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imhereforthemeta/r/MensRights14/07/12 05:34 PM
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Men can really go their entire lives forgetting that anger is an emotion and claim that they are less emotional than women
/r/ExRedPill25/06/26 11:15 PM
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How likely is it really that 50 percent of our population is below average looking, most Americans make under 60k (and a LOT make close to 30) and every single one of of those people who are in a relationship are settling VS the much more likely issue that specific lonely men are simply struggling to find happiness and projecting those issue onto everyone else.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 03:59 PM
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The strongest debunk to a lot of this Redpill stuff is seeing all of the poor, ugly slobs that are together in public. Red pill takes a personal struggle and acts like it’s everyone’s struggle, but a lot of people with minimal on paper “value” are in love and coupled up.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/26 03:31 PM
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I mean this in the most genuine and nice way possible, this kind of community support really needs to come from men, and men have historically not been great about organizing true men’s liberation in gender spaces. There is quite a lot of motivation to jump on the train to be really mad at women, but there is not a lot of motivation to get straight men into a place where they are self accepting, unburdened by archaic,l gender expectations, and have a safe place to go when they are looking to hea…
/r/ExRedPill15/06/26 12:15 AM
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If you have interest in growing and changing, I feel like the first step is always just kind of simple. Make friends with some women. It’s sounds simple, it sounds like it’s not enough, but it makes a difference. And specifically, make friends that you do not intend on pursuing romantically, or you can handle not pursuing romantically, even if you develop feelings with them. You need to have some genuine, non-sexual relationships with women that are built on the same kind of trust that you would…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/26 06:04 PM
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How old are you? I have a number of friends who are a bit younger who say that they tend to date millennial aged guys because they can find more feminists. Can confirm that my husband is definitely one of them.
/r/ExRedPill03/05/26 09:38 PM
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Many of them dont see women as villains, they see us as "less than". A lot of TRP guidance treats women like children incapable of thinking rationally who are still nice to get attention from but shouldn't have a lot of say in the home. They dehumanize, but also leave some wiggle room to justify wanting us as partners.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/26 07:16 PM
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Hey babe. I had one of those too. I thought I was able to help him by being loving and loyal and sharing truths about women and feminism. I learned about the redpill stuff AFTER we got together and he didn't call it "redpill", but thats what it was. He ended up becoming abusive and paranoid and cheated- despite constantly being stressed that I was a cheater (I wasn't) After I left, he blamed me for ruining his life and my understanding is that he hasn't been with a woman in a long time and leans…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/26 07:43 PM
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Enjoy the continuation of being “touch starved” then. You clearly do not have it figured out but don’t think you need to grow as a person, so not sure why you bother complaining about this at all. Do you just want to be validated and told “poor you”?
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 12:46 PM
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If I was to hear an internal monologue like this, it wouldn’t matter if the man was rich, handsome, and “nice”. It comes off as someone who doesn’t think of women as people, but as things built to fulfill a role for you. Likely you are also giving off a vibe like this as well. Agree and co-sign with the comments about therapy. You need to talk to someone about your relationship with women and genuinely want to be in a place to fix it. Then gear your focus to developing strong interpersonal relat…
/r/ExRedPill02/04/26 12:39 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like your friends might be limiting your experiences and world views- again, women can sniff out guys with chips on their shoulders pretty easily. and a lot of your hobbies are about consuming rather than doing. Using a personal anecdote again, my husband has always been popular with girls even when he was broke and overweight. He does stand up comedy, volunteers, does relatively intense/cool hikes, goes to the skate park and shreds, and has a "free repair" team that goes to the …
/r/ExRedPill17/02/26 04:41 PM
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With a lot of folks in your position, you mention being a catch in some ways but folks going for tall assholes, however, your current view of woman would be a red flag and probably presents in some other ways in your daily life- possibly without you realizing it. I’m married, but was in a store the other day and a really fat dude laid some mega smooth lines on me but also treated me like a person and was clearly a put together dude. I walked out of the store telling my friend if I was single I w…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 04:31 PM
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My husband and I have always gone back and fourth. Sometimes I’m the breadwinner by a lot, sometimes he is by a lot. I met him when he was unemployed and broke though lmfaooo
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 02:39 PM
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Contrapoints does a very good job at this and is often credited by guys for helping to deradicalize them.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 12:05 AM
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It sounds like you are frequently unkind to yourself in many ways, and it’s important to recognize and appreciate moments of strength like admitting you were wrong about something. Allow yourself and others to give you credit for your better moments. I WFH and am online pretty regularly so Feel free to reach out if you need to talk.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 04:30 PM
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Can just speak for me - I don’t know if it’s healthy I take a lot of time after interactions to think about how I would react to me, or if anything I say would be considered strange. I am very blunt for example and I’ll try to soften blunt statements that might be considered rude I am a weirdo and there’s a way to be cool and weird, but I always talk about a 30 minute rule where I try to be what someone wants to be for 30 minutes and then trickle my personality in and test reactions I am VERY se…
/r/ExRedPill03/11/25 12:39 AM
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I am good with people even though I’m extremely anxious and weird and it’s…a muscle. I had to put work into it. You need to learn how to work it out and then continue to do that for a long time! It’s hard because you need to impress folks to get them to give you a chance and that’s just overall true. My husband is naturally charming but I genuinely put TIME AND EFFORT into it. Something that helped me a lot was to develop that confidence within my real life/non internet hobbies if that helps. De…
/r/ExRedPill03/11/25 12:22 AM
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Learn to talk to humans. If you form genuine connections with women, they will like you. My husband when I met him was fat and an alcoholic and working a shit job, but he is extremely kind and charming and approaches women like he would approach a best friend. He was always EXTREMELY popular with women despite not being super active in pursuing them and his fit military buddies would be completely floored by it. When they would ask, he would just be like “idk, I just act genuine and have a good …
/r/ExRedPill03/11/25 12:15 AM
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Yes exactly! And idk like when I met my husband he was overweight, depressed, and we were both broke as hell, but dude was funny and passionate about stand up comedy. He was really passionate about art and even though it was just a hobby for him, I was like OK cool, like we’ve got some stuff to team up and talk about and do. We ended up becoming friends and then romantic and we’ve been married for 10 years. He’s a very different person than when I met him in terms of his success and looks, but h…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 11:45 PM
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No one’s asking you to be the most talented guy at the circus, but like you know, have an interest in something other than watching Netflix. If you lack any other trait that people might find attractive, having a skill or hobby that you are at least decent at is a pretty good way to pick up the slack. You say you don’t understand, but I think that a lot of men who are lonely are more attracted to the idea of having a partner than appreciating the idea that you actually kind of want to spend time…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/25 10:41 PM
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Roller derby, but based on your interests I feel like you would fuck so hard with the festival scene which is also such an open place. My husband went to electric forest and it like, changed his life and he made a shitload of friends.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/25 01:40 AM
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So I mean with hobbies. It’s pretty easy. Invest in a hobby and connections with both friends and potential partners will follow. I find that when two people are passionate about the same thing. Connections can happen very fast. I am in a counterculture community, and most of the guys end up getting girlfriends relatively quickly because they are in the same universe. They have the same goals, they’re doing the same thing. Depending on the subculture, it can sometimes feel like folks in the subc…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/25 03:58 PM
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if you think women are so incapable of love they just abandon good partners, why do you want to have a partner?
/r/ExRedPill17/07/25 04:25 PM
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Why the fuck do you think having testosterone make women like you more?
/r/ExRedPill16/07/25 08:25 PM
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And that’s not really what women are- otherwise, only a few top guys would have girlfriends and wives and be in happy marriages. Here’s the meaner side to my encouraging comment- a lot of men in red and black pill spaces say that women only want the top percent of men until they are forced to settle or whatever because they are largely not passionate, interesting, engaging, socially effective people who struggle with making any sort of genuine human connection other than a friend or two who are …
/r/ExRedPill16/07/25 04:14 PM
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People always see women are picky, but I always ask those people to walk around outside a little bit. You see women who are quite attractive often with guys who barely know how to dress themselves and aren’t remarkable or are straight up ugly. The assumptions on what women want are so much different than the reality. Men can definitely get away with being weird looking if they are funny, driven, talented, etc. I am in the roller derby scene, and even the ugliest dudes on earth can get a girlfrie…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/25 04:20 PM
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Oh my gosh- you are a baby!!!! So straight up, I always just tell people walk around sometime. Like go walk in a park or in a mall and look at the couples. There are a a lot of traditionally unattractive men who are walking around with their partner in love. In fact, if that wasn’t the case, it would be pretty darn hard for humans to populate. It looks really aren’t everything, but they absolutely can make it harder if the only way they’re interacting with people is dating apps, etc. Anecdotally…
/r/ExRedPill07/05/25 04:03 PM
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Absolutely amateur sports. Like you don’t even have to be a sporty person. Combat sports are actually pretty great entry-level for anybody, I had a lot of fun doing MMA. There’s all of the regular team sports of course, Pickleball leagues, there’s a lot of sports that are kind of made up and for nerds, etc. I’m a really big fan because you have to accomplish a goal together with a group of people rather than doing something separate and there’s a lot of camaraderie that comes with that. If you a…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/25 11:08 PM
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Kinda weird, but for some entry level stuff, Contrapoints is a youtuber who is literally famous for deradicalizing people- shes pretty empathetic to young men while also calling out harmful behavior. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1xxcKCGljY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fD2briZ6fB0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjMPJVmXxV8 Heres two of her videos on the subject of Redpill adjacent stuff and one on 'cancelling'- this is a really great and non boring non preachy - funny, and kinda edgy intr…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 02:24 PM
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“Women are basically children and need to be abused to keep in line” isn’t substance
/r/ExRedPill11/04/25 08:53 PM
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I would definitely consider how much you’re willing to put yourself in an unhealthy and downright potentially abusive situation just to fix this guy. To be honest, it sounds like he needs some time away from you. Right now he’s getting the validation that he can behave that way, and that it won’t lose him the love of his life. It might be some hard medicine for you to walk away and say that you really hope that he’s able to heal from whatever he’s gotten sick with so you can be together again. T…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/25 10:45 PM
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Yes. One night stands are all based on luck, being willing to fail a lot, and having an outgoing or otherwise engaging personality that draws people to you.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/25 07:06 PM
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Find me an example of people talking about male virgins this way. The only guys like this that get attacked our men who pretend like they’re inability to find a partner is women’s fault- which by default falls into a right wing ideology bucket
/r/ExRedPill27/02/25 04:51 PM
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I know, but you get what I’m saying right? You aren’t violent, and women aren’t harpies only after big buff alpha bros. Your experiences struggling in romance are no more valid than mine- yet you find yourself feeling as though you deserve to blame women for those struggles. The problem with redpill ideology is it takes something everyone goes through (rejection and bad relationships) and tells men these are special and exclusive to them. You are no more violent and abusive than I am a shallow b…
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 04:34 PM
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I want you to walk outside sometime in the summer and look at how many ugly dudes and “non alpha” guys are walking around with girlfriends. It’s easy to have a few misses in your dating life and decide it’s the fault of women, but most people across the board have dating life issues and partners that didn’t work out. My last ex locked me in the house and wouldn’t let me leave and abused me but I’m not under the impression that that’s just the way men are and that I need to emotionally abuse and …
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 04:11 PM
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Men like that still vote and participate in society. They are potentially managers, doctors, or god knows what else. In theory, them deciding not to fuck women isn’t bad, but that’s isolation. We will have to interact with them regardless, so them being radicalized misogynists is bad, yes.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/25 01:24 AM
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This sounds like a downer comment but you can’t do a anything as a woman except choose to not have a relationship with him because of this. He doesn’t value the opinions of women. I don’t think there’s anything you can say.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/24 02:29 PM
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Single mothers exist because two people have sex and make a baby and morally doesn’t support abortion it is unable to access one, nor is she able to abandon her child once born. It’s interesting that your question isn’t “why aren’t more of these baby daddies stepping up into a fatherhood role or putting work in to be in a relationship with the mother/have a relationship with his child, which he should be able to get 50/50 custody of should he want to step up. 92% of men are granted at minimum 50…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 04:09 PM
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Gonna put a gold star next to INTERESTING because a nice person is well linked, someone who has cool hobbies, is funny, is passionate, whatever always has more going for them than someone who watches Netflix all day and is obsessed with their office job or whatever My husband does stand up comedy, dabbles at the skate park and martial arts and is bilingual and loves to go on road trips. Like just on the surface all of the cool shit we can do together and all of the interesting conversations we h…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/24 01:17 AM
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I feel like this is a pretty odd assessment of the situation. Your coworkers talk about being hit on by women. In my experience, I’ve been accused of hitting on a lot of guys by the guys themselves. Turns out they were just misread me being a nice or friendly person. There are definitely people who cheat. Sometimes people cheat because they’re miserable in their relationships and sometimes people cheat because they like cheating. I happen to be in a pretty sizable community with fit, athletic, a…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/24 12:57 AM
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Been married for years and my husband and I always fluctuate. We both make good money but usually whenever one of us changes jobs we get a raise and overtake each other. We always joke “well now that you are the breadwinner guess it’s time to pay all the bills”. Respect doesn’t play into it. If you and a partner both work hard and communicate well about how to split bills it’s all family money.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 10:58 PM
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There’s obviously no actual real data on this, but anecdotally, every dude, I know that when that direction is a bitter loser who struggles a lot to find women. If they were reasonably attractive, they might be able to get a hook up at a party or some thing, but most of them weredeeply isolated and largely friendless men who also struggled to date I did date a man with red pill beliefs for a while, and he hid them really well. When it started becoming more apparent, I pretty much left him immedi…
/r/ExRedPill17/03/24 08:11 PM
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“Do all the work in bed while a women just lays there” I assure you if that’s the kind of sex you are reading about, none of your colleagues are with a man who can actually have sex well. I grew up and aged assuming sex was supposed to be painful and unpleasant because this is how sex was modeled to me. Many guys just want to plow into a woman like she’s a human flashlight and this is not a fun experience for women FYI. If you are having good sex, a women is going to be more actively engaged bec…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/24 04:29 PM
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You do realize how unattractive this is to women and that’s why nobody wants to fuck you
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 04:31 AM
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Nobody I know likes big dicks. They hurt like a MF. I would prefer the tiniest dick to a huge dick that’s gonna rip me up. If my social circles and subreddits are all confirming this- why are your anecdotal experiences right and mine is wrong
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 04:03 PM
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I always thought this was a super strange one because if it was true, a lot of men would be alone. Walking on the street there’s a lot of couples where the women is much more attractive than the man and not all of those guys can be rich.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/24 06:37 PM
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Women attempt more but choose less lethal methods https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3539603/ Men are less likely to go to therapy and seek treatment. https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/nov/05/men-less-likely-to-get-help--mental-health Multiple studies show that women build more communities with peers and men tend to be more solitary. If you are a suicide risk I would anecdotally say that a lack of a platonic support system and community could be a massive driving factor in your …
/r/ExRedPill18/12/23 06:50 PM
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I can not relate to any of the things they are saying- when in doubt look at reality. How many married people do you know who just work a regular job? Are the only people in relationships wealthy! When you step back and observe reality you will see these claims have no basis. Many poor and middle class men are dating or married. Many retail, manual labor. And office employees are in relationships. Romance isn’t just for the rich and self employed.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/23 05:20 PM
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Not for me. I LOVE short kings and I am a giant (5”11) I know people it’s really important to. I also know many where it’s really not. Most of the short dudes I know with any other good trait (hot, charming, funny, athletic, whatever) don’t ever seem to struggle with women. My best guy friend is reasonably good looking (like hometown hot) and about 5”7 and never struggles at all with women. He’s a relatively good roller skater and a sweet person and women love it It just depends.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 04:12 AM
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If you’d like this type of relationship ( being each others “first”) you need to date a religious no sex before marriage type and that’s about it. This just isn’t a dogma for most people, so you are of course going to limit your dating options a lot. It’s either something you need to work through or accept. Personally I can say the first person I had sex with completely does not matter to me and yet I trust my spouse with my life. It will not improve your relationship to be someone’s first.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/23 04:20 AM
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I’m in my 30s and my single friends are thriving. I imagine that a lot of men who really are interested in dating 22 year olds are not their type anyway
/r/ExRedPill31/01/23 03:45 PM
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I’ve always been weary of when someone talks about extremism and being normal and says the middle ground is actually somewhere between those two
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 06:10 AM
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I kinda feel like this is a common sense thing. There isn’t a bunch of “alpha males” with harems or women who would rather die single. Walk around a park and look at the couples- there’s a really diverse range of attractiveness.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 07:24 PM
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Hey dude. I think maybe more specificity helps. Challenging your beliefs is always great assuming you are her in good faith, but this is a broad subject so maybe asking some questions would help direct folk's energy!
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 04:34 PM
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Can only speak for myself but I am what I would describe as somewhat attractive/better looking than average maybe. Like “hometown hot”. Anyway, eventually you learn to be on guard. You know how when you are in the city and 10 homeless people approach you and you kinda have to ignore them to keep walking or avoid trouble!? Maybe you give one of them money but you certainly are not looking to get roped into their shit. You learn to be on guard because in the city speaking to strangers leads to tro…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/22 06:23 AM
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I wish!
/r/ExRedPill18/12/22 03:15 PM
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Im almost 6 feet tall and I find guys under 5'9 WILDLY attractive, hi.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/22 04:47 AM
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Cody Johnson (some more news, the other rec I had for OP) recently did some pretty scathing tear on Peterson I would recommend if you have interest!
/r/ExRedPill17/12/22 07:11 PM
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It’s really bad ass to hear stories and statements about Natalie saving people from radicalization, or de radicalizing them. She really has a gift.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/22 06:26 PM
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I hope you enjoy! Thankfully both of these YT channels are both also entertaining and funny as well as educational :)
/r/ExRedPill17/12/22 07:37 AM
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Honestly I have a lot to say about your post from a general “blah blah you are wrong on every level and treating extreme straw men as reality” perspective but I really respect that you are trying to find some balance to your life and I don’t wanna give you a hard time. Particularly for social issues and transphobia, watch contrapoints. She’s actually famous for producing videos that are attractive to right wing folks looking for alternative perspectives and she’s a super smart, empathetic yet hi…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/22 07:25 AM
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I can not express to you how many average and unattractive guys I know in wonderful relationships. Or even like- look at whose holding hands on the street. I f this were a real issue, there would be warning bells from real experts rather than just red pill dudes online
/r/ExRedPill08/12/22 03:01 PM
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Hearing that a guy has had that much sex I assume he probably: has a kid floating around somewhere had impulse control issues had an std is high drama Whether that’s fair or not that would be my default assumption- especially if he’s bragging about it and I know. If I found out a long term partner has slept with that many people I’d probably have follow up questions but it’s something I’d be fine with if I knew he didn’t have any sort of addiction/unfaithfulness.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 06:22 AM
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I am also very interested in understanding women somehow i doubt this.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/22 03:14 PM
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“I’m a sexist, but I’m like…a deep, philosophical sexist” Dude this isn’t a place to argue- it’s a place to grow. Not sure why you came here. There are debate subs where you can engage with people willing to fight you until you are blue in the face. Hit one of those up.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/22 01:47 PM
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I feel like I was with you on working through differences until you got to “replacement theory”, which is literally a nazi ideology that taught to the Germans. If he’s buying into that crap he’s pretty far gone and even if you can help him develop some empathy towards women, you are dating a racist. At this point it’s sort of a moral question- how much are you willing to walk back your beliefs and be with someone who is a racist?
/r/ExRedPill03/06/22 01:44 PM
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That’s terrible. I hope you end up finding somebody who is comfortable or asexual themselves. My relationship with sexuality is incredibly complicated because of very severe pain during intercourse, so I definitely had to also find someone who could creatively work with that! There are a lot of people who See sex in a very traditional way and without having it in a specific way they feel unloved. This is not wrong, it’s just with their taught. It’s really nice to see you guys out there that unde…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 10:25 PM
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You can take my word for it then i guess.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 08:21 PM
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The answer according to sex researchers is basically the same as “why are some of us more prone to certain illness”, or keeping it a little bit more simple, why would two otherwise identical people have very different sex drives, maybe two men for example. Sometimes there isn’t a magical evolutionary answer to your question, there isn’t always a clear way to say “well we are more like this because x or y” as much as it is nice to hear. The simple truth is that human sexuality is just really dive…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 08:19 PM
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Study after study show that men just have higher sex drives and thats really just the simple version of it. Theres no need for making up pseudoscientific conspiracy theories about it. If you are actually interested in learning facts about women's sexuality, I think the book "Come as You Are" is really cool and addresses some of these issues. There are a lot of great books and information on women's sexuality from the perspective of sex researchers. Sex researchers (real ones with degrees and act…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 06:47 PM
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You seem to be petty upset and feel there is something wrong with the fact that women don’t want to have sex with every man they meet and prefer to make friends with some of them. Your response to me seems to want to come off as though you are using cold facts and scientific logic, but it’s a hyper emotional response to the concept that women are not attracted to every man they meet and (where the emotion comes in) you specifically. It’s much easier I suppose, to latch onto this than admit there…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 06:37 PM
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Why do you feel as though women owe men being attracted to all men? Follow up question: what are your thoughts on all of the poor/ugly men who are in relationships. Caveat to this: you can't say they were "second picks" after women hit a wall or whatever unless you have quantifiable proof this is true?
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 06:23 PM
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"Even though the prospect of having to re-enter the dating pool at age 28 feels scary" JUST CONFIRMING your best days are far from behind you. 28 is a great time to date, and you'll meet a lot of guys who are at mature places in their lives.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 03:23 PM
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Our household is 60/40 based on income…we treat all splits of stuff like % of income rather than 50:50. We were like that with dates too. When he was unemployed I covered everything. When I was making shit and he was ballin he covered more. A lot of couples are about utility these days.
/r/ExRedPill20/05/22 03:27 AM
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Honestly maybe online? Im really active in fandom spaces if thats your thing and ive met a lot of lifelong friends (im not single) through it. Lots of cool folks who are online because communicating IRL can be weird/dealing with mental illness/on the spectrum/etc. Not sure if you vibe with fandom spaces or like fiction, but I sincerely have benefitted from the space and there are a lot of cool "weird girls" there.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 02:57 PM
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Seriously, I tell everyone I know like "IDK hes amazing and im a gremlin I have no idea what he sees in me"- absolutely the biggest badass I know.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/22 04:03 PM
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My husband is honestly the coolest guy in the world. He can lift heavy stuff, checks when we hear noises at night, and also is extremely genuine and willing to cry when something impacts him, both of happiness and sadness. He is the first of us to start a dialogue if we seem like we are going to start fighting and he focuses a lot on things he learned in therapy to work us through conflict. I tend to want to brush all conflict aside and move on like it never happened, but he challenges us to get…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/22 04:44 AM
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If you google these things, the results are endless. It sounds like you may just not like the answers you are being provided, which I see quite a lot. RedPill takes like "women lie about what is attractive to them" are so common. Reddit itself has countless threads titled "women of Reddit, what do you find attractive/unattractive". It's in women and men's lifestyle magazines and websites, books, media..it isn't women's jobs collectively to reach out to every man she knows to explain to him what …
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 10:51 PM
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People who genuinely and truly want to grow and change deserve support, and they are here because they are not getting it elsewhere or do not feel comfortable reaching out. I feel like it’s a small thing I can do.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/22 06:33 AM
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I just googled him and found the criticism part of his wikipedia. It sounds like he's a lifelong grifter so this isn't shocking
/r/ExRedPill08/02/22 09:19 PM
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I’m here because when men reach out and genuinely want to change, I’m definitely interested in being supportive and helpful to them. If somebody’s coming and asking for help, and it’s cool to support them. I’m an individual person, but I almost never engage with bad faith red pill guys that want to debate or in this case, demand a ludicrous amount of labor from half of the population and asking why women don’t fix men’s problems. There is an absolute difference between giving somebody solicited …
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 03:16 PM
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I’m saying I am extremely unclear why it should be the job of women to labor to teach men how to date while also being a nice person. Like, do you want your ass wiped too? Plenty of guys have figured this out, It’s not the job of womankind to work with the small percentage of the population who latched onto TRP And both deprogram them while talking to a brick wall because most of the time the response to alternatives to the red pill results in y’all telling us that none of it works
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 03:12 PM
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The crazy notion of being sexually attracted to someone? If you don’t have any attraction, that’s a friend, not a boyfriend. You should feel SOMETHING
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:47 PM
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Why is it the job of women to help men figure out how to be self actualized people who can get dates without misogyny? Shouldn’t this be something y’all are capable of figuring out by yourselves? You do realize how much this reeks of weird “please mommy fix it” attitude.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 02:42 PM
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Honestly, as a woman my general response to questions like this are like…if you have these harmful views but you are also staying away from us and MGTOW, that’s a huge W for us and feel free to just stay there. As a human being id say like- if you genuinely felt a weight on your shoulders and want to feel like negative about half of the worlds population or feel you are lacking peace in your life, you could achieve that by ditching TRP. As a parent it would be really heartbreaking to see your ki…
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 03:51 AM
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I met my husband at 24 when he was making 12 bucks an hour. He’s an easy crier and a gentle giant. I have had other partners before- long and short of varying degrees of behavior. No consistency to them. We just sort of decided we were right or each other and I never slept with another person again (in my 30s now) So I really can’t relate to this situation at all!
/r/ExRedPill24/12/21 06:03 AM
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My husband is an easy crier and loves talking about his feelings. We have been together for over 7 years and I think he’s the coolest person in the world
/r/ExRedPill01/10/21 05:57 AM
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I mean other than the anti feminist stuff, you sound like a lot of my friends. There are a lot of women who are like you if your goal isn’t to date a supermodel who makes buckets of money. Unless you going for an evangelical though, good luck finding someone with that chip on your shoulder about feminism and women. It sounds like you have some personal stuff you can work on.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/21 09:36 PM
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If you want to hook up maybe, but these are not good for actual relationships. I dated a guy who got into TRP during our relationship (found out later) He was using ~frame~ and emotional withholding from me and I just didn't feel like I was being treated like a partner. I'm an adult and I want to date someone who I am working together with, not against. These tactics bring drama and come off passive-aggressive at it's most pathetic and isolating at it's most "badass". That's not exactly great re…
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 10:57 PM
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I can only speak personally, but I, and I think many others do appreciate and respect someone with a checkered past who has since grown and changed. It speaks to such a strong character trait many people lack. Self reflection, honesty with yourself, and the empathy to see the harm you were doing and change. It might be a "several months of dating" talk, but the right person will see it as a strength. In terms of self forgiveness, therapy if you haven't. Everyone is haunted by things they have do…
/r/ExRedPill21/04/21 03:01 PM
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If you don't have a lot of international friends, this may not make sense, but a lot of American food is considered too sweet/too dairy heavy for a lot of Asian folks (in Asia) to enjoy. Likewise, most of the world sees northern European food as flavorless/unseasoned. Then you have all of the jokes/memes about white people taking massive shits after eating Mexican food. People like what they are used to/comfortable with and what they grow up with. Again, beauty standards have changed over the ye…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/21 03:57 PM
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you know when people drop bad/junky studies with meh sample sizes and minimal nuance about how men are rapists/monsters and try to use it as some sort of checkmate? thats what this feels like. Men don't like women with muscles because yall aint socialized for it. its the same reason men wore "shirts" for hundreds of years and all of the sudden, it was considered unattractive/feminine/not cool to do it. You underestimate how so many of our preferences are based on socialization alone. Do you ever…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/21 03:28 PM
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Lots of redpill guys see these women as damaged goods and also assume that they are looking for a meal ticket. Regardless of what’s actually going on, they treat all single moms like gold diggers
/r/ExRedPill07/04/21 05:47 PM
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I’m sure someone could actually write up a smart and really thought out response, but for me, red pill is bad because it dehumanizes women. Full stop. I’ve poked through the subs with morbid curiosity since I was in my early 20s and the things written about women and core belief systems are vile and that had never changed. It gets especially scary to me when you comb through the married red pill subs and guys are talking about using abuse tactics on their wives to train them. I would not befrien…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/21 04:15 PM
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I agree with all of this. Even in my best breakups with the least drama I’ve avoided the guy completely for as long as I’ve needed to feel better and not have romantic attachments. She is disrupting your healing process and I am sorry for that.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/20 02:23 AM
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This was my first thought- women who haven’t had sex outside of marriage almost always fall into a conservative sect of society and adhere to a 1950s way of thinking where they will not leave loveless or abusive relationships. Divorce, in my opinion, is a good signifier as it suggests that people who are unable to reconcile differences are willing to move on.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/20 08:19 PM
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You are thinking critically about your initial first reaction and that’s awesome and speaks a lot to your character.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 01:03 AM
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I was really hoping to see more of “I realized at some point that women were human beings just like me and acting normal with them/respecting them as human while taking care of myself was clearly the answer to my problems.” I noticed a lot of ex pill dudes seem like they left because it made them unhappy and not because they recognize that the worldview is dangerous and abusive to women. It makes me sad.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/20 11:29 PM
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Y'all red pill dudes absolutely love being told what to do. I need to stop being surprised when men who follow radical, unscientific ideologies can't live their life normally without a guru laying it out for them, but I suppose The Red Pill is often just a symptom of a lack of ability to interact with the world in a normal, healthy way.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/20 06:35 PM
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You can also join maybe some online communities that have women in them!? Like if you enjoy any nerdy things!!!
/r/ExRedPill23/11/20 10:36 PM
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I guess what I mean is that by and large, gender based debate is something we can all completely ignore in our lives and never think about, and it's worth considering why you went out looking for this. Red Pill is extreme by default. It's stance in evolutionary psychology sort of places the least dramatic tier of it's existence where at minimum men believe women should be submissive co captain home makers. Feminism has a range from just about anywhere you could expect, but you seem to be able to…
/r/ExRedPill13/11/20 02:48 PM
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I guess I am sort of curious why a movement that doesn’t have any active affect on your life as A Whole pushed you up check out a radical philosophy centered around hating and abusing women, especially considering it’s radical stance is by and large much more dramatic than your average feminist take. That’s worth examining on its own. It sounds like you have a good thing going for you already. This is just an observation, and probably not what you want to hear, but you may want to consider that …
/r/ExRedPill13/11/20 02:18 PM
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This is my recommendation as well. Without the pretense of a budding relationship, it will give you the best understanding of who women are. You can make IRL or even online friends (now is a weird time to find friends offline, so its okay!) If you need someone to talk to, feel free to holler.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/20 03:13 PM
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I’m sorry dude- it sounds like it’s been really confusing. I agree talking it out helps. I think one of the best things you can do is make female friends yo start- and really focus on the “friend” part of it. You are ready to do the world you just need a social outlet. for it to happen. If you have any specific questions or things you wanna talk through holler, feel free to shoot into my DMs or anything too.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/20 08:51 PM
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Dude, you've got this. You are a good listener. Keep at it.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 06:01 PM
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Hey friend! I appreciate so much that you are reflecting on yourself, that's really a massive step, probably the biggest! I think sex is complicated and it can mean different things for different people. What you are expressing sounds a lot like when poor folks resent folks with money, less attractive people resent attractive people..basically the feeling that people are not appreciating what they have. One thing that is important to remember is that while women have more access to sex on some l…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 03:38 PM
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From what I have seen in RP threads, their intention is sort of to raise a daughter like the wife they want to have: Ensure she does not explore her sexuality, introduce her to feminine hobbies, encourage her to be a mother/home maker and to establish a patriarchal household where the child sees mom differ to dad. /r/marriedredpill has a lot of weird stories about like "my daughter started shit testing me, shes 8 years old" LOL. Honestly, that sub is worse than the Red Pill itself because unlike…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/20 08:28 PM
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Have these people ever just hung out at a shopping center and looked at the couples? Its usually a pretty hot girl and a scruffy looking dude every time lol.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/20 08:26 PM
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I think that we think a lot about how women relate to drama (which is real, relevant, etc) but we actually neglect how this plays out with guys. This is hard to quantify "study wise" but I will drop this link if anyone is interested. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886915006327 Drama and attention manifest in men in interesting ways. Among them: Engaging in politics posts/social posts or listening to political pundits, or high drama pundit types like Joe Rogan or Ben S…
/r/ExRedPill16/09/20 09:52 PM
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Men don’t have to read minds to be good sexual partners, just empathetic and interested. Having had sex with a pretty diverse amount of partners, this is pretty clear. My husband is an absolute god. We have great chats about our sex life, he’s incredibly attentive and interested in my pleasure. He’s had a modest amount of sexual partners. I can compare this to my last boyfriend who, regardless of my grumbles, would basically pump his dick into me with no interest in how I feel- this is a lot of …
/r/ExRedPill16/09/20 12:52 AM
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Having sex with a virgin or an inexperienced guy doesn’t mean the sex was bad, it sounds like you are projecting a little here. In the same vein, sexually experienced guys are often very bad at sex. Bad sex usually has to do with a lack of respecting bounties, a lack of investment in your partners pleasure, and poor communication.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 10:51 PM
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Since so much of Red Pill is about manipulation, I think the real answer is the less men a woman have to compare them to, the better. When I was sexually inexperienced I just assumed bad sex was how sex was. At 30 with multiple sexual partners, It's become pretty clear what good and bad sex is. Having a girlfriend or wife who has only been with you, or a small handful of other guys means she will tolerate shitty or selfish sex more and have low expectations going in, so it feels more secure to t…
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 09:41 PM
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Just checking, who created the draft? Who has control of congress? Men? I think it's men. Why is it women's job to do the work when men have made very little effort to free themselves from gender roles and take a stand against laws that are unfair to them? It just seems like your expectations are such that since women "did feminism" we should be able to conjure a men's movement out of thin air despite our own needs not being met. You also realize "womens suffrage" IE the right to vote did not gr…
/r/ExRedPill11/09/20 09:57 PM
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Be very clear about what you want from the get go. If you have hard lines, state them in dating profiles and such and make sure that person responding is right there with you. I would see how you feel about your friendship as well. My husband and I got together because we are genuinely stoked on hanging out. We don't just do datey romantic things. He can do the same stuff with me that he would do with any of his guy friends. The deeper your friendship is, the stronger your relationship will be l…
/r/ExRedPill11/09/20 09:47 PM
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I would say referring to any behavior as "female nature" is why some of us don't like RP. The treatment of women would be number one for me. I personally would never trust a man who invested in RP, to the point where I wouldn't want them in my life regardless of relationship (male friend, relative, lover, etc)
/r/ExRedPill11/09/20 09:43 PM
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It sounds like you are feeling personal about anecdotes. As a social women, reading this confused me because I maybe know one person who fits this bill. Is it possible you are taking something you perceived as negative or a slight and hyper focusing on it as a commonality/ noticing it more? On the flip side, I’m 28 and most women I know my age feel that dating guys as young as you is predatory and creepy, so if you are looking at women in their mid to late 20s you may feel rejected by them for t…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/18 09:17 PM
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No buddy, I am saying that we have literally lived with a history of true blue oppression, and thats the history you are glorifying. Even good relationships existed under the blanket of oppression. Women still didn't have rights. This image you have of traditional relationships existed because women did not have full rights that men had, and these relationships were never independent of women being oppressed. This a a fallacy. Its a farce. Its not real. It's the same thing old white guys do when…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/18 05:40 AM
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I mean, we spent most of history dehumanizing women to the point of denying them the right to vote, own property, leave their husbands, have sex our side marriage, or really, do just about everything. Doing something for a long time doesn't make it good. And it was fucked up- yes, the whole time. You know what you do when you want to have a more positive relationship? Work together and communicate with a partner. Or find a more compatible one. Red Pill guys work against their partners for their …
/r/ExRedPill29/11/18 05:21 AM
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I'm not into manipulation tactics, but if it allows for less stress, at this point I'll take it. That pretty much covers it then. Thats the end of the conversation. You are okay being abusive if you benefit from it. Based on your responses, you already have some pretty disturbing views. Wanna go full red pill? Talk to your wife about your views. If your values are the same, you can both enter into a blissful 1950s style dream life. If she isn't into it, go find a partner who is. This doesn't see…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/18 05:11 AM
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People who manipulate people they love into submission using fear and manipulation are abusive. I guess the simple question is “would you like to have what you do to your wife done to you? Do you feel proud and comfortable telling others about what you do to your wife? Do you think your wife would be proud of you for “going redpill”, and have you told your wife about it”? If any of those answers are “no”, you need to accept that what you are doing is wrong. It’s just a matter of whether or not y…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/18 12:44 AM
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I dont think that you are in the right place
/r/ExRedPill24/06/16 04:17 AM
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This seems like a simple response, but you need therapy. I think that you are struggling with some anxiety/depression/self worth issues that you are channeling into this specific topic.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/16 07:10 PM
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It sounds to me like he hasn't really atoned for anything; He gave you a bunch of excuses and tried to hide it. Now, I am sure he is still doing what he is doing, only hiding it better. I would recommend keeping an eye on the situation. Read up on how Redpill works. Call him out if he tries any bullshit like "dreading" and stuff. Keep an eye on how he treats ALL women, not just you. You are asking how to rebuild trust. Well, he hasn't taken any steps. You are putting this on you when it should b…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/16 07:50 PM
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There looks like there is a looooot more going on than the no sex factor.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/16 09:54 PM
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Think of it this way; if your partner was black and has dealt with violent hate crimes all of her life and then saw you posting on stormfront, should she believe that you don't hate black people? Sue, you never posted about lyncings, but you did make a few posts on how black people were of lower intelligence and that. As far as she is concerned, you were hiding a huge part of yourself. It's not common for abusive partners to do this so no, it's no shock that she's scared, and your dismissal of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 04:41 PM
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"Im not saying women are worthless, but women are worthless" TLDR
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 04:47 PM
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I think i explained myself pretty well. some personal leanings, including religion, etc are fine by me. I know those things will not be damaging to a kid. A republican teacher? Who cares? a primary student will not be suffering because their teacher voted for trump, but a primary school child could very well be affected if their teacher is sexist or racist, especially because primary school is such a crucial developmental stage. That is not okay with me. her personal views on her marriage It sou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:44 PM
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I wouldn't see it as "personal views", especially if my child was female . Children don't understand politics, but they do understand and respond to adults treating people differently. I wouldn't be afraid of a terper trying to explain their views of gender dynamics, but "leading by example" in regards to gender. I wouldn't send my student to a member of stormfront either, and less so because my theoretical future child would not be white, and the two groups are exactly the same to me. Especiall…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:49 PM
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So what youre saying is only certain people who outwardly appear to be neckbeards or 'nice guys' are actually displaying 'asshole' behavious. Exactly. Well if the smug superiority complex is the area you have a problem with why do you bring up the other stuff? Its almost as if you're mocking him for being a ' a fat, unkempt guy who lives with his mom' and using the superiority complex as a justification. Sort of the other way around. Imagine someone who is shitty at golf and doesn't even put eff…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 08:32 PM
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If by "rephrased" you mean " created a completely different narrative entirely", but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:55 PM
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Im not sure where you got that impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:49 PM
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I mean, this sub is largely populated with people who learn more/are red pill. Most people who disagree with TRP have more or less moved on. I unsubbed after realizing how imbalanced it is, ended up being a source of constant frustration. It's like talking to a brick wall, except the wall starts throwing it's own concrete at you and multiples. The circlejerk is inevitable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:17 PM
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Nobody is shitting on a dude for being someone who is fat, lonely, and has shitty people skills. That type of person deserves pity...I mean..if they are NICE PEOPLE. We have had meny young men come into TBP saying they are awkward or feel bad about themselves and we try to give them constructive help always. The typical stance is this. A lot of men with little to offer (men who don't take care of themselves, men who aren't very good socially, men who have no motivation...and with all of these tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 05:37 PM
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So tldr: Chad is any guy who puts mid level effort into his personal life? All people are like that, last I checked. Every man and woman would prefer someone who likes themselves and isn't a mess. heres your captain question btw, as an honor to the ama. http://imgur.com/a/ZmXRj http://imgur.com/a/zOjan EDIT: We are having a very interesting discussion about power dynamics in the relationship right now, so I am actually pleased I humored your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 07:32 PM
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I think y'all have a very very different idea of what is controlling. Pretty much any MRP field report comes off to me as abusive, and controlling, though according to you, being controlling is insecurity, so we might be onto something there as a team. Based on your numerous responses, it looks like you are reaching desperately to prove that my gentle, sweet, sensitive feminist boyfriend is a red pill type man because he is tall and I respect him and enjoy having sex with him. In any other circu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:48 PM
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Yeah, that would have probably encouraged me to leave faster. Not to say he didn't do that shit on occasion aka I see you have a problem with thinks, okay well im gonna go out and drink, see ya)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 06:36 PM
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Sure, I will try! Example: I used to live in a city where very few people need to drive cars. We moved to the suburbs for his work. I needed to learn how to drive. I asked him if he would teach me, but he said he didn't want me to ruin his car. He also believed we could not afford driving lessons. I would disagree with that. He knew my dad was willing to teach me, but it was a 2 hour train ride to my dad's house each way. He was angry that I couldn't drive, but also did not provide a solution to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 04:32 PM
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I think there is something to be said for just plain old good chemistry. He also communicates very well outside of the bedroom and has helped evolve MY communication skills. If he is unhappy about anything, he will express it and we will talk about why he feels that way, what I can do to help, whether it is logical or came up because of something else in his day, etc. He expects the same of me/himself. We try to really make sure the other person is always cued into our feelings so we can work as…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 04:21 PM
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I'm a serial monogamist XD My relationships tend to average about 5 years +. I was reasonably unhappy for a good amount of that time i was with him, but lacked the independence to imagine a life without him. Kept making it work because I was scared to leave. There was a lot in terms of emotional and financial dependence at play. That's how I learned how crucial it is to run your own life. The idea of stay at home stuff scares the shit out of me now. I would never be comfortable with somebody con…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 04:11 PM
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They are really really cute and deserve to be protected. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:15 PM
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Your sex life sounds awesome. Some people get so bent out of shape over non-traditional roles, but if it works it works! Thank you and it is? I would have not expected to be this lucky. What do you mean "lesser partner"? I didn't enjoy sex with him as much. He was a much more selfish partner sexually. He basically did what he wanted to do and expected me to enjoy it. I would ask to switch roles and he would say that the idea turned him off. I guess some would would have enjoyed it, but I am a li…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:13 PM
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http://www.yelp.com/biz/abrahams-shoe-repair-austin I guess google? Very cheap, there are a lot of them in most places, and they are the king of shoes. I once took in my roller skates because they hurt my feet and they stretched them. They fix pretty much all shoe related issues from torn leather to busted soles to shoe stretching.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:06 PM
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TAKE IT TO THE SHOe DOCTOR DON'T WASTE ANY TIME THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL ITS LIKE 10 DOLLARS
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 03:02 PM
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Oh yeah. No, not at all XD I don't really masturbate. Would not be interested in doing it to someone i'd consider a lesser partner. I did masturbate to the thought of jensen ackles once.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 02:31 PM
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As I understand it, the whole idea is attitude/belief. If you are tall, buff, or gorgeous (idk, desired male traits) but also sensitive, submissive or a feminist or whatever, you would hardly be considered red pill, yes? Him being tall doesn't make him a red pill man. It seems like a stretch that now, two guys are trying to de legitimize me with the desperate stretch that because my boyfriend is tall, he proves a red pill point when there is nothing remotely red about him as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:59 PM
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How do you describe yourself, first?: strange, enthusiastic, athletic, tenacious. What do you want (ideally) in a relationship?: One where we are both our own independent people living successful, fulfilling lives, and experiencing great things together/supporting each other. Good sex, respect, and admiration that goes both ways. Why did you break up with the other boyfriend?: I think a lot of the problems I had with his personality just became too much. I felt like I could never make him happy,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:57 PM
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Based on the breakup alone, yes, definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:47 PM
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I thought about your question and struggled with it..the first one! I have had a lot of people say I was very attractive, but I don't know if I would make America's Next Top Model. My boyfriend and my ex are very colored by my own perceptions, but my ex was very popular with women. I am more dominant by nature I feel. Sexually and just generally, but there are also some overstimulating situations where I prefer others take the lead. Insecure in some ways, arguably arrogant in others. For both hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:45 PM
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I think so, because the sex I have with him is superior to me and very enjoyable. If I had a FWB, it would all be dependent on the actual sex part, so he would still win in that case. I don't know if I could maintain that sort of relationship though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:40 PM
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I had sex with both of them before we started dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:39 PM
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Reading comp! I said I would answer questions in the morning! I am 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:39 PM
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So far, so good. He isn't boring or dull. He is fun to be around and strong in his own right. He's not a waif, I don't consider him one side of an extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:38 PM
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INSANE! I am really enthusiastic about sex and he is very, very good in bed IMO. I am primarily leading/on top in bed, but every so often we also have little "experiment" days where we explore each other and try new things and just see what works. We communicate really well about sex and are pretty intuitive with each other. I instigate maybe 2-5 times a week depending on whatever, and instigate oral as well. He will instigate, but maybe a little less than me?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:36 PM
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6'4...VERY TALL! Oddly, I always liked shorter guys, but it's cool to date someone who doesn't make me feel like a giant. I am almost 5'11 so
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:23 PM
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At first I did..sort of. I've always had sex with more aggressive men, very into sexually dominating. I liked some of the rough aspects to it, but I always assumed there was something wrong with me because I never wanted it. I would moreso tolerate it and maybe start enjoying it as it went on. This was true with previous boyfriends as well. I really thought I was just "bad at sex" and had a low sex drive. Eventually I really got in my own head and started to dread it. Truthfully, it wasn't until…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:21 PM
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No, he was emotional/not a robot, but it was hard to communicate with him. I can't villanize him into some monster because that would be a lie. We were together for a long time so I saw a lot of sides to him, but more often than not, I struggled to find compromise between us.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:16 PM
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I think that is a little unfair considering all you know here is the timeline of my relationships. Perhaps that would be a conclusion best served with some research!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/15 01:14 PM
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I think that hobbies are not equally attractive, but that depends on the individual. If I am passionate about video games and don't know a thing about sports, I would be more inclined to appreciate that a guy also plays videogames as opposed to recreational football.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/15 01:40 PM
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We must run in different circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:38 PM
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Cool story, my omnipotent, omnipresent friend. You know better than I, or any of us. Your personal, completely unbiased anecdotes are a code we should all live our lives by.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:30 PM
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I don't known if your personal experiences carry the same validity as the multitude of studies that indicate that it has nothing to do with that but okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:23 PM
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An above poster seemed to indicate that there is some heavily conflicting data in there. A quick google search revealed to me a multiple of studies with conflicting evidence. Men cheat more. Women cheat more. Men and women cheat at nearly equal rates; so I guess in essence, you can't just conveniently blame women here. Theres really no consensus for cheating that I can see. The first page on google alone yielded multiple conclusions. Women certainly care cheating and divorcing more than they use…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 08:12 PM
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That's pretty presumptuous considering all of the boring/ "non alpha/whatever you call it dudes out there who are in fact, happily married. Lots and lots and LOTS of women aren't married to Chad and have happy marriages. Personally, i've been fucking a "beta" dudes brains out for the last year and a half. Will continue to grab for his dick after he comes home from work enthusiastically 2-5 times a week. Your logic only works if we are pretending that your vast generalizations about how other peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 07:43 PM
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So in situations where this is the case, all of those people must just secretly be in bad relationships and kidding themselves? It's becoming increasingly common for women to be breadwinners. That's discounting a lot of couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 04:09 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3n7i8b/women_are_like_dogs_never_argue_with_them/ It was linked on TBP so it appears to have since dropped off, but theres still some healthy numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 03:38 PM
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There was a highly upvoted post a few days ago that illustrates this very well for me. It was stating that women are like dogs, which ultimately turned into agreeing that dogs are in fact, more human than women, and to compare a woman to a dog is unfair to dogs. The Red Pill dehumanizes women. That is the problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 04:35 PM
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I'm glad to see a lot of the other girls/guys in agreement with me. I have a tumblr and I post on Tumblr, but it's attitude towards social activism is broken. Call out culture that is more focused on perpetuating witch hunts than facts, and one miss step will keep you in the dog house forever. I was a really popular artist on tumblr for awhile, probably over 10k followers? Anyway, I consider myself an inter sectional feminist, but not everything under the sun offends me. I try to be really logic…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 01:49 PM
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Based on what I have seen in this thread from your conversations with others, you are trying to use fallacious arguments to try to justify not respecting women with not respecting people who do shitty things, by comparing cruel behavior to having a vagina and calling both a "group".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 07:40 PM
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That's some iffy logic, especially if you are trying to compare being a racist (the mental act of hatred) with being say, a women, Hispanic, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:55 PM
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I..if you are..manipulative or..abusive?? yes? I wouldn't call these things groups. They are personality traits. as for the N word, its indicative, but not always reflective. EX: a comedian makes a racist joke. I wouldn't consider them racist outright. Same comedian talks about how ~the blacks are raping our women and all Muslims are secret terrorists I am going to assume that they are racist. Amy Schumer for example? She's made some racially insensitive jokes. That doesn't offend me that much. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:47 PM
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What BP's got to understand is that when you tell us it's the wrong choice to change your look, personality and life for pussy, you're saying that we should instead simply accept our rank and place in a system where we are objectively inferior. That's not a good thing. TRP in all its flaws feels like a much more welcoming place for a person like me than the rest of the world. Im pretty sure nobody in TBP is going to criticize going to the gym, improving yourself, learning social graces, and beco…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:33 PM
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Sure People who are manipulative and abusive. People who complain about how unfair the world is and don't do anything to change, People who hurt kids/neglectful parents, racists/sexists/homophobes/etc...generally unkind or selfish folks. I unfortunately know a lot of women like this. and men. Basically I guess, folks who don't respect others and hurt them, and folks who expect the whole entire world to cater to them and give very little back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:27 PM
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To be honest, yes. I've read a lot of personal stories from the sub (especially the married sub) that makes me worry for many wives and daughters out there. I will doubtfully be affected by this stuff myself, but TRP made me go from thinking that certain feminists were crazy for being "scared of men", to actually being a little scared of men. I feel like if TRP became a popular mindset, I would be legitimately fearful. If my partner subscribed to these beliefs, I would leave him on the spot. I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:19 PM
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There are so many people in this world I don't respect. It's never been based on whats's between a person's legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 06:12 PM
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I mean, that would be grounds for ending the marriage for me, but I guess you could treat him sort of like a child..afterall, this is childish behavior. What do we do when children misbehave? We don't reward it, and more recently, we don't respond to it. You don't get any attention for your behavior, positive or negative.
/r/ExRedPill18/09/15 07:01 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3kouqo/woman_accuses_bar_employee_of_raping_her_video/cuzc1sa https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3k32o0/how_do_you_know_if_a_woman_is_a_slut_or_not/ https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3kwvlb/the_myth_of_the_respectable_woman/ https://np.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/32vlz2/if_society_fully_admitted_being_nice_doesnt_get/cqf7sxa https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBluePill/search?q=rape&restrict_sr=on ^ for rape concerns some of these are …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 12:36 AM
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Yey internet misunderstandings
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 11:36 PM
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Right, but the fella who was talking to me.was well...talking to me. I was responding to him xd
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 11:12 PM
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That would be all well and good, but unfortunately, a massive pile of threads and posts about how women can't empathize (re: OP post reference), posts about how women should take a submissive role in households, posts about how women don't know how to have hobbies, posts about how women's literal only usefulness is sex, How to rape guides/no means yes/posts where guys actually admit to abusing their wives emotionally or physically that get tons of support...- I mean, yeah. It's a good fantasy to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 11:12 PM
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Yep. That's exactly what I was doing. You really nailed it buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:49 PM
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I'm so sorry, the people doing that are shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:38 PM
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I am familiar! I understand a good chunk of the lingo too, but it's a lot to remember, especially considering I am not a regular lurker. :) Blue Pill/general feminist groups tend to agree with this one, actually. I did not know it was called a frame, but I do know it's one of the few things we have in common in regards to gender relations. IE Live your own life, women are not magical princesses, etc...though in our case, it's often discussed in regards to "nice guys" who idealize women in a shal…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:35 PM
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Men at TRP and PPD are describing what they have seen and checked and rechecked it against the experience and reports of literally thousands of other men. Besides, it's a bunch of men writing about and talking about what they have seen, heard, dealt with and experienced. Do you think they are all lying? They do the same thing on stormfront about Jews and black people. Doesn't mean they are lying, but it's classic cherry picking at it's finest for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:30 PM
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I have no..idea what a frame is XD But thanks for the thoughtful and respectful reply. Not really sure how to generally respond because it feels weird talking about my relationship in detail to a stranger, but it explains the thought process I was looking for so I appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:27 PM
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First: do you think your guy is hotter than you, are you generally the one that needs the relationship more? Probably not. I'm slightly "hotter", he makes slightly more money, but not by a lot for either. He's a little overweight and I am a little underpaid. We are both lower middle class. He's got tech skills, I have design skills. he does stand up comedy, I do roller derby. Both of us are neurotic yet social people with many friends and active lives. & no disagreement there, I think there is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:23 PM
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Okay, interesting. So can you answer something else for me then. This was brought on my my reading your post and thinking "nope. no. inaccurate. That's crazy, that's crazier. Then reflecting on my own LTR with a "beta" type who is extremely emotional and pretty open about crying and struggles with depression, and my own willingness to stand by him (not ya know, as a charity, but he's hes awesome and I am attracted to him and we are a great couple and stuff) All of this sounds like a foreign lang…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:00 PM
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But if the difference is truly rooted in biology, it can't be a gamble, correct? That's just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 06:38 PM
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Whenever I try to write off bad learned behavior, I write down arguments that i believed and then look up refuting evidence so its all there just staring me in the face
/r/ExRedPill27/08/15 06:38 PM
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Very often, self-identifying feminists visit men's rights to tell subscribers what's "wrong" with the movement, how we should speak to feminists (as if the dialogue belongs to feminists, and we're outsiders approaching it instead of participants) and why what we're going to say is wrong before we've even said it. There is a lot of expressed hostility from the feminist side of the fence even before discussion takes place. There is also often a denial of how many men's issues are rooted in feminis…
/r/MensRights13/01/13 02:50 PM
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I completely understand, and i've talked to women who feel this way too. If you feel dismissed, ignored, or attacked enough, you're going to get frustrated and shut down. It's a lot easier to tell someone to fuck off; especially when they've hit a nerve or treated you poorly. But waiting for other groups to change is like waiting for rain in the desert. It might happen every so often in isolated places, but it will never be a rainforest. Feminists and activists who don't see any benefits or moti…
/r/MensRights13/01/13 11:36 AM
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Feminist here. I spend a lot of time trying to express the importance to talking about men's issues to women. And it's hard, but I do see results. I think that both sides harbor a lot of hostility and resentment from having negative experiences with each other. I think for MRA's, there is a sense of feeling like feminism wasn't answering when they were asking for help or has failed them despite a promise to be inclusive, which is true. For feminists, there is a certain amount of perpetually bein…
/r/MensRights13/01/13 10:51 AM
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Oh that's awful. In any case, you are all free to stalk my username for the next few months if you don't trust me. I'll probably just be on Reddit from now on to make occasional emotional comments about ASOIAF, but you know...
/r/MensRights14/07/12 11:33 PM
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Im not quite sure what i'd be getting out of this by trolling. A new tactic perhaps? Trolling in the deep BY BEING NICE!
/r/MensRights14/07/12 09:13 PM
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I feel the exact same way. I really do care about women's issues, but it's pretty hard to offend me, and I also support a lot of men's issues, so that leaves me at odds with a lot of people whom I might generally agree with.
/r/MensRights14/07/12 08:02 PM
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