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End of the day, you can't control how anyone will emotionally respond. What you can do, is set, and communicate clearly boundaries. As long as you do that, then if they catch feelings, that's fine. If they try to make it your problem, then they got to go.
/r/seduction26/07/26 04:11 PM
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I like being overt. If the date is going well, I straight up tell them, "Listen, I don't have sex on the first date, but I do want to feel your lips, so let's go back to my place and make out." If their not into coming over, then I'm not into seeing them again anyway. Granted, I've optimized my strategies for minimal resistance and cognitive load. (Same bar, same series of questions, same time frame, etc. )
/r/seduction26/07/26 03:30 PM
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Sure, plenty of success, so long as you lower your standards enough, and can stomach the increased risk of easy women. Happiest day of my life was when I found out I was not the father. Second happiest day of my life was when I tested negative for AIDS. I am extremely lucky, and now I am far more cautious than I used to be.
/r/seduction26/07/26 01:49 PM
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Ohh true. I don't use social media, I guess that was the disconnect. The wealthy, attractive women I meet all complain about how hard it is to find a man. They rarely get hit on in real life... And, I'm mainly dealing with women over 30. So I guess that's another important detail. I've attempted to date younger women, but honestly, I find it difficult to connect, and more often than not, they lack the kind of experience that excited me.
/r/seduction23/07/26 09:18 PM
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What do you think matters? I'm not sure I follow. For me, whether it's for hookups, fwbs, or something more long term, I generally utilize similar strategies, in order to minimize the cognitive load. Repetition eliminates the need to think all that deep, and can help one have more fun, which is generally an attractive trait, at least in my experience. (But to be fair, I have selection criteria that eliminates many types of people I know I don't really vibe with, so there is that)
/r/seduction23/07/26 12:21 PM
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Most girls I meet aren't interested in joining my cult, tbh. 😶
/r/seduction23/07/26 12:19 PM
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Let me ask you, can you get someone to enjoy the taste of an apple, or is it pretty much out of anyone's control? Sure, you can cook it, freeze it, throw some sugar on it, but at the end of the day, you can't influence someone's innate experience of their perception of reality. Just be yourself, whatever the hell that means, and meet as many women as you can. Statistically, you'll eventually find women who are just naturally into you, and it'll feel effortless. Because, it kind of is, so long as…
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:38 AM
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I mean, they're just human, right? They shit, have insecurities, and can be monsters. Or maybe it just comes with age, but at some point, I realized, that more often than not, most people disappoint, the beautiful especially so.
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:33 AM
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Oh? How so?
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:28 AM
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Don't try to have a long conversation. Keep it short and sweet, and navigate your way to setting up a date. You can have your conversations on the date. Less is more in dating women. Be curious, yes, but also be mysterious. The more you talk, the dryer the pussy gets.
/r/seduction19/07/26 10:29 PM
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Sounds like you need to talk to your lady about non-monogamy. Thats the ethical approach. Or, if you're capable of keeping secrets, just cheat. (Sounds like that's what you want to do) Even if you don't cheat for a while, that thrill is like a drug, and it'll become a slippery slope. I think it's important to note here, that if infact, you have a sense of morality or shame/guilt, this is all a bad idea. You're better off dealing with your urges. Trust me, women figure this shit out. She'll proba…
/r/seduction19/07/26 09:54 PM
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There will always be someone who can't get enough of me, despite the fact that I'm a pessimist, love to argue, and don't care much for others. I've been the funny fat kid The roided monster The stoner The suit The player The user The broken The teacher The student In every iteration, I leaned in hard, and I found women drawn in. At least for a little while. This new version of me? Cult leader? Doomsayer? Survivor? Still loading I suppose.
/r/seduction19/07/26 09:46 PM
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None of that stuff matters. The guy I know who has a different woman every night, will meet women in the park, coffee shops, and rarely a bar. He doesn't spend money on them. He doesn't play the normal games. He's quirky, highly intelligent, and living a full fledged non-monogamus lifestyle. He's got his own game. Same for me. I've been pretty successful, yet my style and approach is totally different. I created a system to minimize decision fatigue, and to ensure I could afford to go on the num…
/r/seduction19/07/26 09:38 PM
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Some guys are just naturally assholes, (which it sounds like he is) and there are a lot of damaged women out there attracted to assholes. His lack of emotional intelligence and integrity allows him to manipulate women with low self worth. He doesnt keep them around for long from the sound of things. I would hesitate to call that a successful man living in abundance. So, I would advise you not look up to someone like that. Most men, like in sports, need to learn the rules and systems, then practi…
/r/seduction18/07/26 08:41 PM
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From my experience, women (and honestly, is men too) need to feel safe and comfortable. Do you think you have made her feel safe and comfortable? She might also be testing you. She also might have trauma. Your best bet: talk to her. Be honest, be vulnerable, and be patient. As long as you engage in open, honest communication, you'll have better chances.
/r/seduction18/07/26 07:32 PM
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Whenever you feel nervous, name it. Acknowledge it. And move forward anyway. also, remember, the more beautiful the woman, the less likely any guy is actually hitting on her, which makes you an outlier, which makes you interesting. And that is a power we can use 🤩
/r/seduction17/07/26 12:21 PM
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My issue with these high end gyms is that, yes, there are lots of high-net worth, beautiful women. What I've discovered though, is that so many of them are absolutely moronic, and have so many unrealistic expectations. And on top of that, they're all into pilates and yoga. I want a muscle mommy with a shore home, not some vapid, weak, yoga princess 😅
/r/seduction17/07/26 12:19 PM
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Hey, you may not remember me, but we met last night... In your/my dream.. (still not sure which works better yet) This is said tongue firmly in cheek, almost as a meta pickup. I think it all depends on your style and vibe. I'm pretty masculine, and often get mistaken for someone to be taken seriously. So I lean into my weirdness and silliness. Is has a low hit rate, but when it hits, its highly successful 🙂
/r/seduction14/07/26 10:20 PM
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Drop all expectations, and any belief you have about yourself or your appearance. Don't delude yourself into thinking you "deserve" anything. Life is unfair, and then you die. (My mom would say that to me as a kid) Just follow your excitement, and follow your instincts. Do what you want, and fuck what anyone thinks. Remember, they're all going to die, so why bother with their opinions? Be prepared to fail. And fail again. Failure is the first step to succeess. If you feel any negative emotions, …
/r/seduction14/07/26 09:19 PM
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I was treating the dating apps like a job, and would, on average, be in contact with 60-80 women at a time. So, because of my "insanity" I was able to have a new first date every day. Some days did have more than one first date, though I had quickly realized that even I didn't have the energy for that. Dating is ultimately a numbers game. Despite what appears to be a great number, I must have messaged close to a thousand women in that time. so statistically, it was consistent with most men.
/r/seduction13/07/26 01:11 PM
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I tell guys, having a moderate amount of emotional intelligence is like a cheat code. That, and repetition. I believe that you can improve any skill through practice and trial and error. As an experiment, I went on a date a day for 150 days straight. Want to accelerate your growth and understanding, gotta do the reps!
/r/seduction12/07/26 11:11 PM
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Something my friend does, is an hour before the date, says he's finishing dinner with friends. So it sets the frame that food is not an option. I always tell women I don't eat after 6pm. And then I have them meet me at a bar where the food sucks.
/r/seduction03/09/25 07:02 PM
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Dude, my buddy is in his forties, and does all sorts of cool shit! Age is just a number. If you want more excitement, go seek it out. But just remember, you're a unique individual with goals, values, and beliefs. Part of the journey is to examine these, and determine what it is you actually want ... Can't know until you try.
/r/seduction28/07/25 02:45 AM
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Be curious, make observations, ask questions. People love to talk about themselves and their lives.
/r/seduction07/07/25 09:19 PM
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In my case, I have taken time to consider what my values are, what I want, and ultimately, who I am. In so doing, I can better ascertain what sorts of women I want. In this knowledge, I then develop questions to ask, that reveal a number of data points. An example: Ok so I'm curious, any adventures recently? This one question can tell me so much. What do they define as adventure? How creative is their thought process? What sort of life are they used to? Etc. I always answer the question as well,…
/r/seduction19/05/25 04:31 PM
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All you need to understand, is that it's a numbers game. The more women you approach, date, etc, the more likely you are to get past nerves and poor skill. Multiple dates a week, and eventually, you'll find a rhythm and momentum that eliminates most nerves. For me, I use online dating heavily, and have developed a system to minimize the cognitive load at the early stages, so that I can really focus on whether or not I actually like the person sitting across from me. Long story short, ask better …
/r/seduction19/05/25 02:50 PM
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My rule is I pay for the first date. They pay for the second date. Then it's 50/50. I think any woman who makes her own money will understand. If it turns them off, then good. Because women who can't afford to live a lifestyle I want to share don't belong in my life. I don't care how hot they are. I don't care that other men have always paid for everything. I'm not other men. My value goes far and beyond my bank account. Besides, you meet any really wealthy men, they definitely won't put up with…
/r/seduction26/12/24 02:30 PM
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I'll offer a different take. I think it works, if you're willing to hit like on everyone. I mean everyone. I don't bother looking at the profile until after we've matched. After a week, I reached the end. I now have over 100 conversations going, with dates lined up for the next few weeks. I have a streamlined system to minimize time in the app, and getting on the date. I live in a small city, and set my distance to no more than 7 miles. I also set parameters for a max height, and women without k…
/r/seduction24/12/24 10:24 PM
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You have lived a life. Stuff has happened. You certainly have stories. Even the most banal memories can be turned into a story, with the right angle I tend to think in terms of headlines and stories when thinking about my past. What would happen, if you embraced your history, your story, and told it? Wrote it down? Considered the path you've taken, and all the wins and losses that have led you to here and now? A few examples of headlines for stories from my life: "The Time the world's greatest c…
/r/seduction26/11/24 10:00 PM
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That's awesome. Consistency is key, that's for sure. I am reminded of meditation. When the mind wanders, we just notice, and begin again. This can be true of anything. Just begin again.
/r/seduction25/11/24 02:20 AM
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Yeah, always focus on yourself. The best thing you can do for others, is be your best self. Focus on what excites you, and what brings you joy. In my experience, women dig that. Also, get really detailed and specific as to what kind of woman you want, what kinds of relationships you want, and what kind of man you are vs. who you plan to be. It's a long road my friend, and the struggle is the way.
/r/seduction23/11/24 09:05 PM
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Try being an asshole. Be selfish. Do what you want. Ask for what you want. Be ready for the no, but expect a yes. And what I mean is, you can have asshole tendencies, while also being an emotionally intelligent, respectful man. Women tend to enjoy dominance from a man. Be suggestive, be transparent and honest. Be a good listener, and get physical touch to happen as early as possible. Also, stop judging yourself, or others. If you're relaxed, and having a good time, do you even have time to judge…
/r/seduction23/11/24 03:02 PM
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Yeah, I wonder if the alternative tactic is to simply filter for shorter women? I'm 5'10, but I prefer petite women, 5'6 and under. So just pass on anyone taller. This way, I don't need to lie about my height, since the height difference is well enough.
/r/seduction10/10/24 02:23 AM
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My two cents: I think that minimalism in texting is the way to go. I usually have one or two openings, one or two follow-ups (based on how they answered) Then move towards setting up the date. An example: (In seeing her with a dog) Me - Aww 🥰 Her - Says some shit about her dog or whatever Me - I love dogs or some shit Her - asks me a question or something Me - Would love to tell you that story and more over coffee. Heres my number. Boom. Done. Sometimes, I'll ask exploratory questions to weed ou…
/r/seduction03/10/24 02:43 PM
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Here is what I would do: Do the workout with her. After it's over, tell her how sexy she looks all sweaty. Tell her that seeing her like this makes you hard. (Etc) Either she goes with it, or you get your rejection. If she does reject you, try and play it cool, and if you are friend zoned, get her to be your wing girl .
/r/seduction15/08/24 06:47 PM
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End of day, this just supports the idea that it's a numbers game. Took me around 150 dates in a 9 month period before I found my current relationship. I basically treated it like a second job. I think developing systems to streamline the process is the way to optimize your experience based on your goals.
/r/seduction11/08/24 07:12 PM
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You'll need to scope out divorced women, unsatisfied married women, and (to a lesser extent) widows. I think being overt, and banking on the power of your youth will be advantageous. Lean into your strengths, an those things older men tend to lack. Warning ⚠️: They will all have their challenges, and you'll have to deal with a lot of drama. But boy oh boy, you will learn. So much learning. As long as you don't expect anything other than a fun fling or FWB situation, and remember that it's a numb…
/r/seduction18/07/24 01:59 AM
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You don't know shit. Literally. For all you know, that "glamorous" looking lady likes to gag on cock and balls and get choked out while being called Daddy's cumdumpster, and you're exactly her type... But you can't know unless you try. End of day, it's a numbers game. Assume nothing, and keep at it.
/r/seduction18/07/24 01:32 AM
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Isn't it all less of a "pro-hamas" thing, and more of a "anti-genocide" thing? I get women are more empathetic and stuff, but I think these protests have plenty of men involved as well, all because they're all, ya know, against an ongoing genocide... Right?
/r/MensRights14/05/24 02:26 PM
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Yeah, that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 11:28 AM
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Physically? No. Emotionally? Perhaps. Better than taking antidepressants with severe side effects though, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/18 01:14 PM
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They are assuming it's gender?!?!
/r/MensRights26/11/17 07:16 PM
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Fuck all of them. If they are trying to bring you down, they are wasting your time, and you should tell them that, bluntly.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/17 06:53 PM
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Right, so no fructose (fruits). My main source of carbs seems to be avocados, nuts, and cruciferous veggies. I could consume more, and in fact, I will attempt to have a sweet potato soon. My thing is, now, I feel so fucking good on <30 carbs a day. So, I actually desire keeping myself that low. After being addicted to carbs my entire life, it's wild.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 12:34 PM
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Because of the severe carb restriction that goes along with keto, I can not consume any juice. I do take multi-vitamins, and lots of extra b12.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 11:40 PM
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I have been having good success with a combination of IF, keto, Epsom salt ice baths, and low rep, high weight lifting. Essentially, the idea is reduce inflammation as much as possible, to maximize the bodies ability to digest nutrients, burn fat, and heal muscle.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 04:38 AM
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The best advice I ever got was from my friends step dad: Be nice 80% of the time, fight and piss her off about 20% of the time. To this day they are still together, and not married. So far, been working for me as well.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 08:58 PM
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Yup! It's a numbers game, as we have often heard, and indeed, this is true. Luckily, there is no shortage of women to approach, so, Goodluck, and godspeed sir.
/r/seduction04/08/16 02:25 AM
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Sooooo, you're a 19yo male, upset that you can now easily find women who are DTF? What kind of world am I living in?
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 11:01 PM
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It is possible that you're coming on too strong or too soon. The gal feels uncomfortable, and thinks saying she has a boyfriend is the fastest, and most polite way to disengage from an unwanted interaction. That being said, if you wish to pursue, get her talking: ask about him, and generally, take off the pressure. You will probably have no chance of turning her on to you, but, if you are friendly enough, that could lead to future opportunity.
/r/seduction02/06/15 05:57 PM
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My idea of it is this: adapt to your environment while remaining grounded in yourself. So long as you aren't trying, and just being natural, you can meet the demands of the situation.
/r/seduction10/12/13 05:04 PM
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First of all, respect the bone. It is your golden ticket, and the fastest way to gauge a girls interest. You'll know real fast after you rub up on her if she's into it or not. Likewise, that is something I think will happen less frequently as you get more comfortable (at this point, it takes a real hottie who knows how to dance to get me to salute) :p Dancing is supposed to be fun, so embody the fun guy! Jump, spin her, get silly. You don't have to be good if you're having a good time. In pick-u…
/r/seduction04/11/13 02:43 AM
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In my experience, I just start talking to anyone, and everyone. I usually go to bars alone, and if you go to the same bars every weekend, you'll at the very least get to know the bouncers and bartenders, and that will give some great boosts to the perception of social proof. Also, being honest usually makes you look brave instead of creepy, so long as you own it. As an example, I approached a 6-set (3 guys, 3 gals) and when they asked me "you're here by yourself?" I replied simply, "yeah, but I …
/r/seduction19/09/13 07:21 PM
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Women=Emotion. Sex, especially very good sex, will always illicit an emotional response in a woman, even if they had no strong emotions to begin with (such is my experience) Just do you, be honest, and don't give a fuck.
/r/seduction13/08/13 04:57 AM
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As far as dancing goes, if you're bad, OWN IT! Exaggerate, be ridiculous, and have fun. Just have fun, and fuck talking, just make eye contact, dance for a bit, and escalate. Save the jokes and talking for off the dance floor.
/r/seduction13/08/13 03:49 AM
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Just being totally honest and cool with your honesty is a win-win. You don't lower value, because you're being totally congruent, and as long as you're fun and engaging, you can quickly get past that and move onto other topics.
/r/seduction29/07/13 06:22 AM
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