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It could be a turn off for you or it could be a turn on for some girls. By the upvotes, some of the guys who have talked to woman somewhat agree that this will work
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:23 PM
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A mom doesn’t forget her child when they leave the house. Take that as you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:55 AM
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Alright then just be straight up with the girl. “I don’t have a place to stay - we might have to crash at your crib.” If she ask about the age, tell her your old enough to show her a good time.
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:27 AM
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“I hadn’t seen your email until now. I noticed xyz and had to hit you up - (then proceed to ask her for a piece of information that you genuinely care about)”
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:16 AM
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Alright so you want a sugar momma? - which is f a problem. But what do dorms or apartments have to do with anything?
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:07 AM
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I didn’t read the article because I didn’t need to. You’re basically telling men there’s nothing that they can do. Which is true, but it’s not true.
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:05 AM
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Most of the outcome is not already decided. The only thing that is decided is how you show up and that affects the outcome.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:56 AM
1

Make eye contact. Smile. Tell/ gesture her to come to you. Start the conversation / dance.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:55 AM
1

You’ve got to see your position on the board. You don’t have enough status to tell her no. Right now you can either bring scarcity into the relationship by either suggesting another partner or having your own guys night out with your friends. Or you can raise your value as a man which is a longer term player.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:54 AM
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It sucks that you feel this way. It’s not a fun way to walk through life. But what I can say is that your mental health probably needs to be improved. First I’d suggest hanging out with a group of positive friends. Then I would suggest going out or getting a coach that could help you with the dating aspect of things.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:52 AM
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Get a job. You live with your parents - that’s the first place to start. Secondly, your mental health is probably not good. Now is also the time to start working on yourself and finding a positive group of friends. I don’t know what that means for you.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:50 AM
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Alright - well what kind of girls do you want to attract?
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:49 AM
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Avoiding a relationship is way different than avoiding human interaction. Just because a girl is touching on you and showing interest doesn’t mean you have to tell her to F off. Right now, I think the best thing you can do is work on your mental health. You’re not in the state of mind where you should be dating anyone. You’re question is essentially asking, “how do I date without dating?”
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:48 AM
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This is probably going to be the most boring reply ever. But just say what you want. Im a super dry person but my candid honesty (mixed in with a little humor) - tends to draw people in. Trying to trick someone out of your dryness will just make you come off as a clown. In fact, the first thing you can even say to a girl is, “Hey I thought you were cute. I’m a little bit dry - what’s your name?”
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:44 AM
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Why are you trying to game the game? You’re cheating yourself by believing that your age is your biggest hinderance. Your biggest hinderance is your confidence - or the fact that you’re not comfortable with your age.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:42 AM
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Why don’t you get feedback from yourself? Any feedback you get from a female is going to be superficial and fake. Because females aren’t even aware of what turns them on.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:41 AM
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The reason why your friends are getting with these girls is because they’re asking for what they want. When they’re interested in a girl, they express it. When they don’t like what the girl is doing - they express that also. That’s the only way to keep these types of girls around.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:40 AM
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If that’s the type of girl you want to be with then yes.
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:39 PM
1

How is your texting game and what are you doing during your text?
/r/seduction31/05/22 12:28 AM
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This is probably counter intuitive to most advice, but send it if you want to. What’s the point of thinking about her 24/7 if you could just reach out and ask.
/r/seduction31/05/22 12:19 AM
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Because you don’t believe that you’re attractive as a man.
/r/seduction31/05/22 12:15 AM
2

Everyone’s race is different. If you’re trying to compare yourself to a king who was sped with a silver spoon since birth, you’re bound to be disappointed.
/r/seduction31/05/22 12:15 AM
2

By expressing yourself
/r/seduction31/05/22 12:13 AM
6

Somebody gets it -
/r/seduction30/05/22 11:28 PM
14

Hey - my name is ____
/r/seduction30/05/22 10:59 PM
3

Just shoot your shot. Make an observation or something that you like about her and start off a conversation.
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:52 PM
44

Go after what you want. If you think she’s cute go approach.
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:06 AM
2

Let’s think about this more naturally. In the beginning if you want to practice, you’re going to want to put yourself in a situation where the odds are in your favor. Chances are you have some interest or hobby you enjoy, right? Find a club or event with people who have the same interest and start chatting up people there.
/r/seduction28/05/22 10:18 AM
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Try to do it in a more natural way. If you’re not comfortable with cold approaching, why don’t you go to a place that’s socially accessible to talk to other people and build your skills up that way?
/r/seduction28/05/22 03:31 AM
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Does that sound fun to you? People have a lot of things going on and it’s hard to get their attention. Try something more activating and interesting and maybe they’ll respond. Note- when I say more activating/ interesting I don’t mean goofy or funny. Just something that has a little more punch to it.
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:11 PM
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“I’m black where it counts.”
/r/seduction27/05/22 03:23 AM
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It’s not worth it. But you’re probably going to do it anyways until you realize it’s not with it yourself.
/r/seduction27/05/22 03:14 AM
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What if things change and people discover more parts to themselves that weren’t originally there. IE: let’s say you’re into business and your partner is into business also. Then 10 years later they want to pursue their passion for art. Do you support their change, or do you leave the relationship and look for another carbon copy of you? What is being said is, every single thing is never going to be in alignment. There are things that are absolutely critical, like maybe having the same political …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:52 AM
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I hope you never had to “win over” your friends from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:38 PM
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It doesn’t matter if it’s something you want to do yourself.
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:32 PM
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It usually trickled from the top down, but not enough evidence to blame. I would say one bad experience is a bad experience. If there’s other people complaining about it, then maybe there’s merit to the claim.
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:47 PM
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What’s the point of talking about it if she hasn’t asked? Now if the topic comes up, you can express what you want. But if it isn’t bothering her, then it shouldn’t really bother you. But if it bothers you, you can just express your intentions directly and move on from there.
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:38 PM
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Let’s consider the platform and the expectations around where you’re meeting these girls. Tinder isn’t necessarily known for being the one stop shop for where you find a wife. Nothing wrong with that, you just have to play the game the way it was intended… meaning - they want to hook up. Give them what they want, but express your intentions. “I’m not really looking to hook up right now, but how about we xyz.” The hard thing about this is that you’re going to have to establish some connection if …
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:13 PM
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People want what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:52 PM
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Just walk up to her with an air of indifference and start a conversation. You don’t even know if you like her or not and you’re musing over strategies. Make an observation - go and see what she’s like. If you like her, continue the conversation.
/r/seduction18/05/22 01:29 PM
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You like what you like
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:41 AM
1

Why even go indirect if that’s not what you want? It makes sense to go indirect if you’re in a situation where socialization and hitting in girls is expected (the club or a day gathering). But if you’re randomly approaching it’s best to get straight to the point. Point out an observation that you noticed about her an hour from there.
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:29 AM
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Realizing that food and water is the only thing you need to survive. Holding onto anything else as if your life depended on it is needy behavior. One way around needy behavior is to focus on your vision. Imagine how you’d like things to play out and then only accept things in your reality that conform to your vision. One way Steve Jobs made decision was by asking the simple question “is this going to move my vision forward?” If the answer was yes, he would engage. If the answer to moving your vi…
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:46 AM
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Sometimes you just have to take the L
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:42 AM
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It makes it easier to bond and connect with people. And if you’re looking for a specific type of partner, they’re more likely to be apart of a social circle you mesh with.
/r/seduction18/05/22 03:23 AM
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Love is something that you can become… not something that you can take from another person. Human love is fickle because it’s based on a transactional relationship between two people. Self-love is the only love you can control. Even when the other person doesn’t reciprocate, you can respond in a way that shows love to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:09 AM
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You can’t really control someone else’s behavior. The only thing you can do is influence their behavior with your own. Right now it sounds like you’re willing to tolerate girls night out in your relationship. There’s really only two ways to go about it. Start having “boys night out” so she feels the same effect of her own actions (this route is pretty toxic). Or draw a clear line in the sand of what’s acceptable and what’s not. “Hey babe, I really don’t feel comfortable with you going out with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:30 PM
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If she’s shy, she’s probably not going to hit you back up. The best thing would have been to take initiative until she felt more comfortable around you.
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:57 AM
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You do you
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:40 AM
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That’s like saying. I need help getting a mathematician to learn salsa dancing.
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:39 AM
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It doesn’t work. Someone is always going to feel like they’re getting less of the person than they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:55 AM
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Sometimes there’s just nothing you can do about a particular situation. If a woman isn’t willing to talk about her previous partners, it’s something that she’s not proud of. That should be a pretty clear indicator of what she could be potentially hiding. For most men, this isn’t an issue, but if this is a big deal for you, ask and see her response.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:55 PM
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Accept the shyness, talk to her more, and see if you guys are compatible. Sometimes it’s only a question of time before people warm up to each other. If it’s not time, it might just be incompatibility.
/r/seduction24/04/22 02:00 PM
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They probably do. But I’m spoken for ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:46 AM
1

Acknowledge it in a respectful way. Show how a lack of accountability is decreasing team efficiency, and see if there’s a way to combat the issues.
/r/seduction24/04/22 07:06 AM
1

All good holes contain some truth to them.
/r/seduction24/04/22 06:54 AM
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What’s the point I’m thinking like this? It’s almost like you’re looking for a reason for women to disqualify you based on these criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:48 AM
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Make yourself valuable enough to where people want to talk to you in general. Not just women.
/r/seduction24/04/22 06:29 AM
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Nothing really has changed. RP just tends to approach the situation more cold and callous which makes it harder to get results.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 06:21 AM
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Because the toxic guy is willing to be honest with them. Usually the nice guy isn’t willing to break his silence when things aren’t going the way he wants.
/r/seduction23/04/22 10:46 PM
4

Just ask her how’s she’s been and go from there.
/r/seduction23/04/22 10:45 PM
2

A human being can’t be owned. You are not hers. You’re only hers as long as she treats you right.
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:47 PM
2

There’s not really a disgust factor, but guys tend to look down on men who can’t attract a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 08:29 PM
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this is so key - a relationship is a two way street. too often society makes us guys think that we have to do all the heavy lifting when in reality... if both people are pulling their own weight - there’s nothing to lift.
/r/seduction20/09/20 06:11 AM
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why ask the question if you’ve never met her? there’s no point in dealing with a girl like this. the simplest answer is to just run away.
/r/seduction17/09/20 01:29 PM
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there’s is no technique. there is no perfect line or opener. when you’re a newbie, it’s best to feel the fear and approach anyways. the main thing when you’re approaching is to just be normal. if you’re feeling nervous, don’t try to act like a super suave guy and be confident with the girl. literally tell her you were super nervous to approach, but you had to say hi anyways. the conversation should naturally evolve from there. anyways hope this was helpful, best of luck 🥂
/r/seduction16/09/20 11:27 PM
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try smiling next time
/r/seduction16/09/20 07:35 PM
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pretty sure it’s the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 07:24 PM
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this is a class example of not talking about what you want to talk about. it sounds like you’re letting the conversation meander in a hundred different directions. take control of the conversation and focus on the topics that are interesting to you. of course, read and gauge the girls level of interest/ investment in the conversation. but long story short, no topic is off the agenda for discussion (no matter how weird/ controversial it might seem). if your heart is in it, she probably will be in…
/r/seduction16/09/20 04:21 PM
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there’s really no universal tip. but, if i had to give one out, it would be that texting isn’t a substitute for in person communication. i’ve found to most productive when the reason i’m texting is to a) share something i’ve found funny/ insightful or b) initiate a meet up. anything beyond this is endless clutter and kills attraction due to over-communication.
/r/seduction16/09/20 04:06 PM
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that’s a quality problem to have. usually the switch flips the other way and the man ends up clueless lol.
/r/seduction16/09/20 02:53 PM
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now’s probably the best time to start. no one is going to hand you a golden scroll that gives you the permission to cold approach. but, what’s more important than anything, is making sure you have the right mindsets in place. instead of trying to lure every girl in bed or leeching validation from every girl... you could ask yourself, “how much did i connect with that girl? did i really like her? it is worth taking the interaction forward? ect ect” personally, i believe where cold approach goes w…
/r/seduction16/09/20 08:13 AM
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if anything, the study suggest that it’s difficult to be dominant. since there’s a disproportionate lean (towards submissiveness) in the gender who’s apparently supposed to be more naturally dominant (men), this suggest that, fundamentally, being submissive is a more desirable role. as to why? this is debatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 08:07 AM
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“quality over quantity” riding the cc might prove to give the illusion of being more beneficial at first glance... but it also deprives many people of going deeper in their relationships. whether you find depth more attractive than experience is a personal vendetta. but, i’ve noticed people who typically indulge in hyper-promiscuous behavior, have a hard time building genuine bonds that aren’t just surface deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 07:59 AM
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there’s a time to blow the whistle, and there’s a time to be a silent. if i has information on someone cheating, it’d be hard for me to keep silent - for multiple reasons. mainly, i couldn’t imagine allowing a buddy of mine (male or female) spending the rest of their life with someone who isn’t fully invested. after ratting out the cheater and doing your part, nothing else needs to be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 07:55 AM
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it’s not necessarily about ‘being a man,’ it’s more about being bold enough to express your desires. if you feel like texting then text her. if you feel like she doesn’t like you, point it out. if you feel like you don’t have a strong connection with her, point that out too. contrary to popular advice, don’t hide how you feel. whether you feel - good, bad, or neutral be completely comfortable voicing whatever emotion comes to mind.
/r/seduction15/09/20 10:42 PM
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the question is how do you want to be seen? too much pick up doctrine can often muffle your true personality. how do you feel like you should act? and how do you want your friends to see you? one of these you can control. the other is just a matter of influence.
/r/seduction07/09/20 10:32 PM
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it depends on the context. the smoothies guys i know, use the environment to spark up a conversation and then go from there. now if the question is how many guys are smooth? few and far between.
/r/seduction03/09/20 01:15 PM
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there’s nothing wrong with being 26, unless you’re trapped in your own mind. you have all the opportunity you could ask for at this age, but how often do you take action on them? the girl you see at the grocery store that works your interest, have you tried to approach? or what about the women in similar interest groups, when’s the last time you tried to spark a conversation? i’m not blaming you for your loneliness, but often us guys get so afraid of being labeled as creeps. we shut our mouths a…
/r/seduction03/09/20 01:12 PM
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ask and talk about the things You want to talk about. it sounds like you’re holding back from having the conversations you really want. how do i know this? because a confident man isn’t afraid of making the conversation ‘awkward’. i’m not saying you should ask vulgar things in a distasteful way. but it’s pretty easy to hint at the possibility of sex with flirtatious comments. see how she responds... then ping off of Your Emotions. if you’re not feeling it, the chemistry isn’t there. if you are, …
/r/seduction03/09/20 12:41 PM
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the better question here is how can we make every moment exciting? we’ve all seen those beer bottle holders posted up on the walls of the club like a stone faced painting. it doesn’t matter what you do, or what events you attend... because wherever you go, there you are. the question here is what kind of energy can you provide to make each and every moment of your life a happy. you can be a burden or live in bliss.
/r/seduction02/09/20 02:10 PM
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thanks for providing a solution instead of an insult (:
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:07 PM
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“hey i understand you’re going through some things, but i’m not the best person to talk to about it. can we chat about something else.”
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:34 PM
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the phone should primarily be used to set up dates. i understand that there’s covid going on, but if you don’t intend to meet her in real life, i would keep texting to a minimum. now if you do want to set up a date, what you should be talking about is your schedules. when are both of you available for a meet up, and how quick can you make it happen. don’t be overbearing about it, but ask about her schedule in a playful and fun way. anyways how this helps. good luck my friend.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:33 PM
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it sounds like you’re trying to promulgate this idea of being chivalrous even when you get rejected. yes, you might call it being mature, but some would call it being a white knight. the underlying problem has to do with incongruencies between what you actually want (a romantic partner) and the nature of the relationship in which your fostering (friendship). if a guy genuinely wants to be friends with a girl after being rejected, then let it be. but 9/10 they just want to be ‘friends’ so that so…
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:43 AM
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he probably has a more genuine and authentic connection with these girls than most english speakers ever will. when there’s a connection that can’t be ignored, language holds no barring.
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:23 AM
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the discrepancy here lies in the intention. saying that you’re fine with being friends, when you really want something more romantic, is essentially saying that you’re okay repressing your desires despite getting the short end of the stick. if she wants to take the initiative and try to get to know you more, that’s cool, but what happens in a lot of these friendzone situation is an endless loop of the guy puppy dog chasing the girl. it’s better to swallow your pride and cut ties with a girl who …
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:03 AM
1

that’s not a bad observation, but it’s not necessarily a strong enough case to warrant that men are most thirstier than women. all that’s being implied is that men are stimulated in a different modality than women; which would mean if you engaged women in the manner where they’d become aroused (emotionally) the outcome (sex) would end up being the same. rather than focusing on general arousal stimuli, what might be more interesting is to see whether or not the biological differences between the …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 12:53 AM
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it depends on how deep the love is. there are several layers of love. the two you named are the most superficial. a layer deeper would be surrounded by emotional connection. a layer deeper than that would be intellectual compatibility - falling in love with the way a person thinks. a layer deeper than that is intrinsic knowingness that we’re just right for each other (consciously or subconsciously). although it might seem attractive to skip from the first layer to the last... all layers support …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 06:15 PM
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both genders get thirsty at the same rate... the difference is that women have more ‘water’ to drink from than men. what does ‘water’ mean? when you think about it, women naturally have more sexual dating options than men. women don’t have to pursue a string of guys to have a phone full of options who want to engage in indoor olympics. all they have to do is look pretty and flash a smile, then men (although some of them may be undesirable) will approach them. this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 01:00 PM
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that’s because you’re not expressing your anxiety. what i’m about to say is counterintuitive to any pickup advice you’ll ever receive, but it’s worked for me time and time again. call out the anxiety. be vulnerable. literally tell the girl that you feel anxious (in a genuine way) and why. if there is an emotional connection, the girl will often help you through the anxiety. better yet, once the elephant in room is acknowledged, it often disappears.
/r/seduction30/08/20 12:39 PM
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there’s a reason why they’re dodging you. identify your weird, incongruent behaviors. internalize them. own them. express them completely. then people will genuinely open to you because you were willing to be real.
/r/seduction30/08/20 08:31 AM
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some people dish out what they can’t take.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:27 AM
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i see where you’re coming from, but i’d like to suggest that you don’t really know a person until you’ve seen them go through some challenges. what do i mean by this? even though i’m the surface it may seem like the both of you similar values and morals. even though both of you might agree on a future plan or goal... there’s a lot a person will day or due to hide their real intentions just for the sake of keeping the relationship (even if it goes against their internal desires). examples: -high …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 01:14 AM
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i’m sure you have pure intentions. however, that line of questioning can open up a large, unwanted can of lawsuit worms for any teacher who might take the bait. you’re better off asking another close adult or a mentor who’s not financially bound to you. hope this helps - good luck.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:03 AM
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i’m glad you saw right through there bs
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:58 AM
2

who said it was not ok?
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:55 AM
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this is some counterintuitive advice, but seems to work very well - make the girl uncomfortable. let me explain. if she has a vastly different opinion than yours (she loves feminism and you think the ideology is suboptimal), don’t sit around like a dazed doll while she rambles on about equality. press her on it. make her explain herself. be willing to disagree. this is going to put her in a supplicating frame and give you an opportunity to break the tension (push/ pull). you can break the tensio…
/r/seduction27/08/20 10:51 AM
1

best piece of advice i was given was ugly, simple, but effective. you’re going to die. you come into this life with nothing, and you’re going to leave with nothing. each wasted opportunity to indulge in a new experience, is a wasted segment of your life itself. when accept death as the final stage of life, you realize nothing really matters that much. in essence, you’re free to do whatever you want. how does this tie into approach anxiety? there is nothing to be afraid of. you’re not going to di…
/r/seduction27/08/20 10:46 AM
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you must say busy - with something that you’re more passionate about than the girl you’re currently seeing.
/r/seduction24/08/20 01:36 AM
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like a lot of people have already notated, especially with the landscape of social media and dating today, the only way to keep a woman in check is through this purification through religious indoctrination. i’m not saying it’s good or should be enforced on women, but the only women who i’ve been able to trust have been the ones who believe in some sort of higher power. take God out of the equation, and there’s no grounds for people in general to have an objective moral compass that takes into c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/20 01:11 AM
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be the person that gives first. experience what it feels like to give your undivided attention or touch a girl first. this usually alleviates the fear.
/r/seduction13/03/20 10:36 AM
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don’t even waste your time trying to fuck a girl who doesn’t share the same values as you. it sounds like you’re trying to get a quick lay so you can brag and boast about the ‘christian girl’ you managed to fuck.
/r/seduction13/03/20 07:39 AM
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well the two and two go hand in hand. for men, sex tends to come first - then the personality. for women, it tends to be more about the personality first and then the sex. but both the physical and no. physical aspects of intimacy play a role for each gender. it’s just a matter of which one comes first. in the end, physical intimacy and a spiritual bond are universally daughters after by 99% of people (excluding nuns and monks).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 06:41 PM
1

look up social prime... you might be mildly surprised like tons of other people.
/r/seduction02/03/20 07:16 PM
2

kudos for taking action. most guys would have let that opportunity slip by. but it sounds like the only ‘regrettable’ thing that occurred was not setting up any sort of context for a date. it sounded like you just saw the girl and asked if she wanted to hang. maybe the interaction would have panned out differently if you took a more indirect approach.
/r/seduction02/03/20 07:08 PM
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women are more than likely to be more socially adept than men of equal age for social reasons and evolutionary reasons. women are traditionally approached by men, which gives them constant opportunities to fine tune their social skills. unless you’re one of the few men who are comfortable with putting their neck on the line and approaching, the chances are your social abilities are at a significant disadvantage to the women your age. solution? start learning how to put yourself out there. start …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 01:17 AM
1

in my opinion, many guys know they’ll never be chad, so they try to compensate for it other ways (gifting, over complementing, neediness, ect). what most men are truly mad about isn’t the fact that they’ll never be the leader, it’s the heartbreaking reality that most women don’t care or appreciate their vein investments (monetary or emotional). not saying that the woman should have declined the offer. but any person who invest in something and doesn’t see a return on it will inevitably be irate.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 08:11 AM
3

you’re over thinking it. go out, have fun, flirt and see if the girl is a good fit.
/r/seduction19/02/20 01:17 PM
3

i’d argue that there is something in most humans that resonates with the sentiment that we are more than just our physical appearance or the utilitarian value we can provide. it’s no surprise that men value more attractive women, yet there’s still a subset of females who are outraged because a man can’t ‘love me for me’. the reality is, this metaphysical portion of ourselves (call it the soul) is transmitted through our physical bodies. though it may seem superficial, our outer world more than l…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 02:21 AM
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be willing to walk away from someone who isn’t enthusiastic about you define your core values/ beliefs and look for partners who can compliment your vision establish boundaries to enforce a baseline level of self-respect have a vision/ idea of where you want your relationship to go don’t take dating too seriously. sit back, have fun, and let time solidify the bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 10:42 PM
19

why would any man feel incentivized to improve themselves/ society if all women would settle for a sloppy bum?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 10:36 PM
2

women have dozens and dozens of options. what makes you think she wants to choose you? and what makes you think she has the self-control to say no to someone better? and why would she say no to someone better? the odds are not in your favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 10:33 PM
1

if you’re able to label yourself normie, you’re not a normie
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:44 PM
1

i don’t think the attraction at hand is based on being the ‘crazy chick’. what seems to be happening is as you’ve adopted this crazy persona, you have the forthrightness to bring up and address certain things that are bothering you in the relationship. too many times women let things slide which makes the relationship ‘feel like something is missing’. when a woman speaks up and address her problems it can create conflict... but that conflict and tension is how a relationship grows. grows sparks …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 03:42 PM
7

There’s a difference between being high-value and having baseline self-respect. Run away from entitled people who don’t respect your time.
/r/seduction16/01/20 01:33 AM
2

Very good advice. Well said
/r/seduction26/10/19 03:08 PM
10

This is probably going to be controversial but play the tool. Play up the fact that they’re flirting and even encourage the girl to be with the other guy. This displays that you really don’t care and she’ll wonder why he likes her but not you. Doesn’t work every time but it’s your best shot. PS: Don’t practice your game at work it’s not worth messing with your money $$.
/r/seduction26/10/19 03:08 PM
14

Escalate gauge escalate gauge. Start with small touches on the hands/ knees then slowly move to more intimate areas. She’ll let you know if she doesn’t like what you’re doing with her expressions if she’s uncomfortableness. If it’s not a clear yes, it’s a distinctive no. Back off start small again and build up until she becomes more comfortable. Sometimes the ship just doesn’t sail - don’t take it personally.
/r/seduction26/10/19 03:05 PM
1

Why would you even put up with her bullshit in the first place? A girl shouldn’t give you shit especially a girl you’ve been with for 5 months. She should know that her replacement is just a phone call away if she doesn’t act right and respect you. Also it’s not about being a pacified snowflake who never gets mad because he’s afraid that the girl will leave. It’s about having such a good life that she can walk at any time and you’d hardly notice she disappeared. Hopefully the door hit her on the…
/r/seduction25/10/19 09:02 PM
1

There is no such thing as an alpha female when it comes to attraction. Either she gets with the program or she doesn’t. If the girl doesn’t submit to you early on into the interaction, move on. Trying to make her submit when she doesn’t want to will only cause resent and management issues on the backend.
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:53 PM
5

No, you fucked up by overreacting the first time. Never let a girl get under your skin - period.
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:51 PM
3

It’s too hard to diagnose the problem with this short synopsis, but it sounds like you’re trying too hard to get people to like you. What do you stand for? What type of people do you want in your life? And where would you find those people. If you don’t know yourself or who you are, it’s easy for others to shrug you off like a leaf in the wind.
/r/seduction23/10/19 03:56 PM
2

Observational openers usually work the best. Comment on something about her (a quirk or her style). PS: I would also wait to get off the bus as approaching a girl in a confined space can make her feel trapped.
/r/seduction19/10/19 03:48 AM
1

There’s nothing more creepy than ending up in some back alley town 50 minutes away from home. Hopefully that helps you pick the right solution...
/r/seduction19/10/19 03:47 AM
3

Nothing trumps flesh to flesh communication.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:19 AM
3

It’s good that you have a solid game plan. However, assuming you even like this girl is a fatal mistake. Putting a stranger on a throne is never conducive for a mutually valuable interaction. I would suggest replacing your minute anxieties over all the trivial details with an overriding question of ‘Do I like this girl or not’? Start with a clear head my friend, and allow the girl the opportunity to impress you. Hope that helps bud. Good luck.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:17 AM
6

When you see a pretty woman (especially if she gives you eye contact and smiles) approach. Set this rule for yourself in life and you might begin to notice dozens of opportunities that sprout up seemingly out of nowhere.
/r/seduction14/10/19 11:26 AM
1

Depends on what kind of game you’re learning. In my experience, there’s two camps of thought in this industry. 1) The pickup artist approach which has the mentality of ‘f*ck anything that resembles a female’. They’ll usually use tactics and manipulation to convince girls they’re not even that attracted to to go home with them. This is pretty slimy and unhealthy, and usually results in a feeling of emptiness. 2) The defining your standards approach (hardcore screening). This method is much more h…
/r/seduction14/10/19 11:25 AM
1

The whole notion of good vs bad attitude can be summed up in a few words. Responsibility vs Blame. People who take personal responsibility for their actions and their outcomes (bad or good), typically qualifies as an individual with a positive outlook on life. The other half consist of the blamers who rush to take credit for the honorable events in their life but quickly dismiss any involvement with negative results even if they’re directly tied to the negative outcome. To be clear, I’m not advo…
/r/seduction14/10/19 01:45 AM
2

No worries man, it's a lot of information to take in. I'm kind of short on time right now, but feel free to pm me with your questions if you want to learn more.
/r/seduction07/10/19 03:21 PM
5

There are a lot of variations of the 'average frustrated chump' that aren't important for you to know. What's really important is viewing approaching as a discovery process and not a dog and pony show where you have to dance and entertain the girl or... 'play your cards right'. The natural process of approaching follows a few key principles: 1) Approach her like you mean it. Don't half step the approach or you will be ignored. Sub communicate that you are a man deserving of her time with strong …
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:48 PM
1

Lol, that's like chasing a ghost man. Anyways good luck on whatever course of action you decide.
/r/seduction07/10/19 01:01 PM
1

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is pure disrespect behavior. A girl wouldn't do this to a man she admires and respects. She sees your clear lack of boundaries and is blatantly having sex with another guy in your face because she knows you won't do anything about it.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:43 PM
0

A mom and daughter together is a gift sent from God. Just ask the mom if she's the daughter's sister. 9/10 after that short joke/ compliment she will be more than willing to allow you to mix and mingle with her daughter.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:40 PM
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Some girls are so used to guys hitting on them, it's almost like unwanted spam in their email. Try to break the ice by saying more polarizing things in a fun and playful way. If she doesn't warm up after 1-2 minutes, its probably time to move on to the next one. Quick side note: It's important to understand that you're not meant for everyone. Some people are going to like you, some people are going to hate you. That's just the natural order of the way things are.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:37 PM
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No, no, no, no. Have enough respect for your time and set clear boundaries and expectations for yourself and her. If you're interested in this girl, why would you settle for just being friends? The only thing this going to amount to is residual resentment on your part. Have the courage and dignity to be willing to walk away if the terms and conditions of the interaction doesn't meet your needs.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:33 PM
0

First thing I'd recommend is not trying to push things forward too fast. It's always better to take things slow, especially if this is your first time meeting this woman. When she comes, give her enough time to settle down and relax before making a move. Often times when you're watching a movie while having a conversation, she'll give you subtle signs and signals that she's interested in you and ready to move things forward.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:30 PM
1

Too many emojis and exclamations. Use them sparingly my friend.
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:17 AM
1

Why on earth would you remove her?
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:11 AM
1

Dropped the ball when you failed to sexually comment on her nipple piercings. And the texting style just screams ‘please put me in the friendzone’
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:05 AM
5

Lol we’ve all had that thought. But what’s worse a stranger who you’re probably never going to see again calling you creepy, or... dying as a virgin?
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:01 AM
2

Unless there’s some contextual relevance to your message, it’s probably going to fall flat pretty on its face. The highest odds of success probably lies somewhere between sending an observational message that’s relevant to her and her profile... and then relating it back to you/ some commonality you have with her.
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:58 AM
1

Depends on her interest level. Try to read between the lines. If she’s showing you heavy indicators of interest, it’s usually an easy, socially acceptable excuse to escalate things at a private location.
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:49 AM
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There’s usually a reason why you’re single at the age. Not saying it’s a bad thing, but the most probably cause is because your lack of action. More likely than not, there’s nothing wrong with you... but your inertia when it comes to approaching girls is probably holding you back. Before assessing yourself too harshly I would consider expanding your social interaction sample size. Start talking to the women you find attractive on the spot whenever you meet them. Essentially, take more action and…
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:47 AM
1

It has to do more with perceived value than the overall weight. Being obese isn’t necessarily looked at as an ideal state of being. In this day and age, people might perceive your weight as a trademark for other unattractive habits hidden in the background. Sloth, lack of self-control, and greed can all be associated with a bloated physique. Mind you, the aforementioned qualities do not apply for those with medical conditions. However, the women won’t know more than what’s on the surface level a…
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:43 AM
5

The politically incorrect answer is... a man values his time while a women is more likely to value her body. When a man spends an indefinite amount of time with a girl without receiving any physical reciprocation... it generally feels like a loss to him because his time could have been better spent doing more valuable things. However, when a women is showered with validation and it feeds into her self image/ body that she so highly valued, she doesn’t mind spending her time as long as it makes h…
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:36 AM
2

Imagine this. You go to a bank with a million dollar bill waving on your chest that practically signals ‘I’m rich’. Every employee is willing to bend over backwards to help you deposit that cash. Now imagine a similar scenario but this time the million dollar bill is hidden in your pocket. When you walk into the bank, you’ll be treated like a normal civilian. The first situation describes how women are treated since their value is primarily predicated in their looks. The second refers to a man’s…
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:31 AM
1

The goal of this forum isn’t to praise undeserving men who thinks nothing is as good as doing something. The goal of this forum is to bridge the gap between people who know they could be better and give them the necessary tools they need to succeed. Long story short, you are good enough as long as you continue to build your value and better yourself as a man. However, diluting yourself with the belief that you are good enough without having to do anything at all is just simply irrational.
/r/seduction07/10/19 04:20 AM
3

Attraction is built in real life. There’s no ninja texting trick that’s going to raise a girls attraction for you via cyberspace. Use the phone to set up dates... not to be the joke man. PS: 99% of girls are not going to open the flood gates and invite you to her place in day one. Never ask to go to the girls house on the first date (it’s just plain creepy and weird). Do something relatively inexpensive like the park or a bar. At the end of the date, invite her back to your place.
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:28 AM
2

Slow and steady wins the race. Rushing a relationship with guys tend to push us away. The only guys who will be willing to instantly couple up are those who don’t have a lot of options. And if a guy doesn’t have that many options, he’s probably a low value loser. The best way to secure a high value guy is to be his long-term support. There’s also a pretty common saying, “You never find what you’re looking for.” It’ll come at its own pace, but for now - wish you luck.
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:18 AM
5

It doesn’t make contextual sense to follow her if you’re not even a relevant part of her life. Take the time to talk to her in real life, so that she doesn’t mistake you for those world renowned DM creeps.
/r/seduction23/09/19 07:32 PM
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Get her attention with a light tap and talk to her. The more your fantasize about the girl in the hoodie, the less likely it is your interaction will go well. Next time you see her, take a direct path from you to her and make something happen.
/r/seduction23/09/19 07:29 PM
1

There’s no book that’s going to sprinkle magical confidence dust after you read it. You gain self-esteem by cultivating skills and becoming competent at something. That competence will transfer to other areas of life and make you a more attractive person overall.
/r/seduction23/09/19 07:27 PM
1

Doesn’t sound like he knows what he’s doing, but you can take the invite if you really want to make it happen.
/r/seduction23/09/19 07:23 PM
8

You don’t really seem like the bad guy to me. On that note, neither of these girls seem to fit your current life circumstances. Ones in a completely different country, the other just isn’t at a point in their life that is relatable / (beneficial) for you to pursue. Why don’t you broaden your horizon and find more girls that would be a better fit for you.
/r/seduction16/09/19 03:00 PM
4

Don’t know where to start off? Approach every girl you’re attracted to in the face of fear. It’s not going to be perfect at first but you will be proud that you did it whether it was ‘successful’ or not.
/r/seduction13/09/19 06:33 PM
39

Eight isn’t a sufficient sample size my friend. At the very least try to talk to one girl a day -whether they’re alone or not. The primary ‘goal’ is to have fun with the process and be consistent. If you can do these two things given your current circumstances (your looks and your job) you will see results much sooner than you might think.
/r/seduction13/09/19 03:50 PM
3

Don’t shit where you eat. Unless she’s giving you strong interest signals, I wouldn’t try to seduce girls in the work place.
/r/seduction13/09/19 12:46 AM
0

The book of life.
/r/seduction13/09/19 12:39 AM
3

They matter but probably not as much as you think. Think of looks as marketing. It might get your foot in the door but if your product sucks and lacks substance no one will buy.
/r/seduction13/09/19 12:29 AM
1

Sounds like you just haven’t solidified the experience. Most women flake because the interaction was short, forgettable, or she wasn’t that attracted to you. When you have these girls that are hyper engaged, try moving her around the venue. Go from the dance floor, the bar, to the lounge. Also instead of giving a girl your number, take initiative and get hers. You want to be in the steering wheel to facilitate the date. It puts you in the position as a good leader and takes the pressure off of h…
/r/seduction11/09/19 01:55 PM
3

Adopt the buyer frame instead of the seller. Let’s say you were going in for a job interview. Instead of telling the employer why you’d be such a good fit, flip the script and ask why the company would be right for you. Same applies with women. You’re not there to entertain her and get her to like you. You’re there to figure out if she’s a good fit for you.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:54 PM
2

Girls will typically give you signs on when it’s okay to make the move. Be aware of how she responds to your advances, how she looks at you, and if she’s also mutually touching you. Usually if a girl is comfortable with touching you, you have a green light to escalate and touch her back.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:47 PM
1

You don’t have to lie and you don’t have to admit you’re a virgin. Just tell her something along the lines of, “A gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell.” She should respect you for not being a blabber mouth because that means you won’t go around telling people what she does with you.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:43 PM
2

Why would you bring up this subject if she hasn’t in the first place? Keep it light, fun, and moving. If she mentions anything about a relationship, that’s when you address it.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:40 PM
1

Use the kiss test. Lean in about 80% of the way and see if she moves in for the remaining 20%. If she doesn’t, just play it off.
/r/seduction08/09/19 10:06 AM
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Logic does apply. Usually something like this is a result of some random life malfunction on her end which could have resulted in her blocking you. Ie: drunk girl expresses she’s willing to hook-up but later on feels buyers remorse because she was drunk (cause and effect). The main thing to remember is sometimes it’s not your fault and external random things happen. Anyways take it easy bro, good luck with the next one 👊
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:15 PM
1

Not sure what the parameters of the break up was but sounds like you’re taking her back too easily. If sex is your outcome set that expectation up front. If you don’t, it’s very easy to put an ex in the friend zone.
/r/seduction05/09/19 06:18 PM
2

Pull back and relax. Sometimes we never know what we have until it’s gone. Not saying you should break up, but just be patient and wait for him to chase you a bit.
/r/seduction05/09/19 06:13 PM
2

Get it fixed now or leave things how they are. If it’s a priority and funds aren’t an issue, I endorse your courage step forward
/r/seduction05/09/19 05:28 PM
11

Oneitis is usually the byproduct of not having a career, passion, or mission that you’re currently pursuing. Pussy tends to run away if it’s your only purpose.
/r/seduction05/09/19 05:22 PM
1

Never blatantly tell a woman you're not getting any sex. If you want to be honest do it in a playful way ie: "It's been a while since I've polished my sword..." but don't be direct or insecure about not getting laid. These things happen and this is a pristine opportunity to practice. ​ Good luck bud
/r/seduction05/09/19 12:34 PM
7

Sometimes the vajayjay is not open for business.
/r/seduction05/09/19 12:30 PM
1

Most of the time when a woman tries to get you to prove yourself, it's best to play it off and disqualify. I'd say something to the effect of, "Nothing, I'm an average Joe... with good intentions."
/r/seduction05/09/19 12:28 PM
2

In my experience, the first 10 seconds usually goes wrong because the girl doesn't know why you're there. It's typically better to go direct in day time scenarios. If you're going to go indirect, I would quickly follow-up with the reason why you're there. Ex: “Do you know if there’s any good coffee shops around here?” “Yeah, there’s a Starbucks over there.” "Just kidding, I know this might seem random, but I thought you were cute and had to introduce myself."
/r/seduction04/09/19 11:00 AM
1

The dynamic of the relationship
/r/seduction19/08/19 01:00 PM
1

One word - tonality. It's not about what you say but how you say it. There's a good chance when you're talking to a girl you sound too friendly. You could say "How did your wedding pictures turn out? I bet you looked good in that dress," in two different ways, platonically or sexually, by solely changing the intonation of your voice.
/r/seduction19/08/19 01:08 AM
1

Very simple. Screen whether the girl's sexual preference matches yours. When you go out and meet women and there's obviously attraction, you can offer the idea of having anal sex in a fun nonchalant way. Based on how she responds to your suggestion (physically/ verbally) you'll be able to tell if she's a good fit for you. If not then no worries, it's just a mismatch of preferences. When you quickly screen and have no trouble moving onto the next girl, I can guarantee you, you will find a girl wh…
/r/seduction19/08/19 01:01 AM
1

Approaching women should not be the result of a need. It should come from a curiosity frame where you're looking to 'discover' whether she's a good fit or not. My thought process typically going along the lines of: "Hmm.. that's a really attractive girl, I wonder what she's about - let me go approach."
/r/seduction19/08/19 12:55 AM
2

This is probably not going the advice that you want to hear, but you need to pull back. It's obviously okay to flirt with a girl and have sexual adventures, however, she should be the bringing up the relationship topic. ​ If the guy is the one who brings up wanting a relationship, you're screwed. Even if she accepts your invitation to be a couple, she will have the majority of the power in the relationship. ​ On the bright side, it seems like you're aware of your own feelings and can now take ac…
/r/seduction19/08/19 12:47 AM
3

Something that's helped me act in the face of fear (demotivation in this case) is constantly internalizing this mantra - "I'm the type of guy who instantly approaches whenever I see an attractive girl." It might be difficult at first, but once you engrain this belief into your personal code of conduct you'll notice how it becomes second nature to approach any girl that catches your eye. ​ Also taking the pressure of yourself to approach by shifting your mentality to "I'm going to get her to like…
/r/seduction19/08/19 12:41 AM
1

The purpose of snapchat is not to have a back and forth conversation with a girl (you might as well be her friendzoned texting buddy if that's what you're after). Snapchat is a tool to convey your life/ personality through your story. The girls with high interest will consistently watch your stories. That's when you message them with the sole intention of meeting up for a date.
/r/seduction19/08/19 12:34 AM
3

Too much supplication. Tone it down and assume a more masculine frame.
/r/seduction19/08/19 12:29 AM
1

At the book store
/r/seduction23/05/19 06:55 PM
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