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They're allowed to not have to do everything for the opposite sex. Women & men are also allowed to want someone to love them as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:48 AM
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I don't think this is accurate for every person. Sometimes you've just had so many negative experiences that you don't want to date and that's ok. I felt this way for a while before my current partner, who I didn't really find while dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:46 AM
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Do they expect us to print money out of our ass? Apparently 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 11:13 AM
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I think that more women will value income less as a component in attraction towards a man, and value other more genuine displays of competence and effort more highly instead. The problem in my life right now is that I've always married men not for money but for personality/attraction/fun/love. And this is good, I'm happy with my decisions, but family life demands a lot of financial commitment, which has led me to look for other ways to make money (some pretty controversial stuff but related to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 10:31 AM
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Some women like a challenge & the chase. The thing is, you have to leave if after X amount of time you don't get what you're seeking. A lot of women don't do that out of fear/denial/low self-worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:39 AM
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big cock Yet women complain of too many unwanted dick pics. These things don't really matter on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:25 AM
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Like the poster said, people will get what they seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:11 AM
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Genuine kindness & thoughtfulness are also personality traits, and may increase attractiveness. But I think you're right that sadly, these aren't valued by a whole lot of people, man or woman. What men should really be focusing on is increasing their attractiveness and taking advantage of power dynamics (wealth, age gap, etc.) This is true, but I hate it. Even if something is transactional or the other party benefits, the relationship will be better for everyone, including kids, if there's some …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:01 AM
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wild
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:00 PM
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It’s not that rare, there’s entire groups of women in the same predicament. I also am friends with dads who see their kids for that amount of time (alternating weekends + 1 day per week) and I think it’s honestly just shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 05:33 AM
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Good that your kids are happy. Mine are too. They visit their mother every 14 days Totally anecdotal but from what I've seen, this setup leads to poorer outcomes for the mother. Maybe not in your case but I'm part of a group of moms where this kind of outcome led to long-term separation or in one case, even death for the mother. One woman, she couldn't afford to take the train to see her kids, and eventually after she had another child, because she didn't have any support network nearby, she had…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:33 PM
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I think it's because the guys are more interesting tbh Indiana Jones wasn't boring
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 12:30 PM
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In my family there was the reverse I've also dated older (12 years) and younger (6 years), and briefly was with someone 10 years younger at one point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:02 PM
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I think skinniness is usually the minority at any age. I see 30 year old women and women in their 20s and the difference in looks is not that huge, if any at all. People have skewed views of 30-year-olds, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:04 AM
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When I think of "childcare" I think of the *parent* looking after the child the whole day. If that's a child that's under 4, it's more than a full-time job. Daycare is only for 4-8 hours per day, think of the rest of the day you have to constantly look after the kid. My guess is you don't have first-hand experience with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 08:32 PM
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Managing a household is something you can do on your coffee breaks. Are we including childcare in that? Because if so, then no it's not that easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:12 PM
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Almost every relationship I've ever had has been with a man that earns less. The one where the guy earned more than me was one of the worst I've had, but it's more of a "correlation, not causation" type of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:09 PM
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I met my guy on a forum that doesn't exist anymore, under an entirely different context (not really dating)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:34 AM
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And once they get children? What happens? The men will lose their attraction. Now they will be stuck with a child and we don't even know if the child is healthy or has some form of disability. You people make me sick. The way you romanticize breeding sows is disgusting. I agree with the rest of your post but this just seems to misunderstand people who have children. You seem to assume everyone expects to have a partner to rely on, which is not always the case. Some women intentionally choose to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:47 AM
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Hmm interesting view. I don't have that many contacts on my phone (am a woman) but that's mostly because the few contacts that I have (work connections, family, friends, partner), keep me fulfilled/busy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:37 AM
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But women get more attention the smaller their waste is Not strictly true
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:11 PM
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Think you misunderstood. You said she found someone willing to wine and dine her. Hence, single moms are able to find someone willing to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:04 PM
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We continued to hook up for a while until she found some beta bitch willing to wine and dine her. So basically... proving the other person's point: I've known a lot of single mothers with no issues finding decent partners
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:57 AM
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This is a good point. I guess the main reason I would get upset about a baby swap is because I truly feel attached to the father, and not so much my own genes. It has more to do with attachment issues/emotions, for me. I mean.. I guess the main reason I don't use donor eggs (i.e. eggs donated by another woman) is because it's expensive and time consuming and the default is just to have kids the natural way. I can't speak for other women here though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:35 AM
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actually the OP's question was why people on this sub view men who want to date these women negatively
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:11 AM
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I’m a 30 year old woman. I think another set of women who place less emphasis on the man’s job are women who, for whatever reason, feel either secure in their own career/job/resources, or view the man having more resources as a threat (I.e. he could use it to control her). There could be many reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:25 AM
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I'm a woman who doesn't care about employment status, so long as they're one of the following: (1) kind/generous, (2) intelligent, (3) attractive and not necessarily in a model sort of way. I think in general most women want partners who will enable them to have good life experiences, which often correlates with money, unfortunately. But for women who don't rely on that as much, then the importance of a stable job goes down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 09:08 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:50 PM
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From personal experience, yes. Specific example: guy could see I was moving in with my partner and he himself decided "actually let's just be friends" after we both considered possibly dating. We're still friends. Edit: Whoops I just saw that this was a question for men. Well at least my anecdote involves a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 02:40 PM
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Are they dating with the intention of marriage? I don’t care how tall and athletic a guy is, if he just wants to fool around then I am not interested. This is exactly what kept me in a marriage with an extremely unavailable guy. It was just too much effort to try dating a bunch of flaky guys who maybe had no intentions of staying long-term.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:16 PM
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that's not what she said
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:11 PM
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So yeah, the red pill view of civilization is right, looks like. I appreciate you responding but I was hoping to hear the life experiences of people who lean more blue pill
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:13 PM
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How are we different?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:12 PM
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What if he's poor af?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:02 AM
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Yeah the other replies are super weird. A lot of women pair up with guys who earn less than them nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:00 AM
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So literally every single one of the women who stays with those men is in it for the money? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 09:59 AM
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You don't have a source either though?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:24 PM
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Apparently she's divorcing because he's spending too much time away from his family.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:42 AM
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uh What about Wallis Simpson and the Prince who abdicated to marry her? He certainly wasn't beta. There are tons of other less high-profile examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:47 AM
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This is the threadkiller right here. Nothing else needs to be said. I would say the only other thing that's just as important is detachment. Whoever cares less, has power over the one who cares more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:40 AM
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Heres one thing I'm really confused by. Are we defining 'beta' here as less attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:39 AM
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I think the biggest ethical problem, aside from what I already posted, is that essentially you're saying you value having a mini-you more than potentially helping already-existing people who are already in need. For example, the mother? Completely disposable in your surrogacy scenario. Who she is as a person would not matter to you as much as what she could provide you with. Essentially treating her as an object. That said, I completely empathize with wanting to have a child that is your own. Ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:38 AM
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this ^
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:29 AM
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Hey man, Not sure if it's been posted already, but I just want to bring awareness to the ethical issues surrounding surrogacy & adoption. While surrogacy is possible, the women who do it are often doing it just out of financial need, with the result of carrying serious psychological baggage afterwards. Imagine carrying a life in you for 9 months and then never being able to contact the child. It's devastating, even if these women seemingly did it out of free will. Adoption is also very problemat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:22 AM
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Non-lesbians can also choose be mothers out of choice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:10 AM
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Courage/confidence and detachment (aloofness). If they appear to not get attached easily, women will feel like they need to lock him down or else risk losing his attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:53 AM
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Lmao. MOST guys ARE pretty conservative, selfish and anti-feminist, even if they don't say so directly. I've found this to be true, even if guys don't realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:38 AM
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Yup. It's something to do with the way they speak, their attitude and sense of "idgaf".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:15 AM
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I make new choices every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:45 PM
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True. I wrote that when things seemed to not be going great. Things started looking up since then. I'm sure there will be many more cliffs and valleys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 08:01 AM
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They were all men under the age of 35? :p
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 06:39 PM
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The hyper-strict Iranian government would probably like that system. Btw, I have never ever had my n-count be a problem in getting dates or getting laid. It just never comes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 11:15 AM
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I never had any issues getting dates or getting sex due to my n-count. In fact I pretty much have never been asked about my n-count apart from my longest LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 11:13 AM
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I like this one, it's so wholesome. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:04 AM
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sexual dyadic variables what do this mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:51 AM
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I like it the way it is now. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:47 AM
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Orrr drugs to make men less horny. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:44 AM
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The looks on their faces when I reject them is always priceless 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:44 AM
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This sub whines about mens inability to get casual sex, but committed relationships are different. Women 35-45 aren't trying to marry Chad. What's making it hard? Believe it or not it's actually not that easy to get into a committed relationship, even for women. I mean sure, you can get into a relationship where there's low compatibility, but that's not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:57 AM
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I'm not happy with the current state of modern relationships (including marriage). Although I have more options career-wise, and in terms of forging my own destiny through life, I feel like my romantic life has been a huge letdown.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:28 AM
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The truth is most people aren’t emotionally mature. unfortunately the vast majority aren't
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:50 PM
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yeah, this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:19 AM
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This post sounds pretty misogynistic. Other posters have already written better responses but that's all I'll say.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:04 PM
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What does "w" mean here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 01:14 PM
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Actually, as a woman I feel more free in France than I do in the US. Same
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 12:32 AM
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I get what both you and the person you're repying to are saying. It's freaking *difficult* to truly be yourself and be successful at the same time. That said, it's not impossible, and I have to agree with the other person that not everyone who controls things will think the same way. Some will accept you for who you are and see the value you can contribute.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 03:28 AM
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You may dress up to feel good, but the reason it makes you feel good is because it increases your sexual attraction and sex is power. There is no clear line between dressing for yourself and dressing for others unless what you like to wear literally makes you less attractive to most people and I don't see many women going out of their way to be less attractive. raises hand I've cut off all my hair in the past because I wanted to look that way for myself, not because I wanted to attract men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:12 AM
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mmmm I agree but I barely have any female friends. The ones that I do have share very specific interests/life circumstances with me, so we can relate on that level. I find that it's harder for female friends to stick around unless there's something of substance there. I think it's naturally easier for people to make friends with the opposite sex because of the attraction (even though we may never act on it).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:48 AM
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right?? can't have it both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:39 AM
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Hippies don't shave o noes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:26 AM
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I'm 2, 9, 31 and 32. ♐🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:24 AM
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This post is full of cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:43 AM
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Timothee is incredibly attractive. He'd get lots of girls even if he wasn't rich or famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:24 PM
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You're absolutely correct. I prefer men who are skinny but who look healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:21 PM
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But you didn't say, you were unattracted to them. Which is my point. Hmm, I'm not sure. I found them to be below-average looks-wise but was willing to get to know them to find out if I was attracted or not. Upon first sight, I wasn't sure if I was attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 11:40 PM
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This is true
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:44 PM
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Wanna some oven baked dumplings? god those look so good
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:41 PM
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Very true
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:36 PM
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Girls want to have fun. Yup! People want to have a good time and have memorable experiences, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:33 PM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:25 PM
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Yeah unfortunately I think the racism thing is a huge factor in dating. I think this is due to people simply not being raised in a place with lots of diversity, so they're not attracted to the unfamiliar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:22 PM
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And the key as whether their relationships are happy and long lasting is not how hot they look, but whether they're kind, understanding, and emotionally and sexually intelligent. But that's something men in here don't want to accept. Probably because working on their muscles or their finances is seen as more fun and "masculine" than working on their interpersonal skills. This
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:17 PM
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"Looks keep her around long enough for her to say for the personality". If you don't think a guy is at least cute, there is a fat chance that your going to give him enough time and attention to get to know his personality enough to like him. I disagree. There are several men who I've only gotten to know online and didn't see their actual photo until much later. The attraction came before even seeing them physically. I've also met men who were objectively below average looks-wise and were not my …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:15 PM
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I think the idea that you're "locked down" for 18 years is a bad mindset to have. I mean, yes, kids absolutely do require a lot of sacrifice, but if you allow that to completely erase who you are as a person and you forego all your goals / ambitions, you're in for a very unhappy life in the long-run.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:02 PM
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Bull. You call a guy creep today if you simply don't like him. I mean this is true, but I can find objectively very attractive men to be creepy or unlikable, it has nothing to do with attractiveness. That's the point OP was trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:40 PM
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crotch goblins I hate this terminology. It makes me cringe so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 11:39 AM
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There's no way someone can think ugly people don't breed when they are everywhere. Idk how rich, white, and privileged everyone in this sub is to never have to go to Walmart and see it. Right??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 11:36 AM
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I'm not sure how to feel about this post, as a woman who has been rejected by guys all over the attractiveness spectrum, yet also had multiple guys fly across countries to see me (and I wasn't interested romantically). I think the idea that "men will sleep with anyone" is completely untrue, in my experience. Hell, even Nick Vujicic, the motivational speaker who has no arms and no legs, describes how he turned down women who asked him out in high school. It's almost like people are individuals wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 11:03 AM
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That's super interesting, had no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:47 AM
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Yeah I feel like this would be biased against older users.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:36 AM
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Yeah, attitude & personality has a lot to do with attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:26 AM
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It's really refreshing to read this. Sex and relationships are all about putting yourself out there, “bothering” people, being proactive and outgoing. As I get older, I've begun to realize that both wanting to avoid "bothering" people at all costs - and getting to know new people - are two things that at odds with each other. I mean I'm the type of person who reaches out to people anyway, but I always felt ashamed if I didn't get the response I wanted, thinking I was bothering the other person. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 12:42 AM
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I mean, the goal of the species is reproduction. That isn't to say I think humans are capable of fantastic things: new inventions, beautiful literature, incredible acts of compassion, and amazing feats. But that's not what I'm talking about here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:52 PM
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Serious answer: find a woman, or multiple women, who also want a big family.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:43 PM
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Ugh this sub makes me sad for the young women in the dating market right now. same
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:05 PM
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No matter how beautiful I am, it will never get me into the top-tier universities, nor will it land me a job at CERN, for example. Beauty is not everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:04 PM
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I was blatantly lied to by a guy who literally told me he wanted marriage and wanted kids. He catfished and had lied about his entire background. He only admitted it because I was pushing to meet up. I thought his real (not catfished) photo was actually cuter than the fake one he showed me before. Crazily enough, I gave this guy a chance, but we had other issues related to extremely poor communication and different wants in life. I'm not sure this qualifies as casual sex. But it definitely was m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:26 PM
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I know a guy who's in a wheelchair who's had a girlfriend for a few years. It's def possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 10:58 AM
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Exercise & diet doesn't fix things like saggy loose skin around the tummy (after having kids), nor does it fix muscle separation issues like diastesis recti.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:00 PM
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Can confirm. The stretched tummy still stays even if you're very thin. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:59 PM
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Yeah me too. I say I have certain preferences but in reality I'm very open to different possibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:44 PM
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The famous family They who shall not be named
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:32 PM
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Lanky, thin men of any height. Long hair. I like graceful, boyish-looking men but despite these descriptions, I don't want a woman. He needs to have a dick. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:21 PM
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With the right clothing, hairstyle, attitude, and hygiene routine, the guy in the OP's post could look "quirky". Not necessarily attractive, but unique enough that he can attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:03 PM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 06:54 PM
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Ssebabi Just googled him. Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 06:49 PM
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Eh, not true across the board. I've met many toxic guys, both attractive and not-so-attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 05:45 PM
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this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 05:42 PM
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So no personal stuff and no talking about people, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 09:51 PM
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There are many many non-white French and British people, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:36 PM
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this is actually accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:59 PM
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Exactly. Ironically, my ex and I were once in a situation where we were staying overnight at a marina. He was the one who went to go chat with a random person from a neighboring boat, and he got us invited to a party. There's no chance I would've done that by myself, mostly because I tend to keep to myself. I *could* probably be very social and outgoing, but I choose not to be, most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:51 PM
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So what *can* men talk about with other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:46 PM
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I was only ever catcalled once on the street. Mistaken for a prostitute when I was a teenager once, and stared at a whole lot. But besides that, I can't say I've ever been harrassed by a guy I didn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:21 PM
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The men on this sub are so out of touch it's kind of entertaining to read, in a sad way. It's like a toxic trainwreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:03 AM
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Show me something worth keeping my legs shut for. This 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 11:42 PM
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same
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 09:48 PM
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I agree with the idea that you shouldn't marry someone you dont trust i still think that the govt has very few crucial roles and protecting peoples rights is supposed to be one of those things. While I love and trust my friends and family, pushing legislation that decriminalizes fraud and theft when friends and family are the victimizers isnt a good idea. See, I think this is where France is trying to move beyond the idea of "people who are not related to me are not worth committing resources to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:11 AM
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trying to take active credit for passive biology running in the background with zero active effort. It’s like me expecting a round of golf claps because my heart is beating, as though I have to actively do anything to make that happen. Sure, it's as passive as going through the pain of a car crash (active labor pains) or vomiting for months (pregnancy). Those things take no effort but I wouldn't call them "nothing".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:52 AM
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I think France has the right thinking on this. And I know 99.9% of men will disagree on this sub, but I don't care. I would not date a man who would be unwilling to raise an adopted kid. In any case, if the parents are not married, the mom can't put him on the birth cert without his permission. So this only affects couples in a committed relationship. If you can't trust your partner, you shouldn't be married to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:39 AM
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I actually agree with you. But here's the thing: you need to figure out what those coins are yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:40 PM
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this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:38 PM
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Being good looking is the number one thing, You'd be surprised, good looks are a bonus, but I've been with guys that are not lookers at all. They made up for it with kindness or charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:38 PM
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I as a straight man can give you exact examples of how a woman could look in order for me to want to have sex with her. Can you give examples? :p Unfortunately, your question will depend wildly on who you're asking. I mean, in the right circumstances, I probably would've said yes if you just asked straight out, something like "do you want to hook up?" Other times, I would've said no to just about anybody because I was very emotionally attached to someone. Sometimes you need to build an emotional…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:36 PM
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I actually agree with you here
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:31 PM
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Absolutely agree, if they want to get married and have a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:15 PM
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Did they actually say those things were turn offs?
/r/seduction09/06/22 02:54 PM
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If it's not FDS can you please DM it to me too?
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:16 AM
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Unironically, this. Create competition.
/r/seduction08/06/22 11:46 PM
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You're not alone. There needs to be a space to talk about women's issues with attracting the men they want (I'm not talking about "the 80%" of guys).
/r/seduction08/06/22 11:42 PM
1

That or a gigantic dick, No.
/r/seduction08/06/22 11:16 PM
1

easy a ton of girls like broken guys.. they can fix the guy type I would say this is 60% it. Also the right mix of rebelliousness, mystery, edginess, risk, etc.
/r/seduction08/06/22 11:11 PM
1

Having that perfect mix of attractive and sketchy, safety and danger, rebellious and predictable. Probably this.
/r/seduction08/06/22 11:05 PM
1

In my case, I was with one of those average guys because when I first met him I had just gotten out of a very bad relationship. Then I stayed because I wanted to have a kid and he fulfilled some other needs at the time (non-sexual). There's probably also a lot of psychological needs factoring into it that you're not aware of. I don't have an answer regarding the guys who just seem to attract all the women though. That I'm not sure about.
/r/seduction08/06/22 11:04 PM
1

Today he finally told me that he had been afraid of me getting pregnant. It eventually did happen though, I had wanted a child, and just had my baby daughter a month ago. He's not willing to be a parent, so we will split ways. There was a lot of poor communication in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 06:34 PM
1

My ex actively chose twitter and virtual friendships (and I strongly suspect porn) over our IRL relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 01:20 AM
2

Ehhh. My ex pretty much preferred twitter to IRL interactions. I don't think porn and video games are there to "fill a void" all the time. Sometimes some guys just prefer those things - maybe because they're easier than dealing with a relationship (even one they're in)?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 01:12 AM
0

Men isolate themselves and prefer their virtual friendships even when in relationships. I had this happen to me with my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 01:02 AM
2

Idk, I know that if I didn't take on those roles, I'd never be able to live a life even close to what I wanted. I would've probably been waiting a long time or had to compromise too much in order to be provided with the same lifestyle from a partner. For a lot of women it's probably the same. It's more out of necessity and not wanting or not being able to depend on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:04 PM
1

this
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:41 PM
4

instead of crying about it in gossip rags when you hit 40 and you're dying alone with cats and caviar. I think people need to be happy being all alone, and then if someone does cross their path who wants to commit to a life together, they can view it more as a "bonus" rather than something they need in order to live. There are men out there who will accept women who are older, or with baggage, I think just finding someone compatible in general is hard af.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:40 PM
1

I always approach men first, lol. I just figure you only have one life, go for the people you're really interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:35 PM
2

They actually went private and decided to move their content to their own site, off of reddit. They weren't banned. I agree with you on censorship though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 05:27 PM
5

I've spoken with one of the mods over a video call during a verification process to be allowed on their Discord. She was not obese or bad-looking and seemed to be excited about a trip to Europe (so she wasn't like a recluse cat lady). I mean I got banned from FDS for not following their script but this anecdote still counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:36 PM
4

This, to varying levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:23 PM
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I mean from my POV, I think most women aren't bad people, but I don't know what it's like to date a woman. That's something only you would know (or people of a different orientation). I don't find it hard to believe that people behave very differently behind closed doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 03:59 PM
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1 except why does he necessarily need to have donated to other people? He might be the childfree type but willing to help out with a donation in exchange for something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 12:23 PM
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yeah this just seems like another way to spin the blame on the woman. It takes two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 11:39 PM
1

both are dominated by feminists at the highest levels. Fourth wave feminism is generally not in support of trans women being in women's sports
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 08:56 PM
2

Most guys I've been with are average sized, with a few being above average and a few below average. I've been with 1 guy who was very very small. I would do it with him again, it wasn't that much of a problem. The only thing stopping me from seeing some guys again is not their size (big or small), it's more likely that I'm already feeling attached to someone else so they're not my focus. Likewise, regarding the men I've left, their size wasn't the issue at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:01 PM
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Yep. They will eventually adapt. Nobody needs to force their standards to change, it should happen naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:22 AM
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I agree, with the exception that there are some couples out there who seem genuinely happy and are just not married. A friend's parents (who are in their 60s) have lived together for 25+ years but never married, and from what their son tells me, his mom is only staying because she can't afford to move out, despite having supported her partner during unemployment in his earlier years. Everyone in the household was very unhappy, especially in recent years from what I've been told. I also know of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 11:46 PM
1

Nope, sounds good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 03:09 PM
1

You DM'd me asking for the best way to contact me amd I gave you my WhatsApp number but you haven't added me yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:55 PM
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DM'd
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:31 PM
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Didn't take me up on my offer for a video call? Still trolling? I do have 3 bank accounts but none of them offer lines of credit. In another comment I explained FATCA pretty thoroughly. If you want to understand more of this, try joining an "American in France" expat group on Facebook and you'll find plenty of posts from people with similar experiences of difficulty opening a French bank account due to their nationality. Troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:29 PM
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I spend as much time as I can in the US for this reason (I spent October through January there) and encourage both my daughters to spend time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:25 PM
1

I agree with you 100%. The degree to which you settle largely depends on your life circumstances, your personal tolerance levels and your happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 10:19 PM
1

This was very well written, and I admit I've stayed in most of my relationships for these reasons. Now that I have more than one kid and I'm kind of in a better place in life where I can acknowledge these things, I've realized that I don't really like what most men are offering me *in reality* (as opposed to evaluating relationships from a place of delusion & potential). So.. I guess I need to continue focusing on other things in my life that bring me happiness instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 06:12 PM
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Loneliness could be the incentive here, which, isn't really a bad thing. Everyone wants companionship. It just depends on the degree to which they're compromising and whether that's causing issues or preventing them from realizing their potential. Settling may or may not always be a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 05:03 PM
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Sorry, it's not a perspective I considered when I wrote this post, tbh. It wasn't meant to imply women only get with men for security. It was meant to convey that a lot of people settle, that's why I also wrote: "this applies to men as well".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 02:26 PM
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Oh for sure, for sure, and I don't really blame people for it. People do whatever makes them happy given the circumstances they're in. I think my post was just coming from the realization that if you look closely, a lot of people's choices are what I might call "coping mechanisms" due to the perceived lack of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 02:21 PM
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That's not quite the perspective I was coming from with this post but I can see how this might stoke those anxieties in certain men. Whoops.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 02:07 PM
2

that's true too, I know a few people with higher degrees that struggled to make ends meet
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 01:51 PM
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Yeah that's what I've noticed, which is kind of a "well duh" fact. Especially if the woman doesn't have competitive professional skills (again, not being judgy, there's a million reasons for that and might be due to factors beyond their control).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 12:58 PM
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Not very important to me. To me what matters how generous, ambitious, kind, and understanding they are. "Ambitious" and "kind" already has such a rare overlap, I don't let political differences be too much of a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 09:18 AM
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I mean it's easy if I choose to just "have fun" and not expect to even see people a 2nd time, which is what I'm open to, but it's not my ultimate ideal. It's also "easy" if both people mutually click and are equally attracted, but that's incredibly rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 05:29 PM
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Honestly, I'm kind of happy about that. My friend is the type of person who has to know someone before he finds them attractive (though not always romantically or sexually), while I tend have an immediate, though unfortunately rare spark with seemingly random people regardless of "societal rating." Same! I used to think I was the type of person who needs to get to know someone before being attracted, but that's actually not true. I realized that the random "spark" actually preempted the "wanting…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:18 AM
1

This one's funny - any reason why you think this? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:13 AM
2

I hate how intersex people are always used as a prop for trans arguments. The two demographics have completely different needs. Also, truly intersex people are extremely rare. I just feel like they're used as a "thing" to wave around for the benefit of other agendas.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:04 AM
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You know now that I think about it.. I think I've only been truly pumped and dumped once, and then the guy changed his mind and wanted to see me again. This all happened multiple times with the same guy. We were in an on-and-off relationship for many years. In all other cases, the guy's desire for a LTR was never properly established, or they changed their mind and didn't want to continue seeing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:48 AM
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I suspect the artsy dudes always get the most girls, IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:16 AM
1

I think this sub overrepresents guys not having sex. agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:10 AM
1

This sounds the most correct according to my guesstimates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:09 AM
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An 8 for me is a 3 for them, and vice versa. It's such a fluid construct... This is what I mention on here a lot. I've also done these comparisons with my friend and we honestly find different things attractive. So it depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:07 AM
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No clue. I have a friend who could probably get a girl every weekend (and for a short while he was seeing 2 FWBs pretty consistently), but he doesn't want to because he's had his eyes on 1 girl who doesn't love him back. People (including me) always want what they can't have. Everybody says men are always willing to have sex, but my experience has shown me this isn't true. Or at least, for some reason, I don't know of any men who are always willing to have sex. So Idk. I think most men might get…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 08:48 AM
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I hate how this post only focuses on how men need to marry women "who don't embarrass them" or whatever. The same standards should apply to husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:05 PM
1

yep
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 02:52 AM
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They need to work on charm (even superficial or psychopathological charm can go a long way sexually) Yep. Charm & authenticity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:41 AM
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I have never, not once, found a woman more attractive for wearing makeup. This is actually a good point to know. I think, honestly, a lot of guys can't tell when a woman is wearing makeup. It's more about natural features.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:38 AM
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A man with a lot of money would make me a bit more cautious, tbh, unless he was like some extremely generous guy who has proven to be very kind & understanding. More money can mean a more controlling attitude, which is something to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:37 AM
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I've never cared about height. It's all about the face, his attitude, his voice, and sense of humor. All of these things TOGETHER are important and one trait can't be separated from the others. The rest of his physique doesn't matter too much. Guys should focus on their hairstyle, clothes, and charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:22 AM
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I was born after 1990 but I made finding a relationship a priority before sex. Obviously I'd have to be attracted to someone first before wanting to pursue a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 11:48 AM
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#1 is probably caused by #2. And I'm not saying whether that's good or bad. In a way, men today have reached a kind of liberation from women. Some guys handle this well, filling their time with outdoor activities, learning, traveling, self-improvement. Others are not so healthy: they're depressed, spend a lot of time online, and don't have any physically-active hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:33 PM
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I think this sub vastly underestimates how many men there are out there who will just drop a woman for whatever reason and turn to other sources of online entertainment. Like, I'm talking severely overweight men or men with other issues (no job, low confidence, whatever), who simply do not care to commit to any one woman. I think also another sad truth is that women's careers or accomplishments do not really matter much to men.. unless the guy is specifically looking for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:05 AM
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An unemployed man who spent the majority of his time online? I don't think that's high value. I thought he was cute, had a good sense of humor, and I liked his accent/voice/the way he carried himself. But the whole value concept is way oversimplified anyway. There's many reasons people get into relationships. A large part is attraction, but what people find attractive is pretty subjective and depends on cultural context.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:38 PM
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I got married to a guy who had only been with me and I still got periodically "broken up" with and treated like a girlfriend, basically. Most men just full stop don't want to be married unless they're already in their late 30s or early 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:32 PM
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The average guy does not and would love to marry for life young. This hasn't been my experience, at all. Most men do not want to get married young.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:28 PM
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The goal is to secure a long term partner that brings the woman more value to offset how much he devalues her this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:26 PM
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The issue is that even the lowest value men still won't value a woman, even if they can or cannot "do better", whatever that means. Maybe in their mind they can always just turn to porn or online chatting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:14 PM
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I've noticed this too. It's a pretty serious problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:45 PM
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gets popcorn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 03:24 PM
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Well during our first "break up" I only had been with 4 other guys in the past, so I don't view that as a high count. It grew every time we broke up/cut communication, and we didn't have a kid together until recently (years after we had met). Anyways, I wanted to be a parent so that's all that really mattered to me. Some people just grow in different directions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:03 AM
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He was a virgin, I was his first. I really doubt he had other partners in the last few years but who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:27 AM
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Because it seems he is only attracted to me in a physical way and does not want to be a parent anymore, despite us having a kid together. We were on and off for 7 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:18 AM
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I mean if a long term partner gets turned on by it, it's generally not a red flag for them 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:10 AM
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True.. but not in the way OP is referring to. Like it wasnt a red flag that stopped the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:05 AM
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I've literally never been asked about how many past partners I've had, except by my long-term ex-partner and he seemed to get turned on (WTF). I don't think men care about this that much in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:06 AM
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same
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:06 AM
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isn't it entertaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:48 PM
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Well, bear in mind though, that the study did not find a difference in the level of distress experienced when having casual sex in either men or women. So it doesn't mean that somehow men are meant to be more promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:46 PM
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Nothing surprising about any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:28 PM
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If it's any consolation this happens to women too, esp. if we take the initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:32 PM
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I think they often get resentful because the guy ends up bringing almost nothing to the table after a certain amount of time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:58 PM
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This is the kind of answer that knocks the wind out of my sails hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:48 AM
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I think it's just an individual thing that depends on the personalities of people involved, not really something that happens more as you get older
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 11:59 PM
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It's a number that is seriously meaningless to me. Unless the person you're asking is a virgin and you're asking because you want to make them more comfortable (which is NOT the reason most people ask).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:30 PM
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This is wrong. I'm almost 30 and I find all kinds of men attractive, even feminine-looking guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:09 PM
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Rarely, sometimes in the weirdest contexts. The last time was when I was wearing a heavy parka, had my toddler with me in a stroller, and a guy asked me if he could pay for dinner (we were at a fast food place). I politely said no, knowing I'd have to be open to at least getting to know him if I accepted. Before that, I was asked out by a guy who helped me carry the stroller down some stairs a few weeks prior. We did exchange numbers and talked a few times on the phone, but he was very aggressiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 11:21 AM
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I didn't ask. He was convinced shrooms were the fix-all solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 08:27 PM
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I guess, but for me the problem with men isn't lack of fitness or awkwardness. It's a general lack of varied experiences and lack of ambition, and a lack of empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 05:22 PM
1

ikr?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:30 AM
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yeah I've come to realize from interacting with more military people that a lot of military jobs are pretty mundane
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:26 AM
1

Yeah I met a guy who wanted to be a therapist. He was suicidal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:46 AM
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Probably the only one that would really raise red flags is police work, unless they're like Cerpico (google him). I don't personally like the mentality of a lot of people in the military or social work, but I'll judge those on a case-by-case basis because I've met some decent people who were in the military or the national guard. Basically any job where you have a lot of power over people will make me cautious. Just a heads up: my ideal partner's career is a pilot or anything that enables a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 12:09 AM
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Well, to be honest, pizza can be quite healthy depending on how it's made. Lots of Italians regularly eat pizza. Of course in public schools it's most likely to be greasy and reheated and have bad quality meat. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:11 PM
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FDS can successfully prevent you from getting abused, but it's also a blocker from you attracting HVM. This
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:10 PM
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Well yes, but things haven't changed now, aside from the fact that people don't mark their relationships "official" by marriage. My point was just to highlight that even the most successful/attractive women are left behind by their partners. The marriage count only makes it easier to keep track of how many times they broke up, as opposed to having to look up how many relationships a modern-day celebrity has had (that info can be hard to find).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 12:28 PM
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Yes, looks matter but the mistake a lot of people make is thinking that everyone wants the *same* looks. Every individual is different, although maintaining basic hygiene is a basic must.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:52 PM
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I think this is probably very true. Even nowadays, I think it's easy for people to only like 1 specific thing about a person, like their looks or the fact that they can do a hobby together, or their financial status, etc. So it might seem as if they are attracted to the whole person, but not really. They're just putting up with/tolerating the rest of the person. Sometimes these incompatibilities don't come up till way later, or people stop trying as hard to please the other person because they'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:10 PM
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Pretty sure it's just an individual thing and has nothing to do with location. I think in general it's the other way around and that's what causes guys to freak out when they encounter a woman who just wants to hook up. I personally have not encountered men wanting more commitment than I do, but several other posters said they've experienced that. Again, it's probably very specific to personal circumstances, age and social group.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:03 PM
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That's kind of a mindfuck. So they say that want an attractive woman but put them in the STR category?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:51 AM
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hahahaha "she was crazy" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7F8gldKaAWQ
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:47 AM
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I can respect that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 12:05 AM
1

Who expected to be first? The women or the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:53 PM
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lol I've had this problem, men would ghost/get cold feet if I wanted to just hook up with nothing else attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:28 PM
3

totally
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:26 PM
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I'm at the point where I'm happy being a guy's friend, but if he wants anything more, he's going to have to show me how he thinks his life can be compatible with mine and he's going to need to be the first to show serious signs of commitment. It's a waste of time otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:21 PM
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I think child support should be paid by the government, tbh. There should also be free childcare (which exists in several EU countries already), and 100% paid maternity leave (which already exists in a few countries, too). I don't think it's possible to sustain two households on just one income and it doesn't make sense to expect parents to do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 09:37 PM
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Stacie’s maximize AF/BB to the full extent possible I had to look this up to find out what the fuck AF/BB means and wtf a Stacie is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 02:01 PM
1

Yes, "the spark". To be honest, that's the main thing that gets me to pursue someone. But it's really inexplicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 05:27 PM
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I always found the way people on this sub try to rationalize things away as "weird fetishes" or "something's wrong with her" or "they do it for attention" to be really off-putting and simple-minded. Maybe for whatever reason, they're both getting what they emotionally need out of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:11 PM
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/r/threadkiller
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:08 PM
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I don't think it means something's "wrong with her brain" if she's genuinely sexually attracted to him? Didn't want the video though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:03 PM
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1) decent looking and 2) is a decent person struggles to find good men. This just doesn't happen. There's no shortage of good men out there who're willing to go to the ends of the world for even ordinary women. The problem is that the men I'm the most attracted to may or may not like me, and the men who like me the most might not be the people I'm the most attracted to. Also, just because mutual attraction might happen at one point doesn't mean it'll stand the test of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:45 PM
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I think the idea that women tend to go for muscly, fit, tall rich men doesn't apply to me. I don't care about any of those things. To be fair, though, I do make my decisions based on two things: how attractive a man is. This varies WILDLY: I've been attracted to boyish, cute men who look like they'd be part of the Beatles Tanned, physically active (but not necessarily muscly or 'fit') men with striking green eyes Someone who used to be in one of the above categories but who gained lots of weight…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:45 PM
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That's why it's best to only pursue people who are upfront about what they want. Don't have sex with people who aren't okay with being ghosted after sex, and don't date women who will potentially friendzone you (and these women should not date men who wouldn't be okay with just friendship).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 08:13 AM
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Gotcha. Still though, the fact that he's afraid gives me the feeling that he'd be the type of person who might up and leave the child who doesn't have any blame in the situation. It also depends on the context.. a guy who's married and wants to have kids who is in that situation is way different from a single guy who was willingly misled into believing something that's not true. I'm probably an outlier here, but I don't really like the fact that someone would coldly leave a child like that. I un…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:29 PM
1

There are women who choose to use donors willingly. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:26 PM
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One of the things I value most in a man is the ability to care for people he's not related to, including both raising a child that's not his and caring for adults he's not related to. I like caring for and providing for other people. I expect the same from a man. If he's afraid of getting cucked that's a dealbreaker for me. If thats 99.99% of men, that's just how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:19 PM
1

This is an excellent comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:09 PM
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Same here. I honestly am kind of shocked that this is the #1 dealbreaker for a lot of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 12:58 PM
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You wouldn't know she falls into that exception unless you got to know her, and a lot of men just write people off
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 12:56 PM
1

There are women who choose that willingly btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 12:02 PM
1

I'm quite different than a lot of women in that I don't care much about a man's job or his finances, and I've no problem with shorter men (I don't get the big deal around taller men). I've dated men who are slightly shorter and dated men who are way above 6' tall. I look for different qualities that have nothing to do with physical appearance or finances. It's more about their morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 11:59 AM
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I have to say though, it takes a specific type of person in a specific time of life to be okay with just friendship at first. It's definitely not for everyone at every stage of life. Nothing wrong with just wanting sex, it's just not where I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:03 AM
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He gets nothing in exchange for doing all of that for you. He should definitely pass on that deal. So you don't believe in male-female friendship without sex? 😂 In the situation we're talking about, that's essentially what it would start as.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:00 AM
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No, it weeds out men who aren't willing to be friends, or men who don't actually like my personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 08:15 AM
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I can vouch t hat this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 11:51 AM
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I never say yes to sex unless there's some kind of long-term benefit to myself. Even if he decides to pay for a hotel or buys all kinds of things for me in an attempt to try and flatter me, I still say no. It's easier to prevent this kind of stuff from happening in the first place if women would just flat out refuse to cave to people's expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 11:38 AM
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This. I think there's a lot of good advice on there and they promote good reading material, however I think the advice goes a bit too far in most cases, and can be a recipe for disappointment in life. In some situations, women need to be the first to take action in order to pursue what it is that they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 08:29 PM
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This 100000%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 08:18 PM
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Are you talking about FDS? Because they definitely don't advocate casually sleeping around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:33 PM
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Nobody was badass enough to marry her (and nobody was badass enough for *her* to want to marry them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:30 PM
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Children are a trap. Some women choose to have them on their own because they bring joy though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:26 PM
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Because some women don't want to stay in traditional gender roles. Idgaf if people don't like it. OP sounds she's marrying a guy who's into traditional roles though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:57 PM
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