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interesting-mug/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 05:29 PM
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Attractive men don’t have to sleep their way to the top. They get their privilege on vibes. Which makes sense; we evolved to trust and value attractive people more. Attractive people also generally have natural, easy confidence (from getting their way all the time lol). Confidence puts people at ease, regardless of whether it’s actually earned. Articles about this to prove I’m not just making this up: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2021/11/04/attractive-people-have-a-big-advantage-in-the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:06 PM
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It all depends on how the individual plays their cards. You can squander your opportunities or take advantage of them. If a hot girl decides to stay in and read, she’s not going to be partying on a yacht with billionaires. Or if she decides she loves Cheetos more than life itself, and she gets depression and stops putting effort into her looks, she might still have the good genes and facial structure but it is not going to benefit her. Conversely, a hot guy can use or squander his opportunities …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 04:12 PM
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An attractive man gets stuff handed to him, too. Attractive people get the benefit of the doubt, better opportunities, more growth at work, and so on. You can’t pretend it’s only women who reap the benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:33 PM
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Fight Club
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 03:08 AM
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It ended up clearing up on its own… although I have always been curious about using an electric razor!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:32 PM
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Facial hair is immediately visible and hard to look past if you’re not pulling off the look well. Normally, especially in professional settings, you’re not seeing a woman’s body hair. The big difference is the hair is on your face so it’s unavoidable. If a woman has horrid-looking painted-on eyebrows, people are going to notice and talk and treat her differently. And conversely, if a guy has stubble or a beard and it looks good/intentional, no one is going to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:05 PM
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If a woman doesn’t shave her armpits for a few days or even a week or so, most people won’t notice or care (longer if you’re not particularly hairy). The amount of time it takes to fully grow out your pit hair is equivalent to a man growing a long beard, not stubble. Source: I certainly don’t shave my armpits daily, and no one gives af or thinks I’m making a political statement. I did grow out my armpit hair once, but ironically my very liberal, feminist mom and sister pressured me to stop, sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 12:57 PM
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ADHD people are so much fun to talk to, since they’re creative thinkers and often funny. I don’t think that one is much of an issue, other than sometimes being unintentionally rude. It’s also so common nowadays that it’s not hard to find others to join your wild tangents. Autistic people are often so far on their own wavelength I think it can be alienating. Everyone I know who has OCD seems pretty normal until you really get to know them (of course, there are different levels of OCD so maybe the…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:12 AM
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Yeah, I don’t think it’s quite as gendered as most people seem to believe. I think women often have the emotional intelligence to soften these kinds of questions/ “tests” in a way that some men might not. And women who feel like outsiders/poseurs in nerd spaces, like OP seems to, might take gentle ribbing/teasing as an insult because they’re already primed to look for rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 08:09 PM
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As a fellow Kanye fan, each of his albums feels like an “era” to me, so “what’s your fave Kanye album” would be my first question as well. Not to be an asshole, but just bc The College Dropout is so sonically different from Yeezus. And if someone doesn’t know any of his albums, I’d probably be quietly judging them, but I’d find out which singles they like and then tell them the album it’s from lol. I’m a woman, and I totally do all this to people too. It’s not just a man thing. In my defense, it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 05:46 PM
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Well said!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 03:59 AM
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Personally I’ve never been one for casual sex, I’m a serial monogamist. I don’t really like feeling like I have to win a guy over, either (too much pride), I prefer being won over and loved. On a desert island, it would be different than IRL because I’d have to consider survivalist factors that don’t really come into account living in the modern age. Like, our movie tastes or degrees matter much less on a desert island. And our ability to start fires from flint and coconut hairs is much more imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:48 PM
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What documentary is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:24 PM
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It feels creepy and wrong, for a lot of women, to go out with a guy who’s a lot younger. I’d assume it’s mostly social conditioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:21 PM
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Why do they have to have sex, though? What about cooperating platonically to survive the desert island, like on Survivor? Probably taking the prompt too literally, but if I’m on a desert island I’m going to try my hardest not to get pregnant. Because the lack of doctors or healthcare. I don’t want to die during childbirth. So I will avoid having sex and instead focus my efforts on making a weatherproof bungalow.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:15 PM
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Most straight porn is intentionally full of ugly guys whose faces are cropped out of most shots. Don’t pretend women don’t swoon over hot guys— we certainly do. These hot guys are simply not represented in most porn. Possibly because it would turn off the straight men who make up 90% of viewership to see a really attractive guy in porn (would make them feel jealous and inadequate). Men should be glad that looks are only a part of what attracts a woman. We’re not as visual as men, and we tend to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 09:00 PM
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I’m incapable of feeling attraction to someone who doesn’t treasure me. I guess that makes me lucky (or a narcissist? Lol). It ends up with me being “the adored” in every relationship I’ve been in. But I also like being nice to my partner. Being treated well makes me want to reciprocate. I’d feel so bad if he thought I didn’t care/ thought he was “mid”. If people could just learn to enjoy the calm happiness of emotional harmony, rather than needing the stimulation of drama and discord, I think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 04:36 PM
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Yes. It’s why when a guy asks for advice the only advice another guy will give him is “gym and earn money”. They have a skewed view of what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:06 AM
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Historically, the dead bedroom thing was probably evolutionarily useful pre-birth control, so people didn’t have like 20 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:04 AM
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The girl who gets all this red carpet treatment is like the guy who gets constant promotions at work because he’s attractive and mildly competent. Sure, we’d all like to be blessed. But you know, the hardships of life are where all the personal growth comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 10:51 PM
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The “abundance of spinsters” was actually a combo of widows and spinsters according to this book. And part of it was because there were actually jobs for women (like how Jane Eyre leaves home to be a governess), so some women didn’t have to marry, although most still felt immense social pressure to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 12:25 PM
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Yeah, but honestly letting go of that resentment is what’s best for you. People are like this when you become successful too— I sometimes look at it as unlocking a new level of people (I still treasure my nonjudgmental old friends though). I don’t want to miss out on things because I’m projecting my past onto new people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:01 AM
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I had the same experience when I lost weight. I was surprised that women were nicer to me (I’m a woman). It really is a shock to suddenly be treated nicely by people who ignored you before. I ended up rationalizing it that I probably unconsciously do this to people too (though I try to be nice to everyone).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 11:55 PM
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Paul would be a much better catch because he’s hot but has the personality of someone who has to work for things. Or he becomes bitter that people treat him better now and is unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 10:05 PM
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Well, I don’t have any stats to back this up but I would bet that autistic women probably have a lot more trouble dating than non-autistic women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 02:55 PM
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That’s different. I think most people take a few photos and pick the best one. My mom does that lol. It’s more about how obvious and desperate the actual pictures are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:06 PM
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From his pics, he’s the male equivalent of dating an Instagram girl. Hard pass even before you get to the red pill stuff, which makes it seem he’s likely to be rude and treat me poorly. I don’t even look twice at guys like this. Now, show me a guy who posts funny things, is creative and handsome without the need to flash his abs in every picture…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:03 PM
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Nah, there are gay men who are masculine. Like they chop wood and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 09:42 PM
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I think of it as a vast series of traits commonly shared by men. Or perhaps the qualities that differentiate men from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:42 PM
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Absolutely. There was this guy I just completely fell for when I was like 18, he was much older and nothing ever happened (he was a gentleman… and I never said anything about liking him lol, I was too embarrassed and I knew the age gap made things a no-go). He was a 36 year old grad student in art, and I was taking some art classes. His studio area was right next to where I would do my painting homework and we’d hang out all the time, and he’d give me critiques on my paintings and introduce me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:21 PM
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I think it’s best to start off cheap anyway, if money is an issue for you. Personally, I’ve always preferred going halfsies, because it really feels transactional otherwise. I don’t want to feel indebted to some guy I just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 08:45 PM
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Mostly his height or an inch or two shorter, though one of his gfs was taller than him tho and he didn’t care. I think he has a confident vibe, like he’s not very reactive and will just be quiet unless he has something to say. Usually in conversation he comes in with a very dark joke that either cracks everyone up or has them gasping in horror.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 03:29 PM
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I think a lot of women at this point have acquainted themselves with the signs of PUA techniques (or even if not, can vaguely tell the guy is being fake). Much better to be sincere and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 02:51 PM
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There must be something else wrong. My brother is 5’5” and he works at a health insurance company and is definitely not rich, and he doesn’t have any problems dating lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 02:49 PM
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I think part of it is the single-event annoyances are more noticeable/more cut-and-dry than the vague, personality-driven red flags, which are more akin to slow frog boiling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:52 PM
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It depends on the secrets I’m hiding. Is it something I’m already hiding and thus is a continuation of the status quo? Yes I will hide that. Is it something everyone I know already knows about me? I would find a partner who can accept those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:45 PM
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I’ve only had sex with two people. I don’t like random strangers and I only sleep with someone I’m in a committed relationship with. I think my number is a little low but not abnormal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:23 PM
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That was the most frustrating news story ever. Especially when it turned out the guy was exploiting a rental loophole to get a free ride. And really, why was it news? Two people have a dispute over a bike rental?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:24 PM
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I’m saying if you approach people as individuals without conflating them with your past interactions with others who share their physical characteristics, you will have more fun (and have more people in your life).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:20 AM
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Absolutely. People are individuals, and just as you wouldn’t want to be painted with a broad brush and assumed to have the worst stereotypical behavior of your in-group, you shouldn’t do it to other people. That said, some stereotypes exist for a reason, some behaviors are more common among certain groups. But applying that thought process to an individual or assuming a group is a monolith will lead to your life being smaller and less fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:07 AM
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I’m married… but also I’m cursed with an existential loneliness that all the friends, loved ones, and DMs in the world can’t cure
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:09 AM
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Ok, first of all, DMs don’t really fix loneliness. People want real, meaningful human interaction. And our culture currently is unintentionally designed to isolate people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:54 PM
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Oh, so every guy on this sub is jacked? REALLY
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:51 PM
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When something bad happens, it’s more memorable. There’s a theory that says we evolved this way as a survival instinct. But the result of this is when we see bad behavior from the opposite sex, it’s much more memorable than good or neutral behavior— which leads to us putting too much weight on the unpleasant anecdata. I think both genders do this and it leads to these endless circular discussions
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:41 PM
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You ever wonder if it’s your circle of friends that’s like this? I know one couple who cheated (but they got together and got married so it seems to have worked out for them). But most people I know, male or female, don’t cheat on their partners. Or they have not gotten caught lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:36 PM
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If you’re not getting women at or below your level of attractiveness, you need to reassess your own purported “levels”. And take in the whole picture, not just your looks. Most people who are single are so because they can’t find someone who meets their standard. This is just life for single people, it’s not special and it’s not gendered. It’s part of the human experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:14 PM
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Hmm, I love me some submissive men… I totally have that fetish and I’m female. I’m a writer and I noticed that a lot of weird girls were really hot and bothered over a male character I wrote who is coded as submissive (I didn’t mean to, it’s just how it came out, lol). I think women tend to have different outlets for these interests than men do, which is why the fetish subreddits skew so much more toward men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:22 PM
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It’s your personal preference, not a trend. Some guys find feminine women more attractive. It’s better this way because then there’s someone for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:17 PM
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Aside from the human trafficking/being in prison (a deal-breaker for most), he has said he should have the right to cheat on his woman (but not vice versa), condescends to women, and has this really pathetic vibe where he seems like he’s trying way too hard to impress people. It makes his condescension really transparent, because it doesn’t even look like he’s just a confident guy who gives no fucks. He seems like he cares way too much and is putting on a very sad act. I don’t know if there’s a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 02:50 PM
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Curiosity. I’m a writer so I want to understand the human condition! (And men! I want to write more realistic male characters, or at least different types.) This is a place where people frequently say things I disagree with, which is helpful in understanding other perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 02:46 PM
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Here’s a sincere question- how is makeup and clothes objectification? Even if it’s a mating ritual to attract sexual partners, why does that necessarily involve objectification? One could say makeup and clothes are a way of signaling to the world who we are, which is the opposite of objectification IMO. And it’s rather hard to objectify yourself, since you know (from being in your head) that you’re a person with a whole personality. Not to say that some people don’t want to be objectified (perve…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 10:48 PM
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Archive of Our Own is mostly sexy fanfics. There’s also tumblr which has a lot of that kind of thing. Tends to skew younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:16 AM
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Yeah! I was making a joke with that. Although women have historically loved the “starving artist” type.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:14 AM
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The way women consume erotic content is often different from men. I think women are more drawn to erotic literature than men are (like Archive of our Own, steamy ebooks, etc), while men tend to be more visual (hence porn videos and thirst trap pics).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:26 PM
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50 Shades of Grey is the rich man category 😂 But I guess with porn, there’s “gay for pay” which implies the dude is broke
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:22 PM
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The point is, people online have been saying this for decades about this song. I happen to love Taylor’s music so I was very attuned to the fact that YBWM (and her other extremely catty song, another personal fave, Better Than Revenge) have been heavily criticized for being ”problematic”. I personally find this kind of discourse extremely dumb because it’s art and art isn’t necessarily supposed to follow any sort of morality/social norms. In fact, some might say art exists as a release valve to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:36 AM
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I’m sorry The New York Times didn’t run a front-page story dissecting Taylor’s lyrics…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:33 AM
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Here’s a sampling from a quick google search: https://symptomsofliving.com/blog/you-belong-with-me-is-the-anthem-to-internalised-misogyny https://www.avclub.com/emily-heller-on-taylor-swift-s-slut-shaming-you-belong-1798286516 https://medium.com/@saraswatipalnitkar/you-belong-with-me-is-misogynist-heres-an-analysis-5f524d883554 https://meetingofmindsuk.uk/grad-zine/heres-how-culture-produces-and-perpetuates-the-pick-me-girl/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:23 PM
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I agree with you. I have… interesting taste in men. I guess I have the hipster mentality where if everyone likes a band I’ll think they’re overrated unless it’s The Beatles, but applied to men lol. I like a diamond in the rough. I am much more interested in personality, talent, and temperament. I find a wide array of guys attractive, but usually only once I get a feel for who they are. So just based on a picture alone without personality context, I might be harsher in my ratings. Like, a normal-…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:41 PM
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Lowkey agree, if the woman wants her guy to follow rigid gender norms, then she should expect the same. However, paying for dates and opening doors etc is not an equal exchange for housekeeping, cooking, and child-rearing. I feel like she’d need a LOT of expensive gifts for that to not be a complete rip-off. If a woman doesn’t have her own source of income she is basically trapped. That is another, more insidious aspect of living by strict gender norms. It makes more sense to split things in a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 07:09 PM
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Admittedly, my dating history is pretty odd in that I have only dated 2 people total (not counting a handful of chemistry-free, one-off dates that were like torture), and each turned into serious long-term relationships. But I didn’t know it at the time, so things did start out as casual. The fact that meeting new guys felt like torture, as aforementioned, probably explains why I haven’t had flings. I like having a ride-or-die.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:15 AM
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I mean, most people are looking for long-term relationships, and basically all relationships start out as casual, so… shrug. I don’t know, I’ve never had flings, I’ve only had serious relationships, so I have no personal reference point for what you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:40 AM
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Oh dear lord
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:11 AM
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In terms of long term relationships, women want a sense of stability. Having money is basically having stability. When we gaze into the terrifying unknown of the future, knowing that there is some capital to fall back on in cases of unemployment, emergencies, or building a family, is critical to one’s sense of security/stability. As Kanye West once said, “having money’s not everything, not having it is”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:06 AM
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“Leftists”? Really!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:10 PM
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I think it’s something to bring up early on in a relationship and find out if you’re on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:02 PM
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I’d say to screen out people who do that, if it bothers you. It shows an incompatibility. And it does seem unfair to ask someone to change this about herself. Some guys feel pride when they see a hot pic of their gf on social media, so those guys should probably date the thirst trap girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:01 PM
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The men who get approached by women are ones who signal their good personality, by being charming, easygoing, and looking like they enjoy life. Most women don’t want a 10. We just want someone to share our lives with. I cant even tell if the people in my life are objectively attractive, because I like them as people so much that I see them all as beautiful. Most women don’t just randomly approach strangers. They need a glimpse of who you are as a person before deciding if you’re attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:35 AM
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Honestly, the best reason to work out your core muscles is for your own good. It’s important for longevity and prevents back injuries!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:32 AM
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Nice shoulders are very attractive! They give you an angularity that is visually appealing. Personally, I like lean guys the best. Being overly buff is a turn off. But there’s a huge variety of preferences other women have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:31 AM
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Disagree about style. It’s super important to most women, even if they don’t realize it. But the key is to dress in accordance with your personality. Style signals who you are/who you’re looking for. Looking put-together signals that you are attentive and have your shit together. If you want a cute goth gf, you’ll attract them more if you dress more alternative (for instance, a funny, flattering graphic tee and black jeans). If you want a normal girl, wear plaid button-ups. If you want a hot gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:28 AM
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I went on a date with a fat guy once! He was legit fat, morbidly obese. He was really smart and interesting, too. Unfortunately he had bad hygiene that I simply couldn’t get past and I did not go on any other dates with him. I hope he’s learned about the wonders of deodorant in the interim.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:59 PM
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My husband says “chubby girls look better than chubby guys because in each case their boobs get bigger”. Lol there might be a grain of truth there. I will have you know I defended chubby guys though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 09:45 PM
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It’s funny because it’s this kind of defeatist attitude that is the biggest turn-off to women (and people in general). Like, it doesn’t have to be music (that’s just an example). Find something positive and interesting about yourself/your interests and foster it. The thing most women find attractive in men is some sort of passion. It makes them interesting. And it makes them seem like fun to be around, because someone who follows their passions is clearly having fun in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:40 PM
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My husband is 5’9” and he dated plenty of women before me. And he’s literally never gone to the gym either. Most women IRL will be far more impressed if you’re in a band over being buff and tall, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 07:03 AM
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We have our ups and downs like anyone else, but yes, very happy. We get along really great and I’m lucky to have found a really loyal, loving guy. It’s funny though, we’ve actually talked about the “hot vs pretty vs cute” and he agreed I’m cute (and pretty, according to him—smart man) rather than hot. He didn’t say it in a mean way… it’s just like… demonstrable reality, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 05:25 AM
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This is me to a T. I’m the definition of cute. I’m so very not hot, and it has a lot to do with demeanor (not graceful or sexy), confidence (low to none), and my weird sense of humor. I’ve never had much game, but I’ve never been broken up with. Every guy I dated (admittedly few) asked me to marry him. And one of them… I did marry!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 05:02 AM
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I would likely wonder what I did to cause this. Because sometimes I can like… shoot people down without meaning to. So something that comes naturally for another person doesn’t feel right when directed towards me. Like, big shows of affection generally make me embarrassed. So after a few times of me not responding cheerfully to a big show of affection that makes everyone stare at me, I can’t really be surprised if he doesn’t do those things for me when he likely did them for previous girlfriends…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:11 AM
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I think what you describe is likely happening because people talk to you about the things you remind them of. Like, because you’re tall, girls who talk to you talk about being tall/tall guys/etc. Like, those easily noticed physical qualities we have are often the icebreakers in new conversations, which might make it seem like it’s common for everyone to be obsessed with height.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 05:02 PM
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Well, to be fair, work isn’t the best place to try and score a date because there are stricter rules about these things there than in other arenas of your personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 04:46 PM
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Shawn. He’s hot, he makes a lot of money, and honestly, nothing is hotter than a guy who is connected to his emotions. In fact, he might be out of my league. The other guy sounds awful: ugly, emotionally disconnected, and boring. Here is where I might disqualify Shawn: why is he crying twice a month? Is he crying during conflicts with me? Does he have depression? (Potential red flags.) Or is he crying because of a sad movie or a beautiful song or something? My husband has cried over sad movies (…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 04:31 PM
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