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| 5 | Most male-female friendships are built upon a foundation of female deceptionWhat is the foundation of OP's friendship with Jude? What is exchanged between a friendship between two men that is not exchanged between a friendship between a man and a woman? I might just be old, but need more clarification from OP about how he defines friendship to have any thoughts about this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 04:11 PM |
| 6 | Should men be openly critical of women who are bad or boring in bed ?This is my most common issue with sex with men! The pressure to be a horndog actually gets in the way of many men communicating what they want or need sexually. Men should absolutely tell women if they're giving toothy head or if they just lay around passively, I think one of the reasons that is hard to do is men feel like they have to be soooo excited every time for everything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 12:03 PM |
| 2 | Feminism is not an idea. It is a technology I can switch off at will.I don't think Iran in the 1970s is a suitable parallel to modern day Europe or the US, but interested in hearing more about how you think this could actually happen. For example, what makes you think European women would push for this? Social values aside, it's just not a realistic trajectory for economic reasons. Modern day capitalism thrives on individualism, women having reproductive technology and access to jobs means more individual consumers. Single income nuclear families are harder to ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 03:50 PM |
| 6 | Feminism is not an idea. It is a technology I can switch off at will.Men as a whole do not want to make this collective shrug for a whole variety of reasons, and many of those reasons are directly and indirectly a result of feminism. Not purple haired SJW Instagram infographic feminism, but the actual societal and social change that has already happened. So no, even if we take your claims that women are fundamentally unable to develop and maintain technology on their own, feminism is not just birth control and dating apps and there is no pulling the plug. Sorry! … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Feminism is not an idea. It is a technology I can switch off at will.Bro, wifi is not the Internet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Why should men care about womens' issues if women don't care about and actively fight against mens' issues?This reply doesn't seem to be replying to anything I wrote | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:32 PM |
| 12 | Feminism is not an idea. It is a technology I can switch off at will.This is a pretty irrational black & white take that is factually incorrect. There are many, many recorded examples of women being crucial participants in the development of many of these technologies. If you had the restraint to at least say something a little more padded like "largely developed by men" you could wiggle around that, but instead you've chosen to rely on hyperbole for exciting writing. There's no point in debating fiction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 03:55 PM |
| 1 | The impetus for self-improvement does not matterI don't think everyone who says "work on yourself" is saying it in the same way, no. There are plenty of women giving shitty or surface-level advice that they haven't thought through and I'm sure there's some truly shallow women that mean "make yourself physically attractive and rich". But this is what the good version of that advice means and what anyone who is actually qualified to give advice/counseling would tell you to do. To clarify: my comment was in response to the part of your post abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 03:46 PM |
| 1 | The impetus for self-improvement does not matterI get why this advice feels confusing, especially with the no-win response of "it doesn't count if you did self improvement in order to attract a partner". I think a general way to think of it that is more consistent is understanding that "working on yourself" should mean that you have some degree self-fulfillment and self love. Something about your life that brings you joy or satisfaction that is purely your own. The reason that this helps is that people are not attracted to people who seem dee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 05:58 PM |
| 5 | Why should men care about womens' issues if women don't care about and actively fight against mens' issues?Right -- research is frequently funded based on profitability, men's hair loss is very profitable.... But as a woman with stage 4 endometriosis, a disease that affects many many women, I can understand why some women hear about these things and express some resentment. It isn't so much anti-men's health, but male hair loss is just not on the same level as many under-researched women's health issues | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Women don't want the end goal of feminism. Bonnie Blue is the living proof.Feminism at this point in time is a very fragmented movement -- that word alone does not describe a single unified ideology, it describes a group of ideologies that share an underlying intent to address issues affecting women. Even that part is hard to pin down, just got in an argument with a radical feminist on this subreddit this week because she was upset that I implied that advocating for gendered issues that affect men's well-being is beneficial to women. I'm an outlier as far as being very… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One?I know that radical feminism is, thanks! I may have used catty language to say it, but I mean it. I'm sorry for implying that you and those aligned with your beliefs should have to support something you view as a men's issue. I referred to isolationist feminism because one of the main reasons I can't get down with radfem ideology because I can't see it actually improving the state of things in a tangible way, but the work and thinking you all do is still valuable. I love radicalism and transgres… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Single mothers should put their kids up for adoption en masse.I wish that culturally and societally it was more common/encouraged for single mothers (and people in general) to share households with each other in the absence of existing intergenerational family presence. We fix so many problems when we acknowledge that the nuclear family situation is not so easy to find and maintain nowadays, regardless of how much one might wish it were. Economically this is the only thing that makes sense to me, relationally it seems way more secure. It doesn't exclude lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Why does it seem that women's feelings override any normal relationship boundaries?Genuinely sorry and sending care and concern that this has been a part of your life even a single time. If you have access, seek some kind of counseling or support. Therapy isn't the only option, look for men's groups if that's where you feel comfortable. You are experiencing abuse. You don't have to call it that or think about it in that way of that feels weird, but sometimes when it's a woman and it's verbal/emotional abuse rather than physical, it's hard to recognize how damaging it is. All t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 02:11 PM |
| 0 | Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One?Look, this isn't really productive or related to the topic at hand. Do you need me to go back and edit my reply so I specifically excuse radfems from ever advocating for men's rights? You must know that plenty of feminists and even more women in general do not align with your beliefs, or they wouldn't be called "radical". I love men and many other feminists so as well. Most women live lives full of men. If you insist on only speaking in terms of benefits to women, then I'll let you know that yes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 02:04 PM |
| -1 | Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One?Things that benefit men also benefit women. If you are into radical seperatist feminism, go do your thing but that's not the feminism that I align with. For me, dismantling toxic masculinity in a holistic and truly meaningful way includes many instances of doing "men's work". Much more importantly, circumcision isn't a "men's problem". It's something that affects our *children*. Grow a heart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One?I understand your lack of trust for the groups I mentioned, but I promise you that opposition to male genital mutilation is actually one of the rare things that isn't politicized in that way... Mostly just brushed over due to overcompensation while supporting feminism. With the current situation, the same people crying anti-Semitism at anyone opposing Israel will call it anti-semitic so you got a point there... But those people have already lost their place on the left anyways, so IDGAF. Yea, ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One?Yup, this would be a harder question to answer without the "I still get to be myself" part. would be worth it to be a bisexual woman and get to have sex with way more women than I do now. :) On a more serious note -- Some of the treatment is partially a result of how men are raised and socialized and how that affects their perception of treatment and their responses to it. So having all the insight and comfort with emotions from being a women would be a massive leg up. I don't say this to place … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/25 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One?Yea, this is a truly effed up objectively double standard that needs to go asap. Just tossing my support for this in the mix because I think it's something that will change with time given that enough people make enough noise about it. Women and feminist/blue-pilled/left-leaning/liberals in particular really should be talking about it more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/25 04:29 PM |
| 1 | The lesbian divorce rate debunks a lot of the complaints wives have about their husbandsLast time I managed an all-male team, they indeed do a, lot of building and problem solving. Building a lot of shit that didn't need to be built and solving the problems they created for themselves with their incessant over engineering. Genuinely love men for these qualities though! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/25 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Once females become adults it’s probably too late to learn relationship skillsFerengi-ass take on women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/25 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Most women are not telling the full truth when it comes to the reasons they don't approach.In good faith asking this -- how can we (both sides of PPD) go about finding more solid evidence to prove the frequency with which this does or does not happen? I respect your observations & reasoning, I've got my own experiences and observations that are in conflict. How do we find a way to frame those against what really is going on? The truth would benefit RP men either way. This topic is a daily debate, would be great to have a more productive and rational discussion! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 05:03 PM |
| 0 | Bear in the woods - let’s revisitI don't know if this is something specific to where I grew up (New England) but I've run into bears a handful of times both in suburban areas and on hiking trails. . If I'm alone, I'd pick bear over a man because I'd rather encounter something less intelligent than a human. Bears are scary but you generally just follow protocol and things work out fine. Freakiest times I've had hiking were near Portland OR. A solo man could be a chill hipster or a homeless dude on meth, both look like each other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 04:35 AM |
| – | User flairs should include ageIt's interesting that you think humility devalues advice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 01:00 PM |
| 6 | User flairs should include ageMuch better advice than one of his peers could give. Time and experience tends to grant a more humble and objective point of view. The real question is whether a 20 year is capable of actually hearing that advice and putting it to use. Life lessons generally have to be learned by living. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 05:12 PM |
| 22 | User flairs should include ageI feel this, I'm not Gen X but a millennial who is old enough to have not had a smart phone until after I graduated college. On the one hand, I remember very well how impossible it is to actually listen and absorb advice from "old" people, but I also feel like these new problems around dating that Gen Z is growing up with are so difficult and honestly kinda out of control... There must be some way we can help at least give some kind of perspective. Social media has changed things so much so quic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Dating Apps Sound DreadfulHonestly I don't think it's even a matter of dating/sex. People are very connected via avatars and curated media but extremely disconnected as human beings. Glad I've ended up living in NYC where i have regular opportunities to interact and connect with my peers as well as a handful of elderly folks who need a hand with groceries, the weird eastern European tweaker guy who lives down the block, etc. All of these interactions and small movements of connection are what lay the groundwork for meeti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 04:01 AM |
| 6 | Dating Apps Sound DreadfulBeen hanging around this sub for a few months trying to understand why this idea is just fully out of reach.... I think it is a generational thing, everyone that grew up with social media and overly functional mobile phones just really doesn't know what you're describing. It sadly isn't really a part of Western social norms anymore. We got by being weirdos and outsiders by being forced to find a way to connect and exist.... Being online from a formative age means that all these weirdos get in to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 03:49 AM |
| – | Many of women's sexual instincts were meant for concubinesThe real mountains of madness are a 38 year old women's swollen and needful labia.... Do you dare risk breaking your frail primitive mind to probe such dimensions? The trash can of life from which whining babes sprout at some times, and sour life jizz drips at others??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 03:42 AM |
| – | Many of women's sexual instincts were meant for concubinesJust been playing Caves of Qud for a couple hours and reading this feels like I'm hallucinating more related generative lore. Keep going my friend! The horrifying depths of women are endless.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 03:32 AM |
| 1 | How polarized you are in gender wars? How often do you support "male side" in arguments?Relationships aren't so black and white, these problems often don't surface in meaningful ways until well into a relationship. Humans are incredibly good at developing effective coping mechanisms. Coping mechanisms often indirectly soothe and protect an individual by hiding or diverting attention from the actual problem. Of course, same goes for men! Guess I just don't like calling anyone a loser or acting like we all have the choice to engage/not engage with unhealthy dynamics. People are compl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 09:54 PM |
| 6 | How polarized you are in gender wars? How often do you support "male side" in arguments?I have a LOT of thoughts about how insecure women often offload emotional growth and responsibility fully onto men, demanding neverending reassurance and affection as "proof" of a good relationship when in reality, the insecurity and emotional immaturity is within themselves. You can't get angry at a hose for not filling a bucket that has a hole in the bottom, and eventually that water source is going to run dry. I think this is a really insidious pattern that's become more prevalent due to a co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Is the average Purple Pill user here for debate, or is it something more sinister?I think more people are here out of good faith than it might appear, but it takes a lot to be mature and humble enough to actually translate that into truly open-minded discussion/debate. Definitely some people here that have no interest in convincing/being convinced, but many more who just can't quite see past their own circumstances and biases. The topic of debate is something so deeply connected to one's self worth and sense of belonging in the world, it is totally understandable that it is h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Is the average Purple Pill user here for debate, or is it something more sinister?I've always gotten a lot out of talking with people I disagree with. I love sex, I see the younger generation really struggling with it... I don't know, just feels satisfying as I drink my coffee to try to help lonely young men see things with a little more nuance. Society is all fucked up and changing rapidly, it makes complete sense that many people are feeling cast aside. I like understanding how and why that happens and when possible, finding common ground instead of pushing people out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Whereas male attraction is largely amoral, women’s attraction seems actively immoral and sex itself is therefore bad for either genderYou should read George Bataille's The Story of the Eye. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 01:22 PM |
| – | AI Would Choose a Drug-Addicted Mother Over a Stable Father. I Tested It.You should take some time to understand how LLM and AI in general works, and more importantly what it is trained on. The old and well known cultural norm of "women and children first" in disaster/crisis situations is a good example of why your prompts will save the woman over the man. You are going to get answers that reflect the words and ideas that already exist. You haven't proven anything, you're just observing a (highly complex and impressive) synthesis of what gets thrown around the most. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Men should only bother dating women who would theoretically hookup with themThis is a shitty way to treat people. I'm totally down with casual sex, but casual sex should still involve some degree of compassion and care. Someone who misunderstood the trajectory of a hookup doesn't deserve blame and shame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Men should only bother dating women who would theoretically hookup with themYea, we don't disagree on most of this. Guess I just want to point out that the sustainable sexual connection is the harder thing to find. Also worth noting that women, especially younger ones, are notoriously bad at expressing genuine sexual attraction so the bar is really low in a way. What you perceiving as "fuck me now" eyes might just be a learned habit -- so many women develop this performative sexuality that is pretty detached from how they really feel. Women looking to date are going to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 07:59 PM |
| 3 | Men should only bother dating women who would theoretically hookup with themI'm not sure if this stands up in practice. You've mentioned some of these points in your post but I think you're oversimplifying how attraction works, or overlooking the difference between attraction and a high quality and sustainable sex life. Your last bit about choosing a woman who is "immediately and sustainably attracted" tells me you're thinking about this, but I wanna ask you how you evaluate sustainable attraction, and why you think lack of instant sexual enthusiasm is compatible that. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Trying to be vulnerable(?), talking about past sexual partners is insaneNot insane, just different expectations and communication styles. Personally, sharing too much past relationship/hookups/drama on the first and second dates is a red flag for me -- sometimes people overshare as a way to fast forward emotional connection because they are overly dependent on others. But I generally like hearing about potential partners' pasts. Someone who has only negative things to say or speaks flippantly about exes and previous hookups is a bigger red flag for me. You found out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 05:57 PM |
| – | You're ReplaceableSorry to hear you struggle with this as well! I've found that if both people are sufficiently self aware, patient and forgiving, it actually works really well to have shared anxious/neurotic/ocd-leaning traits in a relationship. It's exhausting being in a relationship with someone who doesn't understand what you're going through, especially because with things like neuroticism and anxiety, it's sooo easy to feel like you're letting other people down. It takes a fair amount of emotional maturity … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 10:39 PM |
| – | You're ReplaceableYea, not so concerned about whatever the original point was -- just couldn't let such confident misuse of research fly (pretty neurotic of me TBH 😂) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 01:59 PM |
| 7 | You're ReplaceableSorry man, a study about the severity of psychosis in bipolar people experiencing manic episodes can't be extended to the population at large. Try again? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys think most men are ugly/unattractive?Not at all. I think most men look more or less alike. Sure, there's some kind of threshold for looks, but most men pass it. My problem is looking for positive signifiers and mutual interests. Most men look alike, gotta talk to them to find out if I'm interested, talking takes effort and its hard for me to pick any given man to get to know when they all seem the same. I generally end up meeting people I am interested in dating through hobbies and mutual friends where I have the chance to get to k… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 04:13 PM |
| 2 | What's even the point for average woman to be in a relationship with average men?Being in love is pretty great. I'm actively experimenting with putting my energy into friendships, I've ended up living on the same street as a bunch of friends and think of it kinda like a commune where we provide community and emotional support for each other. That said, people in general don't see actual communal living as an option long term and there are many things I'd like to have that are out of reach or less valuable without the kind of long term commitment that a relationship brings. S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 04:07 PM |
| 1 | CMV: There's nothing for women in traditionalismI'm not a huge fan of traditionalism, I'd say I live most of my life in direct opposition of it --- but you didn't mention very much about getting pregnant and having kids in your post. Of course we can have kids outside of traditionalism, but it gets very complicated when you start trying to balance everything. One thing I miscalculated in my 20s was the amount of time I really needed to decide if a partner was a good man to start a family with. We do have a lot of time, but by delaying and bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/25 04:54 PM |
| 6 | Redditors are insane when it comes to age gapsYou kinda sound like my best friend/on and off again FWB over the last 15 years -- he's a self proclaimed "dirty old man" and simply enjoys beautiful women, and having sex with them. He's a great lover, young women love the taboo aspect, I think men like him are doing a gift to younger women! I was 23 the first time we hooked up and he's about 12 years older than me. I'm 38 now so the age gap doesn't matter anymore, but he really helped me learn how to enjoy sex as a young woman. It bothers me t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Redditors are insane when it comes to age gapsJust curious, what counts as significantly younger and how old are you if you don't mind sharing? In my late thirties, I think a big part of any age gap controversy is that the definition of what counts as an age gap has changed a lot just in the last 10-15 years. Zoomers have a very different idea of what's "too much" vs me and my peers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:50 PM |
| 1 | If men take what they can get in dating, then why should women bother with relationships?Is that really sad? It might seem sad if you're young, but there are lots of kinds of love. As a woman I think we experience the exciting head over heels romantic love more easily than men because we are raised to feel and show vulnerable emotions... But this love usually isn't what keeps a relationship going. I may be jaded from my various exciting relationships in my 20s, but the love of a man who has slowly opened up and found a home in the heart of a woman is genuine in ways that head over h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Pick Mes are detrimental to other self respecting womenAgree here -- there is a point when empowerment becomes unhealthy hyper independence, not even for some sociopolitical reasons but just because you end up emotionally unavailable and avoidant because of the unending fixation with the self (know your worth/never settle). The standards are too rigid to allow anyone in, and there's an unfortunate side effect on women who do this where they may talk big about "knowing their worth" but ultimately this mindset prevents internal growth because it disal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Pick Mes are detrimental to other self respecting womenI am more concerned with the women who label other women as being a "Pick Me", especially if they are doing so through the lense of feminism. The worst kind of "Pick Me" woman is generally disliked by both men and women because their behaviors and identity is performative and the palpable lack of sincerety generally keeps them from having any kind of large impact on expectations of women as a whole. Same goes for performative male feminists. However, I do take issue with women casting a critical… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:10 PM |
| 4 | What women say they want in dating is the complete opposite of what they're attracted to.Yea, anyone getting the 'ick' (having a sudden lack of attraction due to one event or behavior) should probably slow down and ask themselves if they are truly present and open in relationships. To me, the 'ick' sounds like something that happens because you're attracted to the idealized fantasy version of someone and not the actual person. When that projection flickers and shows something real, that's when the 'ick' happens. People capable of this can appear to be the more enthusiastic partner b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date an NBA player or a nerdy tech geek?It's a famous rich guy, I'd be curious to see what his life is like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Would you rather date an NBA player or a nerdy tech geek?The nerdy tech guy is the answer to all but I'm trying to think of how I could find myself wanting anything with the NBA guy to give you all something to chew on and make this discussion interesting. I guess if the NBA guy approached me I would definitely feel flattered and enjoy the attention and I can see myself hooking up with him for the adventure of it because that's so far from who I would pick to have sex with. I don't have frequent casual sex but I'm not opposed to it, so that isn't sayi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Is there less of a worry of the provider being exploited when it comes to femdom sex-work?A couple of my friends awhile back worked as dommes. They didn't do other forms of sex work. Never asked directly, but it seemed understood that the degree of control and distance involved in that kind of sex work is what made them choose it over vanilla escorting or stripping or something. In general with kink there is going to be more formal negotiation and boundary setting. I don't think any of them ever gave oral sex or had intercourse. So yes, I think it does feel a bit safer for many women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/25 01:55 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeNah, men in their 30s generally have their shit more together (if one is looking for a relationship) and almost always are better lovers (if one is looking for casual sex). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 10:19 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeEchoing this anecdata with my own -- SO many men I've known did not have great luck with women in their 20s and then hit their stride in their early 30s. Guess what -- a lot of women in their 20s discover that men in their 30s generally have their shit more together and almost always are better at sex. I stopped dating and fucking men my age when I was 23... Most of em barely had basic hygiene skills and I was tired of the 5 minute jackhammer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 10:18 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeOh thank you for writing this, was just getting all wound up wanting to reply to the many people here misusing the term "sexual prime". Impossible to have a debate if the definitions are a mess!!! kinda seems like this idea that sexual satisfaction and functioning are independent of "sexual marketplace value" is out of reach for a lot of men. A flat and sad concept of sex, but that's what it turns into for those who find it out of reach I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 10:13 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeAgain, a person's "sexual prime" is understood to be a period of time in which your sexual functioning is at a peak. This is defined by increased libido, ease of orgasm, quality of orgasm and general enjoyment of sexual activities. All things easily achievable via masturbation. In my 20s, I had frequent opportunities to have sex. The sex I had was alright, often not that great. In my 30s... well, I have more sex now but we can take that as an exception for the sake of discussion -- I'm sure a pi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 10:04 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeHey, just trying to clarify what "sexual prime" actually means. Not sure what your point is or what "Your results must bear out" means. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 05:24 PM |
| – | Some men never have a sexual primeBeing sexually desired by other people is not equivalent to a "sexual prime". I think you're gonna waste a lot of time arguing these points if you don't get your definitions straight. You can be in your a sexual prime without having sex with another person! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 05:19 PM |
| 1 | The only criteria to loving a man.Wow you're an excellent debater, thanks for the nuanced reply | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 10:57 PM |
| 0 | Are dating events or speed dating even worse than apps?I've been considering trying something like this. I keep trying the apps for a week or two every few months and I just never end up feeling attracted or even curious enough about anyone on apps.... I can't even get myself to maintain a conversation for more than a day or two. Doesn't matter if their pictures look good and their profile is well written or they love jazz fusion and Star Trek as much as I do --- it just never goes anywhere. I've got significant ADHD which might make this harder, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 04:05 PM |
| 1 | The only criteria to loving a man.This isn't true... At all. Suggesting this is true does a huge disservice to men. I want to affirm that sex is a basic need and I think men who are suffering for lack of sex are well represented on this sub. But I've known enough men (friends and lovers) who confided in me and spoke about how the pressure to be ravenously hungry for sex actively got in the way of being fully present and enjoying sex and also got in the way of engaging in non-sexual connection. Men might have more testosterone fl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 03:43 PM |
| 1 | The DoorDash incident proves feminism rightNot really, you only responded to my criticism of your absolutism and your response was an attack on my supposed beliefs and/or character, not really an engagement. Happy to debate if you've got anything else to say! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 11:50 PM |
| 3 | The DoorDash incident proves feminism rightIncredibly telling of what? That part of my feminist belief system involves critical examination of hot takes that claim to be aligned with this cause? Or do you like to surround yourself with people who only nod and agree? You could've chosen to ask why I brush the incident off, you might've asked me about whether I think the way she's being treated is fair (I don't think it is). I criticized your post because you are putting this out of there as a, debate and speaking rather confidently on the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 09:17 PM |
| 2 | The DoorDash incident proves feminism rightI don't think this proves anything except that delivery service workers get treated like shit by individuals and the companies that contract them. She shouldn't have had to see that but it also wasn't right for her to post the video. I don't know, maybe I'm desensitized from living in New York City but isn't this kinda shit going on constantly?? This post reads like a salty red piller trying to make women look bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 07:55 PM |
| 1 | How do you have so much confidence or ego?For those of us who are over the age of 30, I think it has to do with already having to grapple with the reality that aging has happened, is happening and will continue to happen. Relationships don't work out, your hair starts looking different, you wonder if you made too many mistakes and are gonna miss your chance at having a biological kid, if that's something one wants. It's rough and I think women end up facing this earlier on than men do because of the way our bodies change over time. Many… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 06:45 PM |
| 1 | If you could guarantee up to three personality traits in your future partner, what would they be?Flexible, curious and kind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 02:06 PM |
| 4 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Pay a visit to a beach at one of the many European countries where nudity is culturally acceptable and I think you'll quickly understand that there is absolutely nothing going on that could even remotely be compared to giving out a "free live strip show". All age demographics are represented. I encourage you to embrace your own values and beliefs around nudity, but you're projecting your personal stance onto things that are not even remotely sexual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 02:02 PM |
| – | Is it true that women view average-sized guys as small?Honestly i have no idea what 5" looks like vs 6". I can't eyeball that. Is this one of those feminine skills i missed out on somehow? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?Definitely good points re: how would safety be handled, interesting to think about the ideal and compare it to practices where prostitution has been legalized. And agree that this is a complicated topic, it would take days just to organize where the points of disagreement are. There's the pragmatic question of how do we best serve the people who are in the most vulnerable position which we'd like to think could be discussed objectively... But that question almost immediately intersects with ethi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?I do not disagree with these statistics, I'm an advocate for legalization and regulation. If sex work is treated as real work, sex workers receive increased protection from exploitation and violence as any other member of the work force does. It's a radical concept to envision, but it's not impossible. Of course there are many people with childhood trauma in prostitution. Generally "real jobs" are much harder to access when your life is in shambles. Make prostitution a real job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?Of course it's not black and white, but I'm not wrong. Trafficking exists but happy prostitutes also exist. I'm sure this varies widely depending on location/culture/legality. Pay up for an established escort in NYC and you'll meet all kinds of women who've made the choice to get into sex work, they're making money and often feel a greater sense of agency than the rest of us do working a "normal" job. Legalizing and regulating sex work addresses many if not most of the issues you mention. But, I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:39 PM |
| 5 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?Hiring escorts is not at all unethical, not innately at least. There will be plenty of neoliberal Hilary clinton brand feminists who insist that sex work is essentially rape either by some perversion of the definition of consent or because they believe sex trafficking is the only reason that sex work exists. There are many others who want you to know that sex work is alive and well and full of happily employed men and women who would love your business so long as you are kind and respectful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?Just wanna hop on as a not Red Pill woman and back up this call out. As long as one has taken proper precautions and been tested for STDs, this is part of one's personal and private sex life. If I as a woman had some completely wild fetish I engaged in privately, as long as it wasn't endangering anyone else, no one would ever suggest that I was obligated to share that with future partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 12:47 AM |
| – | What hints do you give your partners that you wish they’d notice more over verbal communication?All of this is fine, but expectations vary widely amongst women and likewise some men innately notice this stuff and some don't. I've had long term relationships in which my boyfriend wouldn't notice if I'd just gotten bangs unless I pointed it out to them. Others would notice if I put extra effort into my brows and compliment me. I enjoy looking good, I enjoy compliments but I don't expect them. Just saying that in healthy relationships it is crucial that partners are able to communicate things… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | What hints do you give your partners that you wish they’d notice more over verbal communication?Uhhh it isn't obvious at all. Didn't we just have a thread last week about whether women look good for men or themselves? We're all over the place in terms of what going to the hair salon means to us. My main point still stands, if this couple can't voice their needs more directly then sounds miserable to get in trouble for something like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 02:50 AM |
| 1 | What hints do you give your partners that you wish they’d notice more over verbal communication?Don't put more effort looking for hints, that's a slippery slope to walking on eggshells and the kind of subtle unintentional emotional abuse that eventually ruins people. I think the dishes thing is easy -- she wants you to take initiative on chores, that's fair. But you deserve to be met halfway and that means she acknowledges the effort that you DO make and doesn't insist on mind reading. Have a conversation, try to get to the root needs that aren't being met (on both sides!!!) If you guys ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How Much of Your Needs Should Be Communicated Directly - and How Much Should Be Understood?It's extremely nuanced but in general, more direct communication is better. The problem that becomes apparent as you get older is that many people aren't fully aware of what they actually feel or need, so you get a bunch of anxiously attached women "communicating directly" that they expect 9000 different acts affection and words of commitment and avoidant men who say they don't need much at all beyond sex and space to do their own thing and both people end up unfulfilled and frustrated! Knowing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:38 PM |
| 0 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASame here, this post is not wrong but from where I'm standing, everyone on all sides needs more empathy and men in particular are lacking in the kind of self-compassion that leads one away from the "choose better" mindset. And self compassion certainly doesn't grow out being told men should double check to make sure they are being as hard on themselves as they are on women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:17 PM |
| 2 | Men need to stop being logicalYou can be perfectly "logical" within the domain of your own beliefs and presumptions, but if you don't identify those internal biases and check for correctness then that logic doesn't operate so well outside of domain. No need to turn away from logic, but the best advice to men would be to identify and correct internal logical oversights and expand the domain in which your reasoning is sound as much as possible. Takes a lot of maturity to do this, but the best way is start assuming you are wron… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 08:16 PM |
| 11 | Men need to stop being logicalThe phrase "Literally every relevant study" is hyperbole and not very logical, are you sure you aren't speaking from a place of emotion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 07:53 PM |
| 9 | Men need to stop being logicalPlease back this up if you want to demonstrate how logical you are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 07:44 PM |
| 14 | Men need to stop being logicalNot very logical to infer that this commenter said anything about whether you specifically are getting pussy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 07:43 PM |
| – | Men think they are more attractive than they really areGot it. I don't disagree with that, though not sure I've picked up on women suggesting that physical fitness isn't a respectable source of confidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 07:44 PM |
| – | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.Neoliberal capitalism plays a big part | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 07:39 PM |
| – | Men think they are more attractive than they really areI don't think you are actually disagreeing with the comment you responded to unless I'm misreading something? Being fit increases your confidence. Many women here frequently suggest that we are drawn to that confidence and probably a few other qualities that physical fitness signals, but the actual visual impact of having muscles isn't the most important factor. Being fit suggests someone values their health and wellbeing and implies they have enough self-discipline to maintain a routine. Conver… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 04:44 PM |
| – | Men think they are more attractive than they really areThis is kinda useless speculation. I don't care which pill posts it and how the genders are configured, some of you need to push a little further!! My response based on personal anecdata: it isn't so much that men overestimate their attraction, it's just the rubric they use to determine attractiveness in themselves and other men is not the same one women use. Something we see demonstrated every day on this reddit in which 50% of the posts are an argument about who women are attracted to. Men don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a 35 year old woman who is otherwise your looksmatch?Where did you find these numbers, just curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 10:05 PM |
| 4 | How do you feel when one of your female friends acts magnetic towards your man and gives him Bambi eyes when he’s talking to her? Should he do anything specific?Who is saying that Bambi eyes is basically an invitation to kiss someone again? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 09:59 PM |
| 3 | If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for?You do realize the phrase "male gaze" does not literally mean "when men are looking at something" right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 09:58 PM |
| 13 | If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for?There's a difference between dressing specifically to gain attention from men and dressing to "look good"/"feel sexy" in which "looking good" is heavily influenced by a women's internalized male gaze. The male gaze has a huge influence on beauty standards and fashion. It is more of a cultural/societal force than a reflection of a desire to look good for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:45 PM |
| 7 | If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for?Nasal gazing sounds a lot harder than navel gazing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:37 PM |
| – | Highly attractive humans being bad doesn't corelate with realityHaving everything handed to you is a pretty direct route to being entitled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 03:36 PM |
| – | why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral?Your post contains a more nuanced question but the title asks " Why do men hate sluts instead of feeling neutral" so maybe tweak the most important part for clarity! :) Edit: just a little more feedback from a neutral logic/debate angle: You also present the assumption "men hate sluts because it is easier for women to get sex" and I think the replies so far are showing that might be a better place to start. Or, you could request responses from men who agree with that assumption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Men are of very little use to a woman in a personal relationship.I wish I had a boyfriend to snuggle with while we watch my favorite episodes of Columbo. And that's the exact kind of thing that doesn't hit the same if it isn't a stable and committed long term relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/25 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in menYea, I just wanna see the data and it would be especially funny/fun to see the data if it's only responses from members of this subreddit. All the drama and the half correct intellectual takedowns from both sides would provide entrainment for multiple morning coffees It would be especially fun if the pictures were also from everyone here too. I would even enjoy all of the trolling fake submissions and responses. Think we need interns to get this done | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 06:18 PM |
| 4 | What would you personally contribute to society if you could get regular sex from attractive women?Yea, in my experience the better the sex, the more quickly a man will fall asleep! 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 11:30 AM |
| 3 | Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in menagree! Weirdos aren't connecting in person, and online there is this separation of personality from physicality. People don't meet each other as whole people, they meet parts of fractured identities conveyed through text, image, maybe sound and video -- but never all at once as we actually are. Sorry got a bit stoned and philosophical there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in menWe need more genX Pill here, bring some friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in menNo, definitely not so simple! Dating apps can only represent single people. If we want to understand who women are attracted to, I think that leaves out a pretty important subset, don't you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 11:18 PM |
| -1 | Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in menI really wish someone would set up a survey so we could all get on the same page. Go through a set of profiles, rate each one on attraction as either a woman yourself or your best guess as a man. Maybe a ranking/comparitive section too. A second exercise grouping similar men. I don't wanna prove anything, I just can't help wondering if we're all talking about the same thing when this topic comes up every day. Would be cool to see how much alignment there is between actual women's reported rating… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 11:14 PM |
| 1 | "Women are just as horny, they just have safety/shame issues" doesn't check out with women not being tormented by sexlessness.Yup agree with this and glad you mentioned hypersexuality -- was just talking to my bipolar ex who seemed to be truly distressed about not having sex (for like a month after he broke up with his most recent gf lol) and at first I was like "What in the world could be so upsetting about this? You're hot and charming and pick up women all the time" and he explained how he was feeling hypomanic and told me how hypersexuality manifests for him. I know him well and could feel how upsetting it was for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 04:11 PM |
| 0 | "Women are just as horny, they just have safety/shame issues" doesn't check out with women not being tormented by sexlessness.High sex drive doesn't necessarily correlate with being tormented by lack of sex. Someone replied to me yesterday something about how men may get more emotional connection, confidence and generally feeling successful in life through sex. Of course we all do to some extent, but it makes sense to me that the same societal influences that make it easier for us as women to express emotions and vulnerability also help us fulfill those needs from sources other than sex. Men do have more testosterone f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/25 04:03 PM |
| 2 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.It's not something that should be gendered. We're on the page with regards to the blame on women being bullshit, the rhetoric is bullshit... But the actual way forward is to dismantle the structures that keep us all isolated, which is the same thing generating vengeful incels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:50 PM |
| 2 | If you're autistic, just lean into the aloofness and play the asshole gameOk infinite dark void pill -- you can have your traditions and I can have my weird life. Transgressive outliers are responsible for new ideas and questioning the status quo. Conservative traditionalists pull in the other direction. There's always an extrema in any direction, so I can let you rally for tradition as part of the grander system of checks and balances. But I do think some of those weirdos would thrive over here where chad or whoever the fuck doesn't reign supreme | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:34 PM |
| 8 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.Why do you say that? Loneliness is a human problem. We're all responsible for recognizing when societal changes are causing isolation and leaving people behind, and finding a way back together. Maybe though friendships, or maybe romantic love, family, community, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:33 PM |
| 4 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.I don't know if it even really needs to be broken down this much. Anyone (male or female) who has been through an unhealthy or abusive relationship will understand -- we're all driven by reward systems and intermittent reinforcement is the easiest way to get hooked on anything. Attention from a bad boy is a big dopamine hit because you can already taste that intermittent reinforcement when you notice that someone is an asshole, reckless, unpredictable, untrustworthy, etc. If that person gives yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:03 PM |
| 1 | If you're autistic, just lean into the aloofness and play the asshole gameI do think that autistic men struggling with dating especially those that end up aligning with red pill are likely having some issues because they are trying to fit into a mold that doesn't fit, but being an aloof asshole isn't the fix. Might help to increase confidence (actual or perceived). I was thinking about this today, but I think autistic men (or anyone who doesn't fit the normie mold) might have different experiences if they looked beyond mainstream cultures and lifestyles. Like, get int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 03:22 PM |
| 3 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.Can confirm, have a primal "Yes" feeling anytime I see pictures/clips of those old biker gang dudes. They really do hit the mark perfectly as far as bad boys goes. Us women get a large amount of validation from sex too -- in my late thirties now, thinking back to some of the bad boys I dated in my 20s, there is a really distinct addictive good feeling when a guy who is an absolute asshole picks you, whether or not there's any real respect going either way. It's exciting. You have a sense of dang… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 02:25 PM |
| 42 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.Agree with the title of this post, but your statement that men have an insatiable hunger for sex isn't true and isn't really helpful for anyone. Red pill sometimes implies this too and I think it's damaging for the men who subscribe to those ideas. The problem is loneliness and isolation and how evolving gender dynamics/various aspects of modern society can place some men in a position that leaves them feeling like women only select partners for xyz reasons. Of course this has created some incel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 12:46 PM |
| 1 | "If she is interested she will show" show what exactlyLmao at putting a minidisc in your cleavage -- the incredibly goofy horny move is such a solid approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | There is no dating app dataSorry for derailing but I'm also still confused why these elusive dating app statistics are used so frequently? It's the fast food of human interaction, I understand why people do it -- it's easier to engage in than going out into the world -- but it sucks. It clearly sucks for men, as a woman I can give my anecdata to confirm I do indeed reject almost everyone when I've tried it. Since it doesn't work, why are we obsessed with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 02:56 PM |
| – | How can u tell how attractive a girl is?Lol not here to argue your personal list but just curious what's the problem with nurses? Hard workers, useful skills, steady job market so they should have no issue leaving the workforce to have kids or be a SAHM and coming back if the situation calls for it. Is it the long hours/exhaustion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 02:47 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to believe that the "women are only attracted to the top 20% of attractive men" rule is only true for Autistic malesMight be true for dating apps, but I'd really like to see any data that goes beyond dating apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 01:16 AM |
| 3 | What advice do you give to the younger generation of your gender when it comes to dating the opposite genderIt takes a solid 2 years to actually know someone, and the younger you are the more likely both of you have changed. Butterflies are exciting and part of one type of love, but have very little to do with who you'll be happy with down the road. Related, the most fulfilling relationships happen when people are compatible with how they adapt to change and communicate about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Women gaslight men cause they are afraid of themI think the entire reason the red pill exists is because society has been in a state of flux for decades precisely because women don't need men to protect them. The institutions that give our society order and structure may have been founded by men and largely run and executed by men, but these structures exist independently. There is no Handmaidens Tale coup on the horizon that's going to change that so radically. Things like restricting access to abortion are done as mostly political moves to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Men are more sexual than women.He is a highly communicative and responsible man with an endless appetite for sex with curiosity and open mindedness to match. He loves women of all ages and sizes. He takes his time, is up to try almost anything. Has a vasectomy, keeps up with safe sex practices and always makes me feel safe even when we're doing the craziest shit. And he's an incredible friend! I have had great sex with other men, but honestly the communication thing is what makes him stand out. He takes his time, there's no a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Men are more sexual than women.Not true, was just talking to my FWB about how depraved and horny most women are internally. We just know that it is literally too much for most men and keep it to ourselves. You wouldn't be able to handle it. I've had group sex with multiple men on multiple occasions. It is much harder finding men that are comfortable getting boners together than to find a woman who is interested in receiving all the attention. I will give you one win here on your claim: Men are much more driven by sex. Men wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 11:20 AM |
| – | Expecting autistic men to mask and upgrade their entire lives, especially dating, while not even giving them a chance or ever trying to approach them is hypocritical and illiberal.I think you need to lay out the groundwork that shows "women expect autistic men to mask" in a way that goes beyond the how standard neurotypical people do this implicitly by not understanding autism. Without that, feels more like projection of the pressure anyone with autism feels to mask because of societal norms. I say this not as a dismissal, but as someone deeply sympathetic to how you feel. I think these feelings are very valid, but I need to be convinced of the cause and effect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 07:26 PM |
| – | a man’s prime ends before a woman’s doesI think you gotta readjust the metric to allow for multiple prime phases for various outcomes. What you wrote about might be one "prime" phase for men who are looking to get hitched and start a family on the earlier side, following the boomer timeline more or less. However, pretty much everyone in their 30s that didn't take that path will tell you that there is a second peak in the late twenties/early thirties with men. By this time if you haven't settled down, you hopefully have an established … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Gen Z men's life choices are the primary reason they're much more single than gen Z women; gen z women are finding equitable partners outside of heteronormsActually true, me and my fellow educated mid/late thirties single women say a prayer every night, "Please God let me wake up just a little gayer tomorrow" My grand plan is to get a 2-3 other ladies onboard, buy some land and start a family. I'm tired of working against whatever it is that draws me to commitmentphobe men with no savings and no long term plans, this way we can keep seeing our Peter Pan boyfriends without getting sucked into their downward spiral. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/25 01:35 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Dating apps are bleak, jfc. Feel so bad for the zoomers growing up with this shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Wow, older women really are full of baggageyea, I don't know. I'm 38 and single, have a couple single friends my age and know many more. I've never heard any interest in younger guys from any of them. Might just be a particular subset that you're dealing with. But also, the older you get the more experiences you have -- of course they have more baggage than a 25 year old. A 25 year old hasn't been an adult for long enough to have a long relationship, like 6+ years. And obvious stuff like hormonal changes, grief if you were hoping to star… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 06:39 PM |
| -1 | Why it's controversial when a man says "women are attracted to a small percentage of men" when women themselves agree with this statement in their spaces ?Can anyone pull up any actual stats that AREN'T from dating apps? Asking in good faith, truly curious what research there is. I don't have any skin in the game, I know I'm an outlier already. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Why are you on this subreddit?I place great value on being patient and working to understand people whose beliefs are in direct opposition to mine. My biggest critique of mainstream leftism and feminism is that with the rapid expansion of social media as a political platform/discussion space, everyone has forgotten how to actually interact as humans. People show allegiance by hitting 'Like', post their slogans as a form of activism and block/cancel anything they oppose. The counter arguments from both sides can usually be bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 04:22 PM |
| 3 | If you were a man what would be red flags in women you might want to date?Overshares personal issues/past trauma/relationship history on first few dates -> she's got unresolved issues that she's incorporated into her identity. May cling to partners for her own mental stability and call that love, but she's so consumed by her internal world that actual connection will be difficult. General excessive complaining & generalizing about either gender as a whole especially with regards to dating -> this person may eventually project learned/perceived gendered patterns onto y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 12:53 PM |
| 7 | Women would like to meet a guy who didn't see them as romantic prospect first, but will get annoyed if he isn't hot enoughOh nooooo but having agency and making changes would involve self reflection... We can't have that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 06:23 PM |
| 9 | What is it you actually like about men?I like the penis and the balls too. They're really funny and delicate too!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 12:37 AM |
| 19 | What is it you actually like about men?Everything I love about men comes out when they are fully comfortable and secure. When they relax, if you're careful and delicate, you can see how deeply fragile and innocently silly men are. When you get a couple dudes relaxing together... Hoo boy its just the best, like the ultimate dumb jokes and simple pleasures. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: How much money does a man need in order for it to factor into your attraction towards them? Is there a number that would overcome and “physical” issues for you?I hope I someday am wise enough to finally date a man who makes at least 50% of my salary. 😑 My mom has been a programmer since the mid eighties. My father was her boss, but each of the three men she married after divorcing him have been financially dependent on her to some degree. Unfortunately I seem to have inherited this financial mommy pheromone and sweet-hearted broke dudes having been charming me since I graduated college! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 11:14 PM |
| 7 | Yes, women do like assholes more than nice guys, its not just because they're physically attractiveThis is the take! The most fucked up relationship I ever had was with someone who I at first believed was the nicest guy I'd ever dated. We got along great, I thought the relationship was gonna be solid, but then some typical minor conflict would happen that would be no big deal in my past relationships, but with him the moment I expressed that something he did hurt me, he'd turn it around and harp endlessly about how nice he was and how dare I accuse him of xyz and make him out to be a jerk. He… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 11:05 PM |
| 8 | What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with?I truly have a deep love for men and sympathy for their unique plight, so this is a nice question to answer. Men get dealt a rough hand from society that often results in them experiencing an enormous amount of internalized pressure to "perform" in various ways. It's something so deeply ingrained that causes sooo many of the misunderstandings between men and women. Women end up with a ton of pressure to be desireable and generous, but we have a much easier time becoming aware of this because we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Similarily to how some claim "average" men don't struggle in dating, you're not an "average" woman if you experience rapeWe need some definitions and clarifications from OP in order to have a useful debate. What are you defining as "average"? What is the relevance of the comparison to average men & dating? I'm unclear on what the intended conclusion is. Are you seeking to suggest that the topic of men struggling with dating has been unfairly minimized by suggesting those men are not "average"? Some replies seem to suggest that "average" defined here means part of the statistical minority, in which case there's no … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Don't give up: Mature women appreciate kind menWhew, had to scroll pretty far to get to a take that doesn't over simplify it. When I think of a kind man, that kindness is also directed inwards. Kindness coming from a man who doesn't love and respect himself often doesn't feel like kindness -- it feels like the foundation of an unhealthy potentially codependent relationship. We are attracted to kind men but that means kind to others AND yourself. Kindness to ones self means you've put time into finding a fulfilling life (this is equivalent to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:53 PM |
| 1 | What are signs that a man is desperate from the get go ?The one that thing has tipped me off in the past is that a desperate person's personality/hobbies/interests will sort of blend with mine or disappear entirely as they start to get too attached to me too quickly. I want a relationship with a whole entire person, not someone who is morphing and suppressing themselves to fit into my life. I want to share and exchange. Not really a gendered thing, women are known for doing this too. One of my biggest red flags though, it really makes me feel suffoca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 07:56 PM |
| 1 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)I agree, that is really sad. Going further with my line of thought, I think we already have some examples of that on a smaller scale with social media filling in for healthier "natural" social interaction. Just wanna say your post was a really fun question to think about, as were your followups!! Would love to see more open ended discussions here that aren't variations on ideological clashes that we've all argued to death already 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 08:01 PM |
| 1 | do you think marriages where one partner is away for work often are more successful?I think the causality is actually that there's a baseline of trust and genuine commitment that's necessary for relationships to endure frequent separation. S | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 07:56 PM |
| 1 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.This is the same defeatist kind of position that I see here from some red pill men and it isn't a strong one for the purpose of debate. When I read stuff like this from anyone, I just wanna send the author some love and try to remind them that we all have some degree of agency, even when we're up against real or perceived societal/social norms that feel like brick walls. You've got agency here, it is your decision to participate in this gendered pursuer/pursued dynamic. It's really not as that t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 07:50 PM |
| 2 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)I'm not sure if there is a large scale solution without a correspondingly large societal and economic change. As things are, the neoliberal/consumerist status quo benefits from people being isolated, in an economic sense at least. I'm a good example. I'm a woman in my late thirties, lucrative career in tech, single and pretty lonely at times but my solitude is mostly voluntary. Another person or even two could move into my apartment and contribute nothing and I would only spend a little bit more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Women's dating profiles suck just as much as guys do, the difference is guys are just less picky about women.Yes, I agree with the title. I will add that beyond being picky, most male pictures on dating apps just look the same. Looking at female profiles (I'm bisexual) is more engaging because women tend to have more defined style, broader range of hair styles and even body types. Because of that I'm more likely to actually stop swiping and really read a woman's profile and think about it I would want to get to know her. With men, the pictures in particular just start to blur together so quickly. It's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 01:43 PM |
| 2 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)i would marry Data because i know and love him as an individual (being silly here of course) but otherwise? No. There is no perfect when it comes to human connection. Variety and flaws and rawness are where it's at. I'm very Georges Bataille-pilled though. Gimme that disgusting base vulgarity over anything smooth and perfect any day!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 09:40 PM |
| – | What’s the difference between a friendly touch vs a flirty touch?You should start telling women (or anyone) that touches you in an intrusive way that you aren't okay with it. I do believe there is a subset of women who truly feel entitled to touch as they please and that can be wrapped up in some toxic feminist justifications. My observations of this behavior in other women lead me to believe that they have internalized dehumanizing stereotypes about men -- specifically that men aren't ever bothered by touch or even that men always want to be touched. And soc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 07:42 PM |
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