imusuallynot Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	If you are unsuccessful with women, it is 100% your fault. You are not a victim. Being attractive is not a static or predetermined quality Well said! It resonates - in particular to me, because it shifts our mindset towards action that improves self. 👍👌	/r/seduction	05/06/21 06:27 AM
2	The only opener you'll ever need It's not what you say, it's how you say it! But, I suggest - always go for the genuine approach and no stock one-liners that might put some people off. Plus, try not to use the exact same opener all the time - after a while, people will realise this dude is using the exact same line every night and that would achieve the opposite effect of what we want. Being genuine might net you more rejections than a carefully crafted opener... BUT, these are good rejections - get to the NOs fast, so you save…	/r/seduction	19/05/21 02:33 AM
4	Why does being direct with a woman with about what you want almost never work? Being direct does work if you have high enough perceived value to the woman. You must appear interesting enough to her - and that differs woman to woman. So, firstly, keep working on yourself. But, stay true to your core beliefs, don't try to become the flavour of the month, because then you would get others attracted to a fake version of you, and the bubble will eventually burst. Basically continue working at being the best version of yourself possible. And, it's ok that the best version of you…	/r/seduction	13/05/21 11:01 AM
1	how do i bounce women within first 45 minutes to my place? It's easier if it's a group - then no issues for her to tag along. Become really good at mixing drinks and setup a bar at your place. Reason to come over? Cos the drinks here suck and you can mix custom stuff to match her taste profile. I practice shibari - the art of rope bondage. That's a quirky hobby and if you meet the right person, they'd be down to come by and see your setup or try some stuff together. In actuality, if you're a good cook, no need to even go out, gals will regularly invite …	/r/seduction	27/04/21 11:58 AM
2	If there is one thing that would attract you the most about a woman, what would it be? In a long term partner, it would be 1 - baseline looks 2 - openness and communication 3 - character/personality fit - or, chemistry In general, you should just focus on being the best version of yourself as possible. That's it. If you pretend to be someone you're not, you'll be miserable and, eventually it'll all fall apart. I would go so far as to say that, work on yourself and your happiness should come from within. Someone comes along, it's a bonus, but, on your own, life is still good. That …	/r/seduction	25/04/21 10:21 AM
1	Do you still believe in the whole "Alpha Male" thing? Alpha to me is just shorthand for a person exhibiting dominant / leadership traits and contextual to the situations we find ourselves in. We ourselves exhibit varying degrees of 'alpha-ness' depending on whether we are at work, in a social group, volunteering somewhere etc. Similar to bisexuality, I think it's better to see it as a spectrum and contextual to the situations at hand. Does alpha exist? To me it does, but in a manner that's not useful for conveying very precise and accurate meaning,…	/r/seduction	04/04/21 10:29 AM
3	How would you get an extremely introverted girl who's never had a boyfriend and never puts herself out there? THIS. I have to agree with this. Don't use friendship as a strategy for seduction as it's dishonest and doesn't actually work well. Be open about your intentions and if they DO like you or welcome it, they may slow you down (you're going too fast for my comfort etc) but they won't ever stop you. That's how you can tell if they are actually open to things developing further in that direction. In many cases, the girl will tell you how to seduce her, if she welcomes it - you just need to listen!	/r/seduction	02/04/21 11:26 AM
2	How powerful is it really, when a girl realises a guy has many other options? This is true in all walks of life... Negotiating a job, your pay, buying something - as long as you have options, your bargaining power is that much stronger. Just because we can, and have more power though, doesn't mean we should abuse it. I like to always think of the other person's POV too - because that's what a gentleman does. 👌	/r/seduction	30/03/21 11:54 AM
3	How do I impress a girl over text? Gonna provide an slightly different viewpoint to this. Firstly, DON'T try to impress anyone through text. Trying too hard will backfire. So just chat and setup a date over text, lighthearted banter etc. In this digitally connected world, there's a pretty good chance she will background check you, your Facebook or Insta profile etc. What you should do, is live as best a life as you can, and post things you love to do and that accurately portray the best sides of you to your social media profile. …	/r/seduction	27/03/21 08:50 AM
2	Why do I always wait for someone to text me first? I have a friend like this. For whatever reason, you've noticed this in yourself and don't like it. Well to change, a simple suggestion would be to set yourself some measurable and achievable objectives - text someone you like to chat with once a week. Initiate once a week and this will still give space for the other party to reciprocate if they wish. So shift the balance a little bit over time and find what works best for you. 👌	/r/seduction	17/03/21 06:49 AM
2	Is DMing girls on Instagram even worth it? It depends, and in general, no. However, if you have a very specific interest and profile that shows that interest, DMing the right person who is also likewise interested would have a higher chance of success. Also, you may not want to DM directly, comment on posts first with something well worded. If she replies to one or two of your post comments, then DM. If she doesn't reply to your comments on her posts - could your comments be too generic? No one word replies please. If you only DM after r…	/r/seduction	16/03/21 02:00 PM
1	How to get do you get good banter with anybody? A lot depends on where you are at present and it's a step by step journey of progression towards open, confident communication. 1) Evaluate yourself first. We have to crawl before we walk before we run and so on. Where are you on the spectrum? Can you look people in the eye? Can you speak fluently? In front of one person or multiple people? Do you have a hobby that you feel passionate about? 2) Identify the areas that need work on that could be more fundamental building blocks. If it's emotional…	/r/seduction	13/03/21 12:41 PM
3	On being too agreeable 1) Find a topic you feel passionate about. 2) Talk about said topic - if you ever feel passionate about something, you will definitely have a strong opinion to put forward. While she may not oppose your opinion, you will be able to show convincingly that you are not a 'yes man' and have your own convictions. 3) If you don't have anything you might feel passionate about, please see #1	/r/seduction	02/03/21 11:04 AM
5	I am sick of the "didn't feel a spark" after dates, any advice? First thing that comes to mind - I've seen your profile on other posts in this thread, you're physically attractive enough. Yet, you still get rejected relatively often. Most importantly - do you project a desperate and/or needy vibe? If you are getting one to two dates every two weeks, but not much sex, it's easy for this to start to affect one psychologically, because each date becomes such a big thing to you. This would be subconsciously picked up by your dates and that's one of the biggest d…	/r/seduction	28/02/21 08:56 AM
15	As long as you're not marrying her, the right amount to "invest" in a woman is however much it takes to get laid Sometimes, a gal holds out on sex if she sees you as more long term material.	/r/TheRedPill	16/01/19 10:41 PM
3	The Definitive Guide To Abundance And Scarcity With Women Great post! I see people commenting about being in exclusive relationships etc - if you're really, truly at the apex of abundance, you will almost never agree to be in an exclusive relationship because that would make you a liar. Maybe have someone as a primary partner. Just be ethically poly and be upfront about your personal beliefs. At the same time, fair is fair - I never hold anyone to be exclusive to me either. Works for me and I'd like to say that being upfront means interactions are larg…	/r/seduction	10/01/19 11:57 PM
0	Over ~3mo I taught myself to give her 6x orgasms during sex. It was a huge pain in the ass, but here's what worked the best. Cool! I've been running a site specifically on sensual massage and have articles there on: Sensual massage (how to/process w pics) https://www.sensualmassageart.com/musings/2018/5/29/a-full-rundown-of-a-typical-sensual-massage-session Resources for sensual massage (oils, scent, lights, music to use etc) https://www.sensualmassageart.com/musings/2018/3/12/sensual-massage-resources Female orgasm https://www.sensualmassageart.com/musings/2018/8/1/the-female-orgasm-g-spot-squirting-more Just to shar…	/r/seduction	10/01/19 10:41 PM
1	3 Logic Based Rules for "Being Good in Bed" Great article and thanks for sharing in such a detailed manner! I'm a big fan of very open, honest communication and to me that's one of most important aspects to being great in bed (and beyond!). Post reminds me of a fairly recent article I had written about female orgasm that approaches it from a holistic point of view. (full disclosure, it's my educational site that I maintain about sensual massage) https://www.sensualmassageart.com/musings/2018/8/1/the-female-orgasm-g-spot-squirting-more Che…	/r/seduction	10/10/18 12:14 AM
4	The Importance of Practicing a Hobby I have mad amounts of respect for anyone who does stand up. I do open mic acoustic sets and stand up comedy is wayyy more terrifying. I've been thinking of pushing myself to do some open mic comedy too - something to keep me exploring my limits! Kudos to you for just going ahead and doing it!	/r/TheRedPill	15/05/18 12:14 PM
1	Do I have to give up my nerdy interests (Classical music, Weird al, Beatles T-Shirts, Community Theatre, playing the ukulele) in order to be sexually desirable to attractive women? Hey, I love playing the Uke too! I bought two, and teach gals how to play a song or two in less than 30mins! You'd be surprised how receptive many gals are to learning a little music! It practically guarantees that a first date will not be boring and is a breath of fresh air for most people. Plenty of opportunities for kino, eye contact and more!	/r/seduction	15/05/18 12:00 PM