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it-is_what-it_is/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 02:03 PM
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Good write-up, I needed to read this before going on a family trip this weekend. I'm probably still what you'd consider a newb at this, but I've learned the better I hold frame and don't give in to her arguments when she explodes or is in a bad mood, and that if I just keep it cool and help bring her back to reality, the quicker she snaps out of it and goes back to her sweet self.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 04:34 PM
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You’re angry at how women are Yeah, it’s fucking unfair. Grow up and deal with it. No one gives a fuck about the female imperative or hypergamy outside of internet forums. Don’t talk about it, don’t get butthurt over it. It won’t fix you, it won’t improve your sexual strategy, it won’t convince your wife to become submissive. Finally! I wish there was a bigger emphasis on this in particular. TRP in general seems to attract and train bitter, angry men to keep on being bitter, angry men. If you le…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 06:45 PM
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because it works. It makes doing day-to-day shit and self improvement actionable, and I respect and appreciate that. I literally would not be here if it didn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 01:41 PM
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Age: 33 / Kids: 2 / Married: 8 years I haven't posted in OYS weekly in a while, but I still poke my head into reddit from time to time. One thing I've started to notice after taking a break from reddit is the sheer volume of victim puke posts on various subreddits... don't worry, this is not a victim puke post. I'm actually doing quite well and RP mindset is contributing. 7 weeks ago I renewed my gym membership and began a strength lifting program, it's pretty much Stronglifts. I get to the gym …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 06:42 PM
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My problem is not how my wife is treating me (or not treating me). This is what MRP has been saying since day one, and it is what I haven’t been hearing properly since day one. Maybe you don't think it's your problem, but that's why you're here isn't it? Pro tip: let go of your attachment to the problem, and there's no longer a problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 01:28 PM
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New goal for the rest of this week; pass shit-tests and learn to STFU. The wife has been on me hard since I started my exercise routine, she's just itching for a fight every other day. It's been interesting, to say the least. Thanks for the read. So you're suggesting the best way to break bad habits is to develop new (good) habits as a response, instead?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 04:07 PM
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I briefly glanced at your post history. You post frequently, seeming all over the place with mainstream advice. Lift more, read sidebar prerequisite books, post less. Come back in a month. Hahaha, yeah I'm aware that my post/comment history is a complete shit-show. I'm not making any excuses, I'll just leave it there. I've been easing up on Reddit anyway because it's a huge fucking waste of time and doesn't really contribute to my mental well-being, and I'm starting to see it's just the same whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 01:33 PM
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Seems like a solid machine to me, but I figure it's contributing to the huge disparity in my lifts. Regardless, I plan on taking on barbell squats tomorrow. My back and legs are sore as fuck, but this is the hardest I've ever gone at the gym before and it's pretty exhilarating. No time for anything else, no time for Reddit; just work, gym, kids, study. Feeling fucking great this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 07:06 PM
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I've been reading some of the old philosophers, particularly the stoics, and I tend to agree. This is a well-written post. IMO happiness is the meaning of life, because to be good (virtuous) is to be happy. It all starts with your mindset. Of course there are pleasures and passions to be found in life. Discover what they are for you, and pursue them in a manner that satisfies you. If you're going to take on a task, and put your all into it, visualize everything that it entails and be prepared fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 07:00 PM
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First week back at the gym, 4 days in. Three of these lifts are completely new to me. Currently weigh 205 lbs. Squat x10 - 270 lbs (with a machine that you load plates on) Deadlift x5 - 135 lbs Bench x5 - 145 lbs Overhead x5 - 75 lbs Bench 1 rep max - 210 lbs Overhead 1 rep max - 95 lbs
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 06:15 PM
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This is what I mean, this is you giving more of a shit about your perception of what my shit is, than I actually do. Thank you for taking the time to impart your words of infinite wisdom on me, I'll go sulk in the corner now... kidding. I fully expect to come here and get my balls busted. A common theme here seems to be bitching about emotions and not getting laid, and I'm working on a way to transcend that which works for me. IDGAF if it works for the rest of you. And I never declared everythin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 01:15 AM
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Maybe I wasn't clear, I meant I'm not giving a fuck about shit that's outside of my control. Yesterday was pure vomit, today is soul searching. I need to get my head right in order to make any progress, and this is getting my head right. And that's the problem with passions, I'm constantly reevaluating what they are. But now I've decided to be passionate about shit that's in my control. Gym, being productive at work, owning my shit at home, playing with my kids, taking care of the house, and hol…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 06:22 PM
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Shit, I need to book another appointment, thanks for the reminder!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 03:59 PM
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OYS Day 2: Ok it's the second day I posted in OYS, I'm not going through the check-in BS of stats and shit, just giving and update. Had a tooth extraction yesterday, for the first time. That was mildly uncomfortable, but after I got home I figured I should take the aftercare seriously. So here I am taking the first sick day from work, for me and not for a family member, for the first time this year. I could go to work but I'm supposed to be eating soft foods and gargling salt water or something …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 02:53 PM
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Great shit here, thanks - this is the sort of advice I come here for. That and I need to start holding myself fucking accountable... ON IT.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 09:19 PM
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you fail to recognize that female sexual desire is more responsive and less spontaneous than men's. You're right. I know this, I understand it, but I don't take it into consideration when it comes to sex with my wife. Noted. Gym - I'm starting with the treadmill and I want hit distance targets before I move onto lifting. I'll be going 5 days a week. Diet plan - I'll get an app for calorie tracking and start a keto-based diet, carbs is my killer and I need more protein. I've read some of the book…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 05:31 PM
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Thanks, I'll keep at the physical stuff with the kids then - I like doing it, the kids like doing it, I'll fucking own it. That's just what I needed to read. I know how to be a good lover and lay down the conditions for the sex that she wants and desires too, and we can just let go and not feel like it's emotional labour, but my problem is that I do get too caught up in my own head. I start to wonder if she likes this or that, or how many orgasms she's having, if I'm lasting long enough... I'm c…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 04:46 PM
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Oops, my bad. I'm new here. Posted to OYS weekly, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 03:29 PM
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Alright, I'm new here: M 33, 5'11", 208 lbs, married 7 years, 2 kids. It’s time to start taking this shit seriously. I’m renewing my gym membership today, and it’s good timing because I’m finally getting my weight under control. When I used to go to the gym, my diet was still shit and I wasn’t seeing meaningful gains – now I’ve lost weight from eating less calories and carbs, and eating less often in general… I was also a bit of a wimp at the gym and didn’t really push myself, I need to start do…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 03:06 PM
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Hahaha, good one...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 03:03 PM
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I found this to be pretty insightful, a lot of your points make sense. I don't think my wife is actually crazy though, even if she's demonstrated a whole whack of certifiable behavior and language throughout the years... I think there's a strong possibility my wife is just aching to have her man (me) own his shit and be stronger for her and our family. I have work to do, but I'll keep this post in mind. It's quite informative when you feel like you're dealing with crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 03:44 PM
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I think if you don't treat your spouse like an adversary, you'd be in a much better position to get a handle on your emotions and control yourself. For someone that reads Marcus Aurelius, I'm surprised you haven't picked up on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 03:35 PM
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Interesting read. How would this fit into the context of the recent celebrity male suicides we've been witnessing? Robin Williams, Chris Cornell, Chester Bennington... all arguably alpha males at their craft, all married men whose careers were on the decline. In Robin William's case his widow attributes his depression/suicide to his recent onset of Lewy body dementia. Chris Cornell was a long time substance abuser. Chester Bennington struggled with lifelong depression from a fucked-up childhood.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 04:19 PM
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