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Can't know for sure, they give each other a lot of freedom, and she got quite big and poured a lot of her energy into raising the kids - so probably not if I'd have to guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:11 PM
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When my friend started dating his now-wife I reacted when we were at a bar downtown and another of her male friends had her on his lap and they were kind of hugging/cuddling. I thought it was weird and mentioned it to my friend later, but he said he didn't care. They've been married for a decade plus now so I dunno. Anyway, not something I would put up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:58 PM
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I mean, normally I'd appreciate someone who's emotionally guarded because you'd think it means she doesn't let just anyone close - but actually it means she let a lot of people close really quickly and got hurt, and now you're the guy getting the baggage dumped on you.
/r/seduction20/08/25 01:55 AM
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Maybe. Although it adds to the fear of prenups being thrown out in court. It's probably better to not get married, but marriage is a nice institution in concept... and a lot of jurisdictions will count you as basically married anyway if you cohabitate.
/r/MensRights01/08/25 11:40 AM
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hoe_math explains this pretty well, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 01:56 PM
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Feel ya, bro. These fleeting connections in our past just make you very pessimistic about the possibility of creating a strong bond with anyone new.
/r/seduction02/07/25 12:10 PM
1

If women didn't use filters and make-up to artificially increase their sexual value then the playing field would probably be more even. The amount of effort men need to go through to up their sexual value is magnitudes higher, though. Going to the gym and gaining money/status. Much harder than applying some makeup, so I guess the discrepancy is understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 08:49 PM
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I mean, it's really about pros and cons in the end. Snuggling on the couch and watching a good show together can be a really nice, loving secure feeling, and then you have to weigh it against the occasional emotional outbursts and fights. Just examples, but when the negatives start to outweigh the positives is when you start reevaluating the relationship.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 08:28 PM
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For sure, but you have to realize a lot of people in the dating market now have been told from a young age that looks and status didn't matter as much as a "kind heart". The betrayal isn't the ruthless reality of the situation, but the lie we were told about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 06:40 PM
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I mean, a Western man can give up his job in many cases, and live the "van lifestyle" in South East Asia and still keep his dating prospects. It just doesn't work in the west all that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 01:49 PM
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Women are more collectivist on average and prone to go with the flow. If the flow becomes man-hating then we're all in for a bad time.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 12:30 PM
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Isn't the mother also deeply involved in arranging marriages in the cultures that do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:03 PM
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Surprised to see Meshida here. Upvote. But he's not everyone's cup of tea. My Japanese ex really didn't like him
/r/MensRights19/05/25 02:18 PM
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For every guy with your experience there are 10 guys with the opposite. Night clubs are even less ideal for the average dude, but I guess it might be different if you are trying to pick up other dudes. But in that case, Grindr probably outperforms the clubs anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:55 PM
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Your worth in the eyes of most other men is going down, while the men's worth barely changes, so that's where the "being used" comes into the picture, even if you enjoyed it yourself, because it's an uneven transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:46 PM
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Yeah, it's similar in Sweden. Saw this lawyer talking about this on youtube. Although he did mention that to make it a clear-cut conviction she should call a friend or two after the alleged rape, and these friends could be witnesses against the man. Easy way to make $12k
/r/MensRights10/05/25 09:39 AM
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I'm fairly sure that the vast majority of men understand that very well. I'm more surprised that so many women don't seem to understand it. I don't usually bring up woman privilege on the apps when I'm on dates because it's super cringe, but I've done it some times and been met with confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 07:07 PM
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To think that 30% of married men would be open to an open marriage... that statistic is crazy to me. I'm not sure I can believe it out of hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 11:26 PM
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I don't think this is the fault of non-western men. Sexually liberated women have just taken it a step too far for the tastes of western men so the pendulum has started swinging in the opposite direction. "Oh, he doesn't like my threesome idea with another guy, he must be controlling and insecure", "Oh what if I had wild sex with 10 guys on my last vacation - that's none of his business". I guess even western men have a limit somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 11:14 PM
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In the same vein it's always annoying to read feminists and women-centric forums claim that it's easier for older men to date younger women. I feel like bonking my head against the wall every time I read the comment "He couldn't get a woman his own age". Jeez, the reality is just that in general it's more difficult to get interest from younger women, for most older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:41 AM
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Because women can extract resources/ time from platonic male friends, men can't/ won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:25 PM
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I mean, I agree in theory, but I was in a situation recently where everything was going really well and the last time we met she was like putty in my hands and looking up at me with dog eyes. And then after, difficulties trying to schedule the next date. Matched her energy. Gave up, and many weeks later, no further word. Sometimes you just don't know what's up with some girls, and the hard pill to swallow is that you'll probably never know for sure. Since she was quite passive, and agreeable to …
/r/seduction25/03/25 11:37 PM
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It's easy to reason like you, because there are a lot of less attractive, or dare I say 'average' men, who are also assholes/abusive, but I'm just pointing out the dynamic that more attractive men will always have that upper hand to act as they please because the next girl is around the corner. An average guy won't have that so chances are higher that he will value the relationship more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:00 PM
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I'm not sure what's difficult to understand. The most attractive guys on the dating market that are still available are mostly going to be players who aren't too concerned with being gentlemen, because they already have several girls in their rotation and can drop you without issue if it comes to that. The point of this line of argument is that an average guy will value you more because he's not bombarded with female attention every day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:47 PM
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Pretty big disconnect between words and reality. I'm still surprised, and to be honest a bit put off, when women I date express a desire for degrading sex. Where's my vanilla girl who wants to make love instead of being degraded in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:18 AM
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This is kinda a double-edged sword. If you internalize that she turned you down because she didn't vibe with your natural personality, then it can be easier to dismiss it and go for the next one ("it is what it is"/IDGAF attitude). If you take from the interaction that she didn't vibe because of your approach, or "offer", then you can start hyper focusing on game, tricks and presentation - and that has its own issues, the largest of which I think is that it makes you feel inauthentic and ending …
/r/seduction01/02/25 01:31 PM
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Yeah, I agree - but when she doesn't give any signs that's the best route to go.
/r/seduction12/01/25 07:36 AM
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Some girls hide their responses really well. The other night I tried the ol' arm on the couch behind her, sitting close, trying to get closer physically. But zero feedback. But since she had invited me to her apartment for the first time before even meeting outside I knew what was up. So after initially talking for an hour or so I just asked her "Can I kiss you?" and she said yes, and then it was off to the races.
/r/seduction11/01/25 10:29 PM
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I mean, it's hard to speak out against this since everyone hates pedos but surprisingly there seems to be a growing dislike for Dumpen even among regular Swedes. I'm not sure if it makes a difference, but I wonder how many guys they catch that are not actually seeking out children, but just starved for pussy and will take anything that's thrown at them. In the chats I've seen they reveal their (fake) age a bit later in the conversation. Anyway, I wonder why these guys that commit suicide don't j…
/r/MensRights09/01/25 11:34 PM
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The worst part about this prevailing culture is that as the number of partners that are "wonderful" in men's minds decrease, they will settle for what they can get and they will never be as happy in the relationship as they could've been, which will lead to resentment, reduced commitment, fights and in some cases divorce. Bad situation for everyone involved.
/r/MensRights06/01/25 10:27 PM
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If I believe what I read on reddit, a woman matures at the age of 25 and in such cases it's more difficult for the posters to pin all the blame on the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:03 AM
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Haha, I read that thread today. It looks like a troll thread to bring out the hypocrisy of TwoX, but in either case it was entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 03:00 PM
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Yeah, it seems kinda weird. I went to Korea this year and got a lot of dates with Korean women. Tried to talk about the gender divide in Korea but I don't think they were very forthcoming with what they actually thought. The Korean guys seemed allright to me.
/r/MensRights09/11/24 11:48 AM
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You're probably putting a US-centric spin on your view, but in my friend's case that wasn't so. The girl was much more experienced and confident than he was. Anyway, I think I remember your username - you're like a celebrity around these parts so thanks for the reply. 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:04 PM
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Agreed. Tired of the top voted comments in age gap posts being about how the guy is using her. Poor little princess is being manipulated by a devious older man. Yeah right, reality often does not match up with that. Every relationship is different. My friend got into a relationship with a much younger girl and she had the upper hand the entire time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:31 PM
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Wish it weren't so, brother. Nothing I'd like more than chill on the couch with a girl watching anime together. Went on a couple dates with an anime interested Japanese girl recently. Hope it pans out. Pray for me.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 12:35 PM
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Women do put effort into being appealling to men. I mean, I think a lot of the gripes guys have are with women who don't put so much effort into being appealing but still curb the average guy. Seems like the ideal situation would be for two average people getting together, and it still happens of course, but seems to be skewing more and more in recent years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:05 PM
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I guess they want to have someone tell them what to think and feel, and they also want someone to tell men the "right" thing to think and feel. Men, on average, are more into solving their own problems before going to someone else.
/r/MensRights20/10/24 05:54 PM
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Sounds like you're devaluing social skills to be only about shallow flirty conversations. They are also about having deep conversations and creating an emotional bond. I've met many people who can't express themselves coherently, in a fluid manner. It's a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:33 PM
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The market is skewed. Just look at the popularity of dumping your dineros into OnlyFans just to get a sliver of a connection. Low-value men are cooked. Look at the popularity of vtubers, anime waifus and AI girlfriends. They have the pro of seeming pure and innocent. Men want innocence. Women have unbridled access to sex through dating apps and in our current society they go for it. That, in turn, lowers their value even in the average man's eyes. So he doesn't think most women are worth pursuin…
/r/seduction13/10/24 09:31 PM
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I guess I agree with most of what you're saying, but I think the reason people have disdain for the dating apps is because a lot don't meet the minimum attractiveness requirement to get good dates through the apps. At least that's what I've gathered. Personally I had a pretty good time on the apps, so I'm in your court - but you also have to take into consideration that the introverted stable guy might want the same connection an energetic sociable guy gets. Suspecting the girl is only intereste…
/r/seduction10/10/24 07:39 PM
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What? No one, except maybe a few weirdos, "hate" sluts. They are just delegated to the pump and dump category.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:34 PM
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This is what's good about partnering up early. The image of your partner as how he/she looked when you met will always be in your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:39 AM
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True, but maybe not a good choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:45 PM
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"Why not choose this, why not choose that?" This thinking comes from a privileged position. Often men don't have a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:35 AM
1

I haven't seen an in-person cold-approach in my entire life, and I'm pretty old. Maybe the US is another world.
/r/seduction20/09/24 12:54 PM
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Women can't really tell, and the horny virgin guys are mostly chronic masturbators so they won't come after 3 humps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:59 AM
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I think unless you meet IRL all online communication is fake. You can have rizz text game, but in the end nothing beats IRL. I mean, I think the same way - nothing is real until you meet the person. Can't expect someone to be interested for real until you meet. That means, that you might be a really cool guy, and if you met up it would be a whole different story. It means that she doesn't form an emotional connection from your pics on Tinder or some witty text banter. Soooo, conclusion: meet up …
/r/seduction19/09/24 10:35 PM
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YEEES! I fuuuuucking hate it when the first or second most upvoted comment on all these age-gap posts is "oh hun, he's only dating you because no women his age would go for him". What the actual fuck; dating older is easier. Guys like young women, big surprise. It's not that they can't get with older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 05:49 PM
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I think you're out of touch with other women. A lot of women see sex as something they have to give for commitment, sadly. Anyway, in a guy's mind when a girl has shown she is not good enough for commitment he might as well keep having sex with her. It's not a punishment, it's just convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:26 PM
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The girls on dating apps are swamped with interest everywhere, but I've literally never seen a cold approach in my many decades of life. It depends on location if guys do cold approach. Maybe it's harsh to say but a girl picked up with cold approach, who is not on the apps, is much more valuable than a girl dated via the apps. That said, I agree with you that it's more convenient through the apps and that's what I did too.
/r/seduction12/09/24 05:30 PM
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Speaking of herbivore men and Japan. Love traveling to Japan. I guess my thoughts are that herbivore men are great because it creates a vacuum in the market ready to be filled.
/r/MensRights09/09/24 02:57 PM
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I can understand it. I was like that for some time too, but getting out there and meeting people can be pretty fun too, so I did that in limited quantities. If you're a more analytical type it can be fun to try to understand other people and how they work.
/r/MensRights09/09/24 01:37 PM
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Men have always been in competition with each other. That's evolutionary coded, so that forms our society to some degree. That said, I appreciate bros as much as the next guy.
/r/MensRights05/09/24 06:57 PM
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Korean feminists have a psychotic hatred of only Korean men, they never hate on non-Korean men. Korean women were very nice to me when I was in Korea.
/r/MensRights29/08/24 08:20 PM
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The Nordic model. Saw Sweden mentioned in the article. It's not illegal to sell sex over here, but it's illegal to buy. It probably reduces use of these services somewhat; normal dudes don't want to get caught by police and get this on their record (which is publicly accessible by anyone btw). However, I agree that the moral argument to have it this way is kind of bonkers. Also, an argument could be made that it puts prostitutes in more danger since they have to provide their services in the dar…
/r/MensRights26/08/24 11:24 PM
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Is this the incident from India? I was reading the TwoX thread and this comment stood out to me: Morgues also overwhelmingly prefer to hire women over men because almost all the men hired commit necrophilia. Jeez. What are they smoking over there.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 04:50 PM
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Sometimes you get into a small argument on reddit and you click on their profile and it's 95% comments hating on men in the feminist subreddits. Kinda scary that there're so many people like that. No use trying to convince the poster, but I guess others will see it.
/r/MensRights09/08/24 02:08 PM
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I dunno what men you're matching with on the apps, but I refuse to believe there aren't a big portion on there who'd jump at the chance. Maybe the top guys would consider it too much of a hassle and back out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:37 AM
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Thanks man. I'll check out some bro splits later. When I worked out some years ago with compound lifts it felt like my legs got too huge too fast in comparison to the upper body.
/r/seduction07/08/24 11:40 AM
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Avoiding the sun pays dividends later in life. You'll look young even in your 40s.
/r/seduction07/08/24 10:23 AM
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Family man who works 50+ hours a week but still wants to be ripped? There's a split for that. What split? I'm looking to get back in to it. :)
/r/seduction07/08/24 10:20 AM
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Reddit's insistence on disclosing specific ages in every relationship post is kind of infuriating. If you're dumb enough to seek advice on reddit, at least be smart enough to fudge the ages so you'll get a thread that doesn't only complain about an age difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:46 PM
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Men will fuck anything if they make it easy. Men will not fuck anything if they have to jump through hoops. It's not difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:34 PM
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We only live once so dedicating a year to getting into the best physical shape of your life and raising your confidence and status, and experiencing life from a different perspective is a pretty good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 11:00 AM
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As a Swede, based on my anecdotal evidence I'd say you are right. Even led to my first threesome. Some Finnish girls are really hungry and they certainly didn't want to stay to kiss and tell.
/r/seduction31/07/24 10:42 AM
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Yeah, I think if you didn't push for it then you can't really speak on it. Most thirsty girls still expect the guy to push a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:21 AM
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Sure. I think your extreme of pot-bellied 50+ is a bit extreme and not representative of the audience on this forum. Doubt there are many of those here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:29 PM
1

How about the shy skinny gamer boi type?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:43 PM
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Well my personal experience from Korea/Japan tells me it's easier to date there and I didn't meet anyone I would consider a gold digger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 08:17 AM
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I think you have to be top 1% attractive in order for women to notice you in public. I think it's the same for guys noticing girls, but maybe then it's more like top 5% attractive.
/r/seduction25/07/24 07:34 PM
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Most men in their 40s will consider a stable, but not attractive woman, a good match. As we get older our standards decrease (well, men's anyway, heard women's actually increase?). So just do what you can with gym, diet and skincare and it'll probably be good enough for most.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:41 AM
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Pearl Davis is a pretty bad example, I think. She's an average looking woman and could easily get an average dude, no matter how much people blast her online because of her public and controversial persona. The issue is probably that, like most women, she doesn't want an average dude - she wants a top dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:42 AM
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Some women regret not settling down and creating a family when they're older. Some women promote a culture of not settling down, traveling and having a lot of casual connections in the meanwhile. The pushback is against this culture, trying to show that the traditional way has merit too. In the end it's up to the individual, but it's probably healthy that's there an ongoing conversation about it since young people are naive, so the more viewpoints they're exposed to the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:05 AM
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I'm for no-fault divorce personally, but I think the people arguing against it are coming from some big picture thinking about what's best for society instead of the individual. I.e. if you remove incentives for divorce more people will stay together and that is desirable if you combine it with their belief that the nuclear family is better for a more stable society.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:06 PM
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Maybe the issue people see is that if a woman is autistic she usually doesn't face the same hardships dating. At least that's what I've heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:53 PM
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This is what I came here to comment. You won't go out of your way to woo a whale, but if she makes it easy she can have sex with almost anyone who's looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:53 PM
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It's virtue signaling. They don't have a principled stance, they just regurgitate the popular opinion to feel accepted by their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:59 PM
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Checked your wrist pic. Looks fat to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:53 PM
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Slovenia is a pretty based country and I agree with your assessment that most don't go out with the intention to get laid, but as someone else said, in that atmosphere there is a high potential that it will happen. So being uncomfortable that your SO is going out clubbing on the regular is not so weird in my opinion, even in Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 06:51 PM
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Since so many men have way fewer options than women, if they got more picky they'd get 0 relationships. I don't think they'd prefer that. There are lots of successful relationships where the man feels like they settled (maybe even because they have unrealistic expectations anyway), but it's just not something you say out loud even to friends (normally). You only notice the relationships that "turn to crap".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:04 AM
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Yep. I never went into a date with a mindset that it couldn't turn into something more, but I went into dates with the expectation that it would at least be practice. I think that's a good approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 01:35 PM
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No, dating at the same time as you are on your self-improvement journey is the ideal and most effective way. Dating is also a skill that has to be learned by many men, so doing both in parallel is best. Wasting years in monk mode seems detrimental.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 11:33 AM
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I had the same experience as you and I also wish that the good stepdads would get some more recognition. At the same time I feel sorry for them. They got a lot of extra responsibilities but no rights when it comes to the kids. They are expected to build a good relationship with the kids while at any moment they can be forced out of their lives forever. I think in a lot of cases it'd be better for them if they just stayed single instead of getting involved with (some) single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:37 AM
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I find it irritating that on every age gap post here on reddit one of the top comments is that the guy can't get any women his own age so that's why he's dating younger as if younger wouldn't be his preference anyway, and also -- I don't know if it's just my experience, but it's much harder to get a date with someone younger than someone your own age or older anyway as a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 01:29 AM
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That's surprising. A lot of gyms in sweden only have unisex and women only.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:20 AM
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Can also look at how much stupid shit men do when they're horny. Driving to an apartment in the bad part of town without speaking or meeting the "girl" first, getting scammed through dating sites. There's a lot of thinking with the small head that overrides common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 02:08 PM
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Call it "man's intuition" if you want. There hasn't been a mismatch between my initial impressions and what I learned after getting to know a girl for longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 01:57 PM
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A lot of posters on reddit have a tendency to treat women like children, i.e. zero accountability, when it suits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 10:10 PM
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Yeah, like it or not but romance is tightly coupled with perceived purity. Few men would like to spend weeks or months wooing a girl with flowers or other romantic gestures if the previous hundred dudes hit her up on Tinder and had her in their bed the same day, for example. Our idea of romanticism is still pretty similar to the one they had in noble circles in medieval times, but the purity/innocence part is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 08:54 AM
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The women who go to these lengths signal their availability to men, so it makes it easier for men to take the first step. Plain jane can signal her availability too by actions and words.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:21 PM
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Japan will lead the forefront in this societal change. Tons of men are giving up on dating and dabbling more in virtual gfs and hobbies. Some women even pay to talk to guys at host clubs. If people don't find partners and create families the economy will likely go into decline, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:58 AM
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The men who care won't usually state it as the reason that they don't want to get into a long-term relationship because they don't want to get accused of being "insecure", so the perception that it doesn't matter is maybe lower than reality. Online you can be anonymous and answer the question truthfully though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:02 AM
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In Sweden it's relatively easy to get convicted of rape compared to other places. Probably the reason why we're the rape capital of the world. Usually, in the rest of the world, a he-said-she-said scenario results in a not guilty verdict, but in Sweden it can turn into a guilty verdict. Watched a lawyer on YouTube who explained that if the woman told 2-3 friends that it was rape the day after (instead of consensual sex), and she and her friends were deemed credible, then the likelyhood of the gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:41 PM
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Yeah, and according to RP thinking the average guy was most likely settled for, for stability etc. He's not someone that she would lust for during her younger years when she was hooking up with the top 10%.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 10:23 PM
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My point is that these young people probably aren't as neurodivergent as they think. By putting themselves in that box they reinforce the idea that they have a big handicap. But like with all things humans do, if you change your behavior it will start coming naturally to you. I won't comment on seriously autistic people, though. That's rough. I'm only commenting on people who think they might be neurodivergent or are slightly neurodivergent and are blowing it out of proportion due to the cultura…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:59 AM
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Classifying yourself as neurodivergent seems to be hip among young folks nowadays; I would've probably done the same if the culture was as prevalent back then. But you need to realize it's just gonna hold you back. Let go of the labels and start faking it 'til you make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:24 AM
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Acting uninterested is good advice only for the top tier of men. As a regular dude you need to do the work.
/r/seduction11/08/23 11:47 AM
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C'mon, dude. Would you have listened to the advice in this post when you were young? Let the incels embark on the same journey as you did, but perhaps without the heavy drug use. That's the only way they will come to the same understanding. When you've had a lot of sex, it ain't shit, but when you've never had sex it means the world, and there's nothing wrong with that.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 11:54 AM
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I think you can shed a tear at a sad scene in a movie or series without repercussions as long as you don't turn into a hulking mess. I've done as much. You sit there stoically but a tear rolls down your eye, no big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:17 AM
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I'm Swedish and I believe the Swedish dating scene is at least as tough as some places in the US, so I'm not surprised by your negative results. It's not a specific anti-American bias. I've been to Singapore and Japan too. Even if the GDP is high, I believe a lot of matches can be attributed to the so called white worship. So basically I agree with you, but if you want to get her over to your country it's a hassle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:07 PM
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I think it'd be hard to find a woman who didn't date a toxic asshole at some point so this idea that only certain women seek them out is hard to swallow. Just look at how much purtportedly well-adjusted women complain about past toxic relationships even here on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 04:35 PM
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90% white people In the big cities in Sweden it's more like 50%. If you account for the younger slant of the demographic using Tinder, ethnic Swedes are probably in the minority. Also, it's not like Tinder is ez-mode if you're a tallish white guy in Sweden either. I wouldn't be surprised if women's standards were higher here compared to the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 07:49 PM
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It's funny how media is so up in arms over Tate. Almost makes you believe in the Matrix.
/r/MensRights05/06/23 09:56 PM
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Reddit for sure has many misandrist communities and I agree that reading their comments put more doubt in your mind than any redpill content would be able to. The uncomfortable part is you start thinking that women you meet IRL may harbor the same sentiments when they can post under the veil of anonymity online.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:20 PM
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I agree with OP, but I understand why the self-styled red pill macho gurus don't want to say this out loud in debates/podcasts. Makes them look weak. But I think it's mostly about the word itself. "Insecure"; it has a pretty bad ring to it. It conjures up an image of the guy being emotionally unstable. That is not necessarily the case though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:25 AM
1

The dynamic can be totally different for couples at home compared to when you meet them in a group setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 09:39 AM
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Your line "couple of thrusts" shows that you're too hung up on the actual act being the single defining factor. Both men and women usually value the entire circumstances and lead-up highly as well. The whole thing is exciting, not only the P in V.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:52 PM
1

Is this really the whole story? Didn't they admit to putting extra layers of security in place to protect some groups?
/r/MensRights05/04/23 04:28 PM
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This is what I assume almost all "solo traveling" girls do. Hosted a few myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:21 AM
1

Sure, but if people didn't enjoy complaining reddit wouldn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:05 PM
11

So tired of the everpresent "He couldn't get any women his own age" comment on age gap posts. Just read one of those and jeez; it's like people don't understand that it's more difficult to get a younger woman compared to one your own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 04:32 PM
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Agreed. This hookup culture is harming both men and women long term. I think the reason that it's still propagated is that most women who have the same experience as you don't want to admit they messed up. It's "too late" so better keep the facade up so as not to lose face.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:34 PM
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I think you have a point, because women in Western Europe need men to support them to a much lesser degree than in the rest of the world. They focus more on what the guy brings to the table in the form of looks, personality and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:56 PM
1

When I was young and a weeb I didn't "get it", either. You'll see eventually, probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:12 PM
1

Well, I think it is. Guess I forgot to mention that.
/r/MensRights13/09/22 08:47 PM
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You guys don't have this bias explicitly stated in the US? I'm in Europe and the official policy at IT companies, including mine, is to always hire women first. It is stated in the All-hands meetings and in the job listings themselves and no one thinks it's a bad thing.
/r/MensRights13/09/22 01:25 PM
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True. You only have to click on the posters of these advice comments' profiles to see other posts describing a litany of mental disorders to confirm this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 08:36 AM
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There is definitely a right way and wrong way to do this The right and wrong way is different for every girl; how are you supposed to know. Lots of people had success approaching and the gym and lots of people evoked ire when approaching in book stores and the like if you believe TwoXers.
/r/seduction26/08/22 09:05 AM
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Fat girls' standards are not significantly lower, which you seem to imply with your post. It's still not a walk in the park for an average, but slim, dude to get a foot in the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:53 AM
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Yeah, I didn't know that they were so heavy-handed with moderation over there. I also got banned. I mean, I knew I'd get banned immediately in a sub like TwoX but this surprised me a bit. I have the impression that it used to be freer, but maybe some powermod got hired recently.
/r/PussyPass06/07/22 10:59 AM
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She marked 10+ guys when sending that pic to you. Doesn't mean anything.
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:13 PM
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And there are also women who blame men for their failure in dating. Don't think this issue is gender-specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:45 AM
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If you keep the relationship uncertain she will continue trying to initiate sex forever. Manipulation tactic perhaps, but don't know if it's conscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:51 PM
1

If you keep the relationship uncertain she will continue trying to initiate sex forever. Manipulation tactic perhaps, but don't know if it's conscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:30 PM
1

If you keep the relationship uncertain she will continue trying to initiate sex forever. Manipulation tactic perhaps, but don't know if it's conscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:29 PM
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It's because you often read: "My husband isn't the most conventionally attractive man, but in my eyes he is incredibly attractive. I can't get enough of him." Some guys interpret that as if the visceral attraction is real, even if they are not conventionally attractive and just meet the right partner for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:05 PM
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I read it all now. An interesting and, dare-I-say, accurate representation. I think I read the name Foucault enough to last me a lifetime, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:30 PM
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Wonder if she was dating TechLead on YouTube.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/22 11:17 AM
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Presentation is a huge part of this. I think you all can appreciate the difference between weaving an interesting narrative about some intellectual topic and just... falling flat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:38 PM
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We always hear about the women who got their content found, we never hear of the women who never got "exposed". Bet that is an overwhelming majority given how much porn is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 12:24 PM
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One could argue that the betrayal is bigger when a man cheats, since he usually has to put a lot more thought and effort into it. I wouldn't argue that, though. Everyone's 100% responsible for their actions no matter how much or little effort they put in. Just throwing it out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:34 AM
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Aren't there studies showing lesbians have way less sex than straight couples. Not sure your argument holds up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 01:20 PM
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Plz notice me, senpai. Just make a move.
/r/seduction17/11/21 08:01 PM
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Think it used to be a default sub -- and all of us who didn't purposefully unsubscribe were along for the ride. Well it can be somewhat interesting to read, I guess.
/r/MensRights05/11/21 04:32 PM
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As a private person I can sympathize with the feeling of intrusion this would have caused in my college years, but the amount of hubris displayed in this article is out of this world. Being in a "marginalized" group seems to give these people carte blanche to complain about the most mundane things.
/r/MensRights17/10/21 10:22 PM
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I get where you're coming from. I saw a post on some relationship sub recently where the girl was hyping up sex for two days and finally when it was supposed to happen she didn't feel like it, just wanted cuddles. The guy was disappointed and he made the huge crime of cuddling less enthusiastically than normal. She noticed and got upset, and people were accusing him of sexual coercion. Crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:54 AM
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Depends on the guy. Shy computer nerd who've harbored feelings for his female friend for years -- ecstatic. Local chad with 3 girls in rotation already -- meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 03:16 PM
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saying stuff like “she’s not that attractive” clearing forgetting his own girlfriend is below average He's not forgetting. He knows. But do you think those words would ever leave his mouth? That's a disaster in waiting. Nothing wrong with him sharing his opinions on women's attractiveness without also badmouthing his gf to his pals imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:57 PM
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Granted my experience is mostly anecdotal, but I'd be surprised if Tokyo wasn't one of the safest big cities on Earth. Never felt unsafe there at night. At least violent crime statistics that require hospital care would be hard to brush under the rug.
/r/MensRights24/09/21 01:34 PM
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Devil's advocate: Depends a bit where you live. 20 years ago in Sweden it was pretty safe, or anywhere in Japan is still pretty safe at night for example. No one likes feeling less safe as time goes on and things worsen. But you have to also decouple the feeling of safeness from actual reality. In summary, you always have to adapt to your surroundings -- if you live in a risky or semi-risky neighborhood of course you need to take precautions yourself instead of blaming all men.
/r/MensRights24/09/21 11:04 AM
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Yep; now that you mentioned it I remember I even got called an incel in a group chat. Funny thing is that it was by a woman I had sex with many many moons ago. She's apparently turned ultra-leftie and seems like this is her insult of choice nowadays.
/r/MensRights19/09/21 08:29 PM
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Don't let one Swedish girl's account sway you. I'm also Swedish and I think she's full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 03:21 PM
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The causes that our tax krona go to certainly help women at a higher percentage than men, at least.
/r/MensRights11/09/21 02:36 PM
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Yeah, all their crime gangs travel to Sweden when they want to rob and steal.
/r/MensRights11/09/21 02:31 PM
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Denmark is a lot more based than Sweden, sadly, considering they're our life-long rivals. Too bad it's so tough trying to understand spoken Danish.
/r/MensRights11/09/21 02:29 PM
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You are already paying extra taxes in Sweden, my dude. Men bra ämne, jag är också intresserad av svaren.
/r/MensRights11/09/21 02:25 PM
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Supply and demand. If the product you're selling is worth a lot, people will pay more for it (overlook crass dating profile requirements). Goes for both women and chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 08:33 PM
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Nothing came of it. The only thing that slowed it down was the increasingly long wait times for permanent residency applications since the immigration institution was swamped.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/07/21 11:27 AM
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Or like Sweden. Here prostituting yourself is not illegal, but buying services from a prostitute is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 11:08 PM
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As an European, can't make the 1:1 comparison as you can since I haven't been in the US for an extended period of time but your experiences line up quite well with what we all can read here on reddit. Think there's a big disconnect between the not-insignificant European population here on reddit and the majority American one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 07:50 PM
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Looks like she's at the club so probably not a very recent photo, assuming this screenshot is recent. Even so, I doubt most people are bothering to keep their dating profile pics up to date -- at least that was the case in my experience.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/06/21 10:04 PM
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Lower value guys don't have women on rotation unless they're charismatic. And some higher value guys will keep fucking women who've hit 'the wall' as long as it's easy (don't really use rp terminology myself usually). But yeah, some of the women who get tired of being a sidepiece filter down to the lower value men eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:19 PM
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The 'problem' is that the high value men have the women on rotation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:08 PM
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The "unreasonable" part that stands out, is that she wants the close-to-perfect boyfriend while putting this in her requirements: "Patient to my quirks and doesn't get irritated with them easily". This implies that a good-quality boyfriend, as specified, should have to settle for a girl with issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:33 PM
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It's not unusual. Women don't normally throw themselves at high SMV guys unless they make some small effort themselves. By that I mean putting themselves out there, going to clubs and bars and trying to flirt, or online dating. Depending on location of course. Many guys go through their lives believing they'll just "meet someone", and don't consider that they have practically zero avenues where that would happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 03:08 PM
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What's not relevant? You claim humans are the only ones to sweat to cool off while exerting themselves. You are wrong. Primates and horses do it too. Humans make use of this to a larger degree than other mammals; that we can agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 09:16 PM
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I ask: Gorillas don't sweat? You say: Yep. You are proven wrong. Nothing more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 07:56 PM
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https://www.berggorilla.org/en/gorillas/general/everyday-life/do-gorillas-sweat/ "Gorillas sweat exactly like us: their sweat glands closely resemble those in humans and their distribution on the body is also similar to that found in people." https://nedhardy.com/2020/03/12/what-animals-sweat/ "But to answer your original question, most mammals have sweat glands however only primates, horses, and humans use sweat as their primary source of cooling off." https://www.kamilarlab.org/single-post/201…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 06:14 PM
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We aren't really combat machines compared to, say gorilla's, because we evolved to chase down prey over long distances, that's why we sweat. Are you saying gorillas don't sweat?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 04:29 PM
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I dunno. If OP's LTR is the organized type maybe he should be worried, but I could easily see myself forgetting about condoms in a handbag if I carried one. I'd say don't confront right now, but keep checking for any change... 6 more months and they're still there? OP should be good. They're gone? OP is maybe good (she threw them away). One or two are gone? Shit's fucked.
/r/askTRP14/04/21 10:26 PM
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Are there any demographics available for who pays for this shit? I mean, is it a cultural phenomenon primarily in the US or is it more wide-spread than that? Of course, you can find simps in all countries -- I'm just wondering about the actual figures for comparison's sake.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 09:54 PM
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Most Nordic countries have gone a step further and criminalized buying sex (jailtime up to 1 year), while decriminalizing selling sex. So you can imagine the stigma is pretty bad for those who buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:11 AM
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Kinda mirrors my experience with Chinese girls who grew up in China. Cultural differences. Best to go with the flow and cut it off if you feel it's not worth it. Probably no use reading into it too much is what I'm saying.
/r/askTRP07/02/21 06:17 PM
1

All the guys liking thinner women take no room in media: mainstream, alternative or social, and what's interesting in stating that you like what most guys like? Stating that you like thin women has no upside whatsoever, only potential downsides. Better to make your unspoken selection when dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 04:47 PM
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Save time for other shit if she cooks/cleans Split some costs Spice of life / dealing with the ups and downs of a relationship can make you more emotionally intelligent Doing some stuff together is more enjoyable. Your friends are probably not available for every movie night or outing Sex Of course you can't count on her being around forever so your point about not investing and doing stuff together that you'd enjoy doing anyway is spot on.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:45 AM
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I believe there's a hidden group of romantically-inclined guys hoping for love. They'd be hard to find though unless you make a conscious effort. Yes, I'm talking about the introverted, geeky guys. Some are insecure "nice guys", but not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:46 AM
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Sure. Started going to the gym, got some good pictures and a dating app. The barrier of entry is lower when you can have a 1on1 date compared to other settings, I believe. At least if you're not a social butterfly. It was less difficult than I imagined. The major thing holding me back in my 20s was that I just didn't try. My previously held belief that something "will just happen" is false; you gotta make it happen.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 12:51 PM
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So if she's "hella gay" why the snipe at white boys. They wouldn't even show up in her Tinder feed.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/20 01:45 AM
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OP has a point if the less-social person lets the more social person's socializing feed into his/her insecurities. Knowing your partner has more options may subconsciously shift the powerbalance in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 11:34 AM
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If I were a self-respecting Charlie, I'd dump her after reading that blog post.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/12/19 08:00 PM
5

some foreign guys Swedish Heroes. Actual headline
/r/TheRedPill20/09/19 06:10 PM
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I used to meet up with one as well every time she was in town. Pretty sure she had a couple guys in every city that was part of her rotation.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 07:30 AM
5

Ohh I got this once. But in the video chat it was kinda obvious that they were streaming a pre-recorded video.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:15 PM
4

Love the downvoted comment at the bottom that no one seems to recognize is a troll. OP is a troll too but not as obvious as that one.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/19 09:25 PM
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Women looking for a relationship would have much better success if they went for guys on their own level instead of the top-20% of men. On some dates I've wondered if they knew that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 12:18 PM
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I can't imagine he created this spreadsheet as anything else than an answer to her recurring affirmations that they "have sex all the time". When viewed from that angle it makes sense and for some reason a lot of obstinate posters seem to want to think this was his first course of action to address a problem which his partner won't even admit exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 08:03 PM
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Why did he start defending someone who takes up two seats on public transit, tho.
/r/MensRights15/10/18 04:43 PM
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I can relate to that feeling of having to defend yourself against obvious falsehoods and mischaracterizations; and you have the perfect comeback that you think will prove you right and "win". Easy to just hit send, right? Problem is, however, that if you engage further you will eventually lose control of the discussion.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 04:16 PM
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There's actually a news story about this so I'm inclined to believe OP. (:
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 06:36 PM
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If it's a stepping stone for you, good. I think the major point of this sub is to just keep improving all aspects of your life. You have to start somewhere. So after you breach this initial barrier you will probably feel more fulfilled if you go on those 4-5 dates and get a lay than if you pay for it. Maybe in the future it'll be 1 date and the girl is hot. Godspeed.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 08:59 PM
2

I only wanted to point out how JP is not coming in there like an arrogant Arnold Swarzeneggar, like some crass caricature alpha. And yet, his frame 100% holds, and achieves the effect - magically! Which is his entire goal. He wants the support of the rational majority. If he said anything else than this: Because he's actually pretty beta in his logic: women should have equal rights and fairness, we should all get along, I want to help women who want to compete in male spaces. ...he would be revi…
/r/TheRedPill23/01/18 10:31 PM
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Reminds me of the only American girl I met. I didn't realize it at the time, because we still had sex, but afterwards she told me in messages that she usually just had the guys off Tinder eat her out with no reciprocation. That kinda boggled my mind.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 08:42 PM
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The thing that boggles my mind is that even with this constant reinforcement that they are the least attractive out of their friends, they still believe they are on the same level and go for the hottest guys. Only heartbreak lies that way, at least if they are looking for a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/17 02:09 PM
1

Not sure how it is in the US but going from high school to college was a big change in discipline requirements, so I'd counsel focusing on studies. Having that head-start over people who fuck around and drop out of courses is quite valuable down the line. Not to the exclusion of everything else, of course, but if you feel like you're falling behind then you have to cut time from somewhere.
/r/askTRP09/11/17 04:25 PM
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And it's all feminism's fault. Never her fault. I'd say there's a difference between always blaming something else and acknowledging that a particular set of beliefs formed your younger self. In the same way a lot of stories here tell about how childhood belief systems were shattered when realization hit about how things worked, she seems to have had her beliefs shattered. I didn't take from the video that she necessarily blamed something else for her decisions, but rather that she pointed out t…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 01:59 PM
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My actual answer is the shotgun approach. Just keep on going on dates, even with girls/older women you don't find overly attractive. As you gain experience you will level up and be able to handle tougher challenges.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/17 10:14 AM
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You didn't fail. You bailed before her concerns became too annoying to deal with. If you had tried to continue you would've had to deal with constant talk about commitment, kids, religion etc. That said, that feeling when seeing your girl with another guy is powerful but normal. Also was probably the strongest feeling I've felt my whole life when I saw my ex with another dude. Almost incapacitating, but it'll pass with time and more experience.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/17 07:26 AM
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Women just have unrealistic standards for the men they should be dating and then are surprised when they are used. Totally agree with this. I've even said as much on a couple dates. The major reason for women's bitterness towards the dating market (getting pumped & dumped) is simply because so many date only the top guys and are surprised when they don't want to commit. The cycle repeats.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 06:02 PM
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Pretty good tip. When I notice friends doing it in a group setting I get more respect for them, so I assume they feel the same when I do it.
/r/seduction18/06/17 12:16 PM
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Met a girl like this. No masturbation. No penetration. Screams in pain/fear when trying to put it in, even with lube and when she's really turned on. Never even got it in. Gets pretty horny otherwise though. She's even 30+, so just goes to show that this "problem" can be put off for a very long time if the girl isn't actively invested in fixing it. Going to the doctor seems like a good first step. I had this idea that just pushing it in would be a good idea; next time would be easier. But I refr…
/r/askTRP16/06/17 02:58 PM
1

Financial abortion should be a thing. I understand the argument for child support (it's for the sake of the child), but the state should provide the child support in case the father does a "financial abortion". Should at least be possible here in Sweden where the social safety net is huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/17 09:14 AM
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I agree that in a lot of cases the husband lets himself go, or the wife lets herself go. It's not really a gender issue as you say. I also think that in a lot of cases people keep on being their great selves and still catching flack for it when their partner wants them to change. I don't have any stats for it, but in my opinion it should be judged on a case-by-case basis. Strangers don't really have a complete insight to the relationship dynamics, so it's often apt to keep your thoughts to yours…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 05:59 PM
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Because usually the nagging comes after the wedding. The wife knew who he was, she knew what she was getting into. Why try to change her husband now? If she wasn't happy with who he was, she shouldn't have married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 05:37 PM
1

Why miss out on a minute of perfectly good redditing while peeing. Sitting down is comfortable, especially if it's your own place.
/r/MensRights26/04/17 08:11 AM
1

Think a lot of us have been in this situation. Good news is that it wont come as a surprise to you next time -- always assume it could end at any moment.
/r/askTRP22/04/17 10:53 AM
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This is the result of moving towards equality. Men should get the same support if they feel they've been raped as women. Personal reactions vary. A lot of men wouldn't mind those scenarios, and if they don't feel like reporting it they don't have to. Just like some women could be raped and not feel violated. Imagine for example a guy starting to have sex with a girl while she was asleep and she wakes up and enjoys it. Not saying it's a terribly common scenario but I imagine it could happen. Stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:46 AM
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It doesn't seem to be unusual that feminists like domination play.
/r/PussyPass18/04/17 12:02 PM
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In Sweden too. They are called "Feminist Initiative". They got 3.12% nationwide in the last election, but 7.18% in Stockholm. In some regions within Stockholm they even managed 20%.
/r/MensRights18/04/17 11:19 AM
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It's kind of funny how feminism is actively contributing to patriarchal cultures flourishing in the home country. The natives are discouraged from having kids, and immigrating patriarchal cultures have as many kids as possible.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 08:08 AM
1

I guess the worst part is how much at odds reality is compared to the stuff you believed when you were growing up. Wouldn't have been as bad if we were taught a realistic perspective from a young age. Hard to place blame, though. On one hand it's a bit unreasonable expecting a kid without experience will see through the veil, on the other hand there's personal responsibility. Dudes with sisters probably get a better head start in this department.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 08:03 AM
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Dude. You have anger issues and you are needy. My advice for you: start low. Meet some girls below your standards. Get some experience. As you keep improving and the neediness evaporates, level up until you hit your limit. You'll have a better shot at your peers once you're secure in yourself.
/r/seduction14/04/17 03:28 PM
1

Accept the apology. If it's about something else, go no contact or give a short reply. Only meet her if it's for sex. Don't do any relationship stuff with her like buying her dinner -- if she's been lying to you the relationship is dead.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 12:44 PM
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Not a very recent story, but I read the court documents in Swedish. Always a fascinating read to find out how these things play out step by step. Swedish girls are raised to believe the good in everyone. They have no risk assessment when it comes to inviting random people over Snapchat.
/r/PussyPass14/04/17 08:59 AM
2

She will not contact you with an apology, but maybe about something boring. This is the point where it's easy to tip your hand. Since you've been thinking about this a lot it's easy to lose your cool. If you weren't this emotionally invested this might be the point you return some light banter and maybe schedule a meetup, but in this case I'd say you're better off not replying or giving her a short reply and try to move on.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:54 AM
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3 weeks. First time I used Tinder there, but third time I've been to Japan. Always been interested in Japan, but actually meeting people up close and personal added a lot to that trip. Was with three guy friends and every once in a while I invited a girl to hang with us. Showed us some good spots etcetera, which I hope made my friends feel like it added to the trip rather than just being for my own enjoyment. :)
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:10 PM
2

Had great success in Japan on Tinder, but the love hotels totally blew my budget through the roof.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 05:09 PM
2

Think of the small positive things and moments he brought to your life instead, if there are any. If you focus on remembering those it will be easier to go and see him with authenticity (i.e. not just for the money).
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:53 AM
1

Aside from being unhealthy the big problem is that a lot of people find smokers unattractive because of the smell. Not sure if smoking gives you an edge since more and more people are turned off by the smell.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 01:53 PM
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I also used to be annoyed that women never did the initiation, but nowadays it's more of a relief. Even if they text after I give them a while of radio silence they never suggest a time and a place to meet up, so I don't even have to bother with handing out a rejection if I don't feel like meeting up.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/17 12:29 PM
1

I'm curious myself of the rate of actual cuckoldry as compared to the US. Personally I went on one OKCupid date with a woman who was in a polyamorous relationship but nothing came of it. She wasn't fat, though. 35 and a bit delicate-looking.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/17 12:02 PM
1

Being completely submissive is bad. Being overbearing is bad. The happy medium is somewhere in the middle. To be more specific, I believe the RP stance is to be, or at least appear to be, higher value than the woman. Therefore a low value guy will value a very submissive girl, but a high value guy will be annoyed by it. So, everything's relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 01:13 PM
3

If you're in an LTR in Sweden and buy an apartment or house for your own money and later break up, she has the rights to 50% of the apartment/house and all furniture/electronics you got for the apartment after you got together. Seemed pretty crazy when I found out. Apartments are pretty expensive in Stockholm, so a lot of money could be lost.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 07:31 AM
1

It's easy to get a girl to meet up on Tinder, but it's difficult to get a girl to meet up right now. Then again, only time I use Tinder nowadays is when drunk swiping in the weekend. Too stressed out over other stuff to put some effort into it.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 06:50 PM
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Isn't it a problem if friends or family hear you've been choking and cheating on your girlfriend.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 01:59 PM
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Although there's no official relationship. I was clear that we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend. Not that I've met other women anyway lately, but it's nice to have the freedom. Time to start meeting new ones, I guess.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/17 03:09 PM
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I've been seeing this girl without agreeing to commit and she just told me "no more sex" and that "I'm using her body", even though she initiates sex 90% of the time. Was bound to happen sooner or later, I guess.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/17 07:50 AM
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"That's too risky. She'll say no of course, she's not a slut." Oh yeah? Well, have you tried it? I always try it with girls I don't feel like wasting the time going out on a date with. It pretty much never works. Maybe it's location-based (I'm not in the US).
/r/TheRedPill15/03/17 12:58 PM
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Sounds to me like she might be a bit more into D/S stuff than most girls. When she got there and you dispelled her fantasies by starting to play the guitar instead of pounding her against the wall she lost the attraction. I got a girl like this once, but instead of just shutting down and going home she actually asked me if I knew of D/S stuff.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 11:03 AM
1

Yeah, but the good-looking dudes don't need a 100% reply rate. Enough girls reply to a simple 'hey' for them not to be bothered with crafting an elaborate opener.
/r/seduction03/03/17 05:38 PM
1

Yeah, it's a situation of his own making. I read further down that he's not even having sex with her and is still a virgin so I guess this all makes sense now. Live and learn.
/r/seduction01/03/17 02:22 PM
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Shitty girl. Sex is not worth putting up with that level of disrespect. But you also need to own your part in setting the tone of your interactions. Don't let girls walk all over you. They'll lose attraction and you'll waste time trying to appease them.
/r/seduction01/03/17 08:31 AM
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Tbh, I don't think your replies in your examples were intrinsically petty. It's all about the delivery. Nothing wrong with not approving of her threesome, but don't come across as being intimidated by it. Nothing wrong with asking if she talked about your dick size, but don't seem insecure about it. Her last message indicates that she's lost a lot of respect for you. I'd say focus on finding someone else and try to do better next time. Practice makes perfect. The pettiness and neediness will go …
/r/seduction01/03/17 08:17 AM
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It's kind of funny that OP complains about guys putting in no effort in their opening message when he's contributing to the problem. Still, interesting to read about one of these 'experiments' every once in a while.
/r/seduction28/02/17 09:00 AM
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Only pics of you dressed to the 9s, usually at a club or bar or out at night near those places, usually holding drinks. (I am assuming you are high strung bitch, probably alcoholic 99%) I agree with all of your points, this one included, but this one is very subjective. Lots of party guys would be all over a profile like this and maybe that's the type these girls want to attract.
/r/seduction28/02/17 08:55 AM
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One issue I have with your analysis is that there's a basic difference between you and most girls. You're not sexually attracted to guys, so you place comparatively more value on the content of their messages/profiles and less on their pictures ("So many guys look the same."). Since getting a reply is rare, good-looking guys can employ the shotgun approach and hope their pics outweigh their lackluster opening message and put in more effort if they reply.
/r/seduction28/02/17 08:38 AM
5

Don't forget the hotel room.
/r/seduction27/02/17 09:20 AM
1

I've become more aware of my moods lately and I agree with you; it's tough to talk to people when tired. I don't see a big problem with abstaining when you're not feeling it. Better to focus on solving the underlying problem -- lack of sleep. I'm thinking of getting some sleeping pills or something.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 07:51 AM
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What's your definition of average? I'd be surprised if any but a fraction of single dudes actually hooked up regularly. You see people trying to hook up at bars, clubs and Tinder -- but there are a lot more dudes out there just sitting at home, hanging with friends, looking for long-term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 03:34 PM
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I'd say the largest difference is the tone. Wouldn't be surprised if many users subscribe to both but filter themselves in seduction and let it all out in its ugly glory on trp.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 03:01 PM
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I'd say that it's rather common for top guys to have long-term girlfriends/wives, at least the ones I've come in contact with. Broadly speaking, the "player type" is not super common. But your personal experience varies a lot depending on what type of friends you have and if you go party a lot. You're right that guys who normally don't do well with women will latch on to the first one showing them a hint of interest, though.
/r/seduction20/02/17 01:17 PM
2

Maintaining a 10 body is not easy for men, though. You actually have to go to the gym diligently. Same goes for women who have a 10 body, I guess, but it seems like (some) women can easily reach a 9 body just by eating less.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 12:51 PM
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As a side-note. How could you ever know you had a woman's genuine love? Feelings come and go slowly for some people. For others it's "love" one day and forgetting about you the next. You'll never know how seriously any particular girl says "I love you".
/r/seduction17/02/17 05:32 PM
2

Well, if you ask me a good job and career is the starting point for everything. It was for me. I certainly felt the challenges were insurmountable and my life was pointless. I managed to land a good job and everything changed. Shit pay at first, but I've practically doubled it now. I didn't even consider dating the first couple of years at my new job. Baby steps. Started lifting. My confidence grew gradually until I broke through the barrier. Maybe peeps here can make faster progress since they'…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 10:39 PM
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Yes. I got my shit together in my late 20s/early 30s and while getting your shit together earlier is of course always good, it is not anywhere close to impossible at later ages. OP is trying to ring the alarm bells for the younger crowd so they get their ass in gear, but at the expense of the older crowd who still seek a glimmer of hope.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 10:27 AM
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True. But I'd say different women have different scales. A 5 will get her mind blown by a top-20% guy, and that should be attainable by anyone. A 9 might be more difficult, tho. But that kinda comes down to personal preferences; do you just want to bang nines or do you want to blow girls' minds. Maybe a bit of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 04:12 PM
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Yup, so aim to be one of them. That's the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 03:44 PM
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There's nothing wrong from your perspective as long as you don't know you're a beta. If by some twist of fate you find out that your current girlfriend/wife was a sexual maniac with their previous exes/flings but to you she only puts out the once-a-month-starfish, then you start feeling a bit peeved. Lots of stories around of guys finding past messages, vids, hearing from friends etc, about their SO's previous escapades. It's possible to preempt this soul-crushing discovery by making sure your S…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 02:34 PM
1

Party girls also tend to have a certain personality which can be a bit difficult to jive with. I clicked another one of the articles there. Seems like great stuff http://www.girlschase.com/content/make-her-orgasm-hard-sex-8-minutes-or-less
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 12:31 PM
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Not sure it's a test, but it implies she will drop you if she gets a date sorted with another guy she's been talking to or if her friends suggest hanging out, etc. So she's not very interested either way.
/r/seduction10/02/17 11:39 AM
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I've been there, man. It seems hopeless when starting from scratch. The trick is to take baby steps. First focus on career and lifting. (You don't have to do exercises that endanger your spine). Then when you get comfortable in your job and you have the lifting routine down, find a social hobby. Don't go with the intent of making friends, just go with the intent of being social. Chat with your coworkers and people involved in your hobby. Practice makes perfect. You will feel validation and that …
/r/askTRP10/02/17 10:58 AM
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Too much focus on 'what you're supposed to do', too little focus on what you want to do. Plenty of guys in your situation would try to seduce these girls for the fun of it and for getting laid. But if you don't feel like it, don't.
/r/seduction09/02/17 05:20 PM
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A lot of guys have a mental checklist and immediately place a girl in the casual or LTR box shortly after, or even before, meeting. I think girls who match the checklist traits most guys have in common have a vastly different dating experience than those who don't. Agreeable, sexual and financially stable are some examples, but the most important one is of course physical attractiveness. Guys have higher standards for physical attractiveness when it comes to a girlfriend than a casual partner. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/17 01:06 PM
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Good on you. When I see girls like that I assume they're too high-maintenance to be enjoyable company -- but maybe she's down to earth once you meet her. Fake it 'til you make it, and if it goes south at least you know you have a shot with girls like that for future reference.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 03:53 PM
1

Personally I'm sick of meeting women who fantasize about rape. They're not the ones taking the risk of role-play gone bad. Why would I risk getting myself incarcerated for years when I might as well aim to meet a girl who likes "regular" sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 06:50 PM
1

Well, sure lines up with my experience. I used to think women were more likely to prefer vanilla sex, but after I stepped up my dating game recently I'm almost starting to believe the majority are into D/S type sex. Like the girl I met for the first time a couple weeks ago, went home with me and asked me if I knew about D/S in the middle of making out. I thought that shit required some level of trust. I was kinda bummed that she couldn't even have "regular" sex the first time; it had to be D/S.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 06:37 PM
2

I think all attempts to better yourself are ultimately born out of a desire for external validation. Tricky question, because we only know our own minds. We can tell ourselves it's for internal validation, and we can avoid speaking about our progress to other people, but in the end I suspect we all desire our progress to shine through and be noticed by others.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 04:16 PM
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It's like they say, sex is only a huge deal until you've had it. I'd say yeah, you'll feel different. No reason to become desperate, though; just keep working towards it. I'd like to add that having it one time might not be enough. You might convince yourself it was a fluke. When you've had it a few times you are secure in the knowledge that you can get it again and again as long as you apply yourself.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 03:57 PM
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I've heard of some critical people who quit and had to be rehired as consultants to keep the machinery running. Of course they demanded twice the pay. Probably a good idea to have another job lined up before you try that approach, though.
/r/askTRP20/01/17 10:37 AM
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This will work on desperate men, or oblivious men. Sheltered computer nerd going out on his first date; definitely. A well-rounded man with options and limited time for bullshit? Hardly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 09:12 PM
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I don't normally condone keying cars, but, that kid and his bike make me furious...
/r/PussyPass17/01/17 01:25 PM
1

I think that most RPers think that male BPers deep down do want to "drown in pussy"/have sex every day, but they don't want to put in the effort and would rather vent online about how much they dislike people getting what they can't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/17 12:11 PM
1

I'm doing this right now. Between sets at the gym instead of cleaning my apartment.
/r/seduction05/01/17 11:45 AM
7

Definitely don't stand up and leave after a rejected kiss. You'll just look butthurt. Playing it off as if it didn't faze you is the best course of action. Either pull back a bit, escalate and try again, or wind up the date in an inconspicuous manner if you're not feeling it. Your mistake is probably letting the rejection faze you internally. Keeping up the facade of not letting it get to you is good, but actually internalizing that it is of no consequence is better.
/r/askTRP05/01/17 10:54 AM
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I saw my friend's girlfriend do this with her guy friend. Although it was even worse, she was kinda sitting on his lap on a couch at the bar and leaning into him with her head on his chest all cuddle-like. I thought it seemed quite awkward but my friend didn't seem to mind. Now my friend is married to this girl, expecting a kid and seems like the relationship is going well by all accounts (sex-wise too). I don't know what to think. Shrug.
/r/askTRP30/12/16 10:42 AM
1

I don't use OKC actively but I have a profile there and I've gotten a couple of messages from girls wanting to hook up in the past year. (Casual Sex box checked). 'tis true, however, that looks-wise OKC girls are a far cry from Tinder girls.
/r/askTRP29/12/16 12:15 PM
3

I know, right? I don't blame average men for aiming higher than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/16 11:09 PM
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Think the answer is obvious. They should settle for dating less attractive women. Or to put it in TRP speak, women with less SMV than them. Seeing an obviously unattractive male with a beautiful woman triggers a lot of people. They should "learn their place".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/16 05:59 PM
1

Keep in mind that the posts you see on r tinder and the screenshots from your friends are just the most outrageous ones. I guess you'd have to find out a bit for yourself what works in your area. Try sending some "normal" messages, and also some outrageous ones when you're feeling playful and/or drunk.
/r/askTRP02/12/16 10:32 AM
1

Yeah, this turn of events makes so much sense. Swedish girls will happily fuck alpha-acting arabs from clubs rather than meek Swedish men, but to get outed to her friends was a serious blow to her reputation.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/16 10:08 AM
2

I'm not sure I see the problem actually. As I'm writing this a girl is helping me paint my apartment. Is it a moral issue?
/r/askTRP23/11/16 07:22 PM
1

b) Very little cuddling. Try no cuddling on some girls. There's something I'm missing. I'd like to know the downsides to cuddling. All the girls I've met keep saying how much they like the cuddling (and the sex), let's meet again etc.
/r/askTRP23/11/16 02:39 PM
1

Eh, your viewpoint is pretty extreme. What most people want probably lies somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/16 06:55 PM
1

This reasoning doesn't have to apply only to the PUAs showcasing it online. You just have to look towards your own friend circle. I feel like no one is impressed by the introvert nerd who went from shutting himself in to meeting lots of women. I had a period at the start where I felt this compelling urge to talk to my friends about my encounters, but I realized that was mostly in vain. Nowadays I almost feel embarrassed talking about it and I try keeping it on the down-low.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/16 08:56 AM
6

This past Saturday I was busy and she was begging to come over. She was crazy horny that Saturday and Tindered up another guy since you wouldn't put out. Now she's turning her energy towards the other guy.
/r/askTRP16/11/16 08:29 AM
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Hmm, I'd say Tinder is a good stepping stone to becoming more comfortable and less creepy when asking girls out. It's really easy to find girls there, but I have yet to find any girls of real quality. For that you probably should look elsewhere. Good for experience though.
/r/seduction15/11/16 09:53 AM
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Hah, I was also a WoW-loser who spent more time talking and reading in English than my native language. Your post really resonated with me. Wish I had come to this forum back in those days, but no matter the advice here you probably have to take it in baby-steps. Message her to meet you up for a coffee or beer, or other activity you fancy. Don't get discouraged if you get shot down in the end; view it as a learning experience. You'll do better next time.
/r/askTRP09/11/16 03:36 PM
1

Same here. I think it's because I've grown bored.
/r/askTRP08/11/16 12:58 PM
1

Disregarding the greater issue of his general personality, of course he's not going to get a relationship if he does zero approaching and, in the less likely event a woman approaches him first, acts disinterested. If he put himself out there and went on 10 Tinder dates and put in some minimal effort he would find at least one who would put up with his awkwardness. But he doesn't try at all so of course he has zero results. I know exactly where he's coming from, though. I wasn't as well-built but…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/16 10:31 AM
4

Haha, reminds me of the time when one girl actually told me that the reason she didn't want to continue seeing me was because I wasn't dominant enough. Well, I took it to heart and we smashed anyway so I got over it.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/16 02:27 AM
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So you're saying that the prevalence of older women having sex with minors is not greater in the UK than in other European countries? The media is just reporting on it more? I was wondering if there also was some sort of cultural component to it. I'm commenting more on the act itself rather than the lenient punishment.
/r/PussyPass03/11/16 03:53 PM
11

The women in these stories often seem to be from the UK for some reason. I caught myself assuming even before I saw the article was from .uk.
/r/PussyPass03/11/16 03:28 PM
1

You need storytelling skills to captivate a whole group. I guess practice makes perfect. My stories usually end up disjointed without a satisfactory quip or observation. When it's one-on-one it's easier because you don't feel as rushed to make your point.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 05:27 PM
1

I find that when I'm feeling tired/hungover/weak I tend to avoid eye contact. When I'm feeling good/motivated, I can't get enough of maintaining eye contact. The secret to mastering eye contact is feeling good about yourself. Work on becoming the best version of yourself and it'll eventually come naturally. Until then, forcing it might make you seem even creepier than if you're avoiding it.
/r/askTRP27/09/16 08:25 AM
0

Their level of interest in keeping up an interesting conversation is directly related to their level of attraction to you.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 08:29 AM
1

Swede here. It's true that the notion of being a "real man" is vilified here and almost all boys born in the last 30 years have been raised to be like this dude. And this story goes to show that no matter what happens to you, the ideology is so firmly ingrained that nothing will shake it. Just recently there was a big free music festival attended by tons of refugee (male) children, and Swedish girls. Over 30 police reports of groping and every offender was from MENA. Don't think the girls change…
/r/TheRedPill26/08/16 03:48 PM
2

Before you can hack your body, your relationships and your lifestyle, you first need to hack your mind. I'm not sure this is true for everyone. I started working out without much thought to pursuing dating, but years later it proved to be the perfect foundation. I definitely think I 'hacked' my body before my mind followed.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/16 05:40 PM
1

I was in your spot after going to the gym for 3 years, and I tried suggesting more exercise and diet control to her, but I was a beta bitch so she didn't listen to anything I said. Got a bunch of fatlogic in return. So I spread my wings. If I had met her in my current state I'm positive she would've followed my lead, but now it's too late.
/r/askTRP15/08/16 03:00 PM
2

I ran into this. That's what she said at the start. Now I get the feeling she's fallen head over heels for me. Kind of weird. We had sex on the first night, but every time we met after she was not physically affectionate at all at the start of the day. Then at the third date, I tried to go for a kiss and she turned her head away. I actually took it pretty hard, just went silent and went to do stuff alone around the apartment. Considered never seeing her again. Told her as much later and she chan…
/r/askTRP15/08/16 02:49 PM
1

Most women value confidence in men way higher than most men value confidence in women. It's not a coincidence that more women play a submissive role in relationships than vice versa.
/r/seduction11/08/16 02:48 PM
2

Sometimes (say, in a bar setting) when you're gazing into a girl's eyes with that knowing smirk she looks away and says "Why are you looking at me like that?". What do. I suppose depending on how you read the situation: go for the kiss, or say some line like "Just appreciating your beautiful eyes".
/r/seduction09/08/16 09:05 AM
2

You could surmise, that if his goal was to "prove" rules 1 & 2, his tone could've been purposefully harsher - just to make his point.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/16 10:51 PM
1

What's the protocol on telling your friends about your newfound dating prowess? I've noticed they don't seem all that interested anymore, but I'm bursting at the seams to talk about it with someone.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/16 08:52 PM
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Plenty of older dudes around these parts. Never too late to change. Take it one step at a time. Start working out; it'll put you in a better headspace for improving your carreer. Improve your quality of life, start dating, slay puss.
/r/askTRP04/08/16 03:09 PM
2

Well said. Exactly the reason I broke up with my LTR. After that experience I've been obsessed with never being #3 again.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/16 05:45 PM
1

Yep. Beware that the craving for intimacy doesn't chain you to someone you are ultimately incompatible with. People who had some relationships when younger know better who to invest in. 2 years down the line, the inevitable break-up hurts more than if you had ended it earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 09:01 AM
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I don't disagree that people blow it out of proportion. Still, it's one of those things that (at least for men) matter so much for validation. People, especially women, telling a virgin guy that "it's not a big deal" comes of as tremendously patronizing. Being helpful would be giving advice to the guy how to have his first sexual experience rather than telling him it's not all that important.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 10:33 PM
3

I went to your comment history and read the comment. Spot on, my man. The sheer audacity of this woman is mind-boggling. Your rage is justified and I wish more people in this thread would call out this deluded person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 08:22 PM
4

Fucking amazing that women chime in downplaying men's desire to lose their virginity. The disconnect is unreal. Compare the ease a willing woman loses her virginity to a man's. Deluded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:57 PM
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Chiming in to say, yes, it's the single largest validation for a man. Having sex is not a big deal, but never having had sex is a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:53 PM
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And she's a woman to boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:50 PM
6

Wow; I've been on both sides of the fence on this issue. Before having sex it seemed like the biggest hurdle ever. After having sex it's not a big deal. Still, it is a big deal if you've never had it yet. I really dislike these posts trying to downplay the importance of sex, from people who get a lot of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:23 PM
1

Maybe this doesn't apply to you, but when I see someone towering over me, especially if he's well-groomed and wearing fitting clothes, I automatically give him more respect. I don't like the fact that I do, but I can't help it. I'm sure many experience a similar feeling. I only have to look within myself to realize height matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/16 02:02 PM
4

As someone who was 'incel' (didn't even know the term until recently) for a large part of my life, it's difficult to internalize that kind of advice. Until you experience success it all seems so foreign.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 04:51 PM
2

I was like you until my 30s. Finding a woman seemed inconceivable. People who always had an easy time getting women don't understand the mental block some people struggle with. I would say gym and online dating to get started.
/r/askTRP10/07/16 07:33 PM
2

Oh man, that is the worst. I dumped my ex but the thought of some other dude is driving me crazy. After she told me she met someone new I had to go no contact. Started thinking about her every day. Just can't handle it in spite of having my own plate more than full.
/r/askTRP27/06/16 08:26 PM
2

This here is probably the biggest truth bomb I've experienced in adult life. Ever since I started dating after my last relationship, I've met so many women who not only enjoy rough sex, they flat out tell me that's what they like. So now I believe it's the norm. Finally.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/16 10:47 AM
1

I often hear advice that it's ok to vent emotional stuff with your guy friends, but in reality a lot of RP guys act RP with their guy friends too. It can be difficult to be friends with those guys, at least if you're not on their level yourself. I can think of one acquaintance in my life and he comes off as too obnoxious and self-absorbed to have a proper conversation with. On the other hand I can feel my long-time friends getting a bit more defensive around me, so I make sure to be humble and i…
/r/askTRP15/06/16 01:22 PM
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All of them. :) I wouldn't ask for more than I give.
/r/seduction03/06/16 04:00 PM
3

Dude, I'm in the same boat. Been on the hunt for a girl that satisfies my three criteria for a while now without luck: smashing body, mentally stimulating and sex hungry. I've only managed getting girls with 1-2 of those traits so far.
/r/seduction03/06/16 01:29 PM
2

The part about extreme oneitis and wanting every woman in the world resonates with me. Feel the same after my LTR break-up, even though I ended it. Had no game before, though. It's a rough period. Feeling ungrounded. I hope time and experience will teach me more about myself. So my recommendation would be to go out there and slay pussy.
/r/seduction01/06/16 02:43 PM
5

This was too hard to read. I need a break from the Internet.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 09:45 AM
2

Yep, as soon as I started finding it 'easier' to get girls I lost the day-to-day motivation. It probably stems from a need to feel validation. Your validation should come from yourself, not from girls. A lesson oft taught here, but difficult to adhere to.
/r/askTRP16/05/16 07:18 PM
1

For a while I thought the German guy got both girls since they went back to the airport hotel in the same cab. So I had to ask my girl the next day out of pure curiosity; but apparently that's not what happened. Third girl had a boyfriend as well.
/r/seduction08/05/16 01:57 AM
1

I Tindered up a Spanish stewardess who had a stayover in my city, and she wanted to go out clubbing with her colleagues. It was quite eye-opening to see this German guy join up her group of three and explain that he didn't drink ("I do a sober year every once in a while," he said). He had his tongue down one of her friends in no-time. I rarely go out clubbing so I don't see many real players in action. It felt a bit imbalanced that her friend was wasted as shit and he was sober and focused like …
/r/seduction07/05/16 11:12 PM
13

Yeah, very typical. Swedish girls are nice. I'm mostly amazed at how their responses to his lines so accurately matched up with what I thought they would respond. I think this vid more than any other opened up my eyes to just how programmatical the game is.
/r/seduction07/05/16 09:39 PM
3

Heh, I'm Swedish and it was a bit surprising to see Swedish girls featured here -- but their reactions went down exactly how I imagined.
/r/seduction07/05/16 07:18 PM
4

Yes, and one of your nine definitions of Frame was "setting boundaries". I wasn't asking about your definition of Frame. Just curious how tightly people prefer to set their boundaries here. If it's just for stuff that actually matters or also for really minor stuff.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/16 10:40 PM
1

I read a lot about setting boundaries here. But what boundaries are you talking about specifically?
/r/TheRedPill25/04/16 08:25 PM
1

Yeah, I've had the inclination many times to post something positive here about drugs being able to break that initial hurdle but I didn't feel like being downvoted to hell. Don't become dependent, of course, but for people with 0 social skills who haven't left their WoW cave in years it may be the catalyst for a better life.
/r/seduction22/04/16 10:14 PM
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I find it a bit contradictory to release the animal inside you and also focus extensively on foreplay. The animal always wants to thrust it in. I'm working on striking a healthy balance, but it's still a compromise.
/r/seduction03/04/16 05:39 PM
1

Definitely. I guess that's why girls always say one-night stands = bad sex, but at least something is standing.
/r/seduction25/02/16 03:51 PM
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