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If you aren't loyal and faithful, better believe that'll be the number one thing he complains about when you break up. Of course it matters.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 02:39 PM
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I think every post has the red pill in mind; it's going to look different because it's got women's goals and interests in mind, which is very different from the manosphere take you might be used to.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 01:24 AM
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Not every date is going to be a love connection. It's a vetting process for both of you. If staying chaste is important to you, do it. And keep searching for a guy that shares your values.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 12:53 AM
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Did you feel unsafe or just offended? I think that is a huge distinction to make, going forward.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 03:18 PM
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My childhood interests included playing with baby dolls, Barbie dolls, etc. and playing "house." I pursued a career in education with the idea that if I never had kids of my own, at least I'd be able to love and care for and support the kids in my community. I wound up marrying while I was still in college, finishing my degree right before our first child was born, and having four kids and homeschooling them. I never used my degree in a professional capacity, but it has helped somewhat as I've t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/24 09:13 PM
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Do what you can to keep the focus on what you can control, rather than what you can't (in this case, your past). Make sure you've really learned from your mistakes and will not repeat them - therapy may play into that. You will undoubtedly find guys that put a lot of stock into body count and insist your past defines you. Those are not the guys for you. But there are plenty of good men that can appreciate a reformed woman because they themselves may have gone through some stuff and came out of i…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 01:51 PM
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I'm 5'11 and my husband is barely 6'. If I'm wearing any kind of shoe, I'm taller than him. I think there are other ways to feel petite and feminine without being shorter than your significant other. He can bulk up/you can slim down, you can act more submissively, etc. Have you ever shared this insecurity with him? My husband knows how I've felt about my height and we've both acknowledged it's 100% a "me"problem. All the good things more than make up for that one insecure feeling.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 02:47 PM
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I had my youngest at 35. It wasn't ideal but it wasn't unwelcome. I'm fact, we both wanted him very much.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 01:43 AM
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They don't care about them in what context? To sleep with, I guess they'll still be desirable. But to marry and start a family with?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 07:21 PM
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While motherhood is a big part of my identity, it's not my entire identity. With that said, there are ebbs and flows; right now your baby requires a large part of you, physically and mentally and emotionally. That will shift, often in unexpected ways, as they grow. Prioritizing self-care, including making time for your hobbies, can help you feel more grounded and remind you of all there is to enjoy apart from your sweet baby. And as a new parent, don't discount possible PPD, as it can manifest m…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 01:59 AM
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It's good advice but coming from someone who's maybe/possibly/not-quite-yet/about-to-be engaged, it doesn't mean too much. You've got a long way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:18 AM
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Can it work? Probably. But in all the instances I've seen there's been a LOT of resentment from both sides.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 01:43 AM
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I've been there. Heck, at 36, I am there. Know that by being aware, you're already ahead of the game. Men talk about the "wall," and sure, it exists, and we're all gonna hit it, but we can take steps to slow down the impact. Take care of your skin and your body: eat as clean as possible, exercise, moisturizer, exfoliate, and use sunscreen. Make the most of your youth in the ways that will make you proud to look back on when you're older. For me, that was marrying young and having lots of kids. A…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 04:33 AM
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I think you aren't over the cheating. That's not an accusation - just an observation, and one you might want to address with him and potentially a counselor. There may be some codependency issues that need resolving, but I'd address the cheating and insecurity first.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:38 PM
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Morbid curiosity, mostly. And once I realized that my husband was red-pilled (it's not something he talks about; I stumbled upon all of this on my own), part of me felt like I was gaining valuable insight into the male psyche. I grew up with very little knowledge of the male-female dynamic (I was raised by my mom and two aunts, all 3 of whom never had any relationships) and even after 15 years of marriage I felt woefully inexperienced. I'd read enough romance novels that I think my system needed…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 03:47 AM
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Rian at least refuses to condemn marriage outright. My husband asked me to stop reading all of it, but what can I say, I'm a glutton for punishment.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 03:08 AM
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Those are the two RP gurus I started with, and I went through the seven stages of grief with all the stuff they were talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 02:48 AM
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When you're married, your value to your husband extends way, way beyond your appearance. Comfort yourself with the fact that he chose you, and do what you can to be worthy of that. None of us are perfect, and it's doubtful any of us are 10s (FWIW, I rate myself as a 4). Being red pilled is more about being realistic, and maximizing your value (appearance where possible, sure, but also personality, homemaking skills, etc.). Don't waste energy thinking about what you don't have, and work on all of…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 02:46 AM
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My husband married me based on my potential to be a good wife and mother. I married him based on his potential to provide. I like to think neither of us were disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:01 AM
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It's very unlikely; hypergamy dictates that you'll move onward and upward, or at least make every attempt to. It's okay to grieve the end of any relationship - let comments like those speed up the process, not slow it down.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 04:10 AM
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As someone who grew up in NYC and found my husband when I was still living there: dating in that city is a crap show. My husband and I met online, before online dating was much of a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 09:57 PM
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Came here to recommend that one! It was incredibly helpful for me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 11:06 PM
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I'd expect my husband to do most of the advice-giving, but I'd hopefully drive home the point that he shouldn't pour everything into interaction with one young woman. Men tend to love hard - a lot harder than they're given credit for - and keeping his options open, having fun, and gaining experience are what those early years are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 10:19 PM
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Absolutely me. I've effed up a lot of things, in previous relationships and with my husband, when I didn't know how and when to keep my mouth shut.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:26 PM
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As a woman: talking too damned much.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:13 PM
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I guess I'm confused why you equate "living your life" with having casual sex. What's wrong with pursuing a high-value man with the intent to get married? Rather than throwing in the towel, so to speak, I'd focus on being the best "you" you can be so you can focus on attracting the right kind of guy for the long-term.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 10:51 PM
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As a female anti-feminist, forget being called an incel; I'm just labeled a traitor. At this point, I think any man who embraces his manhood and doesn't let women walk all over him, is a target, and it makes me worry for my sons.
/r/AntiFeminists29/05/22 02:47 AM
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I personally don't think there's a set cut-off. If there's mutual attraction and compatibility, go for it. I feel like we'd have a lot to talk about. I also grew up in a house without men and had "daddy issues." I've been married for almost 15 years, and sometimes I really don't know how I managed it, because I was a very difficult wife, when we were starting out. FTR, he is about 6 years older than me, and red pill aware (but it's not something we really discuss - "fight club" and all that).
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 01:38 PM
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But we're all using what we know/have learned in different ways. I don't think it's necessarily a straight path for all, and even if it were, we're all on different parts of it. Taking the red pill as a woman married for nearly 15 years, like myself, is going to look a lot different from the 20-year-old single girl.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 01:33 PM
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I think a central tenet of red pill ideology is the acknowledgement that men's need for sex is healthy and necessary. I'm not a huge fan of sex before marriage for many reasons, but I don't think that precludes the importance of sex once in a committed relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 01:29 PM
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I agree with this - and there are, indeed, ways of telling if you'll be physically compatible without having sex. Still, there is the saying, "women make rules for betas, and break them for alphas." If the guy is attractive enough (not just physically) sometimes the standards we have in place go right out the window. I think it's best not to let that happen, but sometimes it does, anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 01:17 PM
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I'm interested. My husband's a member of a RP. men's group that cost money but has been incredibly beneficial for him. I wish there was something like it for women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 01:01 AM
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haha, im the opposite
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 12:59 AM
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RP'ed guys are cautioned not to get caught up in ONEitis (the belief that there's just one person for them, i.e. a "soulmate"). I believe the same rings true for women. Without knowing any of the details, I'm leaning toward just advising you to move on. Learn from your mistakes with the next guy. As the weird-as-heck-but-still-relevant book, He's Just Not That Into You would say, "don't waste the pretty."
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 09:14 PM
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I'm not really a fan of analyzing what he "should" be doing, especially since we have very limited information about him and he's not here to defend himself. You're looking at this from a modern feminist perspective; RP would be more "he's keeping his options open" and she could be a possible plate. We can debate the morality of it all day long; the reality is, this girl's in his life, and both of them (him and the girl, not OP) seem to prefer it that way. He's likely creating (and succeeding at…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 09:11 PM
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Who says he's cheating?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 05:26 PM
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You could, but be prepared for a "you don't trust me" accusation (which you could counter with, "I trust you, but I don't trust her). It may not go well. I don't know how much her friendship means to him, and any confrontation on your part could be seen as an ultimatum. Still, I'm of the opinion that if you mean that much to him, it shouldn't be a hardship for him to let go of whatever relationship he has with her. But then you're the"bitch" who insisted he stop taking to her. So yeah. Maybe not…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 04:30 PM
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From a RP perspective: she sounds like someone he's got waiting in the wings. If he's not seeing her, she's at least on the back burner. It's undoubtedly creating some dread for you, which increases his appeal (girls like guys who are attractive to other girls). It's up to you to decide how you want to proceed. Either you trust him or you don't. Either he's high-value enough to put up with it, or he isn't. I don't think an ultimatum ("it's her or me" sort of thing) would go over well, so the onl…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 03:52 PM
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Yet when I said the same thing about a man talking about kids only a few months in, everyone dogpiled. I agree. Unless you're in a culture that encourages short courtships, this seems incredibly fast.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 12:55 PM
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The way I was raised is very, very different from the sort of woman/wife/mother I strive to be. A lot of your post resonated with me. I grew up with, essentially, man-haters, and in a very liberal city, as well. I don't know why, but I always eschewed all of it, and set a goal to be married young, and to leave the city as soon as I could. Still, I think for me, there will always be a bit of a struggle, because it can be very hard to escape the way we were raised. In my case, I have actually aske…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 02:56 PM
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Whether he has isn't attracted to you and/or he has a drinking problem, the result is the same: move on. I know I'm not attractive to every man I come across; no need to waste my time with those guys. Don't base your attractiveness on one guy's crappy decisions and taste.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 02:33 PM
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I went to school to be a special education teacher (never did - got pregnant in my last semester of college) and I remember interviewing one teacher I was observing, asking them how they managed to get through every day, and they answered, "Most days I come home absolutely drained. The days I have a bit more energy, I just cry and cry." It was then that I realized how absolutely amazing of a person you have to be, to work with special needs kids every day. And even more so, to parent one. With a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 01:59 AM
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Am I right that you said you visited your family from December to February? And that you're planning on going again this summer? It sounds like family is very important to both of you, but it's going to be hard to work on your relationship when you're so far away, and for so long. Your situation in Pakistan isn't a great one, and while escaping back to Canada might help your mental health, it won't help the relationship. It's also hard to judge his reliance on his family when it seems you also h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 06:18 AM
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Oh, for sure: nothing can turn a guy beta faster than a woman looking for validation. It's kind of what we do. But it also puts a damper on desire. An LTR through a RP lens is a delicate balancing act, for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 01:01 PM
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I think in a way it sort of betatizes a guy because he's essentially telling the world, "I don't have options, she's 'the one'" - and women are most attracted to men with options. Plus it's all emotional and vulnerable, and it emasculates them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 09:07 AM
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First off, congratulations! This is such an exciting time in your lives together. A baby is a blessing. It's also a time of upheaval and change. And your hormones are through the roof! So I get the need for extra support and maybe some validation thrown in there, too. No shame in that - you're growing a human! With that said, he's likely feeling his own stress and discomfort. Men tend to deal with it differently. My husband liked to job hunt, with every baby we had - he kept "running the numbers…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 12:47 PM
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It's commendable that you want to break your pattern of bringing up hurtful things from the past. But it sounds like you've both had a year of pain, then. Maybe you could bring up a "clean slate"/fresh start. He stops brooding, and you become more sensitive to his (admittedly quite delicate?) feelings. If that's what he really needs, I don't think you'd need any grand gesture to make up for it - just correct the behavior as you move forward.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 11:19 AM
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What were you apologizing for? And what does he expect from you, going forward? It sounds like he's still being pretty cryptic. Honestly, it kind of sounds like he has you right where he wants you: desperate to please him and willing to do anything to "make it right." He needs to be clear on what it'll take to make him forgive, or you'll continue to make yourself miserable. A year is a long time to hold a grudge (and still be in the relationship).
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 11:02 AM
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Based on what I've read, I think there's got to be more at play than just the car being broken into, or you being a subpar housewife. Is he looking for a reason to leave you? The answer is likely yes. A friend of mine thought she had the "perfect" marriage. Then one day her husband pulled the rug out from under her, saying she'd done something ages ago that he could never forgive her for, and that he didn't love her anymore. She was devastated, waved to work through it, was desperate to fix it .…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 02:05 PM
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Unless he's a psychiatric doctor, that's not his place to say. If your physical health is fine, do what you and your husband want to do. ​ For what it's worth, we had 3 kids while I was in my 20's and loved it, then waited 8 years to have our 4th (I'm 35 now). It's a lot harder to do it, now (conceiving, pregnancy, and having an infant - it's ALL harder). So I always encourage people to have them young, if they can. With that said, I love our big family, and I'm hoping we can have a couple more.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 06:03 PM
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If a strong man can stand up to his woman, he should also be able to stand up to his parents. Do you really have to live with them? That sounds like a very difficult situation with some very difficult people. I don't see how you are going to be able to "start your lives" when you're living under your MIL's thumb. Even at the best of times, living with family can be less than ideal. We did it for a few months and they were the nicest people, but we still lacked privacy, and moved out as soon as p…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 02:22 PM
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My husband would agree, I think :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 07:46 PM
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I cannot speak on this from experience, but I think there's something very admirable about someone who can say, "I used to be this way, but I've changed, and here's proof." You can't erase your past, but you've learned from it. Being honest and saying, "Yeah, I've slept around, but that's no longer who I am" should be enough to keep some guys around. For others, your body count will still be a red flag, but it is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 05:39 PM
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Barring any religious fixations on celibacy (and I say this as a religious person who entered marriage as a virgin), I think men are mostly looking for women with a low body count, not necessarily zero body count. Your value is still there. I don't know a lot about Taylor Swift, but I would argue that maybe going about things the way she did maybe wasn't the greatest way to heal. She's had quite the string of men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 03:42 PM
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I think boundaries are good to have in any relationship, including the one you have with your parents as an adult. With that said, it could have some cultural ties: in many countries it's not uncommon for many generations to live together, and privacy isn't really a thing, and sex is discussed openly. For those of us who didn't grow up that way, it can seem like a huge violation of trust, and I think it's definitely something that could end your relationship, if you decide it's a deal breaker. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 12:43 PM
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It's this a real question, or just a rant or...? I think the obvious answer would be to become your son's biggest and best role model.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 10:55 AM
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I think we've established that. They're often used interchangeably.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:39 AM
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And since "shit test" is the term used most often, especially by men, I just use it for both.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:32 AM
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I'm not arguing with their intent or the motivation behind each one - I'm just saying that the anatomy of one vs the other (and how they are dealt with) is largely similar.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:29 AM
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I guess I never really differentiated between the two. Semantics, really.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 02:13 AM
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Some guys just don't say it often. I've been married for nearly 15 years and my husband still doesn't say it often. He’s just so perfect in every way. I promise you, he is not, and that is an impossible standard for him to have to live up to. Just be careful about putting him on a pedestal. You're bound to be disappointed. Like recently I asked him about threesomes and I got heated at the fact that he was open to discussing it if it was something I was excited about. I know this is a perfectly r…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 01:56 AM
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You have a lot of wonderful traits that YOU and other men see as high value. But he's saying he wants more than that. You can't fault him for having preferences. It sounds like you both want fundamentally different things for your futures. Better to know now.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 12:20 AM
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To amplify is like you take it a step further. So if she says, "How many girls have you been with?" you'd answer with something like, "What, like today?" She wants to get a rise out of you. She wants to take you down a peg or two. Don't let that happen. Any woman who says they don't shit test is lying. I do it all the time without even realizing, then after the fact I'm like, "well jeez, there it is"
/r/TheRedPill22/04/22 12:00 AM
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Sure: men don't like drama. They don't like complicating their lives. This sounds like a giant complication. That many of us are having a hard time following it is indicative of how he's likely feeling. Most RP literature will have you believe that sex is kind of a given, if you're into each other. I am part if a very conservative culture that prizes celibacy before marriage, so it's a world I don't quite understand. Still, you enter kind of a gray area when you say, "I'm waiting for marriage" b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 09:15 PM
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A sexually healthy, high value guy is not going to be satisfied with the occasional sexual act and no intercourse, especially doing the long distance thing. You're the "everything but" girl, now, and that doesn't make a lot of sense. Maybe you don't have to worry about him finding someone more attractive (although TBH, that's a really ignorant statement - most girls overestimate their attractiveness) but you should worry about him finding someone local, and someone with fewer hangups.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 06:59 PM
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Mine favors my daughters over my sons. I get it. It can be hard to find a good space to discuss traditional gender roles. Feminine, submissive women are vilified almost as much as strong, masculine men, these days.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 03:00 PM
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Yes - but I think this space has more to do with your relationship with your spouse than your choice to stay home. The two can of course overlap, but not every conservative value is going to be automatically labeled Red Pill. With that said, I've been a homeschooling SAHM for nearly 14 years and it's been great, but I, too, have a mother who couldn't understand it because her life was so very different (never married, always worked, hates men). I tend to steer clear of certain topics with her. B…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 02:56 PM
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Saying, "I have made him become extremely successful" isn't a great mindset to have, even if it's true. It shows you have very little respect for this man and his accomplishments. In the time you've been together it sounds like his value has increased, whereas due to ageing, yours likely will only decrease (based on RP definitions of SMV). Sounds like he's trying to cut his losses and move on. Not fair, but that's the way the game is played. If you're such a catch, find a guy who will appreciate…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 12:00 PM
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Many men, especially redpilled men, won't get married. I don't blame them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 01:51 AM
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I don't know if the age gap means too much. SMV-wise, you're both at around peak for your sex. Your fertility is only going to go down from here. We only have a 6-year gap, but my husband and I just had our 4th last year when he was 40, and it was pretty great, but I had a much easier time conceiving my first 3 kids (with the same man - we just waited for #4) when I was in my early 20s. I'd bring it up, maybe leave off the misgivings and just say, "I'm feeling like I want to have kids, what do y…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 11:39 PM
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I don't know if it's a matter of living a certain way so much as an acknowledgement of women's inherent thought patterns and behaviors. I think being aware of it can bring clarity to a relationship, but there's no "right way" to do it, necessarily.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 09:49 PM
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Social media is a very feminine construct because all it is, is talking and sharing and feelings. It's really not beneficial for anyone. We're largely a society of inaction. "Don't do it, talk about it." Just go do it.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/22 09:43 AM
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I’ve been there. Goodness, I’ve been there. Husband would say something I took as hurtful, I’d react, he’d withdraw. Rinse and repeat. A good chunk of our (15-year) marriage went this way. I wish we’d gotten it figured out sooner. I think nothing betatizes a man faster than marriage and kids. He’s the provider, he’s the “good guy,” and he becomes essentially afraid of us. There’s the alpha side still lurking somewhere (else he wouldn’t make the comments in the first place) but it’s heavily suppr…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/22 09:32 AM
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Thank you. My husband is a good leader - he's the brains behind the whole operation. We're homeschooling them, too. This was a great discussion!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 12:17 AM
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Very good point. As our kids get older we're even encouraging alternative career paths (for many reasons; debt being just one of them) but I know that isn't the case for everyone. It's just a sad reality that for most, debt is just a given.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 12:09 AM
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I guess I could see where it's subjective - my father in law has a PhD in family finance so any debt's kind of a red flag in our family. But I'd still personally avoid it if given the option.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 11:57 PM
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Men looking to get into an LTR don't care if women are carrying massive amounts of debt? It may be secondary to attraction, but it's still there. Red flags are still red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 11:45 PM
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That's feminist thinking for you. I'm not out to convince anyone that a redpilled way of thinking is the best way - but you're here, in a RP group, sooo... I assume you've at least seen the news: college debt does not secure anyone's financial future. She has a decent enough job now that can provide a "work/life balance." Her long term goals include marrying and staying home with her kids. I've seen what happens to women who choose school and career over marriage and family, and 9 times out of 1…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 11:35 PM
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This, 100%. Good men don’t want women who are saddled with debt, especially if their plan is to stay home with their children and not work toward paying it off, themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 09:12 PM
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I can only offer my own perspective, and how my choices shaped my life: I only attended college because I had a full academic scholarship and was not yet married. I married at 20, while still in school. I was set to also receive a scholarship to graduate school, but got pregnant at 21 so I just graduated with my bachelor’s and said goodbye to any further higher education. It was a difficult decision, especially as I was born to a feminist/career woman who expected me to make similar choices, so …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 09:09 PM
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One problem in western society is that women are so quick to cry “abuse” as soon as their feelings are hurt or they don’t like what a guy has to say. If he physically harms you with intent to harm, hands down, that’s abuse. Emotional/mental “abuse” is more of a gray area. But a guy with good game will absolutely know how to play a woman without her freaking out/insisting she’s being abused. And also when to walk away if she tries playing that card when no actual abuse has occurred. I just read t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 10:21 AM
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Well, OP, looks like we’ve eliminated this guy as a potential match! In all seriousness: everyone competes. Girls compete for guys’ attention all the time. The very nature of the word Game implies competition. So whether she’s in med school or not, she’s already competing, just like every other woman on the planet. And what would you have her do: quit school, be $200K in the hole, and enter into a relationship with a shitload of debt and nothing to show for it? She’s better off trying to catch a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 10:00 AM
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What was so great about "the one that got away"? Defining that may help you let go. There's no ideal woman, and I'm sure that holding on to her and keeping her on a pedestal is only going to limit you, going forward. It sounds like you're way out of HER league, now. Do you know what she looks like now? Likely her SMV is dropping, while yours continues to climb. Look higher.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/22 06:47 PM
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I wouldn't analyze his motive or try to decipher it. I wouldn't call it a red flag or (good grief) refer to it as abuse. He's expressing a preference. We all have preferences. Ask him what he means by it. Ask if he'd prefer if you put on weight and/or cut your hair. Maybe try on a cheap wig and see how you (and he) feel about it. Have you been married for long? Is this a newly expressed preference? Remember that he chose you - what did you look like when you first started dating? Call me crazy, …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 06:41 PM
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You say most doctors don’t want a doctor for a wife, but that’s not all. Don’t give up hope that you won’t meet someone in med school. And while your dedication to your career isn’t likely to be what attracts a high-value man, it can be a nice plus. While yes, it does appear you’re “stuck” at the moment, there’s a valuable lesson to be learned: don’t compromise your goals to fulfill someone else’s dreams. You’re fortunate that you learned this one fairly early in your life; I know someone who es…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 06:11 AM
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Sadly, not much in life is fair. At this point, the most respectful thing you could do for him would be to honor his wish to end the relationship and stop prolonging inevitable. Even if you did get back together, all of this drama would still hang over both of you, and neither of you need that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 05:57 AM
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Honestly, and I say this as an "old lady" of 35 who also moved to another state for a guy, at your age: I think you should let him go. Guy sounds full of drama. If he won't commit, and you want him to, there's already a huge disconnect there. If you have a lot to offer (although if refrain from using phrases like, "he's lucky to have me") a better guy will appreciate it. Plus, he's all but dumped you, and I'm not really reading of any redeeming qualities he possesses that should make you beg to …
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 05:45 AM
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If it's all online/long distance, how do you know if anything she's saying is the truth? Right now it's all kind of a fantasy. There's safety in that, sure, but it will also lack fulfillment.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/22 05:34 AM
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He gave me children and lets me stay home with them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 05:23 AM
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Not necessarily a turnoff, but always keep in mind that it isn't your intelligence (or your degree, or your career) that's going to attract him. It may keep things interesting, but it's not getting your foot in the door.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 03:48 AM
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