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Did you dare to SNEEZE also??!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 04:48 AM
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That's what I though also. Intentionally provoking, otherwise the footage wouldn't be convincing and "interesting". Twisted.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 04:00 AM
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And also being rightfully angry. And angry vs. sad. Lots of nuance, but women claim to be really good at reading human emotions, unless it suits their agenda, I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 05:09 PM
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People (women, mostly) criticize men for only showing anger as their sole emotion, yet they also assume every emotion a man feels is anger, even with no evidence to it, it's just convenient and suits the stereotype.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/26 05:27 AM
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Oh, and they suddenly "need to find themselves again", "rediscover their true selves" etc.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 06:24 AM
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I'm glad I took my dog and it was something I was absolutely not willing to negotiate although she was trying to take him from me (I was taking care of him mostly anyway). Also, I secured my watch collection and I'm glad I did seeing what she did with my other belongings.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 05:16 AM
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There's a difference between supporting each other and profiting off of people's misery or even encouraging the destruction of families.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/26 06:06 PM
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It's almost like they had a (financial) interest in other women heading towards divorce...
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 05:30 AM
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"Certified divorce coach"? You give some good and helpful advice, but I'm sorry, "divorce coach" just sounds vampiric and plain sad. Guys, skip divorce coaches and hire attorneys. This culture of normalising the destruction of families has gone too far already.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 05:29 AM
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"Life isn't about winning. It's about enjoying". Thank you, brother. I needed this. That's the difference between me and my ex-wife - she views the divorce as a fight she won - I view it as a tragic event in which we both lost. But she rewrote the whole story and wallows in her hatred and misery while I can confidently say: I loved truly for six years. I was really happy and I don't regret those years. I learned a lot. I won't repeat the same mistakes and I know now how to love more maturely. It…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 09:23 PM
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Great advice, thank you a lot! Have a great New Year!
/r/MensRights01/01/26 06:25 PM
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I also enjoy being only with my dog. Last Christmas (the first one after the divorce) was rough, but now it's much better. I am free to do what I want, not constantly judged and having to hear what I do wrong or should do differently or - when it comes to the holidays - what I should do because it's what I'm supposed to do for the sake of our families, how to behave when we're with her family etc. etc. I don't have to fake anything and I'm not judged for anything and it's a great feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:39 PM
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Thank you for this. My exact thoughts. It's not one person's role to always be suspicious, look for signs, psychoanalize etc. I even asked my ex-wife if everything's OK multiple times when I saw she was sad and she lied it was just a mild seasonal depression for which she then refused my help. And afterwards it was all my fault because I didn't read the signs, as is the fault of all of us men here, from what I can gather. No. Adults should communicate. Plain and simple. If they're not capable of…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 04:12 AM
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Thank you. I hope so!
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 05:34 PM
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I enjoy not being judged for small things and hobbies. I also realised how little she did for me, small things like tea or sandwich, taking care when I was sick etc. It's like she lived next to me, not with me, while I tried to care for her with her chronic illness. She also fully embraced angsty teen-like attitude "I never forgive, I'm the only one that matters, I'm strong and independent and to spite others - parents or, in this case, husband - I will destroy the last remnants of empathy I had…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 02:32 PM
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23 kg/50 lbs from the stress alone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 04:23 AM
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Thank you! I'm doing much better. In November we had the final court hearing (post-divorce, financial stuff) and now when I know I won't have to see her again I think I'll heal better. We were fighting in courts for over a year and it was draining. The heartbreak was one thing, but the inability to leave it all behind was another issue. Now the loneliness hits but I'm not in a hurry to a new relationship. It would be nice to have someone close, but I have to built something better in the future …
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 06:43 PM
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From what I learned from my attorney in my divorce in Poland, those recordings can be used in court also.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 04:28 AM
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I'm not from America, but my country seems to follow the same trends that you so very correctly describe. Middle Europe always strived to be "like the West" and, unfortunately, that includes echoing the worst societal trends that don't even make sense in our economy (I'm not going to mention tradition and culture since those things change constantly and rapidly, whether I like it or not).
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 04:12 PM
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I'm sure it is, I've read many such stories on this sub. Social media + social contagion. And most that follow their peers will end up unhappy, as with any social epidemic. It will just take time for them to realise.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 03:55 AM
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Exactly my experience also. My friends told me to fight for my marriage, do everything possible because that's what matters, my family. Her friends? You go girl, dump that prick, we support you, because you're always right. No challenging her decisions even when she did the most confusing and stupid things. Echo chamber indeed.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 03:53 AM
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It really is crazy how we all have the same story (at least most of us). Makes the social contagion theory all the more tangible. The social media brain rot, the constant encouragement to 'find yourself', 'be free' but always at the cost of your family, husband and children, the push to be a 'strong' and 'independent' woman - meaning selfish and arrogant... Traditional media also push this narrative for girls and women of all ages. It's never too early or too late to finally be 'independent'. An…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 03:49 AM
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Oh... Oh no... You made me think... And I can't remember a situation where she made a sandwich or coffee for ME, not for us or herself. I made food and drinks for HER all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:01 AM
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Maybe, it's common in some countries, but still people should fight to change these laws instead of reinforcing this worldview. I know it's in the UK law and is terrible for many victims, both male and female.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/25 05:07 AM
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I've learned that my ex-wife lied to her mother about our wedding preparations even before we got married, and the lie was passed on to my mother and only recently resurfaced. I wonder how many other small lies were being distributed throughout the years when everything supposedly was fine in our marriage. When things started falling apart, she started rewriting the past completely in unbelievable ways, creating a complete fiction in the place of our lived, shared reality. I guess her parents go…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 03:02 AM
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Sounds interesting, I'll definitely listen to her. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 04:34 AM
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They're looking for "masculinity" while demonizing it as "toxic" at every step. Make up your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 04:39 AM
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Thank you, that actually explains a lot about my ex also.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 04:22 AM
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I think it is kind of an agenda. I see the kind of posts my ex-wife consumed on the social media. Anti-marriage, anti-children, anti-family and very anti-men, full of hatred and basic level "girlbossing". Maybe it will take a whole generation when all those "girlbosses" get old and lonely and full of regrets for the course of things to correct themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 04:18 AM
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Perfectly said. They deserve the door if they didn't consider including their husbands in their reasoning, having any discussions, showing any respect, instead were plotting backstage and came to us with the end result "I want the divorce only". It's a sign of a lack of respect in the first place and a sign that a marriage is something that's not important to them anymore since they're acting on their own now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 04:15 AM
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They go to where the money and the power is. The people in power and those who have money in entertainment are largely feminist and woke, so there goes our everyday entertainment.
/r/MensRights03/10/25 04:09 AM
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It went from toxic masculinity exists and we should reject it to all masculinity is toxic and we must reject it from the youngest age possible. There is nothing wrong with either masculinity or femininity. There can be toxic behaviors on either side, because we're all human and can behave badly. It's really simple. But belonging to a certain gender is not a moral issue whatsoever.
/r/MensRights20/09/25 02:49 AM
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Might be Andrea Dworkin. Incredibly hateful, openly and produkt endorsing violence and aggression towards men. Her legacy and influence is sadly very much alive and kicking today.
/r/MensRights20/09/25 02:46 AM
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A few days ago I had a second wedding anniversary since I'm apart from my ex-wife. I forgot about it until the very next day. I was very glad because to me it meant that I'm slowly (veeery slowly) healing and not thinking about all this stuff all the damn time. But usually I remember all the anniversaries very well. I have a very strange kind of memory where certain songs, scenes from movies, scents, views, little snippets of life can remind me of other things and as a consequence I remember not…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 08:50 AM
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I think my ex wife married me based on some fantasy she had. What fantasy it was? I have no fucking idea (maybe some Instagram cutesy fancy 'relationship goals' type photos), I don't think she has either, but once reality kicked in and she had to put some effort into the relationship and maybe fix something that wasn't working, she checked out. So yeah, some women marry out of strange reasons that maybe they even don't fully understand themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 08:42 AM
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It does get easier. I'm a year and a half after my split from my ex-wife (she initiated the divorce) and a few days ago was the second wedding anniversary since we're apart. I didn't realize it was the anniversary until the next day. It means that it doesn't occupy my mind all the time like it used to a year ago. We're still entangled in some legal battles (splitting assets, divorce is done) so I hope that after all is done it will be even easier for me to not think about all of this all the tim…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 08:37 AM
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Thank you, so beautifully written. You described my thoughts and feelings perfectly, better than I ever could. It's kinda funny how with all our different stories, all the little variations and walks of life we are, after all, really not that different as men, as human beings - our feelings in the face of a severe crisis, our emotional reactions, and our pain are all shared. Maybe here is the possibility for finding some strength - by not allowing ourselves to get consumed by darkness and loneli…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 09:26 PM
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That's why you go to therapy and work with medical professionals instead of making a whole philosophy out of your own misery and prejudice...
/r/EverydayMisandry25/08/25 08:23 AM
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Women destroy their marriages, families and relationships and other women cheer for their "growth". When I was going through the divorce everyone among my friends was telling me to fight for my marriage and don't give up. What dismal times. It's a parody, but maybe it's a natural evolution of this whole self-help/self-actualization at any cost bullshit...
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:38 PM
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That's what I was surprised by when I started browsing this sub here - how similar our stories are. We were given no reasons and our (ex) wives showed no remorse, changed overnight... Something dismal is going on in the world today. And contrary to bad things happening in the past, nowadays it's viewed as a positive change. A dive into r/MensRights can help explain it a bit more when it comes to the other side's attitudes in general.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 04:07 AM
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I myself have realised this about my ex after the breakup. I refused to see it in her before simply because I loved her, but the signs were absolutely there. And all this social media toxic 'positivity' definitely made it even worse. One of the signs of selfishness is the refusal to work on the relationship and instead choosing to only do what is right for her (in the moment, might I add). Other people don't matter, family doesn't matter, the husband and sometimes even kids don't matter because …
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 04:03 AM
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Exactly this. Very easily influenced by this type of content, only mixed with radical feminist "all men are bad and should be killed" type shit. It was also sudden but I guess it was a part of her personality I underappreciated.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 07:03 AM
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She'll die of hunger and won't have anything to wear unless she's willing to hunt for food and make her own clothing from the animals she hunted.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/25 02:38 PM
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The real feminists are like ghosts, everyone has heard about them but no one has seen them!
/r/EverydayMisandry16/08/25 02:37 PM
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So she's even giving him drugs he doesn't want to take in his water? I'm pretty sure that can be a crime and at least would be seen as such if the genders were reversed.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/08/25 04:05 AM
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Anatomically we have the EQUIPMENT to be raped. Biology 101. Also, what a horrible choice of words.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/25 02:54 AM
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saying that you hate all men is bad = literal incel worldview
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/25 02:53 AM
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Another one of those "graphs" where you have no idea what the author even meant. It's esotheric on the level of some old poetry and can be analyzed and interpreted in different ways.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/25 02:51 AM
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That's a wild reach.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/25 02:47 AM
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What the fuck is even a "moid"? What a pile of hateful shit. Horrifying. They're creating their own parallel universe and their own pseudo-science to justify their prejudices and discrimination. And then they're mad at being called "feminazis" when they're going this eugenic route history has seen before.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/08/25 02:45 AM
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They're privileged and socialized that way from the very beginning. They also can't stand rejection because they view men as gooners who drool at the simple notion of a woman being even slightly interested in them.
/r/MensRights10/08/25 04:01 AM
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Exactly. They want women to be heard, but only those who agree with the agenda. A great example is the abortion debate - they expect all women to be pro-choice and frame it in a way that being pro-choice (or pro-abortion really) is inherently pro-women while being pro-life is anti-women and misogynistic, at the same time silencing pro-life women's voices and pretending such women don't exist. Or, at the very least, trying to paint them as being manipulated by evil patriarchy, because they're voi…
/r/MensRights10/08/25 03:59 AM
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Yeah, the 'harmless' homophobia that just gets men killed or beaten up because of their identity. Truly a mild annoyance at best compared to all the suffering all other people on the planet endure.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/08/25 05:11 PM
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You should channel your inner hatred, if you happen to hate something/someone enough. It seems to fuel this kind of imagination.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 02:23 PM
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So calling women 'gold diggers' is misogynist, but now calling men the same is somehow completely okay?
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 02:21 PM
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Misandry is 3% as prevalent as misogyny? That's a pretty... specific statistic.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 05:15 AM
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You apparently can't worry about actual rape and false allegations at the same time. They're so narrow-minded.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 05:13 AM
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The only female-fronted band I semi-regularly listen to is Paramore. I guess I'm a misogynist, especially since I don't hold all the current pop starlets in very high regard.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 05:11 AM
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But not too much. And say only the phrases that are correct. And not mansplain. Among other things.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 05:08 AM
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Feminists discover what being in a relationship means and are truly disgusted by it.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 05:07 AM
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How dare they speak!
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 05:05 AM
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Why does a mother know her child's symptoms and a father doesn't? That's my point. This notion that mothers know and fathers don't.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/07/25 04:34 AM
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I'm completely lost on what this "meme" is supposed to convey. I have some guesses but refuse to think about it anymore. Just remember folks, we can care about different issues at the same time and remember women, all discrimination is bad.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/07/25 02:33 PM
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I'll always defend the position that the real enemy was always the rich, ruling class that imposed their rules and laws on citizens, no matter their gender. Women can share their grievances and men can share theirs and we can try to up one another and convince others who had it worse, but the truth is, the rich always lived a comfortable life, no matter their gender, while the poor suffered. Also the position that the laws discriminating women were imposed by "men" is fundamentally flawed. They …
/r/EverydayMisandry30/07/25 04:44 AM
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Thank you for the kind response. Post divorce I found it somehow psychologically easier to be more dismissive of women and I disregarded this itch, because my bad experience with one bad person (well, maybe more than one) is not reflective of half of the world's population. It's easy to fall into a rabbit hole when you're fueled by emotions. I deeply care about men's rights issues because I see how accepted it is to say horrible things about men with no pushback whatsoever. During the Men's Ment…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/25 06:01 PM
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I think the history tends to get manipulated on this issues. You're absolutely correct pointing out the burden of hard work done by men and, by extension, the danger of doing such work, which included hunting, fighting in wars etc. It's getting overlooked and it's totally done on purpose. But it's also true that women didn't have many rights such as voting, having bank accounts and financial freedom, weren't allowed to get education (apart from the rich women, and that maybe hints at a class dyn…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/25 05:51 PM
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I didn't strive to explain all causes of gender-based hatred. You're right in your analysis. I was more focusing on this specific aspect of certain people turning to hatred as a result of their personal experiences, failed relationships etc. This happened to many women I know, my ex-wife for example became a raging misandrist who revels in stories of men being abused and cheers on vile acts of violence towards men simply because she was disappointed in me as a man, personally, and our relationsh…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/25 05:42 PM
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I see this explanation quite often recently - that misandry is just women reacting to bad experiences with men and therefore their hatred is justified. But exactly the same can be said about misogyny and they wouldn't say it's justified, I'm sure. Although it is true psychologically, people react with hate to something that is connected to something negative in their past.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/07/25 12:53 PM
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Yeah, apparently nothing matters as long as it's against men. They can get away with so much creepy stuff that, if it was directed against women, it would be deemed absolutely unacceptable.
/r/MensRights28/07/25 09:58 AM
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Do they really do a background check of your comments on other subs and can ban you on this basis? Or simply because you're subscribed to some subreddits you might not even agree with? I genuinely thought they ban people for what they say on each subreddit, even if their reasoning might be flawed or biased (and frequently is). That's absolutely ridiculous. They willingly give themselves more work to do scanning for your comments in other communities, that's bullshit.
/r/MensRights27/07/25 02:00 PM
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"Cheating culture" Is this the sequel to "Rape culture"? The original underperformed at box office so they need a new one. (For context, to be sure I'm read correctly - I think rape is a horrible crime, I just find the notion that jokes are something that leads to crime ridiculous and harmful, the same can be said about the notion that every man is a potential rapist) But the studies were probably conducted by MEN so they're unreliable or something.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/25 04:31 AM
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I believe it goes hand in hand. They claim it doesn't exist, but when you show them clear examples that it definitely does, they resort to claiming that it's not important and marginal and then hijack the conversation to talk about their own issues, real or imaginary.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/25 04:29 AM
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You probably CAN make a point about misogyny being a systematic issue (I personally don't believe it is anymore), but then you have to accept that misandry is even more rooted in the system and accepted by the system, since misandric hate speech is widely accepted in the mainstream, and misogynistic talk has been relegated to the fringe.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/25 04:27 AM
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The same person probably has hundreds of posts where she complains about the hell of living as a woman and having to stand on a bus ride for five minutes or wait in line while shopping like everyone else, the absolute horror. That's the stuff they view as serious discrimination nowadays. Real death, suicide? Phew, as longer as a man dies.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/25 04:24 AM
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We, men, shouldn't be allowed to ever feel good about ourselves, apparently. Everytime we are enjoying a good pizza or something, please remember of the hell Weinstein's victims endured and think about the fact that WE are also men, just like Weinstein is. Sweet dreams, you male.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/07/25 04:20 AM
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Well said, absolutely.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/07/25 03:12 PM
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No such conversation ever happened. Glad to be of help.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 05:06 PM
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They just repeat the same phrases all over again. I've seen the exact same wording many times before every time someone tries to challenge their status quo. It's no thoughtful response, but rather regurgitating of talking points and buzzwords.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:42 PM
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False allegations literally kill men who are falsely accused and in the 'best' case scenario, if men are convicted and sent to prison, lead to REAL rape of those innocent men in prison. Fucking disgusting garbage behaviour and absolutely truly EVIL tweet.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:40 PM
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Well, men who hate women also hate them because they had bad experiences with some women in the past. And they also have some women in their lives whom they respect like their mothers, wives etc. I don't see any difference apart from the "we are so scared all the time" schtick.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:33 PM
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Am I the only one who genuinely hates this internet newspeak like "Thanks Queen [star emoji]" or "you go girl"? It's a very distinct way of expressing oneself and it's always used by awful people, usually in context of justifying some vile shit like violence against men or casual sexism.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:31 PM
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Because mothers are somehow magically experts in the field of medicine by the virtue of being mothers while fathers are idiots who have to... learn how to be a parent by being a parent and asking a medical professional when their child is ill?
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:27 PM
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"He's no longer your son, because he starts to question your dogmas and develop his own opinions and feel a sense of belonging to some people other than you who dare to have different opinions too"
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:25 PM
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I'm sure she wasn't. Judging by her surprise at the "triggered" responses to her hateful post any slight pushback to her prejudices and attitudes she would classify as abuse.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:22 PM
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"I must have said something incredibly brave and revolutionary judging by the reactions!"
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:20 PM
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Wow, men are butthurt because of my absolute hatred, prejudice and discrimination aimed at my own child! What a dangerous idiot. I hope the poor boy has some other person whom he can trust and who can guide him in life, male or female. It's disgusting how it's now acceptable to post such hateful vile shit without any accountability.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 04:19 PM
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Yeah, it's exactly the same kind of rhetoric they (rightly) pushed back against and called "rape culture". But when the roles are reversed this narrative is somehow okay and even encouraged.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 07:29 AM
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This current normalisation of paedophilia is truly disgusting. Feminists seem to have no moral issue with condoning murder, rape, cheering on suicide rates and other atrocities as long as men are the victims.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 07:27 AM
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That's just a normal outcome of men and women being better at certain jobs. The thing the feminist narrative strongly pushes against with their quotas and other nonsense. But it leads to the catholic church/Canadian residential school abuse scandals sequel, unfortunately. Those kinds of close environments always lead to people supporting each other against the outer world and having each other's backs. That's where some diversity would be a good thing, I guess. Opening to new ideas and, ultimate…
/r/MensRights24/07/25 07:26 AM
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Will it work the other way? A rhetorical question, I know.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 07:23 AM
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You can make a stretch and say that it leans to the topic of stereotyping/societal expectations for men in current landscape. If you're being generous, that is.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 07:22 AM
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We're all being used by the big corporations and the rich people. Baited to fight a meaningless fight instead of reclaiming our rights as men and for all human beings and see clearly who the real enemy is and, at the very least, who is profiting from us fighting each other which leads to losing focus of the real struggles.
/r/MensRights11/07/25 12:57 PM
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And they'll vanish if we let hatred get the hold of us. It's not the way to win this fight, brother.
/r/MensRights11/07/25 12:55 PM
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Because it's stupid and counterproductive to hate someone based solely on their gender. We need to fight for our rights as men and counter the hate against us instead of perpetuating the war of the sexes.
/r/MensRights10/07/25 10:00 AM
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But the feminists call it empowerement. Men criticize it (although not nearly as often as they probably should) and it's good they do.
/r/MensRights09/07/25 04:19 PM
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And if it's good it's the Girl Power and all thanks to feminism!
/r/MensRights09/07/25 04:17 PM
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Of course they do, they're so narrow-minded that their "fight for the cause" boils down to feigning action while excluding everyone who could help based purely on their own prejudices.
/r/MensRights09/07/25 11:02 AM
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You're correct. They'll twist is to confirm their bias either way. It's the same exact rhetoric as racist people use when describing crime in the black community. When a black person attacks a white person, it's "black people evil". When someone points out that the black community is massively affected by crime and mostly black people are the victims, they say "well, they do it to each other, so black people evil". And to think feminists brand themselves as socially conscious...
/r/MensRights02/07/25 07:28 PM
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I agree with everything you say. That was my purpose to creating this post - I wanted to know what others think that we should do about such posts. We can't be silent, even when we are silenced. I think we should create our own content to challenge those people's hate and prejudice. We should point out that what they're saying is not only hateful, but - most importantly - harmful. And here comes the issue that you accurately brought up, which is very important and crucial for such interactions. …
/r/MensRights02/07/25 07:23 PM
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In some countries the profession of therapist is not really regulated by law and anyone with 3 years studies in psychology (or even a quick online course) can claim to be a psychologist/therapist who tries to help people with severe mental issues. And a true therapist should be licensed, undergo multiple trainings and supervision. It's too important of a profession, since they deal with life and death situations daily, to leave it to some randoms.
/r/MensRights02/07/25 02:53 PM
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They would point to some fringe post on Reddit or somewhere from pickup artists and Tate worshippers writing similar things about women and claim it's actually equal for both genders. But it's not, because the fringe social media posts by anonymous people is one thing, and such articles written in large mainstream news outlets by "journalists" is a completely different thing. It's not the same. And I've heard the exact argument a hundred times, equating some random anonymous misogynistic post on…
/r/MensRights02/07/25 02:50 PM
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If men cheated "to stay" or just cheat period, the same article would tell their wives to divorce them ASAP. They're really striving to create a world without ANY moral values, and they're not trying to be provocative or something, they are honest, they want marriages to fail, breakups to happen because of the most trivial reasons. And then blame men for all that went wrong. It also shows their lack or empathy, cheating and divorce destroys people, derails their whole life trajectory, and we're …
/r/MensRights02/07/25 02:45 PM
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But it's against "patriarchy", not men, they'll argue! While in reality "patriarchy" is just another word for "all men in the world".
/r/MensRights02/07/25 04:48 AM
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Feminists claim to care about many minorities, most of them are pro-LGBT, they also claim it's important to give voice to those silenced, oppressed; but when it comes to false accusations suddenly it's a "minority" that is somehow not worth talking about? So which is it - really caring about highlighting minority issues or rather selective care for carefully selected "minorities" that are WORTH defending for them? Also, if a man is falsely accused of rape and gets sent to prison, it's creating a…
/r/MensRights02/07/25 04:44 AM
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Yeah, they create their own parallel universe to confirm their hateful bias.
/r/MensRights01/07/25 02:48 AM
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It is, and along with TikTok it's the absolute cesspit filled with lots of misandry to cater to young girls. Unfortunately, it's very effective in radicalizing them.
/r/MensRights01/07/25 02:47 AM
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It will take time, possibly years, and probably requires some societal shift towards this kind of pure hatred being considered as something shameful. As long as they feel encouraged by the society and social media, they will continue to go this downward spiral.
/r/MensRights30/06/25 02:35 PM
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Of course they wouldn't. Maybe on some protest where they'd feel the strength in numbers, but not in any everyday scenario. They laugh about guys sitting in their parents' basement but they're surely writing it on a computer their parents bought for them in their comfy family home. Either way they hide behind anonymity and they feel encouraged by the fact that it's basically permitted on social media to write such hideous stuff.
/r/MensRights30/06/25 02:32 PM
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I would go even further and say they won't even be able to understand any struggles of misogyny themselves. They're privileged brats sitting on their iPhones all day while their parents pay all the bills. They get worshipped and chased after. From the way it's written I don't suspect we're dealing with an adult person who has lived through anything.
/r/MensRights30/06/25 04:38 AM
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One of those sexist accounts also proposed an extended version of the 4B movement which (from what I can gather) is a separatist movement urging women to isolate from men, don't marry, have children etc. Now they added this and I think it's quite funny in its sheer stupidity: "7B4T adds: No unnecessary talking to men. This includes arguing with men since it's a drain of energy and also degrading to debate your human rights, as well as no unnecessary platonic relationships with men as they will s…
/r/MensRights29/06/25 06:47 PM
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You're a man so in their minds you're privileged by default. But this rhetoric unveils their true purpose - they want supremacy and they want privilege for themselves by shutting our voices down. They'll justify it by their view that their voices were silenced on the past and now it's our turn, but they no longer have any right to tell the world that they fight for equality when they outright tell half of the world's population that they should shut up and that their voice doesn't matter.
/r/MensRights29/06/25 06:39 PM
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Exactly. It literally KILLS people. And in the best case scenario, destroys their whole life as sometimes they spend decades behind bars for a crime they didn't commit. Reminds me of this Teen Vogue editor who wrote on Twitter that "if some men will be wrongfully accused and convicted in the wake of the MeToo movement it's a cost I'm willing to take". But it's not your cost, you dumb fuck, it's people's lives they're messing with.
/r/MensRights29/06/25 06:35 PM
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Another amazing essay. I love reading your work, it's incredibly well researched and put together. I feel like everyone should read it regardless of their opinion. It's really eye-opening.
/r/MensRights29/06/25 04:31 AM
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"Girl boss" and "She was tired and felt oppressed" and "Free her" comments from other women in 3... 2... 1...
/r/MensRights29/06/25 04:21 AM
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Trans-exclusionary radical feminist.
/r/MensRights28/06/25 07:34 AM
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No criticism allowed. No differing opinion. No challenging of the status quo or pointing towards any other issue that their own. They need to be the perpetual victims, and the only victims. That's also the reason for the whole TERF movement - no other victims allowed.
/r/MensRights28/06/25 03:16 AM
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She probably chose her wording specifically to be the most indicative of a serious crime, and why not add human trafficking to the list? It just helped her create a litany of accusations she had no proof for.
/r/MensRights26/06/25 11:30 AM
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Oh yeah, they forged an FBI letter and called a welfare check on him that to this day is widely referred to in media as an "FBI raid on Manson's home". If he was such a monster and criminal for decades, truly not a single piece of evidence that would hold up in court could be found? It didn't seem to be a problem in ANY other high-profile MeToo cases like Weinstein, R. Kelly, Diddy or Cosby. And yet this simple truth doesn't reach people who just want to see men cancelled for all of the harm all…
/r/MensRights26/06/25 05:29 AM
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When Marilyn Manson was accused of sexual assault and then most of the accusations were proven to be false and it was also proven that the women accusing him were working together on their stories and collaborating behind the scenes to manufacture their lies and bring him down, people who believed the accusations didn't take a step back. They didn't analyze what happened and that maybe the truth wasn't what they believed it to be. They turned to the last "argument" they had - the age gap argumen…
/r/MensRights25/06/25 08:30 AM
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That's amazing! I'll be reading everything you post. You'll find a lot of examples of hate on this subreddit, as well as real life stories of injustice by the legal system. Just remember to take a break sometimes and take care of yourself, because it gets dark when you really start reading all the stories of people getting their life ruined for being of the wrong gender, and even when you go to TikTok or Twitter and see all those hateful comments.
/r/MensRights24/06/25 06:24 PM
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I look forward to more essays, it's a delightful read, and you put into wise words the things that always bother me the most about the misandrist aspects of our culture. I had pointless discussions with people who couldn't understand how something's sexist towards men and didn't even try to think what would happen if they replaced the word "men" with "women" in their hate speech. It's the simplest thought experiment and test for me - if it would be considered sexist and offensive if directed tow…
/r/MensRights24/06/25 12:34 PM
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That's a whole new level of stupidity and/or malice (probably malice) - writing "m*n". It's full on dehumanization, and we know how this kind of treatment ends.
/r/MensRights24/06/25 07:36 AM
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Thank you for caring and for your writing. You have a subscriber.
/r/MensRights24/06/25 04:17 AM
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So a normal part of any healthy relationship? Am I missing anything?
/r/MensRights18/06/25 05:19 AM
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I would say the feminist movement can't really ideologically side with the LGBT movement because that would be admitting that women are not the only victims and, perhaps, not the biggest in the world. All the evidence points to trans folks being the ones most affected by real-world violence, not to mention discrimination and mental health issues, yet we have the TERF movement which is a big part of modern feminism.
/r/MensRights17/06/25 03:01 AM
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They just need to include that part like that has to do with anything.
/r/MensRights17/06/25 02:57 AM
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It's about what they count into "manosphere" I guess. They're trying to make it into some kind of an extremist group and in the process group all men concerned about their own rights together with school shooters and similar clowns.
/r/MensRights17/06/25 02:51 AM
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And with that I can agree.
/r/MensRights17/06/25 02:49 AM
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I'm not necessarily talking about having kids, that's an individual's choice. I meant believing the notion that life spent alone and caring only about yourself is the only life worth living. Focusing on career, money etc. Ditching friends, relationships etc. I believe we need connection with each other and as time goes by, the loneliness gets worse.
/r/MensRights16/06/25 12:25 PM
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Don't be sorry, it's not your fault I got angry, it's the actions of other people around you. You absolutely are the victim, but one thing I noticed while going through my own divorce - women usually have a closer circle of friends and more friends in general and share a lot of stuff with their female buddies and family. And all those buddies will believe without any doubt that you're the bad guy, the only one to blame, and your wife is a flawless person. I got cut off from all mutual friends wh…
/r/MensRights16/06/25 12:23 PM
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They loathe the idea of MGTOW, but basically invented their own version of it - 4B I think it's called. Basically femcels hiding behind a facade of independent, free-spirited women.
/r/MensRights15/06/25 04:40 AM
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They will realize they're NOT happy in 20 years or sooner. Just wait and see. The bitterness in them will get even worse and it will already be too late for them.
/r/MensRights15/06/25 04:38 AM
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I'm a person who would be happy with someone who is a good human being worth spending my life with, but coming from an unhappy marriage, it's refreshing coming to my own home to do things I want to do and like to do and know no one will judge me for the kind of entertainment I choose to consume, staying too late to watch movies/play games, not doing dishes the right way (lol) etc. Human beings long connection with others, but other people are often disappointing and hurt us and it's important th…
/r/MensRights15/06/25 04:36 AM
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"The truth is the most important thing". And then they make up further justifications for ruining this man's life saying that the daughter is lying now. Just hideous. It's not about truth. The slogan "believe all women" has to be one of the most compromised slogans to ever come up at this point. I'd say, "believe all who are accused", because why not for a change. Let's roll with this for a few years, honestly it won't do more harm than this nonsense "believe all women/victims" was.
/r/MensRights15/06/25 04:06 AM
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I got angry, very angry from reading your story. You're a victim of abuse, personal and systematic. You obviously don't deserve what's happened to you. You're a much better parent than your miserable wife can ever dream of being. It's truly horrible how one person can ruin someone else's life and feel no remorse afterwards. Know one thing though - no matter how tough it gets, you don't deserve to die. You're the victim and you've done nothing wrong. You shouldn't be gone from this world no matte…
/r/MensRights14/06/25 07:39 AM
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I see the exact opposite, especially on this sub. 'Feminists' in general just jump to every conversation they can with the same man-hating phrases they always repeat and all they seem to advocate for is more harm to men in general. I haven't seen many real initiatives aiming towards improving the lives of women worldwide. Here, on the other hand, most people care about men's issues, call out injustice when it happens, share new laws, news articles and other stuff they come across that are relate…
/r/MensRights11/06/25 05:16 AM
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It pales in comparison, and that's why I used it ironically (the reason for quotation marks, I don't sincerely believe a woman's place is in the kitchen, unless she truly wants to and likes to cook). But as you say - tell women to go back to kitchen, you cause outrage. Tell men that they all should die, everything's fine and normal under the sun. I'm not sure if the society can be even reformed at this point, we've reached this point of complete disregard for human life while at the same time pl…
/r/MensRights10/06/25 10:46 AM
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Supportive comments from other women calling her "girlboss" in 3... 2... 1...
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:28 AM
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Then change is not possible and shouldn't even be attempted because the blame for the sins of our grandfathers will still be placed upon our descendants for generations to come.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:24 AM
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Oh yeah, the famous buddy of John Blackops. The glorious duo.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:23 AM
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They don't have any original thoughts in life, otherwise they wouldn't subscribe to a group ideology based on telling people exactly what to think, who to blame etc. They're all just repeating buzzwords and saying the same exact things all over again. That's how brainwashing works, in feminism, religion, political systems and other "Us vs. Them" groups.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:22 AM
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"women shut up and go back to kitchen challenge"
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:12 AM
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I made the mistake of visiting Twitter/X last night. Lots of posts mocking Men's Mental Health Month, all with captions "IDGAF" and similar, while cherry picking isolated examples of men being dicks, like we couldn't do the same with women to justify blaming them all and calling their struggles as a whole invalid. Not a single sympathetic post and in the comments, maybe 1 in 20 was positive towards men. The funniest thing were comments from OnlyFans e-girls "I hate men". Yeah, they hate men whil…
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:10 AM
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Even if he simply filed for divorce he would get labeled a misogynist who doesn't understand women's struggles.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 03:06 AM
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Sadly, it's getting more and more popular. The fact that abortion isn't legal makes feminism still relevant in the eyes of most women, especially young, easily impressionable girls. They get their minds poisoned quickly and start hating men in a blink of an eye. I live in Poland.
/r/MensRights08/06/25 04:21 AM
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I'll also point out the false equivalence I've seen being made between misogyny and misandry in the discussions I've had. Every time we talk about the dangers of misandry the other side says "but what about misogyny?!". Misogyny has been largely erased from the mainstream conversation, you can't be openly hateful towards women. Sure, you'll find some anonymous people spewing hate like on every subject on the internet. But misandry on the other hand is welcome in the mainstream. The largest media…
/r/MensRights07/06/25 02:58 AM
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But they view "microaggressions" everywhere and see everything men say as a misogynistic attack. It's true that women trash other women, studies confirm that, but it doesn't fit their narrative, so they get straight back to blaming men for everything.
/r/MensRights07/06/25 02:47 AM
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If only the rich and powerful men (and women) benefit from it, then maybe it was a system made by the rich and powerful men for other rich and powerful people?
/r/MensRights05/06/25 03:59 AM
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I blamed the patriarchy for cutting myself while slashing tomatoes the other day. Patriarchy really screws men over.
/r/MensRights05/06/25 03:51 AM
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But in the rest of the world the situation is far from perfect. In my country there are no legally recognized relationships that gay people can enter, let alone marriages. The fight is ongoing but LGBT folks are far from progressing it in any meaningful way. We are legally protecting women and disregarding men in the process similarly to all of the West though.
/r/MensRights04/06/25 12:06 PM
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But your original reply still has nothing to do with the comment you were replying to, which was alluding to feminism expanding its scope from seemingly wanting equal rights to wanting privilege and being treated better than men.
/r/MensRights03/06/25 01:56 PM
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They want you to die for them while at the same time seemingly rejecting chivalry as a tired old sexist concept.
/r/MensRights03/06/25 03:30 AM
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Yeah, I want her to be younger and prettier, and she wants to me to be taller, older, wealthy, handsome, with good job, athletic, no ex-wifes or children, stable income, willing to start a family, focused only on her...
/r/MensRights03/06/25 03:28 AM
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The family courts double standards, dating double standards. Generally everything assuming women are better than men, that would be a long list. From my experience, while going through a divorce, I noticed that a lot of people when learning about my predicament assumed it's my fault by default, simply because I was the man and she was the woman, while the truth was exactly the opposite.
/r/MensRights03/06/25 03:25 AM
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I'm all for LGBT rights, but I find it funny how it's more profitable for all the companies to cater to maybe 10% of the population in June with their marketing changes etc. than to cater to over 50%, even in fields dominated by men like technology and gaming where probably 80-90% of those companies' customers are male.
/r/MensRights03/06/25 03:23 AM
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The narrative also shifted quite a bit. There were attempts in the mainstream media trying to potray "incels" as victims, give them back their humanity and show their struggle. But then it turned back to "it's all their fault, they're the oppressors like all men, they should be victimized even more" all thanks to feminists online who can't stand the discussion being centered on men's issues, no matter how shallow and short-lived the discussion was. Women need to be the only perpetual victims and…
/r/MensRights03/06/25 03:16 AM
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Mine is banana-chocolate, the best one out there.
/r/MensRights03/06/25 02:58 AM
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It would be empty out there...
/r/MensRights03/06/25 02:57 AM
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I know. I should expand: "It can't go on like this, or else we'll end up in an even worse hellscape where men have absolutely no rights and are treated like second-class citizenes" or "we should mobilize and start doing something to prevent it from getting progressively worse". And I know it's gonna get much worse, unfortunately; I'm no optimist when it comes to these issues.
/r/MensRights02/06/25 12:23 PM
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I can only imagine. The system is rigged and it has to change. It can't go on like this. You could make up a lie too and the child would still go to his mother with the current system in place.
/r/MensRights02/06/25 05:25 AM
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That's the real gaslighting, not the buzzword meaning of it. Making you feel guilty, because you feel responsible as a man for your family. I hope you win, man, and the truth prevails so your son can see the reality. In my case, there were no children involved, so it went much smoother, only the truth was as stake.
/r/MensRights02/06/25 05:18 AM
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Are you describing my ex wife? I wish I noticed all of this sooner, but then, it escalated as feminist ideology poisoned her brain. Great list.
/r/MensRights02/06/25 05:07 AM
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With prominent politicians and activists calling for making male organizations illegal and the frequent branding them as 'hate groups', no wonder men are scared to group and act. This doesn't, however, mean, they shouldn't. We should and we need to defend our rights.
/r/MensRights02/06/25 04:46 AM
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I'd say the realization of class struggle as opposed to the fictional sex/gender war is important and plays into the fight for men's rights. The poor and disadvantaged people have always been oppressed by the rich who make the laws and it's the feminists who misinterpret those laws as catering to men, since they were written by rich men with power, when in reality the laws are at least as damaging to men as a whole because we are also - and even more nowadays - economically disadvantaged than wo…
/r/MensRights02/06/25 04:35 AM
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And they're not even hiding it.
/r/MensRights01/06/25 04:36 AM
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Great analysis with the top-down, bottom-up mentality/approach. It's deeply flawed and yet it's the dominating narrative and from a feminist perspective, explains all their issues perfectly.
/r/MensRights01/06/25 04:10 AM
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I've seen articles trying to point towards women shaming men constantly as a reason for the declining mental health of men and guess what, in the replies there were lots of women cheering and commenting that men should be shamed even more because now "they're getting the taste of their own medicine". It's a strange revenge mentality, I don't know what women as a whole are trying to avenge, but they certainly don't care that they're driving men to suicide in the process.
/r/MensRights01/06/25 04:06 AM
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So many buzzwords and such a storm over one word? I don't know if those 500 people are aware, but that's how folks talk about others in real life. Men about men, women about women. It doesn't mean anything outside of their politically correct bubble.
/r/MensRights31/05/25 03:23 AM
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Is there any limit for what a woman can do, any atrocity, crime, anything so immoral and degenerate that other women won't support it in the comments and call the criminal their queen, girlboss etc.? (I'm afraid I know the answer.)
/r/MensRights31/05/25 03:12 AM
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I stated the facts however. Women on average are better educated, hold more university degrees, get better jobs, are treated better by the legal system by default in both civil and criminal cases. Among young women, most of them earn more than their male counterparts on average. It's all backed by statistics that are available for individual countries. The 'wage gap' myth has also been debunked years ago. It's not a male dominated world anymore.
/r/MensRights30/05/25 02:48 PM
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What even is patriarchy? Do we live in patriarchy anymore (if we ever did)? In 2025 when women are on average more educated, have better jobs and career opportunities and frequently earn more than men, there are many women in powerful positions in business and politics? Is it really patriarchy?
/r/MensRights29/05/25 04:32 PM
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I agree with you, I'm just pointing out how people who make those movies and create such characters explain their decisions. That's why I said their view that women were potrayed only as sex objects in cinema until now is wrong. But that's their justification, the same as for excluding men from movies entirely.
/r/MensRights29/05/25 04:27 PM
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Men are frequently shown as incompetent, lazy, stupid, rude etc. in many modern shows and movies. Even in movies that I personally enjoy I notice this trend (I remember having this feeling while watching some modern horror movies like Barbarian, Fresh and The Menu). Women are resourceful, respectful towards other people, kind and generous, and men are potrayed as their polar opposites. It's because of the narrative that women were shown in media as sex objects and nothing more for most of the ti…
/r/MensRights29/05/25 11:35 AM
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"Stop targeting women journalists!" (11% of the journalists killed were female; the statement was made seriously and, thankfully, widely ridiculed).
/r/MensRights28/05/25 08:27 PM
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They're mostly young and arrogant. They'll spend their youth and most of their life living this illusion that they don't need anyone besides their like-minded female friends, no deeper human romantic connections because all men are inherently evil, but when they grow old they'll feel the loneliness and abandonment eventually. But then it'll be too late. For some it's probably a coping mechanism. I've seen teenage girls convince themselves that they're lesbians now because they were disappointed …
/r/MensRights28/05/25 07:52 PM
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'Alone' is not the same as 'lonely'.
/r/MensRights28/05/25 07:43 PM
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I've seen lots of feminist posts recently calling the male loneliness epidemic a very good thing. Essentially saying that men are inherently bad and therefore deserve to be alone and it's a thing to celebrate, not worry about. We can't have any men's issue being talked about loudly, right?
/r/MensRights28/05/25 07:14 PM
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I partly agree on the grounds that with malicious intent in mind, everything you say can be considered a 'microaggression'. Especially within the progressive/woke circles. Many things men say that are perfectly normal are considered to be 'microaggressions' by feminists. But it's more about the usage of the term and not the word itself.
/r/MensRights28/05/25 07:11 PM
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Yeah, I see that in Western countries how children are indoctrinated to believe some political ideologies from the youngest ages. Kids should be raised to respect everyone regardless of their gender, skin colour and sexual orientation/identity, but without all the political burden that comes with the feminist movement. It's almost as if it's reversed from how kids were raised some time ago by sexist/racist parents and now raising children in the principle of equality is not enough somehow, we ha…
/r/MensRights28/05/25 01:13 PM
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Maybe the guys who support feminism just want to be popular with the trendy girls. Because, as you stated, any discussion is impossible in those circles simply because you were born into the wrong gender.
/r/MensRights28/05/25 11:40 AM
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That's the ultimate goal of slapping such labels on people - to shut them down and present them as someone who shouldn't ever be listened to. Just call them sexist, racist, misogynist, whatever buzzword is currently trending in the woke circles.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 08:38 PM
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I realised it after 3 years of marriage (that ended in divorce). It was a gradual spiraling into man-hating Tumblr feminist rabbit hole on her part, to the point of openly condoning violence towards men in the end of our relationship. The divorce hurt, but now I can't imagine being with that woman anymore.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 08:36 PM
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"The truth hurts my feelings and is unpopular in my circles" also.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 08:34 PM
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Male feminists willingly put themselves in a really unfortunate position. They support the cause, but they are also 'sus' because they're male, so under the right circumstances they can be also blamed for all the evil in the world. It's a thin line they're walking and they have only themselves to blame.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 08:33 PM
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It's the same stupid argument that some people expressed as "if you're not a feminist, it means you're a sexist". No, I just disagree with a social movement with a clear political agenda that is working to undermine my own rights as a man.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 08:31 PM
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It's the matter of turning your identity into a collective ideology that thrives on dogmas not unlike organized religious movements. This type of collectivist groupthink doesn't allow for individual variations and instead assumes that because you're born gay/bi/trans etc. you also have to share their worldview on a plethora of other political and social issues. Most LGBT organizations are also heavily politically charged and this alone makes them not capable of representing all the people they c…
/r/MensRights27/05/25 03:42 PM
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You will sadly never know a person fully. They can hide some part of themselves, including their malicious intents, selfishness etc. even for several years while you still view them as gentle, caring etc. Always stay vigilant and work on your boundaries. Be strong on your own so someone's actions or someone going away won't ruin you.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 03:17 AM
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Somehow reminds me of Pasolini getting kicked out of the communist party in Italy for being gay. But yeah, you can care for both causes, and LGBT men should definitely care more about men's rights as it's also their rights as MEN!
/r/MensRights27/05/25 03:14 AM
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Total paranoia and a person that would truly benefit from psychiatric help and/or long-term therapy. This goes beyond stupid feminist beliefs. She believes women really have to be so vigilant because all the men are constantly scheming to hurt them. Life must be hell for such a person. I feel bad for her, and I feel angry at all the feminist influencers and 'thought leaders' that lead to women embracing such sick lifestyle and attitudes.
/r/MensRights26/05/25 05:55 PM
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Just imagine a simple coffee mug on Etsy with 'female tears' written on it. It would cause outrage and change dot com petitions.
/r/MensRights26/05/25 04:33 AM
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We're now drowning in semantics, 'murder' is when a man kills a woman, and when a woman kills a man, it's 'justice'!
/r/MensRights26/05/25 04:30 AM
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Feminists are just trying to get some men to fight alongside them against their fake concept of patriarchy. Hence the ridiculous idea of partiarchy being oppressive towards men.
/r/MensRights26/05/25 04:28 AM
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I feel like men are also more likely to try to repair their relationship when any cracks start to appear and address the problems, whereas women are very quick to call it quits and move on either to a new relationship or to living alone as a 'girlboss' who doesn't need another human being ever again.
/r/MensRights26/05/25 04:11 AM
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You mean the brainwashed young 'male feminists'?
/r/MensRights26/05/25 04:00 AM
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Racism is bad and you can be anti-racist, even should, preferably by conviction and not by supporting the current popular trend. There are parts of the world where war and genocide happen and people should protest it too. People should condemn violence, but again, without falling into the trap of the common discourse that tells us all men are the perpetrators.
/r/MensRights26/05/25 03:56 AM
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If it was about equality, feminism as a movement would disband and call it quits over 100 years ago. But they quickly moved the goalpost and keep doing it for many decades now. They found out that privilege is what's really worth fighting for.
/r/MensRights24/05/25 03:19 AM
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"Bring awareness to another issue … the way that violence against women is often minimised and justified by society" No, you absolute idiot, this isn't the issue here!
/r/MensRights24/05/25 03:16 AM
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I always say that we need to end the war of the sexes and focus on the real oppression - of the rich over the poor. Good post.
/r/MensRights24/05/25 03:12 AM
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I'm a huge free speech defender, but free speech ends (in my opinion) where actual incitement to violence ends. You can't defend ISIS and similar groups calling for terrorist attacks as 'free speech'. Yes, technically it's their expression of free speech, but come on...
/r/MensRights24/05/25 03:06 AM
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And, worst of all, misandrist hate speech is tolerated on all major social media platforms with no issue at all, so such attitudes can thrive and poison the minds of more and more impressionable young women, especially on Tumblr, Instagram, TikTok and Twitter/X.
/r/MensRights24/05/25 03:00 AM
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After that she will surely become an influencer, write books, start a YouTube channel, all that stuff. She already has a dedicated follower base.
/r/MensRights24/05/25 02:56 AM
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And there will probably be protests outside of the prison calling for the release of the 'girlboss' queen.
/r/MensRights24/05/25 02:54 AM
10

This is beyond disgusting. I predicted there will be such comments, but I don't expect them to be so widespread. Girlboss moment indeed. Maybe it's time to view feminism as a potential terrorist threat if feminists are casually glorifying attempted murder on a daily basis?
/r/MensRights24/05/25 02:53 AM
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It's the first red flag when she starts correcting you in a conversation based on the language you use not being inclusive enough. On the other hand, if it's a dating situation, you know it's the best time to flee.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:27 AM
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The whole "reverse sexism" thing is a myth. It's just sexism. It's as simple as you write - treating someone bad because of their gender is sexism. Period.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:24 AM
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It's the 'popular thing' in the woke circles, and (mostly) young males flock to support the current cause. Some of those causes being righteous, some - like the modern branch of misandrist feminism - not only displaced, but most of all actively hurting all the men supporting it, even if they don't realize it yet.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:23 AM
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This was what changed my way of thinking after my divorce. I constantly felt compassion for my then-wife, but then a thought striked me: She doesn't give me the same benefit. She cherishes in my downfall. Why should I be the compassionate, good-natured one still, when I'm the only one?
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:20 AM
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My first thought was, "wow, never heard of a woman getting any punishment for such crimes". Yet there are probably Tumblr posts praising her bravery and 'girl power'.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:18 AM
2

Thank you for the comment and those statistics. They are eye-opening and should be discussed loudly and everywhere we can. Yet the truth gets suppressed because it doesn't fit the narrative.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:16 AM
1

Absolutely, I always say this, but as you note, it's always viewed as supporting the abusers. It's horrible how you can ruin someone's life with just a simple lie (or a series of lies and accusations like in the cases of Johnny Depp and Marilyn Manson).
/r/MensRights22/05/25 04:28 AM
3

Men are probably also the victims of most homicides. But we don't talk about male victims in the mainstream.
/r/MensRights22/05/25 04:26 AM
1

They always have it worse. It's the "stop targeting women journalists" thing again - a tweet reacting to a statistic showing that 11% (!) of journalists killed worldwide are women. And the tweet was serious, unfortunately.
/r/MensRights22/05/25 04:24 AM
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The society nowadays, post-MeToo is mostly rigged to serve women's interests. We might have some power, mostly politically in the personal sense, but the media and the society largely is against us as a whole (even a lot of men, mostly young, support the feminist brand of "women's rights"). Might be partly a reason for this fear you describe. Along with how we would be described, and how we were described in the past for fighting for our rights.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:28 AM
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Ever heard about 4B? They're making a whole philosophy based on their femcel beliefs now.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:25 AM
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Because it works only in this specific instance. Take most radfem statement about men and change the word "men" for "women" and you'll end up with something that would be (rightly) considered extremely misogynistic. Yet even Wikipedia mostly describes misandry as an alt-right myth. And it' not just social media posts. Those hateful articles are all over mainstream media. Oh, the times we live in.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:24 AM
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I never could understand what is wrong with me not wanting to be grouped together with murderers, rapists and other horrible people. "Not all men" is really a huge understatement; very few men are really criminal towards women. Unless we talk about the false "rape culture" narrative where saying jokes that might be inappropriate (which is ALWAYS a subjective thing) makes you an accomplice in all the atrocities happening to women.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:20 AM
1

Radical feminists are seemingly great at findining systemic reasons for many occurences in the social gender dynamics, but only when it benefits their agenda and narrative. When it comes to the male loneliness problem, it's suddenly a personal responsibility thing, and the only "systemic" thing in play is that all men are abusers, potentially rapists or at least rape apologists and absolutely misogynists.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:17 AM
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I've recently seen my ex-wife posting mocking retweets about boys being bullied. The gist of the tweet was that boys should be bullied even more because they're inherently toxic and misogynist and all are at least potential abusers. And constantly making fun of the "male loneliness epidemic" which is a real thing and I'm glad is talked about more, but to radfems is a fake narrative and assault on THEIR narrative of them being the ONLY victims in the entire world.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:14 AM
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Being opposed to radical feminism and the man-hatred/misandry that comes with it doesn't mean going right-wing or being a misogynist. Women care about their rights, they should let us fight for ours as well.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:10 AM
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They play The Sims and that's a-okay. But "boy's games" are a no-go and time wasters.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:08 AM
1

That's the worst part for me in the end - the outright refusal to even try to fix it, admitting I'm not worth it for her to work things out.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 05:20 AM
1

I smoked years back, and after the separation I started vaping. It helps with the stress, but when all is settled and the nerves finally calm down I'll have to do something about it, at least vape less.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 05:24 AM
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It's worse when you see her for sure. And the realization that she doesn't care, like in my case, or that my wife was even happy with what she has done to our marriage. But at the end it might help us, seeing what people they truly were, I think it would come out sooner or later. Their previous promises and nice words had to make room for their actions which now speak louder than any words ever could. I wish I could hit a switch like that and just not care anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 03:52 AM
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Been served papers in the meantime, sent papers back, trying to take it all one day at a time and focus on taking care about myself, it could be much worse I think. How are you?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 03:48 AM
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I feel the same - in a couple of years, regardless of the outcome, OP will at least say honestly that he tried and did what he could. I did the same and can't blame myself for not trying, even if it was one sided and I couldn't save my marriage by my own, but my conscience is at least clean in that regard. If I let her go easily, I would blame myself for years. My therapist suggested that I sue her first, since it was her that destroyed the marriage eventually, but I felt that, regardless of my …
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 08:50 AM
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I'm sorry for what happened to you. She probably doesn't want to tell you the real reasons and her mind was made up for some time. Remember that it takes two to fall in love, but only one to fall out of love. We can't save our marriages by ourselves and however we should try, we should also work on acceptance and moving on finally. You can message me, I'm in a similar situation for a few months and was able to process it for a bit through therapy, so a talk might help.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 04:32 AM
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Pretty bad optic for you and, well, all women from this comment of yours, as you claim to speak for all of women.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 09:25 AM
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For me "until death do us part" meant exactly that. For her? "Not all relationships are worth fighting for".
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 09:04 AM
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And an algorithm of radical feminism telling women they don't need men, ever, they don't need any true connection to other human being, because they are strong and independent, and all they need to do is take care of their own needs at the cost of destroying their family, because family no longer really matters. Love is no longer about sacrifice and working together to resolve problems. It's about instant gratification and feeling good with yourself. No commitment, just themselves. And this bull…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 09:02 AM
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I am in a similar situation, although (thankfully, for me) without children. My wife left me without a real reason. Changed in a matter of one day from a warm, caring, loving wife to someone insulting, mean, throwing accusations of neglect when all I ever did was loving her and all I wanted was to build a home for us and start a family with her. The shock is what hurts the most. The fact that we don't recognize the person we loved so much. The realization that the feelings weren't mutual, that o…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 11:00 AM
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I am in a similar situation. I have a feeling my wife got married with her vision of a marriage as an endless adrenaline rush and sweet looks more than with me as a person, and when the first minor issue occured she just turned around and left. She straight up refused my offer of a couples' counselling, didn't want to work things out or have a serious, deeper conversation. Even referred to this thing between us constantly as a "relationship" and not "marriage", and to me a marriage is something …
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 07:26 AM
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I'm also 33 and I feel a lot of the same emotions as you do. I made one mistake and it wasn't a huge mistake and yet she left. She was very angry when I told her how many marriages work through a lot tougher situations like alcoholism, infidelity etc. She declined any couples' counselling, completely cut me off from her life, her family did the same. It hurts like hell and I can't understand it, that's not how you're supposed to treat someone whom you've sworn to love and care about until the ve…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 07:39 AM
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There are blatant "divorce coaches" on TikTok advising women to dump their husbands and be selfish, "strong", "independent". No one is seeing love as a sacrifice towards another human being anymore. Love is to give comfort, not for us to sacrifice anything for anyone. And just as there is a pressure to leave men and be "strong, independent", there is this shallow, sweet, bright side of Instagram with cute wedding pictures and young girls want to get married, they get married for the beautiful dr…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 05:24 PM
4

Similar to my situation. I have a feeling that my wife's social circle - friends and family - was encouraging her to leave me, while mine was always encouraging me to fight for my marriage. Not much fighting was possible though as she just left and burned all the bridges. It's crazy how I begin to suspect women are now somehow much more comfortable just leaving the marriage, breaking their vows, straight up destroying the life of another human being, not looking back... Men are left with grief i…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 05:17 PM
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I think it played a role in my wife's decision too. She gradually became radicalized into this radical feminist man-hating philosophy that views all men as inherent threats to women and even advocates for a total separation of men and women. I'm not sure what was first though, whether those views preceded her decision and influenced it and she was hiding them from me for some time, or maybe she started espousing them after leaving me to try and confirm her bias and seek confirmation that what sh…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 05:10 PM
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I'm with you man. I'm in a similar position. The pain really is overwhelming. You can talk to me if you want. I hope the pain will at least subside one day. I wish we didn't have all those great memories in our hearts so the loss didn't hurt so badly.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 05:59 AM
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I'm not there yet, but I feel like that might be the problem eventually. I hope I'll not get grumpy and have a chance to be genuinely excited about meeting someone new and falling in love...
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 05:28 PM
2

My therapist also has this approach that he has warned me about on the very first visit where he would candidly tell me what he thinks and point out flaws in my thinking, actions etc. I appreciate it and it really makes me rethink a lot of my actions and my whole mindset. We don't always agree on everything and I think it has it's own value as well. I have some underlying health issues as well and I'm taking antidepressants so it makes the whole journey a little easier as I'm not that miserably …
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 01:27 PM
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I chose a male therapist on purpose. Now I know it was a wise choice on my part. And I got the right one on the first try that is very uncommon from what I hear.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 01:19 PM
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My therapist is really good though. I went from being a simp as you call it to standing my own ground and drawing clear line when it comes to what is acceptable and what is not with the contact with my wife. He has reminded me of my value as a man and that I cannot allow her to denigrate me on every occasion and that I don't have to and certainly shouldn't allow it. I am currently working hard on those thoughts going on in my head, but I'm in a much better place externally when it comes to the r…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 01:15 PM
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Thank you for all the wise words and I'm also very sorry for your horrible situation, you certainly didn't deserve it as I can see how gentle and kind person you are. As for the whole feminism thing, I feel like I need to thread a very thin line here not to appear like some red-pilled woman-hating bigot, but to me all is fine and dandy when the movement strives for equal rights and representation. A lot of work is still needed to achieve equal rights in workplace and public life for women in my …
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 01:05 PM
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That's not simping at all. That's a process that's going on in my mind that I'm trying to navigate. I don't have any contact with my wife for the last half a year. You're right with not allowing to treat myself poorly, I'm past that and that is precisely why we ceased contact, when I drew a very clear line of what is unacceptable to me. I stated that I won't allow being treated like dogshit and from now on if she wants to contact me she has to do it via official means like lawyers, then she bloc…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 09:37 PM
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Thank you for the insightful comment and the beautiful words at the end. They moved me and I'm very grateful for that. I was never really angry, apart from when I was an angsty teenager always fighting with my mum over the smallest things. Now even after being treated very badly by my wife, who seems to enjoy hurting me on purpose for some reason, I still somehow see the humanity in her and remember all the good moments we shared, though I realize that my therapist is probably right at least in …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 09:29 PM
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I don't know if I love my wife anymore. Maybe I just love those memories and the vision of her I had, since the feelings apparently weren't mutual for a while now and she decided to leave. I think you also need to approach this situation like this and think about whether you love her as a person, for who she really is, or just some version of her that exists only in your heart and mind.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 01:10 PM
2

She really wanted to take our dog from me, even though she left us both and moved out for a while while giving me time to find a new place to live. She is somehow feeling entitled to the dog. I took him with me and since the divorce is not settled yet I will fight for him until the end. She's really using him as a tool now, and if she loves him so much, why won't she even visit him for half a year? Because she would have to meet me and that's off limits to her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 01:08 PM
1

I did contemplate it one evening. Took some benzos and opioids and sat there in the dark with the kitchen knife. Told my friends who texted my wife who moved out at this point, she called an ambulance. By the time they arrived I was much calmer and put the knife down. I was expecting the wife to come home after that, but she didn't, she didn't care more than to just call the ambulance, but you would do it for any stranger also. I didn't do it all for her sympathy or as a cry for help, I didn't t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 07:34 AM
1

I didn't live by myself ever before. I moved on with my wife after the wedding, before that I lived with my mother - for financial reasons, not religious ones or something. Now I'm getting used to living on my own, but luckily not completely - I have a lovely dog and life would be absolutely miserable without him.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 07:29 AM
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In hindsight I did notice certain coldness. We adopted a dog and she looked at him with incredible love, kidness and care the same way she used to look at me, but never looked at me like this anymore. That was the most striking sign for me somehow, the most obvious and telling, but still wasn't enough, I was in denial and didn't want to admit that something wrong is going on. But the announcement of divorce was very sudden and shocking for me still.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 07:25 AM
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I for one cannot force myself to be angry at her. I'm just sad and it makes me remember only those good things we shared together and that I've lost in the end. Anger might be cleansing and I should be angry since she destroyed it all seemingly without remorse.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 07:22 AM
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I also cannot force myself to see anything else than those good times and positive memories. Makes it only even more painful. My therapist is constantly surprised that I am not angry at my wife at all for ruining everything and then leaving without any remorse, instead I'm just sad and remembering the good stuff. He says the anger would be good and cleansing. It's strange how similar people's experiences and feelings can be in situations like these. I feel you, man. I hope you get through this a…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 07:20 AM
2

Focus on yourself now. Build new solid foundations, keep track of your health, stay away from the booze and certainly don't rush into a new relationship. That's my plan for when things will be over with my process.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 10:42 AM
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Society always also likes to assume it's the man's fault somehow.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 10:40 AM
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The society keeps telling women it's a great move to get divorced, they are finally free, men are their worst enemies, there are even "divorce coaches" and divorce parties. The whole thing is disgusting to me. Girl power! But men are left feeling this dread and emptiness and everyone around us pretty much assumes it was all our fault. Shattering a family and distroying the life of another human being - the husband at least, and very often also the kids, is nothing to be proud of, despite what th…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 06:45 AM
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I have no answer, but I can't learn to let go either. It's a long process, I guess, and takes a lot of work. Therapy helps for sure. Focusing on yourself, taking care of your needs and shaping the path for yourself. Easier said than done, though.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 11:56 AM
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I'm in a similar position. Depression since childhood and severe chronic headaches that cripple my everyday life. I have some friends, but mostly I spend my days at home. I have a dog and he's a blessing as he makes me motivated to go out and care for someone else at least. But other than that, it's a very dark path. I believe there will be some light finally ahead of us, the question is when and how do we find it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 11:54 AM
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Thank you for the words of wisdom.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 11:48 AM
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That is a good one. You get more vulnerable during times like these and alcohol is the worst life advisor you can get.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 06:06 AM
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It sounds like you're describing my story. 6 years together, 2,5 married, one day 5 months ago she just tells she doesn't want to be a part of my life anymore. She refused any therapy, counselling, forced me to move out, leaving me devastated and without purpose. I still don't fully grasp what happened. I feel you buddy, as you write, time will probably heal us some day. But for now we have to endure the pain and find a new meaning to our lives. Edit: you also write in a comment that she was in …
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 04:06 PM
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I was and still am. The realization that this marriage meant so much, but only to me...
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 03:46 PM
1

Yes, you put into words what I'm feeling precisely. I should move on, but I still think of her so much, we were friends also (at least I thought we were) and we talked about everything which now in turn causes everything to remind me of her. Songs, smells, places, tastes, sounds. I catch myself all the time thinking "what would she say to this/think of this", I still have the impulse, although weak now, to reach out to her and tell her about everything like I used to, but I can't do it now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 03:45 PM
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She claimed those memories are fake and tainted etc. Our happiness, the day we got married, the joy we shared with 100 people, our honeymoon... all fake and worth only forgetting.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 03:42 PM
1

Thank you for this. Six months later and I'm still in the shock phase.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 10:57 AM
1

I'm in a similar position. She erased me like I never existed. She claims to love and care about our dog but won't even visit him because that would mean meeting me, and that's off limits to her. Man, replace the dog with kids and it would be hell...
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 10:53 AM
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She portrays me as manipulative and gaslighting... I may not be the best with people and surely made lots of mistakes in the relationship, but one thing no one can say about me is me being manipulative. Never heard it before, it's not who I am, but here I am being portrayed like I was.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 10:48 AM
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We only had a dog and the dog stayed with me, but she's trying to get him back because she believes she has the sole right to him somehow. I'm so glad we don't have children because with that attitude it would be exactly like in your case. Stay strong, fight for the kids, they deserve to grow up with a father.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 10:45 AM
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"Flip a switch and move on". Yeah. Were it so easy, to quote the Arbiter from the Halo games.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:42 AM
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It has to be the guy's fault, right?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:41 AM
1

They assume that because I'm a guy surely I was the one that messed up in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:41 AM
1

Go to therapy to learn about your feelings and how to cope with them. Most importantly, please avoid alcohol, drugs. I only vape as it helps with the stress, but alcohol is your worst advisor in such times.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:40 AM
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Thank you for this. Memories are the worse and it's so hard to control when they come to haunt me. Same with dreams. But we all need to focus on ourselves now and start the healing. We deserve it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:39 AM
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I don't know, we don't have contact. I guess she might. I know I can't, it's still too early after half a year and it feels wrong. I'll wait until the process is finished and I'm more healed.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:37 AM
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She did and it hurt like hell when I found out. Erased me like I never even existed. She erased me, her family did, was I even there? I did erase my socials in response. Maybe it'll hurt less.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:35 AM
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You should be grateful in the long run as it's a family souvenir. It's safer in your hands. But the memories are hell, I know. And the sense of injustice...
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:34 AM
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I feel like I was guarding a home that was a home only to me. She was absent mentally and emotionally. Was it prison? It was an illusion, for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:33 AM
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My wife left me after 6 years together (3 years married), 6 months ago. It still hurts. I still don't understand why she left, just like you. The worst part is feeling like I was living in a fantasy land of mine - coming home believing I have a home and a loving wife waiting, but her mind was made up for some time and she didn't feel like I did. My comfort, the project of my life, my home, all gone. I needed to find a new place to live, I'm doing pretty OK, but there isn't a day when I wouldn't …
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:31 AM
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