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I really feel special when my boyfriend opens up to me. That's good, but if only this was the norm.. I did expose an insecurity to my now ex-wife. At the time of the discussion, she was like "I understand" and "I'm here for you", and all that.. Later it was thrown in my face as one of the reasons why she started seeing other men. Crazy tho, how it obviously didn't actually settle with her in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:47 AM
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Allowing men to be vulnerable about their emotions To who? Sure isn't going to be their dating partner, cause that's the fastest way to get dumped by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:29 AM
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Sadly the father has no choice in this matter.. Not only is he subject to the possibility of being gaslit into believing he is raising his kids.. but also the diminished level of authority to find out.. As the Mother can block such requests, up until much money is spent by the father for lawyers.. all the mother has to expend is her disapproval.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 08:26 AM
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So, at the end of the day.. The mother has more power legally than the father, as it should be. /s smh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 08:22 AM
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Wanted to separately respond to the background checks and all that you mentioned regarding such investigations. If the police or detectives asked me for DNA to rule me out for a crime.. Go ahead. Now, if I was involved.. I am sure I would be all defensive and try to refuse such an thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:37 PM
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Body autonomy on who's part? The child?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:32 PM
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Not sure what you mean by: Not to mention, adding another step to birth procedures, even if it’s “just one more drop,” isn’t as simple as it sounds in terms of policy and consent. The blood is already at a lab, if this becomes the norm.. Why would consent still be needed, especially if there's nothing to worry about? This would only rattle the cages of those who partake in infidelity.. and have to much hide any worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:20 PM
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But not have one more step in the process at birth? For example, do the DNA test for every newborn. Blood is drawn and often discarded when the initial tests are done.. one extra drop for it, can be done without further need to get samples. Then leave it up to the father if he wants to get tested.. He could do so privately without knowledge by the child's Mother. Let's say, give him a 2 year window.. This would account for those in the military and in other situations where they may not be able …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 07:01 PM
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If a man has doubts, he can handle it quietly. But if he doesn't, and later in life finds out (through medical reasons, or some other means) he's been lied to.. That makes it ok? Worse yet, has been paying support for many years? Even more of a horrible scenario... Ends up incarcerated over it and unfortunately dies in prison. Is that still ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:29 PM
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Not anymore.. Commercially, you can get one for $49 nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:24 PM
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Only some taxpayers don't want to find this, and by the comments seen here... You can tell really quickly who that is. It's not that expensive anymore, like it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:21 PM
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Soldiers on deployment? This is an easy one, the military has their DNA on record.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:11 PM
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I didn't start the juice metaphor. Lol! But the point still stands, and until it's obvious to see that women and men's dating lives are very different.. I guess it doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:48 PM
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The average man, in this scenario, doesn't even get to drink any juice.. That's why women don't understand the differences.. Yet they want to refer to the top men, as all men. Smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:01 PM
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Now consider that about half the population will consider your value as a human to be reduced by each glass of carrot juice you do drink That's the thing, she will likely drink the popular trending brand and gain clout for it by her peers... She will proudly post pics of her drinking it.. Such validation is of more value to her, than to buy the brand that's unrecognized or unpopular.. yet, healthier for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:31 PM
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As I mentioned, that "lead" person would change depending on the situation. Ideally the person who would have the best ability or knowledge for the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:43 AM
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Modern couples struggle when the income provider expects to relax after work while their partner has been managing the house/kids/finances all day without pause. Yes, I sure agree.. I think where many issues arises from, is the perspective of each towards the other. The person who works (in the case of a SAHP), thinks the person at home has plenty of time to relax.. But with young kids, particularly if they are outside the age range of attending school still.. It's a tough job. Also, just becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:44 PM
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With a 2 person income household, yeah things would be financially better. But the "attitude" part, really seemed over the top. You will always need one who will lead, and the other to support that leader. But doesn't have to be the same person all the time, switching the lead position as optimally appropriate. I feel whoever is better at any task should lead on those tasks. Why put the weak person to be in charge or driving such duties? Look at it from a business perspective, efficiency is alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:54 PM
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Unfortunately, for me.. I didn't have much of a relationship with my younger daughter for a few years.. She was less rebellious than our youngest, and refused to visit me. She would see me if I visited, but would not want to leave her Mom's house for more than a few hours.. tops. But, that has changed now as she's always in conflict with her Mom.. (nothing to do with me) But she tells me, "yeah.. Mom be trying to play mind games, so we be having issues".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 03:40 PM
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Like the kid can still have dad on speed dial. But kid's generally listen to their parent.. So if told to not call or answer calls.. They will not do so. I've been on the receiving end of this.. I've never told the kids who live with me to do such things. (I ended up with split custody, 2 with Mom and 2 with me) This was when they were younger, 4 and 9, now at much older ages.. They no longer listen, even though it has been a while since they were told such a thing. I play videogames remotely wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:51 PM
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Yes, I agree.. It's not a good excuse, but on the flip side.. The courts rarely enforce the laws against the Mother, even more so if she's got more kids. It's not that hard to play the system and claim to always be busy, or find reasons why they have to cancel visits. Top that off with the manipulation that happens to where the child is made to believe that they shouldn't go with their father.. So then refuse visitation. Assuming the father can afford lawyer after lawyer and culmination of court…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:40 PM
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Plenty of women these days say they don't WANT a relationship: "Strong & independent" Or any one of the following: "I can fix him" "He will change for me" "He hasn't been with a real woman yet" "That's just the way he is, but I'm his number 1"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:32 AM
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The books did reference that a lil bit, as women will generally seek the best guy.. or the winner. And since it's women who gatekeep the option of pair bonding.. guys who give in to those urges, will fight over a woman in hopes she will follow the typical path of choosing the winner.. in other words, them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:33 AM
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In that aspect, if such characteristics didn't exist.. We as humans, would not be in the position we are now. There would be a higher species, or we would have all perished centuries ago. In modern society, specifically first world countries, the average guy doesn't follow such tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:24 AM
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It does mean men have higher propensity toward violence Well, in many cases where a person is assaulted.. is a part of theft or robbery.. in cases where people or a family is going to resort to such actions.. Of course that person to go do this, would be the person who would have the highest chance of success.. which is the male of the group or family. they are pushy with sex Well, with how the friendzone phenomena has become so popular as a tool used by women against men.. This is the response …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:14 AM
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Rollo Tomassi Not according to the books, unless there's new ones out???
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:03 AM
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It's pretty much widely known, that if a woman is single, it's because she chooses to be. Why? Women have more choices. Now, that doesn't account for bad relationships and unfortunate failures which can often not be of her doing.. This is only part of it all, where men and women have it the same. But women can easily find a new partner (and try again) if they choose to.. This is not the case for men. This is what I was referring to, that opportunity to try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:23 PM
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As a ratio.. compared to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:15 PM
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It's like a game.. Women have the same chance to win as men.. The difference is that women get 3 tries at it, while men only get 1. (probably not the most accurate ratio, but it's just to make the rational argument)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:09 PM
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Just as hard as it is for men.. but the difference, is that men have less opportunities. So while the ratio of successful attempts versus not is the same.. The sheer difference in scale of actual attempts is never acknowledged by women. This has allowed most women to raise the bar, to ridiculously crazy levels, without really reducing their number of attempts by any significant number. Something that the average guy cannot do, yet again.. Many women will never acknowledge, and claim it's all the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:54 PM
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Yeah, sounds more appropriate.. but sadly, no matter how much you can do for some.. With how society is today, some will move on to a better partner if they have the opportunity. This is because the notion of entitlement is encouraged and even applauded by many. It's worse for some, as they can end up doing horrific damage to a family and the courts will reward them in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 03:51 PM
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Yup, toxicity isn't a gender based trait.
/r/MensRights04/03/25 09:09 AM
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Yeah, such slanted articles will always find ways to push the narrative that it is only a thing that men do. It follows that, "Women can do no wrong" idea.. smh.
/r/MensRights01/03/25 05:34 PM
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were more involved parents [just like women are], they would win custody more often; This only happens if a favorable judge handles the case. In most cases, a guy has to paint the mother in a bad light.. instead of him in a positive light to have any chance at getting primary custody. married someone of their own socioeconomic status [just like women want to], they would get more equitable division of assets in divorce; Women usually seek someone who out earns them, very rarely do women find int…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:38 PM
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Yeah, in many social gatherings.. This is what happens, particularly by women who feel they are of some high stature. It's very rare for anyone to step in for the guy being harassed, but you'll never be short of men (or people in general) who will jump in to support the women. Which is part of the program, as it only creates an incentive to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 08:15 PM
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Yeah, if a woman can catch the guy with his game... Then it's not successful game anymore, unless she allows it. Usually, game isn't meant to be detected.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:07 PM
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Y’all care about a woman wearing heels? This is usually to change a woman's stance, she will be more prone to having her face and chest forward. It will also extend the look of her legs and boost her hips outwards for more visibility. That's why women in them, catch our attention much faster than one who isn't wearing them. Unless she's very much naturally curvy, when compared to a woman who isn't as much.. Then she won't have to wear heels. But she most likely will.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:08 PM
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There are a lot women who desire or have high interest in bald men. (assuming that is what you meant with the emoji)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:55 PM
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I think most women are capable of having an orgasm by piv intimacy.. some may need more direct stimulation, and sure there may be a few that have severe difficulty.. Unfortunately, there is likely a small number of women who can't, for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:23 PM
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I never said that things shouldn't be any less than what's fair.. typically 50%. The appearance of an affair partner is irrelevant, as the person who carried the duty of loyalty is the person who made multiple conscious decisions to go from an introduction, to accepting and reciprocating that person's advances.. All the way to ending up being sexually intimate with them.. A lot of steps were taken to get there. What sucks is that a woman can do so, and still be entitled to 50%.. Even if they wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:46 AM
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If a couple get married, both work and they live together so they both benefit with lower house payments/rent, then they divorce, why would infidelity come into it? If both are happy, then such things as infidelity wouldn't come into the mix. In a perfect world, you are very much correct. Unfortunately, there can be many external reasons why one person or the other could be unfaithful. And if it did, more men cheat than women which is likely to be why it became irrelevant. Back in the day, like …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:00 AM
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I guess my issue is when you have a set of ideologies that are so outwardly dominated by certain traits of thought, why should one continue to identify with them to begin with? I'll speak for myself.. Want to know how I first ran into the RP as a topic? My ex-wife of 20 years and 4 kids, had an affair and later left us to be with one of her affair partners. A year or so later, she wanted the two younger kids to live with her (the elder 2, were upset towards her at the time).. I had a free consul…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:50 PM
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Yeah, if you can't think for yourself.. There's a serious issue brewing. The RP, for example, tells you to pick what fits in your life and stuff that doesn't.. leave it and move on. You do have some extreme views by some, but that's no different than other groups (that are not men based), that have sketchy intentions as well. I think that's where the "think for yourself" part should come in.. but sadly on both sides of the fence.. You have people who just don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:21 PM
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I am referring to a certain subtype (usually manosphere types) who appropriate the word ‘traditional’ for their own benefit. I think the idea of trapping a woman, could be said.. Like 20+ years ago, but nowadays.. I don't know. Would you please define what you mean by "manosphere types", cause many men from all walks of life often relate to the ideas of such content. This is because such content also speaks to self respect and self improvement in your everyday life, as well as dating and living …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:06 PM
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I think the disconnect comes down to the reason for the divorce itself. A man who's married to a woman who is faithful and all that, is not likely to leave her. What many are referring to, are the women who partake in infidelity and then leave the marriage to be with their affair partner (or a new single life), and then want to take everything they can from their now soon to be ex-husband who had not done anything that would warrant such actions (the infidelity) by her. Society makes it seem lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:55 PM
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Yeah, what sucks is that their ideals end up painting a pic of men, that the rest of us end up getting judged upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:42 PM
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at the moment I don't speak to either of them. Sometimes that's simply the best option.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:41 PM
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I would argue, that the group of guys you are referring to, think they are actually helping women. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:34 PM
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I don't think it's delusional, per sey.. it's simply trying to justify bad decisions and finding a scapegoat for why they can curve the nice guys since they don't have that societal coolness that can be flaunted around like trophies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:24 PM
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Everyone and anyone can have ulterior motives, and appearance and social status or stature have nothing to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:38 AM
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I think it's funny to hear about the objectification of women through their sexuality.. but at the same time, hear about how women should have preferences such as minimum height requirements without realizing it's the same darn thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:52 AM
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Well, what is interesting is that your average woman will be interested in such guys.. so, one can't say that a certain "bad" woman is the type that goes for these kinds of guys..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:39 AM
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Well, I would get 2 to 3 matches a year (on a good year).. that's on Facebook dating, which has been the best app where I've actually gotten dates from. I've gotten like zero matches on other apps like Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, and others. I once got a match after paying for the 3 month sub on match.com.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 08:01 PM
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The presence of positive attributes makes you a catch Please explain this, are you referring to physical attributes? or signs of possible wealth? Cause anything more, would mean you know this person pretty well.. and would not be someone you just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:42 PM
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Sorry, the "not" got auto corrected out of my response lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 07:42 PM
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Since this topic is commonly brought up by guys here wanting women to “give a guy a chance”, these are usually the types of guys with no options. This is in a good number of cases because, said guy too short by societal standards, or too poor by again.. those same standards. But because the guy is not a jerk or an idiot.. inexperienced possibly.. but it's like that notion of applying for an entry level job, but the employer also wants many years of experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:10 PM
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I am a guy, and I do care, I have always been attracted to women who are educated and who are career women. My former brother in law was like this, but he didn't really have any steady employment and really just wanted to live life on his terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 04:27 PM
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Women choose who they accept dates from.. So when she "chooses" to go out with a guy.. She is making the conscious decision to do so. Guys can only hope that a woman will accept his offer to go out with him. Woman: So Im vetting out friendless guys but then women will complain that guys that have many friends constantly want to go out with the boys.. make sense of this!? broke guys What I find hilarious, is that it's women who are on said man's level who sometimes use this as a disqualifier.. gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:04 PM
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How are women stopping you from finding 10 other dudes and forming your own exclusive club? There are two completely separate issues at play here. The male loneliness thing, isn't about guy friends. It's the lack of dating options due to society's devaluing of men in various aspects. As boys, we grow up with the vision of finding your person and all that. It's very easy to hop online and find others who are down to play games with, or whatever, and chat about various game and guy-centric topics.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:34 AM
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Elvis is one that comes to mind.
/r/MensRights07/02/25 03:12 PM
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I dunno, this reminds me of that saying, "when everyone super, no one will be" from the movie "the incredibles". I think with that said, you would further have height, wealth, and likely some other trait.. Which would become the new bar to replace the fit measurement of what is desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 10:06 AM
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Just a question, why the slanted stance?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:37 PM
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Wives don't owe their husbands anything when it comes to their weight I don't get why this is slanted the way it is. As when my now ex-wife started cheating, my weight was one of her main reasons (plus my insecurity of it) that she used as an excuse to justify her actions. I feel it should be: CMV: spouses don't owe their partners anything when it comes to their weight
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:38 PM
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There used to be.. I dunno what happened with that, I've been out of that industry for many years now.. Nowadays, I just hear random stuff from my family who still live in the area. I should ask and see if they know what happened, because they used to even have housing for such seasonal workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 10:36 PM
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Typically, men are the majority of those who come to the US illegally.. Many times these men are married or have families in their home country and they come to earn money for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:47 PM
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Modern warfare doesn't require infantry enough to justify throwing untrained and unwilling men into the military. If you look at current wars, you'll see that it does.. When things go to shit, the military will lose a lot of the conveniences we want them to hold dear to.. why? The other side knows of these technologies and tactics, and will adapt accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:16 AM
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Yeah, in such situations.. The risk of injury or death is very high, for everyone involved. But that will to survive, when it comes down to it.. Will override your ideals and/or any social norms you would believe in. Particularly, if you are seeking to feed your kids or loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 06:33 PM
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Just a thought.. If you have a situation, where a single mother's family is in a serious financial situation.. How are they gonna get their hands on one without any money to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 06:27 PM
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When it comes to robbery, mugging, and other similar crimes. The perpetrator is typically a man because the likely hood of success is higher than if a woman were to do it. This is because of the intimation factor and also the ability to get away is much easier. Since men by nature run faster, are more agile, and are stronger than women. If a household/family were to be in a dire financial situation and they and/or the kids are hungry or whatever, and the only solution at the moment seems like do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:55 PM
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Practice for Relationships: Friendships teach you about compromise, empathy, and conflict resolution, all of which are essential in romantic relationships. There are many aspects that this could be as described.. but, the is a limit. One can only delve into what it takes to have and be in a relationship.. by being in one.. It's something you learn through trial and error, and nobody is perfect and no two people are truly the perfect match. Having friends is great, yes.. but it's not exactly a se…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:37 AM
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Yes, this.. The who doesn't really matter, just that it happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:43 PM
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A fact that those who want to believe in.. will.. yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:03 PM
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Sure, I agree if you are not looking to date or are simply not sexually interested in the woman with whom a friendship could be an option.. How you met, can also play a part in determining if such a thing could potentially be possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:09 PM
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With the vast number of men who are, a tiny percent could potentially amount to a literally large number.. and yet still be deemed a tiny percentage overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:54 PM
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It's ok.. We can have different perspectives. With these kinds of topics, there is no right or wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:50 PM
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It's the same argument, not all women hate men. Sure some might, but definitely not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:32 PM
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"Scratch the itch", to me, implies desire.. Which means, I am interested in some capacity. Like blurring the lines, per sey. "To despise", is a very strong phrase.. definitely beyond tolerance and dislike for sure.. maybe worse that hate. Maybe it's perspective and perception of and with both.. but I can't recall offhand such a scenario. Sure, I have lowpro done things and yet claimed a certain stance.. but knowingly knew that I really didn't have that strong of a stance I may have outwardly exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:07 PM
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A lot of men seem to actively dislike women. This statement implied that the majority of men have this sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:55 AM
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Men can be sexually attracted to and want to fuck women while not liking them This seems like a serious assumption, comparable to such claims that women date men for free meals and stuff but aren't even interested in them.. While it may, and does happen.. Neither is a true representation of their respective majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:47 AM
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Let's look at dating apps, for example.. If there were more men than not that didn't like women.. Why are the numbers skewed as they are? With online adult content.. What gender is the most popular on typical platforms.. And which gender is the largest contributor to these content creators? How about we look at Valentine's Day.. Who is most advertising targeted for as the recipient and who would be the expected buyer? If a majority of men didn't like women, there are many companies that would li…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:21 AM
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A lot of men seem to actively dislike women. This is a seriously huge generalization that couldn't be more wrong. We like women.. Sure, there may be some that do not.. but such men are not a majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 11:13 AM
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She will likely just get community service.. and a small fine. 🙄
/r/MensRights26/01/25 06:44 AM
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Yeah, my friend whom I hadn't seen in years had just arrived at my Mom's house as we were gonna hang out and catch up on old times.. Then his wife calls him and tells him that her legs hurt and she's in pain.. so of course he excused himself and then left.. Some women just like to do that.. I never understood why.
/r/MensRights25/01/25 09:07 AM
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I think that men care about men's issues, just as much as they care about women's issues. But women don't care about men's issues, as much as they care about women's issues.
/r/MensRights23/01/25 05:47 PM
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Most women actually like men and want to be friends and will help their friends find happiness. Genuine friends, I would agree. But it’s up to men to recognize their tendency to feel attraction to women who aren’t attracted to them. Yes, I totally agree. Don't be that guy who gets used, or keeps trying after you don't see actual reciprocation of interest and progression of more than a friendship. Nothing wrong with making friends. I just really dislike seeing profiles of women on dating apps tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:03 AM
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If she isn’t sexually attracted, just drop it. That’s your friend. Ask her to help you find a date: she will. Yes, I agree. This is one of the things I really adopted from RP.. Self respect. I'm not afraid to walk away from a woman who wants to just be friends. Or if they say that they want an established friendship first, before maybe considering something more. You'll find that through manipulation.. Guys will still fall for that possibility of something more.. and it rarely ever progresses to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:44 PM
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Personally, I've been strung along and friendzoned.. Not realizing it, as I was told that it was just bad timing... They just weren't in a position to date anyone at the time.. But to be patient as things will change. (Mostly all blamed on work and family issues) Long story short.. Things never changed, and I finally walked away when I found out they had been dating someone... I was their emotional support guy, they would contact me at all times of the day or night as a vent space.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:10 PM
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but I don't think it's the norm. Maybe not, but it's a widely practiced act.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:49 PM
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Until she needs something, and he becomes that friend who she can go to for such help. It's never about the attraction, if she isn't interested.. It's about how she can use him. If he falls into that trap, he's truly just viewed as a resource.. not even a person anymore. A true form of objectification.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:47 PM
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Neither is single moms creating criminals. That would be like thinking “13% of the US population” are normally criminals, which is my point. Yeah, I don't quite agree with that notion either. I will say that you'll likely find more cases where single Moms can be less stringent with discipline than single Dads. Which can lead to poorer performance in school.. but it's not a majority of them. That doesnt mean they cant be criminals. It is possible, anything is possible.. but it's not a plausible d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:55 PM
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I think they are trying to shed some light onto the fact that not all mothers are good parents. (Assuming this is what you are referring to)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:34 PM
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But financially.. it's more difficult to put the kids through college and fund such endeavors like that when you have multiple kids and both parents have separate households.. especially in this very expensive economy we live in now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:33 PM
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Plenty of spoiled ipad kids come from two parent households. This likely will correlate into financial stability when the time comes to fund their college education. My cousin struggled being raised by crackheads, even when those crackheads were married to each other. This is an unfortunate situation, gladly it's not the norm. Hope your cousin is/was able to get ahead in spite of the seriously bad situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:30 PM
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Single fathers generally have a lot more women helping them than single mothers have men helping. I think this is more of a situation by situation thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:27 PM
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My husband goes out with the kids and he is told repeatedly how amazing he is for doing bare minimum Yeah, I can see this.. but that's not the same as a full time single father who has kids living with him 100% of the time. People don't give us that same sort of treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:24 PM
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Single parenthood, PARTICULARLY single motherhood because of how women are often disadvantaged in society, is associated heavily with poverty. Maybe it's just my bad luck, but it seems like there's more help not only from social services but socially in general for single mothers as compared to single fathers. Edit.. Just wanted to add, this was my experience about 8 to 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:19 PM
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Yes, kids in broken homes are at a disadvantage. Mainly cause not all parents who end up as a single parent can successfully remarry or even find a real relationship that has the same family structure as the original one did. This later translates to inabilities or much more difficulty with acquiring paid tutors and later sending kids to college or trade schools.. or other more financially gate-kept endeavors. I believe this is more evident in families that were dual income households.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:14 PM
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I think also, some men only grab parts of the RP idea and not the full context of some things.. The idea of multi-dating and infidelity, for example.. From what I read.. it's not supposed to be something you do if you are in a committed long term relationship.. Once you vet a woman, and she shows you that she's a good person to have at your side.. With whatever your personal criteria is.. The idea is that you then build a family and progress your lineage. Which is a complete contradiction to wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:51 PM
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I do see some contradictions in RP Yes, very true.. This (from what I've seen) generally comes from the more extreme people who tout their information as RP.. but it's a very extreme view of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:43 PM
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You don’t need Red Pill to have self-respect. I completely agree. The issue we face as men, is that society teaches us from the time we are young boys.. To cater to women. Simple subliminal messages that exist makes us believe that women are always great.. For example, this is a song kids are taught at a very young age. Snips And Snails, And Puppy Dogs Tails That's What Little Boys Are Made Of! What Are Little Girls Made Of? Sugar And Spice And All Things Nice That's What Little Girls Are Made O…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:31 PM
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When your wife told you that the confident man was gone, she was saying that she didn’t care about the weight, she cared that you cared about the weight. I dunno, we had been together 20 years and 4 kids later.. When I confronted her about her cheating, and that was when she told me about the confidence thing. Not before. During the actual conversation about my weight, and what not.. She acted very supportive and there was no negativity at all. We were going to the gym, after that and all. I tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:08 AM
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Over the years my ex-wife and I had gained and lost weight as the pregnancies came and went. (We have 4 kids together) In the timeframe of around the last couple years before our separation, I had been a little down regarding my weight and had expressed that to her. Thinking it was something we both were openly talking about and going through.. because she expressed the same thing. Fast forward to when I had concerns that she may have been cheating.. Long story short... When I confronted her, on…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:51 AM
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TRP tells guys to stop allowing themselves to get played, and to stop catering to women who just seek to use you... To simply have self-respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:59 PM
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Yeah, many don't understand the difference between an elevated physical response when seeking to impose disciplinary actions, versus flat out physical abuse. You are correct, it does take a lot of reversing to break that cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:49 PM
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we know some people, even if they seemed decent before, can make shitty, marriage-ending choices. Personally, I don't have such reservations towards someone who encountered it after many years together.. Nobody can predict that. Which is very different than if you endure such bad behavior over many years and then wonder why it ended (regardless of who leaves in the end). We as men, generally speaking have to court the woman into dating us.. She chooses who she dates, while he will choose to prop…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:24 PM
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I'm not offended, I was just responding to it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:13 PM
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You also probably did lots of anal with your ex and didn't want to do it for your partner. I was like WTF! Thanks for the early morning laugh! 😂🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:04 PM
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But the post was a blanket statement for guys on this sub.. I'm on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:02 PM
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It is always going to be a woman’s fault because it’s easier to blame someone else than hold yourself accountable for bad behaviour So, like in my case (according to this post).. was married for 20 years, 4 kids later and when my wife decided she had missed out on the social life she saw many women portraying on social media.. So she started doing her own thing and dating around.. eventually leaving me with all 4 kids to follow one of her BFs... Was my fault?! Umm yeah, no it wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:19 AM
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Being picky Being that I've been without a serious relationship for about 9 years now.. I've tried talking to various women, and while yes.. There have been fumbles along the way (I am human, and thus make mistakes), I have moved the goal posts too many times to remember.. For me, it's about finding someone who I can bring to my kids who's not going to be a bad apple.. at least not so obviously.. Also, the majority of my connections have ghosted simply cause I'm a single Dad.. Not the kind of si…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:44 PM
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It sounds like two sexually incompatible people trying to seek the same preferences given to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:28 AM
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It would likely have women who are upset as the laws are slanted against them.. and who would be ridiculed for complaining of the injustice. This would not be ideal, by any means.. as gender should not be a deciding factor in prioritization.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:48 PM
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I don't understand it either. This idea seems indeed prevalent (at least on the internet) Haters gonna hate...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 12:53 AM
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Saying that women are the only ones who choose the relationship I think women generally choose their sexual partners, but not the longevity of their relationship.. Particularly with men who are highly attractive or wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 02:33 AM
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I do think there's a difference between women finding "sex", and finding a compatible sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:45 PM
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But I bet they likely have a much higher success rate with men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:57 PM
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Of course, but not exclusively.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:18 AM
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Yeah, but again some people will manipulate those friendzoned people by virtue of asking for stuff like favors and what not..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:17 AM
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We can agree to disagree cause situationships generally include physical intimacy and getting strung along can also, but not always.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:49 AM
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I agree, for those who are that way. But, let's not act like some people tend to manipulate people with such interests.. Otherwise the terms and phrases like, "stringing someone along" wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:22 AM
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Oh yeah, they should simply walk away and let women fend for themselves.. like any other adult. I completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:47 AM
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Yup, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:42 AM
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I don't believe the context of the post was about it being a problem for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:42 AM
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The guys that fall into this, tend to have hope (this can be implied or self created delusion) that said woman may eventually choose them as their next potential dating partner.. Which rarely ever happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:12 AM
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I think women should stop friendzoning guys for time, attention, favors, money, and to be used as a crutch for the guy she is sleeping with.. When it comes to emotional or mental support and various related conversations. But, simps gonna simp and women will continue to take advantage of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 12:56 AM
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Yeah, that makes sense.. I think that even if everything is great and what not. Sure, there could be that one desire that isn't being met.. and following OP's narrative where there's no kids involved. Get that divorce (hopefully it will be an amicable separation with no financial destruction to anyone involved) and do your thing.. but whatever you do, do not go down the infidelity route.. That's the most hurtful thing a person can do to the person they are with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 12:52 AM
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Leaving isn’t bad in this scenario and it’s better than a toxic situation. There's a huge difference (in my opinion) between a relationship that feels boring as compared to an arbitrarily new threshold as compared to a now toxic one derived by the hate of their situation, some form of FOMO, or something similar. I personally feel that happiness should come from within, and one should do what they can to self maintain that. This would be so they can be a partner in life and not a crutch for someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 07:53 PM
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That's the thing, one would think that if we are happy.. we are happy. I think oftentimes, a newly discovered interest in a certain trait or physical feature develops and now things change. Particularly if they have this new person trying to get at them, and temptation kicks in. You then have a tug of war between what you have at home and the notion of FOMO and "what if".. That change in purview is what can drive someone to now want "more".. Even if it later turns out to really be way less.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:54 PM
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It's pretty much understood that if someone changes their perspective, and now sees someone else as a more desirable option.. That the attraction to their partner becomes forced. It really follows that notion referred to as the 80/20 rule.. and maybe furthermore possibly a 95/5 version of it. People, not just women, will leave their partner over a trait they found more desirable in someone else... Ignoring the fact that the person they were with, really was a perfect match.. Unfortunately, until…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:08 PM
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Feminists tend to invalidate Legitimate male concerns like false accusations, paternity fraud etc, by saying that they are rare. There are many unfortunate situations that women can find themselves in, which are also statistically rare.. Yet, we as a society have set many laws and provisions to help try and deter such risks.. Which is completely fine, we should.. but why not do the same and view such instances that happen against men with the same form of acknowledgment?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:22 PM
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This is understandable, but the notion given is that said guy was a good partner and guy.. Just didn't have a certain form of excitement that later seemed to be of interest..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:43 PM
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This is true, but the notion given by OP isn't that.. That the idea of being with someone just because they are a good person, and all that comes with that... Is absurd, cause you "only live once" .
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:39 PM
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Yeah, I can see how this could be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:26 PM
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What I meant, is that sure.. If you are young (or not) and have a great guy who checks all the boxes except didn't carry the excitement that you feel you need or want... So you decide to leave to find said guy, but later in life.. You find yourself in a cycle where now you are unable to find a stable guy who is going to commit to you and you now seek for longevity. You shouldn't turn around and act like men are pigs and that good men don't exist. You had one, but you let them go.. You should own…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:15 PM
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I agree, boring to me feels like an excuse for the idea of simply wanting someone else.. Which is fine, but if a person jumps ship to find that the other side they jump to was a mistake.. Own it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:05 PM
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Yes, and one should be mature enough to realize when they make a mistake and how they had what they later find out.. that they really wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:03 PM
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She also would need to change her "picker", as it has often been referred to. Some people (men included here) will pursue a certain type of person, expecting them to have traits they don't really have.. While not impossible to find, they are simply going against the odds and then wondering why they don't find what they seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:01 PM
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I do agree with this, with one caveat. If she keeps going for the kind of guy that will rarely want to settle down.. Age will not matter, as there are people out there who refuse to settle down. They truly enjoy the idea of being single and "free".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:56 PM
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Well, what do you say to men who have gone many years without a single successful dating attempt? By your theory, such men should not exist.. but yet they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 10:16 AM
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If there are no kids with said guy.. Sure, just don't become someone who later chastises men for not wanting to commit and who are just playing games and just want to use you for physical intimacy.. You had a solid relationship and just threw it away, cause it was "boring".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 10:14 AM
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Not saying such couples don't connect, but to completely detract that the idea altogether is non-existent is pretty interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 10:02 AM
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I dont see women giving numbers to men as often This is likely because most men aren't even acknowledged by women these days. The average guy, is not even considered as an option by a good number of average women.. Nevertheless, a guy who's below average or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 09:25 AM
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Men are obsessed with giving women numerical ratings in outward appearance. People are obsessed with giving others a numerical ratings in outward appearance. It's not only men.. js'ing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 09:14 AM
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She actually believed that she wanted you to gain weight because she convinced herself that that's what she wanted. What she really wanted was to not be fat herself. This makes sense..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:51 PM
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She didn't want you to gain weight, she just didn't want to gain weight herself. She actually did, and was very vocal about it.. with all 4 kids. Latinas tend to be different in some ways.. lol! It's not because you were not confident per say, it's just that exercising made her horny. When women are horny, they tend to shit test you more. I am sure she was quite irrational and bitchy at that time. She actually was acting like she was depressed, and sexually things were still consistent leading u…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 06:11 PM
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Well, I do agree that there's some merit to this. My ex-wife said she wasn't happy, and that part of it was my "loss in confidence" cause I had expressed how I was unhappy with my weight at the time.. For context, we both gained and lost weight over the years, particularly when kids were conceived and that time frame.. If I didn't also gain, it made her upset and feel unattractive. We were having a conversation where she initiated and it was that she wanted to get in shape again after our younge…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:01 PM
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I think that if you wanted a person to stop doing something, you would have to fill that void with something to make up for it. It would be interesting to tell my partner to stop smoking, and yet just expect a cold turkey move and then do nothing to help mitigate that change. Many people use porn for stimulation for self release, so if a person wants their partner to stop.. Then I would think it's not unreasonable to ask that they step up and be more sexually available.. and actually follow thro…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:02 PM
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Oh ok, I was just going by what was posted above..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:06 AM
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Yeah, very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:05 AM
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Yeah, crazy stuff like this is so sad to hear about.. From what you posted, the father wasn't going to have custody of the kids.. That unfortunately can mess up a parent, regardless of gender. While people should have the opportunity to divorce the other person is desired, there needs to be some sort of therapy or mental health piece to it.. Cause there are just too many sad stories like this and also where one parent will hurt the kids as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:08 AM
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Also every man in my community and network and family has received compassion from women. IN FACT, when the men are down and out, the compassion and care taking and support comes from mostly the women. That's great to hear, but sadly.. it's not the norm. “Your response” is the lack of resilience I tend to see in the most plaintive of manospherians. Well, I will paraphrase advice my adult daughter gave me a while back. "Always be careful what you respond to and how you respond, as there are many …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:56 PM
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Sadly, I have to agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:25 PM
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Sure, but regarding what? Let's look at your response, for example.. Very sided and no signs of any real attempt to acknowledge that issues exist. The most compassion and direct engaging continued caretaking support I’ve gotten is from my female friends/close female family. Or from other women. I noticed you said most.. but not all compassion.. Which leads to include you received compassion from men in your circle of people as well. Most men, regardless of their circle of people will not find co…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:24 PM
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Compassion, from society as a whole. We don't see the same level of empathy from society as women do, in situations of distress. Also, it's socially acceptable to bash men openly.. Even in music, and people applaud it. You'll find a lot of backlash if such actions were taken by men. Cancel culture and the censoring of men is much more aggressively proactive against men in these scenarios.. but that's not the case for women, generally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:46 PM
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I think women don't always understand the different struggles men have. They assume we have the same issues that simply present themselves differently.. Which is rarely the case... Particularly when it comes to dating, or dealing with issues related to family and the legal challenges men face.. That women don't often experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:09 PM
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The better analogy IMO is that men are thirsting in a desert and women are thirsting at sea, because both want the same thing (love, connection, intimacy) but for men it’s an issue of quantity (so little water) and for women it’s an issue of quality (the water isn’t hydrating). Yes, this is on point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:30 AM
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Sure, I'm not one of the lucky ones to have such options... I have had too many first dinner dates to count. There were many instances where I hadn't even gotten back on the road, when leaving and already had received the "this isn't going to work, thanks for the meal" text message.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:23 PM
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It's a matter of perspective. One person can see it this way as they might have so many options and are really only seeking one thing at the moment.. So yeah, what you stated would make sense to them. Another person who doesn't have such available options and really just wants some form of affection and intimacy.. They know they have to invest more effort to have any kind of possibility for any of it. Which of these two do you think fit the majority of men? (In case you are wondering, it's not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:41 PM
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This is not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 05:57 PM
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Damn, a new type of guy needs to be pursued here. Cause the average guy isn't like this. If you are chasing the Chads of the neighborhood, then yeah.. you need to fu.. I mean fight for his interest in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 05:57 PM
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I think you'll find that more women are dating and getting that fulfillment, even if it's not long term. Whilst many men have no prospects, or options to date, no matter what they try.. online or otherwise. It's like how you'll see that most posts talking about how sex and dates are so abundant and easy to find, are made by women and not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:15 PM
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I think a lot of it comes from the fear that your formerly promiscuous partner will relapse back into it if things hit a bumpy road sexually, for whatever reason like medical or emotional. Nobody wants to be cheated on when you've invested time and effort into a serious long term relationship. Now, is that fear warranted? Unfortunately, we all hear stories where partners will stray in such situations, like high risk pregnancies or surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:24 PM
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Umm.. I have enough difficulty trying to get any attention from women at all... Imagine walking around like a perverted horny idiot, and with that one liner "hey, wanna fuck". Yeah, that wouldn't work for me. Now, if I was an overly attractive guy or someone with plenty of wealth.. I'm sure I could maybe do it, but as an average guy.. That isn't going to work. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:44 PM
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The league idea of rating potential dating partners goes way back, before the internet and the modern era.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:09 AM
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Yet, a lot of women have heard about Andrew Tate... So, it can't be that men somehow just don't know about him and only women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:04 AM
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At 53, there's no real reason to do so.. while I'm not hard opposed against it, it's no longer what I'm necessarily seeking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 04:03 AM
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There are two perspectives here to consider. On one hand, you have women who are more than willing to become a partner in life with a man. What that generally means, if she makes money.. he has money. If he makes money, she has money. A true merging of finances. Finding a woman who has this mentality, is the goal is some men.. Particularly, those who are not necessarily with the idea of having kids. On the other hand, you have women who want to keep their earned money separate.. With the notion …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 05:42 PM
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I think with the idea of finding love, like it used to be decades ago.. yes, there's a very stark difference now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:06 PM
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I think there are many exceptions to it all, but the overarching reality in dating these days is pretty much on point with what was described.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:04 PM
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I agree, but by the virtue that personalities really must align.. As the view point would likely be the same and it wouldn't matter how they see it.. Just as long as they both see it the same and correlate it as part of their bond together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:27 PM
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Well, I think the men referred to are ones that have such an option as they likely get frequent attention as they have that attractiveness that women desire. Cause for the average guy, that's not even a reality that's remotely feasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:40 AM
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In my opinion, there's a huge difference in garnering attention from people who are only viewed as short term or the casual relationship type. Versus people who are viewed to be potential lifetime partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:38 AM
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But the conversation is regarding those feminists who have an extreme view of feminism, and not something else like that. (Which is also an extreme view)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:06 PM
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I don't know, for example, I've heard of selective abortions depending on the gender. Particularly, if the fetus is a boy. The idea is that these women cannot and will not bring a man into this world. That's just one example.. but, it's cool if you still think such people do not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 11:25 AM
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Whether there is a Manifesto or if it's just a social conglomerate.. You just need to Google the idea of it.. and the social media discussions, videos, and other content will fill your screen as it's been a topic that is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:44 PM
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Every person is different and that includes preferences and genetics. Some guys have no issue with women who are older.. Some women truly age very gracefully.. It's best to just seek what you want and if things are not happening, then adjust your preferences accordingly and try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:18 AM
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According to a report by NPR, the percentage of women who do not pay at all is 32%.. Which apparently is an improvement from what it was before.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:26 PM
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Yeah, and I don't entirely agree with it.. I was responding to the comments posted by the person above and not OP. Sure, with everyday life.. Everyone can do the same thing as others like raising kids, house stuff, bills, cooking, etc.. Whether one or the other would be as efficient as the other, that really depends on the individual task and person.. Is there some credence that one gender is inherently better at some things than others. I believe so, but this doesn't mean the other can't do it …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:35 AM
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Society has normalized the idea of shaming men openly without any consequences.. Even when you don't even know said man at all, and only have a theory of what you personally believe to be their personality. Crazy, in my opinion.. As this isn't the case when you flip the coin and such similar judgement is projected towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:26 AM
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Yes, some do.. but the ratio of those who actually have it legally enforced (ie; incarceration) for not paying, is practically non-existent. Very different than how it goes for Men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 08:18 PM
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Lowering of standards and the loosening of preferences is a good thing to try. But whatever you do, never sacrifice your self respect and self worth in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 09:58 PM
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I think it's ok to have a safe place to speak your mind and maybe find hope in the different mindsets of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 09:56 PM
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I will reference the old notion of, "getting a book", when people respond.. The evolution has now gotten the vibe of AI.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 09:46 PM
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It's not that they aren't legally (on paper) enforced, but in practice... The amount of curving that can be done without any consequence is truly absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:58 PM
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Maybe where you live, but not everywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:49 PM
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Yes, that really is true.. for any person. While uncommon, we hear of how defendants were either wooing or flirting with jury members during their trial.. it's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:48 PM
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You are not wrong there... Socially, many wrong things will be celebrated as good.. and unfortunately, sometimes those notions end up translating into how rulings are decided upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:34 PM
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Yeah, that is also a major issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:31 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Also, there are many judges and people in the family court system who are very slanted in their mindsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:22 PM
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I agree, if you don't fight for your kids. It truly is on you. But there are many out there who get the ruling that is supposed to make the Mother let the kids see their Father.. but they will use every excuse possible, and the court doesn't enforce any action. Time continues to pass, and in some cases it has gone on for years.. I believe such proceedings should be ruled upon by more than one judge and maybe even a jury. This could potentially lead to sentencing against the Mother... As it shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:10 PM
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The mother's allowing of the father to see the kid, isn't generally enforced, but the child support payments are. Legal accountability seems to only really apply to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 07:21 PM
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😂🤣🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 07:16 PM
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I don't know, cause on a phone.. trying to do that formatting would be a nightmare.. with that large of a response. On a PC, to sit there and manually type that all out.. Doesn't seem feasible.. But of course, not impossible and honestly.. plausible. I think at a minimum, a whole bunch of copy and pasting from websites happened there.. not actually typed out by their own accord.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 07:15 PM
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When I see these giant responses, I get AI vibes from them.. Not gonna argue or debate with a computer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 07:04 PM
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Unfortunately, it would have to be a mutual thing that happens.. or we end up back at square one, which is how it started in the first place.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 06:56 PM
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I think it's best to walk away from this.. Have a great day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:54 PM
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Since it isn’t based on any science, that makes it by definition an insecurity. You are entitled to your own opinion, like I mentioned.. even if it's different from others. Assume you have a boat and go sailing, and you know this magic boat has a 0% chance of sinking. If you’re still obsessively thinking about that it’s going to sink, then that is a insecurity. It’s an irrational fear not based in reality People can seek that notion of a perfect world, but that world only exists for them.. We al…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:35 PM
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🤣
/r/MensRights14/12/24 06:28 PM
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Lol.. ya got to double down, I see.. too funny!
/r/MensRights14/12/24 06:14 PM
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But If they go for mature and normal men who don’t have these insecurities I think idea that there's any form of "normal" anyone is kinda crazy. That definition changes as you ask different people on how they personally define it. You might be ok if you met a woman who has been with many men before you.. and that's fine, there's nothing wrong with that.. As it's your personal decision. But it's the same sort of thing when people frown upon someone who has been through multiple divorces and yet s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:11 PM
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Women judge men like this all the time, yet they get praise for doing so.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 05:42 PM
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Gotta love the personal attacks. Smh
/r/MensRights14/12/24 05:39 PM
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But then don't act like you would be interested in pitching in as a sign that would want to buy him dinner, as he buys you dinner.. Romance in some women is non-existent.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 05:38 PM
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I would still want a relationship and non-sexual intimacy.. It's the stuff you can't buy with money, that will have the most value.. Particularly, when you essentially could buy and/or pay for anything you would want or desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:29 PM
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it will eventually come out that its involved in child trafficking, if it hasn't already. You are probably right.. I mean, some people already use AI generated characters on it..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 10:10 AM
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Anything that can allow one person to use it as leverage towards another.. is a power dynamic. Plain and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 10:08 AM
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Prostitution on the other hand, yeah that’s a no from me. We are all entitled to our own opinion, even if it's different than others. The idea of things being weird usually stems from personal interpretations where it's difficult to relate to the good and/or bad of a situation. While I, as a guy, would not even consider going into that realm for work (even if I had the body for it), I have no reservations against those men who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:53 PM
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I had hit reply, but this thing tagged onto the wrong response.. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:46 PM
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It's not real consent if a power dynamic exists There will always be a power dynamic, or it would be a non-consensual physical act. Women gatekeeping intimacy is a form of necessary power in regards to the dynamics of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:35 PM
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These dads tend to enlist girlfriends that do a lot to the child care and home keeping. With the dating scene we have today, this is not as typical as you may think. I think there are more women who will choose a man without kids (or a non-parentally involved one) over one who is very much involved or has kids at home with him more so than not. I myself have been without a serious long-term relationship for over 8 years, as this has been a very prominent common trend for me. When things have pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:52 PM
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I am referring to the witness or surveillance videos that people reference in their commentary through TikTok and other social media outlets.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:42 PM
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I agree, but when it happened to me, I was more inclined to hand over the money I had than to try something and end up getting shot over the few bucks I had on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:38 PM
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Now you see moving the goal posts in this debate.. it's supposed to revolve around overall violence and hate, and that it's men who are the major perpetrators in such situations. Yes, sexual assault is an ugly thing and men (or any gender) who do it, are the scum of the earth.. but that's not the entirety of this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:04 PM
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That's a personal decision, I am not going to tell anyone what they should or should not do.. That's their personal decision. If someone of any gender decides to legally (assuming it were the reality) to do such business.. That's on them. It's not exploitation if they are there to provide such a service out of their own free will.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:59 PM
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It’s men who wish harm. Stop. I was responding to this comment.. and used the example of robberies and muggings.. as they are generally based around violence and also more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:49 PM
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It’s men who wish harm. Stop. I am responding to this... And delving into the "why' we often see such a slanted number being men over women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:47 PM
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But you pointed out the deficiency of men, so I responded to that statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:43 PM
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The commodification of intimacy in the first place is kind of weird But it's a decision that a woman could make, just like any other profession.. Women do in fact do that today, or OnlyFans would not be as big as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:42 PM
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The reason so much exploitation exists, it's because it's an illegal act..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:38 PM
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I have no intention or desire to hit anyone.. Why would I? I harbor no anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:35 PM
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If a household needed to send someone to rob or steal, why would they send a women as compared to a man to do it? Then why would that person sent then try such a thing against stronger and faster potential target to steal from? Unfortunately, that will place the bullseye on a woman moreso than a man.. but not exclude men altogether either.. men are robbed as well.. sometimes by women.. cause a woman armed with a weapon changes everything. I can speak to this from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:17 PM
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Because it's not legal in all of them.. particularly the larger ones like the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:11 PM
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Its absolutely crazy to me that men think just because some industries are dominated by men women would rather die than workkng in these jobs. Do you realise women basicslly had to take over when meb were at war? Had the roles been reversed (in a weird flipped universe), that would have been the same situation. One gender sent to fight and the other to support them from their homeland.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:09 PM
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You must not have seen those videos where a woman attacks a man.. but when he retaliates, he finds himself getting attacked back by both men and women.. even though that women was the one who initiated the physical assault and confrontation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:03 PM
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I dunno, but if that was the case.. Why was the most recent Olympics so controversial regarding possible transgender participants? It's the same reason we have split popular sports into gender based leagues and categories. Half of you would literally die if you had to run half a mile. Let's be real here, this would apply to both men and women altogether.. lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:59 PM
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Well, let's look at robberies and muggings.. Most of those cases were for money or something of value. These cases arise when a person, family, or a household feels that is the only option they have to eat or survive. As a whole, the notion is created that they need to send a person who would have the highest chance of success. That decision will most likely always end up being that the Man or male in the equation of it all.. Why? For all the same reasons, we have gender split sports. So yes, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:53 PM
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People have equal abilities to support themselves and make their way independently through the world now. Yup, many of us single fathers will show you that we can do the same in a household as any woman can. Would it be as efficient, maybe not.. but we can do it. Same goes for things where the roles would be reversed, women can do things too.. Would it be as efficient, in some cases no.. but they can do it. If prostitution were to become legal, it would likely level the playing field as then phy…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:46 PM
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I think what OP is referring to, are videos on tiktok and X (amongst other places) where women talk about men could just go away and the world would be a better place where only women existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:31 PM
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The men I know personally who complain about this are unhappy that they can't land the high maintenance hot chics, but don't want to put the same effort into their own appearance. It's not always just appearance, in the means of which you have control over. But they would never pursue a "below average" woman. And then complain that women have standards too? It works the same both ways. I've tried dating someone who really wasn't the type I normally would go for.. and I don't go for highly glamme…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:32 AM
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I was married for 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:22 AM
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I think much of what happened since then was needed, but unfortunately some changes in recent history ended up being an over-correction which is what many guys talk about as issues we deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:06 AM
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Yeah, I've noticed this as well.. Some just can't stop looking.. A while back, this woman ended things before we actually got to meet.. and didn't really give a reason, which was fine.. To only reappear on the dating app and sent me a like a few weeks later.. I just had to pass at that point, cause I felt that it would likely just happen again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:59 PM
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It’s more of a cycle of addiction, building a guy up getting the rush, then tearing him down. My most recent short-term relationship ended because she felt I was not focused on her as much as I was on my kids. She ended things by text, then proceeded to call me an hour later when I replied that it was fine and to take care.. The phone call was to double down and make it a point as to why she ended things. The crazy part is that she then called me a couple of days later, upset that I was "taking …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:38 PM
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It's all on the individual woman and the feeling of their family and its continuance. Moreso if they are from a single child household.. It all ends with them, if they choose to not have children.. Just like it is with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:54 PM
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The RP, and other stuff like that are reactions to what we men have had to deal with. Sure, some have taken it a bit off track or evolved things into their own niche.. But these things would not exist, if men didn't have the need to seek them out.. As a way to adapt to how things are in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:22 PM
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I would like to think I'm average, and I tend to match once or twice a year tops.. with the random occasional (just as often) interest by a woman out in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:03 AM
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As long as she's self sufficient. If she doesn't have extra money to splurge and what not.. I have no problem. Just be able to take care of yourself.. That is my only real financial requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 08:37 AM
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So, educating you to be more careful and wise with your choices.. That's a form of self improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:55 AM
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Many women will also change their mindset when they become parents of boys (and later young men) and then have to see things from the other side of it all.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 10:15 PM
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Generally speaking, a woman of any stature or body shape can go into a bar and find someone to talk to.. Doesn't quite work the same, if a guy tries it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:13 AM
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This may be a lil off topic, but... Also to even notice that theyre “swaying” surely youd have to be doing a lot of staring Reminds me of the whole grey sweatpants thing you hear women talk about, regarding men who are well endowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:25 PM
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First kid, it's hard.. You are learning as you go, and there's also your own evolution from childless young adult to full time parent. But by the time you are at kid 3 or more, it's not that difficult anymore. You already know most of the tricks and you most likely have routines already set in place. Auto-pilot most of the time. It's a grind, yes.. but you already mastered it. Now, the monkey wrench in all this is when kids (particularly young kids) get sick. Luckily that isn't or shouldn't be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:04 AM
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Very interesting, for sure.. I wonder how this data correlates with the much more slanted divorce/separation rate we see overall where women are the initiators?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:09 AM
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older women are less prone to put up with bullshit. This may be true, but also, you will find that older people, in general, tend to be locked into their routines and lifestyle.. and anything outside of that is frowned upon and oftentimes referred to as bullshit. Only cause they do not see eye to eye with the other person's mindset or ideals. Kinda the same as when people will say you are "talking shit" simply cause you disagree with a point they're making. No matter if you know they are wrong a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 07:17 PM
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Men who have a preference for only younger women, or exclusively date younger women, would not make good husbands in my eyes. Reason being. because I will eventually grow old, and as I am getting older, I know his preference for younger women will stay the same, and he will always have a wondering eye for younger women. Not all men in this category pursue infidelity; cheating or having an affair is very different than the notion or criteria for choosing your dating partner or spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 07:10 PM
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Really?? I guess, I am curious to know who created this report.. Because socially, some women are very open about this and even claim to tell men upfront before dating them. "If you end up being unable to provide for any reason, I'm gone".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:36 PM
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Just like if the dad got injured or laid off You'll hear some women say that it's time to move on, and replace him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:12 AM
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Well, dating as in getting dates period.. is extremely difficult for the average straight guy.. Nevertheless getting beyond that point to where sex is even an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:12 PM
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I don't agree with this.. I think many women will endure serious mental and emotional abuse if the man that are dating has something they see value in.. That can be financial and/or cosmetic.. and yes, that could also mean social or charismatic.. But it seems the latter two are subsequently acknowledged after one or both of the first two are the actual trait that caught their attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:46 PM
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Where do you feel you got this notion from? Can't be data driven, cause there are many of us single Dad's out here.. not because we don't care about our kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:45 AM
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men would cheat mire if they had the opportunity Possibly, especially if the dating market was a bit more easier for them to find interested women.. Cause it's pretty difficult to cheat, if there's nobody to cheat with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:31 AM
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I think the ratio has really changed as far as cheating is concerned. Why? Many men can't even get dates, yet they are looked at as cheaters. Women have a much easier chance at finding dates, thus the actual number of different individual women cheating is exponentially higher than actual individual men. I do agree, that if a woman decides to cheat.. She would be dinged for it in court, instead of rewarded for it. Same with a man, if he cheats.. He should be dinged in court as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 12:46 AM
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Men could find a relationship easily if they wanted to. You sure aren't speaking for all men, especially with this comment. Many of us, are wired with the intention of being in a serious and committed relationship. But with the way the dating market is, things just don't pan out.. There are various reasons for this, some socially driven while other reasons may just be simply personal preferences that exclude us before we even get a chance to try and put ourselves out there to shoot our shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 10:04 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:58 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:45 AM
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Yes, when I confronted my ex-wife over her affair.. She was quick to blame the insecurity with my weight loss struggles, which I had expressed to her, as a lack of confidence. She claimed that was one of the reasons she found her guy friend attractive and desirable, unlike me.. Cause he was very confident with himself. It was a theme and form of emotional weight that I ended up struggling with for a long time after.
/r/MensRights06/11/24 09:45 AM
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Yeah, there are different aspects from TRP. The idea of infidelity when in a serious relationship, isn't one of them. Even tho many claim it is. Sorry, you had to endure such idiocy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:04 AM
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An older guy can get a younger woman pregnant, much easier than an older woman trying with a younger guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 03:51 PM
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Yes, this has been the norm for decades.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 02:13 AM
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If when you met me, I was posting selfies on Instagram regularly and wearing flattering clothes when I went to dinner or the movies, why is it suddenly not ok just because we are together now? To me, it seems like many people want to not let go of their single life... When they are no longer single. There's tasteful and then there it is "I'm single, what's up?!" outfits and behavior. I would say that the outfits generally isn't a huge thing, unless you are acting and posting as if you are still …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 09:54 PM
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Anyone can do this... If she is the hustler type, and does random small gigs for money like nails, hair, babysitting.. It could and would be the same.
/r/MensRights26/10/24 05:04 PM
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When I first started using the apps, 8-9 years ago, I was very selective... By selective, I mean reading profiles and swiping left on women who just didn't fit what I wanted. In regards to physical looks, I was more selective as well.. but that thin body type has never been that attractive to me, and would look for more curvy women. Matches were zero. I later heard of the "shotgun" approach, which is swiping right more openly and not reading profiles as you described. But I was still a tiny bit …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:59 PM
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When you see this and then that commercial.. it really paints an interesting picture
/r/MensRights22/10/24 06:35 PM
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I am referring to the one that "man enough" one that was put out in support of Harris/Walz.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 06:34 PM
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I have no idea why a carburetor is important when they are limited to a shrinking market. My point is that the commercial is so misguided and so off the mark.. That it's hilarious.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 06:32 PM
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The device you used to post uses rare earth minerals. Yeah, that is an obvious.. So no need to go there.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 06:30 PM
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I'm simply saying that this is a completely different conversation from the one relating to that of the commercial.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 06:29 PM
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I don't know what this has to do with carburators, cause even before the commercial sale of EVs.. Most modern cars already had fuel injectors instead.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 04:10 PM
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I thought the segment about carburators was a lil interesting as most cars don't even have them anymore. They push for EVs a lot, and we know for sure they don't have one.. Who was this targeted for again???
/r/MensRights21/10/24 03:33 PM
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Yeah, i think i simply confused the two.. but I thought it was a psychologist who I dealt with... Outside of the regular docs. But it's been a long time and probably am just getting it wrong. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:55 AM
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Yeah, I probably got the two confused.. it's been a while too. I dealt with more than one with a couple of my kids when they were younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:36 AM
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Oh ok, yeah the psychiatrist/psychologist titles are a lil confusing to me. Lol! I could swear it was a psychologist whom I dealt with.. but again, I probably got them mixed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:34 AM
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If it's needed then by all means, it's great that they are on it as they should be. In my experience with this, I noticed some docs would be very pro-meds and others would not. It's a very tough thing to really ascertain and thus like any other preference, I would consider it as appropriate per person and if available.. historically, how it affected them and those around them. I would not call it a red flag or even yellow.. maybe a lime (yellow/green tint if you will). But that would change with…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 02:18 AM
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To everyone I know it’s seen as a huge green flag if he’s seeing a psychologist. And I personally have never heard of any woman with class who didn’t see that as a green flag I could be wrong but last I recall, a psychologist manages the medication as compared to a therapist who does the conversational portion of things related to mental health issues. I would not see that as a green flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:42 PM
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1) A stranger is doing a benchpress with a bit too much weight than they can handle. The bar falls on them, and they're in need of someone to help out I would try to help them get the weight up off them.. gender irrelevant. 2) A stranger is running towards you hoping to catch the elevator that is closing with you inside I would try to stop the doors closing for them, again never irrelevant 3) A stranger is dealing with a flat tire on the side of the road and is waving for someone to help who has…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 04:15 PM
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If it were that way, that would be different.. These days women will toss that at a guy openly without a second thought. Maybe it's knowing that she will not be held accountable and it will create clout and status for her... All the while, the man will be shamed by the belittlement of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 03:02 PM
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But it's a joke said amongst men, more like boys.. To be honest. Yet, body shaming men is currently widely accepted behavior on social media that women openly do.. and they get praise and clout for doing it. At the expense of said guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:31 PM
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Yeah, having a relationship long enough that they send you nudes is cheating. Women don't typically just send nudes to any random guy.. They had to get their contact info and the person receiving those communicative messages responded positively so it could happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:17 PM
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It's like any other controversial boundary.. Some women refuse to be ok if you consume any content related to it... Just like some guys are not cool with women they are dating, accepting drinks from random men while out at a bar or local watering hole. It's all depending on those involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:21 AM
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I'm curious if you openly say this to single Moms too. But to go back to the actual topic at hand.. Yes, I've come across many single Mom's as it doesn't bother me.. We all have a story. That story is where I may reconsider the interest, but with women (this includes single Moms) they don't want to know anything about kids that live with you. I've been asked, "how often do you see your kids" and they generally keep the conversion going without issue when I speak of the 2 kids that don't live wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:56 PM
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why do men make a point to say that they won’t date a “slut” This is because the chance of infidelity is much higher. Nobody wants to seriously date someone who's most likely not going to stick around or cheat on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 06:20 PM
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Because you can then no longer hide in the shadows and you can have access to law enforcement be in your side.. which would deter or minimally curve those would be abusers from doing stuff against them. Currently you can't easily report someone to the police if you are involved in criminal activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:52 PM
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It wouldn't be selling, but instead leasing.. or more accurately, contractual hiring for short term employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:49 PM
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I think this is a small subset of men that are being used as the notion for stereotyping all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:43 PM
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Misandrist “Most violent criminals are men though! Not all men but always a man…” In most cases where there are crimes like assault or robbery or a combination of both can and often do stem from a need to.. or a retaliatory scenario. Both of these would likely go through a planning phase. example 1: Family/household is resorting to robbery/theft as a way to get money for food/drugs/etc.. Who would you send out to do it?? A man who would likely be stronger and more agile?? Or a woman who would li…
/r/MensRights11/10/24 08:05 PM
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We already do, and sex isn't a thing that fully engulfs a guys mind 24/7.. otherwise video games, cars, sports, etc. wouldn't be as pronounced as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:16 AM
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The word conscious has a very expanded definition, and isn't inherently related to sex or even intimacy... That's why I'm asking for a concise and specific meaning in regards to men's lives for which you are referring to. For example, should men just delve into asexuality and instead seek ways to evolve technology so that we no longer need women to propagate and continue our species survivability? (An extreme stance, but just a sarcastic example)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:07 AM
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Becoming more conscious human beings who care about more than just chasing women and getting laid, which is what most guys actually care about. What would you say "conscious human beings" means exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:31 AM
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Settle down. Nobody said How would you characterize the implied meaning of this then? becoming better human beings
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:11 AM
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While it's true... Those people love to complain and then bash ALL men/women with that notion of, "where are all the good men/women at?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:12 AM
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If men spent half the time they spend chasing women on becoming better human beings This just irks me, why is the narrative that we men are inherently bad people? While I agree that men need to stop chasing women when their interest isn't reciprocated.. It doesn't mean that we are to expect women to show up at our front door like an Ubereats delivery either. We have to pursue (unless you are the one being pursued by a woman) and show interest.. If it's not reciprocated, simply let go and move on…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:09 AM
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Just sucks that I can't partake in that lifestyle... 😅🤣😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:12 PM
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It's better to be picked. The only real way to be settled for (in my opinion) is if you were chasing for a long time and your number finally comes up.. but only after you were passed up by others who simply stepped in front of you in the past. If you are being settled for, she's likely going to resent that notion later over time.. as the desire just isn't going to be genuine, and you'll really have to work hard with other means to keep her.. If at all. There's a huge likelihood that she would en…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 04:02 PM
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I was referring to your point that hot guys get to play more.. but if a hot guy wanted a long term relationship.. he would remove himself from the game, as the option in most cases is his. You don't have to be hot to be a player, yes.. you are correct. There are other factors, such as charisma.. money.. access to drugs.. clout.. etc., which could elevate any guy. This has gone a bit off topic now, but perspective and perception are variables that do come into play as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:46 PM
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They just get more chances to play. My point exactly. While you don't have to be a player to want to play in a game, but all who actively partake in a game are players.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:15 AM
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This would be true, but unfortunately many women will have this mindset: they are not going to settle on average as they can pull in the hot/rich guys.. … and this will likely cause them to have a higher chance of filtering out those men, of which they would have otherwise dated and maybe even had a successful long term relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:52 PM
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Oh yes, of course.. but if you consider the current dating market and expanded exposure people get of available potential partners.. Which is no longer restricted to one's local geographic social boundaries. The likelihood only grows exponentially that you'll come across a person who isn't intending anything more than a physical and temporary relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:22 PM
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Cool :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 09:45 PM
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As an average guy, finding dates is hard. We are instantly filtered out, cause we aren't exceptional. This can be for a myriad of personal and socially inspired reasons. Even when you do find a date, many times.. That woman will not stop looking. Even after several weeks of dating. If you are keen on details with her behavior, you can often catch on to when she already has her sights on someone else. There's not much you can do about it, but just look forward to the next dating opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:26 PM
2

Your personal life is not something that all people experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:50 PM
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Hey, for those who feel they got it like that.. Good for you. But there's always going to be someone better, in one aspect or another, than you... And I'm ok with that, it's reality. Nobody is perfect in every possible aspect in life. Hence you have those people who have off'd themselves and left everyone wondering.. "why, if they had everything!?" Perception and perspective is different for everyone. Edit.. Just wanted to add that people who "have everything" that a person would want.. Also, ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:47 PM
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A beautiful woman has no need for a personality, as she can acquire quite a bit without it. A little bit of luck will be needed for this to be true. As there will be a time where the looks will no longer outweigh the negativity of a bad personality in a person (regardless of gender), for a relationship to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:08 AM
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I only said that as a response, to the notion that spending time trying to decide what to wear... was also considered effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 11:50 PM
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Do you really think the guy is going to be like, "you chose the best outfit of your closet for this occasion.. Nice!" He doesn't know what you have, he is more likely attracted to you for your physical attributes and personality. You can wear anything appropriate and the result will be the same.. He will still be hooked on looking into your eyes and happy you are there with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:43 PM
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It depends on those involved, but I do agree. Life makes things more difficult with kids, work, and other stressful situations that will affect sexual performance or even desire.. You can also attribute unrealistic expectations to genetics and fitness levels, as not everyone is capable of replicating the sexual acts seen in videos through lack of flexibility, physical attributes, amongst other criteria that the actors in porn do have. Also, there are many breaks the actors take that are not incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:34 PM
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I think a woman who ended up getting played by a hot or rich guy, then feels if she dated one.. they all can't be like him. Later, once the pattern has unfortunately repeated itself, they feel there has to one who isn't.. and they are not going to settle on average as they can pull in the hot/rich guys.. In the end, they will believe that all men are that way not realizing they were just being played by the smaller subset of men. The men that would have most likely take them seriously were the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:21 PM
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Yes, if any company can make people think the need their products.. they will capitalize on it. A guy can't tell if you are wearing Sephora eyeliner as compared to wearing Revlon eyeliner, this is also the same with lipstick.. and any other forms of makeup that women commonly wear.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:04 PM
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Yeah, those beauty companies rake in the money, making women think they need their products through advertising and influencer/celebrity product endorsement.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:00 PM
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This (in my opinion) is not because they are simply "getting ready", but instead it's due to them trying to decide what to wear and how to do their makeup (in terms of choosing colors). The actual act of getting ready doesn't take women that long. My ex was always pretty good about that, once she figured out what she wanted to wear.. Which she often planned the night before.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 04:58 PM
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Oh yeah, of course.. You pit an average young guy against a young woman (of similar body statue) who actively trains and is very fit.. The chances of her beating him in feats of strength, agility, and endurance are like most likely going to be a non-issue.
/r/MensRights05/10/24 04:33 PM
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As in any scenario, you will find exceptions to the norm. Anyone who exits a marriage can end up poorer, not just women, in the term of employment or their career. This argument always sounds interesting to me as job advancement or career changes should not matter after the split. A person's employment or career advancement is not measured by their marriage status, but instead of their own merit or field they choose to pursue, but a woman (or man, to encompass your example) can receive child sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:35 PM
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But the courts generally favor women, regardless. You only further reinforced the notion that women walk away unscathed. Plus they will get custody and the accompanying child support and half of the community property, by default.. To top it all off, they might even get spousal support.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:09 AM
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Generally speaking, the man has a higher chance of losing big in family/divorce court. So, if that's not a form repercussion.. Then our idea of it sure differs a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:32 AM
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You have extremists and purists that narrow what the redpill and what it entails or strictly focus on preferential aspects of the redpill idea. I feel I am not fully redpill as I do not think it's necessarily a bad thing if gender roles are reversed.. because it works for a said couple. I do not agree with the idea of spinning plates or multi-dating. but wholeheartedly agree that men need to have self respect and not simp after women. Reciprocate the efforts given to you as you give to them. Men…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:16 PM
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The problem is that not all women would agree. Some women do in fact want a nice, good spirited guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:44 PM
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I interpreted the islands as being "single available" men visible in society (the ocean).. those not yet visible (underwater) are either too young or taken. Women who don't necessarily run out of gas (or SMV) will go after younger men or men who are not single. Or if they keep searching and "never settling", they will eventually run out of SMV or fuel and then blame ALL men or the manosphere (the world) for their bad decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:35 PM
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I think I still have traditional beliefs, but the same time do like the idea of women having their individuality and independence if they want that.. Same as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:27 PM
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Let's not even talk about those women who park their boats in the ocean and dive for the unavailable islands underwater. This feels like it could be the baseline for a documentary. Lol! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:57 PM
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There's always room for improvement, but with dating.. There's merit in the saying, "people can grow together". Which essentially means both can improve themselves together. The problem we see today as a very prevalent trend, is that women initiate divorces and breakups more often than men. This includes situations where no infidelity or any form of abuse was involved. So, it's tough to really establish any real growth with that going on so much. Laws in many places, are written to benefit such …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:48 PM
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Yeah, I get it.. cause when that boat eventually runs out of gas and it turns out that the last beautiful island they decided to go for.. was only a mirage.. It will be the world's fault. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 03:27 PM
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Yup, so true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 08:07 AM
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This really explains why many women find good men, but still keep looking for better... and will let that good guy go, for a possibly better man.. to only end up with someone who wasn't actually better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 08:01 AM
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Yeah, stubbornness and strong egotistical behavior are not good traits either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:18 AM
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We can use those sports, just like we can compare boxing and also wrestling... Or maybe even track. There's a reason we don't typically co-ed those sports.
/r/MensRights30/09/24 04:56 AM
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the A can have women It can, but in a highly physically demanding game.. Not likely.
/r/MensRights30/09/24 03:25 AM
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Well, look at it statistically.. Men are generally faster and stronger.. so the success rate is much higher in such scenarios and even with trying to get away.. If things end up not going as planned. You can compare it to sports... Would you want to send your B team to play in a very important game? Of course not.
/r/MensRights30/09/24 03:07 AM
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If a family or couple ends up in a situation where theft/robbery is the only option to get money for food. The person who would likely go out and do it... Is always going to be the man. (As it should be)
/r/MensRights30/09/24 02:27 AM
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I don't see how this can be a thing. Women who are smart and intelligent are very attractive and desirable. Now, if it's tied to arrogance or a highly competitive personality. I think that's a recipe many men would not appreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:18 AM
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Yeah, but there's no such thing as Toxic Femininity... Right!? 🙄
/r/MensRights27/09/24 03:41 PM
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things like this just realistically don't happen in any meaningful numbers I guess, like infidelity... Until it happens to you, you don't really care about it. But your life and perspective on the world changes in that moment. I can only imagine that same feeling when you find out that your kid(s) aren't yours or the man you thought was your Dad isn't actually your biological father.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:20 AM
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Hey, we all make our beds and lay in them. Unfortunately, its the kids who end up suffering the most in ALL such situations. Especially in situations where infidelity was involved. At least if that guy was the father, the kids already know him and will most likely keep a relationship going even if the Mom decides to follow through with divorce. It's just interesting how many women want to hide such information whether it's legit or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 07:11 AM
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You've been berating me this whole time because we disagree. I'm just matching your energy Well, let's take it down a notch then 🙂 It's easy to call it fear mongering, but it goes both ways... No?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:45 AM
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Otherwise, it's just mad scientist behavior Yeah, when plastic surgery is so common these days.. you are gonna refer to a DNA paternity test as mad science behavior!? 😂🤣🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:42 AM
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One can even ask why are you so scared of a simple DNA test!?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:40 AM
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You can have your opinion and look to berate those who disagree with you. It doesn't change the reality of what's going on in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:39 AM
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It was from DNA Diagnostics Center.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:37 AM
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If you watch court proceedings that are streamed online publicly.. it won't take long to find a case in which it happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:35 AM
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Dudes can't even get dates. True, the average and below average guys are really struggling with dates. Dunno why you say it with such pride.. but ok. Anyways, those guys who are successful at dating and have families.. are sometimes put in a situation where they are in fact raising kids that were a product of infidelity. The woman isn't going to say anything, obviously.. the guy can end up in prison and serve time.. for someone else's kid.. yet that woman still will not care.. Then get upset whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:33 AM
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When the data dictates that up to 1/3 of men are possibly raising kids that aren't biologically there's. Such a notion that it's an exception.. doesn't make sense. Women have such high expectations for men, why not have a lil bit for women too? What's the hang up with it? Why hide such information? Why berate men who want to confirm things?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:25 AM
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According to who? Many who actually partake in infidelity, will often not feel it is... for various reasons (self justifying excuses)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:18 AM
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Not all women, of course.. but you should never trust anyone blindly.. Especially not in this day and age. If you have nothing to worry about, then why not do a DNA test? Why the hang up?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:15 AM
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If I'm not cheating... Yeah, then when the child turns out to not be your husband's... We gonna pretend it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:13 AM
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Yeah, let's all keep those dirty secrets hidden away... Smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:10 AM
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Yes, a relationship is based on trust.. What's your stance when the adult children are asked to take blood tests for medical procedures that could help the father live longer.. You then find out that the person you thought was your father.. Turns out not to be, as your mother had an affair that only she knew about and never told anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:09 AM
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Well, in my opinion sex should be a desire between both involved.. That notion of physical intimacy is what sets a relationship apart from just a friendship. That physical intimacy should be a product of a good relationship, and not necessarily a pre-requisite. But you should consider sexual compatibility before fully establishing a long term relationship or marriage. This way there's less of a chance one of the parties involved will end up unhappy or feel they are in a dead bedroom scenario. Es…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:52 PM
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In my opinion, if a person decides to relieve themselves if their partner is unable to or unwilling to be intimate. I do not think it should be deemed as cheating, as for many men who are married or involved with a normally sexually active relationship.. Without the added mental stimulation, they would have trouble reaching orgasm. I think this should also apply if one's partner is not into or just unwilling to fulfill a certain kink or fetish.. Occasional use should not be an issue as compared …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:43 PM
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Actually... Whether seeing them through ones eyes via a computer/phone screen or through ones imagination with their mind, it is virtually involving another person.. Typically someone you've seen before, and moreso likely someone you see frequently. If you want to discredit this, then this becomes a different discussion where we can open the dialogue regarding the legitimacy of those who are spiritually sensitive, or commonly referred to as psychic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:20 PM
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Just responding to the previous response of interaction.. regarding implied interest and active response.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:54 PM
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When my ex left with her then BF, and I was left with all 4 kids. We unfortunately ended up getting kicked out of our apartment, thus ended up homeless. I went and called a local shelter, hoping to find a place to stay for the night. I was told that they only accepted families where the parent was a woman, and that all shelters in the area were the same. That maybe if I drove 2 hours to the next larger county, maybe I could find a place there that allows male parents with families. Luckily, this…
/r/MensRights20/09/24 03:41 PM
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So would a wet dream constitute as cheating as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:34 PM
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I would agree, but being a transplant and was married for 20 years here.. I have no real friends outside people I know from work and maybe a few other people I know. But not close friends. Granted if I go to my hometown, I do have friends there.. but that's 7+ hours away. I'm a single Dad so going out isn't always an option and when I do.. It's usually with my daughter or both her and my son. (Both are now adults who live with me) I maintain the house with my own income, so having extra money is…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:34 AM
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I would try and strike up a conversation, often pointing out something nice about the venue or club.. This was way back when I was club hopping a few times a week. If I tried to do that now, I'd likely end up in the ER.. lol! Nowadays, start with basic hi with matched eye contact and see if there's a positive response.. start a conversion from there if she's open to doing so. I'm a lot more cautious these days compared to before. After some small talk, see if they are up to exchanging contact in…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:48 PM
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Yes, back when I used to go out quite frequently.. many moons ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:41 PM
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Well, I've struck out easily half a dozen times in one night before.. So if you go out often, and strike out multiple times nightly, it's not that hard to get to a 1000. Edit, Reminds me of the times I would go bar hopping.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:53 PM
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Yeah, he tried and even doubled down in hopes of helping her. He then figured maybe he was just wrong in his analysis of her demeanor, and let it go. She just sounds toxic AF, and "spreads the love"of whatever is bringing her this negativity.. and it's now his fault and he's the bad guy. Smh...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:16 PM
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Many can't fathom the idea that women can be ruthless and extremely violent.
/r/MensRights14/09/24 10:33 PM
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Number three, is almost always a gateway to something that could be used against a guy cause another man doesn't have whatever it is you exposed as your vulnerability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:13 PM
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I guess if you live in a location where there's no real standing courts that would award the SAHM with alimony and child support. This would exclude the US, for the most part. Prenups are negotiable, so if a person decides to sign one.. Ensure a stipulation is included that would be reasonably able to support you long enough so you could get yourself on track. Such details can and should be negotiated.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:26 AM
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Which is pretty sad, cause many do in fact have that idea that women can do no wrong. But one can only hope that it changes when it happens to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 05:02 AM
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I guess my intention was to point out that women do walk away even though everything was actually fine at home in their marriage. Infidelity and separation does happen in such scenarios as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:10 AM
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Unfortunately, many women can't stop looking for better.. on the surface, anyways. I've been ghosted before to only see the same women back on the apps a few weeks later. Often with additions to their profile about not looking for players and negative stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:42 AM
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Wow, it sure seems like no matter what. The guy is at the core of the reason.. by this analysis, anyways. Why is it that women can't be the cause of a bad relationship? I honestly believe they can and have been, but will never admit it.. at least not openly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:39 AM
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For some, yes porn can be a bad thing.. but it's the same as alcohol or any other form of coping mechanism that solves a problem that's created by something else. Your typical guy who consumes porn isn't the guy who's using it to cope.. but instead to gap fill that primal urge that cannot be fulfilled naturally. The dating scene for your average guy is in most cases non-existent. With the adaptation of social media as the new form of meeting people.. It's been proven many times that men are left…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:41 AM
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I don't know that I could do it, as it would "sound" like a great thing.. but in practice.. It would feel wrong, to the point I would likely back out at the last second.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:05 PM
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Thanks, been without a serious long term relationship for over 8 years.. Not what I expected, but still hold out hope that I won't end up a statistic as one of those guys who just ended up alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 07:10 PM
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I guess, "I'm cooked".. As my daughter would say it. 😂🤣😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:36 PM
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So far it seems like every response is like this one... The best ever, and the hottest. I truly think us single guys (or at the very least, me) are just cursed.. LMAO!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:17 AM
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Pretty privilege comes through the notion of femininity and with that.. The idea that one should cherish those women, under the guise of their intrinsic value.
/r/MensRights07/09/24 06:28 PM
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What needs to be considered is that most employed in such government funded careers are women, and these women oftentimes oversee and manage such projects. Which is part of the reason some men will point to them to do for men, like they do for women.
/r/MensRights07/09/24 12:13 AM
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When my ex had left me with the kids and ran off with her then BF.. We ended up without a place to stay. I tried contacting a shelter to stay the night, and was told that family shelters were only for those families were a woman was the parent.. Not a man. And that maybe if I traveled a couple hours, I might find one that could help me. Later, when I filed for divorce.. Even though we made the same amount of income and what not. The employees at the family court (all women) kept talking down to …
/r/MensRights05/09/24 02:54 PM
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Thanks, yeah. I've had a few micro relationships since.. but it took me 2 and half years or so, to be ok mentally and emotionally again.. and have continued to get in a better mind space since.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:41 PM
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I was cheated on, and later blamed for them doing it. Got that, "you made me cheat on you" kinda thing. The sad part of it all, is that my love for her clouded my judgement. I carried that weight on my shoulders for a long time before realizing it was all part of getting gaslit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:13 AM
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It's one of the socially acceptable ways to bash and belittle a man.
/r/MensRights02/09/24 05:57 AM
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Double standards. You should accept them for who they are... You should accept it, if they don't want you...
/r/MensRights31/08/24 04:58 PM
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They hide it well, they will continue as if nothing is wrong and then take that step when they are ready and you are caught off guard. When I confronted my ex when I discovered her cheating.. she claimed that she had been wanting out for a couple years already.. but as far as I could tell, there was nothing wrong. Everything was good. The only thing was that she wanted to get away from the stress of work and I bought into it.. Thinking I was supporting her, and her mental and emotional health.. …
/r/MensRights29/08/24 09:26 AM
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I would go to a local bar or restaurant that has a bar.. Especially if I know that they have a "Lady's night". Be generous with tips and loose with my money. Be flashy if playing pool or darts and do stuff that makes it obvious that I'm a spender. Like offer a random woman $20 to kiss my dart for good luck.. And actually give her the 20 dollar bill. Do stuff like that. You'll catch attention, but again... probably not the kind you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 09:14 AM
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Women, whom would normally not give you the time of day. But it's their interest in your money that would lure them to you. Why do you think many street pharmacists tend to have so many women around? It's not cause of the guy himself, but instead what he can provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 06:28 AM
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Nah, you can be not very attractive but carry that "i got money" look with gold accessories and dropping large tips.. you'll get attention. But again, not the attention you really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:21 AM
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Maybe it has to do with how you carry yourself.. If you look the part, and show that you have money.. you'll get that attention, but trust me.. you don't really want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:47 AM
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Oh wow, well you should double check and make sure. It really sounds like you should not be paying so much since you both make roughly the same and already cover insurance as well. I would think you'd be at zero monthly child support and just keep up with the insurance.
/r/MensRights29/08/24 04:42 AM
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You should still be able to submit a petition for readjustment.
/r/MensRights29/08/24 03:52 AM
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You should see if you can get an adjustment.
/r/MensRights28/08/24 07:00 AM
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One thing they never mention, is why it's usually a man who is the person looking to rob from you. If you end up in a situation where theft is your family's or household's only option to get money for food or whatever. Would you send the wife or girlfriend to go do it? Of course not. I know that not all situations are like this, but they do exist a lot more than one might think. Especially in this current US economy.
/r/MensRights25/08/24 09:32 AM
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No, all 4 kids with the same woman (my ex wife)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:18 AM
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I'm in my early 50's and look for 40+ Edit.. Last person I dated was 54.. and it was the same..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:03 PM
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I think many women have very high (or near impossible) expectations of men they date.. So men who (I'll use myself as an example) end up single again as they can't get a relationship to become long term.. I feel it's because of the expectations that are just impossible to meet. For me the common denominator has been that I'm a single Dad who has kids (now adults) who live with me.. Also, that I'm very much an active Father in the lives of the kids who do not live with me. (I ended up with split …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:04 PM
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It's not an anti-woman movement, it's having self respect and openly having a dialogue about issues we experience as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:02 PM
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I think it depends on a person's social circle. Perception and perspective are everything. Being upfront with your intentions, can be viewed both ways.. but ultimately, it's the endgame intention you express that counts.. and if often regarded as the item they will judge you by. Being viewed as promiscuous versus being seen as quick to fall in love (and into bed) with someone.. will be truly viewed and judged upon very differently. Being that both ultimately are the same, it's what the intention…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:17 PM
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It's a delicate balance that varies from woman to woman. I've been dumped cause I went to slow and also for going to fast with it. It's not an easy thing to figure out as many women shelter their beliefs, yet you are somehow expected to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 07:56 PM
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I am not interested in dating someone that young, at 53.. At the very youngest I would maybe date someone who's 39, but would prefer someone in their mid 40's.. to 50. I've dated women my age (or they claim they are my age, but curved the attempt to verify) and it's not been much better, luck wise. Honestly, for me it's been a somewhat unique issue.. And that is that I'm a single father who's involved with my kids.. but only the ones who live with their Mom.. but also the kids who live with me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 09:18 AM
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You can use apps, but they should not be the only avenue you use. Edit.. Just wanted to add that I have had better luck on apps than being out and about. I think I am just cursed or something. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 11:15 PM
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The standards for men have risen, while the standards for women haven't. That disparity has created an environment that really leaves many men, who would have or have been successful in the past.. without any options anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:20 PM
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Men often seek women and then take on their beliefs as a support mechanism. Can't speak on why women inherently just don't seem to do the same.
/r/MensRights13/08/24 09:14 PM
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I generally do these: Opening her car door Letting her order first Not using foul language or vulgar humor Not teasing, negging, or disrespecting women Offering your jacket if she appears cold Paying for the date Not pressuring her for sex Not driving off until she is inside I don't think it's helped or hurt my chances of getting a second date. Typically, I have noticed by their discussion if they are just there for the good time and meal.. Which has been more the norm than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:24 AM
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The stereotype that's given to all men is always one that mirrors some of the worst men to ever exist. But it's like, we are not all like that. It just seems like they think that men's groups and stuff related to men's rights are propaganda to get men to continue in those footsteps and that evil guy stereotype they label us under. In many cases, stuff like that is a vocal point reaction to bad things men experience by the hands of women. But many women refuse to acknowledge that, and oftentimes …
/r/MensRights11/08/24 04:41 PM
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It's not that they devalue various traits. For example, if a man really wants to start a family. A women who says she wants the same, and also mentions that she has a very involved and fruitful career.. He would not necessarily not care about her career, but that career could possibly hinder the idea of starting a family. It's not going to be viewed the same as if she met someone who wasn't as pressed to start a family. Nevertheless, if she met someone who is financially well off.. and would pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 07:58 PM
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You can say, "Why are you so emotional over my manhood?" Targeting their over emotional responses tends to really trigger women. Edit:: When they respond talking crap about your dick.. or whatever like that. Say, that you weren't referring to your dick, but how secure you are with your male identity. It's a backdoor way to show that they were too emotional over your dick.. yet again. 🤣😂
/r/MensRights09/08/24 03:56 PM
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It really depends on the individual guy and if he's able to differentiate himself from other average men. You often hear women say that a man must be exceptional to change her relationship status.. And that can mean anything, such as money, looks, clout, or whatever she has as her idea of the ideal guy. As men, we generally all have the same offerings to women. Stability, support, etc.. of course in varying statures as compared to other traits, and other men. So unless you can really stand out, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:56 AM
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I think there's two separate matters here. One, finding ways to try and find a woman who isn't going to leave you for the next guy. Two, thinking that you don't have nothing to offer a woman. The first one is probably the most difficult, cause you really have no control over it. There's always going to be other men who might try pulling her away. Only she can stop it, by not acknowledging or reciprocating that interest. The second one, can be a bit of insecurity for sure.. but we all have to rem…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:09 AM
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There's a piece that's missing here. The definition of what a single Dad can be and how those variances matter. Single Dad, a guy who sees his kids regularly.. But doesn't have primary custody or anything near 50/50. Single Dad, a guy who has roughly 50/50 and the kids are around per much half the time. Single Dad, a guy who has full custody (or split custody, like myself) and kids live with him full-time. In my experience, the same way I listed them.. is how I've seen women grade them.. from be…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:20 PM
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Well, such over generalizations are not good points to begin with. I could understand that one might say, "the dates I've encountered.." or something of that nature.. but to claim such a thing with an overwhelming broad statement is just hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:49 PM
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This is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 06:07 AM
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For example motherhood is beautiful and blah blah blah but the moment people see a pregnant woman’s body especially after birth people are quick to call her disgusting even the daddy will participate in that slander. As a father of 4.. I never... ever slandered anything towards my kid's Mom over her appearance during the pregnancy or after childbirth. That's just crazy. Such generalizations are so unfair to say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:05 AM
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Hey, not all of us are lucky enough to find someone who is totally loyal to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:15 PM
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Not sure what you mean as it doesn't really appear to be on the same talking point I was making.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 07:15 AM
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I can be seen that way, as long as things stay on track. That of course is a per person thing, primarily as temptation can win over some people as time progresses. Also, can be a thing where the model in question begins to look for ways to up their game... Which in most cases would include bringing other people (typically males) into the mix for content.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 07:02 AM
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I would say yes, if it includes paid and direct interaction with the OF model.. Otherwise it's just porn. Just like how women will accept drinks from random men when out with friends, while also being married or in a committed relationship. It's cheating. If they accept compliments and nothing else.. There's no actual exchange with the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:44 AM
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Not everyone looks at single Mom's that way.. unless it's more than one with multiple men and not from serious relationships. As a single Dad, I have always been open to single Moms.. but the issue I've run into is that they try to get me to disconnect from my kids (I have split custody) which I do not entertain such ideals and things end.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:50 PM
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Maybe now.. but I'm referring to those who already have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:43 PM
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Many women end up having kids with the Chads.. and then expect the average guys to fund and raise them.. Cause Chad is no longer around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:58 PM
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Maybe those you know, or that's what they tell you. Saving face, is also a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:54 PM
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Yeah, maybe here you'll see such a thing... But it's cause of the anonymity nature of reddit. It's not the same when your name or identity is tied to your responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:14 PM
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I wouldn't say, they have nothing to offer.. but instead, what they offer is the same as others.. They just don't have any of those social accepted traits that makes them above average or exceptional, as many women will frown at the idea of dating an average guy.. They will get that "I'm settling" feeling.. and it's game over from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:39 PM
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In some cases, even if they find out.. They will gravitate back to said guy.. If they actually leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:47 PM
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There's a huge double standard in society with how it's perfectly ok to shame or ridicule men.. ie, that horrible thing that many women love to say to men.. "who hurt you".. But, when you flip the script.. Saying anything remotely similar to women.. it can get you cancelled as you'll get so much hate by many.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 04:26 AM
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I think it's because, not all women have this mentality. Some women, just like men, want a traditional relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:09 PM
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I think you are referring to the extremists, as there is more to the red pill than just getting access to sex. There's much discussion about protecting yourself as a man, and teaching yourself to stop catering to women who do not reciprocate your efforts. Self respect and yes.. Leveling up the best you can.. for yourself.. and not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:43 PM
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Yes, I agree... We are quickly to blame for everything bad these days.. Yet, those same people get mad when we find common ground in the RP or similar groups. These groups help us better ourselves and find peace within the world, that we can create around us.
/r/MensRights23/07/24 12:55 AM
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Biologically, women are stronger... For example, women have higher chances of surviving heart attacks... The warning signs are more pronounced, than in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:46 AM
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It’s a legitimate concern for men that a woman you are in an LTR with or married is just with you because you are a good provider and are not at all attracted to you. But in the same breath, these guys will condemn women for not accepting their romantic overtures and ‘friendzoning’ them. I think these are completely different groups of men.. As married (or in LTR) men do not care about getting friendzoned... Single men do, a very different group.. but honestly, as men we need to take that friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:29 AM
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Yup, victim shaming.. at its finest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 02:57 PM
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If they are essentially healthy, I would not see any issue with it. I would assume they are self reliant and it's that's the case.. My only concern is if they are looking at me to fund a change in lifestyle. Wouldn't be a huge issue for me, but I would still ask and maybe wonder if there's more to it.. Like, am I really someone they are seriously interested in? Again, if they are self reliant.. Then I see no issue. I do believe in enjoying your money and this would fall into that. Yeah, this wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:09 AM
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Yeah, it is like they know.. and yet underhandedly accept those gifts and what not.. just because they can. They should reject those gifts and what not.. back in the day, this would be the norm. But things have since changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:56 AM
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Exposing poor treatment by women, and showing those men that have or who are enduring such behavior... that they don't have to. Yeah, that's such a bad thing. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:34 AM
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Yeah, I don't think men are socially influenced like women are. Sure, you have those who must have that "eye candy", but the majority of men just want someone they can be happy with. I hear from many sources that women really have a lot more check boxes that they feel need to be checked before they would consider anyone as a potential partner. Women have higher priority checkboxes that they will curve a person with more boxes checked for.. Just to get with that person with the more popular or de…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:09 AM
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I would say that is all on the individual woman. Some would actually look to get out of that vicious cycle they were in. Others, would also.. but then miss that excitement or drama they had, being in an unstable relationship. Which could lead to infidelity or just ending that committed relationship to go back. I would say that the latter may have a higher ratio of women who would possibly do that. But in the end, everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:57 PM
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Yeah, I no longer do such dates like that. Getting ghosted afterwards just got old...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:31 PM
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In recent years, I would say the same has happened with women in their 30's, and even 40's and older. Many will act like they are humble and interested, but once you let a little time set in.. They start acting the same and what's worse in my opinion.. They expect you to dedicate full attention to them, even to the point of disconnecting from your family and kids. At least the last few I've dated, have been this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:02 PM
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Yes, but again.. assuming you have access to what you need... But there are other containers which that wouldn't work (aspirin or mayo jars, for example).. or would no longer function properly as their seal would have been compromised.
/r/MensRights13/07/24 08:21 AM
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There are men who are very encouraging of women to live such a lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:48 PM
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I think a lot of this comes from the double standards that do in fact exist. For example, body positivity is only geared and acknowledged by and for women. So, men who put in the effort and get themselves up to par physically can be a lil upset if the best they can attract is women who are not in shape at all or in many cases seen as even obese. Primarily cause that man's height isn't close to 6ft.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:46 PM
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Yeah, finding someone who does in fact like the same stuff you do.. isn't easy. And there's nothing wrong in hoping you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:26 PM
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True point there...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:01 PM
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Yeah, there are many double standards that exist which put men in a negative light in the eyes of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:45 PM
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I mean, you can never get your women to O... Then yeah, you can view that as a bad thing. But like i mentioned previously, for women.. there's more to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:38 PM
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Definitely would go for May. Mary is a bit too religious for me Susan seems like the type that would not be faithful Jessica also seems like the type that would not be faithful May's spending habits are a non issue as I am ok with enjoying whatever money we have.. Her having a serious personality, typically coincides with maturity and that's a good thing (usually anyways). I enjoy shopping, so we are a match there and it's nice to see that it wouldn't be a one sided thing when it comes to paying…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:36 PM
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Women aren't like us men though. Emotionally, you have to get her hooked and make her want to always come back to you. Which isn't necessarily sexually related..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:20 PM
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I don't think the "alpha widowing" thing is completely based on the sexual capabilities of a guy. It can definitely help, but in my opinion.. It's carries more of the "social acceptance" picture or stature that is created by the lifestyle of said guy. Like how cool he is, compared to the average guy.. That bad boy versus what's deemed as the norm and essentially the boring kinda guy. This I think really plays into things more especially in older women as they look at their everyday lives and do …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:41 AM
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Sure, assuming in that situation you have one on hand that is strong enough to do so. It's no secret that some knives can break and cause bodily harm to the person trying to use that method.
/r/MensRights12/07/24 11:22 AM
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That new fling or whatever, brings excitement to the idea of what the possibilities could be.. which in itself creates more desire. People sometimes feel their current relationship has become stale cause life sets in and what not. Not realizing they felt that same thing when them too.. and that's why they stayed with them. It's a sad and vicious cycle to end up in, in my opinion. Too many people get hurt, and in many cases, that includes the person who thought the grass was greener with that new…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:46 PM
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This makes sense.. For example, the last woman I dated was in shock and had gotten visibly upset when I called her out on stuff that was questionable. Even moreso when I was firm on not disconnecting my dedication as a father to cater to her.. She would underhandedly make comments that really started to make her want to walk away. I think she knew it was coming, she then proceeded to pull the plug with the notion that I was not into her like she was into me. Which turned out to actually just be …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:33 PM
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THEY ARE ALMOST ENTIRELY RESPONSIBLE FOR RAISING THE CHILDREN 24/7 For sahms, yes.. I agree. Those women should take their exes to the cleaners financially. at least til they can properly start raising the children in the co-parenting situation. I was always involved with the raising of my 4 kids, and we have split custody.. We both are doing fine on our own in regards to that aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:55 PM
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It's called earned income credit.. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:51 PM
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Facts based on what tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:50 PM
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We are talking about taxes and what one would be burdened (thus making life harder) to have to pay.. not a spreadsheet to point at.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:50 PM
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Even if you overshared such info.. for the sake of craziness.. it's not taxed.. It's free money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:48 PM
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If you read the FAQ on the IRS website... it tells you to not enter that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:47 PM
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"After a divorce is finalized, men hold 2.5 times the amount of wealth women do, and women’s household income falls 41% (compared to men’s 23%)." How is this the case, when things are split in accordance to an equal distribution of assets during Divorce??? Now, if the woman was already earning less.. and after deducing any alimony or child support payments.. makes less than the ex-husband, why would they not look to get a better job?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:45 PM
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You and I obviously have different perspectives from life's experiences.. and that's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:40 PM
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Statistics do not translate into taxable income
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:39 PM
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The IRS tells you to not enter those items on your forms
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:33 PM
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I dunno if this is allowed, but look here: https://www.irs.gov/faqs/earned-income-tax-credit/taxable-nontaxable-income/taxable-nontaxable-income
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:32 PM
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Last time I checked, I didn't see the rate at which welfare is taxed.. or even reported. I have family who gets it and they get 3 to 4k a year back in tax refunds.. it's usually more than what they paid in taxes to begin with. but sure, there's no free money.. Maybe not for some of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:29 PM
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Social security in some states yes... same with the IRS..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:21 PM
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WIC and welfare is not taxed... Nor is EBT. Disability, yes. Unemployment, yes. Maybe again, you are referring to a state thing where you live.. but with the IRS, it is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:20 PM
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Not sure how you attribute your numbers to how the courts work.. or maybe it's state thing you are referring to. This is because in Divorce, a couple's individual retirement, 401k, pension, etc. are all included in "the split of resources". Material things like vehicles and property are too. Just as is the couple's debts. but if you get a couple with similar incomes, the woman will easily come out with more. Even more so, if she was a sahm. Unless she decides to not take what is made available t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:16 PM
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The problem is that there's a lot of entitlement going on between many, and equating what is 50/50 is also a thing where some people feel what they do in a relationship is highly valuable and what others do is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:24 PM
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Yes, which allows them to have child support and be in a lower taxed income bracket.. Primarily as child support is not considered income in most places.. So they have the extra financial backing and still be in that lower tax bracket.. Which in such cases, would also allow them to receive government assistance and EBT.. and not to mention other low income benefits such as utility discounts and what not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:17 PM
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I think this is because in many cases, children caught in the middle of a divorce or separation instantly become the ticket to a new life for the mother. And since it's easier to find that as a dynamic, you see it more often. There are cases where it's reversed, but they are far in between.. as courts are more likely to side with the mother right away as compared to the father as his criteria to achieve this is much more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 03:16 PM
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I've noticed that recently, women I've dated are very sexually selfish. I can understand that it could be due to an orgasm gap, but to treat new partners as if it's our (or my) fault isn't right either. I've always been willing to put in the extra effort if needed, and try to help get my partners where they wanna be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:27 PM
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Maybe, but you can acknowledge trends in ones experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:04 PM
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Yeah, maybe you should review your list that describes you and seek help with any items that could be hindering you from finding potential dating partners. We can all be successful, just maybe not as often as others.. but that's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:46 AM
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Well, I think that the idea that they have a "false hypothesis" is not necessarily a statement one can make.. This is due to the fact, that sometimes it is simply the current dynamics of their local dating scene. To outsiders, or others who are not having such issues.. just wouldn't understand their stance or perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:39 AM
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I don't think there's any timeframe that gives you that free pass.. You need to address the issue, and allow for your partner time to try and change the scenario. But in the end, if things don't change and it means you have to consider ending the relationship.. Then it is, what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:12 AM
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A lot of adults these days come from single parent or broken homes.. So observations of such intra-couple dynamics between their parents were likely very minimal or possibly just non-existant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:13 PM
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I think it's because it exposes the ugly truth that exists about many people, and it doesn't matter if the pill is red, blue, black, or pink... or any other color, for that matter. Nobody who is doing shady or selfish things to hurt others, wants or likes the idea of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:15 PM
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I think it depends on who you ask, cause I'm of the same mindset as a single Dad. Some women don't like it, others are mindful and respect it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:03 PM
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Accepting the offer of "We can be friends" by a woman who just rejected your advance. And then become that guy she goes to for favors and what not. Yet, it never goes anywhere.. and you are cool with that.. Hoping that your efforts will eventually be acknowledged.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:44 AM
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With many having more options than ever before, there's no incentive to be patient and actually giving that notion any time to possibly happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:15 AM
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If something catastrophic were to happen where everyday essentials became scarce.. and life as we know it took a harsh decline and delved into a nightmarish reality.. Like in a world war scenario, or something of that magnitude.. Things would change overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:27 PM
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Unfortunately, there's no real effective technology to help men be more attractive.. Unlike there is for women, that would be awesome tho. If there was. Women can get BBL, breast augmentation, botox, etc. Women want tall men, we can't change that... Women want really attractive looks, genetics doesn't allow for us to change that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:25 AM
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Wife (or husband) goggles is not age restricted.. It's that person, and how they desire the other. Be loving, attentive, and reciprocate their love and that's the best chance you'll have of it happening. Hope you fall in love with someone, and also feel that way as well. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 02:04 AM
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The writer of the article, had to find a way to bash her.. pretty crazy how low they will go to do it.
/r/MensRights02/04/24 01:32 AM
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I dunno about the women part, but I haven't heard a guy get called a SIMP for being low maintenance. If he's forcibly doing it, to fund the woman's high maintenance lifestyle... then yeah, I can understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:24 AM
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I don't think either would get much hate from anyone, with the exception of maybe those who actively try very hard to find someone and try the high maintenance route.. to only see the low maintenance people happy in relationships. Particularly, if it's an obvious mismatch and it's a low maintenance person dating someone who is seen as higher maintenance. If I had to choose one over the other which would likely get more hate.. I would say the girlfriend, from other women. As hate is an emotional …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:36 PM
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I have yet to watch it.. Lol!
/r/MensRights01/04/24 05:29 PM
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Towards the end of the article, unless I read it wrong, they talk bad about her.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 05:27 PM
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It sucks yes, and the few and far in-between matches I get do bring life into my hopes of someday being happy in a serious relationship again. It's like a test of mental and emotional fortitude.. and you just can't give up.. At least, in my opinion you shouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 09:17 AM
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Never said they garnered ego from other women, but instead follow suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:56 PM
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The reason many women get showed with stuff, that in the past wouldn't have.. Is because more women carry an inflated ego.. Much stemming from being cheered on by other women as queens and princesses.. add to that, above average men often buying the attention of these women to only let them go afterwards.. which further inflated that ego. Which is why you'll see women say, I only date rich guys.. yet, they are not all that attractive themselves. Not realistically understanding that they were ess…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:30 PM
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While in your experience, boys out of middle school or middle school ultimately became wise in life in regards to the dating world.. most others in the world, did not. Especially when their parents who were from a previous generation had different views and often projected those beliefs.. The expanse of the "world" also grew as social media took hold.. as online dating or meeting someone from online was shunned upon for the first decade or so, when it became an option. Which is why nowadays, you…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:44 PM
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I think it did bring to light ways that men could protect themselves.. as many had already been groomed by the idea of what was supposed to be the role for men.. popularized by the then media and now reinforced by social media.. To accept the bad behaviors of women and if you didn't like it.. you had to "man up", which not only oppressed men.. but truly just benefited women. Look at the family court system for example... or the various laws where men can't do certain things, yet women can.. or w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:11 PM
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If I'm not mistaken, the ones who were red pilled or understood that message back then were referred to as pick up artists or players.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:34 PM
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Many things existed before becoming widely known or shared openly. You have to factor in also those who reject the message, And those will also have not even heard the message. Which is why nowadays since red pill, blue pill, purple pill, black pill, etc.. our terms are more commonly used and understood. You could of asked someone 12 years ago if they knew what each pill meant in regards to society.. and you'd likely get a confused look as your response.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:26 PM
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It's not about weakness or strength.. Those are cop outs from acknowledging the real problem. There's a huge difference between relationships with family, friends, and intimate partners. Having any less than all three in your life in one form or another will always create a form of loneliness.. Some of which can't be corrected.. Ask those who have lost their parents or siblings. Others can be corrected, but not until they can locate someone who would want to fill that bill.. Which is where the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 06:31 PM
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I really doubt it was the latter 🤣😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:47 PM
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Back in my military days, there was one who would "pull rank" like literally.. and then laugh about it with us other NCOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:33 PM
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Oh yeah, I bet it is an extreme minority.. I've only known of a few who did this.. It's definitely not any kind of majority. What makes me kinda cringe is the notion by some on here acting like, "it never happens".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:26 PM
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Nah, it's just them painting a picture with broad strokes.. When it's not even like that. Sure, there are some women out there who do this for fun. But it's by no means a majority of women, or anything similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:38 PM
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I have had female friends who would do this in the past. Sure, I wouldn't have posted this as it insinuates this is the real and only reason women do it. Cause it's likely a very small percentage of women who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:33 PM
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Yes we do have standards, but they are likely a per person kinda thing. Like for myself I prefer non-smoking, not a heavy drinker, attractive to me (eyes, smile, curves, etc), likes cats. Basic stuff you can generally determine from a person's dating profile. Beyond the surface, I look for her to be self sufficient, and actively try to be healthy.. Fitness plan should be somewhere in their life.. but if they are working on it or it's not affecting their health.. Then who am I to say anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:30 AM
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That makes sense, and yes timing for some people and situations can be the only reason why things end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:27 PM
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Yeah, once a woman decides to step outside the marriage or that she wants out.. The man is screwed.. The severity of it all, then depends on other circumstances and the actual woman.
/r/MensRights19/03/24 04:03 PM
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My ex was not someone I was initially attracted to but once he won me over I couldn't get enough of him. He became very attractive to me. He couldn't get rid of me! How is he now your ex though?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:01 PM
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Anyone should be attracted to whomever they feel fits their gender interest, and anything else that they desire. But let's not detract from the initial topic of how the range that men can fit into, to be deemed attractive or desirable by many women is very small.. Yet, that window is by far much larger when attempting to qualify women as attractive or desirable to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:28 PM
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Gender differences just isn't the same, as then we could also ask that question to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:12 PM
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It's not that many women can't date the men they want, they most likely do.. They just can't secure things beyond the dating phase, and have actual committed relationships. The best they get is that situationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:07 PM
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No, but many will not count those they aren't attracted to.. as they will disqualify them and find any means to do so. Like referring them to creeps or some other relative term.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 03:44 PM
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These women are not in my life, per say.. but it seems more common than uncommon... Just not openly spoken about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:48 PM
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Yeah, i couldn't agree more..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:46 PM
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My late brother in law, had a wife and girlfriend.. And they knew of each other.. The wife would always go on tangents about how the girlfriend couldn't cook as good as her.. and what not. I never met the girlfriend. My cousin also had that kind of scenario, until the wife finally left him.. but 4 kids and like 15 years together. He had 2 kids outside the marriage, and she knew about it.. It just took her so long to finally leave. He was not a good money earner or anything. Just tall and apparen…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:00 PM
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So all these women are dating the same man…really? 😂😂 You'll be surprised, if you really looked into things. Your friend was a weak embarrassing woman and I don’t think most women are like that…that’s like pathetic Yeah, I agree... I think she just wanted to enjoy the life he provided.. He earned (back then) something like 10k a month, plus often huge bonuses every quarter. He was in the oil industry. He liked to refer to himself as mister moneybags. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:53 PM
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With such overwhelming interest, these guys will multi-date. It's not uncommon for some of these guys to have more than one woman they are dating at the same time. In some cases, the women know about it and just tolerate it as they are in hopes that in the end. He will stay with her. I knew a woman who's husband would sleep around, and she openly joked about it. But over the years it got worse, to where he agreed to only then hook up with sex workers.. And she would take him, but he still ended …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:20 PM
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While this may be true, and some things listed are just a very extreme regiment in my opinion. The dating part is just the way it is.. The other stuff, while yes will help with your chances.. Should be done for yourself and your own health and happiness The mediocre intimacy part, you don't have to tolerate and you should speak your mind. If things don't change, you end the relationship and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 05:45 PM
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Yeah, I run errands and do stuff like that all the time. I try apps (have had the most first dates through Facebook dating) and maybe it's just my bad luck. Over 8 years and yet nothing but a few short lived attempts (typically ended cause the women just can't stop looking), but nothing serious. I don't plan to give up or anything, just hope my luck changes soon. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 02:27 AM
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It’s like y’all never visit certain areas. If you have the location of said women, who are open to dating an average everyday guy.. You gotta spill the beans!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 02:14 AM
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Yes, there are.. But the way we are able to date and live our lives in the dating arena isn't the same. Women feel they are settling, if they date someone at their level.. Until that changes, the issues we face today in regards to dating.. Will never be resolved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:18 AM
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I think those girls would be happier being with someone on their level instead. I couldn't agree more, but sadly society has many believing that if they do.. They are settling, and that women should never settle. Until that narrative changes, the imbalance will never correct itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:16 AM
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How though, as most women don't be hoe'ing around and thus will date to have that intimacy. Cause they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:12 AM
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You are too funny.. Ol' girl is already taken. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:10 AM
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Most likely true, cause height is seen as an attractive trait.. Short fat guys are not likely slaying anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:06 AM
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But the actual amount of dates and access to physical intimacy through normal dating means, are very much skewed against men. For many men, it's just not possible at all. Yet, as it's repeated many times on social media.. "A woman is only lonely, if she chooses to be".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:04 AM
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I think the issue really becomes more prominent when these "fat women", as you put it, are still getting dates and short term relationships.. Yet the ratio of men who are also "fat" and getting dates is very imbalanced to the negative. Why is the disparity between the numbers so skewed then?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 01:00 AM
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But yet, men commit suicide at a higher rate.. So not sure that's entirely correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 12:54 AM
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If guys don’t want low quality women, just avoid them. It would be nice if lower quality women would be open to dating lower quality men.. Which is the problem we have now, and why there are more single men than there are single women. The women date more men that would be viewed as higher, but they can't keep them.. So they keep striving for that kind of guy again and again.. and thus women are inherently single less of the time. Which is why a lot of older phrases have now been evolved into th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 12:52 AM
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Well, that's the point of this post.. That women who aren't in the upper echelon, will get dates from men who are. But of course, they have no real chance of keeping him. So they get into this cycle, and then get upset cause "guys just don't want to commit". But if they dated someone moreso at their level, the likelihood of the guy staying with her would drastically increase. But many women are just not willing to "settle", so the issue remains.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 12:43 AM
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Ahh.. now it makes sense, as in any group of people you'll find elitist people.. even if it's only in delusion. But as a whole, men are not like that.. and your comments, really made it sound as if you were referring to a stereotype that encompassed all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 07:12 PM
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Not sure which men you were referring to, but they sure sound like that elitist type.. and definitely not your average everyday guy. And unless you haven't been on the various social media sites, I would understand your view of women and claim that they would date any guy and not seek certain traits. There are many common phrases that you'll find that are commonly used there, as well what you'll find on dating apps. For example, "Must be 6 feet to ride this ride" (they even sell such stuff with …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 04:53 PM
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That could hold some truth, but her dating someone who we as men just don't understand why she would be interested in.. Well, we are not women and will likely never figure that out.. what we think is attractive versus what they find attractive is usually very different.. aside the personal preference part.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 11:36 AM
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I mean women even date and get obsessed with serial rapists, people who murder women, thugs, homeless people, it really doesn't matter, there is little standard, as long as you come across as per the above. Many women like the thrill of being around such people, including men. Many enjoy certain benefits of dating a person like that.. Like easy and free access to street drugs, money, and body art.. amongst other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 11:31 AM
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Attraction for women is relative.. If a guy has a certain trait that's not common or simply attractive to her.. Such as popularity, or wealth.. and there are many forms of relative wealth. She will be interested in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 11:26 AM
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In that comment, I was referring to women..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:46 AM
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its always fascinating to see that men who have a woman, either in the form of a GF wife or daughter, routinely tell them men are dogs and predators and protect them from other men.. Well, like any other possible risk out there in this world, it's human nature to warn others of potential situations that merit such a warning but amazingly SINGLE men tell women heyyyy baby, were not dangerous, nothing wrong here, trust me Just because OTHER people are out there, not only men, looking to hurt or ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:04 AM
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I can say from conversations I've had, some women do actually keep men around for stuff they provide. Obviously not all women do this, but there are some who do. And I agree, men need to stop this and have some self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:43 PM
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I think in some cases they mentally check out, way before the relationship actually ends.. Unless they are blindsided by the ending of that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:52 PM
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Or through other means, become a guy she would be afraid to lose access to.. as other women would want to take you away from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:06 PM
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I think that in many cases that guy is truly hoping that some day that friendship will evolve into something more.. Especially when that woman is hurt through infidelity or other form of poor treatment by the guy she is actually dating and giving herself to. On the flip side, that guy may be a resource of some sort to her.. Like confidant, a financial resource, or some other benefit she can't get from the guy(s) she is actually dating. So she will string him along as a friend with mixed signals.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:02 PM
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I think some people just think it's "flirting" or "an attempt to bond further", but don't realize it's actually off-putting. I've seen this through experiences my daughter has been telling me about, and her dating experiences.. She had actually asked me the same question not that long ago. Somehow it seems related to music, movies, or TV shows. I think another trait that it might be exposing, is that "know it all" kind of personality.. but that is just a guess in my mind.. The more I think of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:55 PM
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That is crazy, as it's ok if you don't want to do that.. He can be as upset over it as much as he wants, but that is your decision. I've run into many women who were interested in me, and were ok with me being a single father.. Until I mentioned that it wasn't a bi-weekly thing, and that I actually had kids living with me full time. One actually hung up on me mid conversation (me speaking), and blocked me instantly.. I didn't even know they had done so, until I noticed they were a lil too quiet.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:59 AM
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Here's my opinion on some of the points made Men age like wine. Yes, in their 30's women I think still have more options than your average man.. Unless he's made a name for himself through career and personal ventures. Spinning plates This is if you want to live that lifestyle.. Some men do, others do not. Alternatively, many in the red pill do not condone infidelity.. And they speak about finding a women who can bring value to your life and is willing to stay within your "frame".. whatever that…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 05:36 PM
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Did you miss my reply? I mentioned my cousin who has a child with someone like that.. and went through hell cause of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 02:28 AM
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Cause I knew how he treated them, basically like a princess.. up until he got what he wanted or grew tired of them and found someone new. I saw how he hurt them emotionally, and wouldn't want that for my sister or cousins. After I moved away, one of my cousins ended up having a kid with him.. That was a nightmare for her, she went through a lot. Most of his money was from cash only ventures, so child support was non-existent. She kept getting caught up in his game of trying again.. but he kept c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 12:27 AM
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I have seen it, and all one can do is just watch.. and hope they don't come near anyone in your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 12:17 AM
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With such a statement, which detracts from the topic at hand. I would question your acknowledgement of the actual world of dating we live in. But I digress, and hope you enjoy the rest of your day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 10:17 PM
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Duh! By moving on from that woman who is not attracted to you, and focusing on the women WHO ARE! you can only start something with a woman, where the interest is mutual. That's what women don't see.. There's not many women who don't have the same bar set, with what is deemed the minimum a guy must have to be seen as desirable. They assume someone else will date them, cause they aren't.. They want the more desirable guy.. So they will hold out for him. No! I'm not please refrain from putting wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:48 PM
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If both are working full time and earning roughly the same income. Yes, it should be a team effort to run a home.. and raise children equally. Where the lines are drawn to determine that 50/50 effort, should be done by the parties involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:34 PM
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I would counter that with asking that you explain how any person can carry a promiscuous lifestyle if they can't garner such attention from the opposite sex? Those men you are referring to, don't put in any effort cause they do view women as easily replaceable.. cause for them it truly is like that.. No different how some women refer to men in that regards too. It's all stupid, in my opinion. Generally speaking, nobody desires an openly promiscuous person to be with them in a relationship.. Infi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:31 PM
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This still happens, but only if both are willing to accept the lifestyle that might bring. The ability to raise a family though the means of one income, has been very much out of reach for the average person for years now. Unless you are ok with living a more humble and possibly poverty stricken life.. This is where many people have an issue with, especially women. Unfortunately, not everyone can be rich or well off.. Many want to live a lifestyle like their parents or moreso how their grandpare…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:20 PM
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A man's chance at relationships isn't dependent upon women preferences tho. There is something to love within everyone, so if a man isn't getting the results he wants with women and dating, then his problems are more internal, and has nothing to do with the womans choices in who she picks to date. If a man doesn't fall into what she deems as attractive through her preferences.. How again would be getting a relationship started? How do you know this tho? Many women actually have their own apartme…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:09 PM
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Please explain what you feel that men no longer do?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 08:53 PM
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Yes, men do love and want women.. But when women don't want them.. unless you fit into the category that is deemed as attractive but only for her.. but in some cases, to also feel socially relevant. (This can be compared to how some men want to have "arm candy") They want to show that they have that highly desired man on their social media. It dramatically ruins the chance for an average guy to find someone for a relationship. Also, why some men are walking away is because the desirability of wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 08:26 PM
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Guys who end up single, but have the ability to get women easily.. Generally speaking, it is most likely not because those relationships didn't necessarily work out. Those men want to be with many women, and it's a choice they make.. Not one that was made for them, it's a very doesn't perspective than what you are implying. Some of these men want women to accept their infidelity, and let them be able to continually engage in such behavior.. So when these women they are involved with get upset, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 08:02 PM
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I consider myself a good or decent guy, and I feel those traits are some I try my best to uphold. While not conventionally attractive, I do get some matches from time to time.. I've found lately my problem is either women can't stop looking for better.. so they jump ship, to only end up back on the dating apps a few weeks later.. (Things seemed like they were possibly progressing slowly) Or they are very selfish, have a very pointed attitude of criticism towards everything... But you can't refle…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 05:16 PM
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Integrity, Honesty, Empathetic, Understanding, Patience I think these are some of the traits they are referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:01 AM
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Funny thing you say this, as I took a chance at someone I really wasn't the most attracted to. She had a very good personality and we had plenty in common.. including our kids. When we met in person, she was more heavy set than in her profile.. but I decided that maybe together we could get to a better fitness level.. as a couple. She was very aggressive with moving certain aspects along, which to me showed real interest. So I was fine with it.. as it included exclusivity. Fast forward a few wee…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 10:19 PM
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I think a lot of men don't even care about that. They simply rely on the woman to manage the fertility of her body. As so many options are readily, and easily available for them these days. The idea where men "trap" women, stems from the hope some women have to catch a man through the same method. Women know that legally, she can and will keep him in her life.. If she decides to use the legal system to do so. In many cases it works for her, while in just as many.. it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:35 PM
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Yes, I was married for 20 years.. and know what it's like to be in a committed and monogamous relationship. I was very happy, and yes... I was truly devastated when my now ex felt she had missed out on the fun social life she had seen others portray on social media. I would love to be in a serious relationship again, doesn't have to be a marriage.. but hopefully a happy and committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:08 AM
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Yeah.. There's a lot of propaganda, from so many groups out there. Some interesting, others not, some are even criminal.. At the end of the day, we are who we are. What ideals we embrace, and ignore, are always our own personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:53 PM
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Yes, and the way society has changed how the average guy is viewed has been skewed.. to a very negative light. You now have to be exceptional to have a good chance at being viewed as attractive, and as a potential dating partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 09:44 PM
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Yeah, I completely agree with this statement. Within the ranges of it all.. paying for it, is better than self pleasuring.. but not as good as having an experience with someone who actually desires you in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:45 PM
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You are likely speaking of a subset of that group.. just like any other subsets, not everyone has the same interest or desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:42 PM
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That's not true, many of us (myself included) do not seek women for childbearing.. I already got 4, and do not want any more kids.. I'm not down with getting up at 2 or 3:00am for diaper changes and bottle feeding anymore. It was so much more difficult with my youngest, and that was over 10 years ago. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:41 PM
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Not all women are into alternative forms of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:36 PM
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Yeah, that's only those men who seek to have an oppressed dependant in their relationship. Many of us, want a partner.. as we can be a team to take on the world. (As relatively small in aspect as financially able to, but you get the point)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:35 PM
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Being a guy's sexual play thing, doesn't look to have the fulfilling aspect that women want.. Otherwise you'd never see women complaining about how ALL guys are trash cause they treat them so poorly, and can't commit, can't stop entertaining other women, etc, etc.. When it's not ALL men, it's mostly those men with the attractiveness that was referred to earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 11:10 AM
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Here's the kicker though... Many people in general, no longer desire to be approached.. Even if it's at social gatherings. There's been a huge shift in the notion of how people want to meet others for potential dating. Nowadays it's leave me alone.. If I wanted to date, I would go and be on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:56 AM
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That's the difference though.. The men who are delusional to think that an Instagram model looking type woman would want them, when they are not in that same relative attractiveness level.. Generally are not getting the dates with her, nevertheless any intimacy. On the flip side, women who pursue men of that higher desirability.. do often get dates and intimacy from those men.. They will not be able to keep them from cheating, or from ghosting them afterwards though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:52 AM
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I guess sexual intimacy with a guy who fits the known socially accepted ideal of attractiveness can be viewed as a benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:47 AM
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I would like to compare how things were, 15+ years ago.. when things weren't like they are now. Dating for men was better, you would match up with someone within your relative attractiveness.. Being a decent guy, and treating women with respect and having a decent job.. Would be enough to find someone to marry and start a family. Nowadays, it's nothing like that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:42 AM
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Unfortunately, the very common ones are height and having a high fitness level.. But it not only comes from women who could potentially match such men at their relative fitness or desirability level.. but other women who are nowhere near that, but also seek such men.. and in some cases, are promiscuous enough that they will hook up with such guys too.. Thus leaving men who used to be able to date women who would be within their relative attractiveness level.. without any potential for dating at …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:36 AM
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I think what they mean, is that in front of others (or through social media rebuttal type responses) will say that they don't have those kinds of requirements.. that they will give anyone the benefit of the doubt as they are not shallow towards men. But in reality, they do and they will shame someone for trying to point that out and claim that every woman is different and that includes what they desire.. again which isn't exactly true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:26 AM
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Is it really a compromise though?! As many women will say that ALL men are this, and ALL men do that.. Not realizing that they are talking about the same small percentage of men. That's when you find on dating profiles (or on social media via memes), small paragraphs or lists that state that they are looking for an emotionally available man.. whose not a player, not someone who's not ready to commit, a man whose going to man up and take her seriously.. etc, etc, etc... That doesn't sound like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:21 AM
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I dunno, but dating in my 40's and now early 50's is not easier at all.. was so much easier when I was in my 20's
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 04:32 PM
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Yeah, a bouquet of flowers. Isn't something that I would desire.. for the reason you mentioned. But a single rose, is different.. I know, it's weird. 😅 But small gifts to me are much appreciated. I wouldn't want large gifts, I guess I would not want her to think I'm with her for those reasons. I was once brought to tears by a person whom I was in a "friends first" relationship with.. Nobody else had gotten me anything for my birthday that year. It was very nice to receive it, that had really mad…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 04:10 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having fantasies.. Which she might be using such content to entertain that part of her mind. It's when she considers fulfilling that fantasy, is when it's a problem.. Assuming it's content that would in essence mean her being with someone other than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:00 AM
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It happens.. btdt 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 06:56 AM
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I wouldn't say it like that, I would encourage one to use that red pill ideology to guide you through the games and drama that can come from dating. Learn what you are willing to accept from potential partners, and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:31 AM
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I think it all depends on one's experiences in the past, and those experiences that they are currently enduring.. and will endure in the future.. Such things will mold who you are, and who you can and will possibly become...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:59 AM
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The average guy, is invisible to most women these days.. Why? Cause through online dating and apps, women can go for the more attractive (based on looks, wealth, badboy lifestyle, etc.) men they desire more easily. Even if it's just for short term relationships.. They hope that the guy they choose to date will stay with them.. but those guys rarely will. Then the cycle continues, and that's pretty much it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:42 PM
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Yes, I dated one person for 2 months.. they looked way better in person than their profile pics. Unfortunately, they had too much emotional hurt and it ruined our relationship. Also, she I believe she had previously dated someone who had a lot of money and didn't like that I wasn't able to do stuff with them on the constant either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:21 AM
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It's a free market, as in one can choose to accept someone if they feel like it.. And also reject someone, all the same. The issue is that many feel entitled and when they connect with someone who may have used money or other resources as a lure.. They then feel they should then only date others of that caliber. Even though they really never had a chance of settling down with that kind of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:27 AM
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I wouldn't mind casual sex with an average or even less than average girl, doesn't have to be a female Chad..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:10 AM
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I don't think they get the women.. They get to SLEEP with a lot of the women.. but women will still look for that "perfect guy".. but in the meantime they hookup with those types. And in many cases, it's an endless loop that never ends. As finding the perfect guy can sometimes be an unreasonable desire compared to what they can actually achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:05 AM
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It's not that it's happening only right now... With the acceptance of online dating and meeting people through apps.. Many can now connect with people whom they would have never had the chance of ever meeting. The high earners will fly to, or fly that person they met online to them.. Again, now expanding their connections to others they would not normally have a way to meet. So women are just going for that, and feel that all men should be able to live such a lifestyle.. So when the average guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:19 AM
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If you want a dominating type woman, try dating a Latina.. You need thick skin and a strong ego if you're gonna hang.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:08 AM
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Yeah, back 10 plus years ago.. If you were a decent guy, with a decent job and was respectful of women.. Finding dates was not all that hard.. Sure, you wouldn't have women throwing themselves at you. But you'd date and have some great times.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 01:32 AM
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I think there's more to it.. For example, she says no to you.. but then goes out and hooks up with an ex or situationship partner. Comes back to you and acts like why do you keep talking about sex.. Is that all you think about?! Now of course not all women are like this, but it's a lot more common than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 12:35 AM
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Women complain about their experiences, which in most cases isn't stuff done by the average guy... But instead are the players and also the guys who have so many options.. Those men typically don't respect women, like an average guy likely would. Red pill, teaches men to respect themselves and what to expect from women. While the more extremist type of red pillers talk about being those kind of men with many options and be what women seek the most. And sadly, be a part of the group of men that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:14 PM
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Unless you can meet the standards set by women, there's a high chance you'll end up alone. And many of those standards are ones you can't control.. ie, you can't grow anymore than your genetics allow you to.. Not everyone can be a high money earner, cause then the goal posts will get moved to an even higher standard. Giving up shouldn't be an option, but sometimes there is the idea of being at the right place at the time.. and you never know what can happen. Lowering standards doesn't always wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 03:45 AM
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Yes, my ex loved to have her rose bushes... Anytime we moved and she had a place to plant them, she did. The only times I really helped was carrying the large bags of dirt and moving the old dirt. (where we lived, the ground was very clay like, so the bushes wouldn't grow in it). We had to replace the dirt with bagged dirt which was more feasible for them to grow. She also didn't like how the bricks, of the garden area in front of the house, looked. They were regular red stone bricks, she wanted…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:19 PM
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I think there's just a lack of honesty here at this point. But maybe I'm wrong and wherever you are, women are not looked at as people to protect.. and people don't have opinions and also don't gossip. I wanna live there, primarily for the benefit of the latter. 😅 Anyways, I'm going to bed.. good night or good day.. Whichever is appropriate for you and your time zone. Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:42 AM
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Hey, that's great. How do you think your family and friends would react.. Do you think they would applaud him, or shame him? How would you respond to their reaction? As for me, I would insist on going. As my kid's Dad... I've always known what to buy.. Just as much as their Mom. We did have labels on whose car was whose.. but it was only a label.. We both contributed to both car payments and what not. So if one car was better suited for the situation.. That'd be the one I'd take, and it would no…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:04 AM
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So are you saying that if you had a choice.. You'd insist that he would always be the one to stay home with the kids.. While you go out in such a situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:20 AM
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I've never said or implied that women weren't strong.. That's a trait I look for in women I look to date. But if you pit a man and woman against each other in a physical altercation.. Men will have the advantage. Same thing if both had to do a physically challenging obstacle course. Now, I'm not speaking of people who are highly trained or have some sort of special training.. I'm talking about average people. So if someone needs to do a run for something in the middle of the night for something,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:20 AM
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You didn't read anything past that line, I see.. Asking that men to "step up".. is no different than saying that men "man up".. which is such a derogatory term. The women that likely are spoken of in that paper, are a rare find these days. Such gender role expectations and lifestyles have changed. Finding a traditional woman that used to exist quite commonly in our society... Would prove to be a rather difficult task these days. They exist, of course.. Just has become an uncommon lifestyle that …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 12:03 AM
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You're talking about from a professional capacity, and what I'm talking about is at the home.. and not a construction site.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:40 PM
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Unfortunately, that is the case. There's a lot of damage that has been done, And that is one of the outcomes that has risen from it. If you look statistically of how many military personnel who are deployed that get cheated on by their spouses.. It's a horrendously large percentage. If you look at other situations where men have "stepped in to help a woman in distress", many times the woman turns on that man to defend her assailant. It's a crazy world all together.. I sure have no idea what the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:38 PM
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That was published in 2004.. Times have changed a lot since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:25 PM
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Never ever? Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. I agree that house stuff should be shared to some extent. But childcare should always be 50/50, as much as possible.. Specifically if you are trying to be a good parent and know your kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:21 PM
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Yes, I agree.. Great strides have been made in regards to ergonomics in that area. I guess you've never had to demo any small brick fences before, for example? Yeah, I have.. And I wouldn't have had my wife (at the time do it). That way my job, to demo and put together the new rose garden area for her to plant her rose bushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:58 PM
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I agree, there's your everyday item that many can do.. and there's stuff where you need a professional. But let's take it down a notch. Like putting gas in ones car, men get roasted if they sit inside the car and the woman gets out to pay and pump the gas in the car.. Why? What happened to the narrative that we are talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:49 PM
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In my other replies, I did.. But the tldr is like during times of uncertainty, like during storms or bad weather.. and the need to run errands or get medicine or other items of need. One wouldn't expect the woman to go. Because if she did, The man will be humiliated through shame and disgust by others around him. But why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:43 PM
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Cool, and that's great. But you still need a 5lb hammer in any situation that deems it necessary... Sure the grip might be slightly thinner, so anyone can use it.. but the right tool is always optimal for any task at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:47 PM
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If you live on the East Coast for example, it's a not so uncommon situation. I live in So Cal, and lately the weather has been bad.. I would never expect my girlfriend or wife to go run errands in such weather. Sure, here the weather is pretty tame compared to other locations.. but it's all the same. I agree that many home tasks should be shared, I never said they shouldn't. Especially childcare. But to have such a negative stance that is carried along with blanket statements that men don't do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:44 PM
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Like the subsequent reply described, there are many tasks around the home that are generally posed as a man's job. It's uncommon for women to openly do those things or "insist" that they share those responsibilities. But there are other situations, while not as common (depending on where you live).. but for example in times of uncertainty.. Like during storms and other even less threatening scenarios such as large scale power outages.. Men are expected to leave the home to do things and what not…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:24 PM
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Sure, many women do live on their own or in a two women household. Companies adapted to the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:10 PM
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A lot of people put a lot of weight into the household stuff.. Which is fine, as well a helping with childcare and stuff family related. That's perfectly fine, but then comes the stuff where a man is solely expected to stand up.. Why don't women openly volunteer for such tasks? Why the imbalance there? Just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:52 PM
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Yeah, I was married for 20 years.. and learned that even after that, and 4 kids later.. That piece of paper really had no more value than a piece of used toilet paper.. At least to my ex.. Which in the end, is what counted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:11 AM
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I think it's due to the gender thing going on.. I got married almost 30 years ago, was married for 20 and had 4 kids. Now divorced, finding dates and matches are so rare and far in-between. Back in the day, going out and meeting women and getting into even small relationships was nowhere near as difficult as it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 02:46 AM
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Yes, men can and are faithful.. but it's up to the individual man. I was married for 20 years, and never cheated.. Things ended when my ex decided she was. I'm not particularly attractive in the conventional sense, but I'm not unattractive either.. I feel I'm more or less average. I believe the average guy is not your referenced example of a cheater, as most of them really are likely faithful. But like with any other scenario, there will be exceptions and outliers. It's when a guy has an overabu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:06 AM
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The average man isn't playing the malicious, impulsive and exploitative games.. as you describe. How can they play such games and hurt women, when they can't even get dates to begin with.. and many men no longer seek them altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 11:55 PM
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Yeah, she feels that you are beneath her.. It's sad, cause if the tables were turned.. It wouldn't be like that between you guys. It's up to you to decide how much, and for how long, you will put up with that kind of treatment.
/r/MensRights08/02/24 04:53 AM
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It's not the same thing, as you can't compare an illegal act versus just hooking up. Also, not everyone is willing or interested in putting themselves at risk of such a serious life changing event if they get caught by the police. While those hooking up, have nothing to worry about. There's also the thing is having to pay whatever the sex workers charge.. While again those partaking in hookups just don't have that worry either. There really is no comparison. It's like trying to compare a woman w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:55 PM
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Not everyone is open to telling truths, by some in part to avoid facing a derogatory point of view by their peers. And yes, there's also those who will exaggerate their lifestyle to look cool amongst their peers. If you look at social media as a whole, you'll see more that are willing to disclose truths. Which is where it's more clear how the difference is between who is partaking in the hookup culture.. and who is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 11:09 PM
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Sure, but keep in mind.. How can you hold someone accountable when they are told by the person they DM.. That they are not in a relationship, or that their relationship is not serious?
/r/MensRights05/02/24 04:45 PM
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Crazy..
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 09:09 AM
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Well, you have to take into account that it takes two to tango. On top of that, there's a lot of conscious decisions that have to be made. Decisions that start from the point of where that woman opens a received DM (for example), and ends up having sex with them. So many points in between where they could have backed out and stayed faithful. So, placing all the blame on those guys who took the opportunity given by that wife or girlfriend.. Isn't where it should be.. At least in hindsight. Those …
/r/MensRights05/02/24 07:35 AM
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I think the issue many men think about, is how easy it really has become to cheat.. Especially for women. On average, most guys don't have women harping at them.. in their DMs. If a woman is promiscuous, the thought is that she will continue to be that way.. and a piece of paper isn't going to stop her. Such temptation would be easily overwhelming cause of her experience.. versus lack there of.. There's no more fear of the idea of cheating or simply meeting new men. The thing is, infidelity isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:51 AM
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They say all, cause they figure someone else is hooking up with guys they ignore and curve.. As they sure aren't, and none of their friends are either.. but they figure someone has to be. Which unfortunately isn't the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 11:07 PM
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If your child really doesn't want to be with Mom.. see if you can get an emergency hearing and custody order for physical custody of that child. I would pursue this first thing tomorrow morning.
/r/MensRights04/02/24 08:23 PM
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I think it depends on what attracts you, and your social circle. More importantly, how much value do you put into that circle's opinion. I have seen guys ridicule other men for dating women who are very much obese. But these guys, didn't care.. and continued to do so. I have also seen men break up with someone, cause guys in their social circle thought she was fat.. When in my opinion, she was simply thick and really fell into my preferences as well. I personally wouldn't end things cause anyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:55 PM
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You being tall.. that alone, carries a lot of weight in how you are positively viewed by women. At 5'6", it's a disadvantage these days.. Just from the start, I'm curved by many women's interest. Back in the day, just being taller than the woman was enough to get passed the initial view. Now, those who are 5'10" and above generally get the attention. At least initially.. as then other factors then get brought into account. Women I've asked, have confirmed that.. primarily cause 5'10 and 6ft are …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:32 PM
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Yes, women have a very different mindset than they did 5,10.. 15 years ago. That's for sure. That shift, is what makes it that the average guy no longer has the opportunities with dating as they one did. Back in the day, I feel I'm in this category, the average guy with an average job and looks.. Didn't have a lot of trouble finding a relationship. You could be more selective, cause of this. These days, the average guy isn't getting many dates. So to offset this, they have to lower their standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:05 PM
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I guess that would depend on the notion that you aren't a transplant or a single parent.. or have a career, or schooling that takes up a lot of your time. As those would be reasonable reasons to not have that large of a social life. Which to me, in some ways makes it seem that you would not be necessarily average anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:27 PM
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I was married for 20 years, and never felt it was "taxing", as you described. Would you explain this a lil bit further, maybe it's just different wording that we may use?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:05 PM
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I once heard the saying, that a guy will get put in his place by society rather quickly.. In terms of sexual desire from women. I think it's true. So, I think with time.. A guy will begin to lower his standards.. however misguided or delusional they may be. Once he starts to get traction with his dating attempts. He may "settle" only cause he values certain traits over others, and to preserve those desired traits he may have found in a potential partner.. He will overlook other traits he may hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:54 AM
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Lol, that video is hilarious!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:49 AM
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The average guy, and those who fall under that level.. Are not the ones enjoying such a lifestyle. Sure, there may be a few outliers that could be.. but the overall majority are not. Can't say the same for women, they will claim that all men are doing it too. But women don't realize what they perceive at "all men", is actually a small percentage of men.. As the rest are simply invisible to them, as options for being a potential sexual or even dating partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 06:49 PM
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A social circle would only bring people around you of your same age group.. and like you mentioned, your friends got married and started families. In such a situation (myself included in this scenario), you'd be around a bunch of married people who seem to never have any single friends.. specifically single women friends. I think the reason is because, no wife is going to bring such threats (women generally are very jealous) around her guy.. Lol! So ending up as a lone wolf, is inevitable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 04:45 PM
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I think it's crazy how society doesn't acknowledge the fact that there are deadbeat mothers out there too.. Women who will torch a guys car, cause he left her.. Women who will physically attack the new partner of an ex. Toxicity isn't gender based. What i have heard is that such behavior by women is due to men showing them that they need to be toxic.. Umm, no. Those who do such things, are simply just toxic. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 11:41 PM
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Very true, but looking at your response of downplaying that need for assistance.. One can say, "all you do is toss items into a machine and push a button".. Thanks for the fact that you have electricity (and possible gas) so those machines can work and do that duty. Which in some cases is the guy who works to fund those services. But two wrongs don't make a right.. ALL functions of a good household have value and should be acknowledged. Otherwise it creates societal divides, like the ones we hav…
/r/MensRights27/01/24 08:56 PM
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I haven't seen that sub, but like with any following or group... You'll have purists, extremists, and the rest. You don't have to be of an extreme red pill stance to be "red pilled". As what was described in the book, take what works for you and leave the rest. In the end, you learn why things are what they are.. and hopefully you'll no longer be in a position to be hurt by the negative traits that some women embrace.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:53 PM
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Really!? That's about as petty as one can get... You are writing down what you want to have purchased for your own dinner. Now cooking, what was brought home, that would be a more reasonable argument. But that is simply hilarious.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 11:30 PM
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So would be the loading of a washing machine to do laundry.. but it gets tossed into the mix. There are trivial things on both sides of the fence.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 05:46 PM
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If you look at the past, a mediocre looking guy who was in ok shape with an average paying job.. Wouldn't be likely to get to his 40s and still be single with no family. That's not the case these days. The difference is that women can be of that same caliber in current times (and also back in the day) and she will not be alone. Unless she really wants that. That disparity does cause some men to just not want to try cause it doesn't seem like it will ever matter. Not like it used to. As dating so…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:11 PM
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It's easy to downplay something cause it seems trivial, but when a person (regardless of gender) is sitting with a task they are unable to perform.. and require the help of someone else.. it's very interesting how it's not so trivial anymore. Such situations are the kind that can truly humble a person.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 03:52 PM
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How about opening of jars, and other such containers.. taking out the trash or moving the trash cans to the curb and bringing them back in? Carrying off heavy stuff like water bottles and what not? It should be a team effort, and there's always going to be unspoken of duties that both do.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 12:39 AM
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Red pill: 1. Do not show your vulnerability to a woman, cause eventually it will be used against you and/or it will be the reason she loses interest. Respect yourself and don't allow yourself to be used or taken advantage of.. If this happens (or anything else disrespectful), be prepared to simply let her go. It's having simply that emotional strength to just walk away with your dignity and self respect. Blue pill: 1. Doing whatever you can to keep someone you are dating or wanting to date aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:06 PM
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I think a lot of women want someone that they can feel proud to show to family and friends.. In many cases, it's the arm trophy she will be walking next to say the next family/friend gathering. A lot has been popularized in social media to make this the desire that women aspire to. Outside of public view though, I think it's a different story. They want stability and security and look for that hot guy to be that way. Which sometimes does end up being the case. When it doesn't happen and they fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:09 PM
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There are extremist views with red pill, like any other thing. I read the book by Rollo Tomasi, and it's said that doing so is a choice.. but not a must. Primarily when you are simply dating. If you want to be in a committed relationship or get into a marriage, then cheating isn't condoned. This is assuming you find a woman who reciprocates your devotion for the success of that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:04 AM
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Well, honestly I think commitment only has value to those who value it. My ex started doing her own thing, after being married for 20 years and after 4 kids. I thought we were happy, and was literally blindsided when I found out. The most messed up part, is that I really thought she was just getting out and enjoying some down time.. while I held down the fort and watched the kids. I encouraged her to get a change of pace and have some fun. I thought it was going to help her. She sounded like she…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:26 AM
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This may be true, once they have started seeing someone.. as those guys who treat women poorly, only thrive by hurting a woman's self-esteem. Hence, she will feel like he's the only guy who really loves her and other men will not. But this is not the average man, we need to talk about the average man and the average woman. To just get something started like a first date, women are way less forgiving than men for traits they consider unpopular or socially unattractive. It isn't a small subset of …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:05 PM
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Those who have no problem finding partners, are not going to want to stop.. or speak against it. Why would they? They are the ones enjoying this lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 01:23 AM
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This isn't really the case, unless they are very young, and once she starts to explore the world. That 5ft dude, will get dumped at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 10:19 AM
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This could have been simply part of the excuse and self-justifing of her actions. But in the months before my ex started cheating, I had expressed my unhappiness with the struggles with my weight and how it was difficult to get back into shape. For context, every time we had a child.. I followed her on her path to "eat for two", I knew it helped her with her self esteem and overall happiness during the pregnancy. So, with our youngest.. as usual, we both gained weight. This time with my job duti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:03 PM
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Ideally, if you reach a point in the dating relationship.. You establish a point where you are exclusive. This can be right away, but typically it's after a few dates. If one person or another starts down the path you mentioned. I question that person's real ability to be serious in a relationship. Cause there will always be better (in hindsight) out there, hence the saying "The grass is greener on the other side". But then when they jump ship, to sometimes only find that it's spray painted tras…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 06:00 PM
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You have to also realize that there are more women who actively on social media (not just here) than there are men.. So you will get a slanted response that props up the bad behaviors of some women as justified.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 02:14 AM
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Yeah, I found myself being a lil more passive on boundary lines.. but am quick to pull the plug, once they really get out of hand. It sucks being alone, and dating prospects are very few and far in-between.. I think it's a thing that has become an issue in recent years. As an average guy didn't have issues dating back 7 to 10 years ago, like how things are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:06 PM
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I think it's true, I mean... I've been happily married previously, and having someone there with whom you can have some great memories with and what not.. it's awesome. So, while some relationships can end up being crap.. You'll hopefully gotten to enjoy some fun and memorable moments before it ended.. That's why I think it's worth trying to find someone to love and enjoy life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:12 AM
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In reality, there's real value in a couple versus any single person (regardless of gender).. but as times currently are, a woman can live alone with the same benefits as being in a relationship. The only difference being that the men in her life are disposable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 03:53 PM
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Women sure have no problem finding a person cause we as men, are not valued anymore. Times have been good, and there's no need to value men. So, unless something changes in the world that directly affects our society and creates the need to value men again. The western world will continue to be this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 03:44 PM
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There are relationships where the men are the homemakers, and the women work in their careers to provide for the family. I presume that would fall into that kind of category.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 04:49 PM
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Nobody can truly see the overarching bad side of a person, until it's typically too late.. regardless of gender. But, in many cases.. These horrible traits can only be hidden, for a short period of time. When the perpetrator is trying to fake it, till they make it. In a lot of cases, the bad side will come out way before serious decisions are made between the couple. The issue that guys will generally refer to is.. Why didn't the person leave them at the first signs of (whatever the situation wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:30 PM
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I would only assume this is said for those instances, where the woman is completely financially supported and is treated well... To only have them seek someone else, and continue to use them for their continued support and the alleviated need to work and support themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 06:20 PM
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Not for women tho.. They hugely still get attention, from a wide range of men. Regardless of their body fat ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:56 AM
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Yet, you see so many pointed posts that would make it seem as if it were a male specific trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:59 PM
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Yeah, but you also left out the large amount of women who are generally not nice in any way to the average person like waiters, stewardesses, hosts and hostesses.. They carry this entitlement attitude and think they are above everyone, and in some cases.. even the law.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:57 AM
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Because, average.. In woman's minds, isn't popular.. I've seen many women post on social media, that they are single. And that it would take someone "exceptional" to change that.. Which if you look at what many put as "preferences" on their dating profiles.. Tall, educated, generous (ie well off financially), etc.. That doesn't describe an average guy. Back in the day, the preferences likely were still the same.. but since there was no real way any average woman could cross paths with the except…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:30 PM
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The fuck zone has a chance to moving forward.. The friend zone, generally does not.. it's very rare anyone can get out and start anything physical with that person.. You are either a basic friend.. or a utility that provides for needs, that the person that they are hooking up with.. isn't providing for them. That's why, as soon as I hear friendship or anything similar from someone who I'm looking to date.. I'm out. Btdt, never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:38 AM
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A woman having a job, shouldn't have any effect on a good relationship. A woman, just like a man.. If she wants to mess around with you, be with you, etc.. Work, chores, kids, etc.. Is not going to sway those thoughts. That idea of "being too tired" is very rarely true.. She just doesn't want to.. Or just not that second.. cause if she really wants to.. even if she's exhausted. She will come to you, as soon as she rests up for a minute. Be it after dinner, hell.. in the middle of the night. Or f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:51 PM
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Heck yeah, but to stay with her. She would need to stop looking for other men to date. That's the dilemma I've been running into lately. They can't let go of the attention they get from random guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 11:02 PM
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If you try and try, to only be invisible to women, cause you don't meet those popular Instagram attention getting looks that women want to show off on social media.. Then, it's not porn or anything else of the like that is the issue.. We need to stop blaming ourselves for things we have no control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:04 PM
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It's her attempt to let you down softly.. You weren't attractive to her, well not attractive enough.. Just let it go, and move on..
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 04:46 PM
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Finding a love interest, seems impossible.
/r/MensRights31/07/23 01:05 PM
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The issue is that women consider the top 10 to 30 percent of men as average. When the true average is 40 to 60 percent of men in attractiveness.. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:36 AM
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Honestly, it's not just for the visuals.. To me, I enjoy touching my partner.. and the added curves bring more to touch and feel. I assume the height, works the same way for women with guys?!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:03 PM
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I would always prefer curvy... Thicc legs and ass.. heaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:04 AM
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When my ex decided to do her own thing, all my flaws and expressed vulnerabilities were thrown at me as an excuse to do her thing. This was after 20 years together. I agree that you should never open up to that level with a women, unless she's a friend that you are not involved with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:30 PM
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Women expect men to pay for dates. I have no problem with this, if things are real... ​ Women who are not able to do equal work (e.g. Most of the building trade, Firefighters, Army, Police, warehouse work etc.) demanding equal pay. I dunno, I have seen some women in those trades who get much respect for their work ethic and quality of work... This might be a tough one to argue your point on. The rest, yeah.. that version of equality is not what it's supposed to be.
/r/MensRights02/11/22 09:11 PM
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What do they mean, nobody questioned 9 men being there?? Isn't that one of the reasons women's wanted equality? Do they not hear themselves? and others who agree, it should be more equal than onesided? The shift didn't start yesterday, been ongoing for years now.. and equality is out there.. As it should be.. Has it over-corrected in some areas? Yes, but nobody on their side wants to talk about that.
/r/MensRights02/11/22 09:03 PM
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Yeah, but in many sub-reddits... If you say that, you'll get down voted to hell.. with so many women saying it's not true. That guys are all multi-dating women all the time.. and how we cannot commit to one.. The problem is that they are speaking about a small handful of guys that are doing this. The rest of us, are simply invisible to most women.
/r/MensRights31/10/22 02:40 AM
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That men have it easier than women in the dating scene.. Such a effin lie.. Women love to throw at us.. knowing damn well, they would never give most guys a chance to begin with.
/r/MensRights31/10/22 02:33 AM
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House cleaning service for a few hours... 😁 Those people clean to a level I could never hope to match.. (About the same price as the flowers that Mom's get for Mother's Day)
/r/MensRights28/10/22 11:31 PM
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Women always check what we are bringing, so why is it offensive if the question is returned to them for feedback?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 06:41 AM
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Just like anyone else, in a single parent situation.. If you have a support system, like your parents, grandparents, etc... It will make things, a lot easier. For the maternal side of things.. Your mom, grandmother, and/or other women in your family can help be there in ways you will likely struggle with and/or be oblivious to. Be open to constructive criticism and learning. You can't be a person, who can't ask for help.. or has any kind of personality that projects pride or arrogance.. or you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:15 AM
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For me, if it were to be a sex only or fwb thing.. Then I would say about 80%. For a real relationship, i think it drops to about 60%.. cause there's certain attributes that I am generally not attracted to.. but if it's not going to be anything serious, it's easy to then just overlook them. This is based on looks alone.. Scratching the surface and taking into account personality, lifestyle, and other attributes.. It really drops to about 40%.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 08:04 PM
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Wow...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 04:36 PM
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These days men are objectified sexually also, hence you see in many social experiment videos women will say.. Height preference is 6ft plus and say the same thing with other body dimensions..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:55 AM
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It used to, back in the day where it wasn't socially acceptable to cheat and break up families. I was in that mindset with my ex, till she walked away "looking to live a life she felt she was missing out on" (that 30/40s party lifestyle and openly dating many men) We were together just over 20 years, and had been through many things together also having 4 kids. I truly felt that way towards her and had blind trust.. Needless to say, i will never be that way again. But it does exist, and can exis…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:36 PM
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Hey, maybe it's a thing where you have a strong type in facial attractiveness that you like and not much outside of that catches your eye. 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:14 PM
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I would say that the Walmart ratio wouldn't be as high as you'd find at a local shopping mall or at a local popular hangout.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:03 PM
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In my opinion, I say it's true. Good looking, versus physically attractive (fit and sexy, personal preferences also come into account here) are two different things. I've seen many, very pretty or cute women who are not fit or in shape.. but their facial features are very attractive. Hence, why in OLD or social media you see a lot of those top/down shots in pics... Or no full body ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 02:50 PM
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In my opinion, i partially disagree. You can pick better people to date.. and those who are abusers and the like.. Should be held accountable. The problem though, is that the latter is hard to do.. Even with women, who cheat and steal. There's always someone who will stand up and try to cancel you for trying to shed light on the situation. Regardless of their gender. As for the original point of picking better people to date, it's the same for both genders. You can't see, if someone is a cheater…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:09 AM
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Women are the gatekeepers of things progressing or not.. Us guys are the chasers and the ones trying to convince the women to give them a chance. Not sure how does that make men have the upper hand?? After 7 years of trying, and countless dates.. I'm still single.. I have no say in trying to get women to give things a chance beyond a couple dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:18 AM
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In my opinion, the example is skewed some.. cause Men also change with time (most anyways) and will want someone who is also stable and not too young to the point where her irresponsibility due to that young age is a problem.. As for settling, it all depends on luck.. just as it does with women. If we are talking, finding sexual partners, then yes.. Women have the advantage.. Anything else, it's pretty much the same. Society has made it this way, as trust and loyalty are not a common as they onc…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:10 AM
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Things that automatically make a guy above average, in my opinion. Height being 6ft or taller Outfit or swag, that display wealth. The appearance of being really fit Unique features, like colored eyes or dimples
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 03:38 PM
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I must live in the wrong neighborhood, and kids go to the wrong schools.. Cause nobody has ever helped me. When we ended up homeless due to crap and the initial separation.. I had all 4 kids with me, i could not find a shelter anywhere.. why? It was because all shelters are for women and their families only. I thank God, i was able to get into a motel and later my current apartment.. but it was a scary moment. I don't believe i was softballed in any way.. i will say that, thanks to my eldest who…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:24 AM
1

Being able to do the bare minimum as a parent and still get showered with praise? By whom? I am a single Dad, who gives this praise you speak of? It is not women, been single for way too long.. Many women run when they find out I have 2 kids living with me, 100% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:06 AM
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Yeah, it's tough with many women who want to be "friends first".. which really translates into she will keep entertaining more men. So unless you are lucky. You will end up wasting your time in the end. They might say they want a relationship, but it's not with someone they match up with right away. She will keep looking and looking hoping for a better guy to come along and then ghost you. I haven't given up yet, but have doubts on meeting someone who's legit and ready to date seriously.
/r/seduction15/06/22 11:16 PM
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I completely agree with this and have found that being a struggle for me. As a single father, with 2 kids at home.. granted they are not young, I still have to work that full time job and maintain a household.. Thus anything crazy or overly spontaneous.. is really not an option for me. Thus, I haven't been able to get anything going for over 5 years, beyond the random first or maybe second dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 06:29 PM
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I think that many do, but such women.. don't really exist, in this societal version of what women see as value in a man. Currently, it's all about swag, looks, height, hung, money/power. Which isn't most guys. So the rest of us, just keep trying without much luck at anything. I was happy in my marriage, it was my ex who felt she was missing out and the rest is history. I never cheated, and there were a few times when I had to avoid certain women as they kept trying to ask me out.. but I never bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:33 AM
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My wife of 20 years had started cheating on me, "over the fear of missing out" which somehow translated into missing out on sleeping with other men.. She started with the lies and then gaslighted me until the facts could no longer be hidden. At that point she just didn't hide it anymore. She knew there was nothing I could do to stop her.. All I could do is watch her leave, knowing she was going on dates.. while I stayed home with the kids.. it was horrible. Yeah, I hated women for a while.. but …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:28 PM
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I think women would take an even harsher step against men. I think it would continue to follow the precedence described in this saying you see a lot on FB and IG: When men gain or grow their resources, the idea is to enhance further through family and their spouse's life. While when women gain or grow their resources, they feel they no longer need a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:23 AM
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Quick answer: Likely taken already, and those who are not.. Are likely in said woman's friendzone, or will be when she meets them. Why the latter, only a woman can answer that one.. But in my opinion. That badboy draw, never goes away for some. So that cycle repeats itself with every badboy she dates.. Over the good guy who didn't catch her attention for long, before he was placed in the friendzone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:11 PM
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My ex would gain and lose whether it was just because or from pregnancies... I never said anything about it, even during the higher weight increases. I might of thought about it in my head, here and there.. But as most always ended up on her ass and thighs.. I would be easily over it, and as I enjoyed those curves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:58 AM
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Yeah, many groups have that hive mentality. So if you aren't with their mindset or question anything about it. Banned
/r/MensRights16/01/22 06:10 AM
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Someone to talk to, but like a partner in life or best friend.. Someone to share fun and (non sexual) intimate moments with. To know that someone actually cares about you, just as you do them. It's always nice to think about someone when you see memory triggers (like their favorite candy, color, animal, etc.) It's always nicer to snuggle up and binge watch movies or shows with someone special. Having those random lunch dates with them to just hangout or get away from the everyday mundane lunch a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 05:14 AM
1

My kids Mom's fav and overly spoiled kid, is our youngest.. Which is a boy.. My Mom, seems to only really be open and more closer to me. But that could be cause, in her current marriage. I'm the step child.. So I dunno, but if this is really a thing.. Maybe we are just the odd balls of the bunch.
/r/MensRights08/01/22 07:26 PM
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Marriage isn't necessarily a scam, but always remember that there "could" be a day where your wife decides she isn't happy.. and be prepared. Enjoy the good times, and don't hold back and do your thing with her. If your time with her ends, and she moves to someone else. Then it is what it is. Find someone new, and while this might prove tough for some of us.. Never give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:35 AM
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Wow, I used to see Dr. Phil as a fair guy.. but this just shows what a POS simp he really is. Anyone and everyone, should be able to protect themselves and use self defense.
/r/MensRights28/12/21 06:12 PM
1

There's more aspects that need to also be considered. Boys raised by single mothers, who try to teach said boys to not be like their fathers. To be good to women. Also, men who see how their lives were in a broken home. Who do not want that for their future kids.. How they grow up learning to cope with anything women throw at them. To the point, in many cases, of spousal abuse.. by the wife to the husband. They complexity of possibilities is endless.. but one thing I think that has really hurt s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 08:14 AM
2

It must be a bad part of town, or a neighborhood where she knows she shouldn't be at.. Btdt, growing up... But the narrative of her getting assaulted by only guys.. is false. Growing up, I was robbed by a trio.. 1 girl, 1 boy, the other, I couldn't tell.. it was getting dark and they had hoodies and they pointed the gun at me telling me to look down. Just keeping things real... Gender doesn't matter, bad people can be anyone.
/r/MensRights14/06/21 07:45 AM
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Hey, do what you feel is best for your sanity.. Just remember, that knowledge is power.. You can always come back when you are ready.
/r/MensRights27/04/21 09:36 PM
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I've always said, equality.. ..means exactly that, not simply a way to conform to social pressures. You gotta love that 2 way street, even if it's only 1 out of 10 times.
/r/MensRights17/04/21 10:05 PM
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So much for social equality... It really amazes me, how men are often treated like second rate citizens.. And it's socially acceptable to do so.. Sometimes even applauded.
/r/MensRights06/04/21 05:24 AM
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Just want to wish you the best of luck on whatever venture you decide to pursue.. The world is ever changing, as life is ever changing. Never give up, and take things one day at a time and one step at a time. Set short term goals, simple ones.. Like will submit x amount of applications this week.. Update my resume this month. Things to start to look up, as your start crossing those short term goal lines.
/r/MensRights05/04/21 07:29 AM
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