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I have not been on this sub for years, due to it being a never ending loop of “debates” which never lead nowhere imo. I stumbled accross this thread and specifically logged in to say/type that this is one of/if not the realest comments I have ever seen, big respect for being honest (sorry if it’s cringe to say) Idk if it’s okay for me to ask, but what work did you put in in order to “glow up”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:59 AM
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big facts, seen this (orbiters being kept on purpose by girls addicted to the attention) in real life pleeenty of times, salute for the post
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 02:49 PM
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For the most part, I am a beta male and this thread is ridicolous (could have been argumented better, the Op‘s premise, I cant even comprehend it), but the fuzzymuffin user is right imo, thats a 1000 times more legit than the original topic, most of our sorrow is women being hypocritical about their nature, I am very social and have „touched grass“ and seen this in real life over and over and over again, just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 02:44 PM
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lolll foh bro, the nerve to say that sb is being disrespectful when at least half of your posts are like that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:48 AM
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Thank you for the advice, definitely worth trying, appreciate it!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:56 AM
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Good points bro, I have to say though me and my friends and acquaintances dont’t indulge in ego stroking, so we don’t outright compliment each other like that most of the time. In terms of the second thing, I would say it’s a mixture of both. Some other things that I can say are that are not to do with character qualities are that I am responsible in terms of employment, almost tall (6 1 1/2 or 187 cm), physically active ( play ”european” football at least 3 times a week) and interested in fashi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:28 AM
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not in dating though, personally I agree with you, I hate arrogance, but women prefer that over insecurity 😂 Appreciate the reply, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:01 AM
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wish I was like that lol, seems delusional to me, but there you go 😂 Thank you for the reply, appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:59 AM
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Im somewhat funny, polite and easy going, hasnt helped me in dating for now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:57 AM
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Me personally idgaf about confidence. if I was dealing with a girl who is insecure, it wouldn‘t be a deal breaker, there are more important things, I have lots of male friends so that‘s not an issue for them as I am rarely the self deprecating annoying type (I am on reddit though lol). When it comes to dating/relationships though, girls seem to reaaaly hold confidence in high regard and me not being able to find a partner (I dont have high standarts) is wearing me down more and more, hence me ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 10:19 AM
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Facts bro, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 06:45 AM
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Great advice, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 06:44 AM
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I agree, works better than anxiety though 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:40 AM
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You are absl right, sadly though I know some people with tons to be proud/confident about, but have the same issue as me, thank you for the reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:39 AM
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good point, however do you reckon that overall confidence can help with SM confidence, thank you for the reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:37 AM
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🔥 big factsss
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:05 AM
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🔥 🔥 🔥 the biggest of factss
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:32 PM
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As someone who is the shy type of insecure around women…..unfortunately what you said is a big factt damnn, wish it wasnt like that but it is, everything else is “cap”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:43 AM
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factssss
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:59 AM
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This is what the whole thread is about. Only assholes (borderline assholes) at best do the whole pushing boundaries thing. I am talking about people who are supposed to be your friends. Nobody likes these kind of people (in male social dynamics), maybe it might be tolerated if they have some other redeeming qualities, but thats a big maybe .
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:55 AM
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To me it seems that you are “gaslighting“me big time 😂 I have lots of male friends and the whole pushing boundaries things is an assholish thing to do, if sb acts like that, I can cease comunnication with them. I will absolutely not take bigger “swings” if you “let me” p, if you discuss normally, I would do the same, I have not attacked your whole gender, Im just sharing my experience in real life and on PPD. You make some good points besides that, but what you are describing is very primal and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 08:13 AM
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factssss
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:48 AM
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I dont expect you to do anything, thats why Im a nice guy 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:42 AM
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What are you referring to that doesnt match, I mentioned why women dont like nice guys, as opposed to what posters have said about nice guys being manipulative Most nice guys have other qualities, but thats what I imagine when I hear nice guy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:33 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/g19f0a/radicalizing_the_romanceless_a_peek_into_the_ego/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:30 AM
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Sorry, disagree. Females on here critique this type of male the most In these 2 threads in particular I have said that nice guys get the most hate and judgement,even though there are a lot of worse things than being nice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:13 AM
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In these 2 threads in particular I have said that nice guys get the most hate and judgement,even though there are a lot of worse things than being nice In terms of „pinning“ it down: pros: polite,considerate of others( selfish, but not at others expense), cool, easygoing,good listener cons:anxious,self conscious, overthinking Hope it makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:12 AM
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snitch on what? How did you come to this conclusion lool Bro the biggest gangsters in history have snitched what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:05 AM
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I never said that bro, you raise a good point, doesnt mean nice guys deserve all the hate on here About your last sentence, what does that mean lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:00 AM
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fair point, doesnt mean that they(we) deserve all the hate on here
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:58 AM
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Sorry, I disagree, lots of people say that the nice guys are the devils children loool
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:35 AM
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sorry I dont know what that means, I have lots of male friends, do they like me because im feminine lool
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:34 AM
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Great point, here is how it is for me I enjoy a conversation, an argument though,fohh with that, im not engaging
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 06:00 AM
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Exactly bro, so whos really the bad guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:59 AM
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factsss
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:57 AM
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I somewhat agree with you, however on here most posters say that nice guys dont have any other qualities, covert contracts etc, which is seldom true
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:55 AM
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I believe youre right, but this seems really immature to me, yet the nice guys are the ones being labelled all sorts of things on here, what kind of logic is that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:53 AM
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What about if they handle rejection well? How does that make a difference? Same outcome IMO and IME
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:50 AM
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Both have the same issues imo, its their motives and reactions that are different. Women like to test your masculinity, which is immature imo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:45 AM
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There is no way for you to know this, but Ive gotten in so much shit when I was young (still do sometimes), I was still nice, if we exclude between 14 to 16, I was kind of an asshole, girls were most receptive to me then (shocker 😂) I realized that thats not the way I want to be (an asshole) and stopped behaving like that. Im not saying its noble, Im actually a selfish person, but not at the expense of other people. What if youre polite because you want to be? I would have discussed this more, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 05:43 AM
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About the self respect thing, please tell me why would women push their boundaries in the first place, once again who is really the bad guy? This kind of logic makes zero sense to me. Talking about self awareness, here is how I see it: Most likely the thing is that women want „dominant“ men, nice guys like me are not fans of the whole dominant thing and I can tell you that in a group\ social circle or men, a guy that „asserts his dominance“ or whatever you call it will be ridiculed and avoided, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:47 AM
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Its the first time you‘re hearing about it, because its bullshit loool Think about a job you‘ve worked, there‘s always at least one asshole boss, he will not be struggling to get female validation, I can guarantee you lool
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:20 AM
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Okay, lets concede that what youre saying is correct, nobody can convince me that being polite/nice etc makes you the bad guy as many people on here claim. Maybe you can be polite and be the bad guy if youre a narcissist thats doing it with an ulterior motive to stab sb in the back figuratively speaking, but thats extreme and rare. Once again, I can not be convinced that being a nice guy is bad as its being said on here,this is what the thread is about. When you are nice/polite, one would like f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 09:04 PM
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I understand now, so can I ask you why is it a “regular guy” wont do this? How do you know? That s the thing, on here it seems that being a nice guy is the worst thing in the world, albeit nice guys have flaws just like everyone else, but the vitriol repulsion against them seems to be the highest
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:01 PM
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Can I ask you, whatvare the sequence of events, I genuinely dont know what you talking about, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:30 PM
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You make some good points imo,, but I will say that its not a „tactic“ its the way I behave naturally
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:29 PM
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exactly what I was trying to sayyy damnnn
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:26 PM
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big factsssss bro, you broke it down like I never could, propss
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:21 PM
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I dont know why, that has always been strange to mf, you can tell me if you know 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:57 PM
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My take is that girls dont aroused/attracted by being nice to them, I cant say for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:41 PM
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Lol seems that they have more confidence/lack of an ego than me in this case. Thank you for your input, regards
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:53 AM
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I have read this before, doesnt make sense to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:28 AM
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Giving your post a second read, I see that I have misinterpreted it, my bad lol I would say that all kind of people do that, not only them, personally I just cut off contact, might not be the most mature, but people on here seem to portray only “us“ doing that hope it makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:27 AM
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Okay, thats fair enough, lets say the nice guys fit the first description You should be able to see the amount of hate they get all over reddit, not only this sub, I dont think „we“ ( I dont neccesarily fit this description, but Im a bit of a loser lol) are that bad to be getting all of this flack.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:17 AM
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Im sorry bro,im not reading all of that loool
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:13 AM
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nahh, but its a bit trigerring that females on reddit (some males as well) depict this type of personality as the scum of the universe, where they put up with much worse by other personalities
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:12 AM
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Lollll hard disagree, they cant even get that far with a girl to cause that much damage
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:09 AM
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factsss, yet I see sooo many people capping on here and trying to make nice guys the villain
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:31 PM
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Big facts broo, I saw you comment on another thread and looked up your history, (to me it seems) youre trying to convey the same message that I am, that we own up to our faults, but people on here and irl still “attack„ us. Nobody gives a s**t about us sadly, even when we try to be balanced. Really like your posts. Peace!
/r/MensRights08/11/22 04:22 PM
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I cant believe the spin youre putting on these matters 😂 is being nice and having motives to do it better than being an asshole and having the same motives?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:58 AM
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For most of my life I have been a shy person, but a bit of a trouble maker as well. Except from when I was 14 to 16, I didnt give a fuckk about anything and treated girls my age like dirt almost, which they responded mostly positive to lol This type of attitude got me in so much predicaments that led to negative consequences, but the reason I stopped being like that is because I realized that Im causing pain to others by behaving like that. When I stopped behaving like that, no girls wanted to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:51 AM
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All of the posters disagreeing with you are capping big time and deep down they know that what youre saying are SUPER FACTS.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:42 AM
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Everything that you said are big factsss bro, Im the same way, women for the most part want the „alpha“ of the group smh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:56 PM
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Here is a reply by another user, who summarised it better than me Its a scale in terms of ‘success’ Stage 1 If you are timid and scared, you have it the worst. You will not accomplish what you want to accomplish. Stage 2 If you are arrogant and obnoxious you will get some part of what you want (career wise...getting the right table at a restaurant...maybe some particular relationship), but people will generally dislike you and find you rude and ughhh that person. Stage 3: Assertive and confident…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:19 PM
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I agree with you, ultimately being confident and cool is the best by far, but thats not what I made this thread about
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:04 PM
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We think alike, however I can concede that romantic relationships are diff than platonic ones
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:54 PM
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ty for the reply, youre one of the few people that actually answered the question, instead of discussing other things (which some of them have been helpful)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:52 PM
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So just to confirm, it is better to be obnoxious than anxious, which is what I originally asked? I can admit to being wrong, so thats why I asked
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:46 PM
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I am 27 atm, born in 95 I agree with everything you say, but thats what I am saying in the OP. If you put two identical guys but one is annoying/loud, the other one is anxious. Two different types of insecurity, but insecurity nevertheless. Which one are women going to gravite to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:37 PM
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You have a point,I go about it the following way A bit cliche, but treat people the way you want to be treated. I have had people try to manipulate me alotttt over the years,when I was younger I used to cave in, now I dont, if they cut me off bc of that Im fine with it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:29 PM
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Here is what I have observed and/or experienced. When a person is confident but cool and pleasant to be around, both men and women enjoy being around him/her. When a man is loud and annoying and/or obnoxious, males will disregard/avoid him, idk if they can differentiate bween confidence or arrogance, but theres no point/benefit in being around such males. If its a woman and shes hot, then they will still communicate with her I must admit 😂 If a woman is anxious and annoying it will be the same a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:14 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate it. Still though, the situation that I created the thread about is messed up 😂 Im not talking about confident and cool people btw
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:05 PM
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I know this and I agree with you, please look up the 3 stages comment from another user, he/she put it down waaay better than me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:03 PM
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Exactlyy, I absolutely agree with everything you said down to the last symbol, not how society (women) for the most part see it. The whole point I was making is thag if youre anxious, people on reddit here for example say, sort it out, thats what you get for being like this, its not other peoples problem etc. Which is true , but its much less of a “crime” than burdening other people with your attitude etc
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 01:01 PM
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I agree with you, I am not outwardly anxious if that means acting like a victim, at least I try not to, the self pity thing is not it, I might be doing it subconciously though, but imo I dont. The point im making is that when youre an anxious person you dont bother anybody but yourself with it , whereas when your obnoxious its a problem for other people as well (dealing with it that is) ,despite that, people( women for the most part) are more unrelenting if you are anxious than obnoxious. I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:56 PM
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You are right bro, just got to get the finances right and Ill do it. Got any tips in the meantime?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:50 PM
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Exactlyyy, thank youu
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:36 AM
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You are right, thats the best way to go about it, but its not what the thread is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:33 AM
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Yes, you are absolutely right, has happened to me as well, but for some I wasnt wrong lol, thank you for the replies
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:55 AM
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Yes, I am positive, normally I avoid people like this one, but at work its impossible to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:32 AM
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Yes, sure. First these are not regularly confident people. The example is people that other people do not enjoy the company of, to put it this way. The example Im going to give is this one person I used to work with.Nobody liked this guy and for good reason. He wanted to engage people with stupid (not in the funny way) things all the time and just kept rambling on and on, furthermore if people dont engage he kept pushing.That was in a non charming way whatsoever However, he had a real hot girlfr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:48 AM
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Those would be other types of people, which I am friends with and you re right, they are not assholes. I am talking/typing about people that are obviously annoying, but still have success. Please look up the three stages comment by another poster in this thead, I agree with him/her This assumption that you have made says more about you than you realise loooool
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:41 AM
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The biggest of facts, thank you for the reply,concise and crystal clear and I genuinely mean it,thank you once again
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:27 AM
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Im 27, but I think you might be one of these people that I mentioned going by the way you reply
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:47 AM
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Its not that easy thooo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:43 AM
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True, but personally when I encounter this type of person, I am repulsed by them and try my best to not interact, doesnt seem beneficial in any way, whereas I am noticing the opposite in other peoples reactions
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:42 AM
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Im saying both are bad, but the one that seems worse to me is actually more rewarded/forgiven than being anxious, throughout my life I have interacted with a lot of people, its fairly easy to spot a truly confident person in comparison to the ones I mentioned, hope it makes sense to you Edit to address your last point Not only shitty men and women go for that, people with virtues do as well, from what I have experienced in life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:39 AM
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Im not a chad or anything but I have messed things up NUMEROUS times by doing all of the things that you mentioned looool 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:09 AM
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Bro, these are the biggest facts! Im so happy there are posters like you that have a balanced take on things, quite often posts are very one sided. Im the latter type btw 😂 Normal upbringing and horrible success with women 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:05 AM
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Big facts bro, hope I dont turn incel by then 😂 😂 Seriously though, tysm for the balanced perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 06:47 AM
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Ofc it shouldnt be ones job to do this. I believe you are arguing for the sake of arguing. Are you saying that partners should not help each other evolve together or am I getting this wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:29 AM
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Please consider if it is me or you that’s doing this 😂 I never said this, I said building up, and later on,in a few of my posts have said “help”, actually have said this under the post of the other user that you have replied to. I heve never said solve all of mine or other males’ problems. Feel free to quote me if I have. Just this one problem, which is most likely temporary. I promise you that if you are in a relationship where a man doesnt help you build UP your character, in terms of reasurin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:18 AM
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Hello again, I spent like 8 hours in this thread yesterday and it gave me a headache, so thats why I didnt engage any further. Today,I changed my mind 😂 Im sorry to say this, but your last reply is why I posed this question in the first place. It seems that you are daying a deal breaker is a deal breaker. deal (lol) with it. Considering that many men will be fine on working on this, while females like you have this stance, to me it seems selfish. Also telling me that six months is a long time to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:09 AM
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I was on this thread all day yesterday, which gave me a headache, so I didnt reply, sorry about that 😂 Im sorry to say this, but it seems you are just playing contrarian. Never in my life have I experienced or seen the following: Two people are in a relationship or in the ”talking” phase of courtship. The female shares something with the male about a challenge in their life and the male goes: “Thats rough, but you have to sort it yourself, Im not your therapist” Never,eveeeer. They would probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:56 AM
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Thank you for the comment, I really appreciate it considering the replies 😂 At first most were helpful and balanced, but then I feel like it took a turn, some of them I was trying to approach logically, I just gave up with a few posters, ironically they drained my energy 😂 I can definitely see the irony tbh . Even the respectable ones mentioned they will not budge on this loooool. In terms of being apologetic, thats how I feel people should share their opinions, because opinion is subjective and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:46 AM
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I understand 🙏 Now can you tell me why did you type in your original comment in this thread that has nothing do with that looooool
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:35 PM
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Im sorry what does that have to with being insecure 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:30 PM
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That’s fair. Good point. 1.I am not referring to women taking advantage of simps. There are lots of “ethical„ influencers that advertise normal products/merchandise. Thats brilliant on you that you have done this.That really deserves respect and I know females like that, who deserve all their success. What about confidence? The one thing that causes insecurity for men (the lack of it)which women are REPULSED by, which is what the thread is about. I understand if you are not phased by male valida…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:04 PM
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Thank you for the reply! I will get therapy once I can afford it. My point still stands though.Lots of posters have said the “mommy” thing. I can guarantee you that if a female is socially anxious/lacks self esteem, that will not be a dealbreaker for a majority of males. Can you elaborate, how do you understand ”playing mommy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:51 PM
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Do you mean the woman herself or her partner? if its the partner (the male),please look at the replies on this thread. NOT ONE person has said that she will be fine with it. I have specified that I mean insecurity alone, as a man not being confident in himself enough, not any other toxic things that CAN come with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:43 PM
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I will do my best to pick my words carefully. I have to strongly disagree with this NOT all women are like this, but there are A LOT of women whose lifestyle is being financed by men. That in return gives the women the chance to 1.Educate themselves without worrying about a job 2.Become a social media influencer 3.Simply have high confidence due to their lifestyle So you have education and/or career and confidence gained by a woman in a relationship. Do you not think that those three things help…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:39 PM
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Nahh,it should be me thats sorry, I misread your post after the whole mothers thing My bad lol 😂 You are right. The second part of my post about are not things that I “suffer“ from Its the anxiety thing more that Im concerned about. Imo, if a guy doesnt have any toxic traits that are a byproduct of insecurity, I would like to think that for a woman “to put” up with this for a little bit until the man gets comfortable is reasonable. Sorry once again 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:16 PM
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Appreciate your reply once again. I made the thread due to the fact that I saw many replies in askwomen on similar threads, that mentioned that men being anxious or insecure is what lead to the demise of the relationship. In my life I have never experienced or seen a man consider this trait of a woman as a deal breaker. Hence why I thought this MIGHT be selfish of women. Mind you Im not saying anything about jealousy or anything toxic. Hence the thread
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:06 PM
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Appreciate your reply.See this is what I mean,there is no need for you to draw the guy out of his shell, that will happen naturally imo,if the guy has ony other qualities/traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:52 PM
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I want to ask you, can you tell me what you mean by emotional needs so I can get a better understanding ​ ​ Okay,let me present it in the following way Lets say you begin a relationship with a person who is awkward or anxious. Not jelaous, smothering, overbearing,toxic or anything like that, only awkward or anxious. At first it will be a struggle as the person will be hesitant to initiate things, doesnt talk much etc. This lasts for about two months.After that it becomes natural for that guy to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:44 PM
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I sort of understand, but at the same time, are partners not supposed to help each other? That was my whole thing. Comes accross as moving the goal posts a bit. I asked another poster, if you are in the talking phase with a guy, you share something with them and they tell you Im not your father,would you consider this a normal response?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:34 PM
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Makes sense, thank you bro!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:30 PM
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Lol imagine being i. the talking phase with someone, sharing something with them and they tell you its not my job to help you 😂 😂 Edit: would you say ”youre right” or would you get upset?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:23 PM
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Thank you the advice bri,how did you overcome this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:22 PM
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Thank you for the reply! The topic I raised is about insecure/anxious type of men ( like myself unfortunately) .Can you please provide an explanation on what you are referring to when you say immature,if thats okay of course
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:52 PM
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Although all posters but maybe one or two have been very helpful,NOT ONE poster has mentioned that they will TRY to make it work,Im not a psychologist,but I think this thread made me depressed loool 😂 😂 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:39 PM
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loooooool 😂 😂 😂 you never know 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:30 PM
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See,this is why it seems selfish to me. If you like everything about a person, but this one thing (if it doesnt escalate in the toxic insecurity,which we discussed with another poster), I replied to another poster that its reasonable to say that in 6 months this will most likely be handled. Hope you understand where im coming from and thanj you for the reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:29 PM
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Absolutely!Not moral,but there is some kind of logic, wouldnt do it personally, but still 😂 Thank you,appreciate you taking the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:26 PM
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Thank you so much for all the replies, massive help!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:41 PM
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Okay,I understand now,thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:30 PM
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1.Not with a person that doesnt suit them, a person that suits them in other ways and only being anxious is getting in the way 2.If there are other deal breakers, it’s fine for the relationship to end imo 3.I agree with you, there arent time limits, you asked me for one, and I gave you an answer thats reasonable for me, IF other compatabilities are present, until this one gets sorted.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:10 PM
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I have to be completely honest, these things that you mentioned are things that can bother me,I will try to get over it,if I cant,as painful as it is I am going to stop seeing her, do you think thats selfish or being too picky( genuinely asking)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 12:03 PM
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Why do you think that, six months doesnt seem that long, it could be less, but six months imo should be something like “there’s no hope” type of cut off point. Also in the span of that timeframe, imo the changes should be gradual,Im not saying me or whoever is going to be mute during that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:56 AM
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1.What I said was that I am trying not to attack you, but it SEEMS that you have a bias against men,which is not something that I stated as a fact. You on the other hand are saying that I am red pilling FOR SURE.This sounds/read as a claim, please correct me if I am wrong 2.This was my second response(not first)to YOU and you only, if you want to you can check the way I have replied to the other posters. 3.Yes, I am looking for criticism, you are right. What you offered were two sort of “matter …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:50 AM
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This might come across as cynical, but something like a job probation contract length- six months, that makes sense to me, ofcourse human relationships cant be compared to that, but I think six months is an appropriate amount of time to see if the person will be more comfortable with being himself (fully,not the anxious version) around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:32 AM
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That makes sense, but I will give an example from my very limited experience with women. I tend to look at it like this:If a woman/girl wants to cheat, so I might be slightly bothere on the inside, but there’s no point in debating or confronting her about it, thats actually one of the things Im not anxious about, although it is very hurtful. Ofc, that doesnt mean youre not right ​ Edit: If a woman wants to cheat, even if thats the case, arguing with her on your assumptions will not make it bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:27 AM
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OMG this is the response that I was looking for ⭐️ Thank you!! The other replies were also super good and helpful, but this one is the most helpful yet Just want to add a few things, which I didnt express well, my bad, so just want to clarify: The type of insecurity that you mentioned first (internal) is the one I was referring to. The external one I would just have classified as toxic behaviour, but youre spot on that it is insecurity as well,so props for that. The other thing which I worded wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:15 AM
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That’s a very good point, I was struggling to come up with a reply tbh 😂 Just to confirm based off of your last sentence, do you agree that women want the “finished product”? Besides that, personally I respect your oppinion as it has logic behind it, dont neccesarily agree with it though 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 11:00 AM
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Thank you for the reply, that’s very well put and not in an arrogant manner,I appreciate you taking the time!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:47 AM
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You are right, personally I would classify the things that you mentioned as toxic jealousy, which can definitely be a byproduct of insecurity, but what I was referring to was the type of insecurity that can make one an anxious and or doubtful in himself, moreso than doubtful in the partner. Ofcourse youre not psychic to know that, that’s my bad. Appreciate the time to elaborate,regards!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:38 AM
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I am sorry, but I believe you have misinterpreted my reply. It might be my fault, but I think its yours 😂 It is not women’s responsibility, once again, I agree with you. For comparison sake,it’s also not your responsibility to help your friends even if they have helped you ( no matter the particular situation), you are not obligated to do that, however it would be selfish. So if the man is not the finished product, women will most likely not be willing to help,once again Im saying help, not be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:29 AM
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Great points! I appreciate you taking the time to break them down. By admin do you mean documentation etc? Because I have yet to encounter this.I mean a man not being to handle this/being ignorant to it.The other things I agree with you on them and it is mentally taxing knowing that you are the one bearing the load on them. You are also right about cheating, I am against it but at the same time have not been tempted/had the opportunity, so I dont know how resilient I am to it, hopefully I will b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:09 AM
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Thank you for the reply! I agree with you, however I have never mentioned that these issues are small or not important. I said/typed that there are flaws that men are susceptible to, but I have very rarely experienced or seen a women’s insecurity be a deal breaker as much I have seen this applicable for men in real life as well as the replies from askwomen on the threads that I mentioned in the post. ​ Regards!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:38 AM
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Thank you for the reply! I can understand where you are coming from. I did however say/type “help“, not “responsible for“, two different things. “Help” as I understand it is perhaps nudge in the right direction. ”The responsibility” is me or anyone else being entitled to a solution while me or whoever does nothing. From what I have seen in the replies, the posters do not want to “help” , they want for a person to be already developed, not saying that’s right or wrong. It’s just that IMO when in …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:31 AM
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Hello,I promise you I have never done this, but your comment comes across well structured, but rather agressive at the same time,so what I mean by this is look up your post/comment history. I believe that both men and women should be held accountable. I will give you an example:I am a male 27, 6 foot 1 1/2 approx,slightly skinnyfat lol,I struggle with dating A LOT, because I am rather shy and immature.When I was younger I was bitter, but I have come to realise that it’s actually my fault and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:08 AM
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