about him. It took me about 3 years to stop crying from our memories together. Mostly sad thoughts because although I’ve had other relationships and dated, I still haven’t fell in love and haven’t met someone who’s as caring, loving as he was, and who I get along so well with. Some days I lose my hope some other I’m hopeful I will meet someone who loves me better. Some days I still hate him because of some bad stuff he did to me after w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 12:24 PM
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This is condescending and inefficient advice. I’m sorry if it’s not the case, but looks like written by a pretty girl who can’t see past her own reality. OP is not a silly sweet summer child. In some circles what she says is true: men like them better blonde. For example, in my city even the ugliest blonde get more attention that a brunette. It obviously doesn’t apply to all cases, and DEFINITELY not everyone looks good with blonde hair. That specific thing should be determined by a professional…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 03:01 PM
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It’s actually very simple (not necessarily easy). Children love when you can see the world as a child, and are aware of their feelings and reactions. Keep your interactions HONEST, because kids can tell when you’re faking it. For example if she grabs your necklace, you take it off and look it in a way as a kid would: with wonder and curiosity. Maybe with a happy surprise face and an excited “WOW!”. Of course few adults would really feel wonder from something as a necklace, but you can truly feel…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 11:52 PM
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I didn’t read a single argument in favor of setting my sight on a poor man or someone who does manual labor. Looking for a hard working, committed man is already implicit in every RPW discussion. This character has random pieces of personality, goals and careers put together. Seems more like an elaborate “I’m not like the other women” story.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 02:14 AM
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Luckily for me and my friends things went ok with these kind of relationships. My mom, sister and sister-in-law also had older boyfriends when they were very very young. Everyone broke up, because that’s what you do when you’re a teenager. And you can’t protect your sister from heartbreak. Now as an adult I would definitely consider those 20-something guys who pursue teenagers to be losers. Some were hot or rich but weren’t pursuing a career and received money from parents. So they’d go for girl…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 04:55 PM
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23 year olds are sometimes inmature too. Most of my friends from highschool had 20-23 boyfriends and they broke it off for different reasons but the common denominator was inmaturity from the guy’s side. I don’t think is such a big deal. Definitely I was inmature when I was 16 but doesn’t mean that such a relationship is unsustainable. And most relationships at that age end anyway. Of course she should be careful of him not trying to take advantage of her age. But her being with a 16-18 year old…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 03:43 PM
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Sometimes I get stressed at my job and get unpatient and harsh with coworkers. I felt terrible so I put a daily reminder on my phone that says “be nice” and I “snooze” it every couple of hours . So far it has worked! I change the phrasing every week so that I don’t get fully accustomed to it and start ignoring it. You could try this but with a specific quality that you want to start practicing through the day for example: “give compliments”, “smile more”, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 03:13 AM
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Casual sex might be “health neutral” in some cases. There’s rarely absolute truths in life, after all. I’ve experimented and met many people around both drugs and promoscuity and I’ve noticed great similarity: while some people try out drugs/casual sex a couple of times and are otherwise completely healthy and normal ...there are some other people who are drug addicts/promiscuous. These people usually say that they are just enjoying their lives, that drugs or promiscuity are acceptable lifestyle…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 01:29 PM
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I understand you. I live in a somewhat conservative society and what I was rebelling against, was my society’s and my family’s rules. Sometimes I wish I could take it all back...But in the end I am grateful for it all because it gave me a deeper understanding of myself and life. All the pain made me search for knowledge that helped me recover my spirituality and understand my family’s wounds. Maybe it was all part of God’s and my soul’s path... after all, my experience is the only way I can talk…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 05:58 AM
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About the messed up cycle - it has happened to me as well. While I’m not in sync with the moon, my period became stable and also I have learned to feel many mental and spiritual phenomenoms that every woman has access to. I think it’s a much more complex thing than just having or not having casual sex. What u/carry2388 describes is clearly a transformation from unhealthy mindset anx habits to healthier ones. I think my period fixed itself after getting in tune with my desires and my femininity. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 03:36 AM
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DM me. I work with social media and may have more specific advise.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 02:55 PM
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This! You could make some research of your own and try to communicate better concrete suggestions (I have been making lots of research of other influencers and got some ideas. You wanna hear them?). Because he could create his own brand personality and make it not cringey. For example, if he’s not as big or ripped as he could be, he could start focusing on a niche of regular kind of men who want to improve themselves with humility and speak honestly about his journey or any difficulties that reg…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 12:10 AM
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It was an example of how relatable it is. Because it’s a prevalent thing in families around the world. My intention is not to keep arguing, by the way, so I won’t gwt involved in a sarcasm duel. I work on stats and reports of these kinds. We also study the phenomenom around the world. In England, 2/3 sexual abuse cases are perpetrated by family members and close friends. Source: Children’s Comissioner for England. 85% go unreported. 12% adults 16-59 had experienced sexual assault by the end of 2…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 08:49 PM
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Where do you thing the prevy uncle meme came from? Definitely not from Saudi Arabia or India. So I’d think twice about that “rape culture doesn’t exist in US , Canada and Europe”.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 08:18 PM
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The religious examples are two that I have worked with in my job. But the dynamic is the same with regular rapists. Victim reports rape, nobody believes her. She drops it there. You can’t change a word’s definition because you feel like it means something different. The definition of rape culture, is a culture that normalizes rape. Period. Maybe you’re skeptical of the current predominant debate in your society’s media about that topic. Or you are skeptical of certain ideas surrounding consent. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 08:08 PM
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You said clearly “I don’t believe in rape culture”. You’re confusing the term rape culture. Listen, I am 100% in favor of women taking precautions to avoid rape. I myself go out with a taser and a swiss knive in my purse and won’t be changing that. I agree that there’s a culture of victimhood that has gone so far to suggest that even if you don’t verbally disagree, men should know where to stop and magically guess what consent means for you. But what you describe as “rape culture” is NOT IT. You…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 02:16 PM
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Feminism is a global movement. It’s not a couple of specific actions that took place in a single country, in a single time frame. It takes more historical analysis to make those kinds of opinions. Could you cite some sources? I’d like to learn more about the historical process that you mention in your country.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 07:12 AM
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THIS. The good old family days are mostly an idealization of a desired future. I don’t think the case against feminism shouldn’t be about “going back to traditional values” because that would mean rejecting our current rights and embracing stuff like: marital rape, not being able to divorce your cheating, violent husband, and so on. I hope that new movements advocate for a different future that keep the best parts of the present systems, and protest against the negative parts. Life is not black …
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 07:07 AM
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I don’t think it’s oppressive, since no one is forcing you or keeping you to do anything. Peer pressure doesn’t count as oppression, by definition. I’m not trying to judge anybody here, but I’d like to encourage those who say they reject feminism as a whole, to keep an open mind and put a couple of things in perspective :) I explained in a previous comment that I work in a feminist organization in Latin America, what issues we work on, and a little about my personal experience and social context…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 03:53 PM
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I don’t know if it might be an American or European thing. I’ve NEVER encountered in real life one of those feminists I read about in here. I absolutely love everything else about RPW, but I’m pretty skeptical about the “feminism is evil” narrative. Unless you show me stats that confirm how terrible the majority of feminists in other countries are (not being sarcastic at all, 100% serious). I work at a feminist research organization in Latin America that works around topics such as: girls forced…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 01:31 AM
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OP, I kinda understand you. I’ve always been a dominant person. When I was a teen I thought that letting people know if I was feeling sad, embarassed or any emotion that I considered “weak” would make me look stupid. But you know, that’s a subtle example of mysogyny. You’re grouping feminine qualities in the “disgusting” bag. Being emotional, being vulnerable, etc. What worked for me was learning about “sacred femininity”. It’s mostly used in spiritual non religious practices, but it is very com…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 01:36 AM
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This, OP. If you communicate directly your needs, and start seeing him putting on more effort, appreciate him! I come from a family of hoarders and I used to be a very messy person and the amount of effort that it has taken me to change has been enormous and it has taken me YEARS of conscious effort to change, and I still have my messy relapses. So don’t expect overnight changes if he comes from a messy home.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:52 PM
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I agree with what you say about hair lenght! My ex boyfriends had really loved my short hairstyles. My current boyfriend says that he likes my long hair,but also makes lots of comments of how difficult to take care it is and he often combs my hair and recommends me products (that won’t work, but it’s cute that he’s trying to help!). I actually think he is trying to tell me that I might be better off with my hair shorter 👀. I also have curly hair and I had always suffered from dryness until I sta…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 04:05 AM
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This. I’ve told men I don’t feel comfortable going to their place, and they have always understood that I mean “I dont’t want to have sex with you”.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 02:02 AM
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This! OP, you probably think that you’re a good supportive girlfriend but this definitely sounds like mommy taking care of him. This is the simplest task after all especially if he’s not working. Truly lazy people don’t like accepting they are lazy. So he might tell you all kinds of things to rationalize his behavior but it just doesn’t make sense. When you want somethig, you do it...instead of sending your girlfriend to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 11:24 PM
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A chihuahua can provide and take care of you? Cool! /s Seriously, there’s lots of assumptions in this comment and it’s weird. Where did you get he’a a tool and she’s dry and controlling? Maybe he’s just rich and is able to do whatever he wants with his time, like driving his girl around so that she doesn’t have to take cabs - I don’t know. Maybe she gives him plenty of attention and he reciprocates in his own way. Or maybe she is actually a spoiled brat and he’s a tool, but we couldn’t know by O…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 03:11 AM
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Echo chamber.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 04:22 PM
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I think that other have covered things surrounding your relationship very well. I want to give you some advice on your yeast infections: don’t dismiss them as a purely biological thing. Emotions and trauma can comen to light through disease. I’m very serious. I started having chronic yeast infections as a virgin, and it wasn’t a hormonal, nutrition or higiene problem. I went to some of the best doctors in my city and nobody ever found the reason of my infections, they just told me it was nothing…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 05:59 AM
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It’s not crazy when his decisions are influential all over the world.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 11:57 PM
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This sound an awful lot like pornography addiction. It’s a serious thing. Two or three times a month is very alarming, especially right now that you’ve just started your physical relationship. I’m a recovering addict too, and it’s a hard thing. He might not even be able to recognize it or want to accept it to other person. Watchig porn every day is a real addiction and it rottens your brain and he might not even realize how bad it is yet. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/19 04:43 PM
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I also have several best friends and always have. Some of them consider me their only best friend, and some have other best friends as well. Its a personal thing, I think. But I have seen that most people can find one or two tops. I guess we're lucky in that aspect.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 05:21 AM
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I got here because someone at /nofap mentioned TRP. I was furious about everything I read. I checked out RPW because I couldn't undersand how could other women be in favor of such disrespect to women at TRP, and after reading a lot I understood that they were two separate things that serve two different purposes. And I've been reading for a couple of years since then as a way of self improvement and to learn about relationships ❤️.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 08:44 PM
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This is exactly me 😅 both the swearing and the stuctures of society ...Luckily I have reduced my drinking and also I've learned to shut up, drink water and stay still if I'm feeling buzzed. This has worked for me, people have told me that I don't look/sound drunk and I haven't felt embarassed ever since I started practicing actively shutting up.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/18 01:07 AM
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This should be sidebar material!! I started dating my first boyfriend with zero vetting skills. I stayed with him for two tumultous years and didn't even grasp the idea that there were more important things than falling in love. If I had gotten to this thread when I was younger, I'd never had fallen for his excuses (he gave almost every single excuse listed on this thread!). He knew I would leave at any moment, and manipulated me telling me that he would change in order to be able to marry me an…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 04:23 AM
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First: I don't think the main problem is the way you look. People who are weak will definitely get more shit from others. While being weak might get you trouble, being peaceul and conflict avoidant is a good way to go. Basically, if you let them, they will give you shit. Second, I understand when people make you feel like you're excessively groomed at school. I don't know if it's your case, because it seems uncommon to me that someone would think dresses or skirts are weird. Anyway, I managed to…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 11:18 PM
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Wow. This is very touching. In a different way I empathize a lot with you. May I ask what's the spiritual path you chose?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 05:38 AM
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I used to smoke weed daily and have been around lots of smokers. It's uncommon that they are both organized and efficient. I believe the mental clarity and energy you need to be organized (when you aren't naturally) is enormous. I quit weed 5-6 years ago, and I have been working exactly for a year in becoming organized. I'm finally adjusting and seeing results! I looked for youtube videos, read Marie Kondo's life changing magic of tyding up (several times), started using my bullet journal religi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 01:46 PM
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I think you're confusing things. There are men who enjoy women's company not only sex, but that doesn't mean commitment either. There's a whole spectrum between serious relationship and only sex. If you were sure about where you stand, you wouldn't be posting.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 01:30 PM
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No. Men can also enjoy the lovey stuff that comes with plates: the weekends, the meals, the meaningful conversations. But it may be temporary and doesn't mean plans for commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 06:07 PM
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Omg this is the sweetest thing ever 😭
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 07:30 PM
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I'm very young but I have a good career and professional image. I work full time at an advertising agency, but I freelance a lot, so I need to attract clients constantly. These are the things that I think have worked for me: I work HARD, and people know it. I research a lot in order to solve problems, bring new ideas to the table, and deliver results. I also do this with enthusiasm. This is very important because with this is how I back up my personal "elevator pitch". I built an image of being …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 07:10 PM
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This is true! I'm a makeup artist, and my ex boyfriends absolutely LOVED when I did heavy makeup with big, fake lashed and everything. But now that I'm single I wear less makeup so that I don't scare the men who don't like much makeup! I wear even less for first dates (enough for looking pretty),because if things go further, I wouldn't want him to be surprised by waking up with a different person , lol.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 02:07 PM
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YES , THIS!! I only have tattoos in my ribs, because I know that is one part of my body that will always be covered by clothes, so I don't have to worry about how to match my tattoos with stuff. For bikinis I go with simple shapes, in black or white , so that the colors on my tattoos won't look mismatched. Tattooed arms or legs look too asymetric for my taste, so if you're a symmetry freak like me, you migh want to skip the leg / arm tattoos because they will probably be at plain sight all the t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 01:59 PM
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It's not that simple. Porn addiction is a real thing, as much as alcoholism or drug addiction. Yes, it's definitely a symptom of something negative inside of him, but no love can change an addict, only himself. Fight the new drug and Nofap have very good resources on this. If he's not open to accept and battle his addiction, you'll be better better without him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 03:08 AM
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I'm a fan of making big and elaborate picnics, so I'd say keep the picnic casual: a few good snacks. It might be too soon to put too much effort at a time when you should be vetting his effort as well.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:32 PM
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I tried to quit for years, and finally I was able to do it. I still have some relapses from time to time, but I've improved SO MUCH. What have worked for me is: - Acrylic nails (I don't wear them anymore for budget reasons) - keep my nail kit in my purse everyday: if I feel like biting, I file them. I even file the sides of my fingers because I also used to bite the skin around. This has improved my nail shape (they get deformed from biting). If I see some skin hanging out, I cut it with cuticle…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 03:56 PM
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I'm a messy person in recovery. But I've made lots of improvement. My advice: Prep your breakfasts ahead! I make pancakes for the week (eggs, coconut/oats flour) and just put some fruit (bananas, or passion fruit that's even quicker) on top of it. Sometimes i make mug cakes the same day. When I want savory breakfasts I make coliflower pancakes (mashed coliflower and eggs) and spread cottage cheese on top. Practice your quick makeup skills. Choose your outfit the night before. If you carry stuff …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 03:37 AM
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You willingly entered a relationship with a guy's whos a mess, why are you complaining? He lives with her, he just divorced her, and she's the mother of his child. You really think that he would magically put you first in his priorities? Let's say that this situation by itself isn't crappy. If he wanted you, he would be kissing the floor you walked by to try to make up the fact that he's offering you the worst from day 1. Either he's completely crazy or he was fishing for low value women that wo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 03:08 AM
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Having boundaries vs. playing games (for example creating drama for the guy to prove he really wants the woman, or disappearing nonsensically so that the guy "misses her more")
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 12:16 AM
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Exactly. Most women in my socioeconomic class and upper, study in college, and when someone doesn't, it looks very suspicious as in: is she lazy ? Is she inmature and irresponsible? Does she have mental issues that don't allow her to study?. Exceptions that I have noticed: the ones who pursue non academic areas and have decent bussinesses going on, and the ones who are already super rich and get married young. In my area both men and women who are rich get married younger than other people who u…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 06:46 PM
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It's weird indeed. If they were having sex in the floor... Yea definitely knees are gonna hurt a bit, but on a bed it's almost impossible that you get knee pain, unless he's got a serious chronic condition. Many men would endure pain during a good sex session. My ex boyfriends have held me in their arms until exhaustion, fingered me until their forearms, and the list goes on. I've also done movements and positions that hurt, but the pain is minimal when you're really into the moment and especial…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 04:01 AM
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The way you phrase it isn't useful at all, because if she answered "x age", would your answer would have been the same: "go seek counseling" (duh). Not helpful, only mean.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 02:59 AM
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I think this works well with extended social circles. Not close ones because the awkwardness. I always ask for "references" of the guys that pursue me. But it's easier because I live in a small city, and my social network would be around 100 people. So most of the time I have a friend that knows the guy I'm dating, and I can ask about them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 03:24 AM
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Exactly. I'm pretty close with the music scene in my area. I consider this a red flag too. The girlfriends and wives of mucisians i know (lots of them) usually attend the gigs and they are usually the most enthusiastic fans. They usually party along with their partners. I would find it very weird that he doesn't want you to feel proud of seeing him play. I've seen that the ones who don't attend, are usually the ones who dont approve the crew's lifestyle. Is he a drinker or drug user? Are you? Or…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 12:52 AM
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Yes. I have a friend who's 27, is still married to the father of her 4 year old daughter , who lives in a different continent. They haven't even started the divorce. She is probably a 6, somewhat frumpy, her family background is terrible, has a past of riding the cc, drugs and partying... She's cleaned up, and she's very smart, funny and likeable. Anyway, she's dating AMAZING single, childless man, a solid 9, who's definitely a good person and leader. He'a got a lot of options (i know because of…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 08:45 AM
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Porn is lile alcohol for some people. There are some that enjoy it with control, and there are some that use it as a way to cope with life and become super messed up from it. There are cases of porn addiction, porn induced erectyle disfunction, and cases of people so desensitized by frequent porn use, that they can only be turned on by messed up stuff like animals, underage people, rape, gore... OP, I suggest you check out "fight the new drug" and r/nofap. It's a very supportive mostly male comm…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 12:55 AM
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I find the concept of sacred femininity very RP. It's all about accepting the streght of female qualities , empoweing yourself through love, and not anyone in who isn't in tune with the best of his masculine side.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 11:53 PM
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Relationship market value
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 01:52 AM
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There are different kind of bars. The one you go to sit down and have sime appetizers and a couple of nice drinks because they taste good, and the ones you go to drink cheap alcohol and get trashed.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 07:36 PM
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So manipulative!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 07:19 PM
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Agree with most, except for the end: it sound childish and insane for you, but every person is different. It might be just a custom for them to celebrate dating aniversaries. Where I live, dating for year usually indicates that the relationship is very serious, and most people celebrate dating anniversaries (even old people!) with getaways or fancy dinners (affluent part of the city of the city). I live about two hours away from the beaches and there's plenty of cheap places to go there, so that…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 06:59 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 12:56 AM
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Hi! I've been single for a long time and recently I'm getting to know two men who have good qualities, but i don't feel a lot of chemistry with either of them right now. I want to know if there's another man in the upcoming future or if I should keep dating one of the current men. Thanks for your time!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 01:26 AM
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Maybe this will be unpopular, but I look up to Natalie Portman. She is a super outspoken feminist, and I know that most RPWs are not feminists. She is smart, feminine, respectful, well mannered, well behaved. She understood from a young age that becoming more reserved (especially with her sexuality) would gain her more power and respect. And she's so smart, I love her.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 05:36 AM
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THIS!! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/18 09:53 PM
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Your colleague's behavior is completely inappropiate! There's no way that touching your thigh (!!) and asking you to lunch with him alone are signs of a genuine friendship. He's not you friend, period. But I think that men and women can definitely be friends when there's enough distance. I've noticed when the friendship develops passively and slowly over months/years and there's no pressure from either side, it's more likely to be genuine (for example a friend from college or a friend with whom …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/18 06:08 AM
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It could lead to disagreements if they ever have children, and he chooses to keep weapons in his home. Of course, they can be manageable if each side is makes compromises, and at this point of their relationship I doubt it would matter.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 04:17 AM
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I'm interested in seeing your infographics and I want you to see these: https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2017/10/2/16399418/us-gun-violence-statistics-maps-charts No intentions to argue or debate any further, I just want to learn about your perspective with your data.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 04:12 AM
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Exactly! Keep him! Especially if you're unsure about it, it will a manageable difference. I'm super anti guns and I would be seriously bummed if my bf was pro guns, so i kinda get you, but even I would keep him if I were you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 04:11 AM
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I think OP's more concerned about the ideological part of it. Not that his particular weapon will go bang.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 04:07 AM
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I've met plenty of arabs and their families and i think they are very masculine, charming, family oriented, and take good care of their families and wives. But I've seen that they are sometimes cheating/controlling.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 01:45 AM
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Great, thanks so much! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 01:41 AM
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I've read tons of stories about the problems in Europe with arab inmigrants and it's terrible :( Although I know that secular societies are the most peaceful all over the world, I don't agree that islam is their (main?) poison in itself, or that it causes them to think that women are "lower than animals". I think it's the opposite: fucked up societies choose religion actively, and the more fucked up they are, the more fundamentalist beliefs they choose. In my country we have lots (and i mean LOT…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 01:39 AM
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Where are you from? u/jacoba_sidenius
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 11:17 PM
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Thanks! I'm on it 🤓
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 09:30 PM
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It will be definitely a cultural shock for me, because my people are mostly very emotional, family oriented and loving (also loud and with no sense of personal space 😂). Immigrants from my country usually end up with other latinos abroad because of this, it's even an ongoing joke. In a minor issue, men here are always expected to pay if they want commitment, so it's easier to tell if they're in for real or for the sex (with exceptions in the younger and morel liberal men). Anyways im in for the …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 09:25 PM
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Cool I love this!!! i find this similar to my own country (except for the maternity benefits - WOW!). Here People usually meet partners through friends. It's sometimes slow (and boring) because I live in a small city, but it's cool that I can check on the background of the men that are interested in me (like if he's a player, if he's a drinker, etc).
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 02:04 PM
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Thanks! I have another question. My family has tried to persuade me of going to Europe because I'm latina, and they're scared about me encountering far right movements and racism. On the other hand, my friends who live there tell me that Berlin and Hamburg, are actually very open to latinos (they even joke that I'll get married on my first week). What do you think about this topic?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 01:58 PM
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I once had webcam sex with an ex bf. We never showed our faces, and it was fun and thrilling. I think it's better than posting it online, because although someone might record it, it's a bit less likely to stick in the internet forever. Then about your body, I wouldn't really worry about that, people watch all kinds of porn and also it doesn't really matter what random internwt strangers think. If your husband likes you and your body is enough.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/18 05:11 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/18 03:32 AM
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I drink a couple of beers throughout the night, theee tops. so that i get full and can't drink anymore. They get me slightly buzzed but not drunk. Any more than that, is always a mistake because I become loud and annoying. This depends on the beer of course , I choose the ones with less alchol % on them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 02:10 AM
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Thank you! I'll be checking it out. The spiritual pespective makes all these things glue together.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/18 06:27 AM
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I'm a feminist, I'll always be. I've been very priviliged in my life: I've never actually felt inequality, but I live in a mostly poor country where inequality is really, really terrible. Rape culture IS a thing, incest rape from early ages is very common, some poor parents don't let their daughters study, domestic violence towards women is too high...you know that kind of super fucked up things. So I won't ever stop being a feminist. My perception of feminism changed, though. I rode the cc from…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/18 03:06 AM
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You're right. It depends on the person. It's worked for me but because I have masturbated quite a lot, and also had two LTRs where I explored myself openly so it's not very useful for me at this time of my life. For a woman who doesn't know herself very well, masturbation is very important.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 02:24 AM
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This question is too general. You should give more details if you want specific advice. Assuming that you've already read the sidebar and the resources that RPW share, my broadest advice is: - go to to therapy if you've got some serious emotional/mental issues that hold you back. If you don't like traditional psychological/psychiatric therapy, there are plenty of holistic therapies that help a lot. I went to a reiki therapy, and the therapist taught me about chakras and energetic control of your…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/18 04:55 AM
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It's not rubbish! I think it's completely ok to date exclusively even when you're not official. Of course, it's more time consuming because cut your options. I've done it all my life. I only text with one guy, date one guy, and when I had friends with benefits several years ago, I had only one at the time. It makes me feel good, to only focus on one person, and actually in my country it's kinda normal. Over here, nobody likes to find out that they're texting/dating someone who's texting/dating o…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 08:48 PM
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Yesss 🙌
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/18 01:41 AM
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It's ok to be upset and have boundaries, but to leave your home is just too much. You overreacted bad time. My advise is to fix this soon, because this can make you seem extremely suspicious of hiding something, (even if you weren't) and this could make him even more curious, so watch out.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 09:18 PM
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I'm 25, I'm an independant and passionate woman. I think I've matured much faster than my peers thanks to some hard emotional and health conditions, and terrible teenage mistakes, that helped me understand my path, and recognize my own spiritual and feminine side. I'm and environmentalist, a feminist, and a woman of strong convictions. I'm constantly curious about the world and try to read and learn the most I can about any topic so I can have a deeper understanding of life. I'm super hard worki…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 04:46 AM
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"i miss when you give me oral, I really like it". If you are in a healthy relationship there's no need to tip toe around your needs.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 12:32 AM
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Come on, it's textbook emotional abuse...he won't change, not with all the love and patience in the world. This is some serious issue that needs therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 12:25 AM
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Me and my friends have a mindset of "i can't waste all this effort (and money) spent at the gym on a piece of cake or beer". So i really believe think you can use excercise as a motivation to keep on track.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 05:48 AM
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Do you think I shoukd avoid men who flatter too much on the first dates?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 04:39 AM
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I know I've read A TON for the past year and a half. And I thought that I had the concepts somewhat clear. So I'd like to know your specific input, I'd help me alot, Because I'm not getting it, and it might be that I've got a super hamster spinning that I'm not able to see yet.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 04:07 AM
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I have! Several times! Explain further please.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 03:59 AM
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I do very well financially and just bought my own apartment. I know this is not common in people my age. He's 30, that's why I am concerned. If he was my age I'd totally understand.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 07:20 PM
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T h a n k y o u. You really convinced me to give this situation more thought, I wasn't even sure what to look for. The thing is, I know what I dont want: four years ago I ended a ltr because the guy wasn't very interested in his future. I believed in him at first and tried my best to inspire and motivate him but ultimately he didn't want to. It was a very painful relationship for other serious reasons as well, and I've been trying to look for the opposite of that man ever since. I'm very scared …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 07:16 PM
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So do you think it would be better for me to stay with a man whose career I might not respect? I've been working very hard since I was 17 and I have accomplished big things for my age. I don't think it's crazy for me to prefer a man who has the same drive than me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:33 PM
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This is true, thank you. I do have a model in my mind...I'll try to be more flexible and know him more to see what happens.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:25 PM
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Thank you! This exactly is what i meant with my concern about his career. For me it's all about work ethic and the ability to plan and save for the future. I like him, and I think I'm gonna keep on dating him in order to see if we're compatible in this area.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:59 PM
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I understand it looks that way, but it's not. I offer to split bills all the time, i never expect to be pampered (with money) and my most memorable dates and gifts have costed exactly zero dollars. My ex boyfriend didn't have much money either but he was much younger and still attending college. My main concern is that he's older and he doesnt seem to have his stuff together. And it makes me wonder why.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:51 PM
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I don't know. I could ask him more about his situation but that wouldn't change the fact that he's 30 and isn't where I think he should be. I was in a similar situation with and ex boyfriend and I lost respect to that man eventually and became emasculating. I wouldn't want to do that to the man im dating because he's amazing :(
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 02:36 PM
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I lift weights at the gym 4-6 times a week depending on my work and social agenda, and do cardio 1-2 days a week. On my cardio days i run sometimes, or have an intense dancing session at home after my weight lifting routine - it makes me sweat like crazy and I think it has made me a great dancer too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 08:12 AM
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So what would you recommend? I wouldnt make a guy wait 3 months. For me three or four dates its ok. But what if you have changed and dont want to bang right away anymore? Ive had one night stands and hated them! I was honest with my ex boyfriend, after we had enough trust about intimte stuff, that i didnt want to have sex with him right away (although i wanted him extremely bad), because I liked him so deeply that I didnt want to screw up. We did some stuff after maybe 3 or 4 dates, and sex at t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 04:28 AM
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I'm pretty sure you'll get some solid responses in the relationship, SMV, RMV department. My advice is on your career. If you don't feel like doing anything related to your degree it's ok. There are many ways to start a business, even from home. Make a list of the areas you're good at that, or that you would like to learn and eventually work at. Then youtube and google are your best teachers - but wait, self discipline here is key. You have no self discipline? Then get into some classes, courses…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 05:22 PM
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Noooooooooooooo. Don't. Been there, it sucks hard. He won't be the magical exception to the rule that addicts suck. Don't try to rationalize his use of drugs. Addiction is always addiction, no matter the reason why it started, the reasons they quit, blablah. Addiction is addiction, en of story. Years ago I was in a LTR with an addict and it drained my life at the time. He was a functioning addict, his problems were weed, alcohol and coke (heroin is much, much worse). After what i went through wi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:50 AM
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This is so good. I love you. Anyway, OP, I think you both should go to counseling. It's hard to trust again when you've been lied to. And there can be many nasty manifestations of your disapproval of his actions, that could be bottled up and explode anytime, if you don't fix the problem from its root.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:32 AM
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I have done several of these rituals. I don't see it as a pagan thing, more like a symbolic act you make to help you feel (or not feel) a certain way. Pretty much like what you get from meditation or a vision board. Google it! I recommend it 👌
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 03:11 PM
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This is sooo useful !! Thank you!! Its true that a lot of times i feel like i just want to be touched. I never have any kind of physical contact with people . I'm super affectionate and loving inside , but i could only been able to express it freely with my exes. I'm gonna try being more affectionate with my loved ones. I hope i can!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 06:15 AM
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Don't assume he's got feelings for you. He might have, but that doesn't mean anything unless you guys talk about actual exclusivity. And if you arent exclusive, technically he's not doing something wrong. Edit: What kind of websites are these you talk about?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 09:16 PM
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Maybe. I enjoy the whole candlelight thing with a man, alone probably not so much. But I understand that the idea behind u/yeezytaughtye's comment is to pamper and have a hot, active sexual relationship with yourself. I think it's pretty neat advice. Of course everybody has different tastes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 08:48 PM
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Oh no, I actually have a big number of sexual partners. Im not running around with a "stale moldy loaf", I do value my womanhood, and I think I am a beautiful person inside and out, regardless. I'm just a person who realized those decisions made me unhappy, and decided to change.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 08:42 PM
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Thanks, but that won't probably work. I do get turned on by random thoughts, or when I interact with hot men.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 08:06 PM
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I hadn't really thought about this. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 07:24 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 07:24 PM
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I asked it in the context of RPW. I'm not currently dating anyone and casual sex is not an option.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 07:03 PM
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Exacttttlyyyyyyyy. So why bother? Just try to change the subject or leave the conversation. My friends love gossiping and judging other women, and I HATE IT. I simply leave the conversation until there's something more interesting going on. Sometimes I tell them to shut the hell up and stop being bitches, lol, but I wouldn't advice on doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 05:56 PM
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Shows physical displays of anger during conflict. Regular drug use. Drinking every weekend. Lazy or bullshit job. Tries too hard to fit in. Has cheated on his exes. Disappears often. Those are the ones I can think about right now
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 03:41 AM
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You gotta move out. I understand that it might be very difficult to do so, but its possible. Look for a job if you don't have one already, save money, work on a strategy, make a monthly or weekly budget. Some girls in here are great at budgeting, you could start a thread asking for tips. I live in a place with a shitty economy: jobs pay crap, everything is expensive. I have a stable job and a side business. I saved money for a whole year, and later I was able to move out of my parents house. Ver…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 10:00 PM
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I understand u/Willow-girl's comments. I think that because of the way it was phrased, u/tofuobsessed's comment did sound a bit like letting him take care of ALL the hard stuff, which could be interpreted as being lazy and avoiding hard decisions. On the other hand, I infere than she actually meant "don't try to control all the hard stuff".
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 03:57 AM
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Lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 04:10 AM
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I was once with a man in his early thirties with a close group of friends and fear of missing out. he promised to change (even with tears in his eyes..) but when the weekend came he coudln't say no to his friends.... Ever. He was very insecure, and that was part of the problem. He couldn't stand for himself in front of me nor his friends. Watch out 👀.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 04:04 AM
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Besides what everybody has already told you (he doeesn't care about you, leave, set your boundaries)...You do realize that paying for it is even worse? Because it means he had to actually think about it, go to the place, fuck the prostitute and then pay her...is not even he was drunk and a hot girl sat naked on top of him (unacceptable too.. But could actually be a "mistake"). Terrible. I hope you break up with him, have a good healing period, and learn a lot about what not to accept in the futu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 05:34 AM
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I feel like this too. Im MUCH more conservaive now regarding sex, relationships and my lifestyle overall than I was during my teens. I used to be like loud, masculine. slutty, defiant to the status quo. Having mindless sex and partying hard just gave me a lot of sadness, and made me feel emptier each time. So i just quit that lifestyle. After making lots of soul searching, i realized I just attention whoring all the time because of my low self steem. Years later i discovered RPW and things start…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 04:19 AM
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nd, because those contributing to the hateful discussion on RedPillWomen are indeed women, their input gives men permission to continue to abuse, mock and humiliate women who speak out against it. curiously she never mentions one of the most frequent advice in here: learn your value and never put up with men who abuse, mock, or humilliate you 😅...............
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 07:20 AM
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If you're pleasant to be around, take care of yourself (physically, emotionally, and mentally), and don't do drama, you'll eventually attract a nice man. Besides that, the only VERY important advice I have for a first time relationship is DON'T jump quickly into a serious relationship without getting to know a man well and checking if he meets your criteria of what a good man is. RPW is a gold place to define that criteria. Some quick recommendations about what to keep in mind: Ambitious and har…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/17 01:12 AM
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You entered into the relationship accepting his terms. You can't complain now. If you really were into open relationships it would be a different thing, but you won't change, neither you should, and he wont't either. So leave. The beauty and the beast is a fantasy, no love can make a person change ESPECIALLY if he explicitly told you from the beggining how he wanted things to be. There's no point in your struggle.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/17 12:47 AM
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Troll.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 10:15 PM
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You do realize that you don't know me at all, right? People tell me I look 17 all the time, I get asked ID everywhere, when I meet new clients they are usually shocked to learn that I was the one who wrote them eloquent emails. It's weird to assume that I look old through a text post.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 10:13 PM
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I agree. That's the differencd between active emotional work, and just waiting to "grow it out" or for something externak to change.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:06 PM
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THIS makes you happy? ... Ookk... That's weird.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:05 PM
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Being social is a skill as any other. You can learn. I had this friend of mine who wasn't very social with people he didn't know, especially girls, and I asked him to practice fake conversations with me, but it kinda helped him to at least remember what kind of things he might say to start a small talk. Pm if you want to try this 😹. Also, your problem is thinking you are shit. You need awareness of your thoughts: if they are mostly negative you will feel like shit. If they are positive, or at le…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 01:03 AM
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He wants to study abroad and travel alone, and doesn't want to be in a long term relationship in the meantime.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 07:44 PM
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Congratulations for your recovery! How old are you , may i ask?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 06:53 PM
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First, you need to eat a lot of (clean) carbs in order to build muscle. But the tricky part is that you gotta build muscle all over your body so that those carbs wont turn into fat. If you dont eat enough carbs, and do work out, you might start losing muscle mass. Also you need enough protein and healthy fats. Avoid all kinds of sugar, and only eat fruit in breakfast. Research a lot, eat smart and see what works for you. Second, you gotta lift heavy, it's the only way to a big butt. Don't do bod…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 08:41 PM
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I aporoached him with my problem (i feel sad because i feel things have changed, that i liked when he was more affectionate and caring, and im scared that hes losing your interest in me) and to sum it up, he answered me that he's changed because he feels confused and feels like things were going on too fast and serious and that hes too young for it. He offered no solution, i asked him for a solution, and he said he does love me and that he will work on being more affectionate.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 11:56 PM
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I think that OP might speak spanish (or other language, don't know), and meant "annoying me" as "teasing me".
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 10:38 PM
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When it comes to crying, I've always been deeply ashamed of it, and viewed it as a sort of manipulation tactic (even when I was legitimately crying). I used to feel something similar towards crying, especially in public. I just decided to let myself go, no matter what my head told me. You gotta let yourself surrender to your feelings once in a while. When i started doing it, It was like coming out of a cage, it was liberating, and guess what.. No one cared or saw me as weak or whatever crazy tho…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:00 AM
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When it comes to crying, I've always been deeply ashamed of it, and viewed it as a sort of manipulation tactic (even when I was legitimately crying). I used to feel something similar towards crying, especially in public. I just decided to let myself go, no matter what my head told me. You gotta let yourself surrender to your feelings once in a while. When i started doing it, It was like coming out of a cage, it was liberating, and guess what.. No one cared or saw me as weak or whatever crazy tho…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:00 AM
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I didn't go into my closet thinking "I'm going to wear this to make sally feel bad" but I think I chose that specific outfit because of her comment "he likes when I wear that" to kind of solidify my place in the hierarchy (unconsciously) So how did you even remember that he said that, without actively thinking on it? When I'm going out with my boyfriend, for example, I think on the clothes he likes and put them on. I don't understand how could you dress "uncounsciously" to other people's liking?…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 05:47 PM
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No, not everyone. Me and my friends DEFINITELY NEVER do this kind of things. We only support, encourage each other, and obviously respect each other's relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 05:43 PM
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what are some of the characteristics or behaviors of your man that contradict the advice of TRP? My boyfriend is very masculine overall: he likes improving constantly his carreer/looks/intellect/talents, e enjoys taking the lead on work, projects, conversations, sex, and pretty much everything in his life.. But in our relationship, he shows a very vulnerable and sweet side, sometimes a bit of a nag, and he show to me that he's crazy about me all the time, doesn't feel the need to dominate me. He…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/16 07:49 PM
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Exactly. Angry, nosy old men are also like that (my grandpa and my current landlord, for example)
/r/TheRedPill14/10/16 10:26 PM
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They fill the system with false reports and create an environment where authorities are more likely to question genuine rape reports than support them. I think that you don't undersant the nature of sexual assault reports... I know 2 people in my family and 2 close friends who weren't believed about being sexual abused or were ignored by their own parents, because its always been a topic that no one wants to deal with. this happened to my mother. She and my sister are psychologists and they've t…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/16 03:52 PM
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Underneath your desire to correct people, do you genuinely enjoy sharing with people, or is it your ego trying to let people know that you know your stuff and you're better than them/they're less than you? If it's the latter, drop it for your own good, it makes you enjoy people more and judge less. I'm like an encyclopedia of all kinds of stuff and used to love correcting people. But I realized that I did it mostly to prove I know about stuff and like "hey I'm smart" rather than actually helping…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 05:45 AM
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Why would someone do this to their friends? Sometimes people have internal issues and just suck. I did this to a friend of mine when I was a teen. I wasn't thinking, I was drunk, selfish, and plain dumb. Teens are very likely to do dumb stuff in the process of learning about themselves, the world and the consequence of their acts. Don't try to understand what they did...it doesn't really make any sense. And please tell me this won't be commonplace for relationships in the future. It won't. You'r…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 05:00 AM
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I'm sorry that you're going through this situation. I don't want to be mean, but everything you describe wrong on every level: I know I am not really my partners type. He likes attractive blonde women and I am neither of those things. How do you know that he consider some other blonde women attractive and not you? If he's told you that, it would be an incredibly rude, mean and douchey thing to say. If that's the case, he's a terrible boyfriend and you should definitely dump him. If he hasn't sai…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 04:45 AM
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o either pass the time or he is addicted to porn or both I second this . If he likes you sexually and still gotta watch porn, is definitely an addict. If he doesn't like you and has to watch porn to tolerate having sex with you, by staying with him is a sure way to make your insecurities eat you from the inside. Also the fact that he only likes "attractive blonde women" (that are out of his league?) make me think that he has porn expectations. Of course I don't know any details from this, but I'…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 04:19 AM
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I used to think that this sub was about uneducated women who enjoyed suffering and had low self steem (im sorry, girls) . What a surprise I got that its the complete opposite and now Im here enjoying the experience and advice of all its members.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 11:58 PM
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No! Hes definitely hot sexy and handsome. But I did start feeling less attracted because of his reaction towards my rejection: he initiated less, he was less enthusiastic or tried too hard to please me. But everything went back to normal inmediatly after I changed.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 11:44 PM
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This doesn't mean being a doormat either! What I want to ask you is why don't you want to? Is it really something that you CAN'T avoid (you're grieving, you're sick, you're in pain, deep exhaustion). If you don't have any of these reasons, maybe you could ask yourself, would having at least a quickie will really be that bad? Or giving a blowjob? It's actually really easy when you change your perspective. And sometimes is lazyness, which is normal. But then expect your partner to treat you with l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 03:31 PM
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It may be! The weird part is that I'm 23 and I've never been on hormonal birth control, but still had low libido out of nowhere.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 03:17 PM
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Of course, I totally agree. That's why I said I'm not proud of this. I turned out fine, but some people don't. It's risky and potentially self-destructive stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 03:17 PM
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It's as easy to self-medicate with sex as it is to use drugs or alcohol. It's a drug, definitely. Been there.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 05:05 AM
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Or "no, im not in the mood of giving you affection and cuddles, lets watch netflix instead" lol that sucks so much
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 01:45 AM
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Oh ok, I get it lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 10:34 PM
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I agree with this. I'm very liberal to tell you the truth, and Ive rode the cc. I had a couple of years of wild non committed sex, party, drugs, which I'm not proud of (nor embarassed either). I live in a very small and conservative middle-upper class society, so my people know about my past, which I've never tried to hide. And I can tell you from experience that there are good guys who don't care. I just changed and showed it to the world, and the world noticed. I'm currently in a great relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 10:29 PM
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Thanks for this! Very well written. The only part that I disagree on is that new ideas aren't feminine (or you could give more details of what kind of ideas youre referring to): in a constantly changing world, economy, work schedules and more, we need definitely new ideas to expand those old feminine ideas that DO work and adapt them to our current time. Also, there are ideas that non-toxic feminists (loved that you mentioned "toxic feminism" especifically, btw) have historically fought to demol…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/16 10:06 PM
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I would be ok with it. Most girls dont care, especially if you are good in bed. Be sexy and treat women with respect.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 05:37 PM
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Wait more! Two weeks is very little. If he brings her up, i'd tell him between laughs "You know I enjoy hearing about YOU, not her!" . If he doesn't stop, tell him that you're uncomfortable. If he doesn't stop, he doesn't care about you, cares more about himself and his loss or whatever, so next him. It seems to me that he isn't over her :( so don't try to put all that weight on yourself. Only time will tell!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/16 10:19 PM
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How do I regain my self-confidence, self-respect, and value to a guy after being a fling (even just as friends)? First of all, if you want your self-respect and value back, just stop caring what he thinks of you and move on. When you're self confident, you just don't care about people who don't care about you (he doesn't). This guy isn't even your friend, why would you shouldn't put special work to change what this person thinks about you? Instead, if you want to change stuff, do it for yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/16 09:55 PM
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I feel bored and exasperated with my environment and the people I'm with daily Is it possible be that you are too critical on other people? It's normal that you don't like everyone all the time... but when you are too harsh on people (focusing on their negative aspects rather than the positive), its more likely that you dislike a lot of people! Just to listen to others and contemplate the positive things in them, can help you change your view on them and even you could learn from them. Ask yours…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/16 04:46 PM
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You're right. Everything I told him the day after was completely emotionally driven ;_; but now I'm trying to keep calm especially so that I don't cause any kind of drama and push him further away.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 07:15 PM
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It's been a few days, but I'm already planning what to do after a few weeks, because this really matters to me - and my lack of planning is one of the things that led me to neglect my relationship. And lol nooooo, I wasn't talking about a surprise party that's totally crazy, I think I didn't make myself clear. I just wanted to prepare something special, like decorating the patio, and serving some coffee and a cake or cookies, not like a dinner because that is less casual and a potential fail). I…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 06:59 PM
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