Hey man, it sounds like you're AF based on the terminology you used. I went through a similar situation although less shitty, if you want someone to talk to or need some advice I'm here for you. PM me and we can talk
This gender/sexism bullshit has no place in the military where whether or not people come home alive or in a body bag literally depends on whether or not you can perform you job or duty. But what do I know, I'm just a lowly E3