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You're an idiot if you think 25% of all women are being raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:46 AM
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This entire sub is basically "I'm talking about these women/men and they exhibit these qualities," while others go "I disagree! I'm talking about these other women/men and they exhibit different qualities!" Also, what's with this Lilith chick, is this some sort of psyop? I've heard her name a few times being "shouted out" but her comments are unhinged lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:52 PM
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I've never heard the sentiment that a woman single for longer than a year will be single forever. Obviously there are reasons we need to look into as to why this is, and often times it could be a good thing for her to remain single. I do think being a serial monogamous is more of a red flag than being single for an extended period of time. Having 20 failed relationships in the past 3 years is worse in my mind than being single for that same amount of time, just from a surface level analysis. As …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:57 AM
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I think it's obviously more common that men mistake friendless for flirtation as friendly interactions is just a normal part of social life, more chances of confusing it for flirtation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:19 AM
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Way to avoid the question entirely lol. Yes, no reasonable person is going to disagree that taking precautions to avoid bad things is smart. The question I posed was simple: should the average woman be afraid of the average man?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 08:18 PM
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Yes. Now the question is, should the average woman live in fear of the average man over potentially getting raped?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:50 PM
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Yup, victim mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:42 PM
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So based on your own experiences you think every other woman should live in fear of the average man? You literally admit you could provide stories that prove your position... yes lol obviously. You could also look to women who have never been in a negative encounter with a man. Do you care about those women and those experiences, or only those that reinforce your worldview? The average woman does not need to fear the average man. There is nothing incorrect or outlandish with this statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:59 PM
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Yes, it's silly for the average woman to fear being raped by the average man. This is the position of someone's perception skewed by a hyper focus on certain stories, only allowed thanks to the widespread dissemination of information, as opposed to actually observing their own lives. This is an issue with dumb people consuming social media. If you're constantly bombarded online all day long about how world War 3 is any second, or how you'll be deported despite being a citizen, or how you're gonn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:56 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:42 PM
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This is just dishonest af lol, it's like feminists going "whY do Men HavE a ProbLem WiTh EquaL RiGht?!" Stop acting like that's all that's going on, or that it's even the main thing. It also presupposes that the average man is potentially dangerous and that an entire database is required in order to not get raped or something. It's silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:28 PM
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You mean those women are just poor judges of character? Or maybe she recognize these red flags but puts up with him because her own red flags compliment his? Are women ever at fault for their own bad decisions lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:24 PM
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Yes, which actually makes it easier to avoid them as they're basically exposing themselves. You just need to be able to read the blatant signs and not think with your dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:06 PM
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Yes it is lol, when someone makes broad generalized statements about a large group of people, like "why do women think it's men's fault," it is always assumed we're talking about as general a group as possible, aka the average woman/man as that is what fits the broadest category possible. Why would you bring up neurodivergent/non-average men though? As a simplistic whataboutism that adds nothing to what the other person is saying. Me: "Generally speaking, it is within men's control to succeed in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:23 PM
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Which group of men dating are we focusing on? The general average the proves the rule or all the exceptions to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 08:18 AM
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No lol wtf, a paraplegic's inability to climb a mountain is not a problem. It would be entirely illogical for someone without legs to want to grow legs. It is not illogical for someone who is failing at dating to essentially get good by improving themselves. You're making an incredibly dishonest comparison. You're quibbling over the word "fault," which is why I quoted it multiple times because I understand it's not exactly "fault" in the traditional sense of the word. If we were to reword it, it…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 08:02 AM
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The origin of a person's problems might not be their fault, but retaining those problems is your "fault." This is such victim mentality. Take accountability for your person, you know, how you guys are always complaining women supposedly don't do? Adults are responsible for their problems, period. You can certainly recognize that a problem you have originates from somewhere else, but once you recognize you have a problem it is now entirely in your hands to deal with that problem, and if you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:50 AM
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There is a pretty apparent type of woman who is going to falsely accuse someone of something so heinous. Normal, well-adjusted, generally good human beings would never make such accusations. It is the mentally unstable ones who pull this bs. Simply avoid those women. But in order to do that, you first have to be able to recognize those of low moral character, that means getting in touch with your own character and recognizing your own faults, as that's the only way to see it in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:35 AM
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Because it is the guy's "fault" for being single, as it is anyone who is lol. If you're a man or woman and you're having troubles finding a partner, despite trying, there is something either wrong with you yourself or something you are doing. How is this a controversial statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:33 AM
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I'm going to ignore the entire shovel analogy, stop using simplistic analogies to explain yourself. If you can't justify your claim without using an analogy the claim is weak to begin with. So let's take your last paragraph. A black woman will prefer a white man? How tf is this a wholly true statement?? Explain that and do your best to avoid analogizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:44 AM
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You keep saying that all while ignoring the fact I've listed substantial difference multiple times. Address this or admit you're wrong. We can separate women and men based on categories of socioeconomic class, race, religion, etc. You've been arguing nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:14 AM
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Why doesn't it make sense that we have different types of women despite them wanting the same things and what not? You just keep repeating the claim with no justification. No, it's not a strawman whatsoever to say you're effectively refusing to specify women... that's what different types of women is doing, specifying a KIND of woman. You're saying it's useless getting specific because they're only superficial things? I LITERALLY gave examples of useful specifics such as socioeconomic class, rac…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:32 AM
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What is this nonsense?? Lol that's like me saying when birds have the same needs and experience, aka they eat worms and fly and migrate south for winter, we can't categorize them. You're just making shit up arbitrarily lol. Why? Why can't we categorize women and men into "average" and "above-average?" Why we can't we categorize them into their socioeconomic class, their race, if they were raised by both parents, if they have kids, etc. All you're saying is we can't get specific, we HAVE to talk …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:08 AM
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Yes there are different "types" of men and women. We can sub-categorize these broad groups into smaller groups in order to have more intelligent conversation about the whole. What a stupid claim, what do you think "average woman/man" means? It's a sub-category of all women/men, a "type." Jesus lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:00 AM
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No they don't, and what the fuck does that even mean lol. Women stand in solidarity as a group through aspiration? Where do ya'll come up with these banal sayings?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 01:58 AM
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One type of woman says something, another type of woman does something else. But instead of recognizing this, you act like women who complain about something like men should be more vulnerable are the same women who punish men for being vulnerable. Are there SOME women who demonstrate this performative contradiction? Yes, but they don't represent the group as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 05:49 PM
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Your claim is that if a man does something meaningless a woman wouldn't care. You literally just assume this to be true without any explanation as to why it is lol. So I pointed out how this is not self-evidently true, that plenty of people can care when someone does something meaningless. I then insulted you. If I didn't make an argument then I couldn't have possibly made an ad hominem as it's literally an argumentation fallacy loool. Simply insulting or name calling doesn't automatically equal…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 06:33 PM
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Oh so yes, you're just being pedantic about the term "meaningless." So is there ANYTHING someone can do that's "meaningless?" So everything that anyone ever does has profound meaning attached to it? And you have zero clue what an ad hom is lol, typically redditor throwing around fallacies to look smart. An adominem is attacking a person's character instead of the argument IN PLACE of an argument. I made my argument THEN talked shit about your stupidity. Not an ad hom. I know, very subtle distinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 06:00 PM
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And yet, in reality, they DO mind if others do them despite it meaning nothing. If a married man has a meaningless affair, his wife shouldn't be upset? iT WAs MEaNinGlESS LOL why would you bother understanding what someone else means when they speak? You clearly have no understanding of how language functions to ask something so stupid, as if words only have simplistic singular definitions and don't add up to something greater than the sum of its parts when used to convey complex ideas. The more…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 09:21 PM
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Are you really that daft? You've never heard of people doing meaningless things? Or are you being pedantic over the term and refusing to understand what I mean when I say "meaningless?" Yeah, I think that's it. If you're not going to bother understanding what the other person means when they use a term, you shouldn't be on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:24 PM
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Yes, hooking up with random guys is superficial and meaningless, other than to feel good for a moment. So you're asking if I think this, then surely she wouldn't mind if he hooks up with random women now and again? No lol, of course she would still mind, what kind of dumb question is this? This is the same justification red pillers use to justify why they should be able to cheat and she shouldn't. "A man hooking up with a woman is purely sexual and biological, it's like masturbation (aka SHALLOW…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 03:35 AM
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They dont. Only some do lol, a very small number.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:16 PM
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Wtf are you responding to exactly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:35 PM
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No. Lol you are projecting a whole bunch of red pill assumptions, which I'm not. But I'm good dude lol this has been an incredible chore of a conversation and I'm not trying to continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:21 AM
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Yes actually. You: "I'm angry for these reasons." Me: "No, you're angry for these reasons." You: "aD hoMinEm!!" Not an ad homiem. This is getting sad lol, you have zero understanding of any of the definitions you pull up...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:11 AM
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You don't know what an ad hom is lol. You literally made no attempt to address anything I said. I'm not responding to arguments you made to the strawman you've created. And Jesus you can't read for shit. You're insane for completely misapplying the definition lol, you still have no idea what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:04 AM
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You're responding in anger because you're an emotionally stunted child who's projecting his own insecurity onto my comment and reading completely into what's not there. And when I repeatedly ask you to specify what precisely you find issue with my comment, you're the who glosses over this and chose to focus on a single line or two, then proceed to completely misrepresent the point. And do you ask for clarification when I point out you've misunderstood me? Nope, you continue your bizarre rambling…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 06:57 AM
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Yeah you're not a reasonable person whatsoever lol, I'm not engaging with the incoherent argument you're having with the voices in your head. I've touched on the reasons behind why men and women feel and do what they do in this situation. You keep reframing the situation and then bizarrely and quite angrily shitting on a specific type of man you can't seem to get off your mind. You also have no idea what a Madonma whore complex is if you think feeling negatively about finding out your wife was a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 06:41 AM
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I didn't say a challenging approach can't lead to positive understanding and growth on the part of the one you're challenging, I just don't think it's necessary or as meaningful as prioritizing simply understanding the other person, which leads to a deeper connection which is more likely to eventually facilitate long term profound growth. Basically my argument is "time and place." If you're having a conversation on a subject matter, sharing what one another thinks, I think it's perfectly fine to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:26 AM
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Yeah, and that's just where we differ as people. I mean, this is kinda the same reason why people of different political beliefs can't be friends, or at the far extreme literally end up disowning family. I'm never in a challenging/confronting mindset, hoping to make others think more about their beliefs. I'm solely interesting in learning who they are, what they think, and the why behind it. NOT changing their beliefs. If I "challenge" someone's belief, it is always with the intention of wanting…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:57 AM
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Alright, so I think we could clear up our disagreement, or at least make it apparent enough to agree to disagree, by using more concrete example. Again these ideas aren't in vacuums but are practically applied, and this is where the value is found. I have a black co-worker, cool guy, pretty ghetto dude. Grew up in the culture, yada yada. He made a generalized comment about black (and white) women in reference to a white male co-worker dating another black female co-worker. Something along the li…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:32 AM
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Oh I thought you were calling me the troll lol my b
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:55 AM
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Yeah but you're a poop head.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:55 AM
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I mean you say that it doesn't reveal a lot of useful information but I simply disagree. "Some truth" doesn't mean that statement reflects reality in any meaningful sense? It depends on what you mean by "meaningful." Truth in itself is always meaningful. I take it you mean something more like practical, whereas I am interested in truth simply for the sake of truth. I'm definitely not interested in which conversations are fruitful in this sub lol, but rather how to approach conversations in real …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:54 AM
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You're right they aren't good prompts for broader conversation necessarily, but that doesn't mean we can't extract SOME truth from them. That was my point, that these statements are never made in a vacuum, that there's always some context they find themselves in, and the goal isn't to have some productive conversation necessarily, it's simply to understand the idea being expressed. This is how most normal people operate actually. It's why we can laugh at the meme (which is the simplest form of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:25 AM
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That's a good but largely irrelevant question. Notice how I quoted "emotional," meaning I acknowledge that it's a fairly nebulous term, but I carried on thinking we all can agree we have a pretty similar understanding of it so that you could understand the actual point I was making, which had nothing to do with emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:06 AM
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We can dive into this. Give me an example of a general stereotype or vague idea regarding men and women that you think is mostly true. Or we could use an obviously true one, like men tend to be more aggressive than women. These ideas don't exist in a vacuum, we're not just randomly talking about the weather and then go "MEN ARE MORE AGGRESSIVE!!" lol, they always exist in some sort of context, and this is important. So for example, we could come across a news story about a female murderer who st…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 02:03 AM
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Yeah, listen to the Fatty Fat Neck Beard Man, he can definitely differentiate a genuine attempt at conversation from a troll. What would this sub do without you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:49 AM
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Yes, people won't deal with greater concepts other than the vague stereotypes. So, don't rigidly adhere to any of them as if they are true NOR should you toss them out as useless: because you're not familiar with the higher resolution ideas that are (or aren't) contained in them. This is my whole point, that the solution to this problem IS to familiarize yourself with the greater concepts by attempting to extract possible truth from these generalizations. I also have no rigid, or honestly any, c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:48 AM
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Well yes you can, behind the vague notions are higher and higher resolution ideas that are built upon it. So when we reference vague ideas we all collectively have an understanding that there are more specific ideas the are linked to this idea. It's like a PHd in climate science and a college student saying "climate change is a problem." Those two people do not have the same understanding of this vague idea, as the PHd is going to have mountains of hyper specific information behind ghat vague cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:39 AM
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Hmm I'm not sure that's exactly true. I think there is a vague notion of masculinity we can all agree to that is good and can be broadly prescribed to men in general. The problem is these vague notions are just that, and by not understanding them on a deeper level you either have a low resolution understanding and execution of it and end up like Andrew Tate or you end up throwing out the entire notion and dismantling the term until it's basically meaningless. I can ask can you give me an example…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:28 AM
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Jesus christ you people have zero reading comprehension lol. "Men are just as emotional as women" is a generalization. Are we talking all men and women? Are we equally emotional in all regards? With every emotion? "Women tend to be more emotional" is also a generalization. Is your generalization always true? Is this one never true? Is there any merit to the claim whatsoever? My point that you morons fail to understand is that generalizations can be useful if you're smart about using them and und…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:20 AM
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How is it a contradiction?? And wtf are you talking about that I don't like being reminded which gender acts out in anger the most? I'M the one who brought it up looool, to make a point that went over your head despite me repeating it multiple times. What part of "anger is NOT the only emotion in existence" do you not understand? What part of "generalizations can be true in SOME ways and false in other ways" do you not understand? You're not a reasonable person to be partaking in good faith or i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:48 AM
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So what if none of the examples you gave have any truth to them? I already acknowledged in the very first sentence of my comment that yeah lol, people make dumb generalizations. But ALSO, and this is moving to a greater point, we should learn to extract what truth there is in generalizations, or what truth the claimant THINKS exists in that generalization. That is how we evolve our understanding of these subjects to greater understandings, not by saying "haha dumb conservatives say dumb thing." …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:34 AM
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My rationalizations don't work? What exactly does this even mean lol. You literally did not understand anything about my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 12:11 AM
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It's almost as if making incredibly vague, generalized statements of fact about an entire group of people based on the arbitrary category of sex is a dangerous game and often dumb. However, it's also pretty dumb to refuse to acknowledge that often even vague generalizations do have SOME truth to be found in them, and that quibbling over exceptions to disprove the vague statement instead of taking the nuanced route of acknowledging how it can be true isn't doing much to progress conversation and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:52 PM
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No, your questions are stupid and aren't based on anything I said lol. Ask better questions. If he doesn't inspire carnal attraction in his partner, why is SHE with him? Why are you so focused on a single side of this? No, I'm not assuming bad faith. Explain how. Another strawman: no one is talking about a man who wants freaky sex but settled for vanilla then gets mad when he finds out she was a freak. We're talking about a man who is absolutely fine with vanilla sex but feels a certain way when…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:39 PM
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You continue to demonstrate you didn't actually read anything I wrote lol. Men want to be WANTED by their woman. If a woman is eager to display sexuality to casual partners, but is less so for her husband, why is this the case? Sure, it could be that he is failing to foster sexual chemistry... but that's an odd assertion considering she married him lol. You're refusing to acknowledge the specific scenario I'm talking about and keep wanting to shift away to another topic. I'm talking about women …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:36 PM
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You're really set on arguing against this strawman you've constructed of my position instead of actually addressing anything I said lol. If you want to actually have a conversation in good faith, how about you specifically tell me what precisely I said that you take issue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:30 PM
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I didn't bring up anal as an example lol, the woman I replied to did. It doesn't have to be anal, it's just sexual vigor. For example, a woman admits to her husband who she has sex maybe twice a month with that she used to have sex all the time with random guys. All I'm doing is observing what's going on and asking why, and giving possible broad answers. Doesn't seem like you're interested in actually exploring the topic with any sense of curiosity based on the rather banal and irrelevant questi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:29 PM
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You completely missed the point of my comment and are basically arguing against someone else entirely lol. No one said anything about casual sex being shameful. I'm talking about a very specific situation, that is to highlight a type of woman where the difference in sexual behaviors she WANTS to indulge in with men when she's younger is more willing and explorative with casual partners, but with a serious partner it is less so. I'm talking about why this is, generally speaking. Why a woman would…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 10:25 PM
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Not sure what you think is absolutist thinking about my comment when I acknowledge there are complex reasons behind this stuff and that I'm just speaking generally about this particular issue. And you're not representing the argument accurately. The example wouldn't be of a woman trying anal once and not liking it and her current man getting upset with it; the proper example would be a woman who used to have a ton of anal sex with a bunch of different men but now won't with her husband and never…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 02:38 PM
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But that's the catch 22 of the situation. She's a hoe when she's younger because of different reasons, daddy issues, wants validation, inexperienced, doesn't have parents who have a healthy relationship to model off of, etc. So the reasons she's a hoe are bad. But if she resolves these issues, realizes she doesn't need shallow sexual validation, gains experience on how to properly form a loving connection, sees what a healthy relationship looks like, it makes sense that she's not going to act th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:56 AM
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"Feel cucked" is the wrong framing, men want to be desired by their woman more than any other man. It's that simple. So there is some truth to the annoyance/insecurity guys feel with certain women's approach to dating long term vs short term: some women will have casual sex with men they are attracted to in the short term but for a variety of reasons aren't interested in dating long term (or for some of these women they are interested and it's the guys who aren't). They do this in the past, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:52 PM
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Or, just have and understand what it means to have a relationship with a sister lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:09 PM
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I got second hand embarrassment from writing your number down before even approaching her lol, mindblown a couple women said that was fine. That was the only thing wrong here, you just assumed based on a couple glances she'd be receptive to your number before even talking to her? C'mon dude lol, are you a mind reader? Nothing necessarily wrong with approaching a woman you think is interested in you, though just be mindful that 9/10 times women working out just want to work out. But jesus man, TA…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 04:26 AM
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I think there's some truth on both sides. On hand, a rigid adherence to certain societal expectations, especially when your understanding of those expectations is naive and low resolution, can definitely lead a person to feeling miserable and boxed in. On the other hand, certain societal expectations became and remained so because there is profound truth behind it. There's not some cabal of authoritarians deciding "hmm... what should we tell society to do?" (or the idiotic, exceedingly low resol…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:39 PM
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This is such an internet brained take lol. No, romantic relationships are absolutely the norm, as is seeking monogamous romantic relationships. Men don't merely want sex, they want love.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:01 PM
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From what perspective? From society at large, absolutely not. From far-left echo chambers, sure lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:46 PM
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It's one of the fundamental flaws of red pill ideology in relation to dating. Whores are bad, don't be whores ladies. Also men are meant to sleep around. Who tf are you supposed to sleep around with then lol??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:41 PM
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What does me liking JP have anything to do with the argument at hand? Your analysis of him is as idiotic as your analysis of conservatives' goals lol. All you can do is attack his character, yet when it comes to his field of expertise, psychology, he is spot on. But actually contending with ideas is hard work, you would rather mock him for crying. You're definitely good at debating! Yet you seem to struggle arguing the topic, let alone staying on topic, let me remind you what we're arguing over:…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 12:45 AM
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So now we're pulling conspiracy theories out of our ass? Alright, that still doesn't change the fact that PEOPLE IN GENERAL, conservative or otherwise, are ENCOURAGING gender roles that are perfectly natural and fulfilling for most people. If you want to make an argument that actually there's a cabal of conservative elites who want to dictate the lives of every man and woman to live exactly how they see fit, take it somewhere else. So we can't prescribe women's nature to the big 5 personality tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 12:13 AM
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What legal enforcement are conservatives pushing for? You clearly have absolutely zero clue when you claim they want to make black people slaves again. And the reason to leave out developing nations from this conversation is because WE AGREE lol jesus christ this conversation... Oh good lord, another ignorant take on project 2025, projecting that on every conservative. No, the overwhelming majority of conservatives do not want to make it illegal for women to work out the house. You are dishonest…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 11:46 PM
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Gender roles are not enforced at all in the west by your definition of the word. You said YOUR definition is "legal enforcement." I already said I am not talking about backwards developing countries, I'm talking about the west, and I asked OTHER THAN these backwards nations, where and how is the west "enforcing" gender roles? The answer you refuse to admit is they aren't, there is no enforcement, there is only societal expectation/encouragement. I ask for evidence knowing full well that women WE…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:58 PM
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Even in backward nations or instances of the past where certain gender roles were strictly enforced that still doesn't prove your claim that they are also natural lol. You made a claim with zero evidence. "Then why do they have to enforce it?" is not evidence of any kind, it's a question asked due to a lack of imagination. Why do you think a society would rigidly enforce something despite being natural? Surely you can come up with some reasons on your own if you try hard enough lol. And jesus ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 12:04 PM
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What do you mean by "enforced?" If we're using a sociological definition of the term, it means something more akin to social pressure, but that still doesn't negate the fact that gender roles are overwhelmingly due to natural causes. The fact that SOME people do not fit neatly into these roles also does not prove they aren't natural. Almost all behavior can be traced back to biology. When we look at monkeys, their social dynamics are 100% due to biology. Now imagine they slowly gain sentience an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 11:20 AM
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Because you don't need an egotistical identity for every single thing you believe. Do you identify as a puppist? Someone who's against kicking puppies? Are you an anti-starvationist? Someone who wants to end world hunger? Are you an anti-racist? Someone against racism? Stop stupidly "identifying" with things and just be a normal person lol. Normal people obviously believe men and women are intrinsically equal in value. Normal people don't have to identify with a term that signals their belief. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:15 PM
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I think it's more accurate to say men, generally, like seeing peak masculinity/femininity, whereas with women it's a little more split. Generally speaking, women also do like seeing those things, but it's a bit more divided, and a significant amount of women like more subtle masculinity/femininity. Idk if it's 50/50 or whatever, but I do think this idea that most women don't like hyper-masculine men is a bit overstated. Plenty do, plenty don't. What we mean by "like" also matters here. What are …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:43 PM
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The male-gaze tends to admire HYPER-feminine/masculine traits in men and women? What is an example of a hyper-feminine/masculine trait? Idk how well red pillers do or don't understand either of these gazes, but I think most people don't seem to understand it that well. The "male-gaze" is typically meant as that which generally captures a male audience. For example, a ton of anime caters to males, and a specific kind of man. Romance novels cater to women. If we compare and contrast what appeals t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 06:28 PM
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Why would you take my accurate description and dumb it down to a generalization lol? ALL shallow women are obsessed with status. MOST hot women are obsessed with status. Which descriptor do you think is more useful? The one that specifies an entire group, or the one that only references a vague majority?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:12 AM
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*shallow women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:57 AM
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Well with any field of competency, we can look at the traits necessary in order to become successful in those fields. A surgeon requires hyper-attention to detail, ability to work under stress, a vast knowledge and ability to apply it, etc. None of which is particularly feminine or masculine. A lawyer or business exec on the other hand do require more masculine traits. The corporate world rewards cutthroat attitudes, climbing over others to ascend the corporate ladder, being stern and argumentat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:16 PM
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Depends what field of competency we're talking about. A competent female MMA fighter or a competent female hospice nurse lol. And if you're unwilling to acknowledge the obvious differences in temperament needed to succeed in these fields, you might just have an issue with the terms "masculine/feminine" themselves. Which is somewhat fair, the terms kinda break down into meaninglessness when applies too specifically, but surely we can all vaguely agree that certain behaviors somewhat fall better i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:56 PM
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The problem with blaming the economy for people having less kids is that it's simply not true. Poor people are having just as much kids as they always have. If we look to poorer countries with much less stable economies, they are as well having plenty of children. Economic factors do play a role for sure, but it is largely cultural. Just look at OP's post, the part where she says "Then, culturally, there is still a societal expectation to get married and have a baby." This is framed as a negativ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:14 AM
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If you're being paid for sex, you are nothing but a glorified sex doll. You are objectifying yourself for no reason other than you have an incredibly idiotic understanding of the function of sex. Sex isn't merely some random, meaningless activity like a handshake or playing tennis, unless you are psychologically damaged. Sex is THE most intimate way to bond with someone you love. No, men don't get "more" out of sex, again, unless you are valuing shallow qualities. When you look deeper into the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:30 PM
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"Men can be abusive in a relationship." What exactly is "extreme" about this? It's a true statement lol. Two things you're doing here when asserting this is somehow negative: one, you're assuming ill-intention, like we can't make basic truth claims within the context of a broader conversation in good faith. And two, you guys take wayyy too much issue with generalizations. It's perfectly fine to speak about certain ideas in a generalized manner. We would literally not be able to talk about comple…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:47 AM
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Not making the argument myself, but I think it has to do with stated preferences vs what we actually see women go for in reality. Often women claim the want this or that, and when we observe their behavior it doesn't align with their supposed preference. We could run an experiment with these two versions of the same person on Tinder for example, and it is probable that the more muscular one will get more matches. Again, I'm not making the argument, just giving insight into what certain men (defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:06 PM
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You're completely missing the point. That is perfectly fine, regardless of what crazy feminist says. It's also perfectly fine for women to not want to engage with a threesome with another woman for the exact same reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:37 AM
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Like I said, it's a shallow, surface-level understanding, just barely enough to attract them initially but not enough to actually develop a profound emotional connection that's going to lead to a flourishing long-term relationship. Basically, if you just want to have a bunch of casual sex with women take the red pillers advice lol. It's definitely a bit of arrogance, but I think a lot of it is projection through anecdote on both sides. Someone has a handful of bad experiences with men/women and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 03:00 AM
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True, but I can see where the red pillers are coming from when they act like they understand women in and out but women can't understand men at all lol. Obviously women can, but men are more so "forced" to understand female psychology as they are the pursuing sex, so to be successful they kinda need to. Women are the pursued sex, they less so need to understand a man's psychology to be "successful." In a sense, men are the ones who come to women and have to compete with one another, while the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:39 AM
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You seem to have an incredibly narrow perspective of the average man lol. The average, modern man does not see a college degree as a negative, not sure where you're pulling this notion that so many refuse to date college educated women from. I assume it's specifically from the red pillers who constantly spout the flawed statistic that college educated women are like 90% likely to initiate divorce or whatever, but that is not representative of the perspective of most men. You can't project what y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:31 AM
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You're assuming people are aware of their own psychology? Lol yeah no, it's actually a very rare thing to be acutely aware of one's own's psychology. This is why women (and men) can say one thing and their behavior reflects another. Just because you CLAIM you are one way does not make it so, and we can easily peer into one's character through their actions, something they're often not even consciously aware of until pointed out by an outside observer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:15 AM
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If there is a moral argument to be made, it has less to do with the age gap and more to do with hook up culture in general. So no, lol, if both are down, have at it. It's idiotic to think 18 year olds can't consent because their "brains are not developed," a claim that is grossly misunderstood based not on the understanding the actual science behind that claim, rather just parroting what they've heard others repeat over and over. This claim also breaks down when you apply the "brain not develope…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:21 AM
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I have no idea what you're trying to argue at this point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:16 PM
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Support abortion no matter the gender??? Financial abortion does NOT equal actual abortion lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:12 PM
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Eyeroll? Lol... Yeah, they don't support abortion, BUT if abortion was illegal they wouldn't be making a fuss AS MUCH about financial abortion. They literally admit this lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:08 PM
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That's just not true. So many red piller repeat the rhetoric "if she can get an abortion, I shouldn't have to pay for it. My wallet, my choice."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:02 PM
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Yeah I'm not sure if I'm understanding. It's not just about the man relinquishing parental rights, but the mother being "prepared" for that. I mean, I get that, it's for both people. The issue I have is when abortion is used as justification for financial abortion. I already conceded that if you want to argue for financial abortion on its own merits separate from the issue of abortion, that's perfectly fine. I do think a lot of men are definitely using the legality of abortion to justify their v…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:02 AM
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It's not about "fair" it's about what is right/ethical. The abortion question is irrelevant. We have two scenarios we're working with: World A - Abortion is deemed unethical World B - Abortion is deemed perfectly fine Financial abortion is either right or wrong in BOTH of these worlds, not one or the other. The argument justifying financial abortion is one of revenge, not justice. "Oh, you're able to abort the baby? Well then I should be able to abort my wallet!" The premise of the argument is b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:48 AM
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Oh okay, I've heard it as financial abortion. It's definitely not ethically analogous to actual abortion, but I can sympathize with the criticisms surrounding current custody/child support laws, and as you say, the seeming unfairness of how women can give up a child entirely but a man can't in the corresponding way. Regardless, the argument "if she can abort my child without my consent, I shouldn't have to pay if she does keep it" isn't super sound when broken down. It's more emotional than anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 03:35 AM
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Alright, I'm asking it: what's a paper abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 02:59 AM
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Yeah you have no idea how to articulate yourself in a sensible manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:35 PM
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Progressives, by definition, progress. Conservatives, but definitive, conserve. That's what I'm talking about. Crazy how you're having trouble with this absurdly simplistic statement lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:58 PM
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Non-answer? You didn't ask a question lol I literally said I don't know what you're trying to say. And I'm even more confused now lol wtf are you even arguing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:20 PM
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Not sure what you mean. I think in practice, "progressives" have ironically regressed in various ways, the whole so anti-racist they wrap back around to being racist thing, but I was speaking more on the fundamental nature of progressive/conservative itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:44 PM
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No lol this is just definitionally incorrect. Progressives have a higher proclivity toward, believe it or not, "progressing" in various manners. They're the ones who tend to be more inclined to update their worldview to adopt new trends, such as with fashion. If society is questioning the norms surrounding how to dress, they're likely to adopt these new trends, which include dressing more immodestly under the belief that breaking the status quo is good. Conservatives have a higher proclivity to,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:44 AM
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I definitely think Tate is a symptom of an existing issue and isn't the primary cause, but he and people like him are certainly not helping, and I do think he in fact "radicalizes" some men who otherwise would not have fallen into the "toxic" rabbit hole of his ideology. Impressionable men who are unsure of what to think about the problems they face are swept off their feet by people like him, being pushed farther in that direction. I don't see how this isn't considered "radicalization." Yes, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:47 PM
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Biggest inconsistency in their worldview. If there's "nothing wrong" with a woman selling her sexuality then there should be nothing wrong with a man buying it. The fact they demonize and insult men who buy their services all while gassing up their ability to sell it is absolutely insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:38 AM
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Ah the age old question... who's worse, the thot or the simp? I know it's a chicken vs egg type of question, and maybe it's because I'm a man so I'm biased, but I tend to place more blame on the simps who enable this behavior than the thot "exploiting" them. Obviously both are morally questionable, but it's a matter of numbers. 1 instagram thot vs 100,000 followers? The guy below me flipped this around though, arguing consuming is negatively affecting themselves, distributing it negatively affec…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:35 AM
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That's quite the sleazy strawman lol. No one is talking about poor, desperate women trying to feed their starving babies so they sell their bodies. We're obviously talking about the modern sex worker, OnlyFan chicks who have perfectly privileged lives in the west, go to college, only to decide to sell pictures online for quick cash. Equating the two is straight up dishonest or lazy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:31 AM
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Slut shaming exists beyond men lol. Plenty of women slut shame. Shaming promiscuous behavior has always been a relative societal standard for most civilizations because promoting long-term monogamous relationships for most people is how society thrives. Shame =/= hate. I agree that a lot of men do hate sex workers, but let's be nuanced about this. Hearing a woman is a sex worker and having a lowered opinion of her (not hate) is not unreasonable. There are plenty of reasons why many people do not…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:28 AM
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Wrong af lol, red pill is a symptom of an already degrading dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:22 PM
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I somewhat agree, unless the wife is just making an asston of money easily. I'd be more than happy to be a house husband at that point lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:21 AM
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Either dating apps aren't used in that culture or Korea is fucked lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:18 AM
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Well I don't know if I agree to not disclosing your virginity if asked on it. You're basically telling people to lie to potential partners for the sake of gaining what they otherwise might not gain if they were honest, which I hope I don't have to explain why this is not a very noble method of interacting with the world lol. But I do understand your point. You claim that women can't tell the difference between a virgin and an experienced individual, but this is just false. When courting a woman,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 01:57 AM
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My bad, forgot you're not good at reading lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:48 AM
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Lol redditor bragging about his sex life after arguing like a moron to a bunch of people online asking someone else about their sex life after losing an argument? What a permavirgin thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:41 AM
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And you ignored what a "dork" is. More lazy argumentation. I'm sure you get tons of sex my guy lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:37 AM
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No it's not meaningless. I literally point out how some women admit to being sluts, and are proud of it. Are you gonna go "no you're not, that word is meaningless"? Do you not understand how relative terms work? Someone who has little sex is a "dork" to you? I could literally flip your own moronic logic on you. What is the standard for a "dork" or a "permavirgin"? Can you provide an objective standard for this? Exactly, sit tf down lol. And keep being dishonest about what I said to make your dum…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:25 AM
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Bruh can you use your brain just a little? It doesn't matter if it's easy or hard to have tons of sex. The point is having a ton of casual sex makes you promiscuous. How are you not understanding this? Stop projecting your weirdness onto others because you're too braindesd to actually argue the logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:02 AM
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10 bodies at 25 who got all those bodies in a few months is a slut. Learn to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:56 AM
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Anyone who actively and successfully engages in prioritizing shallow relationships for the purpose of mere momentary self-pleasure. Plenty of women who are promiscuous will admit to being sluts and how they enjoy it. Not sure why you're being obtuse over the term like it's impossible to define lol. We can't put a precise number on it, but we know it when we see it. A woman with 10 bodies at the age of 25 but all of those were serious attempts at relationships over the course of years is not prom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:58 AM
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Men don't hate sluts. Men who can't get any sluts hate them and are resentful of the women who give it out to "unworthy" men and not them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:53 AM
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After 23ish, I don't think age matters. The potential issues in an age gap relationship can exist at any age. The whole "brain not developed til 25" is parroting nonsense. Before that, I think the half your age plus 7 is a good rule. I think that's a decent rule past 23, but doesn't matter much after a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:03 PM
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Oh, gotcha. Yeah no, I would be happy lol, especially if she were thinking about me during her solo session. Very odd if people would feel negatively about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:16 AM
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Lol I was confused at first thinking the one who wasn't interested masturbated, I would be feeling some sort of way over that. But YOU aren't up for sex, so your horny partner goes and wack one off real quick, and you're unsure how to feel? Lol wtf? You didn't want sex, he was horny, let one out. What's the problem here?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:07 AM
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Depends on how he rejected her the first time. Not being interested in someone who is overweight is no big deal. Becoming interested in a person after they improve themselves, physically or otherwise, is perfectly fine, and it's odd to consider holding their preference and your lack of meeting it against them. It would be similar to say "I'm a bad person, want to date me?" and getting rejected, but then you become a good person and now they want to date you. Are you gonna go "sorry, you didn't g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 12:31 AM
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The only reason to claim that psychologically a 23 year old would be healthier than a 30 year old is due to the lack of negative experiences a 23 year old has yet to encounter than a 30 year old has. This is NOT what causes psychological issues, unless extreme. A 23 year old or a 30 year old who is psychologically unwell is so due to much deeper reasons stemming from childhood. It is exceedingly rare for someone to become so psychologically damaged due to experiences of adulthood. Everyone goes …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:54 AM
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Again, I'm not saying superficial characteristics are bad or not worth having standards for. I wouldn't date an overweight woman either, meaning, there is a superficial quality I have as a prerequisite prior to even bothering to know more profound ones. My only push back was the assumption that most are overweight, or when you're ONLY focusing on superficial qualities. Once more, a LOT of physical or personality traits have to due with psychology. There are psychological reasons why someone will…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:27 AM
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Looks change over time, that is a superficial quality that needs to be secondary. Again, choosing to marry a woman for her looks is the best way to guarantee you'll be divorced in your future. All your other standards can be found in women of any age, you're making the assumption that younger women automatically come with this predisposition. It's as wrong as people who assume younger women are less mature than older women, you have to look at a case by case basis. If anything, actually, I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:02 AM
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What do you mean "more desirable?" In what way? Personality wise? Physically? You do realize that younger women become older women in time, right? You need to select for women that you will want to be with when you're both older, and if you're simply looking at their perky ass and tits you're asking to be divorced in a few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:40 AM
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Lol this is my take. I'll fuck younger girls all day long, but when I'm considering a serious marriage, it's PROBABLY not going to be with someone THAT much younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:38 AM
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Good dads. Most guys just want to get their dicks wet. And a lot of guys are so misinformed as to what a good relationship looks like, they assume sex is the basis of it when that couldn't be further from the truth. It's emotional connection. If you can form a strong, loving bond, age (reasonably) is irrelevant. The problem is a LOT of guys chasing younger women have bad intention. It's not that going after younger women is bad, it's that THEY are not good people to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:36 AM
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Yeah, I'm fine with dating younger girls but 19 is too young. If she looks like a woman and the situation allows for it, I'm down for hooking up, but I would never seriously date a woman that young.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:34 AM
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Just to clarify though, "different life stages" is a specific problem separate from age. In your instance, it wasn't that the different life stages was a problem, it was simply you weren't compatible with his life style. This can happen to anyone at any age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:32 AM
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A man shouldn't date a younger women for the same reasons he wouldn't date any woman. Her age is irrelevant (obviously, reasonably speaking). There are SOME instances where age IS an indicator of potential incompatibility, such as maturity level, but people who assume this to always be the case are woefully unaware of how maturity works. You don't just magically continue to mature as you age, maturation is a deeper process and more akin to intentional character development. In fact, I would argu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:29 AM
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No one seems to be able to discuss nuance in this sub... The answer is, it depends on perspective you focus on. If we're focusing on the women's perspective, it's her fault. And I'm talking about a pretty specific type of woman here, the "men ain't shit! why are there no good men?" type of women who have had date after date after date, who has selected certain men based on improper qualities she finds attractive sexually but are not conducive to a meaningful and profound relationship. Hence, whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:19 PM
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I agree that I lose quite a bit of sympathy for women who seem to constantly pick the worst types of men due to their warped understanding of what should be attractive in men for a long lasting relationship, but I'm still going to blame the men too for being crappy people lol. Yes, women should learn to be wiser so they don't pick these terrible men. I don't understand where this "blame" comes into play. A lot of their decision is influenced not simply based on ignorance of what a good man looks…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 07:10 PM
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No one cares in real life? That's just not true, both men and women who are not promiscuous are not going to go for women or men who are. They don't make a big deal about it like people on the internet, but they care. A girl who's looking for a husband, when she's only ever had committed relationships, isn't going to go for the dude who's banged every female co-worker lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 06:42 AM
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Clearly you missed the point. The fact that there are sex workers who do such repulsive behavior and they have MASSIVE audiences means there are a LOT of simps willing to pay for such content. Majority of sex workers not having access to these simps doesn't mean they don't exist, so no, my argument is not invalid: there ARE a growing number of simps. Please keep your ill-conceived thoughts to yourself and leave rational discussion to adults if all you can add is "boo lame stupid." Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:10 AM
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Do you not know how a comparison works? No one is saying the two are the same. Bad behavior is bad behavior. The fuck. Also you're stuck on this sugar daddy version of what a simp is when I clarified that is NOT what we're referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:34 PM
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Yes lol, there is something wrong with the behavior of simping. Any behavior that stems from mental health issues is wrong. That's like saying someone who does meth only does so because of mental health, and that the solution is to provide health care and there's nothing wrong with the behavior. The behavior IS a problem, as well as what fuels it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:21 PM
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They're very different phenomenon that stem from the same source: men willing to provide women with attention (or other resources) in exchange for inauthentic attention back. It's the "nice-guy" syndrome taken to the opposite extreme. So instead of becoming incels, they become simps, satisfied with the forced and conditional attention women give them on the basis they first provide something of value to that woman. Super unhealthy dynamic. Now, how this affects the dating market is a completely …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:20 PM
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Well for one, a lot of them develop parasocial relationships with these women. And on the extreme end, they can genuinely buy into their delusion that there's something more here than just paying for a girlfriend experience. It's why you get instances of these people trying to meet these women in real life, and I'm sure I don't need to go into details on why this is not a good thing. You seem to be focusing more on a sugar daddy type individual, someone who can afford to send a woman gifts witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:12 PM
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It can be a broad definition so yeah, depends on how you want to define it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 08:07 PM
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I don't exactly see this is as a problem to non-simps. Simps actually help filter out women who are undesirable to a good man. A girl who is willing to sit on camera on her Twitch stream farting into a mic for money is NOT someone I want to be with. Without the simps, I wouldn't know she's that type of person. Now, I do think helping simps live better lives is something we should discuss, as wasting your time masturbating to a stranger on camera and giving her money to fuel a parasocial relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:57 PM
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The fact that girls on Twitch are farting into microphones and seeing success MIGHT point to such a thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:52 PM
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This notion of "why do you care" is one of the most insidious sentiments shared when it comes to matters involving strangers that is just assumed to be reasonable. It's not. I care because I care about the world. I care about the people in it, I care about what they do, and I care about when people do things that are hurting them. "They're an adult they can do whatever they want." Okay? And?? I still care about what they do and I'm going to talk about it. They can do whatever they want, but it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:48 PM
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You sexualize her in a healthy manner. A lot if husbands establish a relationship and then expect sex to just magically happen. You have to continue treating her like you were initially, someone you want to fuck. Just like you wouldn't expect a random stranger to fuck you without winning her first, don't expect the same from your wife. But it's not enough just to show your desire for her, she has to desire you. You do this by being that charming, attractive individual she originally was enticed …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:33 PM
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That claim is still incorrect, that generally the amount of sex between couples remains roughly the same. It is FAR more common for people to have a lot of sex at the beginning, drops off after the honey moon phase, and sets at a new baseline that remains stagnant. And if it continues dwindling to nearly never, that is an obvious indication of a lack of emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 03:09 PM
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Men also don't have sex for the sake of having sex, at least those who are properly emotionally calibrated. I don't want to have sex with my partner just to fuck, I want to do so because there is a profound bonding occurring during sex. A lot of men are not emotionally calibrated, get into relationships with physical attraction being the foundation, and then are surprised when sex dwindles. We have sex with our SO to make love, and the physical act is secondary to the emotional bonding occurring…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:43 PM
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He absolutely isn't correct in the slightest. Sex drive drops in committed relationship due to a lack of emotional connection, or a lack of continual bonding. Finding someone new, it's easy to indulge in emotional connection because you're starting fresh, bonding at a superficial level. Even if a spouse continues to bond with an affair partner, they will experience the same problem, where they get to know each other on a deeper level and realize they're unable to bond emotionally. And that lack …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:40 PM
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Absolutely incorrect. Your SO's sex drive is dependent on your emotional connection. You assume because a spouse is able to cheat with someone else, even assuming they're more physically attracted, this means that it is entirely physical. Yet, all you need to do is consider the fact that what happens if she were to marry that more attractive affair partner? The same issues would inevitably reveal themselves, and the sex would dwindle. That is because profound sex, and the desire to want to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:37 PM
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There was decent outrage over a lesbian dating app recently, where users were getting banned for specifying they weren't interested in trans-women in their bios.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:57 AM
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What about a situation where his wife died?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:06 AM
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Women shouldn't be "demonized" for it, but like most behaviors, we need to determine if this is a behavior we encourage, discourage, or not care about. Most people's intuition lead them to feel discouraging such behavior is the correct response, and there's very good reason for this, despite most people not knowing the reasons for this or how to articulate why not discouraging such behavior is a bad thing. Don't get me wrong, I completely see the appeal, and if I were in my same position but was…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 07:43 AM
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For hook ups I'm pretty open to whatever lol, but certain personality traits can definitely be a turn off. I throw FWB relationships in this category as well, neither of which I think I want to indulge in anyway. For long term, your basic standards: fit, sexually attractive (to me), lovely, warm personality, good family relations, and overall just a good person. My more unique expectation is I would like to find someone who has a certain wisdom about her. Not necessarily intelligent, but an eage…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 07:28 AM
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If she's the type to literally make decisions off of star signs, that is a huge red flag in my eyes. It's interesting because there are barely any straight men that are going to share that same enthusiasm lol. "You're a Libre too! Omgggg!"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:29 PM
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My take is simple: if I want a life of mostly casual relationships, I'd get a vasectomy (or this lol). If I find a wife I want to commit the rest of my life to, I won't, unless we have all the children we want and still have an active sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:58 AM
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