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You cold approach but don't want to go a step further and ask her out. You only describe that you thought that she appears to be busy etc. Just suggest something you could do together and ask her out directly. Also, stop judging others and thinking in these weird social classes.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/23 06:30 AM
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Cold showers help
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:23 PM
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Your attitude was on point, because you really dgaf, but I don't see you picking up on her shit test as what it is. But anyway no lesbian ever said she was "super gay".
/r/TheRedPill11/09/20 05:45 AM
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You're putting words into my mouth. Anyway, what I said was that it sounds to me like OP's frame might not be congruent with his behavior which appears to be the main reason for the problem he posted here.
/r/askTRP07/09/20 09:35 PM
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I answered to a specific comment and stated that the girl is not automatically a PsYcHo just because she kinda expected that he was only seeing her and gets hurt when he doesn't. The thing is that OP probably got into her pants through a boyfriend-ish frame because that's simple and now kinda tries to keep her for the sex which is why he has the problem he posted in this thread in the first place.
/r/askTRP07/09/20 09:02 PM
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I'm curious. Why do you edit all your comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 07:07 PM
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I mostly agree with your little story here, because "been there, don that" too. In the end, being honest and straightforward is always the best strategy imo. I did exactly what you wrote in the last paragraph and honestly felt so much better when my lies stopped. But I wanted to add that if she doesn't like the fact that he fucked the other girl, she isn't necessarily "psycho", but might simply be emotionally invested and hurt. She is totally allowed to screen him for being appropriate relations…
/r/askTRP07/09/20 06:57 PM
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You're right. Apparently, I made a common mistake here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 09:39 AM
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I disagree, the beauty standard displayed in the media and especially on social media changed to more curvy, thick girls, also due to the fitness industry, fitness influencers etc. These trends are often engineered by the fashion industry and cyclical (as somebody else already stated). Marilyn Monroe was "thicc" too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 05:48 AM
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Drinking a lot is too normalized IMO. Most people aren't alcoholics though. I see that it's hard to make casual friends when you don't participate in stuff like alcohol, coffee etc. Maybe just tell them that you don't drink alcohol without an explanation to not sound like a moralizer. If they ask, say that you don't like it or make up an alcohol allergy. Alternatively, find friends in areas of life where people tend to drink less (crossfitters come to mind).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 08:16 AM
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IMO it's a result of fitness culture / social media influencers. There are influencers selling fitness programs specifically for the booty. Showing off trained bodies gets likes on tiktok / instagram. Therefore, today, it is a generational preference.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 04:13 PM
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That's all you guys ever say. But everything one can see of him paints the same picture. His personal tweets, his press conferences, documentaries. Tell me, from your point of view, what sources would you call reliable regarding him?
/r/TheRedPill10/07/20 11:22 AM
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Well, It's a known fact that Trump received the lower number of popular votes than Clinton but the higher number of electoral votes. If you watch press conferences of Trump, you don't need media to interpret it, it's usually quite clear how he acts.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/20 04:21 AM
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Disclaimer: I'm not from the US and not living there. While I agree that these new movements look very radical to me as well, I'm surprised that no one here is criticising the president. His apparent lying, calling media fake news, active transformation of the USA to a banana republic, and lack of ethics and leadership seems to contribute substantially to the segregation of the country. I'm honestly surprised that his voters want to be represented by someone like him.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/20 11:03 PM
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Fyi: Condoms don't protect you from HPV
/r/askTRP22/05/20 06:45 AM
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I agree with your point about having to learn it. Had some friends who are naturals, but never really figured things out myself. Missed so many chances with girls because i was scared as a teen (scared of looking inexperienced, which actually reinforced this). After finding out about game acquiring these "skills", and - most importantly- gather my own experiences with women, nowadays I definitely understand why OP thinks these habits are artificial and make one even more insecure. I kind of agre…
/r/seduction19/05/20 10:55 AM
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Go to 2-3 places weekly to become a regular and automatically expand your social circle. Places can be bars, a gym, dance classes, public speaking classes etc whatever is of your interest, but ideally nothing nerdy where only socially awkward dudes hang out. Be a cool guy that provides value / is fun to be around / high energy.
/r/askTRP25/04/20 07:21 AM
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April Fool's
/r/seduction01/04/20 06:59 PM
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If you dumped her, we might think about it. But if she dumped you: No, just no.
/r/askTRP12/03/20 01:52 PM
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I think men in the environment you are in just care too little about grooming/appearance. Maybe your statement is true for that environment. You saying many of the men are short (which to you is similar to unattractive) seems a bit silly to me, as height is quite normally distributed among the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 01:50 PM
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A main problem i see here is the fact that you only seem to read those subs without actually going out and talking to other humans. Additionally, you only seem to read the subs with extreme views. IMO, subs such as r/dating_advice or r/datingoverthirty have people with less extreme worldviews. I guess distancing yourself from or thinking critically about the subs with extreme views is a good idea.
/r/ExRedPill11/03/20 12:54 PM
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Building a real brand on social media takes time
/r/seduction09/03/20 06:16 PM
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You're supporting the red pill's points here. On TRP, people agree that nice guys are influenced by upbringing, Hollywood movies etc. Similarly, they also agree that theoretically it would be wonderful to be a nice guy, but being a nice guy in every situation is mostly a failing strategy. Let's assume another example here, when working in a competitive field such as finance, you will get run over by aggressive rivals. I therefore disagree with your point that there is no socially acceptable alte…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/20 07:02 AM
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You sound like you're trying to make up an excuse here for not getting the girls you want.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/20 07:17 AM
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They matter, but i guess the population on tinder in his age bracket is also considerably smaller than the one in yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 05:35 PM
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You probably gave away boyfriendish signals (and were not completely honest).
/r/askTRP18/02/20 10:01 PM
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PUA space, especially RSD transitioned to teaching self improvement (especially after Julien's 2014 scandal), focus on making yourself feel better in your skin, but also understanding how and why men and women act like they do. They would explain how you want to make the girl feel and why, show you the method, but without exactly saying what line to use. Many programs also included actionable items/goals and online coaching where the students could ask questions about there experiences. As someo…
/r/TheRedPill14/02/20 08:24 PM
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Roosh really went down his own rabbit hole
/r/TheRedPill14/02/20 08:13 PM
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Came here to say exactly this. It seems like OP read "the game" and then looked up the people mentioned there. While he is correct about the fact that canned material doesn't really work, his statement is simply outdated.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/20 08:11 PM
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Let her qualifiy herself more and be physical yourself. Stop assuming what she might think or not think. Also stop comparing yourself to some guys she dated. Apparently, she's dating or hanging out with you now. Just go for it and judge by her actions, not by your assumptions.
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:49 AM
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You make it sound as if women's goal is to have a ring on their finger and if they don't it's the man's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 07:32 AM
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Does not feel obvious at all
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 07:00 PM
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How is this related to redpill?
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 06:45 PM
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RSD took its PUA content down. Also several coaches seem to go their own way now.
/r/seduction10/02/20 05:40 PM
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It sounds as if you put her on a pedestal and convince yourself that you are not good enough for her. But to answer your main question, sometimes you will feel a connection and sometimes you won't. In my opinion, the more experienced you become, the higher are your standards become for people you want to be around.
/r/seduction02/02/20 12:23 PM
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I see where you are coming from, but this girl is not "using the red pill". Actually, she is what the guys at the red pill often describe how women are. As, you are investing more than her, the red pill solution to this would be to have other options than her. Also, I don't see why you believe that the guys she has dated have a MGTOW attitude. Or do you want to say she made them like that? Well, I rather feel that you're actually looking for relationship advice. So, I'd recommend you to make you…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/20 06:15 AM
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I'm not an expert at clubs for 20year olds, but I enjoy Salsa parties a lot. So, I'd recommend Salsa lesssons.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 12:26 AM
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I agree that many of these people exist. They always find excuses to not do anything different than before. But the other thing is that apparently you have never tried to understand the people you call "losers" or where they became that way. I'd say many of them were people you would consider normal average guys. Many men find TRP after having been cheated on or ditched by a woman and while not understanding why. They thought they had found the "love of their life" but from one instant to the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 12:36 PM
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Please elaborate the reasoning a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:16 PM
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In my opinion, the fact that there is the third group of guys (probably the largest of the three) that a woman does not consider for neither sex nor relationship should be obvious to the reader (because this group is most likely the largest).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:56 AM
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The thing is that many women separate men into two groups. The men they just want to have sex with get sex from the first night. But if she sees the man as relationship material, she suddenly has the need to make him wait for sex 3 months (or whatever time). So when the men fall into the group that has to wait they feel cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 02:46 AM
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What you're describing is quite normal thing. That's why you always judge girls by their actions, not by what they say. Girls will always act differently towards someone they find attractive compared to someone they don't.
/r/seduction09/01/20 05:04 AM
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I third this
/r/askTRP22/12/19 08:33 PM
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1996
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:22 PM
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So, you didn't mention that you used condoms or that you have doubts, which leads me to conclude that you willingly didn't do so. Why?
/r/askTRP16/12/19 07:32 PM
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That's it. My most successful friends who have own businesses etc text least.
/r/seduction14/12/19 04:10 PM
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Women make better wingmen than men.
/r/seduction14/12/19 07:25 AM
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OP, you seem to believe that "getting to know each other" should not include sex. For me it definitely includes sex. Furthermore, if a woman believes that having sex is something the man needs to "earn" first, she can gtfo. Because from this, I can infer how she will treat sex in a relationship - probably like some commodity that she has power over. Sex should be a completely normal thing that both people enjoy a lot together, starting from the "getting to know each other" part of the relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:22 PM
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If you're texting 5 girls and one of them does not text you back, IMO it's ok to text her another value-giving text or something like a meme (but never a question) after 4-5 days. You genuinely don't give a fuck about it because you have an abundance of girls. BUT in the case you're describing here, you probably don't have an abundance of girls. As others pointed out, I feel that you came here to get justification for texting some girl too close in your social circle. So in this case, I don't th…
/r/seduction13/12/19 04:48 PM
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I'm really interested in them too
/r/askTRP13/12/19 12:42 AM
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Agreeing to everything women say
/r/askTRP13/12/19 12:42 AM
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People look at me differently and I get more compliments from women. Btw I'm not even that broad. But people notice the difference. Obviously receiving compliments is quite nice and also increases confidence. Even though I was confident before, it's nice to receive a bit more attention etc
/r/seduction08/12/19 02:18 PM
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Remember that game goes on in a relationship
/r/seduction29/11/19 08:28 AM
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Yeah that's why I wrote "about".. The generations aren't defined by exact years but rather by their circumstances. Also I feel that the need to name every generation specifically came up quite recently.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 05:52 PM
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About 25 years https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/01/17/where-millennials-end-and-generation-z-begins/
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 04:12 PM
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What do you mean by better results OP?
/r/seduction27/11/19 11:30 AM
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Ok thx!
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:19 AM
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Do you have a link with more information about this?
/r/seduction13/11/19 10:32 PM
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Makes me cringe
/r/seduction06/11/19 05:50 PM
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Make your +/- Notes per Set and put general notes at the end.
/r/seduction06/11/19 05:46 PM
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Maybe add some context so we understand
/r/seduction03/11/19 08:04 PM
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Because you look for that beautiful special little sunflower
/r/askTRP03/11/19 01:30 AM
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With a witty answer
/r/askTRP02/11/19 06:22 PM
2

Stop spending most of your time at his house...
/r/askTRP01/11/19 07:30 AM
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You saw the new place. Obviously you met coincidently that day, it was not planned. She was being nice and showed you her place, but did not want more (for reasons we don't need to analyze because they don't have to be related to you).
/r/askTRP31/10/19 06:26 PM
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You seem to enjoy conversations that go both ways (as most people I'd assume). So if a girl does not take part in the conversation with you, don't see it as "is she interested in me" but rather "do I really want this?"
/r/seduction29/10/19 10:26 PM
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This means that they do not meet your standards.
/r/seduction29/10/19 10:22 PM
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I don't disagree with that.
/r/askTRP29/10/19 06:12 AM
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The thing is if you do have a rotation of girls that you're texting, you can reopen such rather cold conversations without giving a fuck. That's my opinion. I agree, OP probably doesn't have a rotation, so my advice doesn't fit.
/r/askTRP29/10/19 06:09 AM
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If she's at a family event, she doesn't necessary have time. Sometimes people are busy. My point was that we don't know. You should rather criticize the guy who runs here to ask another of these "what to do" questions after a girl "left him on read" once...
/r/askTRP29/10/19 06:05 AM
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C'mon, maybe she just didn't have time. What's wrong? Maybe she's not interested. Who knows... You will only find out by reopening the convo once by sending some value text
/r/askTRP29/10/19 12:35 AM
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Cut out everything that feels unnecessary. Examples might be toxic friends, drinking alcohol, watching netflix / tv, being on reddit, etc
/r/askTRP29/10/19 12:14 AM
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Yes, because you will try to impress her and not be yourself because of the pressure you put on yourself. If you date her, you should be able to go there, and show your best normal self. At the same time don't care if you fit together or not. It's the abundance mindset that you mentioned in another comment.
/r/seduction25/10/19 12:34 PM
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Exactly this mindset is the problem.
/r/seduction25/10/19 12:19 PM
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You will learn it by going there and meet her. Maybe you fail and learn or you succeed. Don't ever make the decision if your're good enough for someone for them. Did you hear me?
/r/seduction25/10/19 12:09 PM
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Start just small talking with people a bit. The easist to become more social is to talk more to people that have to talk to you anyway such as a professor, co-worler or shop assistant etc. If you want to cold approach people try to immediately talk to the first girl(s) you meet when you leave your appartment or room. And then simply continue going from there. Your attitude is important here, you need to know that talking to people is something normal to do for you from now on.
/r/seduction24/10/19 10:25 PM
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Not recoverable and not worth it. Also, you knew that already but were scared of moving on.
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:42 PM
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Humor sometimes doesn't work through messaging. But in this case I also think that she doesn't have a sense of humor
/r/seduction21/10/19 11:15 AM
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You said one key thing here. But my opinion differs a bit from yours. Women such as Hillary Clinton, Tulsi Gabbard, Angela Merkel, Christine Lagarde etc can be taken very seriously. But to be in the positions they are in and survive in the male-dominated environments, they have to behave like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 03:45 PM
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Stop giving a fuck about her. You guys should have left much earlier. Cut this toxic shit out.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/19 12:03 PM
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Welcome to the red pill
/r/askTRP29/09/19 11:45 AM
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I'd prefer something that perfectly fits your body instead of some big name brand.
/r/askTRP27/09/19 11:59 AM
2

How about some background info
/r/askTRP26/09/19 05:27 AM
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You should join the Man on Fire Dating Facebook group and ask for advice there. I'm neither the owner nor affiliated with them. But the owner is a great guy, successful in dating, and has a kid.
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:21 PM
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Have sex with the person before
/r/seduction25/09/19 04:08 PM
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1) I also think the convo is generally quite good, but you have this PUAish vibe. Having some joke in every single message you send is trying too hard. Show that you're a normal person and not a clown at some point. 2) Don't ask for the number. Suggest that she gives you her number or instagram. Or give her yours, if she adds you it's a positive sign. 3) The two points mentioned probably didn't loose you this date. I would also assume that she just met someone else or so. Happens so often in onl…
/r/seduction23/09/19 08:43 PM
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I think it's good to smile at people naturally, it's kinda like giving away positive vibes for free, without any expectations. I usually go with a knowing smile. Also don't care if the people smile back or not.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 08:26 PM
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Sounds like a terrible plan to me.
/r/seduction22/09/19 10:39 AM
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Ideally not at all. But how about providing some background...
/r/seduction22/09/19 10:17 AM
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I'd assume it's number 3. The thing is you cannot change that. Time to move on
/r/seduction22/09/19 09:13 AM
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Actually, the title sounded as if your initial interaction was not good enough, but you stated that you have really good banter.. They first interaction is key anyway. The other thing I noticed is that you seem too available. You state that they are busy and you give them several options to choose from. You have to give them the impression that you are very busy and only have Day A or Day B free to meet them. Make yourself scarce. Also you want to figure out if they will have time on Day A or B …
/r/seduction22/09/19 09:00 AM
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You need to spike her emotions a bit. So instead of "following up" by asking if you're still on, just text her, joke around a bit and then suggest meeting up when you're having a nice convo
/r/seduction21/09/19 10:13 PM
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Such memories are still part of my life, of who I am. There is no need to forget them.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 10:07 PM
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Basically you can move the conversation away from the topic if you don't want to hear that shit
/r/askTRP21/09/19 03:18 PM
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You were busy and that's fine. Do not overthink it.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 01:42 PM
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The people close to you want to keep seeing you in the way you always have been. It's always hardest for them to just let you change.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 06:24 AM
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Actually, what you can learn from u/ntipz011 comment is that the better your logistics, the easier it becomes. Meeting in a place in walking distance to your appartment is better than having to take a cab. Actually, having good logistics (living close by) can even make up for a lack in game. The second thing is called compliance in pick up lingo, it means slowly moving up the ladder, starting with light touching and only move higher (touch more) if she reacts positively. If there is a neutral re…
/r/seduction26/08/19 08:16 PM
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Early in the conversation mention casually that you have xyz at your place (something you want to show her or you could do together e.g. the view), then come back to that xyz later, at the end. This might sound manipulative, but it also gives you better indicators how she feels about going to your place. The questions "do you live close by?" and "wanna share a cab?" can be indicators that she wants to go to your place, BUT they don't have to. So I think it's better to keep it safe and not simply…
/r/seduction25/08/19 10:09 AM
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Snapchat everyday That's what friends do. It seems like she broke up with you and now put you in the friend zone. This means that she's done with you and not attracted to you anymore. Usually, to have a chance to "re-seduce", you really need to change and improve as a person which is not a process of reading seduction material for 2 weeks, but rather of going no contact and applying the seduction material several years. Often if you really change as a person, you then happen to understand why it…
/r/seduction11/08/19 10:45 PM
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What kind of advice are you exactly looking for? Logistics also matter a lot actually
/r/askTRP10/08/19 04:50 PM
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He has the spotlight because he used to work as an instructor for RSD. Many people see him as more legit and down to earth than other of these instructors.
/r/seduction10/08/19 04:46 PM
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They can now feel as if their SMV moved up and unfortunately they also act that way. But in real life it did not move up IMO. I'll still ditch her if she's not hot enough. So I do agree that the SMV inflated, in a sense that SMV as a currency is worth less than it used to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 09:49 PM
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Any girl you take home from a bar could've been doing that.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 09:41 PM
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Actually we both don't know if I the assumption is true. But I can correctly infer that you enjoy talking about stuff you don't have enough information about on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 12:09 PM
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I infered it from his sentence "she went BACK to Japan".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 11:54 AM
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We simply do not know enough to conclude anything here. Another point I could bring up is that it is a risky move to bring someone from another country overseas without knowing if and how long it will work out for them. Such people often go back home in case of a break-up, it happened before.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 11:31 AM
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In the video, it does not seem as if she abducted the child. Also you're posting a video for discussion where we don't know enough about what actually happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 11:15 AM
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It's not a bad thing to help people improve. But acting innocent as a lamb while building a sales funnel is.
/r/seduction01/08/19 01:02 PM
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Just say "hi" or "how r you doing" without any expectations. You are a person with a positive attitude, while this particular worker is not. Both your attitudes reflect in your behavior.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 08:41 PM
1

It depends a lot on you. I often drink one or even no drinks, but cranberry juice only
/r/seduction30/07/19 07:39 PM
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What is this look and why do they do it? It's the same when guys suddenly stop talking mid-sentence when a hot girls passes by - their animalistic brain takes over for a second.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 07:25 PM
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Can be both, maybe this happened and she wants to see you again, or it didn't happen and she ghosts you. I'd probably wait another day or so and then send her a quick message
/r/askTRP30/07/19 07:00 PM
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The difference in "social stigma" regarding male and female complaints is generally that "women complaints" are geared towards intentions of resolution and resolve (taken to HR, legal allegations, politics, etc) and male "complaints" are more so emotional release (Reddit, TRP, Braincels, Misogynistic reactions, etc). The thing is that men's complaints are often not taken seriously by HR/Legal/Politics, sometimes not even by other men. That leads to them finding their way into spaces such as TRP/…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 06:26 PM
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I disagree. I believe that the sample of people that you use as evdience is highly biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 06:02 PM
1

Well, I still get the vibe from you that you're a bit butthurt and sugarcoat the situation here. Even if you have other plates, you kinda like her a little more etc. Also that you have to open a thread here regarding this tells me the same. I texted her this afternoon (Monday) and told her that I expect to be treated with respect and that courtesies go a long way with me, and also that I would like an acknowledgement of my texts in line with her previous behavior. At the end, I said to have fun …
/r/askTRP29/07/19 07:55 PM
1

Well, the things is that sex is not such a big deal. It's just a normal human thing to have sex, part of life. While I already mentioned that I don't think of sex in the same way as doing my nails or getting a haircut , I also do not need to put sex on such a pedestal (meaning getting married to have it). In my opinion, people who put sex on a pedestal don't do themselves a favour. In my experience the women that put sex on a pedestal and wanted to wait several dates before they had sex (to buil…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 06:39 PM
1

I agree, the best real life Chads I know are also really good-looking, and at the same time have the right uplifting, outgoing attitude. This also translates into the energetic vibe that people get from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 06:03 PM
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If you're also literally good friends with this person, than its technically no different than like an open LTR. Which I think it would be unusual not to catch the feels, and not attempt to make it monogamous LTR. There are also other cases. As an example, I have some girls that I consider my friends and sleep with when we see each other, but the thing is that we don't see each other that often (meaning: once a month, or once every three months, some don't even live on the same continent as I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 06:00 PM
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You can be friends and sleep together regularly without being in a relationship (friends with benefits). Maybe you personally define this as a casual hookup, but there can still be a deeper connection. It really depends on how you define these expressions you are using. Unless you're banging some sibling or relative... It is very odd to me that you come up with something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 02:11 PM
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Well, having a deeper connection isn't exactly the same as being in love. But that's my definition of the wording. Your definition might be a bit different. IMO we can have deeper connections and sex with people outside of being in love/LTR. I still don't think of sex in the same way as doing my nails or getting a haircut.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 01:40 PM
1

I'm personally in the "sometimes wrong" category, that is if you don't see yourself being in LTR with this person, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them. In short, there needs to be some deeper connection. So what you are saying is that there is no possibility to have a deeper connection with someone outside of a LTR. Why do you think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 01:10 PM
3

Good job. But don't worry. What conclusions do you want to draw from one time? I'd say just have more sex before you worry about such stuff. Some people are nervous the first time, this can lead to coming too fast, but also to not coming at all. Also not every pussy feels the same. Take it easy
/r/askTRP28/07/19 10:23 PM
1

Oh, then you're in a great position to cure your one itis. Then try to eliminate the cues that trigger your one-itis
/r/askTRP27/07/19 10:49 PM
1

Focus on habits, put a system in place to stick to your goals. Maybe even change the environment you're in. Do you go to college or are in another way stick to the place?
/r/askTRP27/07/19 10:45 PM
1

If you feel that you might have other problems that you try to fix through daydreaming, get help. Talking to a therapist might help then. Usually deep inside you, you already know the answer. The one-itis itself could be fixed by going out, meeting other girls. You definitely won't be thinking about her while you take some girl from behind or while a girl is rubbing her pussy over your face bro
/r/askTRP27/07/19 10:38 PM
2

Wtf unfollow her on social media asap. If you need a wake up call, here it is. Your relationship that you imagined, you and her etc, it's just a daydream. Realise this. Go out, live your life. Why waste your life daydreaming?
/r/askTRP27/07/19 10:31 PM
2

Just talk about stuff you want to talk about etc, there will always be people/girls like you. Maybe you just don't talk to enough people to find them. Btw, normie topics probably make easy smalltalk topics, and smalltalk often is a simple way to start a conversation and have a little feeling of similarity. Oh and a final remark: it's also normie to not be a normie.
/r/askTRP27/07/19 08:50 PM
3

The thing is that you're probably acting in an artificial or ceeepy way and she's calling your bluff. More experience (incl. failing some shit tests) will help you. Maybe answer along the lines of " just wanted to check if you're a fun girl first. But still suggest to meet you over a drink first, not sure if you're some serial killer haha". Basically trying to turn it around to get her to qualify a bit
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:49 PM
2

Pretty sure there's no such emotional connection
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:43 PM
1

I can have fun conversations with my exes, there is always some kind of connection between us. Will always be the case, but this does not mean you will get together again, but only that you have a connection. There was a reason for the break up. I'd rather put energy into building something new with a new girl, than trying to fix something broken.
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:37 PM
2

Don't ask too many questions. Rather make assumptions and suggestions
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:31 PM
1

It depends on the country you're in and what your situation is. Low effort is to simply send a GIF that fits her profile in some way. Have a nice profile and bio, so girls open you themselves.
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:30 PM
1

There goes my advice lol
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:27 PM
1

Apparently, she likes you and gives you hints. Many people will now tell you to "not shit where you eat", so you have to make a decision about this yourself. Anyhow, I think a bar environment might be more casual than a white collar corporate job. If you like her too and want to follow through on it, you could suggest to have an afterwork drink/cigarette/walk etc together next time, so that things can happen casually, but don't have to. By creating a situation where it's just the two of you, it …
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:26 PM
3

If you never got over her, you probably do have some ulterior motive
/r/seduction27/07/19 05:13 PM
3

But what if many of humanity's achievements have actually been results of men trying to (become rich/famous/powerful/well-respected to) impress women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 02:31 PM
0

I assume you mean a temporary use of the pill during phases when it's necessary to focus?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 02:22 PM
0

I agree that women's standards increase when they become older, but as others pointed out, they just adjust to the stage of life they're in. I strongly disagree with your statement that guys that were attractive and work hard stay attractive, while guys that were unattractive stay like that despite their work on themselves. It's easily possible to become more attractive or decline in attractiveness for both groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 05:17 PM
2

Zurich area, how about you?
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:44 PM
2

Who are you to decide which fetishes are messed-up and which aren't? Where do you draw the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 08:43 PM
2

Nice work. Now we need to spread the word about it. And apparently you're Swiss too.
/r/seduction23/07/19 07:55 PM
1

Could you name some examples or send me a DM with coaches you consider better? IMO rsdmax is legit (or used to be)
/r/seduction23/07/19 07:53 PM
1

Yes, it's possible and it should be seen in the same way, because it's the same. No, I wouldn't want to be her next "victim" because I don't want to date people with mental issues. I'm male, mostly red. But how tf can you come up with things you read on the MGTOW subreddit as example? I don't feel that people there are a representative sample.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 05:44 PM
4

That's because RSD is there to help guys that don't get sex. Nowadays they're actually more legit than they used to be in the past, because they do actually focus on self-improvement these days. Anyway, whatever your opinion on pua/rsd is, you can only understand that ONS etc often are not worth it when you actually have them. Not all guys are in the same stage of their journey. If you struggle with talking to women, how are you gonna attract the "high quality" women you're mentioning. Etc
/r/askTRP19/07/19 09:57 PM
2

it's the truth, but no one likes to hear it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 12:51 PM
0

Why do you care and look her up on facebook? This thread just boosts unnecessary hate without adding any value (in a similar fashion as the mgtow subreddit). We shouldn't support this development.
/r/askTRP12/07/19 11:51 AM
3

That sounds so American. Bringing a gun to deal with some campus bullies. So what's the intention of this advice, should he shoot them, or is it rather to be known as the guy with the gun?
/r/askTRP11/07/19 07:09 PM
5

Sums it up perfectly
/r/askTRP09/07/19 01:38 PM
1

Might be the case because you're in NYC. As I heard it's one of the toughest locations regarding dating market.
/r/askTRP09/07/19 06:45 AM
1

Which part of Europe are you talking about?
/r/askTRP08/07/19 02:16 PM
1

Reading Classical English literature, watching French "nouvelle vague" movies, & also have a job
/r/askTRP08/07/19 01:49 PM
44

Stop wasting your time and start having some standards
/r/seduction04/07/19 04:35 PM
4

If you studied before and teach someone, it helps strengthen your understanding of the subject.
/r/askTRP04/07/19 08:56 AM
3

The sample size for this story is 1
/r/askTRP04/07/19 08:49 AM
2

I wanted you to repeat it, to make sure I read correctly. Try to not be like other typical guys that go there, don't go crazy because of their looks, don't immediately throw your money at them etc. So IMO you can tease about anything, also the things you mentioned, as long as it's in a funny way (but not trying hard) and it's clear that you're joking. Sometimes, it's fun to not let them know if you're joking or not. Also keep in mind that you can always recalibrate when you said something which …
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:30 PM
2

How about actually going out and trying with random normal girls instead of overthinking and trying to take the easy route with strippers? Edit: there are youtube videos answering your actual question btw
/r/seduction02/07/19 09:54 PM
2

Ok I'll write a 2750 word essay on it
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:12 AM
3

I assume you're joking. If not, you're an adult, you can just talk to her instead of overthinking..
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:09 AM
16

Have to agree on that. I kinda liked the idea of MGTOW and joined the sub to see how their experiences were, but soon left again because the people there really seem to have a lot of anger towards women. Many of the discussions are simply full of hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 10:01 AM
1

I'd also assume that the sample of people using online dating apps and also registering as online workers on MTurk might be having some bias. Also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amazon_Mechanical_Turk#Research_validity
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 08:57 PM
1

I agree that one has to fix the real reason they're unattractive. At the same type I don't see why you need to look down on "these self improvement types" so much, maybe you have to fix the real reason for that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 07:46 PM
3

I tend to feel that your overthinking is your personal way to come up with an excuse to not go out and get to know girls. And the reason why you might really feel that everyone is cheating is that you're reading TRP content. Many guys that find the red pill actually have been dumped, divorced and/or cheated on and share their experiences here. But based on your stats there is also >50% who do not divorce etc. So the glass might also be half full.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/19 12:01 PM
2

I do think that some of the concepts are helpful, especially to the typical guy that finds the red pill (who usually just got dumped or so). But i also agree with you that there is a culture of self-adulation of certain contributors and that the whole thing sometimes looks like kind of a cult to me.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/19 10:18 PM
1

How much are you actually doing to get this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 03:30 PM
1

Bro, move on. Take it as a chance to start over in your life. Two months from now you will appreciate that she broke up with you.
/r/askTRP08/06/19 05:03 PM
1

You try to analyze this situation with this chick, but this individual situation does not matter. Actually, you already answer all your questions regarding this situation yourself. What matters is the following: You're 24. You have most of your life ahead of you. Start working on yourself now, lift, learn game, get a job you like, and keep going.
/r/askTRP07/06/19 06:30 PM
2

definitely an underrated comment
/r/askTRP07/06/19 10:40 AM
1

In my opinion, Max is the most legit and most normal RSD coach. While his instagram stories nowadays are full of marketing for his coaching products, his free youtube videos alone give you a great deal of value. I never bought any of his video courses, but took part in the 2 month mentoring program last year. The RSDMax mentoring program gives you a lot of value for your money if you actually follow the structure of the courses, do your homework, write field reports etc. It's an eight week progr…
/r/seduction06/06/19 05:38 PM
3

First of all, I'd stop your consumption of TRP content. I feel like people in TRP/MGTOW spaces often went there in search for help after being dumped or cheated on, or because they actually don't know how to talk to women. In many posts, a certain degree of frustration of the poster can be read in between the lines. On this basis, they come up with questionable sources and conclusions. And as most of the people that are doing well in dating/life and might have a different/critical opinion of TRP…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/19 09:27 AM
2

Pussy smells like fish. Honestly, why are you here asking about a random text message?
/r/askTRP14/03/19 08:19 PM
4

Couldn't agree more.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 11:21 PM
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