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I would not share an Airbnb with someone I’ve met once who is also 50% older than me.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/26 02:39 AM
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Driving and maintaining the car(s)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 03:18 PM
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It’s two years from now. Most people understand that marriage can resolve a visa issue. If he knows it’s up in two years, he knows the timeline.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/25 04:02 PM
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Just ask him to find a handyman for you? This isn’t worth getting bent about.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/25 08:03 PM
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I understand. But you also require care. This is a lot to deal with and they need a mentally healthy mama. May I ask, how much are the surgeries?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/25 03:51 PM
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You’re talking about a major betrayal from your husband and coupled with the experiencing the grief of your children’s health issues and an aspect of lost childhood for them. Have you considered therapy? That’s a lot to be dealing with.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/25 03:29 PM
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Apologies! The rest still stands. I think it would be different if he came to you and was like “you know, thinking about you in shoulder length hair has really been turning me on lately” but all of this seems to be much more by your initiative than his. He was just offering an opinion in response to the question that you asked. Whatever you decide… at the end of the day, hair usually grows back. Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:31 PM
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It’s quite possible the shorter length would look good on you. But… he’s your boyfriend (not husband) and you prefer the longer length. If you were neutral about it and looking for a change then yeah, go for it. But it sounds like you are fond of your hair the way it is, and he’s fond of you with it, so I don’t see a reason to change.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:20 PM
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I think working with a sex therapist will yield greater results on this area than the therapist guy you’re currently working with. They’re trained on how to counsel couples through this exact issue - usually working up to mutual pleasure and eventually intercourse through a series of touch and relaxation exercises that are aimed at increasing emotional intimacy with each other and individual comfort with sex. I mean, I think the therapist guy’s basis is correct - that having more sex may improve…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 03:54 PM
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“Sorry, I hope that didn’t come across like I was trying to undermine you. I really appreciate the way you are with our son.” It doesn’t need to be a big deal, just acknowledge it and move on. It gets easier with practice.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 09:22 PM
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It’s been a month and it’s still bothering you. Have you tried talking to him about it? Like… what did he actually mean… or where did that comment come from? It sounds pretty douchey and conveys the sense that he doesn’t think of you as an equal partner. BUT people say things they don’t actually mean all the time. Talk to him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 07:38 PM
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You’re not actually saying what you want in this example. My mother communicates like this and it drives me (and my dad) bonkers.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:36 PM
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He sounds immature. He may want children and a wife and those other things he told you about, but he’s not living his life oriented towards obtaining those things. Just cut your losses and move on. A simple “It was really nice meeting you, but I don’t think we’re a good fit.” is good. And when you’re 36, I suggest talking to some 22 year olds. It’s a substantial age gap; usually a sign that something’s amiss in that he’s not able to relate to women closer in age.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 05:03 PM
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I think the idea of letting go and letting someone else handle things is pretty uncomfortable to a lot of people these days.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 05:55 PM
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I’m not saying that’s all she does. But sometimes people work for reasons that extend beyond accruing money and it’s a fortunate situation when you are in that position and accruing excess. When you have money, you have more flexibility in how you spend your resources - the nonrenewable ones being time and energy. The SAHW gives back time and energy for the man that would otherwise be spent and that’s time he can give to others, to himself, or to his career. Perhaps you’re correct that it’s a pr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 05:35 PM
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You need a career man. A lot of high powered men need someone to stay at home to run things because their work is so demanding. Be sure you’re up for it though. It can be lonely.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 04:06 PM
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Sounds like there’s more going on here than what you’re saying in your post
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 08:54 PM
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I had a friend like this and her husband started charting her moods and it turned out to be linked to her hormones. She ended up getting diagnosed with PMDD.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 11:37 PM
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That’s sad. Just because they don’t know how to be a lady doesn’t mean you should stop being a gentleman.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 09:05 PM
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Yeah, he also came to maturity before the internet (and also internet porn) was so readily accessible. I was floored that someone stepped aside to let me first off the elevator earlier this week. Seems like all of that went out the window with Covid, and the younger generations aren’t aware at all.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 08:31 AM
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It’s a problem. I thought all men used porn. Then I met one who didn’t and it made me question everything I thought I knew about what men wanted. Can’t explain it, he just treated women - all women - differently (in a good way).
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 02:17 AM
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I agree. I’ve never really encountered the frequency of “is it too late?” questions that seem to appear here. Even though I was engaged on the younger side of my 20s I think I would have been OK to remain single, so perhaps I’m not the best judge. It’s always been about the person for me, my person just happened to come along early.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 06:56 PM
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22 - began dating husband 25 - married, always open to life 42 - still married, still childless Sometimes life just doesn’t work out as planned.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 05:56 PM
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I never fought with my husband before marriage. Generally speaking, we’re pretty low conflict. Sometimes when we fight now it’s because one of us is not adequately dealing with something. I think the lack of conflict can mask a tendency to be avoidant.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 04:39 PM
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I’m not the person who posted this advice, but I took on a part-time service job to help out a friend and it helped immensely.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 06:05 PM
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This is something you’re only discovering two years into a relationship? When you say LDR, how much time have you actually spent with each other in person?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 05:28 PM
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Some people are just negative Nellies. Alternatively, any chance he’s on the (autistic) spectrum? He may not realize how insensitive he’s being, and may even think his suggestions are helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 07:27 AM
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Not quite what I was getting at but still, an associates degree is better than no degree! You can always go back for more later if you want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 05:28 AM
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The marriages I know that most closely resemble the RPW “ideal” all involve women with graduate degrees, some from very prestigious schools.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 07:51 PM
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Caring for things: children, pets, gardens, students, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 01:07 AM
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I’m in a (married) relationship with a male trauma survivor. Knowing what I know now, I would be very cautious in choosing to walk this path again. I think most people don’t know how to respond, to be honest. It’s not clear when you’re sharing this information, but right before you are intimate with someone might not be the best time to approach the topic. It’s something that really merits it’s own, separate conversation. Also, I’m sorry. I hope you are able to find the healing you need to move …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 02:10 PM
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Kissing and other stuff is still cheating, even if it doesn’t end with having sex. That said, I’m sorry this happened to you. Do you think you can forgive?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 01:48 PM
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Grandma!
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 04:11 PM
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Wow, this sounds like my ex. He was a serial cheater, and I think he loved every girl he hurt very deeply. Sometimes you’re not enough because they have a hole that can’t be filled.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 04:40 PM
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No offense taken. I was kind of naive, I guess. There was never a hard no, always a soft “I know this is important to you” and we had talked about having a family before marriage, but I didn’t realize (and maybe he didn’t either) that his identity was so tied up in his career. It wasn’t until he reached a certain position that kids seemed like they could be a worthwhile “risk”. It took me a decade+ to realize things weren’t going to happen the way we talked about (and were continuing to talk abo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 09:50 PM
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I was in a similar situation when I was in my mid-20s. Started getting agitated around 30, kept holding out for the “someday” he was telling me but had given up that hope by 35. Now I’m in my 40s and my husband has recently opened his mind to it being the right time to start a family. Yeah, no thanks. Hope it works out for you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 09:12 PM
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Hard pass. Find a man who will love you the way you need to be loved.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 02:54 PM
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I majored in art history. Yes, I did use it. Working was a pleasant distraction when kids did not come along as planned.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 12:31 AM
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Pick a laundry day and stick to it. A garment steamer will help refresh clothes and remove minor odors between wears. Lots of good advice here on personal hygiene. Not sure about the food issues. I think it can be a little harder if you are overweight, or tall, or large-chested because the food has further to travel (as silly as that sounds), but if you’re getting it on your glasses, hair, etc. then maybe you’re getting food on your hands and transferring it through touch? My grandma used to hav…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 04:56 PM
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I think it’s both. Catholicism emphasizes humility, simplicity, and feminine modesty (which includes displays of wealth). Among the more devout, vanity is considered a sin and people have different ideas of where to draw the line on that. I think a lot of the younger women probably never ventured much into fashion and makeup as teenagers and young adults, if I had to guess, so some of it seems a little forced sometimes. I attend a religious order parish (so, there is a bit of an ongoing conversa…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 08:10 PM
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