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I’m gonna go with that’s a myth
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:51 AM
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Is that better dear?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:43 PM
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I highly doubt that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:20 PM
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If that were true men wouldn’t be lonelier and more sexless than women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:19 PM
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Right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:18 PM
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It’s the same account, what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:23 PM
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It was merely an observation. You have conjured up a fantasy out of your distorted perception of women (perhaps distorted from porn addiction).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:10 PM
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You’re addicted to porn I fear
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:09 PM
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This sounds like a major projection of your own insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:07 PM
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Exactly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:06 PM
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Yep, seems like a scam to me (though I’m in the UK so we don’t pay here)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 07:51 PM
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In your personal opinion*
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 07:27 PM
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You go through 9 months of a possibly extremely uncomfortable pregnancy, an agonising 10 hour labour, your body goes through irreparable changes, you’re expected to be the primary caregiver to your infant child and this stalls your career aspirations, your partner decides he’s no longer attracted to your new body, he cheats on you - he moves out - you’re left a single mother. No thanks. Too much risk, not much reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 07:19 PM
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As a bisexual woman, definitely women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:28 PM
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Lol if you say so 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 02:31 PM
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You’re weird stop stalking me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 02:28 PM
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Who said I was interested in getting married? Not everyone wants the same thing you do, and that’s ok love.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 02:27 PM
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Yet here you are, bothered somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:05 PM
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I have never experienced this while dating ever. This feels like something teenagers would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:03 PM
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Can you blame them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:08 PM
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Lol this is funny to me because as a woman who has had and currently has a couple casual partners (friends with benefits) the men almost always end up wanting more from me, to the point where I sort of just expect it to happen and so I try not to be with them for too long at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:06 PM
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Lol exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:38 PM
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I never hear/see that though and I’m around 20-odd year old women every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:57 PM
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87 bodies is an extreme example. I never hear women my age slut shame promiscuous women. Plus feeling icky and slut shaming are not the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:14 PM
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The political ideology you follow is a good indicator though. It’s highly unlikely that left leaning women slut shame as as or more than conservative women. It doesn’t make any sense. And given I’m a left leaning woman myself, around other left leaning women and I never hear it, I think you’re lying or exaggerating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:13 PM
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Yea I don’t believe you. As a young(ish) woman myself around other women around my age I think you’re exaggerating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:10 PM
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No they really don’t, do you speak to many Gen Z/ young millennials? Most young people are pretty sex positive now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:44 PM
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That is very strange to me. I’ve lived in pretty progressive cities, Bristol (UK), and Berlin. I go to Grenoble (France) and Paris relatively often to visit family and friends I have there there, my ex partner is from Copenhagen and so I spent quite a lot of time there. and have traveled around Western Europe in general and I have never heard a liberal/ left wing women slut shame another women (Being sex positive is pretty essential to leftist/ progressive ideology), I haven’t really heard women…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:23 PM
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you must live in some conservative US city or something because…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:59 PM
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I will never understand not wanting to do the absolute best to get your partner off. Who cares who does or doesn’t owe anyone an orgasm? Shouldn’t you want to make your partner orgasm? Shouldn’t that get turn you on? I’m grateful to have been with men who take pleasure in pleasuring me, I can’t imagine how miserable thinking about sex the way some of you do 😬.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:57 PM
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I’ve never witness women my age (25) slut shame another woman. It just doesn’t happen anymore. Young(ish) women now a very sex positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:52 PM
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It’s definitely not as comment for women to slut shame women than for men too, especially my generation (25yo)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:51 PM
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Pretty much this
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:50 PM
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I live in a city with around 400,000 people, but I also lived in berlin for a while and the “fresh face” look is on trend there also.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:39 AM
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I’m actually not sure if it’s that true in younger demographics. I’m 25 and where I live (pretty hipster city) the “fresh face” look is very much on trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 11:51 PM
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I rarely ever wear makeup, only for special events. Most women my age in my city don’t wear much makeup either, in fact the “fresh face” look is pretty on trend here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 11:50 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:24 AM
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I find that rather difficult to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:15 AM
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😅
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:36 AM
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I genuinely could not care less about a guy’s instagram. My own instagram is pretty dull. I don’t know many women my age who would care either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:23 AM
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Hmm, okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:00 AM
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Okay but it’s not really bits and pieces from TRP though? It’s advice that I’ve heard before the wide-spread online RP rhetoric, and advice I hear from people/ sources that have nothing to do with TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:54 PM
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This is not specifically “red pill” advice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:43 PM
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What? Lmao this is complete nonsense. The average age a woman has her first child (in the UK) is 29.1 years (2020) https://www.statista.com/statistics/294594/mother-average-age-at-childbirth-england-and-wales-by-child-number/ Edit: ah sorry I misread your comment. Are you talking specifically about virgin women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:41 PM
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Have you ever been in a relationship before? People break up for all sorts of reasons. Most people have more than one relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:39 PM
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Lol exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:35 PM
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Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:34 PM
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University, tinder, I know one of the couples met at a language exchange meet up. I know another couple met through a mutual friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:31 PM
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Yes they’re mid 20s, I’m 25 myself. They’re pretty left wing and sex positive idk if that makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:26 PM
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Me. 25 yo woman, bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:25 PM
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I highly doubt that the majority of people are going to end up alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:22 PM
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TRP isn’t really that popular offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:20 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:53 PM
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Lol I met my 5 year LTR partner on tinder. Most people are average though and most people end up with someone in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:24 PM
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Plenty of average men that I know personally are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:43 PM
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I doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:47 PM
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How do explain the millions of men who are average to slightly unattractive in relationships? Most people are average and most of them date other average looking people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:00 PM
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This theoretical woman is probably not going to want to settle down when she is in her hoe phase, plus I’m sure she’ll be just fine after the fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:58 PM
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And why would she care about your lack of commitment if she’s in a hoe phase? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:05 PM
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If she can not afford to take care of her child on her own then she will need financial help from the state.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:57 PM
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There are plenty of average to slightly (conventionally) unattractive men who are in relationship. Go outside and look around you I’m sure you’d spot many.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:51 PM
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Why are you going to the extreme with your porn star and prostitute example? The initial point was about promiscuous women so please engage with the actual point. Obviously it depends on the culture you are in. I’ve lived in pretty progressive cities/ countries and most of my friends/ circle are progressive, so I’ve never encountered this issue of men around me being hung up about women’s n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:13 PM
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I don’t understand why you’d think having multiple casual partners in the past means one would be prone to cheating? That seems more like a question of morals and values to me. I’ve had quite a bit of sex but have never once considered cheating on a partner because I find it morally reprehensible and I respect the person I’m with. Seems like an odd conclusion to me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:53 PM
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I've been in 2 LTR with pretty great men (in my humble opinion) and non of them cared about how many men I’d slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:56 AM
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No I’m talking about when you’re single.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 10:58 AM
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Having sex with other consenting parties is completely ethical and nothing like cheating. And also incredibly enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 08:18 PM
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Lol, it’s very much a monogamous relationship, I was engaging in casual sex before we got together, he was also. And no, young people have sex because they enjoy sex, it’s incredibly simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:15 PM
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And you would know oh wise one
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 01:29 PM
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Have you ever thought that maybe, perhaps, they are not the same women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:31 PM
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I have never had an issue dating the people I‘ve wanted to date because I‘ve had casual sex, I'm also currently in a LTR of 5 years and my partner does not care. This rhetoric feels more like a revenge fantasy on your guys’ part.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:30 PM
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Very very bitter lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:52 AM
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Oh well
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:52 AM
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You pay for other peoples decisions all the time, that's a consequence of loving in a functioning society.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:51 AM
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95% of all statistics are made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:48 AM
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The generalisations here see insane
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:48 AM
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Because it's enjoyable, it's really not that difficult to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:44 AM
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And how exactly did you come to the conclusion that these women lack empathy? How are you able to make such a generalisation? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:20 PM
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Well I do save and would like to own my own home at some point. Kids, not so much. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:18 PM
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Generalisations never help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:22 PM
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A little empathy doesn’t hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:48 PM
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Lol right out there with the gender war rhetoric. Idk about you but I’d be pretty desperate to escape poverty if it were me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:46 PM
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Honestly it’s just the way you prioritise. I’m not wealthy at all and I don’t buy expensive things, I don’t have any dependents - only rent bills etc and I like to travel as much as possible, that’s what I choose to spend my money on. Edit: I should note that I live in Europe and travelling to nearby counties is relatively easy/ inexpensive, it also helps that I have friends in various places. I don’t end up spending an excessive amount when I travel, though it still does take up a good chuck of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:00 PM
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A lot of young women don’t even hide the fact that they are simply looking for a passport out of poverty. I mean, can you blame them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:56 PM
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They’re just regular conmen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:19 AM
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No you!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:06 AM
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I’m not going to engage seriously with you as you’ve already proven that you’re deranged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:51 AM
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“Your sort” lmao you don’t even know me. You’re deranged 😂. Or would you rather explain to me what sort of “connection” you formed after guy 7 Bless you trying to get my n-count number out of me lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:48 AM
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Given your other comments I’m going to have to press x to doubt!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:40 AM
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LMFAO This may be shocking to you, but you can have sex with someone and simultaneously view people as humans. Again, you have an incredible immature and contrived view of sex. But hey you’re definitely entitled to that perspective. This comment in particular has made it very obvious to me that your perspective is definitely not representative of most young people. Thanks for engaging, but I’m definitely dipping out of this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:38 AM
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Lmao why did you just jump to “having orgies” 😂😭 wth
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:27 AM
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there’s nothing pretty or cool about being self destructive and using people Lol what? Lmao this sentence is very telling… How is it self destructive and “using people” to engage in protected consensual sex with another adult? What a very strange and frankly immature way of viewing sex. Yea, most young people (I’d argue people in general) offline do not think this way. And who said anything about it being “admirable” or “pretty” lol, no I don’t think it’s admirable or pretty, I think it’s enjoya…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:17 AM
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Do you not see the irony in your comment? Lol So how exactly do you know that your perspective is common among young people if you admit that we’re obviously in different circles? I’m not a club goer nor am I a party person in general, I have a pretty wide circle and have live and dated in different countries (though admittedly only in Western Europe) it’s not a perspective that I encounter, and reaffirmed by the fact that young people tend to be more progressive. I’ve dated men and women and no…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:37 AM
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We’ve been together for almost 5 years, he isn’t “promiscuous” though he dated people before dating me, and I dated people before dating him lol as is pretty usual with people who don’t really have any issues when it comes to dating. I don’t know what your definition of promiscuous is but I know that your perspective really isn’t representative of most young/youngish people in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:05 AM
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I know plenty, my partner being one of them and I’m 25, not “young” per se, but I wouldn’t say I’m “older” either so
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:21 AM
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The majority of people in the real world really don’t care. Idk why people in this subreddit act as if this is a huge issue offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:52 AM
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No one I’ve ever dated has ever cared enough to ask off the bat either. If the conversation came up naturally I’ve always told the truth, and they never cared.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:50 AM
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The truth lol, why would I lie about something so trivial. My partner knows my n-count it does not bother him, and I wouldn’t date someone who was insecure anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:48 AM
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Allowing multiple men to enjoy the most intimate aspects of your physiology 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:47 AM
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I’m out every day babe, it’ll do you good to do the same
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:27 PM
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I can’t argue with you when you don’t have a basic grasp of secondary school knowledge. Bye
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:02 PM
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Obviously most women are dating men that are taller than them most men ARE taller than most women. Jesus Christ this is common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:32 PM
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Lol what? That doesn’t make any sense, the expectation for men to provide for their family is an a stable idea in patriarchal societies. This is like year 6 education level stuff. This is an idea that has carried on though to contemporary society, though I’d argue this applies to a minority of women. Most women work, most people in general work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:29 PM
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Well I’d argue today as most people work regardless of gender women are as preoccupied with men’s status, though yea there are still women who are. Though I’d argue that’s the result of living in a patriarchal society (I know things have changed but that ideology is still imbedded in a lot of people) where men are seen as needing to provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 04:28 PM
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It means that most women are not dating men above 6ft if the majority of men aren’t even 6ft. I guess age if only a factor when we’re talking about younger men and women? But yea sure it’s not that relevant I concede.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 04:25 PM
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Because people date within their age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 10:08 PM
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Most men are going to be taller than women if they’re around the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:51 PM
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Yes a minority of women, OP is making it seem like most women are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:50 PM
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This argument is so redundant. Women date a verity of men regardless of whether or not they prefer tall men. I’m sure men in general prefer fit women. People are attracted to attractive traits How does any of this substantiate OP’s argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:27 AM
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But OP isn’t even talking about women just preferring tall men, I’m sure men in general prefer fit attractive women. People find attractive traits attractive. The reason women on dating apps have strict dating preferences is because there are significantly more men on these apps so they can be more selective. None of this even matters anyway because the argument OP was making is that 1. Women overwhelmingly date men who are above 6ft (not true) 2. The reason women date these men is to brag about…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:25 AM
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I’d argue the allusion of abundance is enough to skew women’s preferences, the idea that there are so many men on this app so “one of them is bound to meet my standards.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:25 AM
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Or you could just ignore the post, seems pretty easy to me! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:01 AM
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What do you mean regardless of whether men outnumber women? Um that’s a very relevant factor that you have to control for, which is what you have to do when you do conduct a study. The fact that men out number women on dating apps is a incredibly significant variable that would undoubtedly skew women’s stated preferences on these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:00 AM
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Still isn’t a good sample, especially when you consider the gender ratio, obviously women on bumble will significantly more selective when they’re greatly outnumbered by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:48 AM
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Next time you’re out and about, look around, I’m sure you’ll see plenty of women with men who are under 6ft. Anyway have a nice day!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:09 AM
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Dating apps are not representative of the general population, look around you, women date a huge range of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:03 AM
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Definitely not. What’s important is having a dynamic that fits best for you as a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:02 AM
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But none of it is consistent with reality. PPD is an echo chamber containing multiple echo chambers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:00 AM
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Okay fair. But isn’t arguing that women prefer 6ft and above guys pretty redundant though? Like, there aren’t enough potential men above 6ft in the world anyway so parent comment is right, women do date men of various heights regardless of their preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:58 AM
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Well you’re literally basing your opinion on over hearing a woman describe (not necessarily bragging just to brag) her 6ft2 partner. I’m around relatively young women all the time. I just don’t buy what you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:55 AM
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Lol right so the percentage of women say around age 20-35 is a lot less than 28% which further proves that you shouldn’t take their preferences as representative of women as a whole. And yes I know, I met my partner on an OLD app. Still isn’t representative of the overall population. Again nothing you’ve said substantiated OP’s argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:53 AM
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Okay but how does this substantiate OP argument that women in general only date men above 6ft so they can brag to their female friends about his height? - something that as a (relatively) young woman I never hear happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:50 AM
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I doubt the magazine is named after the derogatory term “broad” But who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:48 AM
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Lmao everyone settles to a degree, otherwise no one would ever be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:44 AM
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“Broad” Lol I see where your perspective is coming from. Try looking past your bias through to actual reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:42 AM
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Definitely agree about the users being on the younger side. Yea dating apps in general, especially ones like tinder and bumble are by definition shallow and not a good way to gauge what the average women is looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:41 AM
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Describing your partner and including the fact that he’s 6ft2 isn’t the same as what the OP is suggesting which is that women date men who are 6ft and above just so they can brag to their friends about it. This isn’t something I have experienced (maybe once or twice but I genuinely can’t remember this ever happening) as a women in my 20s with plenty of female friends in their 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:36 AM
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What is the percentage of single women use bumble again? And what’s the gender ration on bumble? Only about 28% of American women have ever even used dating apps, and women make up around 32% of users on bumble. Bumble isn’t real life. And even then how does any of what you said prove OP’s argument that women in general only date men who are over 6ft, and those women who only date men over 6ft are only dating them so they can brag about their height to their friends? Absolute nonsense. https://h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:21 AM
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Sure there are some women with strict dating standards but the suggestion that women in general only date men who are 6ft or above because they want to brag to their friends about their partner’s hight is ridiculous and not based in reality. This post reads as if they haven’t met an actual adult woman in their life, they have created a caricature of what they think women are. This may shock you, but women are not vapid creatures who are only concerned with their partner’s height, and even if som…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:20 AM
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I mean sure, but where are all the young men adhering to that sort of advice? Plenty of the young men around me who aren’t well established date
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:55 AM
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right lol, no women I know has bragged to me about their boyfriend’s height
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:52 AM
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Have you met a woman above the age of 16? Ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:36 AM
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I don’t think the life around you is completely a reflection of who you are but it is a decent enough indication. Having said that, I don’t think you need to be well established in life to date, and I wouldn’t personally recommend people (men, women or other) wait until they’ve reach the height of their potential to start dating, I think it just depends on what you’re looking for. I’ve been with my partner for almost 5 years now, we met when we were both 20, working shitty jobs neither of us wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:26 AM
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Me and many other men want to be experience being wanted for who we are inside and out, not for the life around us I mean, I understand what you’re saying, everyone wants to be loved for who they are outside of the material things around them, but the life around you is in large part (not completely) a reflection of who you are
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 11:30 PM
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I’ve genuinely never heard a woman say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:35 PM
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Most women don’t even do online dating
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:26 PM
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Yes my current partner, he is the only person Ive dated who I’ve been instantly attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:25 PM
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What an incredibly immature perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:21 PM
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I met my partner of 5 years on tinder lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:54 AM
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Completely different types, genuinely couldn’t pin them down to a particular category
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:00 PM
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Empirical evidence > your personal opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 06:27 PM
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This is such a juvenile perspective, there are plenty of guys that have sex who are perfectly fine people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 03:30 AM
2

As I young person (25) who's been in a relationship with another young person for almost 5 years now I completely disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:17 AM
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You're emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:02 PM
1

Never
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:57 PM
2

Conservative
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:51 PM
2

It means “bisexual/ pansexual”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 01:05 PM
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Has to be bait lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 01:02 PM
1

I understand that it’s an awkward thing to bring up. But honestly if you are genuinely concerned and/or it makes you uncomfortable, then the only thing you can do really is try to talk to her, no one here knows your girlfriend personally so there’s a little to have much useful advise you’ll get on here. Wish you both the best :).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 10:32 PM
6

Strange, I see the opposite all the time, but not so much the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 10:27 PM
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Sorry I only read the title I thought it was a bait post. I think it may just be a kink. People have pretty wild kinks it doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong with her. Are you able to bring it up to her in a considerate way? Does it make you uncomfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:44 PM
5

Being Bi, not sticking to strict gender roles and having mostly only progressive friends, I find it difficult to relate of the posts on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:30 PM
1

I genuinely wouldn’t mind, in fact I’m constantly trying to get my partner to use Reddit but he’s not interested lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:25 PM
1

Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:23 PM
2

Because I’m an able-bodied, fully developed adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 09:21 PM
6

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:53 AM
6

I wouldn’t want to validate your ridiculous comment with a serious response.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:39 AM
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So women have to jeopardise their own happiness for men. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:57 AM
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🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:56 AM
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I have never and would never date someone who deliberately hurt my feelings. The overwhelming majority of women are not masochists.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:57 PM
2

I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:14 AM
1

And that would be silly of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:14 PM
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“If she was attracted to him enough she would break her rules for him” Umm, I highly disagree… I’ve personally been with people who I’ve been VERY physically attracted to and there were still boundaries I held firm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:05 PM
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There are certain things people comprise on and other thing they don’t. Again if he didn’t like her boundary he has every right to leave. It feel weird to criticise her for having a particular boundary that she’s entitled to have just like any other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:03 PM
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Why are you assuming she isn’t attracted to him? Lol, her sexual interest could have just changed I’ve seen it with other people. Many people go wild and have a bunch of sex at uni and figure out that’s no longer how they want to engage in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:01 PM
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Well I think you edited out the part of your comment I was responding to so idk. Or maybe I misread, I’m not sure. That’s such a weird way of looking at it. If she doesn’t feel comfortable with certain sexual activities anymore why are you expecting her to “break the rules” for her boyfriend? She’s no longer interested in those activities, they may even make her deeply uncomfortable. It’s seems rather straightforward to me, if he want to experiment more sexually then he should break up with her …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:58 PM
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She’s making decisions about sex for herself. Both of them are allowed to have boundaries around sex she is not a bad person for wanting to wait to have sex with him, he also wouldn’t be a bad person if he decided he didn’t want to wait and ended the relationship. Well if you want to assume a dominant role in sex to satisfy your girlfriend then go ahead, that’s your prerogative. But no one is obligated to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:52 PM
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If he is no longer comfortable with his relationship then of course the right thing for him to do would be to leave. I have an issue with how this all is being framed by prescribing malicious intent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:48 PM
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You’re unjustifiably projecting that onto her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:46 PM
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No one is forcing anyone. He chose to wait for her. She experimented sexually in university and has now seeming decided that it wasn’t for her. So her sexual interests changed, there is nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:33 PM
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Also “some non promiscuous men will be able to accept the mindfuck and stay with promiscuous women” This doesn’t make any sense, if she is in a monogamous relationship then she is no longer promiscuous so what exactly do they have to accept? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:32 PM
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It’s not uncommon for people’s sexual interests to change, lots of people experiment in university and through that they figure out what is and isn’t for them. What exactly is the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 10:30 PM
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They should get a body count sticker because you say so? LOL. A much more realistic solution to your issue would be to stop dating women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:51 PM
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Men are tricked? Stop infantilising men, it’s gross, they’re not children. Don’t date any women then if you’re so afraid of them turning out to be “whores” I’m sure they’ll be relieved.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:46 PM
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It’s a joke. You don’t have to date people who you think are “whores” no one is forcing you to, so what are you complaining about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:43 PM
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You get what you’re given and you don’t make a fuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:41 PM
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Bottom 90%? Lmao stoppppp
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:19 PM
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Why must you interpret it in the most uncharitable way? Many people experiment at university and engage in lots of different sexual activities for the first time and in doing so figure out that it isn’t really for them. Her sexual interests may have just changed, I genuinely don’t understand why this would deeply upset someone. The OP did not have to wait to have sex with her if he didn’t want to, he could have left.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:05 PM
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Exactly. Seems like common sense, right? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:58 PM
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Really? I feel like most people in my circle wouldn’t really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:16 PM
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No one forced him to wait for sex, he chose to wait, why are you guys pretending that he’s a victim? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:14 PM
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It’s really not that difficult to understand. His girlfriend has the right to wait however long she wants to have sex with him regardless of the sexual activities she engaged in in the past. Equally, he had every right to leave her if he didn’t want to wait. Also, you’re assuming that she’s pretending to be sexually conservative when her sexual interests may have just changed since university, this is not uncommon, it doesn’t mean she’s just “acting.” Why must we interpret everything people do i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:13 PM
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It’s hot to many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 06:30 AM
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Again you do not live in reality, the overwhelming majority of old men date old women. Why? Because they are unable to attract young women. Why? Because young women are not attracted to them. It doesn’t matter what old men “want,” they are unable to attract young women. Women are old or young are no way near as desperate as men, they never have been they never will be. Men will settle with what they can. And you’re completely wrong about women being worse of single, again you do not live in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:35 PM
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I have a pretty progressive group of friends so I can’t imagine any of them are afraid to say that they enjoy anal sex. Sure there may be a few women who are genuinely attracted to old men, but I can’t image there is enough to justify the perpetuation of this fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:26 AM
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What? Not representative of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:22 AM
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Anyway I can not confine engaging otherwise I will not get anything done, I’m muting the thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:21 AM
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You live in a complete fantasy world, do you not have grandparents, do you not see old couple at the park? The average age gap between couples in the US is 2.5, there is no epidemic of old men dating young women. Young women are generally repulsed by old men. No woman is desperate enough to date whoever, however there are plenty of men who are. Most women would rather remain single than significantly lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:19 AM
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It’s a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:12 AM
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Um, that simply isn’t true. Old women are definitely not as desperate as old men. I really don’t see that being the case at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:11 AM
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The difference between men and women is women have standards. Like I said, men will literally fuck anything, and yet they’re still constantly complaining that women are not into them. Women complain because they can’t find a who meet their standards. It’s really not difficult to find someone as a woman, it’s a little more difficult to find someone who you feel it’s “good enough.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:07 AM
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This may shock you, but most 50 year old men are out of shape and old as fuck, I wouldn’t touch any one of them with a 10 ft pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:04 AM
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This is so stupid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:00 AM
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You do realise there are also a munch of depressed single old men Right? I’d image there are more so. And no, women of any age have an easier time dating than men. Men are desperate enough to get with whoever is available.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:55 AM
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Um no. Men are far more desperate than women and generally will have sex with whoever is available. Young women are not into old men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:53 AM
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This is a myth. Young women are generally repulsed by old men. As a young woman myself I know most of us date within our age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:52 AM
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Not at all. Women are not desperate enough, men are. Everyone knows that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:50 AM
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I’m talking about physical attractiveness. Men and Women hit the wall around the same time. Plus women of any age usually have an easier time dating than men, that speaks for itself really.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:32 AM
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Why do men perpetuate this fantasy of women in their 20s being attracted to old men? As a women in my 20s with female friends in their 20s, in my experience young women date within their age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:15 AM
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Men hit the wall at 50, I’d say around the same age as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:12 AM
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Women are attracted to attractive men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:11 AM
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20 year old women are generally not into old men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:08 AM
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No woman wants a man in his 80s lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:07 AM
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Also the kinds of things you post on Reddit verifies to me that you are terminally online lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:49 PM
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Lmao you honestly sound like you live in a fantasy world, people have careers and such you realise that right? I keep my online life (particularly Reddit) and my personal life (including Instagram) separate. Why would I identify myself for your sake? I don't care enough about random people on Reddit to do that. Nice try though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:48 PM
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Why would I identify myself on here given the things I post? Aha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:38 PM
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Lol if you say so hun, still don't believe you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:36 PM
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Lmao, I too frequent such establishments, wise one. I still don't believe you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:06 PM
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Why would they feel like that? There are studies showing that women (in heterosexual relationships) usually rate their romantic partner as less attractive than vice verse so... I'll find the study I'm referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:34 PM
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Lmao exactly. How are young women approaching older men if women never make the first move 🤔 They're living in a fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:03 PM
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I'm pretty sure the post is a troll, I just find it funny
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:00 PM
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Nah it's pretty uncommon
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:57 PM
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Lmao these conversations remind me of this post 😂 https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/o7zsd3/for_women_in_their_early_20s_would_you_consider/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:56 PM
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No it’s really not common at all, sure it happens every once in a while but most young women date within their age rage, most young women think men in general are creeps, let alone old men. It is a fantasy a lot of men have though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:53 PM
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Yes that I can maybe believe. Though I hope you realise that 16 is a little to young for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:30 PM
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Lol if you say so :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:01 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:33 AM
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Women rarely approach men in the first place lol. Now old men? In their 40s? Nah. I don't believe you at all. It's definitely a fantasy men have though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:33 AM
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It's a myth that a large number of significantly older men are dating young women in their 20s (at least in the US and the western world in general) as the average age gap between couples is 2.5 years. Also idk why you mentioned men in their 40s dating women in their 30? Did you misread my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:49 AM
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Lol, no one is forcing you to interact with me. I have insomnia, this is my entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:33 AM
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I've lived in 3 different countries and have been around a variety of people. Sure it my happen every so often, but I find it incredibly difficult to believe that you're getting hit on by young women weekly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:18 AM
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It’s quite obviously a lie as: Women very rarely pursue men The overwhelming majority of young women date within a small age range as they usually date people within their social circle, at school, university, social clubs, etc My own experience as a young woman, I have never seen an attractive woman in my social group approach an older man. The older man always approaches the young woman and 9/10 the woman thinks the man is a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:01 AM
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Yeah, well I can't speak for Brazil as I'm not so education on the culture/ society.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:57 AM
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As a young petty attractive woman, who was once an even younger woman. I simply do not believe you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:53 AM
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Uh, that just sounds incredibly predatory...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:46 AM
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This comment right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:40 AM
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Woman are not broken men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:40 AM
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Older Men going dating women in their 20s is a myth. The average age gap between couples (in the US at least) is only 2.5 years. That whole narrative is just an attempt to scare and degrade women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:37 AM
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I genuinely believe that you should be able to have whatever standards you want whether or not you are actively working on yourself (though obviously most sensible people are interested in improving themselves in one way or another). I don't think you need to “earn” your standards. And sure I agree, if your standards are not working for you then it may be a good idea to reassess your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:02 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that, but honestly sometimes it's a blessing in disguise. And thank you, I appreciate it :) All the best to you to, hope you have a lot of fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 09:16 PM
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I have no intention of not being with my partner in the future and as far as I know he doesn’t either (though we’re both young and obviously I can not predict the future). Though in the event I do become single, I’m not expecting every man I’m interested in to be interested in me for a LTR, though this is not something that concerns me. I’m sure I would be just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:56 PM
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I mean some of them made it very clear (pretty much trying to pressure me to date them exclusively) but either way it doesn’t really matter as I wasn’t interested in anything serious at the time, it also really don’t matter if women have sex with men who also only want something causal. As far as serious relationships are concerned, it only takes coming across one man who meets your standards and who is interested in a LTR with you, it’s not exactly difficult, I see it all the time... I strongly…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:33 PM
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I’m in a long term relationships of 4 years. As I’ve said in other replies, I dated casually from my late teens to 20 as I wasn’t interesting in a serious relationship at the time, the people I causally dated were great but it wasn’t until I met my currently partner that I felt I had met someone who ticked all of my boxes, and so I happily settled down with him (I also felt like I had enough “fun” by the time I turned 20). Plenty of the people I dated casually expressed that they were interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:07 PM
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So in regards to the people who don’t complain as their standards are met, or their content being single, there is no issue right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:01 PM
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Yes I think it’s ok if he’s able to find someone who meets his standards, and sure people shouldn’t complain about it if people don’t meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 04:20 PM
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Agree that it’s frustrating to see comments like that, I also not agree with them that all men are trash obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:59 PM
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But my position on taxation is the mainstream one, pretty much every country in the world has some kind of tax system, it would be unsustainable as a country to not have some form of tax. I feel like the whole “taxation is theft” thing is so meaningless, there is never not going to be tax. I believe in fat-positivity, as in people should be confident in themselves regardless of their size, however I don’t believe those people are entitled to anyone else’s romantic attention or bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:42 PM
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Okay well we fundamentally disagree, I would not consider ensuring that gas prices are low by subsidising fossil fuel companies equal to compelling people to date people they are not attracted to. I also don’t consider taxation to be theft, this page explains my position on that very well : https://wou.edu/westernhowl/taxation-not-theft/ And sure, I can see how having high standards would be detrimental to people who do not meet others’ high standards, but at the same time compelling people to l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:31 PM
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Lol um, the government would be subsidising the fossil fuel companies, so they wouldn’t lose much money if anything. Companies are also compelled to pay taxes you know? Do you think taxes are theft? This is not the same as compelling people to date people they are not attracted to. Lmao now I’m a terrible person? “Females are the emotional sex.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:07 PM
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But this just isn’t true though lol. Like I said in a different reply on this post, from my late teens to 20 I had quite a bit of sex with a variety of people (most were very nice and what I would consider pretty “bf material”) however during that period of my life I was only interested in having fun. I then met my partner at 20 (we’re in a LTR of 4 years) and he is the most attractive person I’ve dated in both looks and personality, in fact that is the reason I chose to settle with him in the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:00 PM
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You’re being incredibly condescending for absolutely no reason, get a grip lmao. It doesn’t even matters if people feel like they need intimate relationships, in order to ensure that everyone’s romantic needs are met you would literally have to force people to date people they do not want to. In the gas price scenario, you aren’t compelling anyone against their will by ensuring that gas prices are affordable, which you could do by just getting the government to subside fossil fuel companies, tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:40 PM
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Yea, that’s definitely not the argument I’m making, but sure I’ve seen people say that. I would disagree with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:56 PM
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It’s easy to be condescending and dismissive when your argument makes no sense, I know this topic may be a touchy one for you but let’s not be immature. Those two things are not analogous because (assuming you live in some state in the US where you need to drive everywhere as you don’t have access to good public transportation) having access to affordable gas is a necessity and in order to get anywhere you are forced to pay unreasonable prices for gas in that scenario. Other people’s high standa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:55 PM
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I still don’t think those two things are analogous. Why exactly should peoples’ standards not be “too high.” Like why is having high standards wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:41 PM
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It seemed like that’s what you were hinting at, and no they don’t align with the real world they are heavily skewed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:40 PM
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I would argue that those two things are not analogous. Are you picky with your gas?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:35 PM
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Because we all know that dating site statistics are heavily skewed. Most women are not on dating sites so using their standards on dating sites to argue that women’s standards in general are too high doesn’t make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:31 PM
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Wouldn’t this be alleviated a little by men increasing their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:20 PM
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Hm, no not really. At least I wouldn’t say their standards are too high, as they are being met.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:20 PM
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I mean, I really don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to be extremely satisfied with the person they’re with. Perhaps men increasing their standards would help alleviate the issue a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:18 PM
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I agree, nothing wrong with being single and childless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:16 PM
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I’m sorry but dating apps are not real life. Of course it’s going to be heavily skewed into women’s favour, they is an abundance of men on tinder and barely any women. I refuse to discuss dating apps. “Women don’t owe anyone anything”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:15 PM
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So 1. I’ve seen people complain about women having standards they perceive as being too high, regardless of whether or not they are successful dating I truly do not believe one has to meet the standards they set in order for them to be reasonable. This is not an obligation, if your standards are met then your standards are reasonable regardless of whether or not you put in the work too meet them yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:11 PM
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Some women would rather be single than date someone who doesn’t meet their standards. I think that’s perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:05 PM
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Also my current partner is by far the most attractive guy I’ve had sex with, I mean that’s partially why I decided to settle with him in the first place (he is all around the best person I’ve ever been with looks + personality). I would never settle with someone I wasn’t incredibly attracted to, so this comment doesn’t really make any sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:54 PM
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Sure, but I’m also seen people in this subreddit complain about women’s standards being too high in general, regardless of whether or not they are met.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:51 PM
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Read my post again.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 04:23 AM
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Ah sorry, I misread the end of your comment. I guess I just don’t think all of those women are looking for a serious relationship, but I also don’t believe in the 80/20 rule really.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:59 AM
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They also could just be interested in casual sex. I know before my current relationship (LTR of 4 years) in my late teens to 20 I was only interested in casual sex. I imagine a lot of women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:58 AM
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He’s definitely projecting lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:54 AM
0

Trust me, the pill can be pretty rough. Vasectomies can be reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:44 AM
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What did I say that proves every “redpillers” point? Be specific. I really don’t understand why you care about women having high standards, you don’t seem to like women at all so why would you want to date them? Lol Why exactly are you concerned about how high their standards are?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:36 AM
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Assuming you’re right about the 80/20 rule, would you consider women going for the top 20% of men having unrealistic standards, or as you phrased it, leaving reality? Or would you consider those women’s standards reasonable assuming they’re successful in their dating lives? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:35 AM
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Whether it’s nonsense or not, I honestly couldn’t care less, the fact is people complain about it all the time which substantiates my initial point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:01 AM
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I’ve seen people complain about standards they perceive as high in general, regardless of how successful the woman’s dating life is. Also isn’t that practically what the whole 80/20 rule nonsense? The idea that woman only go after the top 20% of men? People are constantly complaining about that in this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:51 AM
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Your comment suggests that being a player and being a man looking for a serious relationship are binary. Many men at some point in their lives are only interested in casual relationships and at other times are looking for something more serious (just like women btw). My partner had plenty of sex before we started dating and we’ve been together for 4 years lol. Was he a player before we started dating? He’s been in a serious relationship before so... Life is more nuanced than how you’re presentin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:25 AM
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I mean sure it may be more of an incel argument, but I’ve seen people make that argument in this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:41 PM
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You could say the same think about men though. I’ve been in my current relationship for 4 years, after some years of engaging in casual sex with a number of people. I have female friends who are also in long term relationships, I have other female friends who are not. I know men who are in long term relationships and others who are not. Contrary to the prevailing narratives of this subreddit, everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:40 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:08 PM
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People are as desirable as their options I would argue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:14 PM
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Hm could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:55 PM
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Ah okay I misread your reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:52 PM
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This just simply isn’t true, I know for my self and many of my other female friends, when I was in my late teens to 20s and engaged in causal sex I was not interested in being in a relationship with anyone even though some of the people I dated causally tried to push me to be in a monogamous relationship with them, but I just wanted to have sex lol and cuddle. I’m currently in a LTR of 4 years and that’s because I was content with the number of causal sexual experience I had and so became intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:51 PM
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I have had casual sex with people in the past (I’m currently in a LT relationship now) who tried to get me to have a monogamous relationship with them. What I am arguing against is the notion that people always compartmentalise in that way, I don’t think (given my own personal experience) that everyone only has casual sex with people they couldn’t image dating. Edit: typos
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:46 PM
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I genuinely wouldn’t even consider one’s standards to be too high in that scenarios either though. I they are able to date the people they want to date regardless of how much work they do or do not put into themselves than they are successful in dating, thus their standards are still not too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:40 PM
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I’m a woman and this is based on my experience and the experiences of other women around me. Maybe you live in a place where casual sex is more stigmatised and so you compartmentalise in that way. When I look back at my own experience engaging in casual relationships from my late teens to 20 (I’m 24 now in a LTR of 4 years) quite a few of the people I casually dated tried to get me to be in a monogamous relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:37 PM
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I mean sure, I can understand feeling like it isn’t fair but that doesn’t mean someone else’s standards are too high. Also I don’t think it’s about getting someone you “deserve” no one deserves anyone, people get (for lack of a better word) people who that can get, nothing to do with what one deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:31 PM
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Fair lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:14 PM
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But that shouldn’t upset anyone other than the other person in that dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:07 PM
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Well yea I’m not claiming to provide empirical evidence I am talking about my own experience and the experiences of those around me. I live in (and have lived in) a pretty progressive place where casual sex is not really stigmatised thus there tends to be a lot of overlap, I don’t know many people who compartmentalise in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:06 PM
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I’m talking about in this subreddit specifically. Sure, I also think if someone’s standards aren’t being met then they should reassess them (UNLESS they are content being single). I feel like this really depends on your culture and social circles. The culture/social circles I’m in a pretty progressive place and the people who one could engage in causal sex with are often also the people who would be interested in being in a relationship with you (provided mutual attraction and compatibility).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:59 PM
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Success is entirely dependant on what someone is seeking. This may shock you, but there are plenty of women who are (for some period of time) only interested in causal sex, thus, if they are successful in getting casual sex with those they are attracted to, I would say that woman is successful. If a woman is looking for a LTR and she is able to land a serious relationship with someone she is attracted to, I would also consider that successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:53 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:40 PM
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Yes I agree, obviously if your standards aren’t working for you then you should maybe reassess them but otherwise I think people should have standards as high as they realistically can be depending on their own “value,” for lack of a better word.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:40 PM
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Yes I agree, though I’ve seen people complain about the standards of other people that they perceive to be high regardless of how successful that person is with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:37 PM
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I think this really depends on the culture and the social circles you are a part of, often the people you can have causal sex with are the same people who would be more than happy to be in a relationship with you. Personally comparing the causal partners I had in my late teens - 20 (I’m 24 now, in a LTR for 4 year), plenty of the people I engaged in causal sex with tried to get me to be in a monogamous relationship with them. Edited: bunch of typos lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:34 PM
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Well yes I agree, I think if you’re unable to get what you’re looking for then you should reassess your standards. My post is more so directed at people who think women having high standards is inherently bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:27 PM
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Who is they? Most women I know have no issues dating even with their “high standards.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:25 PM
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But also let me ask you, do you think women who are successful dating (and have what many would perceive as “high standards”) do you think be very picky is inherently wrong? Like do you think women in general should be less picky regardless of how successful they are with dating? Im not trying to suggest you think this, I’m just curious of other people’s opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:24 PM
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I completely agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:21 PM
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For some women maybe, but most women I know have no issue dating and plenty of them are pretty “picky.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:21 PM
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My question is directed at people who complain that women in general have standards that are “too high,” however, I’m wondering that if a woman’s “high standards,” are met are they really too high? I feel as though people who say women’s standards are “too high” perceive women’s standards as too high because they personally do not meet those standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:20 PM
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Hmm okay, but this isn’t really a response to my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:11 PM
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What do you mean “let” ? Being picky is a decision the picker makes, no one “lets” anyone have standards regardless of how low or high they are. I also don’t understand why being picky is perpetually famed as “shallow,” it’s everyone’s prerogative to have some kind of standard, obviously they should think about adjusting those standards if they aren’t working for them, but otherwise I genuinely don’t see why this is an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 07:52 PM
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Lmao as someone who has been the woman getting hit on aggressively in a club (when I was single, currently in LTR) and had my friend intervene, if a woman wanted to continue interacting with you she would have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:22 PM
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Beggars can’t be choosers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:12 PM
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Lol “European cities” what does this even mean lmfao? Europe is a huge continent with lots of different countries that vary considerably in culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:48 AM
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Women don’t care though. The data shows that women are much more content single than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:46 AM
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Date men then lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:14 AM
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If women are successful being picky, what’s the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:02 AM
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No woman I know has difficulty finding decent partners
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:01 AM
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You don’t “need” polarising views for the sake of having polarising views, though it’s true that you’ll never agree with your partner on everything. I’d argue that similar if not the same core values are essential for a healthy long lasting relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:14 PM
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Are you conservative? Because that probably is the determining factor. My circle is young and middle class, the older people in my life are also mostly middle class, most of us are liberal to progressive and I imagine that’s why they don’t really care about that stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:06 PM
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I think this depends on the social circle you are in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 11:03 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:59 AM
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I suppose we have different social circles lol, no one I know would talk about someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:31 AM
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Hmmm, I don’t think it matters for everyone, even for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:30 AM
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Who cares? Lol. I’m in a LTR and have dated plenty, no one cares what anyones “body count” is. I’m starting to feel that most people in this sub are terminally online and don’t talk to normal everyday people regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:01 AM
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Maybe, maybe not, who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 12:58 AM
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🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:44 PM
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🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:43 PM
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You sure come off as very offended hun!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:35 PM
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Okay, thanks for the discussion! Cya
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:10 PM
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Hmmmmmm, I feel like this is the more pessimistic take. Are you in a relationship? How old are you? Just want to see where you’re coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:48 PM
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Hm, I’d still have to disagree with that. Sure when you’re younger you grow more rapidly and your opinions change more frequently, I can agree with that, but I’m sure some of our opinions will change and develop in our 30s, and even if they don’t change why wouldn’t we still talk about them? We’re both into following domestic and international politics and like to have debates with each other, so why wouldn’t we discuss these things just as we’d discuss any other interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:40 PM
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Why does them not wanting to date a conservative offend you personally?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:00 PM
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Um, people do talk about ethics in relationships, I’m in a LTR and we discuss ethics and politics pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:59 PM
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They can be reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:52 PM
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🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:44 PM
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