jazida Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
15	Hypergamy Self-Awareness?		jazida	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/13 11:04 PM
13	Forgiveness and TRP.	Ask Red Pill	jazida	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 04:32 PM
7	Post-sex beta-ness		jazida	/r/askTRP	22/08/13 12:56 AM
7	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior.		jazida	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 05:34 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	AWALT: My unicorn betrayed me Nobody listens? Who told him? Did you?	/r/TheRedPill	04/07/15 05:35 AM
2	Are women who show no hint of interest even worth approaching? If you don't have good game, get some good game. Time consuming? You think the perfect woman is out there without you having to spend time? You're posting in the wrong place. Women are far less visual than men, stop projecting your own desires and insecurities and control your own hamster. If these women interest you and you're settling because you have "bad game" or "no interest" and you're coming to this conclusion before doing ANYTHING or even approaching, there is no advice but to tell you t…	/r/askTRP	24/03/15 10:29 PM
6	Bill Maher - making women nod Yes. We talk often and earnestly on this subreddit about picking up women and how to manage them. It's important to understand how to manage ourselves, too. There's too much out there that drives us towards self-destructive behavior. We are social beasts. Our society is filled with destructive messages. I am part of the minority that believes the institution of marriage is valuable: it's how we produce high value offspring. Instead of joining two individuals, we are training people to be only a …	/r/TheRedPill	04/10/13 05:44 PM
14	Bill Maher - making women nod There were two segments that I thought were particularly prescient. Men ARE lonely. Men DO check in and talk to their wives way too much in an LTR. These two concepts are joined: men are lonely and think that women can make them less lonely. What a vicious cycle.	/r/TheRedPill	04/10/13 01:14 PM
8	Young or Old? Older Woman fallacies: An older woman is NOT less likely to stray in an LTR. Older women who have been with many men are far less stable. Older women tend to dress better and have better style. Younger Woman fallacies: Fat young girls exist. Skin elasticity and sex drive are the primary benefits of younger girls. Younger women are much more easily indoctrinated. They are also just as easily tamed. Their likelihood to leave you is based on your value, not theirs. Why would you want someone that's…	/r/askTRP	04/10/13 12:55 PM
4	Shakespeare dropping some Red Pill truth in Much Ado About Nothing Just assume that female infidelity happens.	/r/TheRedPill	03/10/13 08:08 PM
7	Getting a woman on a diet and exercise plan Anecdote: Business studies show that women respond to metrics and process driven tracking more than men do. I managed a fitness challenge at work two years in a row. The first year, I made a rotating competition that would track three measurements and reward the best progress in each of those three factors (pedometer, calories burned, weight lost). Almost all of the men responded very well. The women were disengaged. This year, I had two systems that you could participate in. The first is the sa…	/r/TheRedPill	01/10/13 03:33 PM
4	Forgiveness and TRP. Well, shit. This comment kicked a zen waterfall into full stream.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 11:03 PM
5	Forgiveness and TRP. I've thought about this, too. Is it the right choice though? Hasn't she won if I'm fundamentally changing myself because of who she is? Unless the change is universally valuable.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 07:24 PM
3	Forgiveness and TRP. I know a lot of people are telling me to just get out. I want to do that, too. That's my gut impulse decision. I'm trying to be smart, maybe I'm just talking myself out of the right choice. Logic as follows: I've invested a lot into this relationship, in developing shared memories and giving leadership support. Pair bonding is strong. Family implications. Fall out from networks from my family that are very traditional and potential sources of funding for future ventures. AWALT. No matter who I f…	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 07:00 PM
12	Forgiveness and TRP. This. This is a fantastic summation of my personal logic on this. I've stated this to her point blank.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:56 PM
4	Forgiveness and TRP. "landed in time to crash whatever opportunity was there" means what? You walked in on them sitting too close to each other and they started acting guilty and she assumed you knew something was going on? (Did you?) Or by crashing the opportunity, does that mean she was going to go to bed with the guy that night, but you were unexpectedly home and she couldn't (but you didn't really see or interrupt anything specific)? They were all going out as a group but were planning on helping him out with so…	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:55 PM
2	Forgiveness and TRP. You stayed, even after a physical betrayal?	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:50 PM
3	Forgiveness and TRP. Good call. I've not had a chance to talk to him in private, yet.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:40 PM
3	Forgiveness and TRP. EDIT: Prying is fine. I'm putting myself out here for advice. Incomplete information will lead to improper advice. Details: Supposedly they never talked about hooking up, though the 'chemistry' was there. The only way I can get their chat logs may be to file for divorce and subpoena her company to compelling them, which would most definitely get both of them fired. I'm okay with that, but there is no turning back at that point in time. She was attracted to him enough that after putting herself o…	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:37 PM
3	Forgiveness and TRP. Can you give any reasoning behind your response?	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:31 PM
5	Forgiveness and TRP. To expand and give more detail, her portrayal of the situation was: She put herself out there repeatedly, he was clueless, she was ready to be more aggressive to make something happen, I inadvertently caught an earlier flight and landed in time to crash whatever opportunity was there. She also said they 'touched legs' at happy hours with their team, under the table. All of the above detail is not enough for me to not also reach your conclusion: She did not just talk to some other guy about her f…	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:23 PM
3	Forgiveness and TRP. Something fucked up where she likes the drama of me being angry? or she's lying to your ass. She gives up the emotional affair to cover the real one(s), My inability to either confirm nor deny this line is the primary reason that I think this is over.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 06:15 PM
2	Forgiveness and TRP. I've said that to myself, too. It still feels like betrayal.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 05:19 PM
5	Forgiveness and TRP. Asking questions. Dissecting answers for gaps in details or logical fallacies. Following up, until the trickle dies down. Doing spot confirmations of her answers. Find evidence to support. Look for inconsistencies. Ask questions. Listening to the answers. Listening for ways that she's reframing her answers. Asking for her to answer in a more factual frame. Repeat, etc.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 05:19 PM
5	Forgiveness and TRP. She talked to him and shared her thoughts instead of with me for a period of time. She chatted with him at work (they worked together before) about girls he was sleeping with (girls that I wingman'd his ass to land) and was very sexually explicit about it. A relationship. She was attracted to him and continued to allow it to escalate.	/r/TheRedPill	30/09/13 04:51 PM
1	Is polygamy 'red pill'? Do you behave the same with women as you do with men? I sincerely hope you don't.	/r/askTRP	27/09/13 01:19 AM
1	Is polygamy 'red pill'? The market value of a man's accomplishments is a completely different market than the comparative market between a man and a woman. Behavior in one market doesn't beget behavior in another.	/r/askTRP	26/09/13 05:00 PM
3	Is polygamy 'red pill'? Improved participation in the sciences, more long-term thinking and strategy. Alphas are generally not suited for academia.	/r/askTRP	26/09/13 02:39 PM
3	Game theory and getting laid Glad to see a rational response. Markets are rarely this simple, either. How many bars have only two women? How many social engagements don't have new people trickling in? Have you never been engaged in conversation when someone else shows up and piques your interest more? Have you never known someone who has different preferences in women than you do? There are millions of micro-markets. Our awareness of each other in the market is tacit, at best.	/r/TheRedPill	26/09/13 02:04 PM
7	Is polygamy 'red pill'? Polygamy is a female construct. It favors women. Stronger men get more women. The strongest man may have 100 wives. In polygamous cultures, approximately 30% of men are married to 90% of women. The rest of the 70% of men have the fight over the remaining 10%. Most men go unmarried, and unpartnered. This system ensures that women get to the highest possible value mate, in the aggregate. Polygamy ensures hypergamous success. Looking through history, the men of these cultures were less incentivized…	/r/askTRP	26/09/13 01:56 PM
5	Hypergamy Self-Awareness? The destructive aspect of hypergamy so dested by the TRP, and what I'm curious to address is the concept of trading up. Not just trading up in terms of boyfriends, husbands, providers, but also in terms of material status: houses, cars, neighborhoods, boats, etc. For my wife and I, when she feels the itch, the most effective response is a firm no and a reminder that those extraneous purchases will not further our mission. Are those urges triggered, like alcoholism is triggered by environment? Do…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/13 11:51 PM
5	Being an Asian guy in the US sucks (?) Reading your responses I am reminded of an irrational, shallow minded feminist.	/r/TheRedPill	20/09/13 03:03 AM
8	Being an Asian guy in the US sucks (?) Let me illustrate something for you, since you don't seem to be a 'smart' anything. Many many =/= vast majority. Smart Asians and Alpha Asians Overlap. That doesn't mean that there's 100% overlap. Some Asian Alphas are not smart, they are meatheads and idiots. Some Smart Asians are not alphas, they are milked dry by their tigerladies The VAST MAJORITY of them fall somewhere inbetween, just like any distribution in a population.	/r/TheRedPill	20/09/13 01:13 AM
10	Being an Asian guy in the US sucks (?) Asian here: Many Asians have the luxury of growing up in a patriarchal family structure: the same one that most RedPillers and MRAs wish to create. Even though it encourages and demands strong male children, it teaches that public promiscuity by either gender is frowned upon. As an Asian male, I expect my wife to take care of the house, have a decent job and also bear me strong heirs. If she is not sufficient, there is not the same stigma on divorce within the community. As far as dating outside…	/r/TheRedPill	19/09/13 07:46 PM
3	How the MMPI personality test measures male-female orientation. I, for one, would be very interested in an answer key. Even an incomplete, or inaccurate framework is valuable. The framework itself sets your brain in a direction of thought that can inspire some truth.	/r/TheRedPill	19/09/13 03:32 PM
6	Frustrated... Sounds like you miss your dog. It's not weak to mourn. Take the time to mourn appropriately, respect his memory, he was your best friend. Do not think for one minute that a fundamentally hypergamous woman can replace the unconditional love of a dog. Such thoughts are the root of weakness.	/r/askTRP	17/09/13 09:07 PM
18	9 early career rules toward ownership and control I'd find it valuable if you talked about how you found your mentor, how you determined was a worthy one, and how that relationship has helped you.	/r/TheRedPill	17/09/13 07:14 PM
3	How do you recover from being a slut? Why would a strong hand want to touch her? If an emotional affair can ruin the interest of the strongest alpha, how does a woman with 60 partners "under the belt" attract anyone? If someone came on this subreddit and posted "Super Alpha married to ex-slut with 60 partners" which part of that title would you question the most? She's done. Continue to be a slut is the best advice, I think someone already said it.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/13 11:25 PM
8	Why do I keep defaulting to give-up/beta mode? This is very oversimplified: testosterone makes you want sex. Desiring sex forces you to do things that result in sex. If it is difficult, you produce more and more testosterone until you get sex (there is a limit). This increase motivates you more and more until you're good enough to get sex. Masturbating bypasses the self-improvement/increased drive aspect of it and results in the goal without the process, preventing a healthy, positive feedback loop. Eventually we just skip producing very hig…	/r/TheRedPill	11/09/13 04:19 PM
19	Be like this girl. Man here: it's either all attention is potential rape or please validate me. Watching Summer made me GIDDY.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/13 07:19 PM
1	Is the point of TRP to become an alpha and make a woman a beta? You can criticize individual men and women for their specific behavior, but TRP by no means is an "anti-woman" philosophy I agree. There is a lot of anger here. Justifiable. Potentially dangerous. The goal of being a leader is to turn criticism into self-education. I always recommend that people judge MORE. Judge everything. But, use that judgement to further your own understanding of the world and the people that live in it. This is how you end the day with a realistic understanding of where yo…	/r/askTRP	06/09/13 02:46 PM
3	Is the point of TRP to become an alpha and make a woman a beta? You sound young and a bit naive: do not confuse behavior with personality. Personality is our preferences, desires, goals, experiences, etc. Behavior is our actions, responses to situations, what we choose to say and do. Personality does not beget results. Behavior does. Most people have a fantastic understanding of their personality ("I like it when...") but have very little understanding of their behavioral tendencies ("The right thing to do when...") which results in anxiety. Figure out what …	/r/askTRP	05/09/13 09:48 PM
1	Do you find cooking inherently beta? When I cook I'm in command of the kitchen. I don't do day to day cooking. I like to create, compose, direct. There's nothing beta about being creative or demonstrating ability. If you're cooking due to servitude, then yes. Any activity can be "beta." Any activity can be "alpha." It depends on who's doing it.	/r/askTRP	04/09/13 03:05 AM
1	Why this subreddit has gone to the dogs I see a lot of people responding with: just don't read what you don't like. The source of the angst is that a certain cohort of subscribers were drawn to this subreddit do to how the content was and not how it is currently. Obviously the content has drawn more subscribers. These subscribers reinforce the new content. This problem is not unique to this subreddit but is a meta problem of reddit, in general. Curating, discerning, moderating is a selective process by definition. The moderators of bo…	/r/TheRedPill	03/09/13 10:09 PM
1	Considering the implications of some of the dogma Do you want comfort or do you want fulfillment. They are absolutely mutually exclusive.	/r/TheRedPill	03/09/13 04:43 AM
5	I've taken the red pill, I'm in a relationship... Relationship has started to suffer. Help! Communicate: don't expect her to read your mind. Let her know what you expect, tell her why if necessary. Feel good: you are bettering yourself. She will come around. If she doesn't you will realize that she doesn't matter as much as your own value. Fuck her good: this will help transition the subconscious dominant/submissive dynamic back towards your dominance. Remain playful: being in control doesn't mean being cold or stiff. Tease her, be playful. Her weak shit-tests are amusing to you. Be st…	/r/askTRP	23/08/13 04:31 PM
2	I Needed to Say This... Real women want real men. I know if your daughters came home sporting a black eye he wouldn't be alpha as fuck he'd be abusive. If he forced her to quit her job that wouldn't be alpha that would be imprisonment. If he told her her desires were secondary to his that wouldn't be alpha. That would be cruel. Grow up boys. Real men want someone walking beside them, not behind them. We don't seek force. We are leaders. If a woman doesn't want to follow our leadership, we'll find plenty of other women …	/r/TheRedPill	21/08/13 02:32 PM
0	Porn. And how it makes lesser men. You are making an error in your otherwise sound logical reasoning: not all behaviors are equal in their ability to be engaged in moderation. Some behaviors are convergent, some are divergent. Examples: There is no such thing as "moderate" methamphetamine use. This activity is intrinsically divergent. Not everyone can tolerate even "moderate" alcohol use. Many (most) people can, this behavior is convergent for them. Some people (alcoholics) must abstain because it is divergent for them. I've writ…	/r/TheRedPill	21/08/13 01:47 PM
4	"I'm not that kind of girl" or "I'm looking for something serious and you're a player" shit test... how do you handle it? I pretty much have the worst ability to execute this. FTFY.	/r/askTRP	21/08/13 01:39 PM
2	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. If you truly believed me to be sociopathic and narcissistic, you would infer that I would not doubt my own ability to win against the current othodoxy. ;) The second possibility made me the most reflective. Her father was absent in discipline, for the most part: punishment and reward was left to her mother. All of the siblings view dad as emotionally distant, as a rule. Yes, my father, as I acted out and tested boundaries as a child, began to withhold his emotions from me more and more. Perhaps …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/08/13 12:20 AM
1	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. I disagree wholeheartedly on your dismissal of Pavlovian behavioral changes affecting humans. Yes, humans have a far more complex understanding of reward processing than in dogs. However, the concepts have been proven over and over again to be fundamentally correct in humans (source: on facet of my job involves designing and developing incentive programs and training adoption strategies for complex operations jobs.) While I have no doubt that I am at least somewhat narcissistic and sociopathic, …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/13 05:53 AM
0	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. I agree that I need to be clearer about setting expectations. The root cause of the problem is my continued struggle with expecting her to reach the same conclusions as me. As far as making a plan, to be clear, this instance was specifically about her job. As someone else had posted, I do have a duty to help her cope with stress. I cannot, and will not, make plans for her in her own work setting. Your logic makes sense, however, the conclusion would be that her current job role lacks leadership.…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/08/13 01:30 AM
1	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. This is surprising. I have been forcing myself to reward MORE, as I am reticent at best, regularly.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 07:48 PM
1	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. Is this the video? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg Someone suggested using the phrase "I'm going to withdraw my affection for you to think about __." I'll implement that today. I can't help her with her work items. I can help with her helplessness.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 07:46 PM
2	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. Thank you, the second part is great insight.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 07:27 PM
0	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. I'm curious as to how you go about withdrawing. Could you be a bit more detailed? I stop sharing my thoughts. I stop being affectionate. I hold my emotions in. I am guarded. I am not as reactive. I am colder. It shouldn't be taken lightly. I don't take it lightly. My strategy is not working. I want to make it work better. An example conversation: Me: "You've been unreliable and lazy. This happens when something is on your mind. What's going on?" Her: "I am overwhelmed." Me: "Looking back, what i…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 06:51 PM
1	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. A couple of questions: Do your rewards get scaled the same way as your punishments? Are there other devastating outcomes to overpunishing other than desensitization and inability to reconcile the punishment to the act?	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 06:46 PM
1	Wife not connecting reward to positive behavior, consequence to negative behavior. She could be undersexed. We oversexed for two days and it became incredibly painful for her on the third day. The last two days have been undersexed. Also, I am away most of the week on business, lately. It is difficult to find married redpillers. Most of the people I know are uncomfortable talking about relationships or are not men that I respect. I will research where I can and make a decision about my course of action afterwards. My gut response is to be more specific in the reward: You did g…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/13 05:56 PM
1	On porn use I don't think orgasm-free sprees are good at all. Too much of a good thing is always bad. Over-masturbation, over-stimulation while masturbating, those can all lead to dangerously self-reinforcing behavioral pathways. Masturbate when you need to. Make sure your sexual frame is as strong and consistent as your mental one.	/r/becomeaman	13/08/13 02:05 PM
6	On porn use I gave up masturbation as a personal challenge for 30 days. During this period of time, I felt confident while being acutely aware of my shortcomings. I was calmer in social settings though hornier to everything (even billboards and random women on an airplane). I was far more decisive, energetic and focused. My workouts were more motivated and I fully exerted my innate charisma. I didn't stop this period of no masturbation by plan: I couldn't take it anymore. Even though I was having sex with w…	/r/becomeaman	13/08/13 01:54 PM
1	So what's your problem? (Classic female shaming tactics.) I didn't say all, or even close to all. In saying 'by and large' I only inferred the majority.	/r/TheRedPill	31/07/13 10:52 PM
2	So what's your problem? (Classic female shaming tactics.) A significant factor, internally and externally. By and large, desirable men value appearances. A beautiful person has other struggles.	/r/TheRedPill	31/07/13 06:43 PM
1	So what's your problem? (Classic female shaming tactics.) Nothing needs to be this extreme or categorical. A woman's aggregate perceived value DECLINES as they age and lose youthfulness and beauty, regardless of where they started out. A woman who ages can overcome this decline by improving her fitness (if it was low to begin with) or other desirable, valuable traits. A woman who goes to college/matures/reads books/travels is more interesting and more valuable than one that does not, but this difference only makes sense if all other factors are equal. …	/r/TheRedPill	31/07/13 05:17 PM
–	Is the point of TRP to become an alpha and make a woman a beta? You will always find what you want to with the internet. This response tells me that you're still CHASING the women. As long as you have the nectar, the bees will keep coming without you having to move an inch. If you go out of your way to visit the beehive, you get stung.	/r/askTRP
–	What to do when she unexpectedly brings her friend? Why is this a bad thing? I don't know how a "line" but don't underestimate the value of demonstrating your value to two friends (read: in constant competition with each other) simultaneously. Anxiety is normal: obsessive nervousness means you're too attached to the outcome with this girl and you can't hide that. If she's just there to have her friend screen you then there's either no interest or some deeper issues: NEXT.	/r/askTRP