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Kinda sounds like somebody that developed a relationship, either during OP's marriage, or she sank her talons into him as easy prey for a rebound post divorce. Either way point stands of getting a better woman.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 12:30 PM
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I read a quote the other day... A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family and a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 07:18 AM
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It is different for everyone, but if I were in your shoes, I would exhaust all avenues to try to fix it. If it can't be fixed after you've tried everything, then it's time to go. I have been divorced for almost 3 years and I find myself getting hung up on it still. We are 50/50 custody and the days I don't have my son I just feel empty. I've done the work and all that stuff, but the feeling of regret and shame like to pop in from time to time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 07:17 AM
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That's fair. I guess if you don't ever want to see your child and are down with parental alienation by leaving your baby with a highly toxic abusive ex in a different state, risking both the relationship with your daughter and possibly her well-being, then that's a solid option. Headed back to my women's group now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 04:59 PM
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Not sure if troll or suffering from complete brain rot with this comment here...
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 02:59 PM
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Losing the companionship is the hardest part. As hard as it is to be alone, try to. Codependency is a thing and unless you can make it alone you won't make it with somebody else. On top of it, the woman that wants the complication of a man that's separated and not divorced isn't the type of woman you want in your life IMO. Do you. Become the best version of you, and you will not need to seek out companionship...you'll attract it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 12:41 PM
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The shame spiral is a bitch. It's easy to fall into. I used to think I deserved to feel the pain because I wasn't able to do what I needed to do to change. I promise you this is not the way. Seek therapy, this changed my life. It's been 2.5 years and I go every 2-3 weeks. Even if you think everything is fine, just keep talking. I know the pain your are feeling and I know it's not fun. It's easy to say, but find things that bring you joy and chase after them. Read, journal, work out, do the work …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 06:08 PM
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Sometimes when you are in a dark place you may feel you have been buried, when in fact you have been planted.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 10:51 PM
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Absolute best case scenario
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 08:45 PM
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She lost the privilege of having you as her person, confidant, etc when she filed for divorce. Don't let her fck with your head
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 06:43 PM
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I was 6 of every 14, she called and asked if I wanted 50/50. Hell yes I do. Boy never wants to go back to her house though and it hurts my heart bad
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 01:11 AM
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Regret and shame will eat you alive. It's basically taken me 2 years to come out the other side of my own shame spiral. I tried it all to win her back but it was too late. The thing that really hit home for me is that she (my ex, your stbx) made a conscious decision that her life would be better without you in it. Remember that. During our separation she led me on, said she "didn't know what the future held" and it was all bullshit. If she said jump, I said how high. The shame that I carried fro…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:29 PM
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I've been busting my ass in the gym since it happened. I went to my buddy's kid's bday the other day. I'd never met his wife, basically nobody knew who I was. His wife called me his pen pal lol. She texted him while he was standing next to me something like "all the women want to do your pen pal" I needed that boost.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 02:12 PM
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And if possible, if there are 401k/traditional retirement funds and Roth, prioritize the Roth. Taxes have already been paid on those.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 10:44 PM
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I did this, and it probably did save my life. Never had suicidal thoughts but the existential dread upon waking every day truly took the life out of me. I'm as strong as I've ever been...mentally and physically, but still feel like a shell of a man. Almost 2.5 yrs separation. She also told me she's going to be introducing our son to her new boyfriend this weekend. The pain of knowing another man will be around my son was an unexpected gut punch.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 04:26 AM
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What kids need is a dad who is present. My dad was exactly how you've described yourself...gave me gifts, took us to do fun things, made sure we were financially secure, but he was always working. When he was with us his mind was on work. I can tell you I'd trade all the vacations, fishing trips, the shiny new bike, etc. just to have had him sit with me and ask me how I was doing. I needed a father much more than I needed the things. If you're successful in your career, that's awesome - but the …
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 04:13 PM
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Mine said she hoped she died before me that way she never had to live a moment without me. She filed. It's been over 2 yrs now and I'm still a mess. I know it's not there anymore but my son asked me the other day when I was going to move back into the house and I told him I wasn't...he lost it. I just hugged him and I lost it. I hid my tears but fuck I'd give anything to be a family again. Time is helping, but damn if it doesn't sting every single day still.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 06:34 AM
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I'd probably look at this situation if she had been dating, maybe had a boyfriend, but she's married now. She's come to realize that the grass isn't greener on the other side. I'm in a similar situation. I wish so much that me, my ex wife, and our son could be a family again, but she came to the decision that she didn't love me anymore and that her life would be better off without me in it. Think about it that way. Obviously I'm just some random guy on the internet and not in your shoes, but I'd…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 06:19 PM
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