| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | MRA's sure do talk about the Friend Zone a lot.About what I expect. | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!I will put more thought into what you said. | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!I guess my point is that there are a lot of things people can take the wrong way based on our life experiences. As long as it was clearly unintentional, the burden should be on us, not the pamphlet writer, to learn how to cope with the situation. What you suggested, I think, is just as bad as when feminists say that an anti-date rape poster (the ones that say "Don't get raped") counts as slut shaming. We just have to learn to take things the right way. Anyway, I am glad that you have gotten a gi… | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!I think the problem is whether you feel shame or guilt for saying something socially awkward. I'm applying knowledge I got from a study I read that showed recidivism is greatly dependent on whether some feels shame ("I did that act because I'm a bad person") or guilt ("I did that act because I made a bad choice"). I wonder if some guys (like my boyfriend, way before he met me) say something socially awkward to a girl and think, "Well, what I said to her is dumb and she left me quite curtly. I gu… | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 12:25 AM |
| 4 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!I'm not quite sure what you're trying to say. | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!But you're missing the point. The point is that your experiences, my experiences, and the OP's experiences are irrelevant to this situation. I don't want to get into an argument over whether men are treated worse or women are treated worse because their self-worth is tied to sex. We all had our self-worth tied to sex and it sucks. I know what you guys went through. I was trying to show that I didn't come from a place of privilege. I didn't mean to say "my experience was worse" or anything. What … | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!It's not that it's because he's alone (remember, I said I'm dating a former 32-year-old virgin). It's because my friend yells misogynystic things and has a history of violence and threatening violence (impulse control problems). | /r/MensRights | 28/05/14 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!I disagree. I think you and I both (in the past) chose to take things like this the wrong way because we were over-identifying with our personal situations. The solution isn't to make everything cater to us. The solution is for us to realize that these aren't personal attacks against us or situations we can't control and to remember that our sex lives are just one aspect of our lives. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/14 08:23 PM |
| 13 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!He really worries me. I'm a female and I have a male friend who exhibits basically all the traits of antisocial personality disorder. Because he has poor social skills and can't get his life together, he's in his 30's, has only had one girlfriend, and is a virgin. He has said things before like, "Women are all stuck-up bitches." But he says I'm cool. I guess it's because when I'm around guys, I'm not very flirty and I have a sexual disorder (so he's actually more likely to get sex than I am). Bu… | /r/MensRights | 27/05/14 08:07 PM |
| -1 | Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming!This is one of the reasons I think feminism does a horrible job at preventing rape. A few days before the mass murder attempt, there was a study that showed that men with poor body image who had just been rejected by a woman was likely to answer candidly on a survey that he wants to commit violence against women. Feminists demonize the male gender and say rape is because of the patriarchy and rape culture, but they don't address the actual issues that contribute to violence. (Of course, female o… | /r/MensRights | 27/05/14 07:56 PM |
| 1 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzI wouldn't categorize all or even most of the users of 2XC as male haters. I'm on there and I don't hate men. I do, however, see a lot of ideological feminist things on there, which myself and quite a few other subscribers pretty frequently challenge. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/14 01:33 AM |
| 1 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzI've been subscribed to it for one week. I thought that might be the case, but I wasn't sure because it's only been a week. But yeah, she shouldn't say misandric things without even doing any research into whether there are male subreddits. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/14 01:31 AM |
| 1 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzNo worries. It happens. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/14 01:13 AM |
| -2 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzYOu have a negative score for saying this on a men's rights subreddit. No one wants to hear you, male or female. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/14 12:57 AM |
| 0 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzYeah, but being irrational and participating in mob mentality is a human characteristic. It just happens to be occurring on a female subreddit at this particular point. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/14 12:56 AM |
| 3 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzThat's what I'm trying to say, that they direct more anger that way than to the men's rights movement. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/14 12:54 AM |
| 7 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzI find that different issues bring out different segments of the 2XC population. People who are mad at the trolls blame the red pill. Radfems get mad whenever men post comments and call it "mansplaining." But when someone posts some stupid news article, those of us who are critical thinkers who don't subscribe to any particular political belief tend to challenge those ideas. Like when someone posted an article about Jill Abramson and her accusations of pay discrimination, about 2 commentors said… | /r/MensRights | 25/05/14 12:50 AM |
| 14 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzI've made an unpopular comment on 2XC before. They can be annoying, like giving me a -12, getting several comments that are condescending, and having one commenter accusing me of being an MRA. (I told her I'm very open to /r/mensrights about being egalitarian. I got downvoted, so I don't think she was amused by my candor). To my knowledge, my comment never got deleted. Maybe because the mods can look up my commenting history, though, and see that I comment somewhat frequently on Reddit about hav… | /r/MensRights | 24/05/14 07:53 PM |
| -2 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzBy calling this "women blowing things out of proportion" and not "people blowing things out of proportion," you're just furthering gender stereotypes, which you seem to think are bad. | /r/MensRights | 24/05/14 07:50 PM |
| 19 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzI am subscribed to 2XC. They typically attribute it to /r/theredpill, not your typical MRA. At least on the posts I've seen. | /r/MensRights | 24/05/14 07:48 PM |
| -4 | The harassing PMs and threats that 2XC users have been complaining MRAs have sent since they became a default turn out to be lies or false flag operations by regular users, according to admin /u/DeimorzThere is a male version of 2XC. It's r/oney. People are dumb. | /r/MensRights | 24/05/14 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Men forced to swap seats with a female on a flight if seated next to unaccompanied minors.WHO WOULD BE STUPID ENOUGH TO MOLEST CHILDREN ON AN AIRPLANE?????? IT'S NOT LIKE YOU CAN ESCAPE FROM THE CRIME VERY EASILY. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/14 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Creep shamed, because I wouldn't let a woman return a sweaterYou got a negative score on this comment on a men's rights forum. Looks like lots of MRA's don't see your opinions as particularly valuable. | /r/MensRights | 17/05/14 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Creep shamed, because I wouldn't let a woman return a sweaterThere's a difference between "women" and "some women." | /r/MensRights | 17/05/14 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Man complains that Lifeguard testing favors womenI assume you live outside of the US. lol | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Man complains that Lifeguard testing favors womenTIL the best way to make everyone equal in society is to create a policy where everyone dies. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Kindergarten teacher caught on camera assaulting 6-year-old gets suspended for 10 daysShe needs help, not a teaching license. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 03:57 AM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.You might be right. I don't know if there are a lot of studies on complete social isolation. In a more dire case, I would say it's probably the same or worse to be in solitary confinement than to be raped. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 03:35 AM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I hope that at some point, you re-examine your debate skills and ideological thinking. You are the MRM equivalent of an annoying feminist who says "you don't realize you're giving into the patriarchy" just because you disagree with them on any point. I have explained to you several times that I feel that on a psychological level, solid research shows that being violently raped (a better debater than yourself brought it to my attention that I need to specify "violent" rape, because not all rape i… | /r/MensRights | 15/05/14 03:33 AM |
| 2 | You go, girl! Great argument!This is why I'm egalitarian. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 06:13 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I guess it's because people are afraid that "they can go do it again." When there's not proof they did it the first time. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:50 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.That's a good point. One of the reasons I think people who want to prevent rapes should follow an innocent-until-proven guilty court system is that putting men in prison if they just had a vindictive ex-girlfriend can increase the males' chances of getting raped in prison. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:37 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.Children who came from alcoholic parents statistically speaking deal with depression for shorter amounts of time than children born with sober, physically and/or sexually abusive parents. I've read several other studies that show physical and sexual violence are more traumatic than other stressors. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:23 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.Neither one should be taken lightly. Here's an analogy: A recent study showed that children who had physically or sexually abusive parents had to deal with depression longer than children who had non-violent alcoholic parents. These are both terrible situations that cause depression that need to be addressed by society. And although being raised by alcoholic parents is a bad thing, people still shouldn't go around saying it's objectively worse than being raised by physically/sexually abusive par… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:21 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.Getting raped (or undergoing any violent crime) is more traumatic for most people than getting socially stigmatized. That being said, there are ramifications for using this as the only way to calculate how to dish out the greatest good for the greatest many. If we, for example, just assume that anyone who gets accused of rape is a rapist and gets imprisoned by our court system, then lots of bad ramifications will happen for real rape victims, the falsely accused, and the ability of our criminal … | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:19 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I think you're right in that it varies from situation to situation. Certainly a vigilante response where your life is threatened is probably just as traumatizing as rape. But I think in general, rape is more traumatizing. I also disagree that rape should be framed as short-term. Rapes are overwhelmingly done by someone the victim knows, so it can often start with some sort of grooming. Someone who was sexually assaulted once is often sexually assaulted again within his/her lifetime. I agree (bot… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:07 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.Maybe I misinterpreted what he said. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:00 PM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I agree that it is bad and wrong, but statistically speaking, people heal faster when they are the victims of non-violent traumas rather than violent traumas. I'm not saying that false accusations aren't a horrible, horrible thing, because they are. I'm just saying you can't go around saying that being falsely accused is definitively worse than actually being raped. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 05:00 PM |
| -3 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I never said he doesn't deserve the right to a fair trial. I never said an individual's right to not be raped deserves to trump legal proceedings that exist to keep vindictive women from getting their boyfriends deported or in prison. I believe this particular provision of Title IX is unconstitutional. I never said it's ok to have anything less than unreasonable doubt to be the guideline for college rape trials. All I said is that you can't say that getting booted from school is necessarily more… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 01:43 AM |
| -6 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.What I'm saying is that being raped or beaten brutally is, statistically speaking, more traumatic than being falsely accused of rape. I do understand that being innocent until proven guilty is important. I said it's important and that people who make false rape claims demean the whole process. You put words in my mouth and you should be ashamed. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:39 AM |
| 1 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I think you may have been right. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/14 12:37 AM |
| 8 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.The point is that a good idea delivered poorly is not going to be respected. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/14 10:20 PM |
| 4 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.I agree that the proceedings were bad (which I mentioned that I felt that way and gave an example of how things like this can seriously harm men's lives), but I felt it was a bit much for the author to say without any qualifications that what his friend went through was worse than rape. It really makes the difference between a strong argument and a pointless, poorly-backed up rant. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/14 09:59 PM |
| 6 | A senior engineering student and RA from my alma mater is being expelled and deported from the US after his ex-fiancé accuses him of over sixty separate rape charges. He was not allowed to defend himself or present any evidence at his trial.While this reminds me of an injustice one of my former friends went through when his girlfriend became radicalized and there was strong evidence that she went around the workplace, telling coworkers he emotionally abused her (he's got a temper, but I would say he deserved on honest, "hey you're a d-bag breakup), I really took offense to the first paragraph, because it said that being put on an unfair trial is definitively worse than getting raped. I disagree. There are statistics that show that … | /r/MensRights | 13/05/14 09:32 PM |
| 3 | A live text showing how easy and common the threat of a false accusation can happenCrazy, controlling behavior knows no gender. When I was a kid, I was taught that controlling behavior only came from men and it was done to get because men wanted to control women. As I got older, I started seeing examples of crazy, controlling women. I realized the best way to keep both men and women safe is to stop blaming controlling behavior on the patriarchy and to actually look for the psychological causes of it. | /r/MensRights | 12/05/14 04:23 AM |
| 4 | [Update] Could use some encouragement. About to divide my family over a Right's Issue.You are a courageous and awesome person! | /r/MensRights | 05/05/14 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Could use some encouragement. About to divide my family over a Right's Issue.Tell him. I know you love your cousin and aunt, but if they disown you for doing the right thing, it's best that you just have the family members who really love you for doing the right thing. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/14 12:58 AM |
| 7 | The Reaction Of Feminists To A Male Rape VictimI think feminists who claim that we live in a rape culture that is hostile toward women need to address that we live in a rape culture that is hostile toward men. | /r/MensRights | 29/04/14 02:59 PM |
| 0 | This is a great satire article by the Onion. I can't believe we've seen the day something like this is published in a main-stream print.What paper printed this? Newspapers are doing just fine online, just like this Onion article is online. | /r/MensRights | 22/04/14 01:51 PM |
| 1 | facts about gender equalityYeah, I kind of wondered about that too. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/14 04:36 PM |
| 0 | facts about gender equalityI agree with a lot the statements on here, particularly that we need to draw attention to male workplace deaths/injuries, prison sentencing, custody discrimination, and studies on discrimination against males. What I disagree with is the posting of violence against men because I think it is hard to measure whether men are more likely to be the victim of an unprovoked violent crime than a woman is, or to what degree the disproportionate male violence against men can be partially explained by fact… | /r/MensRights | 21/04/14 04:34 PM |
| 3 | So, I've been calling feminist groups in Canada about my effort to open more men's shelters, and have been pleasantly surprised.This is good news. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/14 01:22 AM |
| 4 | The next time someone tells you feminism is about equality.I stopped reading this feminist's garbage after she said rape culture and patriarchy are grounds for dismissing actual gender equality off-hand. Seriously, if men are so competitive due to patriarchy, isn't she being patriarchal by turning gender equality into a competition? | /r/MensRights | 03/04/14 01:57 AM |
| 2 | BBC "Ethics Guides" lists Female Circumcision as "A human rights violation" and there is a "Case for a woldwide ban". No such language on the Male Circumcision Page, just a single line saying "Some also refer to circumcision as genital mutilation."You are correct. The book I read by an anthropologist in Central Africa was wrong. | /r/MensRights | 22/03/14 09:57 PM |
| 1 | BBC "Ethics Guides" lists Female Circumcision as "A human rights violation" and there is a "Case for a woldwide ban". No such language on the Male Circumcision Page, just a single line saying "Some also refer to circumcision as genital mutilation."It stays for 4 reasons: it's a cultural thing if you come from a Jewish family, male circumcision reduces men's sexual pleasure but eliminate's women's sexual pleasures, hospitals can sell foreskin for research and advise families because they gain from it, and feminists are so caught up on what it means to objectify women that they don't even address what it must be like to get the most sensitive part of your body mutilated to look aesthetically appealing to members of the opposite sex | /r/MensRights | 21/03/14 10:28 PM |
| 10 | Why do we worry that few girls take physics, but not that boys make up just 29% of English A-level students?Because math skills pay and English majors work for Walmart. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/14 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Xavier University in the USA is facing trial for branding innocent student 'rapist'Yeah, feminists are dumb. | /r/MensRights | 18/03/14 12:46 AM |
| 9 | Xavier University in the USA is facing trial for branding innocent student 'rapist'I grew up radfem. What these women usually think is that patriarchy owes them safety because all fears a woman can face are based on men's desire to control women. I don't think they're a fan of pussy pass in situations other than child custody and rape trials. If a young, cute girl gets out of a traffic ticket by an older male cop, they see that as patriarchy. | /r/MensRights | 17/03/14 05:22 PM |
| 17 | Xavier University in the USA is facing trial for branding innocent student 'rapist'I think the preponderance of evidence part of Title IX is unconstitutional. The problem with feminism is that a lot of feminists have great ideals about equality and believe things like that everyone deserves the right to a fair and speedy trial and that no one can have life, liberty, or property denied without due process, but feminism is heavily dominated by victims victims of sexual assault and domestic violence who are at a point in their lives where they cannot think about SA rationally, so… | /r/MensRights | 17/03/14 02:38 PM |
| 9 | I was a boy that was "taught not to rape" by his mother, let me tell you exactly why and how that has harmed me throughout my life.My parents were pretty normal but my aunt was a past victim of domestic violence and moved on enough that she got happily married to a man, but she was still traumatized enough that she thinks of a lot of the radfem stuff as liberating. I always looked up to her, so I took all her radfem books as the word of God(dess). I thought radical feminism was the only answer to some brief episodes of abuse I went through as a child, and I believed that having sex meant that a man was going to objectify me… | /r/MensRights | 12/03/14 03:36 AM |
| 1 | I Don't Need Feminism Because...So basically, AlbrechtVonRoon and I said that some MRM activists have a legit reason to complain and others are fringe woman haters. I also interpreted him saying, "I know what you are trying to say" as an acknowledgment that feminism has gone too far. And for agreeing with a statement that feminism has gone too far and there needs to be a MRM but the few genuine male chauvinist pigs need to stay out of it, I got referred to a long-winded article about how feminism has gone far. I already agree … | /r/MensRights | 11/03/14 02:21 AM |
| 3 | I believe the only way to help boys now is to impregnate feminists and have their maternal instincts usurp their hate of men and boys.Interesting thought, troll. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/14 02:17 AM |
| 2 | I Don't Need Feminism Because...At first, I thought the 6th one was about slut shaming, but then I thought it might be a reference to the infamous SlutWalk girl who had that sign that said her "assailant" "doesn't know" he raped her. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/14 01:11 AM |
| 0 | I Don't Need Feminism Because...Yes! This is why I left feminism. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/14 01:04 AM |
| 0 | I Don't Need Feminism Because...<sup>This.</sup> | /r/MensRights | 09/03/14 01:03 AM |
| 0 | I Don't Need Feminism Because...I don't need feminism because feminists teach young men that if they want casual sex, they are objectifying women and they teach young women that if they want casual sex, they are acting out daddy issues when biology should really explain both of these cases most of the time. I don't need feminism because it often overcompensates for women's issues and leads to unfair public policy for men. Advocating for gender equality rather than feminism or men's rights would correct this. I don't need femin… | /r/MensRights | 09/03/14 01:02 AM |
| 0 | Found this on Huff. Post. 26 Lessons your son's future spouse will thank you for teaching him. #1. What the actual F?Sounds like some woman is mad at her ex-husband and is taking it out on men. | /r/MensRights | 03/03/14 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Male power fantasy, uh huhFair enough. | /r/MensRights | 03/03/14 08:53 PM |
| 0 | Male power fantasy, uh huhThe problem is the academics. I have two feminist college professor aunts. They observe "truth" in sociology the same way an English major seeks the "true" meaning of a book--they always look for symbols and keep finding symbols of patriarchy and pedophelia in our culture. The problem is feminism isn't the right type of academic--statistical analysis with a consideration of significant correlations over methods like content analysis and anecdotal evidence. | /r/MensRights | 01/03/14 10:54 PM |
| 0 | Male power fantasy, uh huhYou fight the fact that men have it rough in instances like custody battles, having to do shitty work assignments (I've definitely felt weird at my workplace when my male managers assign only males to go out and shovel snow in sub-zero weather and I know that challenging them to let me go out and spare some of these guys is only a waste of everyone's time), etc. while women are disadvantaged in other aspects of their lives like being able to have multiple sex partners without being stigmatized a… | /r/MensRights | 01/03/14 07:34 PM |
| 0 | Male power fantasy, uh huhWhenever you make a political statement, you are telling people what you think would be a better alternative to the idea they are using. There should be some back-and-forth. This wasn't intended to be an "I'm right, you're wrong and if you don't agree with me, you're dumb." That's why I qualified it with "I would like," because I want to experiment with this model and see what it would be like. I believe this experiment would get rid of the problem of all three existing. When there is a men's ri… | /r/MensRights | 01/03/14 07:30 PM |
| 0 | Male power fantasy, uh huhAs a movement? | /r/MensRights | 01/03/14 03:30 AM |
| 16 | Male power fantasy, uh huhThis is the most discerning comment I have seen on the men's rights page. I upvoted and you and would like to applaud you for trying to at least understand what the other side is saying before disagreeing with feminism. You have the position that is most similar to mine, which is that we need to acknowledge both gender equalities. I would like to get rid of men's rights and feminism and instead have a gender equality movement. But even as a female who has had my life compromised in the past by a… | /r/MensRights | 01/03/14 01:37 AM |
| 13 | College claims that heavy breathing in the presence of a woman is "psychological rape"Yes, I hate being the target of whistling, catcalling, and overly-persistent horny men, but having survived REAL acts of violence, I find the use of the term "verbal rape" pretty insensitive and invalidating to my experiences. | /r/MensRights | 28/02/14 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Schools that punish boys for doing the right thing: two boys take the initiative to report to school staff that they accidentally brought something to school (beer can and plastic gun). Both are suspeIs there any evidence of this other than anecdotal? | /r/MensRights | 28/02/14 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Schools that punish boys for doing the right thing: two boys take the initiative to report to school staff that they accidentally brought something to school (beer can and plastic gun). Both are suspeThis is not a men's rights issue. This is a zero-tolerance issue. It's just a bad policy. | /r/MensRights | 28/02/14 03:32 AM |
| 1 | The many ways divorce courts favor women and how to beat them.Check state laws before you go to the spy shop, though. For example, it is illegal in Kansas (or at least it was when I was a journalist) to record phone conversations without telling the other party. That automatically gets your evidence thrown out in court. | /r/MensRights | 18/02/14 07:21 PM |
| 1 | On my Facebook- I just hate this garbage so much.I didn't realize all fathers abandon their kids until I read that little Facebook meme. Makes me wonder who that man was who drove me to school, ballet, and Girl Scouts and read me bedtime stories and helped me move out, even though it made him sad. Must have been a robot. | /r/MensRights | 18/02/14 06:46 PM |
| 2 | My recently divorced god-father sent me this the other day. Made a lot of sense, especially in his caseGermaine Greer tried to say paid jobs don't require as much work as men claim they do because men get lunch breaks. | /r/MensRights | 16/02/14 04:18 AM |
| 3 | A buddy /coworker has been falsely accused of sexually harassing a chick at the job today and I'm LIVID.r/legaladvice | /r/MensRights | 14/02/14 06:00 AM |
| 0 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'We aren't speculating that she raped him because he has never accused her of doing so. It's possible that she did rape him and he never talked about it because it's taboo, but that's not the subject at hand and you are getting off topic. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/14 05:41 PM |
| 1 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'It depends on whether the rape (if it happened) made her fear he would harm her and/or her loved ones. The thing is, we aren't her and we aren't her ex-boyfriend so none of us knows. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/14 05:40 PM |
| 1 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'Not true. Single occurence can lead to a fear for one's safety. It appears based on the fact that she didn't know how to prove it to the police that she didn't try to consult anyone on escaping, which could point to her being vindictive, but the fact that they were together for three years is not enough to make a judgment call. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/14 12:18 AM |
| 1 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'How about both statements are false? Just because a man does not mean he is a rapist and just because they were in a monogamous relationship doesn't mean he raped her. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/14 12:16 AM |
| 0 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'For a couple of years of college, I dated a guy who had some physical and mental health issues. Due to his physical health issues, he expected me to be at home, waiting on him hand-and-foot. Although he wasn't physically well enough to have sex very often, he told me that because I had a sexual disorder and he "had to give up the best part of being alive" for him, I owed him all my money so he could buy drugs with it. So even if I had time to be out on my own, I couldn't spend any money on mysel… | /r/MensRights | 10/02/14 03:09 AM |
| 1 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'The article says she claimed he "coerced her, psychologically and physically." It sounds like you didn't even read the article and just went by the headline. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/14 02:55 AM |
| 2 | CNN leads college rape article with woman who claims to have been raped by boyfriend of three years after breaking up who 'pressured her.'I don't know this girl, I don't know the situation, but I do know that we can't just assume that he didn't rape her because they were in a monogamous relationship. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/14 02:52 AM |
| 3 | I saw this at my university today. Obviously only men can be sexual predators.This is dumb. Do they have statistics to prove that any significant amount of male perpetrators do it because they want to prove that they're men? Of those men, how many would actually choose not to assault victims because of that poster? | /r/MensRights | 04/02/14 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Help male rape survivors in Bristol - petition to get government recognitionI wish I were British so I'd be able to sign this petition. | /r/MensRights | 31/01/14 03:43 AM |
| 2 | 'Girls Need To Stop Crying Rape' says sorority girl Catie Warren"Rape culture" isn't just a straight male thing on Facebook, unfortunately... | /r/MensRights | 17/01/14 03:24 AM |
| 1 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'You're not very articulate. | /r/MensRights | 09/01/14 12:22 AM |
| 1 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'Maybe I don't understand the point you were trying to make. What does months v. ten minutes of responsibility have to do with levels of responsibility? | /r/MensRights | 08/01/14 08:04 PM |
| 1 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'But it's still responsibility and responsibility is responsibility is responsibility. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/14 07:53 PM |
| 1 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'Yes, but in a lot of drunk hookups, if a man is going to have sex without a condom (and open himself to STD's and pregnancy), he's probably not going to ask a woman (and therefore even have the possibility of having her lie to him) about being on birth control. What I don't like about the article is that it provides no statistics on what the factors are behind unprotected sex. If it's a drunk hookup, chances are it's probably both partners' faults. If it's a woman lying about being on birth cont… | /r/MensRights | 08/01/14 05:47 PM |
| 1 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'Female condoms are a lot harder to apply than male condoms. No one ever uses them. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/14 05:44 PM |
| 3 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'Interesting point. I will think about this some more. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/14 05:37 PM |
| -7 | 'The vast majority of children who are growing up without fathers are doing so in large part because of their mothers' choices.'"The second is the introduction of the pill, which the Food and Drug Administration approved for contraceptive use in 1960. It made nonmarital sex far more easily available, reducing the incentive for men to marry. As George Akerlof and Janet Yellen argued in a 1996 paper (yes, that Janet Yellen, and Akerlof is her husband), the pill very quickly broke down the old institution of the shotgun wedding. With reproduction under female control, it became a female responsibility." Sex is something peo… | /r/MensRights | 07/01/14 11:01 PM |
| 1 | There is a new spammer/troll about...I'm sorry you had to be a mod at one point. Must have been pretty stressful! | /r/MensRights | 07/01/14 03:28 AM |
| 1 | There is a new spammer/troll about...Hmmm... | /r/MensRights | 07/01/14 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Compilation of responses to rape stories from news sites. Male on Female? "Lock him up, put this animal on death row!" Female on Male? "Little sissy girly boy - shameful, pitiful, man"... But MRAs are the rape apologists, right?It is a gendered issue, though. As a female, I have received a lot of support from society in healing from past SA's from men. Men who went through more extensive abuse than I have have been targets of laughter and disbelief. It's sad. | /r/MensRights | 07/01/14 12:46 AM |
| 2 | There is a new spammer/troll about...I kinda want to know, because i have thought of unsubscribing from this subreddit in the past because I got too many aggressive responses to a lot of my comments. I want to know if I had been talking to a troll. | /r/MensRights | 07/01/14 12:45 AM |
| 1 | There is a new spammer/troll about...Could you please provide examples? | /r/MensRights | 06/01/14 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Compilation of responses to rape stories from news sites. Male on Female? "Lock him up, put this animal on death row!" Female on Male? "Little sissy girly boy - shameful, pitiful, man"... But MRAs are the rape apologists, right?I'll think about it some more. Maybe I should clarify that the problem is feminists, not women. I for one, I should probably disclose, am a female. | /r/MensRights | 06/01/14 02:05 AM |
| -3 | Compilation of responses to rape stories from news sites. Male on Female? "Lock him up, put this animal on death row!" Female on Male? "Little sissy girly boy - shameful, pitiful, man"... But MRAs are the rape apologists, right?The problem with rape culture is that we have demonized the wrong gender and presented the wrong gender as victims. | /r/MensRights | 03/01/14 11:13 PM |
| 1 | I hear "all men are rapists" so much that I don't even want to have sex anymoreJust be careful and use a condom, don't have sex with a girl while she's impaired, and if it's casual sex make sure she knows you're not looking for a relationship. Do have sex. Have fun. These are the best years of your life. Even "sex-positive" (and I use this phrase lightly) feminists don't believe in some of those crazy statements you listed. Don't worry about women who say "All sex is rape" or "If a man puts his penis in a woman's vagina it is rape no matter what," because chances are, thos… | /r/MensRights | 03/01/14 04:26 PM |
| 11 | I hear "all men are rapists" so much that I don't even want to have sex anymoreHe said non-college girls. If a girl starts her degree right out of high school, she'll be done when she's 22, which is a little young for Cougarville. | /r/MensRights | 03/01/14 04:23 PM |
| 2 | TIL: According to NOW, Hitler was a Men's Rights ActivistYeah, it's pretty dumb. Honestly, it offends me more as a person who believes in logic and reasoning than it offends me as the bisexual daughter of a Jewish woman and disabled man. (I only bring up Judaism because saying "6 million people" can catch people off guard pretty quickly and show them how unreasonable they're being). | /r/MensRights | 02/01/14 08:12 PM |
| 7 | TIL: According to NOW, Hitler was a Men's Rights ActivistNah, it's cool. I just think Hitler makes it into arguments a little too much, like in the case of what NOW did. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/14 07:16 PM |
| 13 | TIL: According to NOW, Hitler was a Men's Rights ActivistAs a Jewish person, I find Hitler metaphors offensive. No, sorry, but 6 million of my people did not die just so you can bring the suffering of my people into this. As a person who likes logic and reasoning, I dislike the occasional MRA who says misogynistic things, and I especially dislike NOW using these few people (and some men who have nothing to do with the MRM) to make it look like the whole movement is like that, or just assuming that because men want custody of their children, that they … | /r/MensRights | 02/01/14 06:18 PM |
| 3 | What a mature take on things.People shouldn't be so closed-minded and just assume that a certain type of thinking has no merit. | /r/MensRights | 25/12/13 11:07 PM |
| 0 | Because objectification is absolutely dandy if you do it to men.Yeah, feminists are dumb and can't tell the difference between what is caused by a social ill and what it caused by biology. | /r/MensRights | 22/12/13 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Sexual intercourse is 'always rape' according to this feminist bloggerYou and I are smart and know the difference. Some people, however, are dumb and think one inevitably leads to another, even though there is no scientific proof (unless you count some very poor correlation-based studies). | /r/MensRights | 20/12/13 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Sexual intercourse is 'always rape' according to this feminist bloggerThe man-haters probably were raped. I have seen anecdotal proof of it. Would be interested if there is a way to get clinical proof. I have also seen extreme feminists who are happily married and have kids and don't realize their politics say one thing and their feelings say something else. | /r/MensRights | 19/12/13 03:03 AM |
| 6 | Sexual intercourse is 'always rape' according to this feminist bloggerI grew up in a family with lots of feminists. This was among the most extreme (but not THE most extreme) things I've seen written in earnest. | /r/MensRights | 18/12/13 02:59 AM |
| 23 | Sexual intercourse is 'always rape' according to this feminist bloggerAs an ex-feminist who used to have PTSD, I believe one of the problems with feminism is that women think sexual assault is a "women's issue" (despite the fact that rape happens to men all the time) and so lots of women who have sexual trauma join the feminism movement. They can't (I couldn't) separate their world view from a more objective view on what it means to "rape" or "objectify" someone. So it just becomes demonization of males. | /r/MensRights | 18/12/13 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Feminists create employment blacklist in response to satireI didn't see anything about a blacklist, just some stupid coding to eliminate patriarchy. Maybe it's because I stopped reading that idiocy. | /r/MensRights | 16/12/13 02:38 AM |
| 5 | Since no other Sub will care about my rape storyI am sorry for what you are going through. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/13 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Because men don't have feelings right?Thank you for summing up my thoughts exactly! | /r/MensRights | 06/12/13 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksBut I did say men face problems. I said they face problems with getting male rape recognized as a problem (sentence 4 of my original comment on why I left feminism. I even hinted that I am blessed with female privilege), that they have problems getting an equal chance at being able to spend time with their kids when their wives may just expect them to make money (sentence 12), and that they can't even look lustily at women without being labeled as "objectifying" women, when I, a bisexual, can lo… | /r/MensRights | 04/12/13 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksActively looking is when I say that patriarchy exists in a few religious institutions but is not enough to explain all or most of the evils in society and you call me a misandrist. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/13 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksI don't know what to tell you because you keep actively looking for problems in everything I write. I would like to tell you what I think matriarchy looks like and why it should be eliminated but I don't have time anymore to try to get you to stop actively looking for discrimination in everything I say. | /r/MensRights | 30/11/13 07:01 PM |
| 2 | TIL a sperm donor, and even a rape victim can be forced to pay child support.How about if you commit violent or non-consensual activities you pay child support and never get to see your child, regardless of the gender of the perpetrator? And we set up laws so we can acknowledge that an erection is an involuntary response, and so yes, a man can get raped. This should improve the lives of men and the children they create. Statutory rape should depend on the situation, because some states don't have Romeo and Juliet laws. | /r/MensRights | 25/11/13 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Women win elections as often as men. So why do we need quotas, again?I do not focus on this issue a lot. I think men's rights should be emphasized more than feminism right now, but I personally am more interested in other societal evils than gender issues (I'm kind of a foreign policy type of person), although this is something I am interested in. I don't know the best resources to find these things. I think the information you provided is still inconclusive. In a society where it is a norm for women to give up their career ambitions and for men to continue with … | /r/MensRights | 25/11/13 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Women win elections as often as men. So why do we need quotas, again?I would like to clarify that I would like you to show me something that is statistically-based and not anecdotal. I have seen cases of women complaining anecdotally that they dislike having men expect them to sacrifice their careers (Hope Edelman's "The Myth of Co-Parenting" comes to mind). If you provide just anecdotal evidence, I will conclude that some women want men to take care of them and some women want men who respect their ambitions. If you send me something statistically-based, I will … | /r/MensRights | 25/11/13 04:03 AM |
| 3 | Hey feminists. How come men are still expected to pay for dates?I like the point the author of this article is trying to make, but I don't like reading rants. | /r/MensRights | 25/11/13 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Women win elections as often as men. So why do we need quotas, again?The study cited in the article that spawned this debate seemed pretty unbiased. I think you're being a little pessimistic. | /r/MensRights | 25/11/13 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Women win elections as often as men. So why do we need quotas, again?Could you please send me links to articles? | /r/MensRights | 25/11/13 03:26 AM |
| 3 | Lets start a list of all examples of how feminists discrimination against men.Rape culture never really addresses how men are shamed and victimized by rape. It never exposes the fact that our culture says that men can't get raped, or that "men don't get raped, they get lucky." Rape culture only focuses on bad things that happen to women. Feminism doesn't address state custody laws that favor women. The laws are written with the assumption that a mother and child can only be victims of a violent father, and it doesn't address the issue of what happens if the mother is craz… | /r/MensRights | 24/11/13 01:53 AM |
| 13 | Women win elections as often as men. So why do we need quotas, again?I think the reason why women don't run as often as men deserves more examination. Either way, quota systems are never the answer. In Latin American countries where quota systems are used, women often are recruited to parties because they are related to males. In their legislatures, they often vote along the party line, instead of voting in line with "women's issues." It actually leads to women in power being taken less seriously, because the stereotype is that legislative women are just puppets … | /r/MensRights | 24/11/13 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksI think I meant to say "anachronistic patriarchal institutions" rather than "patriarchy." I don't think it deserves special treatment. If you will recall, the original subject I was talking about was why I left the feminism movement. And I also said that anachronistic patriarchal institutions aren't a full explanation for why there is gender inequality. | /r/MensRights | 23/11/13 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksI believe patriarchy explains very, very few things in modern society. It explains why some places of worship allow for smaller roles for women (usually in terms of leadership) but MOST situations come from the fact that we as humans tend to categorize people and assign them different roles, which is often done unfairly. I think gender stereotyping explains way more of our problems than patriarchy does. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/13 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksI think patriarchy explains none of what you described, hence I left feminism. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/13 11:39 PM |
| 4 | Three schoolgirls who falsely accused a California teacher of being a "perv" who touched them inappropriately have been ordered to pay him $387,000 for defamation. The ringleader of the group, who was 11 years old at the time, must also pay punitive damages.That would be a more accurate word. | /r/MensRights | 18/11/13 11:06 PM |
| 16 | Three schoolgirls who falsely accused a California teacher of being a "perv" who touched them inappropriately have been ordered to pay him $387,000 for defamation. The ringleader of the group, who was 11 years old at the time, must also pay punitive damages.When a girl has sex with a male teacher, she was taken advantage of. When a guy has sex with a female teacher, he "got lucky." Even if he's 14. It's men in this society who have to suffer living in a rape culture. | /r/MensRights | 18/11/13 08:54 PM |
| 29 | Three schoolgirls who falsely accused a California teacher of being a "perv" who touched them inappropriately have been ordered to pay him $387,000 for defamation. The ringleader of the group, who was 11 years old at the time, must also pay punitive damages.I want to use this information to help some people understand that women can lie about sexual abuse, but then I remembered that if I use court verdicts as evidence, they will just say that the teacher got off free because the jury is a part of our slut shaming "rape culture." | /r/MensRights | 18/11/13 06:39 PM |
| 15 | The feminist war on sexist pop videos is fuelled by ugly, misanthropic prejudices of its own – Telegraph BlogsSo we can create laws that limit the cultural information teenagers get because of some unproven claim that music videos somehow make men forget that women have feelings? Seeing things like this makes me glad I left the feminist movement a long time ago. | /r/MensRights | 16/11/13 11:49 PM |
| 1 | There is no "mommy penalty". You make less because you work less and are less available. It's that simple.Please don't cuss me out. I understand the logic behind it and I understand that they have a business to run. What I don't like is that all the comments I read said that women are asking for special rights, but no one wanted to address the fact that this mutually reinforces a society where women have to give up career satisfaction and men are expected to stoically spend less time with their kids. Instead of saying hateful things about studies that raise this issue, we should be advocating for a … | /r/MensRights | 16/11/13 11:21 PM |
| 1 | There is no "mommy penalty". You make less because you work less and are less available. It's that simple.I don't think the article was advocating for women to get equal pay for less work; it was advocating for employers to not assume that women will do less work just because they are mothers. Granted, it would be nice if it quoted a peer-reviewed study rather than the findings of a feminist-oriented think tank with the study that shows employers are biased against mothers and for fathers. | /r/MensRights | 16/11/13 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Opting out: Women can have an abortion, some men say they should have a choice over parenthood tooI interpreted this article as saying men should be able to force women to get abortions. Did I completely misread it? | /r/MensRights | 11/11/13 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Opting out: Women can have an abortion, some men say they should have a choice over parenthood tooIn some states, you need written consent from the father (only if he is known). | /r/MensRights | 11/11/13 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Essentially how it goes.What I disliked about the way "pro-choice" Democrats dealt with the healthcare debate is that they kept saying anti-abortion Republicans should vote for Democrats because yes, Democrats typically want to expand abortion rights but they also want to keep it safe, legal, and rare with social programs and Republicans actually increase the need for abortion by doing things like limiting health insurance options for people with pre-existing conditions. So then, when the health care debate came up and… | /r/MensRights | 11/11/13 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Opting out: Women can have an abortion, some men say they should have a choice over parenthood tooYeah, but we shouldn't force someone to tear a child out of their womb against their will. And we should have laws that prevent mothers from destroying a baby without even notifying the fathers. Those are pretty invasive things too. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/13 02:50 PM |
| -3 | Opting out: Women can have an abortion, some men say they should have a choice over parenthood tooInstead of advocating for men to force women to have abortions, we should advocate for more state laws that require consent from both parties before they get an abortion. I support abortion, but if my brother's girlfriend got pregnant and he pressured her into getting an abortion, I would never forgive him. And if she got pregnant and decided to get an abortion without telling him she was pregnant, I would never forgive her. I wouldn't allow it in my own family and I won't allow it in a civilize… | /r/MensRights | 10/11/13 04:51 AM |
| 2 | NY dad deemed unfit for not taking son to McDonald'sThis is really, really sad. He must feel awful when he was only trying to be a good parent and some stupid judge wanted to interpret it as neglect. | /r/MensRights | 09/11/13 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Confused about the perception of Men's RightsI was serious. btw when I said, "Thank you for taking the time to show fellow mensrights subredditers that a lot of the behavior on this subreddit is unnacceptable," I didn't mean "show" in any sort of a confrontational way. A more specific synonym would be "explain." I think you have a point about it not being "a lof of the behavior." It was an accidental hyperbole on my part. | /r/MensRights | 05/11/13 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Confused about the perception of Men's RightsI tried teaching fukuaneveryoneuknow about basic tools of rhetoric. It didn't go very well. | /r/MensRights | 05/11/13 12:31 AM |
| 5 | Confused about the perception of Men's RightsI think this is the most hostile subreddit I have ever subscribed to. If the topic were not as interesting as it is, I would have unsubscribed within the first month of being on reddit. Thank you for taking the time to show fellow mensrights subredditers that a lot of the behavior on this subreddit is unacceptable. | /r/MensRights | 05/11/13 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Gay marriage proponent Jonathan Rauch explains how the MRM will win against feminism 1) Let them rant 2) Simply tell the truth 3) Act reasonable and don't intimidate or threatenThank you so much for that comment!!!!!! You have brightened my day!!!!!! | /r/MensRights | 26/10/13 10:09 PM |
| 14 | Gay marriage proponent Jonathan Rauch explains how the MRM will win against feminism 1) Let them rant 2) Simply tell the truth 3) Act reasonable and don't intimidate or threatenI think there are quite a few posters/commenters on the mensrights subreddit who need to learn to be less confrontational and deliberate when they comment. There is a lot of namecalling and cyberbullying on this subreddit whenever I agree with an OP's post, but not for the exact reasons stated (or that a commenter believes). The result is a lot of exchanges of unpleasantries rather than real dialogue/convincing. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/13 02:00 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaDo you think it is common for women to get PTSD-like symptoms? Is there any anecdotal evidence or statistics you could direct me to? | /r/MensRights | 24/10/13 04:17 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaWhy do you feel other women had ten times more rape hysteria than you? | /r/MensRights | 24/10/13 12:33 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksThis would have been a constructive response that would have clarified some misinterpretations I made, that definitely should have been toward the beginning and not the end. If you would like people to get at things and not just be annoying, I would recommend being less confrontational and using more constructive responses. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/13 01:34 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaThe article is not enough. The only thing that would be enough for me to say whether your fears deserved the same poignant language or not is for me to be you, and physics prevents that. Still, from what you described, it seemed like a very strong fear nonetheless and I am sorry you had to go through it. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/13 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksPerhaps I didn't articulate myself very well because I basically meant what you said. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/13 01:28 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksGranted, it is a powerful tool and like all powerful tools, it can be abused sometimes, but that doesn't mean it's always wrong. There is a difference between trying to draw in perspective and trying to be manipulative. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:47 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksIt's about gathering perspective, bringing in more facts. Showing that there is more than 2 sides to a multi-sided issue. On the contrary, saying that only fukuaneveryoneuknow is the only person who can decide how issues are framed is dishonest, because you are not the only person who gets to decide how truth is measured. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:45 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksI mentioned that the men on this subreddit complain that if men work (on average) more hours than women, that means they spend more time with their children. You have not stated whether that is a legitimate complaint or whether it is first world whining. Could you give me your opinion on it? | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksMost people consider reframing arguments the best way to make your point while simultaneously addressing the other side's point. Have you ever taken a class in speech or rhetoric? There are also some books on the subject. George Lakoff is famous for writing about this topic. You should read up on it. It seems that your belligerent style and excessive cussing is meant to offend rather than engage. I don't think you understand how debating really works. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:33 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksIt makes perfect sense in the context of this conversation because the topic is who does and does not have the right to say they are an oppressed group. How is that off-topic? | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:20 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksYou say middle class women have no place to feel marginalized because they do not live in the third world. You are wealthy enough to have access to a computer that has Internet. I can reasonably assume that you are not a part of the third world. Therefore, you should not subscribe or validate subreddits that are about the rights of people in the first world, be it male or female. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:19 AM |
| 0 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksSo you're going to unsubscribe from mensrights because you're at least lucky enough to have access to a computer, right? | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 01:10 AM |
| -3 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksLet me disagree with you with facts (which are often posted on this subreddit). Statistically, women spend more time at home and men spend more time at work. This means women have less time to work on their careers and men have less time to spend with their kids. Instead of saying middle class women are not being oppressed (because they're middle class), you should be saying they are somewhat oppressed and their middle class husbands are somewhat oppressed, but just in different ways. Let's plea… | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 12:59 AM |
| 14 | Leaving the sisterhood: A recovering feminist speaksLike Elly Tams, I too am a former feminist, current gender equalist. I couldn't take it anymore because my feminist aunt said the most slut shaming things. For instance, she bragged that when my cousin turned 16 and started wearing makeup that she told her, "You can do whatever you want with your body but I want you to know that you look like a Puerto Rican slut." As someone who has had to deal with sexual assault in ways that a lot of feminists have not, I would say that the people who belong t… | /r/MensRights | 22/10/13 12:53 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaI grew up with an aunt who is a little crazy about these things and told me weird stuff like, "Don't put your hair over your face (as mosquito netting, while we were walking over a bog) because you look like you're shy and some man will see you and rape you." (She probably has PTSD from being abused by a neighbor as a kid and having dealt with domestic violence). I also was physically abused by an older male at the same age. It got compounded when I was a teenager and my parents told me they thi… | /r/MensRights | 21/10/13 10:47 PM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaMy understanding of the clinical/counseling field of psychology is that PTSD is considered more complex than other phobias and is not treated as easily. I guess we're kind of saying the same thing. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/13 03:14 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaI was being genuine. I hope you don't think I was being sarcastic. | /r/MensRights | 20/10/13 02:15 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaNo, I think I misunderstood. That's what I tried to say this most recent time. | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 10:45 PM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaCould you please explain what you meant when you said, "The long term effects of rape are similar to the long term effects of living in a culture of rape hysteria"? | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 03:25 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaI would agree that the long term effects of rape are similar to the long term effects of living in a culture of rape hysteria, in terms of the cases you sent me. But I disagree with what you said in the article, about how women being told about rape in excessively dramatic ways is as bad as women actually being raped. There is fear in both of them, but I would prefer the irrational fear to the PTSD-type fear (which I had). | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 02:25 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaI would also like to point out that rape can lead to suicide. I know this because when I was a teenager, I had PTSD and wanted to kill myself to make it stop. One of the reasons I became interested in men's rights is because I know that men not only have to deal with the feelings I had, but society telling them that they can't be raped, and that must be really invalidating. | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:21 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaBy your logic, isn't she trivializing the mobs and lynchings by saying she is a survivor because she endured not any lynchings and vigilante mobs, but this? "For the woman on the street, rape hysteria is shoved down her throat over and over till she vomits it up without thinking, all over herself and her life. It seeps into every interaction, every step she takes into the outer world. ‘Is this man going to rape me? All men are guilty! I’m never safe and it’s their fault!’ That’s where rape hyste… | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:19 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaThank you for being one of the few people who responded to me without being belligerent. I would find her metaphor better if this situation related to her almost dying in some way (be it suicide or her having been falsely accused of rape and having been attacked by a vigilante), but the most dramatic thing she cited was that she was a little traumatized by false statistics. I think you made an excellent point that rape hysteria can create victims and survivors, but it does not apply in this case… | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:15 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaAlso, where does Alison's story of rape survival specifically mention a time when she was threatened by rape? | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:12 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaI'm confused. | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:11 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaFalse rape accusations also trivializes rape, so let's not trivialize rape by falsely accusing men of rape, or having some woman who has not been assaulted as a result of rape hysteria call herself a survivor. | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:05 AM |
| 1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaIt can lead to suicide. | /r/MensRights | 19/10/13 12:03 AM |
| -1 | My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteriaI agree with all the talking points, but I disagree with "My name is Alison and I am a survivor of rape hysteria" as the framework for this essay because it trivializes rape, all rapes, of any gender, to suggest that "rape hysteria" needs survivors like actual rape does. I know it's meant to be ironic, but it isn't ironic. It's just offensive. Once again, glad about every single last one of the talking points, not so happy about that particular line. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/13 02:09 AM |
| 2 | My 19 year old sister just tweeted this and I couldn't agree more!Oh. Sorry. | /r/MensRights | 15/10/13 03:07 AM |
| 4 | My 19 year old sister just tweeted this and I couldn't agree more!That's where the "until they earn disrespect" part comes in. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/13 04:55 AM |
| 2 | My 19 year old sister just tweeted this and I couldn't agree more!Everyone deserves respect for being a human. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/13 04:54 AM |
| 2 | 60% of college graduates are women ... not enough for feminists: "College hook-up culture sees female students graduate with low self-esteem - but young men are more self-assured than ever"Saying that having a female majority of college dropouts is success while deliberately ignoring self-esteem doesn't even tell the complete story. We don't graduate college for the sake of completing a task; we graduate college to have a good life, and it's hard to have a good life if you have low self-esteem. That being said, I would agree that this was kind of a derpy article. You can't just say hookup culture hurts women's self-esteem more than men's without backing it up with statistics. Ther… | /r/MensRights | 07/10/13 03:41 AM |
| 18 | Big Surprise: Facebook removes anti-woman groups/pages, but not anti-man groups/pages. Good thing I've deleted my Facebook account promptly.This is a better depiction of Facebook's double standards than something that was up on mensrights a week or two ago that said (without any anti-woman groups as a control group) that groups that had names that were something to the effect of "Boys are stupid," which were probably more battle of the sexes than hate groups, weren't being removed. Talking about castration of males is wrong and promotes violence against men. I am glad you took the time to show that Facebook really does have double s… | /r/MensRights | 30/09/13 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Looks like hate speech based on a specific gender only applies if the gender is female.I'm not sure these groups sound like hate groups. If they're battle of the sexes, that's not hate groups. It's dumb humor. I don't think anyone (except annoying feminists who actively choose to take things the wrong way) would call "Women are Evil" or "All Women are Annoying" to be the names of hate groups. | /r/MensRights | 26/09/13 02:03 AM |
| 2 | “We’re calling you out.” An article from my university that calls on men to not only stop raping, but to stop letting other men rape women.I suppose I read into her statement more than I should have. I guess I believe so much in consent, that I looked the lyrics up with an image in my head of 2 people who had previously discussed what they like. (In a context of consenting adults who talk about what they like, "I know you want it," is dirty talk.) Of course, I have had annoying guys try to tell me they know I want to have sex with them and my objections do nothing to them, but it's different when you hear it on the street instead o… | /r/MensRights | 23/09/13 06:40 PM |
| 1 | “We’re calling you out.” An article from my university that calls on men to not only stop raping, but to stop letting other men rape women.I don't care what it sounds like to any individual. The point is that no one gets a monopoly on what it means. | /r/MensRights | 23/09/13 02:26 PM |
| 8 | On Unwanted Pregnancies: Why don't men's rights activists advocate "No condom, no sex"?Because it only accounts for one-night stands and not for men who are in a monogamous relationship with a woman he thinks he can trust. | /r/MensRights | 23/09/13 01:03 AM |
| 5 | “We’re calling you out.” An article from my university that calls on men to not only stop raping, but to stop letting other men rape women."The song of the summer? 'Blurred Lines,' with lyrics featuring coercive language recognizable to anyone who’s faced unwanted sexual advances." I'm a woman. I've dealt with a lot of unwanted sexual advances. I still believe that any poem (or song) uses metaphors in a way that is ambiguous. The fact that I've dealt unwanted sexual advances does not mean I have a monopoly over interpreting art. | /r/MensRights | 22/09/13 11:40 PM |
| 1 | I lurk here almost every week. I am a woman and I support everyone in this subreddit 110%.You got me there. | /r/MensRights | 21/09/13 09:58 PM |
| 2 | I lurk here almost every week. I am a woman and I support everyone in this subreddit 110%.The thing with this subreddit that irritates me though is that all of the comments (and all, not most) that come from people who purposefully distort my views and claim I said something I did not say just because they don't agree with my position come from this subreddit. I think the difference between this subreddit and others is that on other subreddits that discuss contentious issues, they have pretty basic rules about respect like a no name-calling policy. Here, they just say "no doxxing wil… | /r/MensRights | 20/09/13 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Why men sit with their legs apart. (spoilers: it's not "privilege", nor simply your balls)I had a guy friend (heterosexual male) who was trying to hook up with me freak out on me for sitting with my legs sprawled out on his couch. He said I looked too manly. I asked him if I needed to cross my legs and he said no. I just kind of laughed and didn't bring up patriarchy or male privilege. | /r/MensRights | 19/09/13 01:29 AM |
| 0 | One of the "joys" of being a male teacher in a primary schoolI still would like to see the evidence that I said definitively that she was molested. Could you please tell me where my wording was ambiguous? If you cannot, a polite thing to do in this situation is to say, "You're right. I read into what you wrote more than was necessary. I am really sorry I made an inflammatory comment." It's a nicer thing to do than to blame these unpleasantries on me. | /r/MensRights | 18/09/13 05:25 PM |
| 1 | This is a really interesting read about the basis of how men unconsciously define themselves, even when they are trying to combat male stereotypesThanks! | /r/MensRights | 18/09/13 03:02 AM |
| 0 | One of the "joys" of being a male teacher in a primary schoolI never said she "must" have been molested. I said she "might" have been molested. Lest anyone not understand my word choice, I then proceeded, "Whether she has or has not...." I really made an effort to show that I did not make any assumptions about her. The only person who made assumptions was you making an assumption that I was making an assumption. | /r/MensRights | 18/09/13 02:37 AM |
| 1 | This is a really interesting read about the basis of how men unconsciously define themselves, even when they are trying to combat male stereotypesI'm not going to lie. I kinda skimmed through the first half. I was more interested in the study where it showed that men use actions to describe what a man is, rather than adjectives. | /r/MensRights | 18/09/13 02:30 AM |
| 2 | One of the "joys" of being a male teacher in a primary schoolShe might have been molested as a kid by a teacher. Whether she has or has not, she should devote her life to working for organizations run by people who can deal with this issue with less emotion. She might actually put her passion to good use that way. But definitely on the taking orders side rather than giving them. | /r/MensRights | 16/09/13 05:11 PM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.Could you please elaborate in your own words? | /r/MensRights | 08/09/13 01:20 AM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.Elaborate. | /r/MensRights | 06/09/13 03:46 PM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.What purpose do they serve in a modern context? | /r/MensRights | 04/09/13 08:34 PM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.It says 2012 on it. I don't think that's ancient. I also don't see how using med student data, which predicts future students should be used to explain the current wage gap. Also, speaking of med school, women are lagging in being in leadership roles in medical academia. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/13 03:12 AM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.429,000 male physicians/surgeons and 226,000 female doctors/surgeons. (Source: http://www.bls.gov/cps/cpsaat39.htm) Now that I answered your question, answer mine: Where did I say that men shouldn't be encouraged to be nurses and that people should be paid for time they spend with their families? | /r/MensRights | 03/09/13 11:20 PM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.I never said men can't or shouldn't be encouraged to be nurses. I find no problem with it. I also didn't say employers should have to pay people for time they spend with their families. I just said the statistics MAY point to the possibility that women are encouraged to take less demanding jobs at the expense of their careers and men are encouraged to take more demanding jobs at the expense of their families. If you had actually read my response appropriately instead of actively choosing to read… | /r/MensRights | 02/09/13 02:04 AM |
| 1 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.My uncle has a beard. At least my aunt is consistent. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/13 02:00 AM |
| 1 | How about something positive for a change this fine Sunday morning.I upvoted because of the title you gave this. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/13 01:00 AM |
| 7 | You Know That “Women Make 77 Cents to Every Man’s Dollar” Line? It’s Not True.I grew up in a feminist family where 2 of my aunts told me stupid radical bullshit like that shaving my legs contributes to our pedophelic culture. I think plenty of the arguments feminists make are dumb. But the arguments they make about quite a few things relating to the gender gap make sense. Feminists I know often argue (as is mentioned in the article) that women work less hours than men. This should offend both men and women because it means the traditional family, where women put aside the… | /r/MensRights | 31/08/13 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Feminist university newspaper article says there's no such thing as a good man in a patriarchy, and that all men oppress women by nothing more than existing. And more happy thoughts.I find it suspicious that this little sour puss girl says that contradicting or laughing at her agenda is patriarchy. I think she doesn't realize that she doesn't believe in feminism so much as she believes she feels safest in a delusional world where she can't be proven to ever be wrong in any situation. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/13 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Feminists saying they don't want men to use the word "slut"...............at a SLUT WALK.People on both sides were being dumb. Although AndyAndrophile makes a good point. | /r/MensRights | 25/08/13 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Can men be trusted to take male birth control?I don't think having the condom be "uninvented" should discourage trusting couples to have the man take the pill. | /r/MensRights | 07/08/13 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Evidently domestic violence only happens to women in Verizon's world.Yes, but that still doesn't give b_kraken the right to make this into something it isn't. | /r/MensRights | 02/08/13 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Evidently domestic violence only happens to women in Verizon's world.That's a good point, but I'm challenging the assertion b_kraken is trying to make, which is that Verizon is trying to say that domestic violence only happens to women. It says in some parts of its domestic violence campaign that domestic violence is committed against 1 in every 7 males. (Read here: http://responsibility.verizon.com/domestic-violence-prevention). I'm not saying that some people don't have the right to find that particular ad offensive, but I am saying that that ad should not come… | /r/MensRights | 02/08/13 02:40 PM |
| -4 | More Mainstream Coverage - 10 Ways We Discriminate Against The Male GenderI don't recall any parents in my community actually trying to tell pre-school girls to avoid boys. I've never heard of parents in any other community trying to do that. It's a dumb joke and is always presented that way. I think the author was trying to look at the issue evenhandedly but when she wrote, "For the women with male partners that are reading, when is the last time you held the door open for your mate? Opened his car door? Paid for a meal or done something kind for him without expectin… | /r/MensRights | 02/08/13 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Evidently domestic violence only happens to women in Verizon's world.Apparently having a picture of only females is the exact same thing as saying domestic violence only happens to women. Or maybe Verizon isn't endorsing that idea so much as not actively trying to dispel the stereotype. | /r/MensRights | 01/08/13 09:41 PM |
| 4 | I ask 2 girls to leave private property, I end up hand cuffed in the back of a police car.Also, call the local newspaper. | /r/MensRights | 13/07/13 08:29 PM |
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