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I don't participate or understand casual sex. But I wouldn't ban it because I don't think there should be laws regulating harmless personal decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 01:28 AM
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I think I understand what you mean now, and I agree that a height disparity of that amount seems to be way too much. As for those women, I can't answer for them. There are definitely some interesting theories out there about why short women would be attracted to men that tall. Some could argue socialization taught them that tall men are better, some could argue that they fetishize height, and others could argue that a combination of biology and culture led to that preference. Personally, I belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 02:15 AM
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Your question was what was the minimum height I would filter for. The minimum and maximum height I would theoretically filter for would be based on the reasons I gave. I answered your question. I have never experienced attraction to a man because he was tall. I can only name one "tall" man I find attractive, Jared Padalecki. But I was attracted to him before I knew his height. So I see no reason to include his height as a factor. You'll have to prove that I like tall men if you want to continue …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 12:19 AM
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I'm 5'3". I've never asked about height. I have no idea what the exact height of my current bf is, or the height of my past relationships. I would average the three to be about 5'7" maybe? I mostly care about how easy it is to look someone in the eyes, hold their hand, and kiss. Extreme disparities in either direction make those three things difficult for me. That's my filter. I've met people that were over 6'0" and thought, "I'm glad I know what over 6'0" looks like because now I know I could n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 11:46 PM
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Sad that people have to provide things like this for something so damn obvious That's how science works. If you make a claim, you need to provide evidence to back it up. Sadly, this "evidence" is in regards to non-human primates so it's not very useful to try and extrapolate it to humans. And it definitely doesn't prove any claims you've made.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/20 02:49 AM
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I think you should go for it. And if you want to make it a habit (monthly would probably be the most affordable) then I honestly can't think of a reason not to. The only real concern I could see happening is trying to replace it with a more genuine connection, but I'm not sure that is very common. You're paying for a service that is helping you feel better about yourself. No one should shame people for seeking therapy, so why is this any different? You're not a bad person for seeking an escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 11:56 PM
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I don't really care if men hire escorts as long as their isn't anything shady going on (human trafficking for example). Though, I don't necessarily believe it's your "only option" since porn and masturbation are great options, especially for day-to-day stress. A lot of escorts actually talk about how many of their clients seek their services in order to feel connected to another person, so you're reasoning matches up well with others. If that's what you want to do, then go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 07:03 PM
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???? How old are you? Your comment doesn't even sense. You cut off the portion where I said "point out issues with people's arguments" so you're clearly trying to reframe what was actually said to fit what you want to argue. Because claiming that someone is using whataboutism IS pointing out issues with people's arguments. How you can think otherwise is being intentionally obtuse. Check myself? On what exactly? You're upset that I was more concerned with logical fallacies? I did make a claim "th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 08:54 PM
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I greatly prefer a man that is emotionally open enough to cry when needed over a man that won't. My boyfriend has cried in front of me and I never lost attraction to him. Men who are emotionally stunted are very unattractive. Besides, I don't look for men to fill a "protector" role.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 09:43 PM
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That must be very sad to live a life in which disagreement and pointing out issues with people's arguments makes someone a prick to you. Good thing it's just a matter of opinion and has no factual standing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 04:02 PM
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I can't answer which state is "the most traditional", that's not something I have enough data points to have an opinion on. Kansas as a whole is definitely more traditional than states like California, Washington, etc. Though rural areas tend to match other rural areas regardless of state. We have pockets of blue in Lawrence and Kansas City, but even those areas aren't anything like I've seen described in TRP. There is still plenty of traditional influences in those areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 12:37 PM
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Except you didn't "point out that men are also judged". You tried to make some gesture that OP wasn't considering the judgement of men, despite having no idea if they had or not. OP never even claimed that men aren't judged, they just choose to focus on the judgement of women to come to their conclusion. You failed to refute anything they said. If you wanted to point out that men are also judged (which no one has denied) then you should have listed ways men are also judged. Just saying "what abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 12:32 PM
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You'll need to provide some evidence that this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 12:25 PM
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Nope, I didn't charge them with hypocrisy or try to bring up a different topic. I explained the definition of whatboutism and how their reply matched it. That isn't whataboutism.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 12:24 PM
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The town was in rural Kansas, which is almost always considered Midwest. I should clarify that there was some active enforcement but it mostly came from the various churches and businesses. If someone choose to ignore the church's ideas, they could. They might face social repercussions, but that was usually it. The strongest example of rigid gender roles I can think of (outside of the church and relationships) would be working the grain elevator during wheat harvest. It was expected that the men…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 09:43 PM
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The topic is not men vs women, it's whether or not women life life on easy mode. There is a difference. The person answered they wouldn't want to be woman because of the judgments women face. Their wording implies they are a man. You attempted to refute their claim by bringing up the judgment of men, which doesn't directly refute the initial claim. Whataboutism is logical fallacy in which a person attempts to discredit a position by charging them with hypocrisy or bringing up a different subject…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 09:43 PM
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The Midwest is very very different from the urban coastal areas. I lived in a small rural town until I went to college and it likely contributed to why I can't fathom some of the things TRP talks about. For your 'town bike' example, that was in no way the norm. Sure, there was one or two girls in the entire school who slept around. But everyone knew who they slept with, they weren't praised for it, and they still weren't hitting some of the numbers I've seen spouted by TRP. Divorce was uncommon …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 09:13 PM
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No. The struggles of men and women are too abstract and different to be properly compared. Women have specific advantages, but those advantages don't necessarily make life "easier". Men also have specific advantages they benefit from, but they don't necessarily make life easy. Class/Wealth is a much better predictor of how "easy" someone's life is, and is much easier to study. Wealth amps up the advantages someone already has, while downplaying any disadvantages they have. Wealth, literally, mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:41 PM
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More women than men go to college, so it stands to reason that there will be more women college graduates. What systemic reasons do you believe exist that are preventing men from attending college?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:25 PM
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The judging of women doesn't mean men aren't also judged. Classic whataboutism.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 08:22 PM
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I completely agree with your assessment here. I'd rather focus on solving the issues men and women face than focus on "who's got it worse". I can advocate for requiring paternity testing at birth while also advocating for abortion rights in states that apply severe limitations. I seriously don't understand why social issues have become a competition for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:16 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 01:02 AM
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Except that the ideas of interesting and boring are extremely subjective. Some might find fishing interesting, but plenty of people will think of it as just sitting down with a pole in your hand for hours. I love fishing, but that description sounds boring as hell. For people who enjoy 90 day fiance, it's not going to seem boring. In my experience, those who are excited about reality shows are interested in feeling involved in the dramatics. Hating the terrible and cheering on the kind. They ten…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 08:31 PM
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He's too old for me to find him attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:36 PM
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Depends on the extent and the way they treat the game. If they're making concrete attempts to improve and learn? Hobby. If it's just a way to screw around and de-stress? Not a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:17 PM
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Thank you! I seriously don't get why some people think "men aren't emotional". ANGER IS AN EMOTION! Those morons who go to bars to start a fight are just as emotional as the girls who have a breakdown in a restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 09:39 PM
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Because not all of us agree it was great. I don't want to be a SAHM because that sounds like a nightmare to me. And I realized that loooooong before I knew what feminism was, I realized it when I was still a conservative evangelical. I choose that for myself. I like working and problem solving, being a homemaker doesn't give me the kind of satisfaction I want. If a woman wants to stay home and be homemaker because that's what she'll be happiest for her, then more power to her. I'm happy that she…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 09:12 PM
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Be up front from the very beginning that you don't follow traditional gender norms and go toward subcultures that are more likely to follow that as well. Before you even try to date a woman, have a conversation with yourself on what things you're willing to compromise on and what things you're not. However, the reality is that the more standards a person applies the smaller their dating pool gets. You have to find what balance you're happiest with first, before trying to seek people out. My curr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 08:58 PM
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Oh I’m absolutely sure every ounce counts in that situation. And that those doing that are in great shape! I just wanted to fact check a little that the average woman is considered underweight (and considered unhealthy) if she is below 108 lbs. and that it’s not good for most women to be that low. My comment was less for you and more for anyone recovering from an ED reading. I’ve known people who would have used that as a justification to resume old habits and it breaks my heart. If I came acros…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 01:12 AM
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“in the sexual marketplace, not their real-life human value.” Doesn’t matter. Human beings aren’t objects, they’re people. Calling people disposable objects is gross and shows a lack of empathy. The fact that you can’t see humans as people as it relates to sex is very worrisome, in part because humans treat objects differently than humans. Even within the context of sex, treating humans as objects is extremely unhealthy. “how used to shaming others are you?” In my daily life? Not at all. As long…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:36 PM
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If an adult woman is under 100 lb. she’s either extremely short or anorexic. That’s a very unhealthy weight for most adult women to be at. You’re looking at serious complications at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:09 PM
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You’re literally comparing human beings to disposable objects. That’s just fucked up and gross. Not to mention all that projection you’ve got going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 02:41 AM
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Sex doesn’t have to end when the guy cums though
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 01:04 AM
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Strongly agree. TRP and FDS has some decent advice for improving oneself that I think everyone should hear. If they could both just drop the toxicity and view people as individuals instead of a monolith, then I wouldn’t have any issue with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 11:08 PM
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I apologize. I’ll edit for civility
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 10:51 PM
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Show me someone who actually said women never ever date men older than them. There’s a huge difference between saying women generally don’t go for drastically older men and women will date men a few years older. It’s not that hard to figure out, I’m sure you can think it through.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 09:02 PM
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You should always be looking at ways to improve yourself and be happy with yourself before seeking a relationship. If you don’t have your own shit together, work on it. It’s not your partner’s job to fix you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:20 PM
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There are too many issues with only using those stats to have a real conversation. 1) It’s limited to a specific age range between the sexes, but humans aren’t limited to dating people within a specific age range. People on the edges of the age range are going to skew the numbers if their partners are outside of the age range. 2) Single only means “not married”. Those in monogamous or poly relationships are included in this. So this stat doesn’t accurately portray the “casual sex market”. 3) Sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:14 PM
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Since you refused to answer my very simple question, I’ll take it as an admission of the second option. You’re either a hypocrite, or you’re views are based on some very damaging and unhealthy issues you have with women (which is a very irrational way to form an opinion). Or maybe it’s both. But regardless, you’ve proven my point. Thanks for that! Good day and I truly hope you’ll eventually start forming your opinions with equality and compassion in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 03:52 PM
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You failed to answer the most important question I asked. Or really any of them. At what point is it acceptable for all of us to blame you (specifically you) for being raped by someone you trust? Answer or admit you only hold your disgusting belief when you benefit from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 07:59 PM
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What other crimes, specifically assault-based, do we blame victims on the same level we blame rape victims? I specify assault because that is form of crime that began this topic. The very fact that this conversation began due to a belief that it’s okay to blame female victims which benefits the male rapist, is proof enough that victim-blaming isn’t something that’s only acceptable to do to men. If you feel that blaming victims of rape is valid because of an injustice towards men, then it begins …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 03:04 AM
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You’re moving the goalposts. We’re discussing whether or not it’s acceptable to blame victims of rape, despite not tolerating the same level of victim-blaming when it comes to other forms of assault. None of the examples you gave are forms of assault on a person. The first is a form of fraud and the other is a social justice issue. Both are completely different topics to this one. But I’ll answer your question, because they’re both topics that deserve more conversation. Of course men have issues…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 02:36 AM
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And that’s an absolutely disgusting policy that should be ended immediately! But terrible custody/child support laws regarding rape isn’t unique to men. There have been numerous cases of male rapists are awarded custody of the children and their victim is forced to interact with them. Both situations are terrible and should never be allowed to happen. Why do you think it’s more appropriate to blame victims (including the situation you described) instead of working to stop it. It’s literally choo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 01:54 AM
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How are the choices made by the victim more responsible for the outcome than the choices made by perpetrator? It is a conscious choice to violate someone when you rape them. They are making the choice to do an action and are responsible for their choices. How can anyone be responsible for the choices of another? It took the choice of the rapist for the rape to ultimately occur. If they choose not to, the rape wouldn’t have occurred. At what point is a child responsible for the abuse they suffer …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 12:25 AM
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They’re popular among some women, who also tend to lean towards violence themselves. But it is completely false that all women love violent men. Are men responsible for when they are raped by women? No, because that’s stupid. Blame belongs to the perpetrators of an act, not the victim. Claiming otherwise is a core component as to why rape victims (men and women) are hesitant to speak out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 08:21 PM
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Care to explain your claim that women as a whole “foster rapists”? Last I checked, men are self-aware human beings with the mental ability to make moral choices. Claiming women as a whole are responsible for fostering rape, implies men have no agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:51 PM
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And I’ve seen plenty of threads (and my personal experience) that showcase women choosing virgin and low n-count men because of their low numbers. Personally, I would never date a high n-count man if it was due to casual sex. People have different views on the matter and trying to claim an entire gender feels one specific way is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 07:11 PM
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3 days later... Missed the initial notification, I'm finished with work so I thought I'd respond. Maybe your comment doesn't read to other people the way you say you meant it. At best your comment is just very inconsistent. Otherwise, you could just admit you miswrote what you actually meant, or your supposition that 'women' and 'vast majority' of women is just plain wrong. Either way, if 80% is true, your comment plainly doesn't describe 80% of women. I'm happy to admit that I miswrote what I i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 10:42 PM
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The context would be very important and what is meant by “not wanting to listen”. If I’m trying to vent about a specific situation to a friend or they’re being dismissive about something I’ve experienced, then yes. Because they’re being a shitty friend. This is the way most of those conversations come about for me. But if they just don’t want to discuss those issues and they say that without being a dick, then no. Because it’s just not a conversation they care to have and I’m not going to force …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 07:28 PM
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Expect? I try not to expect things from people. Appreciate when it happens? Yes. I appreciate the men in my life who are willing to sit down and discuss the issues I deal with as a woman. I do my best to do the same for men as well, though I’m willing to admit there are probably issues I’m unaware of. I believe that gender-specific issues are easier to solve when both genders campaign to fix them. But truly listening to those affected is paramount to finding a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 07:09 PM
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1) If you can’t understand the difference between “most women need clitoris stimulation” and “all women can only orgasm through their clit” then I can’t help you. But I’ll try one last time. The former allows for outliers, the latter doesn’t. There is a big difference between the two. 2) “Love the snark. Is that enough context for you, or do you want to take a sad stab at my ego and tell me my partners were obviously ‘faking it’ or I have a small dick?” I find it absolutely hilarious that every …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 06:58 PM
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Don't tell me you're one of those who think having a clinical understanding of the human body somehow negates the ability to have sex. That's just pathetic. You're right I haven't had a woman ask me to fuck her in the ass, but I have had men ask. Personally, I don't see the appeal. Considering I am a woman, I don't need to ask anyone because I know where my buttons are. Trust me I have a much deeper understanding of how women feel pleasure than you ever will. If you got the impression that I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:05 PM
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Another common reason isn’t necessarily men not fucking their wives. It’s men no longer making their wife feel desired. When we feel ignored by our SO, we sometimes don’t feel as sexy. The days I want to jump my bf the hardest are the days he holds me and says “I love you so much”. Though I do agree with parts of your main post. Sometimes I will have sex with him even when I’m not into it because I know it’ll make him feel better and I want him to be happy. Especially after a rough day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 01:33 AM
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Actually it is. It has to do with women’s biology. Women’s sexual pleasure is derived from the internal and external portions of the clitoris, not the vaginal canal. That’s right, there’s an internal portion to the clit. Current research points that the pleasure women feel upon penetration is actually due the feeling reverberating to the internal structure and causing pleasure. The position of the internal structure in relation to the vaginal canal seems to dictate how easy a woman is able to or…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 12:49 AM
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That’s some BS. Do you seriously think most men don’t rape because they’d be punished for it? That’s a gross and unfounded belief
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 12:40 AM
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I think it depends on the definition of feminism a group uses. Many feminists, myself included, are strong believers in expanding paternity leave, prison reform, balancing custody arrangements, and other pursuits that help men in the injustices they face. Though I agree, far too many feminists are only concerned with how to fix their own issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 12:33 AM
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Actually, I’m dating a bi man right now and it’s great precisely because he’s not a “traditionally masculine” man. And “taking dick” isn’t emasculating or submissive in the least. Unless you’ve done it, you have no idea about the work involved in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 11:13 AM
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I did, I was asking what you believe is the reason you prefer these traits. Is it because you enjoy having a partner that does the same as you or is it because you’re happier knowing your traits are accepted, or a bit of both. I may not be explaining myself quite right, but I really am just trying to have a thoughtful discussion on how bi people range within the Kinsey scale. I’m fascinated by how some bi people feel more emotionally/relationally to one sex but more physically attracted to anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 02:21 AM
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That’s a really good point. Do you believe it’s true throughout the world (3rd world countries included) or primarily in the developed world where luxury is cheap. I find myself leaning toward the latter. The starkest differences seem to lie strongest along class lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:59 AM
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What do you think is the underlying cause? It seems it would make sense that someone attracted to both sexes would have an easier time relating to members of their own sex. I’m a bi woman myself and I’ve found I relate to women emotionally much quicker than men and I tend to view women as better LTR candidates as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:49 AM
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That’s really awful. Really can’t understand the hypocrisy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:39 AM
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Almost every male celebrity wears makeup, at the very least for performances and interviews. TRP tells men to learn skills to become more attractive, how is makeup any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 06:18 PM
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Earth. I only date men who have been conservative with their number of partners. My current SO was a virgin when we started dating. When I found out, I respected him even more. When discussing it with friends, most admitted they also prefer men with lower n-counts. Though a few said the opposite. By your logic, this proves women can be attracted to men with a lower n-count. Man sluts are nasty and I would 100% drop a dude for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 09:54 PM
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If actions speak louder than words, then what does it say about women who only date and seek out men with low N-counts. Because by your logic, then there are plenty of women who are turned off by men with high n-counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 09:46 PM
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Or she’s in an abusive relationship. People marry abusive people all the time because they’re convinced they “deserve the abuse”. It very well could bother her but she doesn’t know what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 09:10 PM
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They can be the viral generation!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 11:40 PM
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I would immediately disqualify the man you just described, and I disagree to an extent with each qualifier. Personality is a major requirement for myself and most women. Many women aren’t interested in “Chad”. The “Chad” you just described would never have a chance with me, and I’m not alone in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 08:40 PM
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These options and percentages don’t really work with the way many women view potential LTRs. There is a lot of fluidity in the way many women experience attraction. This is a big reason women will give vague and generalized answers. Many of us just don’t have very detailed and specific cutoffs. A great personality can easily cause us to overlook a physical flaw. But I’ll do my best to answer the core part of your question: Education/Income: Graduated high school and working in a field (full-time…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 02:22 AM
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I actually went through this recently when my bf told me he was bisexual. I told him I love him and appreciate that he trusted me to tell me something something so personal. Neither my attraction nor my love changed when he told me. The only thing that changed was encouraging him to be more open about his attraction to men. There is nothing about being a bi-man that changes how I feel about him. Why would it? Who cares if he fantasizes about sucking a dude’s dick? We love one another and are bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 01:48 AM
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It’s hard to say. I haven’t had a lot of conversations with women about the topic, but based on how I’ve seen other women behave I’d say quite a lot of them do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 01:40 AM
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Very long distance running. Men still have a slight advantage, but once you’re doing Ultras (primarily the 100 milers) the advantage diminishes significantly. It’s probably the closest sport we can get to in which the two sexes can compete against each other on mostly equal footing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 01:38 AM
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I’ve not more attracted to a guy for being in a relationship, but I am more relaxed around men in committed relationships. With single men I have to be worried that my actions and the way I joke may be misinterpreted as flirting (despite being in a relationship myself). But a man in a relationship should be focused on his SO, so I assume they’re less likely to try and hit on me. As a result, I’m more at ease with them and can be friendlier without being on guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 01:07 AM
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It would depend on the woman but it could. I’m about 60/40 personality to looks. I’m happier dating an average looking man with a personality I mesh with than a hot man with a shitty personality. For example, my friends and family consider my SO about average. Average height, not very good with fashion, and doesn’t lift.But to me he is easily an 8 because he has a kind and caring personality. When he is being super dorky is when I’m the most attracted to him and really wanna jump his bones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 09:05 PM
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I wouldn’t say “hate” but one thing I strongly dislike is that it makes certain positions and actions seem easier than they are and as a result some men don’t realize how difficult mimicking porn can be. Blowjobs aren’t easy, they take work. After awhile it can become painful but it’s never shown. As a result, I’ve had to explain in detail to my bf that deep throating for 10 minutes isn’t possible because it’s painful and I literally can’t breathe. Riding involves doing a bunch of squats from a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 09:38 PM
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I’m calling BS. The definition of hypergamy changes so often to fit a specific argument and there is little evidence of its existence. You’re making a ton of generalizations with no proof to back it up. I’ve never met a woman who claims their values match what you stated. And the math you stated doesn’t even add up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 09:18 PM
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I’d agree to that. Actions speak louder than words. If I heard a guy bragging like that (out of context) I would assume he’s bad at it and it would be fairly cringe. Saying you like it is fine, acting like it makes you amazing is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 02:41 AM
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It would actually mean a lot to me emotionally that he would do something he knows I enjoy even if he doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 02:20 AM
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I’d feel insecure and inadequate for a bit. I would think to myself “what did I do wrong to cause this?” I’d do my best to do what it takes for him to orgasm, but I’d be stuck in my head pretty bad. It’s happened a couple of times and I felt like absolute shit. I thought it meant I was gross and ugly. My current SO was the first guy to explain to me that guys get stuck in their heads and too distracted sometimes as well. My sex Ed was absolute shit. Eventually, I’d realize that it’s not about ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 02:14 AM
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Neither is better or worse. Cheaters are terrible people. Period. And it is never okay to cheat. My relationship with my sister is irreparably damaged because she dared to try to convince me to do it. I’ve dropped friends for cheating on their SO. I would never take one back. The moment you cheat, you’re dead to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:52 AM
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I’m calling BS. One of the sexiest things my SO can do is make my pleasure a priority. And I do my best to return the favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 01:47 AM
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You cutoff the part where I said it’s negligible in comparison, not that it’s unimportant or should be neglected. It means that the risks just aren’t comparable. I actually believe more needs to be done to help men who father a child they don’t want. I’d argue that women almost always carry more risk and responsibility with sex solely because we are the only ones capable of pregnancy. It can literally kill us. Men don’t die by pregnancy. But personally, I think sex is too complicated and unique …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 02:35 AM
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Neglect what exactly? Men do take on risk and responsibility with a pregnancy. I agreed to that. But it simply isn’t in the same league as the risks taken on by women during pregnancy. It’s basic biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 02:07 AM
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Women’s sexuality has been researched and studied and it’s not because of dick size. The clit is an extensive structure with internal and external components. Many of the nerve endings are outside of the body (the clit we all know). The “g-spot” is currently believed to be the result of knocking onto the internal portion through the vaginal wall. Though this is still debated some. The average vagina is actually only a few inches long, so a particular large dick won’t fit without the woman experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 12:09 AM
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Getting pregnant is literally putting her health and life at risk. Men aren’t. So while men are taking on some risk/responsibility, it’s negligible compared to what women are putting on the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 11:46 PM
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First: The situation I was talking about wasn’t about a man becoming hostile after being ghosted. It was about men who become hostile immediately following the date when the woman says “No, I don’t want to have sex”. Ghosting hasn’t had a chance to enter the equation because the date had literally just ended. This has happened to women, myself included. So it is about this for some women. Claiming otherwise is putting your words and ideas unto others. Second: Men aren’t solely responsible for an…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 09:08 PM
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Positive manipulation is usually just called persuasion, and the ethics of it come down to a personal opinion. For me, I dislike it but can see the positive effects. Within a relationship (romantic/friendship/non-committal), manipulation would still involve lying and creating a facade. There is no consent to being manipulated, hence the abusive nature. Once that facade is ripped away, the negative aspects of that manipulation comes forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 01:19 AM
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In their defense, a lot of women have been in situations where a man gets angry because we won’t fuck him after he buys us a drink or a meal. So going Dutch to avoid that “owing” feeling is more of a self-protection measurement. However, personally I prefer to go Dutch early on to set a precedent. I expect to be treated like an equal so I will take care of my shit like one. I’d rather be together for awhile before I’m comfortable with my partner taking care of a check. By that point I go by the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 01:03 AM
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Manipulation is considered a sign of emotional abuse, so yes manipulation is abuse. In fact, multiple TRP strategies are considered signs of emotional abuse https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/traversing-the-inner-terrain/201609/when-is-it-emotional-abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 12:50 AM
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It may help you to know that the size of a dick doesn’t stretch out a woman’s vagina. It’s a muscle. The biggest reason a woman may lose elasticity would be if she gave birth without a c-section. “Tightness” and “looseness” may vary among women, but it doesn’t change within a single woman outside of very specific circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 07:54 PM
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IMO friends, hobbies, and sunscreen are some of the most important things to have a happy life after 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 07:25 PM
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AF/BB is absolute bs in my experience. Not once in my life has it held true. I refuse to have sex with guys I’m not exclusive with/nearing exclusivity. And every guy I’ve dated/slept with would all be considered beta AF. Why? Because nerds with a goofy sense of humor are the best. I avoid guys who RP would consider alphas because they come across as assholes and I don’t find them attractive in the least. Im still early 20s but have found my ideal guy. Dorky, sweet, and he doesn’t pay for my shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 06:52 PM
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Except you don’t have to be “very” short for it to be true. I’m an inch below average but wouldn’t want to date someone too tall. I’ve discussed it with other women that are about average (5’4” for American women) who agree that it causes issues. I’ll give you that many women want a guy taller than them, but “tall” is subjective. 5’6” is tall for a 5’0” woman. All things equal, I’ll chose the guy I don’t have to hurt my neck to see their face. As will most women. Do you have any proof they resen…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 09:22 PM
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Handsome and healthy/fit are givens that everyone wants, including men. But I’ll disagree on on the “tall guy” one. Plenty of women do, but plenty of women don’t. Average height for American men is 5’9”. If you’re over 5’10” it’s probably not going to work out with me. I tried it once and hated it. It can be hard for short women to date tall men because the height difference introduces a variety of problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:44 PM
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I read a story not long ago (can’t remember enough to find the link) where this happened. She agreed to give birth and gave up all parental rights. She was still expected to pay child support and she paid 125% of what she owed. Not much longer the guy realized single parenthood was difficult and he couldn’t do it on his own anymore. He wanted to go to court and was asking about his chances. Most of the legal professionals told him he didn’t have a chance in hell of changing the custody agreement…
/r/MensRights23/05/19 03:47 AM
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100% agree. I offer everytime but the person I'm seeing is working a full-time job and I'm still in college working part-time. They won't accept me paying, but that's because it affects me financially much worse. Instead, I will drive so he can have a drink at the restaurant or maybe I'll cook a nice meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 01:38 AM
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