into_being Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	You’re a bitch		into_being	/r/askTRP	23/12/19 05:49 AM

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1	Must read Book for free at the moment Go to any second hand store and get a hard copy for $0.45, skim it for 2 minutes and put it on your bookshelf for the next decade.	/r/askMRP	19/08/23 02:08 AM
1	Age gaps (!)	/r/askMRP	23/07/23 09:30 PM
7	Thank you for ignoring your MS Two choices. Pay for it each time with money and/or acts (you’ve seen this doesn’t work so well for you) Invest those money and acts into yourself, doing valuable shit, to become man who gets BJs Bonus fact: she’s not the only source for BJs	/r/askMRP	25/12/22 07:25 AM
1	Chapter 5 of NMMNG Holy shit. Get a journal	/r/askMRP	11/04/22 06:07 AM
9	Blow job and then divorce Trying everything to see what brings you back into line, while you try to wrestle any drop of self respect.. Your negotiated desire isn’t working. Her false acts of compliance and threats should be pretty transparent. Like r/hornsofapathy said, stop getting so worked up over her words. Just respond appropriately and evenly to actions.	/r/askMRP	07/04/22 01:37 AM
8	Social Game Tips and Tricks: Male Dominated Spaces Started with social engineering… ended with penis puppetry..	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/03/22 11:45 PM
36	Her body count is a strong predictor of divorce Follow up study shows, “the amount of give-a-fuck you have about hoes doing hoe shit, is inversely proportional to your own satisfaction.”	/r/TheRedPill	10/02/22 11:09 PM
2	Best Sub Ever confident-incompetence is one of my least favorite stupid-human-tricks	/r/askMRP	16/12/21 05:00 PM
8	Best Sub Ever This sub exists because believing the bullshit tropes you posted has resulted in men ending their lives. This place is a wake up call, sometimes hyperbolic and extreme, sometimes faked... but it provides a path for men to see through this bullshit and to navigate the harsh realities of life and asymmetrical 'relationships.' "Creating an identity" is not the point. Becoming strong, inside and out, and getting what you want out of life is the point. example of bullshit tropes (search these here …	/r/askMRP	16/12/21 03:44 AM
20	Advice from some more experienced MRP dudes? 7 year itch. This is a gift of (trickle) truth. You’re young, unencumbered by kids and have been married such a short time you’ll probably owe no alimony. This is an enviable position for many of the men here. I know the loss sucks, the uncertainty and rejection hurts like a motherfucker. HOWEVER. This is where you start becoming the man you want to be by digging down into this experience to maximize the lessons you extract. Either that, or repeat this dependency bullshit over and over again wit…	/r/askMRP	11/12/21 03:28 PM
2	Giving up I was talking about alcohol resources and books. But… Yup. I’ve read the whole sidebar multiple times. Rollo is ok, but will probably just make you bitter while swallowing the pill. If you’re starting out as a self identified bitch to circumstance, start with WISNIFG and no more mr nice guy.	/r/TheRedPill	04/10/21 08:28 PM
2	Giving up Possibly unpopular recommendation. Stop drinking… it seriously shocked me how much of my anxiety/FOMO/depression was either due to, or made worse by, my drinking. HMU, I’ve got all sorts or recommending reading and resources if you’re interested.	/r/TheRedPill	04/10/21 08:07 PM
2	How to handle wife? Have fun, better things to do. Go do them.	/r/askMRP	17/07/21 02:52 AM
3	Need Red Pill Perspective Yup. This. Sort out your own shit.	/r/askMRP	23/06/21 01:26 AM
6	Messed up big time It’s not the end goal. Sobriety is the first step towards not indulging in being such a fucking loser. The rest is active work. Edit: I say this as someone with my own chemical struggles. Check out smart recovery, AA, or the Reddit sub r/stopdrinking	/r/askMRP	20/06/21 04:43 PM
1	Initiate or not initiate. Can't get my head around it. I’m curious too… I speculate that it’s when you test your erection with other women. Edit: no, Probably bad idea. Just initiate when you’re feeling it, do other shot when you’re not. You’re overthinking	/r/askMRP	12/06/21 04:42 PM
2	Need some advice on my dodgy marriage.. Prepare to be a single parent. Quietly find a lawyer and limit the impacts. Don't be needy and discuss your feelings and all with her until you've planned thru the end and have filed papers. Go get the life you want. WTF is the question?	/r/askMRP	09/03/21 05:39 PM
17	Preparing for divorce Holy fucking dumpster fire, you have work to do... in addition to reading and digesting the existing tomes of divorce resources on MRP... here's a couple quick thoughts from my experience. QUIETLY get a lawyer, plan for the end. You're a fool and a coward if you don't at least prepare your plan. Your rationalizations and fence-sitting play into her advantage. Call 3 lawyers tomorrow, schedule initial consults, and go prepared with financials and come to terms with the battlefield ASAP. Get ready…	/r/askMRP	24/06/20 05:36 AM
4	One Key Ingredient to Becoming a Slayer There’s no study to substantiate the claims or superstition of any bad health effects from drinking water while standing. This advice is based in Ayurvedic tradition and should be qualified as such. Edit: grammar	/r/TheRedPill	11/06/20 12:45 PM
1	What are some great ways to lie about being a virgin until I get that handled? I did? interesting insight.	/r/askTRP	14/05/20 04:47 AM
8	What are some great ways to lie about being a virgin until I get that handled? You provided minimal detail, but regardless... who fucking cares? why lie? It will magnify your insecurity as people can tell somethings 'off'. You can speak vaguely to what people say without lying.. "what do you think about the local girls?" is small talk. you can literally say anything, "they good", "I'm having fun", whatever... it's small talk, and you're coming off like a spazz,	/r/askTRP	14/05/20 03:30 AM
1	Narcissistic Personality Disorder Tells Thought so initially. Hence my reply. Admit I reread it later and wondered... Perfect balance of ambiguity and specificity.	/r/TheRedPill	30/04/20 05:50 PM
77	Narcissistic Personality Disorder Tells +1, you did a good thing here. Additional to your points: an unwillingness to understand or accept constructive feedback.	/r/TheRedPill	28/04/20 11:02 PM
2	Feeling Like Shit You can never really know the struggle and suffering of someone else. You can only know your own..	/r/askTRP	25/04/20 06:43 AM
2	What are some phrases people commonly say that makes them look weak? Im proposing the “extreme ownership” approach. You don’t have to accept or agree with an accusation, but there’s usually something you can take responsibility for... whether it’s your lack of clarity or poor communication or your ongoing association with assholes who accuse you of shit without being open to your perspective... there’s always something that you could improve. There’s a lesson in every challenge and it’s up to you to decide what it is. What’s the circumstance you’re talking about?	/r/askTRP	15/04/20 05:47 PM
2	What are some phrases people commonly say that makes them look weak? Find something you’re responsible for and take responsibility for it. Both externally and internally. Then improve.	/r/askTRP	15/04/20 05:24 PM
9	I don't like that you don't talk about your feelings It's a long-play shit-test that means "I like that you're more masculine than me, but I'm going to do everything I can to make you into a beta-simp-bitch that will disgust me, but be a good provider for our fuck-trophies." It's a linguistic analog of what females of other species (spiders, mantiids, etc) do shortly after mating.	/r/askTRP	07/04/20 03:18 AM
2	Should I take a course next semester called "Feminist Geopolitics" to meet girls? no	/r/askTRP	03/04/20 03:43 AM
3	Any book recommendations or audiobooks? practical female psychology	/r/askTRP	20/03/20 04:21 AM
3	My girlfriend wants sex devices Is the 12 inch vibrator/dildo what she really wants or is she just wanting to explore her sexuality and toys with you - and the 12” thing is your invention? Here’s a chance to have a good time with a girl you actually like and likes fucking with you... and you’re hung up on your own insecurity. This sounds like a lesson you’re deciding to learn in hindsight. Hint: You help her explore her fantasies, she’s more inclined to do the same for you.	/r/askTRP	11/03/20 12:32 PM
1	GF throwing shit at me, proper way to establish boundaries? Demonstrate them. With your attention, or lack thereof. Don’t explain them. You know what to do, you just don’t want to do it.	/r/askTRP	07/03/20 12:52 AM
1	GF throwing shit at me, proper way to establish boundaries? Your English is good enough to understand. It’s that your sentences go on-and-on, like you’re someone who talks waaaay too much. Also, separating ideas with periods “.” And capital letters at the beginning of new sentences helps the reader too. I think this is universal. Despite all this, the objective here is to become so high value that quality women wouldn’t treat you like this. You worrying about what to say and how to say it and how she’ll respond puts her in the higher value. You’ve got so…	/r/askTRP	07/03/20 12:39 AM
6	GF throwing shit at me, proper way to establish boundaries? You already said you didn’t want to. The rest of this post is you overthinking everything. Go what you want to do. Tell her you made alternate plans or whatever. Don’t tell her you’re punishing her, just actually have better things to do than deal with bullshit. Also, work on your punctuation/grammar and being more concise. This was terribly hard to read	/r/askTRP	07/03/20 12:11 AM
2	Are there older men (30+) in the United States who actually are bachelors and live this kind of life? *Amok Though “a muck” seems to have some added meaning...	/r/askTRP	04/03/20 06:48 AM
5	whats the response to the gay porn shit test What. The. Fuck. EDIT: the proper response is “stop putting my dick in your mouth bro!” EDIT 2: oh, plates... really, just stare at them with a “meh, is that the best you got/AM look” as one would make to someone who just said something stupid. Because it is.	/r/askTRP	15/01/20 04:37 AM
2	I am in deep shit and need your help The fact that this is fucking with you so hard right now means that you don’t have enough high-quality problems to fix. Get to work	/r/askTRP	12/01/20 04:22 AM
1	I am in deep shit and need your help I don’t see how. Either way, doesn’t matter. You can’t control what she does or says. You only control your thoughts and actions and focusing on this is a waste. Plenty of things to learn from this experience though. Do that instead.	/r/askTRP	12/01/20 04:13 AM
1	I am in deep shit and need your help I don’t understand how you’re in deep shit for this. Move on with your life.	/r/askTRP	12/01/20 04:04 AM
3	What does it mean “you grew apart” ? For me, It means she wanted to sneak around to fuck other dudes behind my back while continuing to enjoy my commitment and resources. So I left her. I prefer to say “we grew apart” to avoid participating in more drama.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/20 04:44 AM
1	So apparently getting an erection in a strip club is odd? This is all of the answers	/r/askTRP	07/01/20 06:48 AM
3	Is it better to have less attractive plates than no plates at all? This is a good and atypical write-up. I recommend posting as an original for wider visibility, as many here could benefit from this attitude/tactic.	/r/askTRP	07/01/20 06:30 AM
2	30s in 2020s. What advice do the RP veterans here have for us? Why not v neck shirts? This seems like a preference thing.	/r/askTRP	07/01/20 12:15 AM
2	Do you ever find yourself wanting to be in love after being red pill aware? Define what “in love” means to you, and you’ll probably have your answer... or at least make it easier for someone else to do so.	/r/askTRP	29/12/19 03:11 AM
1	Why do you guys enjoy having sex with thots? Taking your question to a logical extreme: if your waiting for an uncorrupted virgin to have sex, you may as well be asexual. Which is fine. I know that’s not exactly what you said.	/r/askTRP	13/12/19 02:56 PM
1	Why do you guys enjoy having sex with thots? Edit: responded in wrong place	/r/askTRP	13/12/19 02:54 PM
1	Why do you guys enjoy having sex with thots? If you’re asexual, great for you. There must be so much time for other things when sex is out of the question.	/r/askTRP	13/12/19 06:44 AM
16	What's the link between physical fitness and entrepreneurship? You got my click, but can we stop with these low effort posts that are just a link to a blog? post a teaser summary or portion of it if you want me to read it.	/r/TheRedPill	05/12/19 05:21 AM
3	Where to find the safe person for NMMNG A counselor through EAP isn’t a bad idea. Each counselor has their own strengths and weaknesses. While I fully endorse NMMNG as pivotal in my life, I haven’t had success in many years in identifying a “safe person”... at least that explicitly. I depart from the recommendations here and think that actively searching for a “safe person” is intrinsically needy, and will be perceived as such... and drive away potentially solid dudes who you could build masculine friendship. I think it’s much more im…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/12/19 03:52 AM
3	How do I truly come to terms with the fact that my girlfriend is incapable of loving me? Fair enough. If you’re getting what you want out of it. I wasn’t really saying to end it, just go about it within your own frame. Be wary of the parts where you find yourself doing something that you don’t want to (buying jewelry, watching romcoms and feminazi tv shows or whatever) ... the things that you told yourself you wouldn’t do, actively dislike doing, but now you see no way to avoid for the sake of the relationship ... It’s truly a slippery slope, and it’s paradoxical as the more you com…	/r/askTRP	28/11/19 09:29 PM
54	How do I truly come to terms with the fact that my girlfriend is incapable of loving me? “How did you go bankrupt?" Two ways. Gradually, then suddenly. -Hemingway Fuck off about coming to terms about her feelings. You need to come to terms with the fact that you’re actively surrendering your own mating strategy to hers. Your compromising and rationalizing. Soon you’ll be at deadbedrooms, relationshits, divorce or MRP trying to salvage this trainwreck you’re actively permitting yourself to enter: against your own judgement and desire. This is what “selling out” feels like, except wit…	/r/askTRP	28/11/19 07:10 AM
10	Should I attempt to represent myself after she lawyers up? No. Get a lawyer. Don’t tell her you got a lawyer until shits filed. Tell your lawyer everything that she can throw at you. Trust your lawyer and listen to their words! Your PTSD, depression, drinking will probably all be used against you.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/19 06:39 AM
2	Attention from gays Maybe they know something you don’t...	/r/askTRP	05/11/19 06:08 AM
6	Do women know if you're more physically attractive than them? If so, is it a good thing? Yes. She has low self esteem. Also, she’s likely fucking other dudes while you’re wondering about the discrepancy in your highly subjective SMV. Lesson: spend your time doing better things than wondering about this shit. Enjoy her. She’s temporary, and so are you.	/r/askTRP	05/11/19 06:06 AM
5	Need help, what do I do? Kill it with fire (the marriage... to be clear)	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/19 05:31 AM
6	Sacrifice financial freedom for actual freedom? Move out. Get a roomate.	/r/askTRP	04/11/19 02:06 AM
1	No one in my family including myself is respected respect starts with you, man. There is no fate. There is only acceptance-or-rejection of the bullshit status quo that everyone around you will try to keep you in. You are the artist of your own life. Get the fuck out as soon as you can and build your life. Start with something, anything, and get good. Lifting for instance.	/r/askTRP	28/10/19 05:53 AM
2	Why is she lying about simple stuff? It doesn’t matter why. What matters is why you feel the need to know. And why you care so much about it. As a baseline, never take people on what they say.	/r/askTRP	28/10/19 03:19 AM
2	A question for the lifters. Good you’re getting it checked out. If you’re overdoing it with too much volume or too much cardio, and:or have underlying disease it could be rhabdomyolysis... google and compare your symptoms - go to ER if you have dark urine.	/r/askMRP	11/10/19 11:49 PM
1	A question for the lifters. At 5 days of soreness/handicap?, you’re doing something wrong... drop the weight on the bar and/or switch to a program that has split up leg lift days (5/3/1 or gzcl). If it was literally the first couple times you’ve ever lifted, you can just focus on getting the form right and lower the weights on the bar. reduce working sets to 2 or 3. Better yet, find a gym buddy, cuz we have no idea what exactly you’re messing up so badly...	/r/askMRP	11/10/19 11:39 PM
2	Glossary of Notes to Increase Lifts: The Olympic Lifts Haha, don’t let him wreck your snatch bro.	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/10/19 01:09 AM
2	Suspect she cheated in the past. But not sure. What to do? Concur. However I maintain that planning for the exodus is beneficial, even if you’re able to put out the dumpster fire and go on to have a redeeming marriage... there should always be an actionable “go plan” with frame to match.	/r/askMRP	16/09/19 01:22 PM
4	Suspect she cheated in the past. But not sure. What to do? 100% Perfect response. Finding yourself as an amateur detective means at least 2 things (from my experience): 1st: you are not your mental point of origin. 2nd: you should probably plan the escape, or you’ll prolong the suffering. You don’t trust her. There’s a reason for that.	/r/askMRP	15/09/19 08:54 PM
3	A girl who I met at uni gave off really attached sexual-tension vibes when we first met at a club expo and her eyes were wide open and locked in like a hawk way beyond normal which made my red flag instincts kick in but I'm not really sure what this means. Any insight into what this might be? She’s interested. You’re avoidant.	/r/askTRP	04/09/19 12:20 PM
1	Spinning plates makes me feel guilty. Has anyone else experienced this? I could use some advice. “Shit is unnatural when I was at my best mentally and physically it hit me. This one girl had her tubes tied and it was such a turnoff. Sex is for reproduction the younger and more futile the better so I made one fall in love with me and told her to get off birth control or get out” Futile? You mean Fertile? “Futile” is this response.	/r/askTRP	03/09/19 06:12 AM
11	How many times should you let a girl flake? As long as she’s offering plans for rescheduling, not much of a problem. If she’s not, move right along.	/r/askTRP	29/08/19 11:44 PM
8	Grow a dick and man the fuck up! Red pill, my motherfucking motherfucker!	/r/Divorce_Men	23/08/19 05:56 AM
3	What's your opinion on psychedelics Clarification: I meant experience with LSD or hallucinogens specifically. FYI: I actually agree with what you’ve said about wasting time and stepping on your dick with self destructive habits.	/r/askTRP	21/08/19 05:07 AM
7	What's your opinion on psychedelics Is this statement from your experience, or just a rephrasing of the ever-weak “peer pressure” platitude?	/r/askTRP	21/08/19 04:57 AM
3	Met a work colleague whom I really hit it off with. Agreed to spend a weekend by the countryside. Since we booked the place she is pulling away and I'm not sure what to do. By saying it aloud to her, which is the opposite of what you should be doing. The only answer here is to go on the getaway yourself and and have an awesome time doing shit that’s fun for you. Learn the many lessons your failure to read the sidebar has brought you.	/r/askTRP	12/08/19 11:51 AM
3	Saunas: Why This Could Change the Game for You +1 Same for charcoal and niacin, you don’t need to take vitamins and shit to “detox”. It’s a scam	/r/TheRedPill	12/08/19 05:34 AM
4	I need help I went through similar. I agree with the advice to see a lawyer. I went through my first legal consult to see what divorce looked like in my state approximately a year after I learned of her cheating. I couldn't deal with the reality and gravity of the situation for a long time. 2 years later, I filed - the trust was broken, I was paranoid, and 95% certain she was cheating again and hiding it better. Figured out it didn't matter, I don't trust her, she's a liar and a cheat, and our relationship …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/19 05:27 AM
4	How do you find your purpose or passion in life? I am 25 about to finish grad school with a crappy degree, "Leisure, sport management", but I have no passions or no direction to go after school The directionless and let-down you’re going through is a common experience. When people attain a goal they’ve been working at for a long time, a weird sort of depression sets in. Olympic gold metalists talk about frequently. Don’t let this feeling deceive you into thinking there are no good options or that you made a mistake. Passion is a RESULT of putting time and energy and struggle into working towards a goal, it’s usually not the starting place. My advice: do anything that remotely resembles…	/r/askTRP	11/08/19 03:28 AM
3	Would you do anything diffrently if you were 18 again? If your answer to this question is “no”, you’re a waste of carbon. It looks like you’re asking for more than a yes or no, so here’s mine: Wear condoms when sex If not wearing condom, at least pull out, even though it feels good Lift and building friendships with awesome dudes > chasing ass	/r/askTRP	09/08/19 02:02 AM
5	Can skinny fat cause fat /round face? Lift	/r/askTRP	05/08/19 06:35 AM
2	Sam The Sensetive You say you’re sensitive like you can’t do anything about it. Like your a victim of circumstance. Like you have no control over your own life or outlook. Like your internal value hangs in the balance of people who forget about you immediately. You’re well on your way to giving up and no one can stop you. It’s all on you. The tools are here. Pick them up and learn how to use them or don’t. Your call man. You can be right, and we’ll just keep on, keeping on. TLDR: sidebar	/r/askTRP	05/08/19 05:57 AM
7	The Pervert's Guide To The Book Of Pook 2 I contend that the rectum might be more spacious for purposes of meth smuggling - as the anus is a narrow band of muscles that gives one access to the copious vault of the rectum. Perhaps this is another paradox or ANALogy, “don’t half ass it!”	/r/TheRedPill	02/08/19 01:30 PM
4	Breakup guilt All relationships end in either a breakup, or death. Breakup is preferential when you need to spend your little time before death doing things and exploring life in ways that the relationship prevents. Your guilt is related to the fact that you took the reigns and made the decision instead of letting other circumstances dictate the end. This is a character strength that you’ll only be able to appreciate after some time has passed.	/r/askTRP	02/08/19 04:55 AM
6	Do you guys know any good books that talk about women's inner psyche philosophically? Practical female psychology	/r/askTRP	26/07/19 05:23 AM
4	Joining the military? Camaraderie is often a consequence if being in arduous and life threatening situations, not a reason to join military. You’d sacrifice many freedoms just to have a chance at it. It’s not guaranteed and varies widely, both among the services and among the specific jobs. For every tight unit, MOS and command there are at least 10-20 that are a complete waste of time. TLDR: IMO not a good enough reason to join military. Response: what do you want to do? what experiences and opportunities do you wan…	/r/askTRP	17/07/19 04:27 AM
8	Gave it everything I could Oh man, this is terrible. I can tell you you’re suffering, but this marriage is over. The sooner you can come to terms with it, the better. Keep moving forward with the legal process, a good lawyers helps, because you’re emotions will not be the best judge of the process and will be easily manipulated by her. You’re hoping she’ll change her mind and come back to you? What if she does? This rejection is going to taint your relationship forever, all the paranoia, anxiety, shitty sleep and poor abi…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/19 12:18 PM
2	How to approach a girl at the gym? (And the least douchy way to do it) That’s what you took issue with? Not the “fucks him in the ass” or “throws him over the fence” parts, lol. Agree with the wtf?! Tho	/r/askTRP	06/07/19 02:13 AM
5	[rant] Why do you care so much? Well said, excellent post. I've begun to think that many, if not most, mental health problems are rooted in a mismatch between our natural (tribal) instincts and the "socially-acceptable" rules, technologies and expectations of modern civilization.	/r/TheRedPill	05/07/19 11:20 AM
33	How do you deal with friends who talk shit about you? Ghost. They’re dead to you. No mourning, don’t give them satisfaction of an explanation. Move along to a better crowd. Also, consider that anyone doing anything worthwhile is going to have haters. If you didn’t have haters, you’re such a loner that no one gives enough of a fuck about you to talk shit. EDIT: is it possible they’re just flipping you shit like friends do? Or are they saying shitty things about you and revealing your personal and confident info? Friends flip each other shit and cal …	/r/askTRP	30/06/19 02:39 AM
4	Question about “personality” Goofiness and making a clown of yourself is only one (and not a good) way of demonstrating high energy. Suggest you hone the energy state and personality you already have, rather than try to have another one. Play up your strengths. Faking a drastic change (like this) will be exhausting, disingenuous and your fake ness will be evident to most people.	/r/askTRP	24/06/19 11:03 AM
1	Married 4 years considering divorce. Met with wife tonight about future. She told me in order to move forward in our marriage I need to develop a spiritual practice. I told her I'm sick of paying for everything. We dont have kids and she works. Am I being a bitch or is she crazy? NOTE: "spiritual practice" likely means ascribing to unsubstantiated belief/dogma that she can use to control you and/or meet other people. If you don't have one already, why does she need you to have one, and why is it seemingly arbitrary which spiritual practice you choose? Also, why would she turn down free shit if you've willingly been paying all this time? Expect, "i thought that's how you wanted it." source: cynical me	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/19 03:37 PM
2	Did I fuck up? The mistake here is overthinking if you did or didn’t fuck up. You’re dwelling. That’s the nail in the coffin. Sending a shitty poorly thought out whatever can be overcome with proper frame and DGAF attitude. You care too much about this “one”. Have abundance. Your desperation is leaking everywhere.	/r/askTRP	19/06/19 07:04 PM
7	Did I fuck up? Probably. Doesn’t matter. Move along and pick up the convo if you want, or go do other stuff/people. The point is to not make a big deal of possible mistakes, have fun and stop taking the little shit so seriously.	/r/askTRP	19/06/19 11:59 AM
4	Help me! Need support and clarity in leaving! Start with scheduling a consultation with a lawyer. They can lay out what the process will look like. You don’t even have to commit to the plan or have a timeline or even go through with it in the end. Many initial consults are free. See a few lawyers before you hire one. Just the fact of taking your situation seriously enough to see a lawyer can help to get you unstuck. Hope this helps	/r/Divorce_Men	18/06/19 04:49 PM
3	Is the New Relationship Energy gone or is it loss in attraction? Yes, it's useless, even counterproductive to 'talk' about the relationship. You'll be in over your head immediately and end up taking whateverthefuckshesays waaay too seriously. Thus driving down the attraction and relationship even further... Better to do fun shit - with her, without her. Increase your own value FOR YOU, she can come along for the ride or fuck off.	/r/askMRP	18/06/19 09:48 AM
1	Be First. Especially You Asshole. Damn. Poignant post. Way to put things in perspective. So many people inadvertently try to control shit they can’t. Like their “one”, as you put it, or the past, or other peoples perspectives, etc. While completely disregarding and surrendering so much power over what they can control. This always causes suffering. Your post demonstrates what it looks like to control what you can. Internal locus, frame, however you want to define it. Thanks for this. It should get stickied. Take care	/r/askMRP	17/06/19 12:54 AM
8	RP bros who've had / have mental health problems and take medication for it (esp ADHD, anxiety, depression), what's your experience with it? Meds can help stabilize your neurochemistry while you address your behavior patterns through [good] therapy. It may take some trials and errors with meds as with therapists, but will be worth it if you work at it. Be patient with yourself and the process. Many medication and therapy trials last months to years. Not everyone needs meds for the rest of their life, some do. Many people come to the point, and it sounds like you’re there, there’s no other way than to ask for and be open to help and c…	/r/askTRP	16/06/19 06:46 PM
1	How to game a girl who is committed to another guy? (Indian) need help people. I read some of your history. You give advice on oneitis, but you somehow don't know how this works when it applies to you...? This is pitiful. Salvage what dignity you may have left.	/r/askTRP	16/06/19 05:05 PM
4	How to game a girl who is committed to another guy? (Indian) need help people. Motherfucker, you don't get to have your "oneitis". No one gets to 'have' or 'keep' their oneitis. The quicker you learn this lesson, the quicker you can stop the suffering. Done. Move on.	/r/askTRP	16/06/19 04:16 PM
1	Morning goodbye - boundary or clingy? Just tell her you appreciate the opportunity to say goodbye when she leaves the house for the day.	/r/askMRP	11/06/19 01:58 PM
3	Vent “easier said than done” That’s right. Everything is. That’s why people talk and say a bunch of shit and never get off their ass to do anything redeeming. It’s easy. They’re lazy. Weakness makes excuses for itself. Strength does the hard thing without having to brag to mommy for approval, but for the sake of victory, challenge and growth. That’s why the answer isn’t “talking it out”, it’s not writing a business plan. It’s not posting a “hoorah, watch me go” or “life sucks, sympathy plz” things to…	/r/askMRP	06/06/19 11:28 PM
1	Strategy for beating dopamine addiciton Does it? Hadn't seen that. Research time	/r/askTRP	06/06/19 10:53 PM
20	Vent DREAD?!? What value do you provide that she would Dread loosing? Of course she’s loosing respect for you. That’s a reflection of you loosing respect for yourself. First. Surrender the bullshit “finding my passion” trope. It’s an excuse. Second. Get out of the house and get a damn job. Any job. You’re stuck in low inertia state. Nothing good will come of your staying home to “research” and looking for the perfect opportunity. GTFO and get a job that pays money. Then find a better one (like what a…	/r/askMRP	06/06/19 12:24 PM
6	How do I cope Yes. This. Not just "dating", either. The quicker you can come to terms with this fact, the better. Agree, divorce amicably, get the best custody agreement you can, and focus on your own life and being the best Dad possible for the kids. Also, it's not your fault. She wants to sleep around. Edit: added some words.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/19 02:30 AM
5	Strategy for beating dopamine addiciton There are many factors to neurochemistry. This clearly isn't the best forum to get into all the nuance, but a couple thoughts: Difficulty concentrating can be a tip-of-the-iceberg type of thing. Possibly a presentation of mood or attention disorder. I have similar issues, and have benefited from supplementing with L-tyrosine which is a dopamine precursor. This is not an outright recommendation, just something that I've noticed a perceivable improvement in mood, mental stamina and energy last…	/r/askTRP	06/06/19 01:50 AM
2	Gym nerves You're welcome. Use the nerves to ensure you're doing the lifts safely. Here's a few tips to get you started: -rails properly set on the cage so you can ditch the bar set the bar down safely if you miss a rep -spotter on bench -focus on good form instead of weight, the heavy weight will come with training -no clips if benching alone... don't bench alone when starting out, even in smith machine... also, don't use a smith machine. I'm sure it seems like a lot at first, but just pay attention, wa…	/r/askTRP	04/06/19 11:20 PM
2	Gym nerves Do some research on proper lifts (squat, bench, deadlift, press). "Starting strength" by Rippetoe is a good but comprehensive start for technique, etc. He probably has some old videos. There's plenty of other how-to videos online. No shame in watching them on your phone prior to lifting or in between sets. Stronglifts 5x5 or 3x5 are good linear progressions for starting out up to about the 6 month plateau. You'll need to switch it up... eventually. I agree with much of the advice here. Go in…	/r/askTRP	04/06/19 10:08 PM
4	Some things that I've noticed. On me and her. You lived it.... You fixed it? "It" doesn't mean the 'relationship'. "Fixed" isn't the right word, because I won't be done growing until I'm actually dying. I realigned my life and my priorities. Everything else in MY life either fell into line, or into proper perspective.	/r/askMRP	04/06/19 09:08 PM
11	Some things that I've noticed. On me and her. I Read this and your deadbeadrooms post. maybe someone else will answer the questions you asked, I think they’re mostly irrelevant. Sure, you can keep initiating. Maybe you’ll even get a sympathy starfish fuck while she watches reruns of the Office on her phone... You know what your situation is. Your taking baby steps. looking for tactical answers to damage control a failed situation. You have a lot of work and reading to do. For yourself. She’s checked the fuck out. It’s hard to accept the rea…	/r/askMRP	04/06/19 07:52 PM
1	In a staring contest, I'm always the one to crack first and start smiling/laughing. What does this mean? I get it, can tell you sidebar and let shit roll. Not taking it seriously. Good stuff	/r/askTRP	30/05/19 11:03 AM
1	In a staring contest, I'm always the one to crack first and start smiling/laughing. What does this mean? Nice pressure flip, your sidebar is evident	/r/askTRP	30/05/19 02:33 AM
1	Is this what I should've done? Oneitis. It has become you. Next stop slavery. I hope you’re a troll. are those your 1 rep maxes, they should be your 6-10RM at 5 years... damn	/r/askTRP	29/05/19 03:30 AM
3	In a staring contest, I'm always the one to crack first and start smiling/laughing. What does this mean? I’m a virgin when it comes to guys too. No shame. Keep approaching guys and sending those IOIs during staring contests. You’ll get one	/r/askTRP	29/05/19 01:17 AM
0	I have an Audible credit Top of my list for you: The laws of human nature, by Robert Greene Or anything else by Robert Greene	/r/askTRP	27/05/19 05:52 PM
3	I share my name with a guy who’s all over the first page of Google for fucked up shit I maintain that any rational relationship or contact would understand there may be an explanation, such as a name mix up. Perhaps the name thing was just an excuse. I get emails all the time for 2 different dudes with the same name as me. Important shit too, like signing multi mil contracts and legal/political shit. A client looking to get out of negotiations with you could cite anything as a reason. The name thing is low hanging fruit.	/r/askTRP	26/05/19 04:12 PM
7	I share my name with a guy who’s all over the first page of Google for fucked up shit You've pushed perception management to a logical extreme. Hence the "autism" references. Talking about running a reputation management service and over-explaining it. You're paranoid about your namesake, maybe for good reason, but people have the same names as other people sometimes. It sounds like your focusing a general insecurity on a specific thing, your name. If you build your confidence and frame, you can achieve DGAF levels and joke with friends and hookups about how you "once hated your …	/r/askTRP	26/05/19 02:27 PM
3	Need advice, thinking of divorce but really don’t want to. Sounds like "divorce" is the answer you're leading with, despite having not fully defined the question. There are some basic and common problems your having here, with basic solutions. examples: money disagreements = partition money, separate accounts, envelope budget, etc. do something, make boundaries and support them in a firm, not douchey way. Enforce natural consequences. the dreaded "communication" issues = she doesn't feel like you 'hear her' or validate her concerns or issues. It doesn't…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/19 12:21 AM
21	How long after you give up porn do you start getting hard erections during sex again? Longer. Also, get out of your own head. You have performance anxiety, clearly. Lay there for a bit, hang out, touch eachother, get comfortable in eachother's presence and go slower. It's probably not just the porn, but the insecurity, guilt or whatever the fuck your mind is rambling about. Be present.	/r/askTRP	23/05/19 12:03 AM
5	I think im getting cucked She sucks at satisfying you but you continue to snuggle and provide comfort. You lose. She wins. You are wasting your time trying to generate or close on desire where there is little-to-none. This isn't even a cuck situation. It's less than that. You were there, so she tried out some things with you and has no desire to continue. But you're still there. The only way to save this, or yourself, is turn your back on this bullshit and pursue others. You have to abandon hope of making this fantasy wo…	/r/askTRP	22/05/19 11:57 PM
1	I believe from experience that debating with a women is absolutely not a good idea, what do you guys think? I enjoy debating a position I don't actually agree with. Though I've lost this over the past few years. Too little time to get spun up about bullshit. In the end, WTF is the point? You're only going to annoy them and more importantly, be annoyed by them.	/r/askTRP	22/05/19 11:33 PM
4	FR: THANKS!!!! Good! Nuke that shit! I should have when I discovered. I'm in the same boat now. Don't talk or DEER or entertain her hamster. You still have a way ahead of you. Burn that shit to the ground while you have the wherewithal, and use the anger to motivate you to continue pursuing your own awesomeness - not revenge. Otherwise you'll be right back here in a few months or years with the stakes even higher.	/r/askMRP	22/05/19 11:10 PM
11	Why do women prefer muscular men? Willing to bet you like women with nice skin, good hygiene and nice teeth, with ample curves in all the right places. Same thing. Also, the supply and demand curve makes this a relatively rare commodity indicative of youth and primed genetics. Far easier to be a fat schmuck with a bad and lazy attitude - regardless of gender. There’s no value in chosen weakness	/r/askTRP	20/05/19 02:19 AM
9	It wasn’t revenge it was a must- after 3 years of marriage she left me for a family friend- I was in the worst place of my life. Went from 290 to 245 and packed muscle. I’m still hurt and I’m still fighting through the depression. My Man, you are looking so much better. Healthier, happier, unburdened. Your improvements speak for themselves. I can relate to the double betrayal. If you're willing to be flexible in your perspective... you are better off with this absolute end - as painful and gut-wrenching as I know it is. Good riddance - they deserve each other, and will likely find a similar misery that they brought you, as this is what miserable people do to eachother. She's gone and is his problem now. Go no-contact for …	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/19 10:57 PM
1	Controlling Emotions Get into aggressive music: metal, hardcore or punk. Some find it cathartic. Plus you can take it out in the pit where it’s mutual and mostly positive. Or martial arts, therapy, meditation, heavy lifting or other exhausting workout. Getting jail time from hurting people tends to put a damper on living a good life.	/r/askTRP	19/05/19 01:15 PM
4	Cold shutdown “Good girl” is so vague. She was probably already horny when you said it the first time. Correlation, not causation. I don’t think you’re going to get much out of just saying “good girl” and expecting tingles. Try being more specific with your feedback, “I love it when you do X.” Or “you look so sexy when X, makes me want to do Y” Edit: swapped correlation/causation	/r/askMRP	19/05/19 10:50 AM
1	Trying to employ dread backfired on me So much wrong: -Posted here instead of r/askmrp -Talked for a long time and believed everything she said literally -“became a pussy and bend to her will”, probably all the damn time. -LARPed TRP: talked to a couple girls, ran home, bragged about talking to girls to your woman who has no esteem or respect (for YOU, not just for herself) and wonder what’s wrong. 12 steps of dread, in order. FFS You at least need to post this shit in the right place.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/05/19 04:56 AM
9	Fiancé lost respect You know what you’ll get if you stay and do nothing - the same but worse. Unless you’re into the Cuck/Hotwife or pegging thing... or just a troll. You can sack up, do man shit and stop giving a fuck about what she says and thinks. Stop being sad because she doesn’t respect you. She doesn’t respect you because you tolerate her shit and show that you don’t respect yourself. She looks down on you from the pedestal you have her on. You could follow the boiler plate advice: read (sidebar), lift (heav…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/05/19 01:43 PM
1	Need Advice Browse here mostly, newish account but here’s my thoughts Option 1: she was trying to mess with you so you wouldn’t test well. Ulterior motive. Option 2: she’s batshit, was serious and you don’t understand shittesting enough to drive the banter to an outcome of your choosing. Your fumble was probably for the better as losing your virginity in front of a crowd of people would be... performance anxiety producing. If this was even a real possibility. LESSON: don’t listen to the words women say, loo…	/r/askTRP	06/05/19 07:39 AM
1	On the nature of two faces ASD? Tingles but embarrassed by you in front of others? All show, no go? Low effort in life like in this post? You pick.	/r/askTRP	25/04/19 02:07 AM
3	I am only attracted to girls with an extremely low N count. How to screen for this? I only like women who are convincing with their lies. I also like to turn them off by autistically and visibly obsessing about their n count.	/r/askTRP	25/04/19 02:00 AM