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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Waiting until marriage? Have you found one?	/r/RPChristians	30/07/22 10:21 PM
3	A little bit more lighthearted post I went from an old lumpy King bed to a nice new Queen bed. I sleep all over it. I so love the extra room on the bed as well as the extra space, in the room, from the bed being smaller.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/21 07:09 AM
1	ED or insensitive pp? Just so you know you need much more than just T levels checked. Check out the testosterone sub Reddit, they have a wiki with the recommended needed tests. My tests ran around $120.	/r/askTRP	05/01/21 01:45 PM
1	ED or insensitive pp? I’ve had very similar experience but am older. It started in the last 3-4 years. I’ve gone on TRT last year and a half, take 5mg Cialis 5-6 days a week and it still isn’t resolved. I don’t drink very often, my sleep isn’t very good, fitness and diet are pretty good. 30% of the time I am rock hard almost the whole session, 60-120 minutes. But find it incredibly hard to cum, hence the long sessions. The girls don’t seem to mind since I do other things besides just fuck them. But it is annoying not…	/r/askTRP	04/01/21 06:33 AM
1	Need help What are you doing to work on and improve yourself?	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/20 07:14 PM
2	Ex wife had a child less than a year after divorce I know you have someone new now... but have you ever considered being on your own, to work on yourself for a year or two? Also what many others said is true, you should be so thankful you don’t have a child w your Ex. You are young, you can still have kids with someone that actually loves you a mentally stable. Side note: your Ex sounds like she has BPD. Check out /BPDLovedones.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/20 05:58 AM
3	Seeking help Another vote for no to marriage. Dating absolutely, maybe a LTR but no to marriage.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/20 09:34 PM
3	This is a good thing right? Are you getting the gear through your coach or on your own?	/r/askMRP	09/10/20 08:14 PM
1	Waiting until marriage? You obvs like to talk about your prophecies. :) The Bible warned me way, whether about this or many other things, before you and your “prophecies” did.	/r/RPChristians	09/10/20 02:38 PM
1	Waiting until marriage? Because if the information in them is true... if. But they aren’t. The Bible warns about listening to false prophets who speak as though their oracles were given to them by God. Jeremiah 23:32 says, “Indeed, I am against those who prophesy false dreams,’ declares the Lord. They tell them and lead my people astray with their reckless lies, yet I did not send or appoint them. They do not benefit these people in the least.” To prophesy is simply to speak prophecy. Prophecy at its most basic definit…	/r/RPChristians	09/10/20 08:02 AM
1	Waiting until marriage? No thanks, not interested in some prophecies that aren’t in the Bible. But thanks for reminding me of Matthew 7:21.	/r/RPChristians	09/10/20 06:30 AM
1	Waiting until marriage? So someone who is a Christian would end up in The Valley of Fornicators?	/r/RPChristians	09/10/20 06:00 AM
1	Waiting until marriage? It’s all good, wish you the best!	/r/RPChristians	07/10/20 06:31 PM
1	Waiting until marriage? Eh, I guess I shouldn’t have used the words “exact same”. Maybe instead, very similar... still not worth the risk to me. Even though I followed most if not all of the advice and Bible recommendations in seeking out a wife. She hid a lot of stuff. I won’t get in to it it turned into such a soap opera. I am not sure that I see the “blessings” as outweighing the risks. Even in the good marriages that know of. I am happy for you, that your wife’s love for you is immeasurable. With God all things are…	/r/RPChristians	06/10/20 03:08 AM
9	Why do I still hold appearance so highly in my partner consideration? Why is wanting to be physically attracted to your spouse dangerous? Personally I think that mentality is pretty foolish. It is one of the things to consider, physical attraction. It shouldn’t be the only thing of course. But thinking that wanting to be physically attracted as being “dangerous”, just wow where do you get that from?	/r/RPChristians	04/10/20 03:56 PM
1	How to move forward on deadlift grip strength issues Farmer’s walks. Grippers (not the cheap plastic ones. You can get some serious ones from Amazon, sorry can’t remember the brand names atm. Captains of Crush or something). Dead hangs, just hanging from a pull up bar.	/r/askMRP	04/10/20 01:39 PM
2	Waiting until marriage? Just because you are married doesn’t mean your spouse won’t cheat, thereby potentially bringing in STDs. Marriage doesn’t always last, so yeah there is the heartbreak. Also, go visit deadbedrooms, not exclusive to non-Christians. Just because two people are Christians and say they want to make all the areas of their marriage work doesn’t mean they truly are doing what needs to be done. Being married doesn’t guarantee sex, so more potential heartbreak. Married people say they want or don’t want k…	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 03:50 PM
2	Waiting until marriage? Appreciate the consideration and especially your explanation. I fully encourage boys/men to wait until marriage to have sex, and not to follow what I am doing. Several of my other comments here will bear that out. I just wanted to share that even though doing the right thing, there is no guarantee it will work out the way we might want it to.	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 02:32 PM
6	Waiting until marriage? Cool. So 1 out of how many other girls that you have met? I am not saying they aren’t out there. I am saying they aren’t prevalent where one can just decide to pick out a virgin from the virgin store. Also, that virgin is no longer a virgin because of you...	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 01:54 PM
2	Waiting until marriage? !remindme 365 days I will check back once a year to see if and when you have found one. ;) I am not holding my breath and I don’t even know how old you are and what age range you are looking in and I am still willing to say that.	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 12:51 PM
4	"In any kind of relationship, never give out information unless you have to" is this true? Pb? Peanut Butter? Personal best? Also, just because you spelled it incorrectly twice, “esteem”, instead of “estime”. :) I hope you are doing better man.	/r/askTRP	02/10/20 12:12 PM
9	Waiting until marriage? Right. He will just pick one of those virgins off the ever full Virgin Tree.	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 12:08 PM
1	Post-Divorce Reports By category during marriage, during divorce (lasted about 9 months) and now 2 yrs after divorce, ranked 1-10: Mentally: 3/6/8 (3 is based on last couple yes where she had just worn me down) Physically: 7/8/8.5 Financially: 4/6/7.5 (I didn’t own our finances, my mistake. She spent more then we both made) Spiritually: 6/8/7 (drop is due to leaving the church I had been at and starting search for a new one. Devotions, prayer life is going alright) Sex: 3/0/7.5 Friendships: 4/9/8.5 Family: 6/9/9 Rel…	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 05:24 AM
7	Waiting until marriage? Man, do not let me discourage you but this is exactly what happened in my marriage, your second paragraph. If your eventual wife is not a virgin you need to have strong frame and make it consistently known (IF she was to ever bring it up) that you chose to remain a virgin because God tells us to. Not because you couldn’t find anyone to take pity on you and have sex with you. Praying that you find positive outlets and also find a good wife.	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 04:06 AM
2	Waiting until marriage? You aren’t alone. Hundreds of thousands, possibly millions have dealt with what you are dealing with. Just be sure to vet the woman that you find, do not rush it, vet vet vet! Granted even then there is no guarantee but praying that you find a good one.	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 03:57 AM
-10	Waiting until marriage? “Second, premarital sex opens the door to heartache, unplanned pregnancy, STDs, etc...” Huh, oddly enough sex during marriage can lead to the same exact things. Good for you, to wait until you get married the next time to have sex just like you waited to have sex until you were married for your first marriage. :) Edited to add: Heh, just downvotes no rebuttals.	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 03:55 AM
-6	Waiting until marriage? I replied to someone else in the comments. I will just cut and paste it... I was a virgin, by choice, when I got married. I had many chances to have sex with quite a few girls before my marriage, I chose not to because “God said not to” and “saving it for marriage.” And I can unequivocally say it wasn’t worth it, saving it. Did I do what God said, yeah. Did it do any good for either of us? No. In fact I think it harmed me overall. But hey, I obeyed God and got married a virgin. In fact, I would …	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 03:43 AM
-4	Waiting until marriage? I was a virgin, by choice, when I got married. I had many chances to have sex with quite a few girls before my marriage, I chose not to because “God said not to” and “saving it for marriage.” And I can unequivocally say it wasn’t worth it, saving it. Did I do what God said, yeah. Did it do any good for either of us? No. In fact I think it harmed me overall. But hey, I obeyed God and got married a virgin. In fact, I would bet money that if I had sex with a few of those girls before being married …	/r/RPChristians	02/10/20 03:37 AM
3	[Research] Participants recruitment! Hrmmm, why would you also post this in “niceguys” subreddits? While I enjoy research studies normally I would personally decline since I feel the system is mostly stacked against men and I don’t know how this research would be used exactly. But best of luck to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/20 03:10 AM
1	Vent: I left the men's bible study at my church because the men constantly complained about their marriages You berate your nephew? How about trying to help him focus on the positives you want him to see?	/r/RPChristians	28/09/20 02:49 AM
2	Vent: I left the men's bible study at my church because the men constantly complained about their marriages I think you are missing his point... Just because you get married, doesn’t guarantee sex. If your wife refuses sex, well you have to still remain chaste.many wives refuse sex some of the time or even all of the time. Or the sex is barely that, it is duty sex. Go check out deadbedrooms. Married doesn’t mean you will get sex much mess good and passionate sex.	/r/RPChristians	28/09/20 02:47 AM
5	Need advice please... My GF told me SHE divorced her husband because he was abusive. Looked up the proceedings; turns out HE was the petitioner. The last document filed was a Request - Dismissal. Is she a pathological liar who's still married? Man, Please be careful. It has happened too many times for me to ignore, hearing a lady’s story about an abusive Ex (husband) and things just not adding up. And/or then hearing the other side of the story through their mutual friends and it strongly contradicting her story. And realizing she basically lied to me. Just go slow and keep track of contradictions / look out for red flags.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/09/20 01:25 AM
16	SO FUCKING LOST Here is what I did and highly recommend to other guys going through divorce to start doing (these are just basics). Lift, heavy weights. If you don’t have access to heavy weights, then body weight exercises and cardio. The idea is you physically exhaust your body, which increases good chemicals in your brain. It will make you look better too, which helps with self-confidence. This can help w feelings of anger too. Start and do BJJ, Muay Thai and/or Boxing 3-6x a week. This will help you mentally…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/09/20 03:28 AM
1	Realizations I’m just giving you a hard time. That is great you’d found something that connected you like that w/ new friends and helped you progress. Golf is fun, I just find it too frustrating because I am not willing to put the time in that I need to to get past the level I am at. So, I instead do BJJ and shoot stuff. :D	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/20 05:44 AM
2	Realizations And be sure to give yourself “grace”, not every day will be moving forward improving yourself. You will have days that are tougher or even bad. Still workout, still read some of those books. Don’t beat yourself up. Get back at it the next day.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/20 04:20 AM
1	Realizations If you wrestled for more then a season you know what getting back into shape takes, so that is good. You will have a little bit of an advantage starting BJJ w/ a wrestling background. At least against white belts. Heh, golfing... a nice shooting range ruined by little white balls. ;P	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/20 04:16 AM
2	Realizations Good to hear man. It is a journey, even a marathon. Take it one day at a time, pick a couple things to work on and focus to make some progress. After a week or two add something else from the above. Keep adding and making progress. Focus on yourself and your kids. Ignore the Ex, she is no longer who you thought she was. For the sleep, work out hard. Wear yourself out. Of course, don’t over do it and injure yourself. But you want your body to be spent come bedtime. Sleep comes much much easier wh…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/20 04:05 AM
2	Realizations Well I first started sharing that info pre-COVID. Many gyms are still closed, some are not. But even if you can’t do BJJ one can do plenty of the other things.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/20 04:02 AM
4	Realizations Man, I feel for you and while it was a mistake going to dinner w her, you love and learn. Just as long as you do learn. As for her encouraging you to date, she is doing that to make herself not feel so guilty. Stop telling her what you are doing or will be doing. She isn’t your wife (soon enough) and she definitely is not your friend. Here is what I did and highly recommend to other guys going through divorce to start doing (these are just basics). Lift, heavy weights. If you don’t have access t…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/20 02:30 AM
5	Let your AP know you have COVID? “Partners” don’t have affairs and leave and go no contact for a year. Dude, either you are a troll or dense.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/08/20 07:10 AM
0	Let your AP know you have COVID? Mmmmkay? Dude, she had an affair and you believe her about her dad? You are focusing on the wrong stuff. She doesn’t care about you. She won’t care that you have COVID. You need to move on. Also I hope you are not sharing the OneNote w financial password info with her. Otherwise you may find yourself out of a lot of money if she decides to play how women typically play during divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/08/20 07:10 AM
0	Single Mom - Obsessive Medical Visits Yes, very similar. My Ex is undiagnosed but shows 7 of the criteria for BPD. She is a hypochondriac for herself and the kids. Multiple therapists that last for a few months and then on to a new one. They are on therapist 6, over the last 2 years. Just a week ago she said she is getting the kids a new doctor. In all of these she is always wanting the kids on new medications and pushes until she gets a new dose or an actual new medication. I’ve asked her to please discuss w/ me first but she doesn…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/08/20 06:42 AM
1	I've been married for one month. The sex stopped 2 weeks in. Most posts are from men who were married for years. How to address this critical Issue so early? (initially posted in MRP) Soooo, when are you proposing to your mailman? :D	/r/askMRP	25/08/20 05:25 PM
0	I've been married for one month. The sex stopped 2 weeks in. Most posts are from men who were married for years. How to address this critical Issue so early? (initially posted in MRP) Aaaand you still haven’t answered if she is a Christian. ;)	/r/askMRP	25/08/20 03:42 PM
1	I've been married for one month. The sex stopped 2 weeks in. Most posts are from men who were married for years. How to address this critical so early? Yay, you are a Christian. Is she?!?! You keep leaving that out in several of your replies.	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/08/20 05:27 AM
15	I've been married for one month. The sex stopped 2 weeks in. Most posts are from men who were married for years. How to address this critical Issue so early? (initially posted in MRP) You are a practicing Christian but is she? Something big is missing from your story. Not saying you left something out but something is definitely missing for her to flip so quickly. Also the timeline is a bit weird... how long have you known her? How long did you date? How long were you engaged? Anything else that is odd or out of the ordinary from her end since you’ve been married? My Ex, w undiagnosed mental illness (BPD), used that line on me. But that was after 15+ years of marriage.	/r/askMRP	25/08/20 05:26 AM
1	I get 20% time with my kids-what do I talk about when I call them? Ah thanks!	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/20 04:05 AM
4	Girl I simped for in university wants to visit me and hang out on my sailboat. Yay or nay? No.	/r/askTRP	25/08/20 03:24 AM
6	I get 20% time with my kids-what do I talk about when I call them? Keep it short. You should be ending it before they do. Tell them something funny or exciting that happened to you since you last talked to them. Nothing funny or exciting happened to you? Then make something happen. Live an exciting life. At least learn some corny jokes to tell them. Tell them you are always ready for new and better material so you would be more then glad to accept any really funny jokes they can share with you. And again start off aiming for 1-2 minutes of talk IF THAT. Over ti…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/20 03:16 AM
1	I get 20% time with my kids-what do I talk about when I call them? WWWHW?	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/20 02:58 AM
11	Seeking men advice during a separation - Cheating wife - Ontario Canada DO NOT TALK TO HER about what you know until you have spoken to a lawyer! You need to be aware of laws in your area related to recording conversations. There could be legal ramifications for you if it is illegal. Talk to a lawyer now. Get a few free consultations, use them and ask questions.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/20 02:50 AM
3	Never ending battles I wasn’t aware this was a thing, that the Ex could go back and request “did he pay me enough?” I have paid my Ex what was required but I know she would do the exact same thing if she is aware of it. What a pain! I would prefer to support my kids directly and not through her as I know she spends a lot of the money for things just for her and her boyfriend.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/06/20 02:26 PM
3	Mediation advice Wow, your Ex sounds like mine with the dumping of the lawyer and outright refusal. Good luck and hang in there.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/20 04:44 AM
1	Mediation advice Man, I hope you are not truly Brokebyher. Hang in there! You have given some really great advice to the OP, in creating bargaining chips! And it is so true, try to find something, anything, at least 1-2 things that you can use to “give up”, they will be so useful in your negotiations.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/20 04:41 AM
6	Wife wants me back, should I consider? No. Reasons: her getting a PPO against you, possibly coaching son to lie about you it sounds like, her “friend”, she makes a lot more then you but would not agree to providing you some support, her not agreeing to 50/50 custody. Her statement about therapy but only for you since you are the “angry” one - she is pushing her narrative. The whole back and forth thing, I am all for giving someone a second chance but not if they have gone too far. With the PPO, that would be enough for me to not give…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/05/20 04:06 AM
24	How do I stop being a nice guy? I would recommend reading a few books, they helped me to find a better balance in being genuinely kind vs too nice (a push-over). No More Mr. Nice Guy Wild at Heart The Rational Male	/r/RPChristians	26/05/20 08:34 PM
36	How to stop being lazy/unmotivated/unfocused. So much this! For a workout, I tell myself just do one lift, 3 sets, 8 reps and you can quit. As soon as I hit that third set the endorphins kick in and I want to lift more. Going for a run? Just go a half of a mile, you won’t even break a sweat and then you can quit. By the time I hit a half a mile, I am ready to go another half and another and another... When I have some work project, I tell myself, just work on it 15 minutes then you can quit... by the time I am 10 minutes into it I lose trac…	/r/TheRedPill	25/05/20 07:02 AM
1	A tip for opening people which you don't know well [kind of FR] That was a great interaction!	/r/seduction	04/10/10 10:33 PM
1	What in the name of Seddit is this, "shit test," all about? Excellent analogy!	/r/seduction	06/09/10 04:33 AM