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I dont have anyone so im def not in the LVM dad HVM SO category but i can shed a bit of light on this kind of cause and effect thing. My dad was a provider. Like for the first few years of my life up to the day we found out about his infidelity we lived a life of plenty. I could have any dollhouse or barbie doll or pet fish i wanted and it would be there. But he was emotionally absent. And he cheated on my mom. But we sort of glossed over it as long as there was money and comfort. So i grew up e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:07 AM
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Yeah and we're at fault if we dont give it. How prudish and selfish of us, huh? 🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:26 AM
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Not just drinking but ANY kind of activity where you are or were more vulnerable dont tell them. Dont tell them you like to go for late night walks, dont tell them you hitchhiked in your youth, dont give them the idea you used to party at bars with strangers in your youth. Dont tell them youre curious about weed or other things like that. Just. Dont.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:16 AM
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They think its just the same based on the fact that we're both humans, we're both of legal working age, we both have social security numbers and bank accounts but thats not the point!!! The point is the dynamics. They're so keen on removing roles and stereotypes and then scratch their heads when the guys dont seem to be stepping in. Ive raised this with friends and they think im living in the 1900s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:01 AM
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Yes because if we demand time or even expect it because heLLO relationships, right? We're being nagging and needy and clingy. Thats why i hate all these "needy gf" "nagging wives" "ah yes no gf day!" Jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:58 AM
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You're not! Im all for women being able to work and earn but its a whole other concept for them to take on masculine roles such as providers, pursuers, courting etc. Most wont even realize it but it creates a shift in the dynamics. Simply put if the guy sees that you're doing all the work, he won't step up because he felt guilty you're doing all the manly work. It doesnt work that way, he's not a woman he doesnt feel or see it the way we do. They will take you for all you have if you let this tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:41 AM
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An explanation for anyone who dares to minimize this by saying its just a joke/scripted (regardless if it is or isnt i know theres lotsa jokey stuff online) and we're dramatic for reacting this way to it: Yalls always remember even if this is just a joke, think about THE MESSAGE it sends and WHY it is being turned into a cultural phenomenon. Why? Means theres truth to it. Means the jokes are based in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:37 AM
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scrote scrote S C R O T E
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:37 PM
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My mom and i were talking about this and i said, you know if something bad happened to my friend and i was there and i wasnt guilty, i would report it. Id report it and tell her family something bad happened because i know im not guilty and i want to help as much as i can. I wont disappear. I wont withhold information. Id be distraught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:33 AM
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They will gaslight to the bitter end. They will make you think that youre the mean one, the intolerant one, the uncaring one when youve basically poured your energy to them in all aspects. Even when caught they just have too much audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:42 AM
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Usually what we know back then are sometimes sometimes right. Kinda like the gut feels i had for certain classmates upon seeing them for the first time and then i told myself "oh maybe im just.overthinking or being overly judgy maybe theyre not so bad" only to see the cracks in the end and you start to realoze tou were right. Same goes in this setup. I used to think "oh he has his reasons why he cant do xyz because budget/location/work" but then i knew deep inside it shouldnt be the case. Turns …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:39 AM
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Ive def encountered 100% straight women using this term to mean that theyre not like other girls 🤷‍♀️ i guess they associate this with childlike-ness eccentricity, and purple hair (think the MPDG stereotype)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 09:45 PM
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Usually people who look like the right part also use it.usually another term for quirky and weird and diFFErrent and theres nothing wrong with being unique but idk maybe im just too regular to see the appeal of always having to call yourself quirky. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:05 AM
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Is it just me and my judgemental ass but i get really weird vibes from people describing themselves or others as unicorns/potatoes/pinggu? I might just be judgy but its part pretentious part "im not like others" part childish? I could just have reached a new level of mean but idk 🙄🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:36 AM
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When someone says threesome i always imagine the 2nd pic. And sometimes when on OLD back then i didnt have to scroll down to the bio to see they were looking for a third 😖😖😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:35 AM
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🌺 intense focus on anything i do 🌺 great time management skills (i can squeeze everything in a day and still nap in the afternoon) 🌺 eloquent, creative, and imaginative but always still rooted in reality 🌺financially intelligent (im a budget freak) 🌺 sophisticated sense of style. 🌺 calm and collected master of emotions. 🌺 i make my own chocolate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:07 AM
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Always worth noting what they do/did to the women in their families. High society or not check always how they treat women in their family esp those who dont fold in with their "expectations of a woman". It could and def would be you one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:50 AM
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This coulda been me had i stuck with my gamer ex. Good thing i got out. Now it couldnt ever ever EVER be me 💅💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:11 AM
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Thanks for making it super clear why my pickme friends' bfs hate me so so much. Stay hatin scrotes 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:40 AM
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Was gonna say this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:39 AM
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This is really inspiring. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:49 AM
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The amount of red flags we have to watch out for these days is insane ....child porn and paedophila , incest porn, teen porn, violent porn, bdsm....cheating on 6 different apps...pick up artists and the red pill, secret social media accounts and alternate personas online, secret subscriptions to cam girls and visits to sex workers, men using their mental health or fake cancer moms to manipulate us. Men preying on women so they get someone to pay off their mortgage and use them as a maid / sex se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:45 AM
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Idk if its considered strategy or just the way i am but i am super lowkey on social media. All my accounts are on private and i have a username on ig. I also keep my posts below 10 there and post every like...5 months or so so people dont get sick of me i suppose. I also dont add captions or comments or anything they could possibly allude to as my interests or emotions. No crypticness no emotions. Also i filter out those asking for follow requests. If its people i dont know i dont accept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:39 AM
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This right here. Growing up I always thought I hated being a girl. I didnt hate women as I grew up around mostly women and loved the idea of a female community, ya know the whole "no boys allowed" "girl power" kinda feel. But I hated how society viewed women or expected women to be. I hated what we had to do or had to tolerate. I hated the expectation that I had to get married and give birth and i knew at age 10 i didnt want that for me. I mightve had sudden flashes throughout life that made me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:32 AM
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Right? I mean at least the animal from the shelter won't abuse you, cheat on you, or swap you for another after you've built it up. If you really cant help but nurture pls just get yourself a pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:17 AM
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They claim to be afraid of and accuse us all of being golddiggers but cheer this on? Uh huh yes ladies men ARE THE REAL golddiggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:12 AM
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Another for me is interests lets say favorite male artists that are popular with women (e.g. BTS or any boyband). Would he be happy seeing you happily listening to them and appreciate them for making you happy even if he isn't a fan or would he say "BTS is gay/ugly/a fad" and/or compare it with his brand of music that he deems is "authentic music" unlike their "fake ass pop music."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:02 AM
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Right? I knew i couldnt be the only one whose nose scrunched up at this "passive income" thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:05 AM
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Thank you FDS for always making us feel accepted and reminding us to not be so hard on ourselves for the past and valuing the journey and hard work we do and will do. 💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 02:07 AM
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And if you even feel compelled to do a google search of his behaviour, it means theres something about him that youre noticing but your mind is doing gymnastics on whether or not you're just overreacting. If you gotta search or ask....you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:02 AM
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I also noticed theres always some feud between her and other female rappers especially new rising ones like cardi for instance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:03 AM
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I hate this! Also when they insert their stupid unfunny insulting jokes. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:09 AM
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This place is almost the only place I've been frequenting recently since I can air my opinions, my feelings, experiences without men peppering my posts with mUH oPinIons and justifying low value behaviour. I finally have a place where i feel free and almost every single post here is a confirmation of hunches and thoughts i had YEARS AGO that got buried out of pressure to be a cool girl. I love it here! Sometimes it might hurt to see a post that just confirmed my past mistakes but the thing is I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:07 AM
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Looks around at my peaceful clean quiet garden apartment This brought in such relaxation in my mind. This is the goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:56 AM
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I mentally put a beat over it u right it sounds Bieberish 🥴🥴🥴🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:11 AM
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Assten Martin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:10 AM
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This has the same energy as a post I saw here days ago. Help him get to the top and when he's there watch him cheat on you with his 23 yr old secretary. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:43 AM
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I read Dworkin's piece about conservative women and liberal women and how they view their femininity and role in relation to the world. Im not a right wing person but relationship/marriage wise I do get it why conservative women are that way. I remember my friend who was more right leaning and voted for right wing politicians. She didn't support sex work, didnt sleep around in college, didnt do any shady cool girl pickme shit but what she wanted was a provider. She didnt think that marriage is "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:17 AM
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Agreed. They're also less likely to believe in gender roles not bc they believe in women empowerment but because they want to freeload on women seeking to level up their professional lives. Also the whole "StoptheStigma", "NoGenderRoles", "Female Breadwinner", "Art is a Career" are often touted by leftist men who use their mental health as an excuse to not work anything but being a Spotify Musician who the libfems probably met at an anti-Trump rally with the said OnlyFans buying leftist men bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:07 AM
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Elon has billions but wont even help grimes? See this is why just bc hes rich doesnt automatically make him HVM. What good are the billions if he wont even help you financially when you need it the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:15 AM
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Reminds me of an ex's mom. All yours you social climbing mama. All his shit streaked underwear and booger covered jackets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:23 AM
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Idk much about him but Charlie Watts, drummer of the Rolling Stones was married to the same woman for years and he seems to really adore her. Seems pretty HV too but i could be wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:20 AM
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John Lennon was not as talented as everyone says he was anyway Lennon struck me as pretentious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:19 AM
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Super agree with the vetting. An HVM might be HV now but 10,15,20 yrs down the line is a lot of room for change (hi dad). Hell 1 year later can be a massive change so never stop vetting ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:15 AM
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This is so so motivating to stay single eternally. If this is the game most guys be playing i dont wanna be a pawn in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:13 AM
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people on social media already hoping for an ex comeback after this. there. there it is. thats the message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 10:02 AM
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Oh i remember a story. I dont know how many of you know her but Christine Chubbuck, the reporter who offed herself on live TV. She was unhappy and unlucky in love amongst other things and if i remember correctly had a fertility problem. She didnt take it out on the men or on the guy that she liked who left her. She took it out on herself. I immediately saw the contrast. When men are rejected/hurt, they hurt others. When women are rejected/hurt, we hurt ourselves. Like it gave me time to think, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:51 AM
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Sleep deprivation (fuckboy involved or not) was so so so so glamorized back in college i felt like a loser for sleeping so early. My mom always regulated my sleep by putting a curfew and i hated it bc "sleep is for the weak" and i guess i warped my brain to think eyebags, dark circles and what were badges of honor. Good thing i didnt push thru with not sleeping tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:39 AM
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Thank you for talking about this. I had strange, weird Cool Girl phases that ranged from nerdy to boyish just to be unique with the hopes that they would see me as special. I saw what I looked like back then dang I looked so dead and forced. Like I knew I hated every part of what I did. It wasnt real. None of it was. While I have nothing against nerdy or boyish hobbies if.you genuinely enjoy them, I came to my true being right after breaking up w the LVM ex and coming here on FDS and I ditched e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:45 AM
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Based on observation some women who are friends with only gay men I guess are that way since there is no competition in their minds because they cannot be comapred to the gays and at the same time you cant accuse them of being a flirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:32 AM
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I also have had trouble connecting with Cool Girls since they start adapting male traits. They start to mock.you when you're.emotionally open to them or when you're sweet and kind. They like to make offensive or sexual jokes around you even when they see that you're no okay with it. Not to mention they victim blame other women real hard. Got cheated on? She didnt give him what he wanted or she was too demanding or didnt play video games with him. Uhh acquiantance zone indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:23 AM
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One of the best things my mom taught me is that men aint shit and pleasing them is shit. If you do something, do it for all the glory of your being and not because some lameass scrote thinks its attractive. Dont stop being you because some bum thinks thats what women shouldnt be. STOP CONSIDERING MEN!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:08 AM
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🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:38 AM
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Seems like he was conditioning you for things to come. Getting you to comply with it as early as now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:58 AM
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That's really terrible. What's even worse is they do this fake reassurance thing "I know you're over sensitive etc"/"I know you feel bad" then proceed to justify why they acted that way or said that. No. If they "know how you felt" they wouldnt have done it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:44 AM
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Saying we're sENsiTIVe because we reacted to a super offensive joke. I hate how they want us to shut up and accept their shit humor. wOMEN AReNT FuNNY? Well you arent either and you're infuriating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:28 AM
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Dont forget soundcloud rapper!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:11 AM
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This hurt me alot and made me so grateful that my mom still has me and I do the best I can to be productive and help as much as I can. My mom is a SAHM but she only has me. Her friends are also SAHMs and whenever they talk amongst themselves their common complaint is why do their husbands do that. Like why act so entitled just because you're the breadwinner, as if they never do anything at home. They also mentioned that my mom was lucky bc she had a daughter bc their sons were taking on the LVne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:11 AM
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Another day another moment of hatred for male humor. Dammit this is why I hate staying in places online or irl where there are MEN. Their humor is fucking disgusting I don't even want to glimpse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:46 AM
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Also go through stuff he and his friends like on social media, old comments, old shares and posts. These are very telling. Of course nobody will show you their dark side, but their friends and exes are definitely not here to impress you so what they say about him or how they see him is most likely what he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:54 PM
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Call me a party pooper (friends have) and sensitive (everybody has) but the way they joke about you says ALOT about how THEY see YOU. If he jokes that "ah she's ugly and aint my type but she got me" or "you were so dumb when we first.met" GTFO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:11 AM
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Whyyy? This so heartbreaking that some people joke about/normalize this 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:46 AM
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It seeps on the physical. Paranoia is just me repeating and insistint things vocally. Intuition usually manifests itself as me feeling diarrheal (i mention this alot), nauseous, uneasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:33 PM
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Im so lucky mine dumped me. I always felt something wrong. I even had weird dreams about it. I was thinking about serial killer earlier while posting this. While I'm no expert, I remember reading there's two kinds, the abrupt and frenzied vs the smooth and calculated. Kinda like a Richard Ramirez vs. Ted Bundy. I'm sure we all know who is who.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:41 AM
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BABE! Did we date the same dude? Are you from where I am?! Mine didnt mention her often but sis I felt DIARRHEAL one day because i felt something was up with her. Which led me to her twitter and insta damn 4 mos later they be a thing. Girl so glad we didnt last too long. Not only that he hadnt finished university yet and has now hopped with the same girl who also did not finish uni. Was he scared that i saw thru it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:27 AM
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I remember having encountered a BB during my experimental, low OLD days. He was soft and kind as could be, shared my humor, did everything right. He was gentle and sweet and even during arguments over the phone he never raised his voice or used crude language. He put me-and women in general- on a pedestal but not in a cheesy way. Consistent and self aware, he wasnt the type to talk to you one day and give you the cold shoulder the next because he wanted to show me how consistent he was. The myst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:06 AM
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I ABHORR male humor and how some women ride along on male humor as if its funny how men make fun of us! NO!! Male jokes and clueless man children posts are not funny! They're enraging!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:49 AM
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She sorta reminds me of a friend who mothered an irresponsible classmate throughout college DESPITE having a bf. She reminded him to do projects, offered to manage his finances, told him to attend classes. It was pititful to watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:08 AM
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Why is she so fixated on his problem? He's not her bf. She should care less what his problems are esp if they dont impact her life in any way. He said it himself, they arent friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:50 AM
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Asshole? Dummie? Im not a dog person but I could never call any animal that way even jokingly 🥺😔 Animals and pets are too precious, labs especially. Giant bundles of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:10 AM
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hehehehe thank u 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:23 AM
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Sis id ruuuuun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:29 PM
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Prior to scarjo, had absolutely no idea who ryan reynolds was 🤷‍♀️ like i just got to know him as oh yeah scarjo's ex husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:58 AM
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Idk fam if someone begged me to sleep with them, love marriage and future arent what'll be entering in mind 🙅‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:55 AM
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There you go! Thats the term!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:18 AM
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Not a fan of any of them but i sense the cool girlness im blake lively and youre right maybe not full on cool girl but the sort that probably thinks "oh men like xyz so youre supposed to do it like that"or "oh no wonder he left you bc men actually like..." I know plenty of women who gave off the same vibe that theyre not one of the boys cool girl per se but more like they justify or pander men's behaviour thinking that somehow it unlocks.committment potential in them? Something like that? Not su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:02 AM
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Ryan reynolds always gave me "trying hard cool guy dude bruh" vibes like he was always trying to be hip and fun but it aint working. Idk if i was the only one seeing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:59 AM
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Whenever I feel a pang of nostalgia and regret and a wave of what couldve beens, I always remind myself that if id tolerated my LV ex all the way to me being pregnant my life wouldve been 100000000x more miserable and I instantly appreciate singledom once more, even if its for eternity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:27 AM
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Whenever i broke it off with an ex and thought about what mightve been, i remind myself to not be sad and reminisce because at least i didnt have a baby with him. Him being gone eternally free of any connection be it finances or children is one giant W H E W
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:59 AM
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Ah yes this comment has found its way back to my eyes! I frequently talk about this and I try to shed some light on why men in therapy/taking meds is a jumbo NO. If you are depressed, work on yourself first. Sort it out don't make a therapist out of a gf or a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:35 AM
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Exactly my comment above. You can wear the most elegant dresses and act the.most elegantly feminine way but if the rich man has his eyes set on the simple, humble looking woman with a quirky personality then theres nothing you can do about it i guess 🤷‍♀️ (happened to many so i know hehehe)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 10:57 AM
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I agree. Her fashion and elegant etiquette advice are nice if you want to go to that route as part of your levelling up process, but if you're doing it to attract a man then thats when it becomes problematic. If you do so then how much different are you from a regular pickmeisha who chases the affections of a dusty? Sure the guy is richer but it will never guarantee a quality partner who will shower you with all that he has. And from personal experience, I've known some well off men marry women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 10:55 AM
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women are calling men out on their fancy schmansy (or..NOT!) BS and im glad to be witnessing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:33 AM
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Tho im not a dog person, i adore their friendliness and how some breeds are just people animals (people person but animals?) that you dont even have to be their owner if they like you they love you. My friends pets are this way they love me so much i cri a lil bit when i see them 🥺🥺🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:22 AM
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I agree! I dont have any pets...actually never had any except for a sweet little goldfish who died years ago when I was five. Still, thru the pets of friends i get to experience them and i stay all day on animal subs and instagrams just watching them exist and I watch nat geo and animal planet all day aaaa i just love animals 🥺🥺🥺🥺 People laugh when they hear i want cats instead of marriage and even more when i say i want a sheep but hey, its not me complaining abt Mr. LVM over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:03 AM
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AAAA RABBITS!!! hehe sorry i love rabbits tho ive never had any. This would be a dream come true for me too, just me and the kitties and bunnies and maybe 1 sheep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:52 AM
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Its giving me not like other girls vibes. Like its ok if you dont use makeup but if you feel the need to make a contrast bet you and women that do... Sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:15 AM
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Okay personally speaking one i cant go on and on walking my endurance is crap and if its humid the sweat would ruin my look. Imagine getting ready for a walk date and getting all haggard and sweaty but you get made fun of if you dont get ready bc you anticipated a walk date. Second, how the hell am i supposed to actually focus on talking to you or getting to know you or observing your actions if im fcking minding my step making sure i dont step on dog shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:46 AM
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As someone who often gets courted by lesbians, I can confirm this. I've never been harrassed, guilt tripped or egged on or stalked until you give in. If you tell them no, they get the message and move on. Whats not clicking, men? I also agree on the part of not ogling. I used to work at a gym and there were times my lesbian co worker and I dressed up in the same area but she never for once took a peep, tried to touch me, or made inappropriate comments. Even if I wore a sports bra and she tried t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:25 AM
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Men also ruined my happiness that led to me uglifying myself which they also ruined which led me back to my true happiness which is makeup and fashion. It started with the geeky girl manic pixie boom that made men like the not like other girls quirky girl look so everyone including my pickme friends were so quick to shame fashionable women only to become the very thing they hated in the future (i see u). When i had my ugly era thanks to depression people were making sad comments about how sick/t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:51 AM
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HAHAHAHAVAHHA TOTOO THOOO. Mga gross na mukhang butiki but you cant be too choosy or tita marites will say na you'll grow old alone while simultaneously shit talking you behind ur back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:27 PM
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Dont get me started on our dating culture (sanaol, marupok, anyone???) that reinforces on the notion that a.relationship.is.a.mustt!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:27 AM
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Hello! Fellow filipina here. I agree with everything you said from the family to the divorce not to mention that the ever pervasive culture of pressuring women to get married and shaming them if theyve achieved something great because all of that would never amount to anything if you arent married with kids gets really annoying. As if our only worth here is defined by marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:04 AM
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I know its wrong and its basically made me complicit in a sense but this is sometimes the reason why i dont screenshot and send cheating bfs (whom i didnt know had gfs until further bg checks) whom i met on OLD to their girlfriends-i might run into the type who would come for ME instead of their bfs who werent even supposed to be on OLD in the first place. I absolutely hate conflict but it hurts way more if the hate is coming from a woman you're trying to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:51 AM
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Do iiiiiit!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:26 AM
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Wow this just put my feelings as a kid into perspective. I, too hated my femininity not because I hated women-i loved my fellow little girls and my.mom and my cousins, but I hated the idea that this was the way i was perceived since i was a woman. It was the perception/stigma that annoyed me not the woman-ness/women themselves. I even came to a point where I just wanted to be an entity. Like just...a being that has thoughts. I hated how if you were a woman you were expected to smile, be overly a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:03 AM
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Oh my goooodddd nothing scarier than ending up alone, fulfilled, stress free, financially secure, not losing sleep snooping on fb if he has a mistress or thinking if hes cheating on you, buying what you want when you want it because theres no lazy slob of a scrote mooching off your hard work for a playstation and still expecting you to take care of the finances and housework. So so sooooo scary indeed 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 Shut it with the projection, scrotes. Its you who are terrified of growing old alone with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:59 AM
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I for one... A. Know women who encourage healthy emotional expression for fellow women and men but men shut it down because feelings are homosexual. B. Out of all my female friends, only one is a cheater due to...irdk. but i dont know that many women who cheat just because. also, women are heartless or women finally snapped after giving 2 billion chances? C. What is their reference for men aging like fine wine? Celebrities? Do you not know that celebs have teams of stylists working for them that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:53 AM
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Count me in i wanna know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:03 AM
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I am annoyed with this 'oh even if the age gap is revoltingly large we should let them be bc theyre both legal and some bs bs". Its not JUST ABOUT being both legal or consenting, its what occurred between them that made the more vulnerable one consent to this. What sort of brainwashing and grooming was done bec there is no way in hell 19 and 45 are compatible. Not even 22 and 50. What the actually hell do people that far apart from each other talk about and build together? Thats not a partnershi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:59 AM
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i knew i wasnt wrong for wishing i was attracted to women instead as a kid. men are depraved i hate it so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:20 AM
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So many women accept men for who they are. Regardless of what they been through and regardless of what said women look like or have accomplished. Men on the other hand are capable of having the extreme audacity to be horrible to women who did nothing but qccept them,love them, trust them and care for them and I grow angrier and angrier by the day each time i realize this. No man's love is unconditional. Ive seen more unconditional love from our old fridge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:41 AM
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HAHAHHAi used it enough today for my mom to ask me where i got it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:58 AM
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Lol every guy I cried to in the middle of discussing problems in so much anger called me dramatic and now you want us to uNdErStANd? Choke on it, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:35 PM
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JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH Ok. Just saw this and I am LIVID!!! I worked at a gym and this is a reality. The coaches really be do taking videos of women and cat calling them and I tried to tell them off but I was new and powerless and they didnt take me seriously. Now there were two female coaches there and they did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. They evem adapted the males attitudes and began accepting it as if it was normal!!!!! One coach tried hitting on me at the start of lockdown by asking if I was home …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:24 PM
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Exactly. I have friends with mental health issues and they addressed them. Each. Those women went to therapy, took medication, and I saw them get better by the day. They can actually function and they dont let others take care of their illness for them neither do they use it to gaslight others or as some golden ticket to be an asshole. When it comes to self improvement, I've also seen women succeed at it more than men. Men more so often than not use it to emotionally manipulate women into what t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:55 PM
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Exactly. And to think that bills need to be paid. Shit needs to get done. Theres a job waiting for you. Families have to be fed. Sorry reaaallly really sorry to those who have issues i dont really want to offend anyone but pls dont tell me you '"cant make it today" or "not feeling myself" or "a dark cloud os hanging over me" or whatever shit you copied from a nirvana song to justify why you cant adult today when it was YOU who wanted a relationship or marriage or family. Again sorry for the exam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:37 PM
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I love how FDS seems to be reading my mind 👏daily👏. I was just thinking about this and now it's here. Since when were they stopped from being eMoTiOonALL? all they do is pour out their issues and when you give rational advice they snap at you saying you arent understanding. Now when you give them comfort they drain the fuck outta you by making you his ⭐free⭐ therapist. When you ignore them they call you a stuck up cold bitch. They show a wide range of it in extremes and harm people around them. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:07 AM
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Im so happy you triumphed over your struggles and honestly I dont see how you're or we are touted as hypocritical? We experienced it first hand with men like them so its not a made up story or something from a fictional thriller. Its real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:54 AM
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Im taking out the bukowski the kerouac and the hemingway and the s.thompson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:50 AM
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Hehehe oh wow thank you :3 yes bookshelf and i have been going strong. Happily Married and all 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:49 AM
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I recently rejected someone who had terrible mental health issues, therapy meds yknow the whole enchilada. I think in a world right now where we are called to be compassionate and understanding of those with MH issues, some will deliberately use their own issues to gaslight or guilt trip you into staying with them because then you'd be "stigmatizing" and "narrow minded". Ive said this before I understand some people have MH issues and Im not saying mental illness is a myth or that people with MI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:23 AM
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The fact that he showed you he sucked is all you need to know about him and the fact that he showed it means he doesnt care. He wont feel bad and he doesnt feel will never feel sorry. No need to point it out dbag knows EXACTLY what he is doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:37 AM
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UGH YES. We have a family friend who has a houseband but she super accomplished and all. Hes always saying hes lucky to have someone like her because she does everything pays for everything and such. Yknow, just a side thought on that, given that fam friend's personality if the tables were turned and she was the housewife she would make their home 200 percent the best and always give her all to her family the way she does with work. But as for her husband....well why hire maids and cooks if he's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:52 AM
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With men's inability to take hints and read between the lines i dont think he's gonna see that. He's not gonna see what she does as some kind of pressure to give back. And even if he does hes an entitled scrote does she expect any awareness? Ur man dont think like ur girlfriends. Drop him and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:42 AM
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It real 🤣 I remember seeing one alpha male group on fb saying shit like "WoMEn LoVe tO be IgNOreD oNLy bEta SimPs do thINgs fOr WoMEn WithoUt rEward". Looked like ABSOLUTE cheeto dust and i can smell the couch creatureness from here. If this is the guy thats gonna "eMoTioNaLLY manIpuLate" me through silence and lack of attention then ignore away! I hope you never give me any attention 👌👌👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:59 AM
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Proud Ice Queen here too! Wear your ice crowns with pride queens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:13 AM
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I spent literally a huge chunk of my life trying to change my naturally cold look. I tried makeup to soften and enlarge the eyes, tried to act softer and wear other colors than (my favorite) black tried to smile more or looked for ways on how to have a rounder face when smiling. But I just couldnt help it. When faced in the presence of a scrote i just dont have the ability to play nice. My sarcastic tongue and equally mean face take effect. Thanks to FDS i learned to embrace who I was and realiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:12 AM
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They really be thinking they're a great loss. They really be thinking WE need them. If cheeto dust man threatens to ignore me and move on then pls for the love of christ DO IT. Ignore me all the way to the gates of hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:08 AM
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Thank you! 🎂🍰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:58 PM
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This sounds so so so much like my friend whose first and current bf is EXACTLY LIKE SHE MENTIONED. I dont buy the whole shy guy schtick if he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:52 AM
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LOOOL where is the lie. I was seriously just in the middle of a confrontation w a supervisor regarding my work which he wasnt able to organise well and now he's calling out my mistakes and in a panic instead of providing the necessary tools to begin with. LOOOL imagine losing your mind and panicking over a super simple mistake that couldve been remedied if you were only the least.bit.orderly jfc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:22 AM
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If Id ever encounter a man who admits a few dates later that he once laid a hand on an ex or pushed his mom in an argument when he was a teen im noping from the restaurant to my bathroom. What more someone who killed his wife and kids. Very disturbing indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:07 PM
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We have a similar saying here. Its called "tiis ganda" in filipino or you have to endure or tolerate uncomfortable borderline painful things in order to appear beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:41 AM
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WHAAHAHHAHAVAHAVA this def something id hear or see on libfem social media. The accuracy 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:09 AM
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And it's not like I'm ever gonna be able to marry damon albarn calm down with the nastiness. But whenever I do the same and call out problematic behavior on THEIR interests (video games and problematic rappers) they suddenly go "we like what we like" ok fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:26 AM
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Yikes. Apart from wasting your life with an LVM losing your sense of identity because of one is I guess the 2nd greatest tragedy. Its sad to think she went from rational with a thirst for knowledge to a conspiracy theorist. Reminds me of alot of friends who were genuinely good people and beautiful and all but were suddenly denouncing everything they once stood for just because the man didnt like it. And you can just tell when they're being fake about their newfound beliefs. And they'll pass it o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:23 AM
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HAHAHAHAHAHHA YESSS. And to think I was listening to dylan for literary technique purposes and not even as a means to say oh dylan is better than u. IM HERE FOR THE POETRY WRITING TECHNIQUE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:19 AM
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Lmao mine legit hated bob dylan bc i was listening to dylan hahahah and he aint even a teen idol jfc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:04 AM
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LITTARLY MISOGYNIC IM 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:45 AM
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The greatest irony is that the "love yourself" "mental health first" awareness is spreading simultaneously with the "casual sex" and "normalize kinks" "normalize women asking for sex" movement. So i really do not know which is which? Like if you really love yourself and you want your mental health intact, why go out with someone who will physically assault you, harrass and r*pe you and pass it off as kink? Lets not go any further, the pickmeism of women making the first move, courting men, too s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:37 AM
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Some esp on OLD are super upfront just bc they're hiding behind a screen and a keyboard. They just outright say what their kinks are and all you ever said was a hi how are you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:28 AM
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True. And maybe im super suspicious but even if they say they dont or wont, how sure can you be? They only say they dont to your face but when youre not around they watch porn but tell you over chat that theyre doing chores. Or they wont bring it up when youre around but the moment hes with his dudes he goes pornsick all over again. Men are liars indeed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:27 AM
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Jesus christ of nazareth. You know, there are really people i know in my waking reality that will actually make and believe these kinds of excuses. I dont know if theyre naive or in denial or both. I dont get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:24 AM
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This sucks. But i remember reading a post somewhere in the vast lands that is reddit that men love to shit on things women like that dont involve them. Its not even just a matter of personal interests. Notice the collective hatred of men towards one direction or twilight or kpop. We cant be happy unless its with them but they wont make us happy either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:09 AM
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I love lana so so much but I agree. Part of me was very lucky I discovered her music at a much later age compared to others I know (i started listening to born to die in 2018) because i dunno how much damage that wouldve done to impressionable 17 or 18 yr old me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:18 AM
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HAHAHA ok ill give -not calling out my ultra lv ex bf for his bad behaviour because "i dont wanna be controlling" and i thought he was the only one who would like me and i couldnt afford to push him away. -not really women hating per se but i was part of a group of women who looked down on other women who dressed nicely and loved feminine stuff. "Too btchy" we used to say. -had a "love you more than all those girls before" kinda vibe or the "im not materialistic like your other exes who always w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:06 AM
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I dont save his number and have blocked him. Its true ladies out of sight out of mind. Im sure its not the same for everyone but when that happens like even before you have the chance to meet always say that at least you didnt waste time and effort getting ready and spending time with him. It ended before any REAL, TANGIBLE efforts were made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:34 AM
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yes updates are fine but not those that go about every single minute and just a delay by like 5 minutes makes you go crazy. I know someone who literally couldnt be without texting her bf every minute asking if hes seeing other women and asking his friends to report on him and spy on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:33 PM
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Right? I did some memory lane flash drive hopping and saw how downright terrible I looked when I was with my LVM ex. Glad we're outta there sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:30 AM
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I wish many women could understand that you can never change a man or any person for that matter. You cannot love the bad attitude, the addiction, the womanising, the video games and porn away. It has to come from them and usually they only change if its a life death situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:21 AM
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Did we all swipe right on the same man?!?!?!? Why is it a familiar story?!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:17 AM
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Jokes like this dont make me laugh and it makes me so sad theyre so normalized nowdays. Like sure poke fun at your wife and pretend to call the husband (whom they know doesnt rly gaf) out but we all know jokes are half meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:13 AM
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Its like love bombing. They know ur hurt and sad so theyre gonna care for you but theyre actually just getting you hooked on the feeling because they know youve never felt that way before and when youre hooked they leave you like the manipulative LVMS they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:00 AM
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Or anyone from a high paying super respected reputable jobs. Theyre just using that to conceal their lv-ness and thinking all women fawn over doctors and lawyers. Theyre also probably married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:15 AM
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I'm not sure if there are any KPop fans here but if there are or if you'd like to explore a new genre, please listen to Mamamoo. They're my favorite girl group since they promote messages of self love, independence, and just down right being who you are. Theres four of them so you'll notice them all right away and they have their own style. I know theyre artists and their images are contrived and all but for what its worth, they show that you can still be powerful and get along with other women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:01 AM
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Yes! They actually know. I noticed that they can seem to tell who to approach and what to use to rope her in, depending on her vulnerabilities. I have a friend who's absolutely gorgeous but I noticed she isnt well liked or remembered by men. Like she wasnt always approached or her name wasnt always slung around by men. Its because shes confident, tough, multitalented, smart and independent. Physically strong, too. Girl works out alot! There is literally nothing they can do to win her so they dro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:44 AM
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Awesome advice sis. Thanks for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:25 AM
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Can I just comment on the compete with each other BS?! I remember eons back I read somewhere that if a woman praises another woman or if a woman thinks another woman is beautiful it means that woman isn't a threat. I felt bad because most of those that praise me and compliment my style are women so young me thought it was only confirmation that I'm ugly. But when I started waking up and putting the pieces of the puzzle together, I realized it was THEM who wanted us to fight with each other for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:22 AM
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HAHAHAHAH exactly. I told him what I wanted and he got all sadboi-ish "what about men like me whp arent rich?!?" OKeI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:07 PM
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Yes same. My poor self esteem and traumatized brain from all the lies and bullying back in high school made me think that kind gestures and appreciation and love whether real or fake is...well...fake. as a result i ended up with zero effort men and overtly terrible guys because I thought it was "honesty" and it was better than a love bomber that looked like a cult recruitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:12 AM
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*your honesty sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:04 AM
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There's another one I get alot: "You're like one of the boys. You're so honest." Honesty is a male trait?! Ok Cheaty McManipulator if u say so 🥴 These are the same POS that get angry when you use their honesty to call them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:03 AM
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I knew someone who said that his ideal type was tall and beautiful. No other traits. Someone tall and beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:55 AM
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Ah yes. They'll call you crazy and melodramatic and overreacting and say that you need to work on your mentality but when they have problems and you go logical on them watch them call you cold and uncaring. Dammit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:35 AM
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Its terrible when a woman cannot be a woman for another woman. That is a whole nuther level of heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:31 AM
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Thank you this is an amazing piece of advice! Just to share what I gathered from all my years of being a pickmeishas sidekick is that they've lowered their boundaries so much that they cannot differentiate controlling from actual boundaries, from calling out of inappropriate or offensive or hurtful behaviour. Telling somebody that they cannot go to a certain place at a certain time without your knowledge and permission and pics to prove and that they should update every hour is controlling. Call…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:29 AM
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Alot of people see it as shallow and ridiculous but most times their interests are very telling of what they are or could be as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:41 AM
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this terrifies me too. I cant picture building everything with them, from a home to finances to trust to a family and having it all end in his hands because he snapped and apparently had a lot of underlying issues that led up to this. My heart bleeds for the children especially since we all at a young age trust our parents for protection, only to see one of them end our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:10 AM
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anyone who posts negative covid test results or vaccinated are basically saying "hey im safe and covid free u literally have no excuse to not bang me this pandemic u cant use covid as an excuse anymore". COVID IS STILL AROUND HELLO!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:29 AM
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Amen sis! I used to pine for even the ugliest man's attention if it meant getting picked now i cant even be bothered to look their way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:00 AM
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hahahahha was gonna comment this yes yes! Men are always saying they're "logical" and "factual" but this is statistics and science with proof and now suddenly they're as blind and adamant as a hardcore anti-vaxxer flat earther
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:50 AM
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My mom used to always tell this to me but of course pick me old me was like no thats inequality. And of course with my damaged self esteem i preferred to do the chasing. Now i understand it was right all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:15 AM
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Happy youve kicked him and all gamer dating habits to the curb. Proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:12 AM
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The truth. I know from my own experience and with friends too how they can stay with men 600000 feet below their level in all ways more than the physical, stayed with them through it all, gave up their friends and hobbies if they were in LDRs, didnt care if the guy was poorer than them or couldnt afford to buy them what they could buy as a gift for themselves. Only to see those men leave them for other women when they needed them the most. I hate it when others use the rhetoric that 'you arent x…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:43 AM
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They also want to make sex work legal for the 3rd world women not knowing that these women in poverty would NOT CHOOSE sex work if they had access to better education and employment. They think that by making it more acceptable they would be removing the shame and stigma from the women without a choice but those women dont even want to be there in the first place! they dont want the shame, the stigma, and the sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:16 AM
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This is what i was trying to explain to someone i know. Apart from only a select super duper few make bank on OF, what if someone steals your pics and posts it somewhere else?!? Now your nudes are everywhere for FREE thus defeating the purpose of your OF journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:14 AM
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Im inching close to this because the men I've encountered, when they arent predatory, boundary stepping assshats are absolutr negative value with questionnable choices in life. No, im not settling for a lesser evil. Not being a r*pist doesnt qualify as husband material so boys dont @ me with your i can have a waifu pillow and watch anime octopus porn at least im not committing a crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:18 AM
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Said this before ill say it again. depending on the context, jokes are fine. If you ARE ALWAYS THE JOKE, sis you know what to do. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:40 AM
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i refuse to date any guy with mental health issues. Not to stigmatize I KNOW ya'll with it sre strugglinh but these dudes PURPOSELY do not seek treatment so you can be bangmommytherapymaid and they can use it to guilt trip you each time you say no. Him: "baby i want you" Her:"not in the mood im busy" Him: "you dont care about me then. I have rejection issues. You are triggering me. I will commit s*icide at your doorstep. I am #triggered. You dont care about #mensmentalhealth" OR Him: "im not all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:33 AM
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I knew I was right. I knew I was right and wasn't the only one who felt this way! I often said this to my friends in the past and they found my lack of wanting a male presence weird and alarming and that "its different with a man, yknow". Thank you, FDS for always confirming my true inner thoughts that I should NOT have let silenced by external influence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:01 AM
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Men's standards however: Must NOT be over 25. Minimum is JUST TURNED 18. Must be independent but needs me. Needs me and clingy but independent. Must be model hot after having 828383 children i would not care for In lieu of the 18838393 children i would not care for, she must NOT complain that I dont care for them and happily shoulder all the childrens expenses while still giving me a BJ every night and submitting to BDSM ever MWF. NOT a gold digger with her own job (meaning i have no job but I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:55 AM
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I'll be your friend! 🥰💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:36 AM
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Lol. She hasn't a damn clue what a sugar baby is if she thinks that paying for a date and having that expectation are "SB tactics". She dated way below her league, the guy constantly pokes fun at her, guy always says to her face that she wasnt initially his type but she grew on him, and she lets him stay for days in their house with her family. Of course those expectations and standards are sugar baby tactics. How opportunistic and manipulative of me, right?! 🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🤡🤡🤡🤡 This explains everything. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:23 AM
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There was one time I guess it was before a party? I made a comment about no it shouldnt be 50-50 at dates. She told me, "your sugar baby tactics dont work here" same woman who was always made the butt of the joke by her bf and whose bf played video games in front of her, her grunting and subtly calling him out in her marge simpson tone. It's hard that they don't see it as an act of love and friendship. They think its judging and bullying and being mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:50 AM
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I noticed how pickmes will often resort to the below the bare minimum thing their lvm bfs do. Hang up jammies ?!?!? does either of them even know how much groceries cost?!?!??! That's sad!. Im also grateful for FDS and all you ladies here. Some red flags, especially when you're in the company of women like them, can quickly be normalized. Such as jokes and jabs about their personalities , quirks, and even when they get angry about very valid things. I dont understand how thats loving. I wouldn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:31 AM
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sighs in sisterhood it's a truth i'm slowly coming into terms with. I wasn't even on FDS yet and I automatically knew something was wrong with their mindsets. There was something in me saying this shouldn't be it but they keep pushing that oh its normal, oh this is it, oh bla bla bla. And to think I had one friend who had a phase where she would latch on from man to man when she and her bf broke up, thus resulting in her being set back years in university. It's sad like i wish she had just reach…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:24 AM
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Looks like we're in the same boat sis. My female friends are pickmes to the core one even said that she would stay despite him "not following her rules". And another courted a guy on the guise of "its 2021 why are you so timid?" Another one's bf kept talking about "oh you're rich anyways". And when i lay the truth lovingly and gently down i get "stop being negative" "bitter hag single cat lady". ?!?!?!??!?!?! I only have 1 best friend whose mindset aligns with FDS so whenever we see each other a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:11 AM
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whispers the guys there are overweight cheeto dust manchildren.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:03 AM
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I had this thought before going to bed last night. What if all of my friends supported each other and didnt ditch me. What if when they were lonely instead of seeking men on apps they sought me or our other friends out. LVMs would hold no power anymore when that happens since no one is pining for them. The pickmes would become HVWs thanks to their constant company of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:00 AM
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My guess is they cherry picked real bad, only selecting the ones that hurt mAhns FeELinGz wAh wAh and decided that we are an incel group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:00 AM
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I wanna be a part of this so badly please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:53 AM
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Wow they really be acting a certain way huh? Like they went to a college for future fakers or something like that. Same with my friends' bfs. Didnt even want to do anything for my friends on valentines and bdays but can spend on gym membership and toys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:12 AM
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Ah yeah. We probably have the same set of friends, i guess. Another one got blinded by the doctor title but all her bf does is spend money on all sorts of shit knowing fully well he's in debt and struggling. But its ok because dOcTOr'S wIFe pOtEntIaL amirite?!? 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:59 PM
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I dont wanna judge your friend but is it possible that she banked on his potential as a doctor? Because i have a friend who sees potential in her boyfriend because he has ambitions of going abroad for work but has never actually done anything to apply or anything? IDK i could be wrong...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:50 AM
10

Well if anything he was trash unconsciously taking himself out so yeah. If someone still falls for this i will weep real tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:43 AM
22

Serial killer/rapist is the all around theme of OLD. So much so that bare minimum LVMs who take you on walk dates but dont hurt you are given badges of honor for not being what we thought they would be, which isnt right. Dammit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:40 AM
60

the overestimate/underestimate thing really got me. The guys in high school that called me ugly and left me with a giant wound on my self esteem are actually not even half of what is considered good looking. I brought this up before with friends and they all thought i was overthinking it. I knew it couldnt have been right 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:39 AM
24

There is nothing good there omg. The men there are 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:22 AM
21

Pisces agnostic liberal eeek. I can already see the aTheIsT dEbaTes to the sound of shoegaze mac demarco while talking about how cApITAlIsM has ruined us all and how his real job is an aVAnT gaRde Art MusiciAn. Hahahaha to the pisceses here and the agnostics here and the liberals no offense. The mans of your sign, denomination, and political leanings ARE LIKE THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:50 AM
74

Men really project and its disappointing and it makes my blood boil. They think its that because they dont do background checks they dont research they dont do any of that because I DONT KNOW ANY VIOLENT WOMAN WHO WOULD ATTACK A DATE!!! unlike them who chameleon and peacock until youre neck deep in emotion with them and then their true colors come out. Whats a rejected/disappointed woman going to do? Ghost and block. Some of them can be pickmeishas and stay. Whats a rejected/disappointed man gon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:37 AM
6

I did a little experiment for shits and giggles in the past.i did what men did on OLD and go on and on about "no stingy men i love gifts", or "if you're a balding geezer gtfo' or " no to gamers" and when I matched with someone he called me a fucking bitch and a bitter hag. Like this is your game right here, son. This is what you do. Now that it's on you you're so pissed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:20 AM
13

LVM: "I don't like women who wear lots of makeup" Also LVM: lusts over heavily made up women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:24 AM
12

Right?!?!?!??! Intuition is a natural reaction, its built-in, something automatic in us. Why is it being dismissed?! Im all for evidence and such but sometimes...MOST TIMES EVEN..when you know and feel, you know and feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:14 AM
17

If you feel that way to begin with, it means its valid and that man knows it so hes downplaying your emotions so he wont get busted. Gross analogy but when i feel diarrheal its diarrhea. Our bodies know it doesnt feel that way for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:38 AM
12

Imagine the pickmes and libfems fighting for "men's emotions" and "men are valid too" and catering to men's sexual appetite because its "empowering" only to get mistreated by said men cause they dont wanna be called simps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:29 AM
8

Sounds alot like: Man: "Women nowadays just party nobody cooks and cleans anymore." Women: "Men nowadays just play video games nobodys striving to climb the corporate ladder anymore." Man: "wAh wAh tHatS MisAnDRy toXiC MasCuLinIty itS 2021 fuck GenDEr RoLEs"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:11 AM
14

The first step is admitting it and that alone is brave of you. Glad you didn't try to defend and make excuses for his lack of effort. You deserve so much better. Fuck what he thinks thst you don't! 🤗🤗🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:18 AM
98

You nailed it. Most women involved in violent crimes are either manipulated or brainwashed pr threatened by their bfs or husbands to be complicit or snapped because of trauma. I have yet to see an exact ted bundy female version with the same reasonings for her actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:14 AM
13

I noticed women gamers even the most avid ones I know are better at prioritizing and understanding responsibilities. They also still have friends and hobbies and eat well and have their hygiene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:36 AM
5

I relate horribly to the bed part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:33 AM
3

We know the same guys sis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:29 AM
9

This is relatable. I remember just adjusting to his lack of presence by filling my life with hobbies friends music and work that I sort of forgot he was there. It made leaving him so much easier especially since I had begun to see less and less of him until the lockdown where i finally cut it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:28 AM
5

Long post ahead but this is true. I wish I had known this before dating my gamer ex. He would CONSTANTLY use his phone to play mobile games in my presence and would do so after sex. Not to mention that he never initiates anything and if he doesn't initiate I won't either so we eventually grew apart which led to our breakup which is great. This is the same scrote who couldn't write me a beautiful dedication letter on my bday or valentines day. I know you can say words are just words and thats tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:16 AM
2

And they call US catty and dramatic while they drag other men down i
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:23 AM
1

My lvm ex tweeted that those who believe in valentines day are "insecure" and "need to belong." SOOOO glad i dated my friends over him on what was supposed to be our first valentines yrs.ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:53 AM
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yeap. this is the headline. dont forget to throw in the weeb porn and vidya games there 🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:35 AM
10

i was mean to the men at my workplace and they resented me for it......I LOVE IT! Stay away you crusty unwashed creeps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:30 PM
62

They want a bangmommymaid. Like fuck me and i expect you to give your all to me but i wont give you anything not even emotional support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:26 PM
18

I felt like FDS philosophies always existed deep in me but i shoved it aside like many have here out of fear of being labelled by judgy by libfems and pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:19 AM
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Being a "hoe" is not worth it. I tried hoeing around in my younger years and tried it virtually (no nudes just dirty talk) last year on my first ever time on OLD and boy it is NOT FUN. I want to discourage anyone who's ever thinking of sleeping around with men. It doesn't work the way movies make it seem. Every single guy i told that i only wanted casual sex pestered me every second, got pissed when i didnt want to see him in the MIDDLE OF A PANDEMIC and insulted me when i refused to send nudes.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:44 AM
8

WE CAN NEVER WIN DAMMIT! I HATE THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:59 AM
37

Tell me about it. It's only natural for a woman with drive to want a man with drive, too. When you pay for them, they dont feel manly enough. When you dont pay "goLd diGGer huhuhu"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:09 AM
2

This is what I always tell my friends who frequently use the "potential" argument in defense of a man who is the complete and total opposite. His actions have to show his potential. Don't tell me he's an 'investment' when all you've seen him in is through rose colored glasses and someone whose judgment isnt clouded sees the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:18 AM
30

I too have given up and believe there are truly no good men and if they are they're probably just faking. Idk if ive grown pessimistic with time but every single promising one i see (not meet) is either HV for only 3 months then cheats on his gf and the fights start and the male entitlement begins, or are future fakers who sound HV and decent in chats but are actual slobs and LVM in real life and just managed to stuff it all in because you've never met. It amazes me how much pickmeishas give up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:41 AM
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The funniest thing I've ever read about FDS was that apparently we are gold diggers when all we want is financial stability, effort, and decency in a man. FDS encourages women to HAVE careers amd look for a man with a stable career and thats actual practical advice. Financial stability so that someone would pull in their weight as you do is PRACTICAL. Besides, I have not read ONE WOMAN here say "oh he has to buy me a private jet" or "i have to have tiffanys every week." NOT A DAMN ONE. Not to me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:19 AM
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Too much or too little is just as bad. Anyone who posts too much of their relationship is going through something. Anyone who posts too little to the point of nom existence is definitely hiding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:16 AM
2

I remember during my lost pickmeisha days one scrote projected so hard by saying "you already get dick is that not enough?" Good thing we were only chatting and never met up. Whew. 🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:18 AM
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Curious to see the backing study but from experience it is true. Those friends I know who continuosly post are terrible in real life. Control issues, jealousy the whole thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:36 AM
12

Lots of women give their bad behaviour a pass and even partake in their bad behavior because they "arent like men" or they wont get raped by them. True. But those that I know who only have gay friends and no female friends have a bas case of internalized misogyny, as with the cool girl with mostly straight male friends. Same same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:16 AM
22

This is true. I have gay friends and have nothing against gays but most women have distorted their image into women too or one of the girls that they forget gay men are men too. These gay men DONT EVEN consider themselves as girls. I have heard straight up vile and offensive things coming from them not to mention lots of them are misogynistic but women give them a pass otherwise theyd be called "homophobic" or something. Men arent our friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:28 AM
3

True. I'm usually the warner like reading and seeing all the red flags and now im the villain because their fairy tales are ruined by the wicked bitter hag. Several months down the line the "wicked bitter hag" is right and was right all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:17 PM
3

Aww i get you. Hugs to you sis. This almost feels too much like me. I too loved the whole girl power no boys allowed concept as a little girl and id have all my female friends with me too. Then when they started having bfs they faded away one by one. Its sad really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:15 PM
8

My uber pickme friend does this! What's even more telling is she doesnt seem to have any friends or want to have any friends EXCEPT for men who are either potentials or who wont call out her bf's shady behavior! Then she has the audacity to throw a pity party saying we grew apart SIS U CREATED THE GAP!!! WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:09 PM
2

UGH YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:07 PM
7

I was just thinking about this earlier. I'm the only single one in my group of friends which means I literally have NO friends left since they now prioritize their relationships over friendships. They have always been this way and sometimes idk what it is about me that I cant seem to find any friends on the same thinking as me. Except for two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:06 PM
79

Nah they only say they're feminists to lower your guard and enable you to do porn like stuff for free because "eMPOWerMeNt 2021" 🥴🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:09 PM
1

I remember reading before that it's because compared to free men or celebrities, they have a better shot at communicating and getting validation from criminals since they are behind bars and have like all the time to write. It makes sense in a way because if you write to brad pitt will brad pitt ever read it let alone reply to it?!?!? But these prisoners will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:17 AM
8

This culture is widespread and it needs to stop. Imagine encouraging women to just fold in with the man's interests. Couldn't be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:13 AM
2

This is true. I went through this during my brief pickme stint. I always liked dressing up but the lvms and the NLOGs bashed me left and right so I deconstructed myself. Then watch the same men that say that lust over the IG baddies with full on makeup. They're just bringing out your insecurities so they can control you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:31 AM
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WAHAHAH this could be interpreted so I guess it should be.....ditch or disregard? Idk. Anyhow i needed this since this goes out to all the assholes who made me feel like something was wrong with me for being quirky for being different for not entertaining them or even smiling at them, for being ambitious or for my ever switching fashion sense (some scrotey gamer ex told me to wear pretty schoolgirl dresses while wearing snot covered jackets.EUGH!) this goes out to all your LVM exes too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:55 AM
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I agree with being taught how to cook and clean IF THEY TELL US that these are basic life skills instead of always saying: "Learn how to cook so your HUSBAND will have something good to eat" "Wow you know how to clean! You can definitely get MARRIES now!" "You can't cook rice? Oh your poor HUSBAND." Like why are basic life skills that you need FOR SURVIVAL always taught with the intention of marriage or making mens lives easier and not bc i will be on my own without my parents at a certain time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:52 AM
2

i started OLD for the first time ever last year March and ended last year June. The grossness of everyone there is just 🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:26 AM
1

Wish you all the best and i'm glad you're rebuilding yourself. It's hard and it takes time but i know you'll get there! Cheers, queen! 🥰🥰💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:33 PM
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I was always known as "the bitch" at work because I was super selective when it came to choosing friends and everyone shamed me because I wasn't warm and friendly. I felt so bad for myself because of it for a long time but I knew that I shouldn't waste any attention on people who aren't close to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:58 PM
9

She didnt lie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:15 AM
8

Sis this is a reality. OLD days me matched with a guy who got hard from women crying this is fked up. Like even at a woman's most emotionally vulnerable where she needs YOUR emotional support you lowkey wanna fuck her? Like idk that felt weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:56 AM
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There is a dont gamer shame thing going on. Like ive been seeing posts of pickmes encouraging other women to 'adopt the game' and play side by side with the guy. That and the 'at least he aint hoeing around' argument 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:54 AM
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