indigo_flamingo Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	#goals	FDS HUMOR	indigo_flamingo	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/04/22 06:14 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How do attractive women pick a man to commit to? Depends on what they’re looking for, how they were raised, what past experiences they’re holding onto, etc. I have a very attractive friend who’s in a terrible, dishonest, and abusive relationship with a charming fck boy type, another attractive friend who is happily married with 4 kids to a pro-basketball player, another one who is married to a first generation asylum-seeking immigrant who’s truly her best friend and who works at the same workplace as her and shares all of her ideals and goals……	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 05:21 PM
2	Women are not wrong in saying that the average guy is an undateable mess. The mistake they make is believing that the average woman is not. I used to follow FDS when I graduated college, moved to a new city across the country, got my first job, and realized dating during the “dating app revolution” was a hot fckn mess. When I was following the sub, they promoted bettering yourself by working out, taking care of yourself / your appearance, being selective with your friendships (finding quality female friends in todays world is nearly impossible I’ve discovered / am still discovering), and coming up with goals for yourself that keep y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 06:38 AM
494	If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right. I wish I knew this in university - instead I felt I was doing something wrong when I’d hear through the grapevine that certain guys thought I was hot but not worth going after (because I was a prude…) and it lowered my self-esteem… For a really really long time I felt like there was something wrong with me, but now I realize something was (and is) very wrong with dating culture.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/22 11:07 PM
167	Vetting Strategy: How soon should I meet his friends? Hmm from my experience, HV guys (who i did not meet through my social circle) usually invited me on a double date with a close-friend couple before inviting me to a large group gathering. That way I already knew 3 people in the group and would not a feel like a true outsider. This is always my approach, too. Start by introducing the man to my closest friend in a casual setting and then move him into group settings. Plunging straight into a big group is strange. It’s generally not appreciated by …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/22 03:49 PM
134	How do queens handle a lukewarm man? How do I handle a lukewarm man? I disappear!! But I think your question is actually more about whether or not you can trust your instincts regarding the guy you’re currently seeing. And your instincts seem to be that he’s ‘lukewarm’. All I can say is that up until I met my HVM, I dated a string of lukewarm guys and none of them lasted long. Before FDS, they usually ended in unnecessary heartbreak for me. After FDS, they ended with a simple thanks but no thanks text sent by me. When I met my HVM,…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/22 03:31 AM
58	Giving Level Up advice to friends who then run that advice past their husbands before acting If they are married to HVM, I don’t see a problem. I like to run ideas by my boyfriend because I see him as the ying to my yang (I’m more of a right brained artist, he’s a very left brained scientist). Sometimes it’s nice to bounce decisions off of someone with a different perspective who you trust. So, idk. The issue is more a question of do they want to run it by their husbands first, or do they feel they have to. One insinuates a healthy respect and the other insinuates a codependency IMO	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/03/22 01:28 AM
6	What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith? 100%. If he really wanted to speak up in that moment he could have simply said “that’s enough”. Someone with his status has great power intrinsically. And if Rock continued to roast jada after that (I don’t think he was planning on it anyway), people would have lost respect for him. Instead, we all lost respect for Smith (rightfully so!). It’s clear Smith wasn’t thinking clearly - it wasn’t a thought out choice to respond in that violent manner - which makes it all the more problematic IMO. I ho…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/22 05:42 PM
29	Recently married. Thanks FDS. They’re trying to sell us a bill of goods we have no interest in with the argument that what this woman found does not exist. Well guess what - it does exist and once you realize that it’s like you enter a secret club of HV people who do not concern themselves with LV people. THIS is why they hate, and by all means, let them!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/22 05:36 PM
6	Most men are misogynist but Right wing men are just open about. I work in Right wing politics. I feel like the Democratic Party is just a more covert Republican Party. We don’t have a party that is actually socialist. Both parties are capitalistic, funded by powerful corporations and billionaires. The Republican Party is just more open about it. Same goes for feminism, as you explain here so well. This is why I hate politics and feel a bit hopeless about the future… It is encouraging to see so many people discussing these issues, though. If enough catch on, maybe change is possible	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/22 07:37 PM
56	How to get rid of this school girl crush One of my very best friends married a coworker and he’s one of the only examples of a high value husband I’ve come across. It took a year of fostering a healthy friendship at work before he officially asked her out - I think because he wanted to make absolutely sure they had a real connection and that she felt respected / that he didn’t make her feel awkward at work if she wasn’t interested (as he works above her). I realize I may be encouraging the crush with this story…but my advice would be t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/03/22 04:38 AM
6	I haven't had the sex I want either The problem is these porn addicts have trained their brains to have disconnected orgasms. They watch other people (who aren’t present with them) and get off on it. Then you show up in one of your sexy outfits trying to arouse them and the only way they can get off is to forget you’re a real breathing person and use you like they use their computer. It’s f’ed up. If a man can’t communicate with you during sex - check in with you, read your body language, look you in the eye….run.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/03/22 01:30 AM
2	He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love. Amazing 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/22 06:28 AM
101	Anyone else get lonely or disappointed when they can’t share FDS and their dating life with their friends? I relate! After following FDS religiously for about 7-8 months, I met my current boyfriend “out in the wild” (not on OLD). He approached me politely at a cafe where I was reading and we chatted for a bit before he asked me out to dinner. Now it’s been 5 months of dating (the longest I’ve been with someone for over 5 years!) and seriously, every day gets better and better. Like you, I also feel my BF is HV and yet, it’s still a relationship so there are still growth points where communication is …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/01/22 03:26 AM
7	Advice on finances? I am with you 100%. I came into quite a bit of money while fairly young. I’m not yet a home owner, but for my city and age group I have a lot more going on than most people I know in regards to my living situation, car, and finances in general. The thing is, I haaaate talking about it and if you met me out and about I’m sure you’d have no idea (I’m very frugal). However, when someone comes over to my place, it becomes abundantly clear and makes me feel really self-conscious - like I’ve been “lyi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/21 07:08 AM
27	ZVM, NVM and LVM "fathers": "how do I reestablish tRuSt with my adult daughter ?" Took me a minute to realize all these posts belonged to the same user, but then once I did…woah. What an interesting LV-decisions domino effect I just encountered 😐	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/21 06:20 AM
64	I feel like I can't trust men I hear you, but this is why we vett them. If a guy isn’t mad for you, he’s probably not going to “play by your rules” just to have a chance at being with you. He’ll most likely move on and find a different placeholder who’s easier to get - and that’s exactly what we want! If a man continues to pursue you and shows strength of character throughout the vetting process, then you can infer he most likely sees you as a person of value and is way less likely to “trade you in” later on. Of course, peop…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 04:54 PM
29	Is it me or are the dating apps dead or declining in numbers of men? god I hope so	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 07:28 AM
72	When I’m doubt, DO NOT give men the benefit of the doubt. After YEARS of not believing this, I finally started to date someone who texts me back within seconds - and now I know it’s completely true. My boyfriend has a super busy, complex job, yet he will drop everything to get back to me. I never even asked him to (after all, I was conditioned to expect hours or days between texts or even to never get a text back at all). He does it because he’s genuinely into me and wants to know what I said or need or, god forbid, if I’m in danger. The other day he t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/21 07:46 AM
42	What are some early on signs he’s a cheater? Ah yes… there’s the fuck bois and then there’s the soft boys… IMO soft boys are so much worse because they truly don’t believe what they’re doing is wrong. Fuck bois at least own it	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/21 07:16 AM
119	What are some early on signs he’s a cheater? A guy calling other girls ugly, boring, short, a whore, or whateverrrr is my biggest red flag. If he actually means it, holy shit ima get out of there ASAP. If he doesn’t actually mean it….well, same! I’m out!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/21 07:09 AM
36	Sugarbabies and the trope of "modern dating through female empowerment!" It seems like the men who think “all women are gold diggers” are the same men who can’t afford to date, period. It’s just an excuse to protect their fragile ego. I’ve never heard a successful man say anything like this at all.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/11/21 06:19 PM
11	“The idea that a woman can live a happy fulfilling life without a man is nonsense.” Did I hear him correctly? Did these words really just come out of his mouth? Ladies, make sure your life is successful, happy, and fulfilled without a man, or risk ending up with one like this. I’m so glad a man is commenting on what it means to be a woman because he clearly knows better than I, an actual woman	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/21 06:45 PM
9	LV partners who ask to see us in VERY specific lingerie Totally! I would love a surprise “because it’s Friday” gift lol. In general, if you’re sleeping with someone who treats you like their own personal porn star, GET OUT. If you’re with someone who respects you and takes time to make sure your comfortable and receiving pleasure, then getting a gift of lingerie from them takes on a completely different tone. I can’t imagine a guy like that giving his woman lingerie as a main gift for a major holiday. Just doesn’t add up… But I could be wrong/naive o…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/11/21 05:07 PM
29	LV partners who ask to see us in VERY specific lingerie Yeah, I agree. I mean, buying lingerie to surprise a man on his birthday seems reasonable…but the moment a man asks me to buy lingerie “just because” I’m out. And I would never accept lingerie as a birthday present, but I would accept it as a random surprise gift from my husband. I like the idea of my man being intentional about keeping things fresh and sexy, and I love how I look in lingerie - don’t we all!? So for me it’s all about context.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/11/21 03:23 PM
5	Being tested. How to stay strong? I’m with you! I have been doing the same and it’s hard. I’m trusting that good things really do take time and you and I and anyone else experiencing this will find their tribe eventually. We may just need to journey alone (or mostly alone) for a bit :/	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/21 10:32 PM
14	Spotted in another thread. She needs FDS! Amen.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/11/21 04:08 AM
551	Stop having sex with men who can’t master vanilla. I agree with this. Also, from my experience, when you wait a bit to have sex you tend to weed out the “depraved” porn-sick dudes and are left with guys who actually want to date you. And these guys actually want to make sure you have a good experience in bed with them…because they’re invested in the future. My boyfriend (who I met after following FDS principles!) waited as long as I wanted to have sex, and then when we did, he told me the first time might not be great because he wanted to go slo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/11/21 04:08 PM
61	A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit. This is so true. Back in my early 20s I dated this trust fund LVM who spared no expense taking me out. Our dates were at the nicest restaurants and he’d order the nicest wine and always wore the nicest clothes… he even sent me a designer dress before one of our dates - I felt like I was in a movie… He kept this up for several weeks, but when it came time to talk about exclusivity he said “it seems like my bandwidth for a relationship isn’t conducive to what your looking for right now” …my young,…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/07/21 06:27 PM
131	A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit. AMEN. I wholeheartedly believe that a man who won’t take you out to dinner on a first date either A. has money problems and can’t afford to date, or B. is only interested in vetting your openness to having sex with him. I’ve now learned that asking for dinner is the easiest way to vet a man and reduce my chances of wasting time on a scrote. ITS NOT US ITS THEM, LADIES!! 🤍🤍🤍	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/07/21 06:17 PM
8	PSA to HVW: You do NOT have to engage or argue with angry scrotes or LVM This is such a great post!!! I agree wholeheartedly and copied/pasted that last line into my notes app as a reminder the next time some LVM pisses me off 🤍	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/07/21 06:10 PM
1	This idea that it’s only men who “pump-and-dump” women only applies to women below a certain looks threshold. Yes, I think that’s partially correct (especially if the date involves heavy drinking), except I think these women showed up to the date looking for a partner and most “pump-n-dump” men do not. I also think women sometimes wonder if sex will help them feel more interested in someone. Probably a hard concept for men to grasp, since from what I’ve heard from my male friends, having sex usually makes you lose interest in a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/21 10:31 PM
1	Does making one wait for sex actually help anyone? If yes, then how long? Watch the Oprah interview with Devon Franklin and Meagan Good talk about why they chose celibacy until marriage - very good talking points regardless if you agree with their decision https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cm3GB7HC7Gs	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/21 10:04 PM
2	Women cheating is way worse than men cheating Agreed. It’s equally shameful for both parties to cheat. If a man cheats on his wife, that’s blatant disrespect and a breaking of a vow (his word). To me, that man threw away his value and integrity (and chose to) and I will be moving right along, without him. I would expect my man to do the same if he caught me in an emotional or physical affair with another man. Cheating is a matter of self-control and respect for yourself, your partner, and your relationship, PERIOD.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/21 10:01 PM
2	Q4W - How does it feel that everything about you is sexualised? A lot of things…but the worst is that you can feel like you never actually “earned” the things you worked for and received. As a woman, anytime I actually get the thing I worked my ass off for, I can’t help but wonder if it’s because of my attractiveness/sexuality/a man wanting something in return. If you’re an attractive woman, things will happen that way enough times to really mess with your head…. And if you don’t keep your perceptions in check, such irrational fears can destroy your self-est…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/21 09:03 PM
1	This idea that it’s only men who “pump-and-dump” women only applies to women below a certain looks threshold. Not to be rude, but it sounds to me like these 8/10’s who didn’t want to date you after sex probably had their sights set on more attractive/high status men and your dating profile made you out to be a higher number (1-10). Maybe after meeting you they were still giving you an honest shot, but the chemistry never came. I have a lot of beautiful girl friends (I work as a model and so do they) and this is 80-90% of their dating app experiences. That’s why I don’t use apps. The guys are never as at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/21 08:53 PM
23	The only reason women are happier while single than men is because they get validation and sex much easier I have no tinder and no Instagram. I am a single woman in my late-20s. I am happy because I don’t have men making comments about my looks. body, or asking me perverse questions over the internet. I am happy because I wake up and get to read and write, uninterrupted, before work. I am happy because I choose to do yoga, play sports, and meditate regularly. I am happy because I have amazing friends who drink wine with me, watch movies with me, tag along to live comedy and theatre shows. I am happy …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/21 08:38 PM
8	Your Friends Are Not Free Therapists I’ve been dealing with this non-stop lately… I’m so exhausted by all the texts, I actually turned off notifications for a few friends… Then, interestingly enough, I was working at a coffee shop about a week ago and two 20-something girls sat down at the table next to me. One was dressed very elegantly and looked incredible. The other was dressed trendy and looked sloppy in comparison. Anyway, the trendy girl sits down and says “so [Scrote] and I broke up today.” The elegant girl sits down and sa…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 01:23 AM
5	My (26f) ex (m26) was low effort which resulted in me being very distant and him leaving me. However, I keep having this guilty feeling about it. I used to feel guilty about guys who lacked a lot of money (recent college grads or grad students, for example) spending money on dates with me - especially when I was still deciding if I liked them…but now I stand firm in the belief that men should NEVER ask a woman on a date if they cannot afford to date correctly. If we as women allow broke men to go on dates with us, these men will lose the motivation they need to become successful, and many will flounder in their careers. For me (still in m…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 06:58 PM
2	Women just need to lower their standards 🙄 LOL. WHAT A JOKE! Over the course of 5 years spent on the apps I never went out with even 1 guy remotely close to being “in my league.” I had dates with guys of all races, all backgrounds, all levels of success (from flat broke to multimillionaire)….and ALL were LVM. Did not matter if they were 6’5 with abs or 5’7 and beginning to bald - not a single one was HV. Even the ones who desperately wanted to date me failed to display any sort of value they could add to my life. Soooo glad to be off the…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 12:34 AM
3	The show Sex/Life is full of societal misconceptions I was about to say, this sounds like some person’s sad life story turned into a movie so they can feel better about and/or try to redeem their poor life choices… All the while, leading young, impressionable girls astray… PASS.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 12:15 AM
64	Thankyou This sub is the only thing I check on Reddit anymore 😂 life changing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/06/21 12:34 AM
49	Your standards are never low enough for a LVM Omg all of these drive me insane. Seeing a woman in a super cute outfit, just living her life, is one of my favorite things. I always dish them compliments, because truly, not enough women put in the effort anymore… Keep doing your thing xx.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/06/21 12:32 AM