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in my experience of text-based communication it's super SUPER easy to tell who is fucking with grammar for laughs or expediency vs someone who is genuinely ignorant of the rules of the english languge. you're literate, so you're unlikely to turn the types of people who can't tolerate bad text-based communication off, i think you'll be totally ok on this front Groomed as in groomed to be abused? What? no, badly groomed as in your hair's unkempt as hell and you didn't brush your teeth (but i get t…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 01:42 PM
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i gotta tell you a secret, dude: I have absolutely no idea hot to be attractive in a womans eyes. me the fuck either! i chalk any success i have had with women up to right place, right time, sheer dumb luck. but also, the sort of women who are attracted to me are unlikely to also be into what you have to offer them, just because, you know, 🌈 and all, so unfortunately even if i knew why women were sometimes into me, i don't know that those tips would translate for you/other men on this sub. the p…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 04:29 PM
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i mean, it's a numbers game in the sense that the more people you meet, the more people you're going to know, and the more opportunities you're likely to have, for sure. I'm relegated to making friends I guess. i get why it would feel discouraging to feel 'relegated,' but tbh the opportunity to make connections more organically is kind of a gift. and i don't mean that in the sense of toxic positivity, just in the sense that i think it's a lot easier to be successful in person (or even just in on…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 03:51 PM
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No, they're exceedingly rare almost every woman i know has a story about a dude in public who started being really fucking weird to them and not leaving them alone. i really, really do not think this is as rare as you think it is. dave honestly sounds highly autistic no he doesn't lmao, he sounds like a fucking creep who doesn't understand boundaries (or maybe just doesn't acknowledge them because he doesn't like them! who knows), which isn't an inherently autistic trait. do not throw autistic p…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 03:50 AM
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i don't think this is going to be a particularly popular sentiment, but there's a reason you see women online warning each other off older men by saying things like "if he can't date someone his age it's because women his age know he's full of shit and won't buy what he's selling." men who actively pursue younger women radiate big irredeemable loser vibes, even if they're otherwise successful. i really cannot recommend pursuing people who have significantly less overall life experience than you
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 07:50 AM
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piv isn't the only type of sex, though. it's a pretty wide umbrella. just because most people's anatomy is such that clitoral orgasms during penetrative sex are unlikely doesn't mean that there aren't other aspects of sex that are more pleasurable. (it also doesn't mean penetration itself isn't pleasurable, even if the person receiving doesn't finish.) And listening to women in this sub, its obvious that a great deal of work is needed to get women off. completely anatomy and skill dependent tbh.…
/r/ExRedPill27/03/22 04:36 PM
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it's a topic of conversation because i want to address casual lesbophobia when i see it. you said something inadvertently shitty and i corrected you; that's fine, people do this to each other when they mess up all the time. i am sure that very soon i will say something inadvertently shitty and need to be corrected. it's not a big deal at all. as for killing your sex drive permanently, that's really something you'd need to discuss with a medical professional. if it was something you could easily …
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:22 PM
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in order for the lesbian comparison to make sense, though, you'd have to instead be super horny about men. the word you're looking for might be asexual, not lesbian. i assure you that many lesbians want to fuck constantly
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 01:01 PM
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I can see how lesbian's say they can go days without once thinking of a man. lmao, WHAT? it's because we're not attracted to men. i have sexual thoughts about women all the time... because that's the gender i'm attracted to
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 12:32 PM
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I guess it would be like finding out Earth isn't the center of the universe, but going back to it cause everyone's always in your face about it. this is actually an issue with cult victims in general. a major reason many people are reluctant to leave a cult, even when they know how bullshit it is, is because they think that the second they step into the real world that everybody is going to rip the piss out of them for being so stupid. it's a justifiable fear, a lot of the time. it's unfortunate…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 12:12 PM
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cost of living, higher housing, energy costs, inflation granted, all of that is very needlessly shitty, i agree but women, poc and rainbow flag people are getting support in the media how are these topics connected, though? i don't control the cost of living on the basis that i fuck women, bud. you're pissed off at all the wrong people
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 07:22 PM
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was there a discussion about this you wanted to have or is this more of a declarative statement scenario?
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 07:11 PM
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evolution doesn't "do" anything other than occur. it isn't sapient and it doesn't have a goal. it's just a thing that generally inevitably happens
/r/ExRedPill20/03/22 03:45 PM
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if you constantly stand next to someone who never showers and they smell fucking terrible, nobody's going to come anywhere near you either. same principle applies. i promise that whatever this guy brings to the table vis a vis friendship isn't worth tolerating the fact that he wants to fuck high schoolers as a nearly 30 year old. (unless someone has your life in their hands, literally nothing on earth is.)
/r/ExRedPill15/03/22 01:59 AM
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where is it being said? i never hear the phrase "basic bitch culture" personally so i'm curious
/r/ExRedPill12/03/22 03:17 PM
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no worries, that's why i asked, it's cool. what do you mean by basic bitch culture exactly?
/r/ExRedPill12/03/22 03:08 PM
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are you trying to say culture or couture?
/r/ExRedPill12/03/22 03:06 PM
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a lot of the shit you're describing in the op is part of why polyamory/communal living in general appeal so strongly to me for sure! it's borderline impossible to function on one income, not to mention dangerous, like you say. with only one earner, what if they get sick or injured, etc? it's a racket. you absolutely have the right idea
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 09:15 PM
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I don't like calling them negs. well yeah, of course you don't, because then you'd have to confront the fact that this is shitty and rude behavior, which you don't want to associate yourself with. The intention isn't to be mean. if you don't intend to be mean, then you need to actively choose kindness instead. the fact that you say that you don't intend to be mean is pretty telling of the fact that you're aware that this behavior is, in fact, rude It's last minute resistance to make sure she's s…
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 06:13 PM
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i think that every website i went to just now to try to get a definition for it forced at minimum two pop-ups on me where they were begging me to subscribe to their emails and buy their shit with my real life earth dollars, so i'm pretty sure that they all have an agenda shittesting is just as stupid as the rest of the rp bs because it relies on the same dumbass foundational elements -- "she's making sure you're an alpha bro" like what kind of fucked up life are you living that you assume everyb…
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 04:48 PM
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that's really tough. it's nobody's fault, but it's also not abandonment -- you weren't put on this earth to take care of your brother for the rest of your life. people are put on earth to vibe and chill and have fun and do things that fulfill them. i think really what it boils down to is you gotta get outta that little town, and i know how much easier said than done that is, but you're gonna waste away there otherwise, and i hate to see that. even if there are no immediately apparent solutions, …
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 04:42 PM
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i see you help your parents care for your sibling, so my questions are basically: what happens if you do leave? and are your parents the ones who are putting this responsibility on you? i'm asking because like... what if you met the most amazing woman in the world tomorrow and in a year you're talking marriage? do your parents expect you to live at home to care for your sibling until one of you dies? i'm really concerned about you just being stuck there forever if this is the case. i realize the…
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 01:11 AM
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She’s showing a lot of interest and encourages me to communicate my feelings but I feel like she will lose interest if I reciprocate or spend too much time with her. if she loses interest, this will not be why. this is... such an utterly backwards line of thinking that it's difficult to address. she is explicitly telling you that she wants to hear about your inner thoughts, and you're interpreting that as "she will lose interest if i tell her what i'm thinking." like, there is no trust, so there…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 03:30 PM
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this is so hard and it's really obvious you want to help protect your sister. domestic abuse is so sticky. i think honestly the thing you might want to do now is just prioritize being an emotional support for her and making sure she knows you are there for her "if" it all goes to shit. you and i and the people on this sub know that this is a when and not an if, but sis might not be there yet, and pushing it too hard can unfortunately cause more damage in the long run. you're walking a serious ti…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 03:39 AM
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you can not date without aligning yourself with a misogynist hate group, though, can't you? there's no reason to label yourself mgtow and put that chain around your neck. you can just tell people you don't wanna date if it comes up, but you don't even have to do that.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 01:55 AM
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it's because the younger a woman is the less likely she is able to see the bullshit for what it is. less developed brain = easier to manipulate. if your friend is in his 30s and lusting after teenagers you should probably stop being friends with him though tbh, like that is absolutely vile
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 02:10 PM
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because they are insecure and want to control the people in their lives, is the short answer. it's a pretty slick little operation, because they're leading, they're in control of everything, but if anything goes wrong, it's the woman's fault 100% of the time. it's pretty transparent and very pathetic
/r/ExRedPill25/02/22 06:55 PM
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there is no love based on genetics, that's called wanting to bang (or maybe being a freak eugenicist if they take it far enough). of course people love others for social reasons. this is a sincere question, have you genuinely been operating under the assumption that only appearance can engender feelings of romance?
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 11:48 PM
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you're welcome, i'm glad if it helped even a little. i assume you're seeing a specialist, and if that's the case you might actually be able to ask them if they know of any therapists or support groups in the area as well!
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 07:38 PM
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man, my heart aches for you, i feel the fear so deeply. i hope my input will be helpful here on the axis that i am also someone who developed chronic autoimmune conditions as a kid (a little younger than you). i'm 30 now, so i have had some time to look back on the experience a bit. it's so fucking annoying to constantly be told to speak to a professional, but i really think that seeking out a therapist who has some training in grief counseling or who works with people with chronic illnesses/dis…
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 07:27 PM
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100% cosigned. this book was a rough read as an intimate partner abuse survivor, but it was very eye-opening. the pdf is available for free (completely legally) at this link. i would also like to mention that Lundy Bancroft is a man -- i think his name is fairly gender-ambiguous and i actually don't think i realized he was a man until after i read the book. i only mention this because i know that some people trust male authority more, for better or worse, and i wanna use it to advantage here
/r/ExRedPill23/02/22 06:55 PM
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"the bullshit" is what makes the red pill the red pill. if it isn't bullshit-tinted, it's just decent self-help advice and can exist irrespective of any other red pill accoutrements people also wish to consume. if trp has good parts to take value from, then those parts are going to be available elsewhere from less fucked up and shitty sources
/r/ExRedPill22/02/22 05:23 PM
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a family size preference is absolutely not wrong. not wanting kids is not something you should consider compromising on (i am of the mind that unless you strongly and deeply desire to raise children that you shouldn't have them -- that's why i am not), but it is definitely something that can have a very significant effect on your options. i agree with the above comment that that might be a bigger factor than you initially realized. have you tried any childfree dating groups? you may have some be…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/22 05:33 PM
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nobody needs a romantic or sexual relationship of any kind. they're lovely things that most people enjoy having when they have them, but no, they are not required for happiness. humans need a broad social network to help each other, but it is unhealthy to view individual relationships through a lens of need. women should not need men, individually. men should not need women, individually. i feel the desire to have many people of different genders in my life because i feel like that broadens my p…
/r/ExRedPill17/02/22 06:50 PM
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i don't know how that's relevant, i didn't mention sex at all. was just curious about what else you consider romantic
/r/ExRedPill13/02/22 06:34 PM
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?? physical affection is a huge component of romance. what are other examples of things you think are romantic, or is it just giving people roses?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/22 06:27 PM
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that's not even what romance is, though. buying someone flowers isn't inherently romantic to everyone, and even if it was, not enjoying one attempt at a romantic overture doesn't mean that a woman doesn't enjoy romance in general. also, not every romantic gesture is romantic from every person. if one of my girlfriends gives me a massage, that is romantic. if a massage therapist gives me a massage, that is medical treatment and not romantic. if one of my gfs comes up behind me and kisses me on th…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/22 06:18 PM
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these two circles in the manosphere venn diagram definitely have some overlap, yeah. you can see it on reddit too -- this subreddit and r/incelexit have a bunch of users in common. i occasionally forget which one i'm on when i'm replying somewhere and have to edit posts to clarify because some of the topics are sometimes so similar
/r/ExRedPill10/02/22 03:01 AM
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Teachers should give feedback even if their students chuck a tantrum at first, because there's a pathway to learn. It's the same with dating. stop infantalizing yourself! women aren't teachers and men aren't children who need to be taught. women don't get paid for the effort of telling a man why they rejected him, especially because it can SO easily end up in assault, stalking, abuse, murder. i have had dudes create multiple accounts to chase me around apps that i wasn't even using to date when …
/r/ExRedPill09/02/22 09:19 AM
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if you're not interested in challenging his beliefs (which is totally reasonable, that's a lot of emotional energy to expend on people that you personally know because there's more investment involved), i think you should start drawing your boundaries. "hey, i can't have these discussions with you anymore, they really wear on me. i'd rather talk about things we both enjoy." if he doesn't respect this, you walk away from the conversation until he gets the message or keep redirecting. "hey shiroka…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/22 10:22 PM
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i do think hurt people hurt people, but i'm also not seeing any movements online that spur women to violence against men because men don't act how women want them to like i do in the opposite direction. i think attributing all of it to mental illness does a disservice to people who are sick who don't struggle with misogyny or other forms of bigotry. The biggest problem is those people end up having kids and fuck them up too. And it’s just a vicious cycle. yeah, there's a reason i'm childfree. ev…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 04:42 PM
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i'm torn, because like, yeah, mental illness can definitely be a contributing factor in developing learned helplessness, but also there are so many people out there -- mostly dudes, but any gender, frankly -- who are raised with absolutely no life skills whatsoever. sometimes this is because of neglect, which absolutely fucking sucks and i empathize, but also like, google exists, and personal accountability has to come into play at some point. there's usually nothing stopping you from figuring o…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 04:25 PM
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it would be less marketable because of who it is being marketed towards. genuine testimonials of men who followed advice in the book getting laid would make it quite competitive with a redpill book that gets people into self defeating misogynist loops. it's much more likely that they're going to be brushed off as simps, soyboys, betas, cucks. i think part of the thing you don't quite realize (and i get why, i only really have the understanding i do because of my weird interests) is that for a lo…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 04:15 PM
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that's mostly because there's a difference between illness vs learned helplessness with a dash of victim complex. mental health issues don't inherently make someone childish
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 04:05 PM
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it's a common belief in redpill/incel/misogynist circles, that doesn't make it common knowledge. simply being polite and kind doesn't actually even meet the bare minimum standards for most people (all people, not just women). it's also not possible for her to have rejected him for "being a gentleman" when he responded to her rejecting him by spamming her with messages and bragging to everybody about how much he fucked her. that's not gentlemanly behavior. at literal worst she could have rejected…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 04:00 PM
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even if the friendzone wasn't an absurd concept, no. she went out with him once, learned he wasn't what she was looking for, and clearly communicated her disinterest by politely declining going any further in the relationship. that's not the "friendzone," that's just going on a date with someone. people going on first dates that don't go any further happens literally constantly, it is utterly unremarkable.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 02:31 PM
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also meant to add, part of the answer to your question is this: Women do not want to adopt a fully grown adult manchild to take care of and have sex with. it is a huge fucking turn off to have to parent your partner, like if a dude leaves his childhood home having managed to avoid learning to do basic shit like laundry or how to plunge a sink. would you want a partner you had to teach how to act? because the concept is actually fairly horrifying along a few axes. putting women at large into the …
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 02:24 PM
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on what planet do you think this would be marketable? redpillers fall into redpill at least partly because there was already a seed of misogyny present, i have no idea why anyone would think that the sort of people who are broadly drawn to trp would listen to women if they did make how-to guides of some kind. going on tours for this sort of thing would be borderline impossible. at best you'd get bombarded with nonstop commentary about how ugly and fat and unfuckable you are, and at worst you nee…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 01:03 PM
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biologically, i agree that race isn't a thing, but socially it absolutely does exist and has effects on peoples' lives, and social stuff is what we're talking about in this case, not really biology
/r/ExRedPill05/02/22 05:19 PM
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reading your posts i'm not worried about you doing the wrong thing here. you seem like a genuinely decent dude who wants to do the right thing, and i really think it'll work out okay, whether you end up with this woman long-term or not. you won't know unless you try, and as long as you are careful, it sounds like it's worth a shot.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/22 02:56 PM
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it sounds like you're trying to be pretty careful about this, and that's really good, you clearly don't want to hurt her or get hurt yourself. building something with her before stepping into the role is definitely the way to go, and i will also ask you this: you mentioned that you like kids, which hell yeah, same, i absolutely love kids. but my question is do you deeply and sincerely want to be a dad? because the thing is, once you're in this relationship, if you get invested in her, fall in lo…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/22 02:08 PM
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i have noticed that is near-universally and also near-exclusively men who are allowed to use their autism as an excuse for their behaviors. if a dude's a creep, comments swarm the post (not in this sub, elsewhere) about how maybe he's just an uwu smol autistic bean who doesn't know any better. if a woman is behaving weirdly and inappropriately towards a romantic interest she is often (correctly) criticized but i have literally never seen someone suggest a woman might be autistic when she's behav…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/22 01:52 PM
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i don't think it can be over said how the model of tinder especially is set up to keep people on there forever. there is a financial incentive for you to be unsuccessful, because then maybe you'll shell out for tinder gold, and once you're a paying customer, they also definitely want to keep you. being aware of how gross and predatory dating apps can be can at least be helpful as far as reframing things goes
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 04:17 PM
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glad for the correction! i dunno why the shit i was looking up before was saying the birth record was in dispute for a few of these people, but that's clearly not the case here glad it doesn't happen too often, anyway. wildly unethical
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 02:49 AM
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In theory men can have kids until 80s and some men do, but so can women, we already have verified biological mothers up to late 70s. i did a deep dive on this recently and you're actually wrong about this -- the oldest mother we have on record is maria del carmen bousada de lara, who was a few days shy of 67 when she gave birth to twins (and who died three years later)
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 01:16 AM
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strongly agreed. op, what you've described in your post here constitutes what i would consider a mental health emergency. i don't say that to scare you, but i want you to know that suffering on this level is absolutely not something you need to live with. i really, really strongly urge you to seek professional help for your own peace of mind. the pictures you posted vs how you describe yourself here indicate that you have extreme body dysmorphia, which is definitely something you can get some he…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 02:38 PM
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A failure mode I notice within myself is that the male mind has two distinct categories to internalize women (1) women I find attractive (2) women who are obviously human. this is super interesting to me because of my experiences, which i'm sharing not to contradict you at all, just to think aloud about how non-monolithic people are (not just men, everyone). before i stopped engaging with places where this happened, i experienced so much dehumanization on social media from men who weren't attrac…
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 01:36 PM
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a therapist will help you figure out where to start. trying to find someone who specializes in trauma is probably a good first step, but when you find someone you click with, they'll have the knowledge of how to get things moving -- that's why they're trained. good luck <3
/r/ExRedPill26/01/22 07:12 PM
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How could I have been so naive? because you were a teenager being preyed on by a grown-ass adult, at minimum. there is a reason terribly-adjusted men in their mid-20s go after 18 year old girls, and it's because they know a lot of women their own age have the life experience to avoid them. no 25 year old views an 18 year old as their peer, the game is rigged from the start and the younger party so often has no idea. it's horrible. you sound extremely, extremely traumatized. a lot of what you wro…
/r/ExRedPill26/01/22 03:51 PM
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and likewise, he chose to have unprotected sex with someone who he had no intention of raising children with. he is as culpable for your childhood neglect as she is. i am not trying to convince you not to be angry at your mom. you're allowed to feel the way you feel about childhood trauma and neglect. i am just pointing out that your dad played an equal part in you being here and he emotionally neglected you as much as your mom did. (asking yourself if you think your mom would have been a better…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 03:03 PM
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i'm just trying to follow this line of logic: your dad did nothing wrong, because he filled his legal obligation to you but your mom failed you, despite filling all of her legal obligations to you? what am i missing?
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 02:48 PM
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this is a really kind & insightful comment, just wanted to say thanks for sharing
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 02:45 PM
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what legal obligation do you feel your mother had to you that she failed to fulfill?
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 02:43 PM
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what i am getting at is that legality doesn't equal morality. your father abandoned you and is as responsible for your emotional neglect growing up as your mother is, because, like i said, avoiding this: He didn't want a baby with my mom so he paid every month. is trivially easy. just don't bust inside someone and this almost certainly cannot happen. the law is not a good measure of acceptable parenting, frankly. like i don't think that a lot of the things that happened to me that damaged me the…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 09:18 AM
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She choose to be a single mother when she had unprotected sex with a man she was not in a committed relationship with? your father also chose to have unprotected sex with a woman he was not in a committed relationship, too. I don't understand this because his legal obligation is a monthly child support check which he paid every month. What other legal obligation does he have? if legal obligation is the yardstick by which you measure what a parent is "obligated" to do, then your mother didn't fai…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:43 AM
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I've seen people are more likely to watch and support a video if it has good editing. absolutely agreed! the first thing i would work on is learning how to edit videos because good editing can carry you a long way. i also recommend writing pretty thorough scripts (at least at first!) so you don't get your talking points muddled too, it's always very obvious when someone isn't used to being in front of a camera and they're kinda just freeballin' it. my use of non-caps and punctuation in my posts …
/r/ExRedPill23/01/22 12:51 PM
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thanks for the links. what are worst-online-dater's credentials? i'm not seeing anything in the medium article that indicates it's a study or peer-reviewed or anything other than like the experiment it's described as in the title i read the entirety of the A&M study and couldn't find anything about the pareto principle or any percentages at all, let alone specifically 80-20. it's an interesting study and i'm glad you linked it because i enjoyed reading it, but it seems like either you didn't rea…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/22 01:11 PM
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you can do this with channels as well! good suggestion
/r/ExRedPill20/01/22 10:43 AM
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straight up make a new youtube account imo and just sub with it to the channels you're currently subbed to that you DO enjoy, hopefully nothing manosphere-adjacent because if anything like that is being watched the youtube algorithm loves to shunt men down this shitty, shitty fuckin pipeline. making a new account is annoying, but this doesn't mean you have to delete your old account with all of its history in case you need to access it for some reason. keep it around, just abandon actually using…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/22 08:48 AM
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It works on pareto principle interesting, didn't know any actual peer-reviewed studies had been done on this. could you link me? even if you can't find the whole study, just the abstract will do
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 06:32 PM
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man, i know you probably didn't mean it that way so i definitely don't mean this as a personal attack, but calling being unhealthy a "vice" is a pretty uncool thing to say, whether it's associated with weight or not. "being unhealthy is a vice" is dangerously close to extreme religious zealotry, using the same logic as things along the lines of "if you'd just be devout enough, god will heal you." it is extremely damaging to sick/disabled people, who are already seen as valueless. ii didn't do an…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 09:37 AM
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The problem is you're looking at sex as a power game that men lose by not getting laid, and women lose by getting laid. It's the fundamental flaw at the heart of redpill philosophy. this is exactly it & incredibly well-said. sex isn't a game that functions differently for different players, where a high score for one gender means they are winning and one for another means they completely lost. like there's some kind of massive universal scoreboard. this doesn't make any sense at all. sex is an a…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/22 09:32 AM
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based on my experience -- i was very badly emotionally neglected as a child and had literally one friend growing up. i am also autistic (undiagnosed at the time because my parents didn't only specialize in emotional neglect, they also dabbled in medical neglect), so i was already going to be starting from a(n intrinsic?) deficit. (my only friend was also undiagnosed autistic, as it turns out; we both found out in our late 20s.) my social skills were fuckin' terrible, oh my god, dude. i thought t…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 05:37 PM
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yes! categorically yes! it is possible! but unless you really want to (and most people don't wanna put in the work), then nah it's not gonna happen. nobody's born a racist or a misogynist or whatever but you need to realize it's wrong and make an active change if you want to get better. inertia and blaming everybody else is much easier, at a minimum
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 04:31 PM
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the lack of self-awareness is mind-numbing. this dude has been told enough times that he's unpleasant to be around that he can predict it before it happens but he will not actually do anything to change anything about how he interacts with other people. the literal definition of a hopeless cause that's only hopeless because of his own decisions.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 04:16 PM
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if the question is genuinely "can you deprogram a red-piller?" then the answer is no, especially if they are someone you personally know and especially especially if you know nothing about cult deprogramming. also, he has to recognize it as unhealthy and wish to change -- he doesn't. if he's into mgtow, he wants to go his own way. let him. slam that fucking door. YOU are the one that is going to be hurt by any engagement he has with this cult, which is also why you can't be the one to "fix" this…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 07:10 AM
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single mothers represent something they fear extremely deeply -- being "used" (for whatever value they offer to begin with) and then left. it's not single motherhood that i think they object to (or well, not primarily at least), i think it's men being left by women at all. a child is just physical evidence that this has occurred -- even if you get to the point where you have a relationship, even if you have a baby with her, she still might leave you. that is too much for a lot of these dudes to …
/r/ExRedPill18/01/22 07:06 AM
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yeah, that can definitely happen to some people, for sure. it sounds like you have a lot of self awareness about this and you know it isn't for you, so that's a good thing, really!
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 07:57 PM
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Always get this messaging. Women are not a monolith but also they act in certain ways and you must recognise that. Why don't women look at nudes? Do they not like men's bodies? Are they all lesbians on the internet? definitely get why this would be a frustrating thing to hear repeatedly, because on its face it doesn't make sense. i think the key you're missing here that makes it make sense to other people, that isn't immediately obvious, is that women's bodies are eroticized by society, so every…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 03:54 PM
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it's interesting that that's your perception of erotica -- it's definitely not for everyone, but you might find that there are a lot more types than you initially realize. sometimes the separation and forced fantasy of imagining what the people in the story would look like can be helpful, but if that's not for you that's totally fine. (i also cringe at goofy names for genitals, fwiw. cannot stand twee bullshit, ever) also re: physics sometimes the unreality is the point as well, with people who …
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 03:47 PM
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good thread topic, i'm glad you reached out and made it. how do you feel about written erotica? i think you may have to dig to find stuff you like depending on what specifically you are into but most people are able to find at least some stuff they enjoy. toys are a great option. my gf (trans, so same equipment as you have) has a hitachi-style wand and loves it (i wish she would find the charging cable for it so i could use it as a back massager! we've been looking for two days). there are tons …
/r/ExRedPill17/01/22 09:38 AM
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i honestly could even not begin to speculate on the nature of the relationship the gates have had with one another, i know next to nothing about them as individuals
/r/ExRedPill11/01/22 11:55 PM
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The only women i can imagine agreeing to such ltr would be so low in self esteem that I can’t even imagine. low in self esteem and with a very likely history of prior abuse. that makes it easier to abuse them further. when someone's life experience has told them they don't deserve any better, they won't seek any better. trp is a predatory and abusive ideology specifically because of this
/r/ExRedPill11/01/22 12:46 PM
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a lot of the people who ascribe to this ideology ("you can cheat if you're Good Enough") are generally the type of people who trap women in relationships via financial or psychological abuse and then go and fuck around on them. that's why "high value" men "get away" with cheating, because they've typically removed a lot of a woman's ability to make decisions for herself through some type of abuse. it's an inherently shit mindset
/r/ExRedPill11/01/22 12:09 AM
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The first world gov designed education to be poor so very few get this knowledge. They designed the social movements to make you think all rich and wealthy people are evil when in fact they just know the game play it better. the first world government is run by and for wealthy people, you silly goose. that's why literally everything is stacked in your favor. anyway, thanks for actually responding instead of linking to asinine youtube videos
/r/ExRedPill09/01/22 06:04 PM
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so, i don't have any channel recommendations, so feel free to tell me to fuck off if this is entirely unhelpful, i'm sorry if it is! but my suggestion is, once you find some channels that are positive, nontoxic, etc., you might want to also think about grabbing some self-help workbooks or looking at self help sheets online too. bearing in mind that a lot of them can be hokey bullshit, some are very useful, and the reason i'm suggesting them in addition to watching youtube videos is because when …
/r/ExRedPill09/01/22 03:46 PM
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if you don't view women as valuable enough to have friendships with then not only do you have no business trying to date them, you also don't deserve to. if they're somehow not good enough to be your friends but they are good enough to be your girlfriends you're literally just looking for a warm body to be next to at night and your self-defeating attitude means you won't get it. thank goodness.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/22 12:53 PM
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i don't know why people insist on linking youtube videos when they can't argue their point themselves. people are gonna click that, see it's some dude ranting in front of a wall of cardboard boxes, roll their eyes, and exit. use your words, man.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/22 12:47 PM
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Why are the way we taught in school the worst way to learn according the best way to learn (cone of experience)? because in the states at least it's extremely easy, convenient, requires almost no effort compared to structuring education in a way that might benefit children, and creates good little patriotic, unquestioning cogs in the capitalism machine. there isn't another reason.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/22 12:42 PM
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yeah people absolutely do tend to assume white as the default, which is vile. charitably, when discussing this with people who don't do that (and i recognize it's impossible to tell a lot of the time), i think usually what is meant is that "all else equal, men have it easier than women," and "all else equal" here means "accounting for race, class, etc" there's really no easy way to discuss it all, it almost always feels reductive. and i feel you on the downvoting thing. people in privileged posi…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/22 05:27 PM
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The benefits of me making more money or people respecting me more get cancelled out because I’m a POC. well, only if you're comparing your lot in life as a man of color against the experience of white women specifically. women of your race presumably deal with all of the shit you deal with because of your race, on top of misogyny. the world is, regrettably, not a flat board game upon which we all start on the same square with the same resources and status in life. it sucks. i also think that wha…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/22 03:33 PM
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telling someone experiencing a health problem to see a health professional to treat it isn't rude if someone is constantly complaining of how much their guts hurt, i am going to tell them they should probably see a gi specialist about it. if someone tells me their skin is itchy constantly, i am going to tell them they should see a dermatologist. if someone consistently and clearly expresses signs of extremely deep mental illness, i am going to suggest that they see someone who can help them with…
/r/ExRedPill06/01/22 10:17 PM
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can't argue against you being scrued if in fact you have no interest in getting better. gl with all that
/r/ExRedPill06/01/22 12:28 AM
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hopelessness has nothing to do with why reddit can't help you. reddit can't help you because you have no interest in being helped; you argue with every piece of advice given to you until you're blue in the face on basically every single post i've seen you make. like, yes, your situation as it currently stands is hopeless, but that is also because you are making an active effort to make it so. whn you tell yourself something is hopeless, it gives you a very handy reason to never try and a very ha…
/r/ExRedPill05/01/22 11:05 PM
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The problem is I'm not desirable at all. even if this was the actual, primary problem (it's not, you know it's not, i know it's not, everyone knows it's not), nobody on reddit can help you become desirable
/r/ExRedPill05/01/22 10:57 PM
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this. listen, op, people are gonna get exhausted by this eventually. bopping around place to place or rephrasing the question endlessly and arguing ad infinitum with every answer you get, as you have often done before, is going to end with you being removed from the communities you're seeking help from. literally when i saw this thread title my first thought was "wonder if this is that fried rice kid again." i've seen this type of thing happen so many times. you absolutely need professional help…
/r/ExRedPill05/01/22 05:48 AM
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is it more likely that she strung you along for forty entire days just for the sake of getting a snack and a sweater and ghosting you afterward, or is it more likely that once you met she realized a relationship wasn't possible? because that is a ludicrous amount of time to invest into getting one free meal. nobody does that, it's completely insane behavior. maybe her reason had something to do with something you said or did, or maybe it didn't and it's completely an internal thing on her end. r…
/r/ExRedPill04/01/22 01:26 PM
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this is a great way to start a new year, dude. the introspection you've shown here is impressive and the fact that you took the downvotes and criticism to heart and re-evaluated your belief system is something that a lot of people seem to be just straight up not fucking capable of. you have a lot to be proud of. hope it only gets easier for you from here!
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 05:10 PM
1

it's horrendously prohibitive, i agree. extremely inaccessible along so many axes. i don't really know about cost-effective options as far as professional help goes, but if there is a specific type of therapy you want to try, sometimes finding workbooks for those can be helpful. (the dbt workbook that marsha linehan wrote is great, for example.) sometimes that can be a direction to look. it can be hard to figure out which sources are good vs not, though. if you do decide to pursue this as an opt…
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 10:08 AM
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Fifty Shades is amongst the most successful books ever written. it is also one of the most heavily criticized books ever written, and almost all of the criticism comes from women. fifty shades is genuinely horrifying on a lot of levels, not just in content but in meteoric popularity, but it drew a lot of extremely warranted criticism as well. i don't say this to completely dismiss your point, it got published for a reason, but people also really hate it. That would mean I like her more than vice…
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 09:42 AM
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this whole ideology is being peddled largely by men who have no or minimal experience with women, elevating themselves as experts on the nature of women. they aren't speaking from any real frame of reference. as others have pointed out, straight women do not have a vested interest in avoiding all men entirely, or else they would end up entirely alone forever. women desire romantic companionship and sex at similar levels to men, so there's no reason for them to mislead men at large about what wom…
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 09:33 AM
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When It comes to the “Beta” that they’re married to with a good job as the TikTok talks about, they will use them for their money of course. you can only attract "gold diggers" if you have gold worth digging. if you're not making multiple hundreds of dollars per year at a minimum you have nothing to worry about. if you do, it's extremely obvious when this is happening. dudes online making 45k a year do not need to worry about being used for their vast wealth. But when it comes to sex, the woman …
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 09:28 AM
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i feel like i personally usually see this sentiment expressed in the context of receiving dick pics/being harassed online in general. the number of pictures of strangers' genitalia i have received while existing on social media and having it in my profile i had no interest with sex with anyone there is well into the low thousands; the amount of pictures of their genitals i've ever asked strangers for is zero. the "value" of a random, disembodied, contextless dick is zero. the person attached to …
/r/ExRedPill26/12/21 02:33 PM
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your sample size of one doesn't really mean anything. the plural of anecdote is not data. there are lots of reasons peoples' sex drives might change. maybe the loser was constantly assaulting her and she's traumatized now. maybe she's developed a hormonal problem. maybe she's depressed. maybe the pandemic's ground her down to a nub, everyone reacts to this stuff differently. maybe her sex drive has disappeared with age. maybe there are factors in their relationship that your friend isn't disclos…
/r/ExRedPill26/12/21 02:26 AM
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sorry, im still confused. a vagina stays the same regardless of whether it fucks a thousand different dicks or one dick a thousand times. im not sure what you mean by over exaggerating
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 08:27 PM
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idk what that has to do with my comment, which was making fun of people for thinking having sex with a lot of people changes the functionality of a vagina
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 08:13 PM
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Please be brutally honest from what you have seen with your girlfriends & other female friends. I’d rather you not sugar coat it. And just give me whatever your experience says. "please be brutally honest with me so i can insult you and tell you how wrong you are when you don't validate my twisted worldview," essentially
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 06:37 PM
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They say asking girls for dating advice is like asking fish how to catch them to a fisherman. unfortunately, if this is how you feel, i'm gonna disengage, because there's less than zero point in continuing. best of luck out there.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 02:19 PM
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respectfully, you have absolutely no idea if those girls are healthy or not. some people are really good at hiding how unwell they are. also, lots of people, gender unimportant, just have bad fuckin taste, frankly. if you're "second in command" then that gives you an opportunity to tell the rest of the group you're bailing on this asshole. people will follow you. maybe not everyone, but there's no way you're the only person who has this big a problem with him if he's this much of a dick, seize y…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 02:01 PM
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you know, i just reread this, and the following occurred to me: you gotta quit being friends with narcs, man. that shit isn't healthy for you. one narc can bring a whole fucking group down. if you're still in contact with him, cut him out or at least start avoiding him when you can, because being around people like that is so fucking bad for your mental health.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 01:47 PM
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so firstly, i want to address some of your language. "gave commitment free sex." "the rest of us got nothing." abandon this mindset immediately. sex is not something you acquire, sex is an activity you participate in. it's like being sad you don't "have" snowboarding; it doesn't make sense. it's not an object, and framing it as one often leads the person using that type of language to also see the people they want to have sex with as objects as well. maybe this will come across as semantic quibb…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 12:59 PM
2

do you feel like finding a different form of exercise with a less toxic association would help? that way you're still getting all of the endorphins and shit from the activity without feeling poisoned by it?
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 06:54 AM
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i like the argument that vaginas become bad and ugly if she sleeps with 50 different dudes, but if she has sex with the same dude 50 times, it's somehow completely different. that might be my fave. it's hard to say
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 09:42 AM
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i think people are much more than their biology, personally. letting yourself be controlled by your hindbrain is just generally not advisable. im not saying it isn't a biological drive, or that it isn't a strong biological drive. for many people it is. but you don't have to let a biological drive dictate your life (stating this generally because it doesn't sound like op is doing that and i dont want him to think i am insulting him!)
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 02:42 AM
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there is no risk of the species dying out because we're not reproducing fast enough. no need to worry about anything like that
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 02:34 AM
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what a cool resource. thanks for sharing
/r/ExRedPill20/12/21 10:44 PM
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i really might suggest that until you're in a better place mentally that you store any guns you own somewhere you don't have access to them, because this is a pretty worrying sentiment to see expressed. no shame in this, and no judgment for owning guns at all, i don't want this to be the angle my comment is interpreted as. for disclosure's sake, i have bipolar and it's not safe for me to have them in my house at all, this isn't a judgmental thing, just a safety concern
/r/ExRedPill20/12/21 10:24 PM
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the terminology is taken from the matrix, yes. (which was created by two trans women. i always wonder how the current trp crowd reconciles that the worldview they cling to was facilitated by trans women.)
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 09:42 PM
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that's an interesting answer, and i hope it's cool if i give some thoughts on it i'm not convinced it's a good idea to have a baby in order to "cope" with anything, or to not feel alone. that's creating a whole new person against their will (as we all were!), in order to make you feel better about yourself, you know? that's a lot of pressure on a kid. a lot. and there's absolutely no guarantee you won't be alone once your baby grows up and moves out, either -- lots of people are estranged from t…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 09:28 PM
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lmao that has also extremely not been my experience, i see so many otherworldly beautiful women with men who i would consider average to below average, but it is entirely possible that i'm just not able to remove my lesbian-tinted lenses. i did misinterpret what you were saying initially though, apologies for that, appreciate the clarification
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 09:20 PM
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this doesn't really make sense to me, because statistically, most people are average-looking, and also statistically, most people do end up being able to partner up long-term. so what's the disconnect? unless the suggestion here is that all of those average-looking people have a truly exceptional quality? in which case it'd stand to reason that it's not actually hard to develop an exceptional quality, since all of these people have done it. i'm not saying this is exactly what you're saying, but …
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 09:13 PM
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this feels a lot like goalpost shifting to me because where i quoted you, you said "average social skills" and now you're talking about "being very weak socially," and likewise you said "life of the party" before and now you're saying "top 1%." i'm not at all trying to be a dick, but hopefully you can see why this sort of thing is kind of frustrating. (also kind of at a loss for how to numerically calculate social skills, but that's probably just me being extremely literal)
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 09:05 PM
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Meaning you can't go from someone with even average social skills to bring the life of the party. i can tell you from personal experience that this is categorically untrue. i'm autistic and my social skills were absolute fucking dumpster tier until i was in my 20s. (and i was undiagnosed at the time, so there didn't seem to be a reason i sucked at this, which was very frustrating.) not the case now. it takes a lot of energy out of me, but i would definitely say i am a lowkey life-of-the-party ty…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 08:58 PM
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out of curiosity, do you feel like getting a girlfriend or having a baby is of higher general importance to you? like, obviously you'll need a partner to have a baby to begin with, but generally, how would you rank those things in terms of like... i dunno, how important they intrinsically feel for you to be happy? hope this is an alright question to ask, the reason i do is because i feel like i don't generally see a ton of redpill or ex-redpill types actively expressing wanting to have a baby, s…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 08:39 PM
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yeah! i remember the first time getting asked how i became so confident and nearly doing an actual spit-take. how i became so HUH???? but apparently that's the perception!
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 09:18 PM
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if you know your personality sucks, that's great! it means you recognize the problem and can work on changing it. you're halfway there without even realizing it.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 05:11 PM
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you can move goalposts all you like, but chances of that actually fixing the problem you perceive yourself as having are zero. best to do some introspection rather than desperately looking for other stuff to blame, maybe?
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 04:14 PM
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i am autistic and consider myself assertive, at least. i am told i come across as confident all the time (inexplicably, bc i don't feel confident, but hey). autism isn't the dating death sentence that a lot of us seem to feel it is.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 04:09 PM
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clarification: did he send her that stupid monkey emoji covering its eyes while implying he wanted nudes/sex/dirty talk/etc? because that's happened to me enough times (in the hundreds) that it is an instant block bc i know that dude has nothing of value to offer anyone, let alone me. you don't have to answer, idk how your friend relayed what happened to you. i'm only nitpicking this specific example bc it's something i have personal experience with -- my rejection of monkey-hiding-eyes-emoji-us…
/r/ExRedPill13/12/21 11:30 AM
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i'm sorry your relationship ended up not working out because of this shit. it's poison and it sucks. hopefully, like you said, you can take it as a learning experience. you've already proven you're able to attract women so there's still nowhere to go but up.
/r/ExRedPill04/12/21 02:53 AM
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how do you feel about just having a normal conversation over text to get to know someone?
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 08:27 PM
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can you think of anything between the two extremes of putting in as little effort as possible and harassing women endlessly if they refuse to go on a date with you? this isn't a shitty, rude comment, i am genuinely asking if you can think of something to try other than those two things.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 07:38 PM
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no, the idea is bad. if they refuse, leave them alone permanently. you have your answer, onto the next.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 07:26 PM
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can you explain why you think women would be attracted to people who put as little effort as possible in? this is the part of your post i am most stuck on tbh. i have never personally known a woman who would go on a date with a strange man without at least a few days of casual texting. i am 100% sure they exist but in my experience they aren't common at all.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 07:19 PM
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it's really weird to be able to read a post talking about how disenfranchised people deserve better and conclude that their motivations are selfish. people like you generally do this thing where, because you exclusively engage in bad faith arguments, you assume everybody else is doing the same thing, which is actually not the case. your post history indicates that you are extremely maladjusted, so i won't be engaging further, take care.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 06:56 PM
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i don't mind at all! i appreciate you asking. this is gonna be barely scraping the surface because there's a lot of fucking up throughout history that's gotta be undone here and i am not a scholar (and yeah. this massive post is barely scraping the surface. it's so complicated.), but: understanding and working to dismantle the system under which women have been historically forced to rely on men. the first three waves of feminism started this, but we're really only just beginning. learning about…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/21 07:36 PM
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i want there to be fewer misogynists in the world. i want it to be safer for women than it currently is. i would also really like for disenfranchised (men of color, poor men, disabled men, abuse and trauma victims) redpiller or incel types to understand that women are also a disenfranchised group and that working together for societal change benefits almost everyone and would genuinely solve a lot of what they consider to be dating inequity across genders.
/r/ExRedPill02/12/21 06:54 PM
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yes, obviously. this isn't the foolproof gotcha that dudes who are desperate to fuck women half their age think it is
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 04:54 PM
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i know this post is almost two weeks old, but i don't think that's what they meant. the things you're describing aren't the sorts of things that women have to sort through, that's still pre-stage 1 of actually getting matches. they're talking about figuring out who is actually interesting enough to go on more than a date or two with, keeping yourself on guard for any of the thousands of red flags that we need to be aware of, etc. it is a different thing entirely, i think
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 03:11 AM
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no, it is completely universally creepy for dudes twice a girl's age to pursue them. i don't care how hot they allegedly are, that's appalling & predatory behavior.
/r/ExRedPill26/11/21 10:35 PM
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