itsallsoconfusing Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
36	Men never follow through on things they say!	SEEKING ADVICE	itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/11/19 03:37 PM
35	Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!!	RANT	itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/20 12:13 AM
35	This so random!!		itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/20 09:34 PM
30	How do you stop hoping?	SEEKING ADVICE	itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/20 03:31 AM
23	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone?	SEEKING ADVICE	itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 01:05 AM
18	Had a weird third date..	SEEKING ADVICE	itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/19 08:11 PM
11	Should I wait for the spark?	SEEKING ADVICE	itsallsoconfusing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/11/19 02:10 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
31	What are phrases and strategies men use to make you think he is only sleeping with you when he is actually seeing other women? Not dating now b/c of covid, curious for future I don’t know if this is something men do but this guy I was dating for a few weeks started talking about his success rate on tinder and other dating apps. I instantly picked up on his way of telling me that he didn’t want to be exclusive with me. So yeah, if he’s active on other dating apps, that’s probably a telltale sign that he’s sleeping with other women.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/08/20 03:33 PM
7	HVM potential...never settle, ladies. Can this be real?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/20 03:56 AM
18	Just a reminder to all you Queens out there! Yes!! I need that reminder too!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/08/20 03:10 PM
6	If sex work is work then would liberal feminists be supportive of sex workers, Johns, and Pimps coming to local high school job fairs to recruit? 🤔 I think we are missing the point here. Liberal feminism supports a woman’s right to choose and not be forced to do something. If prostitution as an industry is constructed to satisfy the male urges, shouldn’t the question be - how can we empower/enable women to support themselves and not turn towards the sex trade?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/07/20 05:49 AM
6	There's a lot happening here, and none of it is good. This seems like a good place to ask about sugaring/waxing your bikini areas. Do y’all do it regularly or only when you think you will be having sex? Have y’all met guys who are disgusted by hair down there?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/20 02:45 AM
36	My mom having a beautiful FDS moment (english is her second language :P ) Way to go! Let’s all be like her!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/03/20 02:59 AM
13	That dude waving his red flag proudly. Block!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/03/20 05:08 AM
1	Ladies : take note ! If I had a dollar for every time some guy said this to me.... including my ex-husband.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/20 02:32 AM
5	Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!! Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/20 04:07 PM
12	Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!! He led me to believe that the date had gone well by texting me right after the date. I know what the handbook says. I’m expressing my disappointment at meeting yet another dimwit! And I would not ghost someone after saying the date went well. That’s hypocritical.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/20 03:28 AM
4	Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!! This is such good advise! Thank you! You are very wise!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/20 01:25 AM
7	Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!! No, he asked me the first day we talked. I wasn’t feeling it. So he kept the conversation going till I finally got interested.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/03/20 01:23 AM
2	How do you stop hoping? I think this is a very constructive idea. I’m going to consciously try to do this.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/20 04:07 PM
23	Be honest, your HVM isn't perfect. No one is. Let's list things they do that aren't deal breakers, but would be nice if it were different. I was just thinking about this. The last first date I had this past week, the guy didn’t even buy me coffee. As we stood in the line to order, he basically just moved behind when I ordered and looked away. And that said a lot. I’ve never met a HVM.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/20 04:53 AM
16	Nothing ever screamed LVM like this guy Jonathan is going to be so so single forever!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/02/20 05:28 AM
7	This so random!! That’s what I thought too! Such a creep! This was on Match, I’ve had terrible experiences on Match.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/20 09:56 PM
10	Every time I open FDS 💅🏻 Yes!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/20 01:59 AM
13	So, here's the thing....I'm really tempted to start trolling these trash piles Hahaha! The entitlement that comes with having a penis! Just really really amusing!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/20 04:22 AM
3	Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why. Thank you! This is very reaffirming!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/20 04:55 AM
3	Picking up my things from my cheating boyfriend's house. Ideas for how to revenge as my last goodbye? Or shrimp. Stinking revenge!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/20 05:12 AM
6	Feeling despondent about OLD, LVM, and just dating in general. I’m in the same boat. Very similar experiences to the OP. One thing OLD teaches you is to have low to zero expectations.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/01/20 04:33 AM
6	Your mom? A real man doesn’t need another mommy because he’s a man, not a child. Wow! What is it with men and their disgusting attachment with their mothers.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/19 06:06 PM
13	Shut down negotiations of any kind this week. No is a complete sentence, full stop. Me too! But all the people I lost were bring me down, and I didn’t realize it till I cut them out. So it wasn’t really a loss now. I gained self-confidence and peace of mind. I hear myself more clearly now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/19 05:11 PM
12	440 pairs of women’s shoes were hung on one of the city walls in Istanbul. This is the number of women murdered by their husbands in Turkey during the year Haunting!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/12/19 03:28 PM
1	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone? I have so much to learn!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:29 PM
4	OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowess If he has to resort to dad jokes, how hi-larious can he be!?!!??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:46 AM
3	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone? You are so right! I just gotta do it one night!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:44 AM
11	Is it just me or is this really rude? I sent him a study I found interesting about how gender plays out in school and he answers with this lol. Context: it's the first study I've ever sent him and we were talking normally up until this point. I never talk about feminist issues with him. His response says a lot about his cognitive ability. You are definitely way out of his league. Block him, don’t look back. You can and will find someone way better!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:39 AM
15	The lack of solidarity among women sometimes breaks my heart Don’t listen to your friends. You did the right thing. My ex-husband’s family is the main reason we are not together today. Besides of course he never stood up for me and finally chose them over me. Toxic families can ruin marriages and relationships. Just remember that this is going to be a constant source of tension for you and your bf. He may distance himself from them (my ex just refused to do that, so you’ve got a man that actually cares about you) but family has a way of creeping back in y…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:36 AM
5	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone? Thank you! I’ll definitely keep that in mind!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:30 AM
5	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone? That’s very good advice! Thank you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:30 AM
3	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone? I’d definitely have a glass of wine before I get there! Conversations flow better that way..	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:30 AM
3	I’ve been at home all day lately and I don’t have any friends around as I’ve just moved to a new city. I was thinking of going to a bar down the street. I’ve never been to one alone, and I’m an introvert. Would you guys have any advice about some dos and don’ts of going to a bar alone? I don’t want to stare at my phone but I do want something to do. What are some things that can make me look busy other than scrolling through the phone? A book is probably hard to read in a dimly lit bar but maybe a laptop? Is that too much?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/19 02:29 AM
5	Whenever a man talks about “carrying on his family name” to promote sexism, homophobia and his own delusions of grandeur put that brokeass nobody in his place! Lol! Education doesn’t do jackshit for such fools!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/12/19 05:24 PM
25	Y’all this bio. The fact we have men like this raising little girls makes me sick. Joke or not, absolutely inappropriate and disgusting. Minors in dating profiles are bad enough but this, JUST NO. There is soooooo much wrong with the words on his profile! So much!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/12/19 04:32 PM
47	Depraved man sends extremely racist and abusive porn to girl he’s only been seeing a few weeks. She wants to know if she’s “reading too far into it” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ When somebody shows you who they are, believe them!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/19 04:25 AM
21	There was a photo of a cat in my lap... 🤢	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/19 03:20 AM
9	Asian fetish is real - and this LVM thinks the term 'yellow girl' will work in his favour Wtf!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/12/19 05:06 AM
25	Adios trash bag couch creature I had a guy get all upset because I looked him up before the first date. He was like, your ex really did a number on you, you think you’re not safe a public place like a coffee shop. Looking someone up is so inappropriate! Me: mouth wide open!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/19 04:23 AM
26	Is a depressed man worth pursuing? Men are very stubborn about getting help. And they strongly believe in self-healing. This until their emotions are uncontrollable. Listen to all the other in the thread and protect yourself.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/12/19 03:16 PM
29	Read this as "I don't respect you or your body". Complete scum. Posting for a friend This makes me sooooo mad!!!!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/12/19 04:50 AM
6	Had a weird third date.. It’s just that every time something like this happens and confront them, they give me some bullshit excuse and it gives me hope. And they never live up to it. This whole process is just so heartbreaking. I’m starting to lose hope.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/19 10:37 PM
4	Had a weird third date.. Would you both recommend me texting him? He usually texts me as he gets into work. He has over the last two weeks. Haven’t heard from him today.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/19 09:38 PM
5	Had a weird third date.. You are right. Thank you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/19 08:54 PM
6	Had a weird third date.. He is very shy. But I don’t know if that’s the reason he was awkward. He hasn’t texted today and I don’t know if he will.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/19 08:21 PM
6	Girls like this feed the LVM Yes! That’s exactly what I thought.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/19 04:29 AM
4	Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch) Run! This guy is a potential stalker!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/19 04:25 AM
6	Really? Does this work? Eeewwww...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/12/19 05:39 AM
1	In case nobody's seen this yet... Such losers! Balls to them!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/12/19 05:35 AM
4	Just in case you were wondering what Alabama Tinder is like, here’s a preview of tonight’s bachelors It looks like that’s the case everywhere you go! No HVM here in the northeast either!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/19 01:31 PM
6	Just in case you were wondering what Alabama Tinder is like, here’s a preview of tonight’s bachelors Where in Alabama are you? Honestly, I was in a very small town in Alabama and my tinder was filled with men with their hunting victories and guns! Very tough to date in Alabama!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/19 01:30 PM
8	Thanksgiving is a good time to remember all you have accomplished. Do not settle! Sounds lovely! My dog is my only family and we are going to make some nice chicken and a few sides too! Happy thanksgiving!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/11/19 04:25 AM
2	Does this present any red flags? I so wanted to correct every ‘your’ to ‘you’re’ in that text!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/11/19 05:30 AM
15	Men never follow through on things they say! I feel the same way. Now that I think about it, I matched with him on another app one time and we never ended up chatting.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/11/19 04:09 PM
10	Men never follow through on things they say! That seems fair. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/11/19 03:49 PM
14	This is why I don't allow porn in my relationship...it ALWAYS escalates My ex husband had a what’s app group with his guy friends and they would all send each other naked pictures of women. When I objected to it, he made me feel terrible for invading his space! Of course I gave him all the space he wanted a few months! Men and their obsession for porn is more about keeping appearance amongst their peers than depravity.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/11/19 03:47 AM
2	Should I wait for the spark? I’ve come to understand that men as a species is a narcissistic by nature. So yes, but so is this one.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 11:20 PM
1	Should I wait for the spark? Thank you everyone! This thread has been very helpful!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/19 11:18 PM