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ADVICEiseethestars2/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 09:01 AM
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As I have previously put on my super good girlfriend act for my abusive ex, I can totally understand what you meant in your reply about it allowing all this to go on. The game did wear me out eventually when I realized no matter how I changed, it was pointless; my ex was never going to stop his physical abuse. Also because of the way I kept giving in to my ex and justifying it in the past, I have lost confidence in myself to recognize what’s acceptable behavior in a relationship and what’s not. …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 10:26 AM
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After reading your comment, I realized that what you said is probably why he is pissed at me. The part about forcibly inserting myself raising expectations during his busy period is absolutely true. I am now following your (and some of the commenters’) advice and leaving him alone to deal with his studies. Practicing STFU has helped a lot too. I now use my time to re-evaluate and reflect upon our relationship and I do still want the relationship at this point. If you don’t mind elaborating, coul…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 10:01 AM
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I do not wish to admit this but I am afraid that you are right to a considerable extent. Our fights have definitely lessened his feelings towards me. I am also aware of my tendency to lose myself in relationships. Making myself fit in forcefully is never going to end well. Thank you, I will ponder over this.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 09:44 AM
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He was working on perfecting his presentation slides for his final year project. I see your point now - You raised a great point about the long term repercussions of using his valuable time to spend my birthday with me. If you don’t mind me asking this then, was it wrong of me to have hoped that he would make the effort to wish me happy birthday in a short 1 minute phone call? Or am I to expect nothing when he is busy working hard for his future? Thank you for your advice, as always.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 09:40 AM
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Writing this down to remind myself! Thank you Aragorn’s wifey!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 09:29 AM
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Hi there, those are very fair points that you have raised. I would like to clarify that it’s not so much the ideal amount of time I need him to spend with me ; I am an introvert and am happy to be spending time alone by myself. I guess it’s a lot more about being insecure and needing reassurance that he’s unable to provide due to his busyness as well. I have recognized this and will move towards improving myself to get better. I am really quite amazed that you are able to guess that I did do som…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 04:04 PM
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Thank you, I just did that today after reading your comment and pondering over it and already there has been a very positive response from him :) I have unfortunately made the mistake of making it all about me in the past and you’re right, I am in some way forcing myself into his life. As mentioned in the previous replies, I will start focusing on myself and my life so that I can be 1) a valuable addition to my partner and more importantly, 2) better myself and quality of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 01:30 PM
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Thank you, I am ever so grateful that you have kindly put aside some of your precious time to give me some advice. I have to say that your comment really struck a chord with me and it was so personalized that I can’t help but feel you have been through something similar. I underestimated the time needed to heal from a past like that and both my projections on him as well as the lack of a sense of security have been affecting our relationship much more than I previously thought. To be frank, I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 01:21 PM
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I have not been my best self with him and I wish to give him somemore time to see if he develops stronger feelings for me. Do you perhaps have any advice of how I can be a better fit for him instead before giving up on this entirely? That is without losing myself in the process of course.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 12:52 PM
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I’m honestly ashamed to say that the topic of our arguments surrounds his lack of time and his disappearing act where he doesn’t text me back for days. The bulk of our arguments was at the start; more recently, it is over his rudeness towards me when he loses his temper (regardless of whether I caused it or not). I do understand now after reading the comments that it was wrong on my part. Thank you for reminding me I need to STFU sometimes and that I should phrase things positively always. I use…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 12:43 PM
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Thank you for your really solid and helpful advice. I will implement that straight away and keep a reminder in my phone every time I feel like I need attention from him for the sake of it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 12:33 PM
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I feel that you have spoken how I truly felt during the past month and sometimes it does feel like I’m trying too hard to be accommodating to his needs. However, after considering the comments posted here, I am afraid that I have not been my best self in this relationship and I hope to give it more time to see if my own changes will affect my perception of this relationship and improve it. That being said, if I still feel that our relationship is heavily skewed towards making everything convenie…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 12:31 PM
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Hi there, I was pleasantly surprised after reading your comment as it really introduced a new perspective when I think about him and his work. My current boyfriend has emphasized a few times to me that his studies are really important to him and I am honestly ashamed to say that while I respect him prioritizing his studies, I was unaware of the extent of how the success of his work would affect his perception of himself. I will keep your advice in mind and take a bigger step towards being a 100%…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 12:20 PM
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I do agree with you that I want a man with a great career and an ambition. And of course it will require sacrifices on my part, this too I understand. However, I dare say a man who is blind to everything else but his career isn’t what I want. I would not be happy living in a mansion with 3 kids not having a worry about our finances, if my husband is too busy to be emotionally present with my children and treats me like I’m invisible. That is perhaps my greatest worry when I posted and unconsciou…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 11:58 AM
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Fair point. Thank you for the reminder as I was completely unaware that I am projecting my past onto him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 11:33 AM
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The reason why I haven’t mentioned it is because he would consider this as giving him drama and I would just seem too needy in his eyes yet again. You are right in communication being essential and I plan to bring it up gently to him after he’s done with his studies. He will be more open to it then.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 03:16 PM
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To be fair, he did tell me this in advance but he never got back to me with a different date to celebrate it belated. I am disappointed by his lack of effort; however I know he’s going through a tough time with his studies. Thank you for mentioning this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:50 PM
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I am afraid that I may be over-investing myself in him and i am sure it’s affecting the way I treat him and our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:44 PM
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Thanks for bringing this up to me. I think I am uncertain as to whether I should stay with him and this my post must have reflected this as well. I have not brought this up to him as he is still down with his studies for another two weeks. I do sometimes feel uncared for, as for about 3/4 of our year together he has been down with his studies and we hardly go out on dates anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:32 PM
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Hi, thank you for taking the time to give me advice seriously. I really do appreciate it. Perhaps there are some important details that I left out. I am left quite an anxious and insecure individual because of the way my ex treated me in the past; my ex had a very bad temper and would often swear at me and hit me when he was unhappy. I am also left with a fear that this would happen again and I would end up trying to justify his physical abuse and nasty behaviors all over again. There is one tim…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:24 PM
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Hi, thank you for your advice but may I ask how you came to this conclusion?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 01:48 PM
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Thank you for your advice! I am more or less over what my ex did to me; however I do feel that I have to sort my fear of being “too understanding” with a partner that I neglect my own needs. I am going on a trip with him in the next month and am hoping that it will be able to help us heal my insecure outbursts in the past. I will definitely check out the book you mentioned :) thanks again!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 12:01 PM
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Hi, for now I would mostly head over to his place and accompany him when he needs a break from his studies and tells me so. I express my love and desire for him whenever I can and before I started working, I would surprise him in school with his favorite beer or food he likes to eat. Is there a point I’m missing? Should I be focusing on what I can do for him instead of trying to determine whether I’m being short changed? I do feel quite lonely and alone sometimes as he is really quite busy and d…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 11:27 AM
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