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I’m a big fan of those old paintings where the woman is chubby and nude but the dude she’s with is ripped.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 11:42 PM
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I don’t know why, but I’ve always had a fantasy for guys who lose in competition. Like, a guy who comes in last in a race or a member of the worst team in a league. Maybe even a guy who drops out of college because of the academic difficulty. I never wanted the winner. I wanted to comfort the loser and tell him it’ll be okay and that he is loved. Maybe it’s the motherly instinct in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:35 AM
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Where are young people supposed to meet and find friends? I know that it’ll be tough since I’m a mommy now, but I’d like friendship. I’ve looked into mother’s groups but almost all of the women there are much older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:11 AM
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I just always wonder what was wrong with me. I want to know why I didn’t have a normal adolescence.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:05 PM
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Is 165 LBS @ 5’4” too fat for men to like? My waist is smaller than my hips, but I was always too big. I’m a size eight. I’m married now, so it doesn’t really matter, but I just wasn’t small enough for guys my age. I’m just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:00 PM
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I am still fat. 165 at 5’4” is still too fat for men my age. They won’t pick me when they have the option of thin blondes. And yes, I did actually try to ask them out. But it was really hard to get into situations where I could ask them that. I was always held at arms length, or they ended the interaction before I could get that far.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:14 AM
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I did do something about it. I did lose a lot of weight. I’m down to 165 at 5’4”. I did try to talk to men. It never worked. It broke my heart to lose so much weight and never have anything change.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:01 AM
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It’s more complicated than that. I was always ignored or mocked. I met my husband when he was still an alcoholic. He’s eighteen years older than me. I took care of him while he cleaned himself up. He was the only man who wanted to love me, and he’s the only man who ever will.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:48 AM
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Yeah. Still fat. But now I have an older husband and a baby. Life turned out okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:41 AM
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Baby girl was born a couple weeks ago. She was a little early. It was really moving to see my husband finally become a father. He’s 42 and never thought it would really happen. We’re finally the little family I’ve always dreamed of.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:32 AM
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Kindness really is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 11:59 PM
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I am unattractive. But I wasn’t going to get into bed with a man who just wanted sex. I wanted a man who loved me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 05:26 PM
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I did. I’m sure there were men who would have fucked me, but I never wanted to do something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:50 PM
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Men want virgins and then ignore women who could actually be virgins. Adult virgins aren’t going to be super attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:43 PM
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It’s just the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:54 PM
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I’m about four and a half months through already.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:32 PM
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I’m okay. Pregnancy is tough, but I manage. The weather is warming up and it’s really improving my mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:28 PM
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A lot of people think that young woman/older man relationships are between a hot girl and a successful older man. That’s not the truth. It’s not like that. I’m an overweight fuck-up and my older husband was the only man who wanted to love me. Oftentimes these relationships are between unattractive, meek young women and the few men who are willing to be with them. These women like myself have been rejected by our peers and find refuge with average older men who are the only men who are kind and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:23 PM
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I’m thinking about going to pharmacy technician school when my baby is older and goes to school. I’m very excited for my baby to be here, but I’m nervous.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:43 PM
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Our baby will be loved and well cared for. He had a girlfriend who had an abortion years ago, and our first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. He wants at least one living child. There’s a good chance we will have just one baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:41 PM
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We qualify for WIC so I’m going to get that assistance. We could get by without it but it will really help. We’ve both paid in through taxes as long as we’ve been working, so we’re going to benefit from it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:28 PM
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My husband makes enough to take care of us. I was working to build a savings and buy a couple things for the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:08 PM
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The teenagers I worked with were so mean. It really made me sad. I just wanted to work and it made things difficult. I knew the anxiety wasn’t good for the baby so I left. That’s how bad they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:02 PM
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Reddit really is my only audience to vent. I don’t want to burden my husband with this shit. There’s no one else who will listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:59 PM
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I love him too much to even think about doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:55 PM
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I didn’t have the opportunities my sister has. She has always had options for everything and I haven’t. That’s why I only just recently finished high school. I got married to an alcoholic, but he has cleaned himself up. I drive a 1999 Cherokee because it’s the only car I could afford. I may be married and have a baby coming but my life is far from perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:52 PM
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He fixes tractors. He’s the only man who wanted to nut in me, actually. That’s why I’m married to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:48 PM
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Being attractive really does change your whole life. My thinner, prettier younger sister is going to Mexico with her college friends and boyfriend for spring break. She’s probably going to go to dental school. I’m spending my weekend inside, out of the rain, researching my state’s WIC program. I quit my minimum wage job because I was tired of being bullied by teenagers all the time and the stress wasn’t good for the baby in my tummy. Sometimes I wish things were different for me when I was young…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:36 PM
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My husband has been a little weird about sex since I found out I’m pregnant. I think he’s afraid we’ll hurt the baby somehow. Maybe he just feels weird about having sex with the baby right there. Hopefully that changes soon, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 01:28 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:08 PM
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Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:37 PM
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My husband works, and we will be able to live off of his income. He paid cash for a little plot of land next to my parents, so there’s no payment for that. There’s a small payment for the double wide we live in. We have no car payments. We don’t live a luxurious life but it’s enough. It’s the life that will enable me to stay home with our baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:37 PM
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I don’t know when I’m supposed to tell my employer that I’m pregnant. I’m still early in the first trimester. I work at the Christian chicken restaurant chain, and it kind of stresses me out. The high schoolers and college freshmen who work there always seem to take their anger out on me when it’s busy. Management picks favorites and I’m afraid they’ll cut my hours to nothing if they know. My hours are already lower than some kids who are in college full-time. I’m not in the “in” group, so I get…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:26 PM
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Men were so much more attractive in the 70s.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 12:58 AM
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I don’t think anyone is a failure for being single at 30 and I don’t know why some people act like it is, especially for women. You never know what was going on in their lives or relationships. Maybe they just ended a long relationship, or they haven’t found anyone they genuinely enjoy. It’s just how life is. It’s not like there’s a deadline where you have to find a spouse before 30. I’d rather keep looking well into my 30s than marry someone I’m not compatible with when I’m 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:34 PM
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That doesn’t take away from what I’ve gone through. I was ignored by men who I’m sure were lonely as well. I just wasn’t pretty enough for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:05 AM
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Being ignored physically hurts my heart. It’s the worst feeling I’ve ever experienced, and it happened to me for too long. It’s such a heart-sinking feeling. Imagine asking someone how their day was and they don’t even look at you, they just go talk to someone else. People have told me I’m a fool for marrying my first boyfriend, but I want to be with the one man who listens to me and cares about what I have to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 11:54 PM
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I wish I had more people who wanted to celebrate my accomplishments with me. After this quarter at community college I’ll officially be a high school graduate at 24. My husband is going to take me out to dinner, which is a very rare treat for us. He may even buy me a little cake. My parents don’t care because this is something I was supposed to accomplish 8 years ago. I know I won’t accomplish much in life at this rate but I wish more people cared.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:55 AM
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I see a lot of people say something is wrong with an older man if he can’t find a girlfriend his age. I’m a younger woman who couldn’t get a boyfriend my age, so I married an older man. No one tells me there’s something wrong with me, even though there obviously is since I could find an age-appropriate man. I think that older men who struggle with relationships should marry young women who struggle with relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:30 AM
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Probably. I’m not that attractive and I’m overweight so even if I had more money I would have ended up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:21 AM
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He doesn’t make me feel like that. He makes me feel beautiful. But successful men are with attractive women, so I’m sure he would have never given me a chance had he been better off. He was an alcoholic bum and I’m overweight. There’s a reason we gravitated towards each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:17 AM
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I don’t know that for a fact. But successful men usually get really attractive partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:15 AM
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My husband has a younger brother who is much more successful than him. He has a beautiful wife and just bought a vacation home. My husband is obviously jealous of him. It makes me worried he’ll start to resent me because I’m not like her. He wouldn’t be with me if he were successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:01 AM
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No, I haven’t finished. I’m in community college to earn my high school diploma. He has a decent job now. I quit my job after being bullied by my coworkers and I haven’t found another job yet. We saved my income and lived off of his. We know we’d be able to afford a baby on his income. We wouldn’t have fancy cribs or all brand new clothes, but we can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:36 AM
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I don’t know. I’m worried that I’ll have a hard time getting pregnant and I need to start now. It’s already been a few months and I’m not pregnant yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:29 AM
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My week has just been absolutely miserable. I’m going to fail my math class in my high school completion program. My husband is worried that we’ll have to move because of property taxes. I took another pregnancy test and it was negative. I want a vacation, but we just can’t right now. I haven’t been on vacation in over eight years.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:19 AM
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He may not have been ideal at the time, but I love him more than anything and I’m so glad he came into my life. I wouldn’t have anyone else. We’re flawed people, but love each other so much. God bless you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:12 AM
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Men have different “types” but typically don’t like unattractive women, no matter what their type is. I understand why. Men want women they’re attracted to, it’s only human to do so. I wanted to settle down and have children early. I’m trying to do so with a man in his early forties, but I’m struggling to get pregnant. I would have done it with a younger man, but no one would have me. I understand why they haven’t wanted me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:08 AM
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I would have loved to marry a guy my age who wanted to provide and have a family. I just wasn’t good enough for them. I married a recovering alcoholic in his early forties instead. Life is as good as it can be. He doesn’t make a lot but we get by. I’m struggling to get pregnant so far. Life could have been a lot different, but I’m enjoying what I was given.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:02 AM
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I often browse Instagram and see videos posted by young country boys who are struggling to find good girlfriends. They want nice, honest girls who want to live humble lifestyles with them. They’re not bad men, in fact, they’re typically quite pleasant, and hardworking, and kind. But I can’t help but think about how they fall into the trap of getting with a very attractive girl who doesn’t share their values, end up with a broken heart, and complain about a lack of “good girls.” The “good girls” …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:35 AM
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Find a chubby/unattractive girl. I was a kissless virgin until 22 because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 10:48 PM
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I’m sick and tired of people jerking me around. At that point I knew I wasn’t going to get the job so I didn’t care about what I said. I’ve worked several different jobs and it’s insulting to suggest I’m not good enough to work in a warehouse store. I have things to take care of and I can’t wait for a smug hiring manager to call me when they feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:15 AM
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My husband wasn’t providing anything for me when we met. I was providing for him. He was so thin and he barely had any money. I was giving him my free lunches from work so he could put some weight on. I still fell in love with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:44 AM
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I went to the local Costco to ask about my job application I put in a couple weeks ago. After enough harassment I got to someone in charge of that kind of thing. She told me that their hiring process is really selective and I probably wouldn’t make the cut. I told her that it’s a warehouse store, not Goldman Sachs and she should stop being so pretentious about it. That’s when I got kicked out of the office. Maybe Subway will call me back soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:35 AM
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I’m glad I didn’t dump him. He got sober and he has a better job and we’re trying to have a baby now. It wasn’t my responsibility to help him, but I did. What I’m saying is that most women shouldn’t do what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:20 PM
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I think there’s a fine line between a man who is flawed and a man who is in no shape to be getting into a relationship, and it seems like a lot of men don’t understand that. I started dating a man who really shouldn’t have been entering a relationship, and I’m now married to him. He was an alcoholic and he bounced between shitty manual labor jobs. I would get a free meal every shift at the restaurant I worked at, and I would give it to him because he would buy more booze than food and he was so …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:07 PM
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I finally quit my CNA job after being relentlessly bullied by nurses who are younger than me. I came home and cried. If I want to go to college I’ll probably be thirty or older by time I graduate. I talked it over with my husband and he said maybe it’s time to start our family, and I agree. Ten years ago I was a high school freshman, and I thought my life would be so good by now. I thought I’d be a navy pilot, or an engineer, or something important. Instead I’m in community college trying to fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 07:48 AM
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I do have issues with that. I always have. When you’re not that attractive, you come across as a bitch if you’re confident and assertive. I’ve been a people pleaser in hopes that people will like me more.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:47 PM
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They basically are. One of them just turned 21 and she’s a registered nurse with an associate’s degree. The surgeon who runs the place is young and likes to hire hot nurses, so I don’t know how I was hired. The youngest nurses get weird when he is nice to me during our brief interactions. They don’t like the fact that he treats me just like them. The whole environment is so fucking weird sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:24 PM
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I actually hate the nurses I work with. They’ve treated me like garbage since day one. My job is nurse’s ASSISTANT. I’m there to make their lives easier and they just shit on me all the time. Some are younger than me and have bachelor’s degrees and boss me around like I’m a slave. They think I’m dumb and that’s why I’m not a nurse. One of them even told me the brand of scrubs I bought are for “real” nurses. The only people who are nice to me there are the surgeons, and I don’t interact with them…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:12 PM
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Eh, not really. I’d bet it was a lot better before the internet and in a small town. The men would probably be a lot more enthusiastic when there’s only five women to choose between and beautiful women only exist on television.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:01 PM
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I married a man that many would consider to be broke. He was borderline unemployed when we met. I knew he was more than his salary. He makes $43K a year now and he feels rich with that salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:53 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:50 PM
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I married a 5’10” former alcoholic who makes $43K a year. I didn’t have anyone to reject.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:30 PM
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They sign ballot initiatives for more gun control and vote in people who want to put more taxes on us. If they wanted those things, they should have stayed where they came from.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:19 PM
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I’ve met them. They like to move in with tons of money and buy way more than they could back where they lived. Then they complain about how our town doesn’t have all the luxuries like where they came from. Everyone here just wants to be left alone and they’re always supporting laws and taxes that are super invasive. I’m sick of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:15 PM
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Almost no one wanted to spend the time to get to know me and discover that I wanted to settle down and have a family. One man did, though. He was an alcoholic and bounced between shitty jobs. I took a chance on him because he wanted to love me despite my appearance. Now he’s sober and has decent, stable employment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:10 PM
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I would have loved to settle down with a man in his thirties. I didn’t want to party. I knew I wanted marriage and a family. But I was ignored by men because I wasn’t pretty enough. I was everything they would have wanted besides the looks. Maybe the women who want those things aren’t the hot ones at clubs and out partying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:55 PM
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Does anyone still have a normal job these days? I think everyone who has moved onto my road the past three years is some sort of tech bro with an engineer or attorney wife. They all build huge bardominiums but I’m thankful I can’t see them through all the trees. None of them share values with the people who have lived here forever. My husband fixes tractors and I’m a nurse’s assistant. We’re just normal people trying to get by. I’m tired of people with tons of money complaining about not having …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:50 PM
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Things will get better. My fiancé will get paid more as time goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:42 AM
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I’m not a loser because of my job. It’s an important job that needs to be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:23 AM
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Why? Because we’re not as fortunate as other people? Cars are expensive. We could spend more than we have budgeted for a car, but it would be a good financial decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:22 AM
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That’s a really expensive house. We’d never be able to afford that. What we have now really suits our needs. Our baby will be okay in our home. You’re acting like living in a manufactured home is child abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:21 AM
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My fiancé really liked the babydoll lingerie set I bought yesterday. I think now he’ll start buying me cute underwear rather than socks. God, that man loves to see me in socks. I used to think foot fetishes were weird, but having a man who loves to rub your feet is so fucking nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:59 PM
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I want like a pink or red one but not see-through.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:52 PM
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I just wore like, normal white underwear? Not granny panties but nothing fancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:30 PM
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I’m going to go to the mall and buy my first set of nice cute underwear. I’m thinking of a babydoll lingerie set. I’m so nervous for some reason. I’m going to wear it to bed, I hope my fiancé likes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:25 PM
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Former alcoholic, but yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 05:54 PM
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I think financial subreddits have ruined my brain. Somehow every other 23 year old has a six-figure income, maxed out retirement funds, thousands in investments, and is trying to buy a $500K+ house with a garage big enough for their Tesla and Lexus GX. It’s so crazy to me seeing people that young with such a high salary still complaining about money. It really rubs me the wrong way, and irritates my fiancé. He’s done hard work his whole life and can just now afford a little house at 41. I really…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:31 PM
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Not for me it isn’t. It’s for his love and validation and affection. He’s one of the only people willing to give those things to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:56 AM
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No, he really craves my validation. Things like that really work on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:50 AM
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Have you ever tried to rebuild a man’s ego? It’s very hard. My fiancé and I went to look at a used car, and even after negotiation he said we couldn’t afford it. The salesman said a man his age is supposed to take care of me, which is a comment about our 23F/41M age gap. He was so embarrassed. I’ve been rubbing his back and telling him he’s my big strong man. It seems to be working but it will take a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:14 AM
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I wish my family wouldn’t say anything about me using baby utensils to eat dinner. I’m trying to recover from an eating disorder and using small utensils helps me pace myself and enjoy less food for longer. It’s so embarrassing when they say something or bring attention to it when we’re eating in public. My fiancé tells them to stop. He’s been more supportive with my recovery than them. He even bought me a new set of utensils and a little carrying case for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:46 PM
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I do what the nurses think they’re paid too much to do. I clean the patient bays, move patients around, bring them snacks. Basic stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:32 AM
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I don’t have any certifications. I have limited duties there. I’m just a nurses’ aide/assistant/ whatever you want to call it. The real nurses like to bully me and it’s really embarrassing when they’re younger than me. They’re younger and have their lives put together. They have bachelor’s degrees and husbands and new cars and a trip to Mexico every January.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:49 AM
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I feel like I’m incapable of being accepted by other women. I always feel like I’m being judged and hated. Something about me just doesn’t fit. I’m a nurse’s aide at a surgery center that is staffed by mostly women. I’m miserable there and I want to quit. I’m almost 24 with an entry-level job there, and girls younger than me with bachelor’s degrees act like they’re so much better than me because of it. I feel like the only people who accept me are my parents and my fiancé. I want to talk to some…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:43 AM
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It won’t take me very long to finish, just a couple quarters. I probably wouldn’t even be halfway along by time I finish.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:37 AM
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I’m going to community college in the fall to finish my high school diploma.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:13 AM
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So many men are just so vulgar online, when they’re completely anonymous, and they can say what they really think. I’d just assume every man would think I’m broken and I’m a whore and there’s something wrong with me. I’m not with him just because I’d be alone otherwise. I really do love him. He accepts me. He’s enthusiastic about me. I wouldn’t leave him for anything. I always thought I was missing something that everyone else had, but maybe he can see something in me that no one else can.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:02 AM
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I just don’t feel very young. I only have about ten years left to conceive. I don’t even have a high school diploma. It would take me years to get a college degree, and then years to pay off the debt. I would run out of time to have children. People my age are already graduated and are having the times of their lives, and they’re usually the more attractive ones. Those just aren’t the cards I was dealt. Sometimes chasing a ridiculous dream just makes you worse off than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:46 PM
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I don’t know who taught me these things, I guess they’re just the way I thought things were. I know a lot of people aren’t kind to women who struggle to get pregnant, because they’re seen as some sort of failures. I never wanted to wait until 30+ to try to get pregnant because I was afraid people would think I waited too long or wasted my youth if I couldn’t get pregnant. It’s the same with getting married. I felt like I couldn’t do much with my life because I wanted marriage and children the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:37 PM
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I’m almost 24 and been with him for around two years. I’m very attached to him, and I think part of it is because of my miscarriage. I was preparing to be a mother and a parent with him. The baby wasn’t on purpose but I already loved our little family. This isn’t why I’m sticking with him, but I don’t think any men would want to deal with my baggage. I think guys would think I’m tainted or gross because I’ve been pregnant before. Why would they want to deal with me? They have much better options…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:00 PM
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He hasn’t had alcohol in six months, but before that he had really limited his alcohol intake. It was more like a year ago he was having more severe issues. He decided to completely and I’m very proud of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:49 PM
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I probably can’t by myself. I make minimum wage as a nurse’s aide. But he’ll be able to take care of us. We’ll be frugal and smart with our money but it will work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:36 PM
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I don’t know why you keep picking on the fact that we live in a double wide. It’s a good home for us and he worked very hard to get it. Maybe one day we’ll go live in a different house but it’s home for now. And being chubby is a problem. I can’t lose this last bit of weight and guys my age don’t want me because of it. I met my fiancé, and he called me beautiful and made me feel wanted. I wanted his attention instead of fighting for guys that didn’t want me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:35 PM
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I had a miscarriage a while back and it led to a septic infection that almost killed me. I don’t know if it will be easy for me to get pregnant, so I want to start sooner. If I’m still not pregnant after six months or so I’ll see my doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:29 PM
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It’s not my age, it’s because of a previous infection that almost killed me. I don’t know if it ruined my ability to have children or not. If I’m not pregnant after six months I’ll go see my doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:22 PM
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He’s not an addict, he’s a recovering functional alcoholic. We’re getting married at the end of the month. We want to start trying now because I may have issues getting pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:17 PM
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Both I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:10 PM
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We’re about to start trying for a baby and I’m doing my best to set expectations low. I know I’ll still be disappointed when I’m not pregnant within the first month. I know there’s going to be a lot of crying and wondering what is wrong with my body. I’m not excited at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 09:45 PM
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It is a real home. It has three bedrooms and it’s on a real concrete foundation. We have enough space for the one or two babies we plan on having. I understand he’ll always be an addict, but he’s fighting alcoholism and winning. I’m so proud of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:10 AM
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No, I’ve just always been a chubby kid. I’ve always struggled with my weight. I’m at the lightest I’ve been but I’m still overweight. I never graduated from ugly ginger to hot redhead. I’m just not good enough for young guys to be seen with. But my fiancé thinks I’m beautiful and that’s what matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 11:10 PM
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I’m not really sure I could do better if I wanted to. I’m invisible to men my age. My fiancé treats me so well, though. I had a miscarriage a little less than a year ago and he took care of me so well. He never left my side. I got an infection afterwards and again, he was always there. He picks flowers for me and is always doing little things like that for me. I love him. He may not be rich, and has some issues in his past but he loves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:59 PM
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I wouldn’t be wasting my life. I’d be spending my life with the man I love. He’s not holding me back. I’m finishing my high school diploma at community college soon. After that I can get an associate’s degree and become a nurse or a dental assistant. He’s finally got himself a decent job and he can move up in the company. We’ll never be rich but we can have a small family and live good lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:35 PM
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He’s sober now. He’s improving. He hasn’t had alcohol in months and I’m so proud of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:56 PM
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He is a good man. He cares about me. We don’t have a lot of money but things are getting better. We don’t have fancy things, but at least he isn’t working a lot to buy those things. If he were working too much, he’d never have time to spend with me. I’d rather have less and have more precious time with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:54 PM
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I’m 23. I’m content with what I have. I’m getting married to a good man and we have a good home. I’m finishing my high school diploma this year at community college. I guess I’m insecure about where I am and what people think of me. I don’t really desire a big house or new car but I don’t want people to think I’m dumb or lesser than.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:51 PM
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I don’t like hearing people say bad things about my fiancé because I’m worried there is truth to their statements. To others, he’s a loser because his first home is a double wide that he bought at age 41. He’s never been married, and has no kids yet. He worked on a ranch for a long time and just got his first decent job. He used to drink a lot but now he’s sober. To me, he’s everything. I love him so much. I’m impressed that he bought a lovely little home for us, stopped drinking, and got a bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:41 PM
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It wouldn’t impress most girls, but it impresses me. I’ve only had a couple boyfriends and they didn’t put a lot of effort in. And that was after years of being ignored by boys and men, so anything feels impressive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:58 PM
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It’s really special to me. I’m amazed someone did all that for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:47 PM
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I meant it as in not a lot of people have treated me this well before. He’s just so sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:30 PM
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The guy I’m seeing bought me a cute headscarf that goes with one of my favorite dresses 🥺 and he knows I can’t have sugar or very many carbs so he bought me sugar-free candies. He’s too good to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:50 PM
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I’m a little chubby and my facial structure makes me look very young. I’ll never look like a “baddie” which is what guys my age want. I’ve been told I look like a 1920s farm girl. I’ve been starting to dress more cutesy in conservative dresses and such. The older men like it much more than guys my age. Maybe they like a cute appearance more than a hot one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:16 AM
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Visiting my brother at his college makes me grateful guys my age don’t like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:09 AM
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I feel dirty and tainted for being pregnant before. I lost the baby early on and I’m no longer with the father. Any time I see a guy I’m interested in I just want to shrivel up and die because I feel used up and dirty and not good enough. I feel like I would just be resented by any man with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 04:48 AM
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I’m at a good weight now and I think I dress okay. I don’t wear a lot of feminine things because they don’t fit my body well. I look younger than most people my age and I’m afraid that’s why people don’t take me seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:29 AM
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I don’t really want to move away since this is my home. I’ve tried OLD a couple times but I get discouraged. I don’t get a whole lot of matches and when I do I can tell the guy just swipes right on everyone. I want a guy to genuinely pick me because he likes me. I know it sounds like I’m making excuses. It’s also hard to say no to positive attention when I do get it since it’s not often. Of course I want to spend more time with a guy who gives me positive attention, even if he’s 40 with a baby. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:13 AM
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Yeah, I’m in a small town. There aren’t very many younger guys around here. There a big college a few towns over but those guys like the college girls. I just like to think the older guys see something in me the younger ones don’t. Maybe they think I’d be a good mother or I’m sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:51 AM
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I’m 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:04 AM
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This guy I went on a few dates with is now the third middle-aged man to introduce his infant to me. I don’t know how I keep attracting forty year olds with babies. They seem to be the only guys who like me. I’m not complaining, though, I’ll be a stepmom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:42 AM
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What sort of functions in adult life are similar to prom/a high school dance? I never went to any dances in high school but I’ve always dreamt of getting all dressed up for something like that. I just want an event to look all nice for that I can take a date to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 05:54 AM
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Making friends is so fucking hard. I hate being just stared at in silence after saying something and getting no response. Or when an existing friend group just brushes me off. I try to invite people to do things I think are fun of interesting and they ignore me. I don’t know how I’m supposed to make friends if no one wants to do anything with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:56 PM
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I tend to get really fixated on my crushes because I think they could be on my level. They’re typically not the most attractive, don’t have much money, but I don’t care because they might like me. When they say no it makes me feel like I’m below them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:27 AM
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I don’t think so. I’m sure it’ll take a few months. It takes a while to recover from rejection when you’ve never had a partner, because it’s as far as I’ve gone and it feels like you’ll never get any further. My last rejection was a year and a half ago and I was feeling it for around a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:09 AM
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He’s not Chad. He’s a wannabe motorcycle racer who lives with his parents. He was enough for me. But I guess I wasn’t enough for him. I don’t wish anything bad upon him. I just want someone to think I’m enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:02 AM
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I just went through a bad rejection. It wasn’t straight-up rejection as much as it was realizing he doesn’t like me. Everyone said it would be easy to find a date as a woman. It’s just not true. I can’t believe I got my hopes up about him. Now, I just want to hire a guy to do comforting things for me, like brush my hair or snuggle up and watch a movie with me, things I’ve never had before. I just don’t know how to find a guy like that to hire.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:41 AM
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It is, but I don’t want to stress about those kinds of things while raising a baby. Having children and raising a family is one of my biggest life goals and I just want their lives to be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:56 AM
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My dad tells me I need to relax and not worry about money and possessions so much. But I have to work really hard and get stuff done soon because I have a limited amount of time to have children. I want to have a decent house and a safe vehicle before I have my first baby. I want to stay at home after I have kids so I won’t have time to work and buy those things. I’m 21 and would like to have my first baby before 28, so I really don’t have a lot of time. I’m basically spending my “carefree” year…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:34 AM
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I’m trying to learn to ski and most people who do ski had parents who could afford to pay for it when they were children. I’ve never been judged harder than by other skiers at a resort. I just feel really discouraged when people stare at me and I’ve been laughed at several times. I feel like I don’t belong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:36 AM
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I want to stay here. It’s home.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:55 PM
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Most people around here have small farms, and there’s some larger ones, but we don’t. People think we don’t belong here because of that. My dad works in a trade and my mom is a dental hygienist. They always put their money into their own projects and just didn’t want to raise large animals because they were afraid of running out of time and neglecting them, especially horses.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:40 PM
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No, not really. They’re interested in the farm girls and rodeo girls I described. The younger male customers, which are typically the same guys, ignore me for the most part. The ones around his age are always so kind to me, so I decided to go out with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:20 PM
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It just makes me feel like I’m not enough. I’m insecure about not having a lot. I’m not poor, my parents aren’t poor, we just don’t have the things other people in our area have. And somehow I’m not good enough because I don’t have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:03 PM
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They’re my peers, I’m 21, Gen Z.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:47 PM
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Gen Z country kids are so pretentious. I live in a small country town. I was told I can’t wear my cowboy boots because I’m not “country” enough. Sorry, my parents didn’t have enough money to buy me a horse growing up, just let me wear my boots. The girls especially have a superiority complex when they work on their parents’ farm and need to let you know they’re better than you for doing so. Again, sorry my parents don’t have enough money for that, why are you putting me down because I don’t have…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:42 PM
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My dad says I’m too naive. Growing up, other girls had grown men sexually interested in them and would harass them or say things to them. That never happened to me. I was out and about with him when a guy said he liked my hair and we started chatting. I never get compliments so I was very flattered. My dad chased him off and said all he wants is sex from me. My dad says I never learned to not talk to random men and I need to learn. I have a date with a thirty-seven year old tomorrow. I’m twenty-…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:50 AM
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People said things to me I didn’t like and I wanted to forget about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:01 AM
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I work at a little restaurant in town and we have a customer who comes in twice a week or so for lunch. He works on a ranch nearby. He’s in his late thirties or early forties. We’ve had casual, pleasant conversations before. Yesterday I took my lunch break and had lunch with him. It was really nice. I kissed him on the cheek before he left. We exchanged phone numbers but he hasn’t contacted me yet. Now I’m worried I did something wrong. Is it my age? I’m 21. Was I too direct by kissing him on th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:17 AM
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My fiancé always looks better when he’s bulking. He looks stronger and more masculine, less pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:43 AM
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