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Does “not married” mean “not currently married” or “never married”?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 10:03 PM
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That just makes you not high value
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 03:28 AM
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My boyfriend is quite the opposite of a weak man and finds porn to be a sign or moral weakness. Cumbrains are very beta.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:08 AM
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It’s fine if a man has past struggles with pornography and reforms himself, but at the end of the day, porn is degenerate, decreases testosterone, and shows a lack of self-discipline.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 06:36 AM
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Good thing I did choose well:)
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/03/21 08:43 PM
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I can’t speak for all women but relationships are much better than casual sex. Any woman can get laid, but casual sex isn’t rewarding and is kind of a waste of time. It takes work to have something meaningful but that is much more rewarding.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 11:16 PM
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Oh yeah not at all. But most of the women posted in the sub want a relationship. Also ambition is sexually attractive.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 10:52 PM
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And a lot of those women have their kids in daycare and eating microwave meals. Statistically speaking, children are all around healthier when one parent stays home. I’m sure you’d know that since you have a PhD.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 10:30 PM
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Never said it was neurosurgery. Once again, there is a major difference between being a GOOD wife and mother and doing the bare minimum. There are also important traits to develop in life other than intellectual prowess. I’ve met plenty of book smart people with no people skills, resilience, empathy, or moral compass.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 10:22 PM
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What if I’m infertile? What if my husband passes away or has some kind of crisis that requires me to step up and become the breadwinner? Also, yes any woman. With a functioning reproductive system can bear a child. However, “any dumb person” cannot maintain a welcoming and relaxing home, budget, cook nutritious meals from scratch, and raise children that are virtuous, intelligent, self-sufficient, capable, hardworking people of character. Being a good mother and homemaker requires intelligence, …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 09:51 PM
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I’ll give it a chance then.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 05:55 AM
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You can be religious and still believe in science:) I just find a lot of new age spirituality to be self-indulgent.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 05:48 AM
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Is that a good book for a Christian?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 05:45 AM
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Thank you! A friend of mine recommended that book as well. I will definitely check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 05:38 AM
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My parents were both highly educated as well. My mom was a teacher until she had me. It definitely made her a better mom. My job involves me working with a lot of kids, and that will definitely translate into raising kids. A lot of women definitely want to be a homemaker because they’ll “never work a day in their lives”, but unless all your meals are microwaved, you have a cleaner, and your kids are in daycare, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 03:19 AM
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Multi tasking is poor wording. I should have said the ability to balance many tasks at once and not have tunnel vision.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 02:49 AM
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There are plenty of women out there, myself included who have careers/are in school, but would happily trade them in for being a mother and homemaker. However, I would never expect a man to support me unless we were married and starting a family. My boyfriend is incredibly family oriented, but also supports me getting my degree, as marriage and kids won’t come for a few more years.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 02:48 AM
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The traits involved with putting a lot of energy into a budding career (self-discipline, resilience, patience, the ability to multi task, planning skills) also translate into being a good homemaker. Ideally, I’d work until I had kids, because two incomes would make it easier to save up enough for my children’s futures, then stay at home when my children are born. These traits also echo into being a good partner and growing into a relationship.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 02:06 AM
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Laziness is an unattractive trait. It’s simple as that. I keep myself in good shape, have a strong set of moral values, and work hard in my academic and professional life. Why should I settle for a guy who doesn’t do the same?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 02:03 AM
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I definitely had a hard time dating my first two years of college because I had a merit based scholarship to a private school. There were a lot of trust fund babies who had no problem skipping class and getting a 2.0 gpa. A guy I went to school with actually got in trouble with the feds for some sort of white collar crime. I cannot even verbalize how unattractive that is. My boyfriend came from a lower income family and made his way up through the ranks of the navy through hard work alone. He’s …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 08:02 PM
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I don’t care about income, but I care about ambition. I’m double majoring, working, and have an internship. Next year, I’ll be in grad school and hopefully with a fellowship. I need someone with ambition to match mine. My boyfriend by no means a millionaire but he worked his way up in his field and that his work ethic is something I love about him. I think a lot of women equate money with success, where in reality there are a lot of losers living on trust funds and honest dudes striving for exce…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 07:40 PM
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Girl here. That’s definitely not true. Idgaf about net worth or wealth, but ambition is important to me. I’m double majoring, working, and have an internship. Next year I’ll be in grad school and have a fellowship. What I love about my boyfriend is that he works his ass off in his job and had pulled himself up by the bootstraps. We support each other in our personal aspirations, but also grow together as a couple. He isn’t a millionaire by any means but he has a work ethic to match mine. I would…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 07:21 PM
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That’s such a rude question. I’m a woman and have always let the man bring it up if that’s something he wants to address.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 07:11 PM
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I’m 22 and have been dating a man in his 30s for 8 months. We met on tinder!
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 05:03 AM
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I’m just a humble surf instructor and yes, my boyfriend did ask if I could teach him how to surf during the early dating period. It’s called an occupational hazard.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/02/21 06:16 PM
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Hi! I worry about this as well. I struggled with an ED as an early teen and was a late bloomer on top of that. I (F22) got a hormonal IUD and was on it until mid September. Because of this I’ve never had a regular period. I’m now using natural family planning and it’s scary to me that as a grown woman I’ve never had a period. As frightening as that is, I know that if I want kids one day, adoption and IVF are viable methods. My boyfriend and I are both on the fence about kids. But if the day come…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 01:13 AM
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Honestly look into the ethics of porn. Check out Laila Mickelwait. Also look into the statistics of how porn can negatively affect relationships. I can’t in good conscience condone the sex industry. However I don’t see an issue with erotica as long as it doesn’t hinder your sex life.
/r/RedPillWives27/11/20 02:52 AM
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Hi! I’m an American living in the UK. 21 years old.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 02:40 PM
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We want to be wives but only to people we actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 10:08 AM
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It depends on the woman. I have always liked guys between 2 and 5 years older than me but my current boyfriend is 38 whilst I’m about to turn 22. I think it is very subjective and not something to be generalized
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 10:56 PM
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Thank you. If you need advice or to vent, my PMs are always open. Women need to support each other.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 06:46 AM
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Hi! I’m so sorry this happened to you. I was assaulted a few years ago. You are absolutely not used. Therapy helped me a lot. What also really helped me was finding ways to express myself such as writing and having a good support system. Just know that you are never alone.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/20 04:40 PM
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Girl here. For me, it’s more work ethic than money that makes a guy attractive. However, I’ve realized that a lot of more affluent guys use money instead of having a personality, and I get bored easily so I’d choose a personality over a wallet any day
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 02:04 PM
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This seems a little out of touch. I’m in my early twenties and only sleep with guys I have emotional connections with. Yes, at 18-19 I slept with a few shitty guys. I’m 21 now and because of sleeping with a few shitty guys, I’m a lot more cautious and only sleep with guys I really vibe with. There’s nothing wrong with this. You aren’t entitled to sex, and just because a woman has had sex with other people more readily in the past doesn’t mean you’re entitled to the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 03:48 PM
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I’m younger and I’ve realized this too. I understand if it’s an abuse of power type thing but I (21f) prefer guys in their late 20s/early 30s and get a lot of flack. I think it’s part jealousy at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 12:21 AM
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There’s a lot of wallowing on here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 08:34 PM
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Lol as I’m not taking no for an answer
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 03:24 PM
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Too pushy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:44 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with disagreeing with feminism. There is everything wrong with only choosing to care about said issues when it is convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 06:27 AM
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This. Men’s issues are very real (ie sexual assault, suicide rates, the draft), and most women I know have a heart for them. However, this issues only seem to be brought up by misogynists to invalidate women’s issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 06:11 AM
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Because there are a lot of entitled men out there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:47 AM
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Yeah as a woman this is bullshit and sounds like wallowing in self pity
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 06:31 PM
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Then perhaps develop a sense of humor or cool hobby
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 06:16 PM
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Any dark triad traits are a major turn off for me. First time I notice them, I run for the hills, I don’t care how attractive you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:36 AM
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Yeah this is not ok. Imagine if your friend, daughter, or sister told you her husband did this. You are his wife, not his sex slave. If behavior like this continues, please seek counseling.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 09:04 PM
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I’m a sucker for facial hair, and a man who isn’t afraid to get his hands dirty or hair wet camping, surfing, or doing something in the outdoors. Love me a rugged man. I’m glad, my parents are really big on self sufficiency, so while my mom taught me cooking, cleaning, and gardening, my dad taught me how to change tires and oil, and basic “fix-it” skills. I absolutely agree with you that women tend to fare better as widows. Both of my grandmothers are widowed, so at least I can learn from them t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 10:17 PM
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There are, but there is proof that guys do mature slower than girls, so I struggle finding emotionally mature fits my age. I’ve seen some sleazy older men as well. Skeeze knows no age, but I’ve found it easier to relate to men a bit older just interest and worldview wise.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 10:03 PM
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I like very masculine looking men, so on a physical level, I find myself attracted to men a bit older. Because responsibility, humility, wisdom, and emotional maturity are very attractive traits to me, I’ve again been drawn to guys a bit older. I don’t wanna sound like an NLOG, but the fake tan, lip injection, spider leg eyelash extension thing popular today really isn’t me, and I’ve had a lot of men in the 25-35 age range tell me they appreciate my more natural look. As cheesy as it sounds, I’v…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 09:51 PM
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I’m not, it’s not the most prestigious school, it’s just expensive because of its small size. It’s more the general sense of entitlement. I grew up in an upper middle class family, but both of my parents grew up quite poor so they taught me off the bat that nothing is ever handed to you and that it’s important to work hard and stay humble. I’d like a guy with that same mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 09:40 PM
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I’m just trying to make sure I’m doing things right, which is why I had the background info. That is a very good point about wanting different things.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 05:37 PM
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I’ve gone on a few dates with a 30 year old— most of them center around going surfing or watching the sunset on the beach followed by dinner. All he’s done so far is put his arm around me watching the sunset, and hasn’t pushed for anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 05:35 PM
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Age is definitely just a number, but I’ve realized a pattern of guys a bit older sharing my values more than guys my age
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 05:29 PM
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I’ve been attracted to a few guys over 30, but I realistically don’t think I’d date a guy that old. 25-30 is more what I’m thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 05:27 PM
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A lot of guys my age are interested in a relationship, but in my experience, the more you get to know them on a personal level, the less boyfriend worthy they seem on a mental level. I’m an academic scholarship student at a very expensive private university, and a good number of the guys there are used to letting connections and money carry them through life so they lack goals and work ethic which are 2 attractive traits to me. Perhaps it is the environment of my school and I should look elsewhe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 05:24 PM
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It sounds like this is far in his past, and was an unhealthy coping mechanism for teenage insecurity. There is also a lot more pressure for teenage boys to assert their sexual prowess and play the hunter. Remember, that people’s values can change. It sounds like he grew into the man he is today, and left the last in the past. If I were in your position, I would show him grace, as you love the man he is today. This is a tough thing to think about, but are you perhaps feeling insecure about yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 12:31 PM
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Find a cute, fitted pair of sweats and do a side braid or 2 buns or half back with a a pretty clip or funky hair tie rather than sloppily pulled back.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 11:46 AM
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I’m glad another girl my age feels the same way!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 11:43 AM
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Has he acknowledged that it is the last and they weren’t his proudest moments?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 11:28 AM
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How do you tackle a depression mess?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 11:22 AM
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I’m in a pretty bad depression funk, while recovering from surgery. My goals are: - clean the depression mess - learn a new hair style -eat 2+ veggies per day -wake up earlier
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 11:21 AM
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First off, nice to meet a fellow democrat. The way I see it, the further into the ideology you go, the shittier it gets. I’m a liberal young women with a lot of feminist values. However, I have a nurturing personality and like traditionally “masculine” men. What brought me to the community was how toxic the sex positivity movement has become. Though there is nothing wrong with casual sex, I saw the bar for both men and women being set incredibly low, especially when it comes to the emotions of o…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 11:18 AM
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If I ever heard a man use these terms unironically, I’d make a point to stay far, far away
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 11:00 AM
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Are you going too hard with the red pill? When guys are too aggressively red pill they give off cocky, materialistic bro vibes. This attracts beautiful and wild, albeit superficial women who either want dick or a piggy bank. Subtlety and humility are the ultimate power moves. My mom and dad have been happily married for 35 years. She told me, “A hard lesson to learn with men is that cockiness is a lack of confidence. A truly confident man won’t need to draw too much attention to himself, as wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:15 AM
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^ Guys that come off as aggressively red pill often give of frat boy, materialistic douche vibes. Nice to look at, but I would never want to get to know or even hav sex with. However, that type of attitude can attract superficial party type girls who only want sex or a man with a big fat wallet. Honestly being humble is the biggest power move.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:10 AM
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I think that’s a generational or cultural thing. Or honestly a self-confidence thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:06 AM
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Maybe get out of your environment then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:05 AM
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Also, you mention women under 35. Are you under 35?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 09:46 AM
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I mean, I along with most women in my age group desire an LTR if the man is LTR material. I would personally like a man who I can be a good companion to, be both emotionally and physically intimate with, comfort, grow with, uplift, serve, and just generally be there for. In return, I would like a man who can be a good companion to me, has the desire to grow, would uplift me as well, and would protect me. In other words, we both need to bring something to the table. However, most men in my age ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 09:45 AM
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Or maybe you aren’t bringing anything to the table? This is coming from a 22 year old girl who would love an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 09:04 AM
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I’ve loved several of the men I’ve sexually submitted to. However, they have to be worthy of my love. Perhaps the line between sex games and actual emotion is blurred for you and you expect this sort of devotion outside of the bedroom off the bat. Hate to say it, but it sounds like you’re the problem here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 09:03 AM
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Nah it’s one of the main ways I sell my art
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 07:41 PM
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