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LTR/MARRIAGEjenaemare/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 09:11 AM
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That's why you have casual sex with your male friends
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:24 PM
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Yes. I get aroused when I put a key in the keyhole lol. As a woman with very high libido there's little that doesn't turn me on
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:25 PM
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I'm in this situation right now and it felt weird at the beginning. My current sexual partner has ED and he was the first man I've been with that has it, so I thought he just wasn't attracted to me and would make me feel good just to be polite (I have really low self esteem so I pretty much assume any man that interacts with me low-key dislikes me). I was coming from a relationship where my ex partner would not only make fun of me for being difficult to make orgasm, but he'd tell me "you don't n…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 07:44 AM
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I should've gotten in shape and focused on my physical appearance sooner, I was of student age exactly as the Tumblr feminism current appeared and got into weird hair colors and piercings, which took me out of the marriage market as a potential target for any man wanting something serious. If I could turn back time I could focus less on university and gaining life experience, and more on my appearance and vitality. I also didn't date older men until I was older myself and this was also a mistake…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 08:29 AM
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First one. That was already my plan for this life and it didn't work out, so now I am forced to work odd jobs to keep myself alive while also being single and not really having any motivation to go on. I am not fulfilled by a career, the only goal I've ever had was to find my person, my Man. I'm already post wall now and an alpha widow to my ex, so I've resigned to being single for life and I tell you it's not nice over here. If I had the privilege to ever first the choose one I'd do it in a hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 08:14 AM
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I am a woman and I completely agree. After reading about how difficult women reach vaginal orgasm and how men have to put in so much effort for us to reach it, I took matters into my own hands & taught myself how to cum from PIV very early on in my sexual life. I never wanted to live with the thought of burdening my partner with focusing on me. It actually makes me feel very bad and I lose pleasure if I know my partner cares too much about it. I always had a fulfilling sex life because I can mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:00 PM
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I am drunk and this is hilarious I'm a woman and I cannot answer though but thanks for the laugh OP
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:33 AM
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Most men nowadays want women with high self esteem who hold themselves in high value. Low self esteem pickmes are no longer as desired as in the last decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:10 PM
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I'm a woman who simps for men and unfortunately the men I want don't like this about me. They want me to simp about myself before them. I just can't do that I am however not hot enough so I guess your affirmation is correct as long as the pickme is also very attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 09:40 AM
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Zero
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 05:52 AM
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Yes, I don't like wasting time on niceties. If I wanna fuck i wanna fuck fast and with no complications.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:50 PM
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0.3 seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:44 PM
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Nope. I'm already choosing having sex with the wrong males because I can't stay celibate enough to work on myself to meet the ideal man, so I could never accept to never have sex again. I think that's the only thing in my life I would never ever be able to give up if I had to choose. I'd rather be unhappy and well fucked, because there's no way I could ever be happy not being sexually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:59 AM
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Because intermittent reinforcement is a hell of a drug
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:03 PM
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It depends on the chances of success. 90% of the men I like don't like me back enough to accept a committed relationship. However, many of them will agree to have sex with me. I pursue only if I feel like there is a high chance that they will accept having sex with me. So I need to know a man's background before: what is his type, has he ever dated a woman physically similar to me, what women he follows on IG etc. Only if these are concordant to my own traits and there is a high possibility of b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:00 PM
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Because men's standards have also raised, so it's not enough to just be a woman anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 12:41 PM
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Well... Yeah, probably. I guess if I was mature and less sociopathic I'd be married by now and not shit testing men at 30 yo. But to me, relationship dynamics and especially men and their behaviour is kind of a special interest. So I am having fun in the process researching different strategies for handling men and their outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 04:26 PM
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They don't have the same purpose. Men neg to bring their female partners self esteem down in order to keep them around/control them. Women shit test in order to make sure that the man they are involved with is a worthy partner. Shit tests do a great job to show if the man is a pushover who will change his opinion due to her reaction, or if he will be able or not put her in her place. I'm a 30 yo woman active on pill online spaces since I was a teen. I learned a lot about PUA and TRP in the early…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:52 AM
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I'm a 30 year old woman actively doing shit tests on potential partners. Because I have been active on manosphere spaces since I was a teenager, this term is a part of my usual vocabulary and I know when and why I am doing them. Why do you think shit testing is age limited?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:46 AM
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Because negative dating outcomes are usually due to men pretending to be someone else in the beginning. No abuser is abusive right from the start. And women are socialized to forgive and see the good in everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 05:56 AM
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You should see the hoops unattractive women have to get for mediocre sex where they don't even finish lol. It's tough out there for unattractive people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:17 AM
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They're only demonized because they see through women and they managed to unlock some well kept womanly secrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:24 AM
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the effort required to land a good girl I mean, you could put in a lot less effort and land less good girls. I know plenty low self esteem, mostly unattractive girls who give the world to men who treat them with indifference. Change your target group and you'll be amazed at the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:17 AM
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As a woman I can confirm this is true. I'm aware that this sounds like a man roleplaying but I'm a 30 year old unmarried woman with a promiscuous past and a lot of life experience, but also I've been on pill communities for years so I have studied these things and observed them in real life as well. I'm a sucker for men who don't give a shit about me. With nice guys who are visibly into me - I'll always enjoy all the attention I can get but that doesn't mean I like the guy back. I can be the mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:34 PM
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As a high libido woman who doesn't have patience for courting process and has asked men out multiple times either for sex or dating, I can safely confirm that this is not a good long term mate strategy. Usually the men who don't approach first are not interested in you as a woman, but they will still accept your proposal for sex because well...they're men. Of course not all men but most do accept. Relationships born out of the woman pursuing the man usually don't progress too much and the man ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:35 AM
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In general being a hot woman allows you to get away with anything lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:15 PM
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I love male friendship because it's actually a lot more fun and fulfilling at the end of the day for me! First of all I think that men are a lot more objective with daily life matters & a lot more flexible in general. I'm sorry to say this, as a woman myself, but women require so much external emotional regulation & comfort. I will probably be called a pick me, but this is just my lived experience. I used to be part of a big mixed group and the problems were always created by the women. During o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:26 AM
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I am a 30 yo woman and have been watching porn since 11. I guess that answers your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:02 PM
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I definitely feel represented by the OP as a 30 year old woman. I've always felt like I have to do it all in order to be a worthy member of society and my parents pushed me to do it all as well. So what I did was become exactly the opposite. I consider myself a loser womanchild girlfailure because I am unemployed and unmarried at 30. I hang around in an artistic community and do volunteering and odd jobs to sustain myself. If you had asked me 10 years ago how I see myself at 30 it would definite…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 10:26 AM
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For me it's fine anywhere between 10-20 cm. Thickness is more important than the length, but it shouldn't be too thick either. However I am bisexual so I can also enjoy & adapt to other lovemaking styles that don't include penetration. I've had a very powerful orgasm upon my first time with a guy who had a micropenis, we just grinded against each other like I'd do with a woman and it was great. The person matters more to me than the size. Also the biggest man I've ever been with was also the mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:32 PM
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Oof I'm sorry man it sounds like a pretty hostile dating scene out there. You could join some hobby clubs or some free time mixed group activities. I met my current fwb in a drawing club. Maybe the best way is just to form connections and then go from there. Best of luck. I'm in southern Europe so the vibe is totally different and everyone is very friendly by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:07 AM
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I definitely don't think it's prevalent and I believe women want a relationship/marriage/commitment. I used to be like that too until I got my heart broken at 29 and realized my time had run out, I have too many issues to solve in therapy and there's no way I can heal and find a good partner in time to have a baby. So I gave up and cannot do more than fwb now, the breakup turned me avoidant and extremely afraid of closeness but I still have those horny hormones of my 30s body giving its last fli…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:53 AM
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No because I once had a boyfriend whom I made the first move on and he rejected me only so that he can initiate later; during the relationship he told me that he feels such disgust for women who initiate that once he wanted to beat up a girl who approached him at a concert. I prefer to stay safe, but my pursuit strategy is to tell his female friends that I'm into him and they usually help to get us together
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 04:21 PM
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Definitely!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:00 AM
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You don’t have to declare someone as your girlfriend to expect a level of exclusivity while still just dating Please expand on this statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:43 PM
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The problem is that too many men will keep a woman around as long as she's convenient and offers sex and mild entertainment. Since they don't have better options, they'll feel just fine leading her on knowing that he doesn't actually want to officially commit. And then we wonder why women opt out of the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:41 PM
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I live in a small Mediterranean town... I guess we are all pretty normie, because I can't imagine going months, years without interacting with the opposite sex?! We go out with our main group of friends in weekends, meet with friends of friends, do hobbies together, even start random adventures and pub crawls... Do people really not do this stuff anymore nowadays? Maybe in the US it's more difficult, I'm very grateful to live in a tightly knit European community. This being said I completely und…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:29 PM
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They definitely boomed even more around COVID but as I never used them I can only say from what I've noticed. I know couples my age who are now getting married and having kids that met on Tinder around 2014-2016. Now as far as I heard Tinder is a cesspool. All this is just from my observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 04:43 PM
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Completely agree with you. I'm 30 so dating apps started really booming when I was in university. I always thought it's a very shallow and objectifying concept so I never used one. I am also a pretty crazy esoterical hippie BS type of girl so I would never date a man I met through an algorithm and not through the natural order of the universe lol. But that's just me. I also live in a very social European country so I meet new people every weekend, dating is not a problem at all here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:54 PM
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Women like men with a life outside of their relationship, a man with goals, ambitions, hobbies and friends that do not relate to her. Not all women. To me, that sounds very triggering and I would not approve of dating a man who has so many parts of his life not related to me. I've broken up with men before because they had too many hobbies I wasn't involved in. If I'm going to have the burden of dating a man he better be obsessed with my existence
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:45 AM
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All boyfriends are handbag boyfriends. Real, emotionally charged relationships are possible only with other women. Men are too NPC-ey for any real meaningful connection. But they are useful for social status and repairing stuff around the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 10:58 AM
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Yes, because most of the times I accidentally made eye contact with a man while smiling (from completely different reasons) they took it as an invitation to say hello or try to talk to me. But it's okay I continue smiling after I lose the eye contact, gotta be safe out there girls you aren't worth acknowledging, much less being pleasant to I mean... Exactly? Why should I acknowledge a strange man or be pleasant to him without any reason/without knowing him and trusting him beforehand? That stuff…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:28 AM
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None, I prefer Pete Davidson
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:42 AM
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I don't think they're worthy enough to be considered enemies, more like NPCs whose purpose is to make women's life more comfortable and optimised
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:20 AM
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it's fun for them to be smaller I don't get this at all Why would I want to be smaller than my man and be at risk of being manhandled or abused? It's much safer and wiser to date a much smaller, lighter guy and also invest in becoming strong, to defend yourself from him if needed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:32 AM
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I never understood this. Why would I want to date a guy that is seen as attractive by other women? That just feels super triggering to me. I'd rather a small delicate 5'5" fawn whom I feel safe with at all times (cause he's so much smaller than me).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:28 AM
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Yes, my former partner. I was drawn to him since the first seconds since he is 5'6" (shorter than me) which I found really cute and made me feel safe and protected around him, and also has a very cute, innocent, doe eyed face. Plus he told me that he played the guitar and did professional dancing which I find really sexy and attractive in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:25 PM
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I want my partner to lust only after me and be attracted only to me. Looking at other women naked would make him lust after them, even if only sexually, for a few minutes. It's still too much and too overwhelming for me. If you're mine you're mine alone, so is your gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:40 AM
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Yes, I wish 2 men would eat me out at the same time but I don't know if I could ever find any guy willing to participate in this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:36 AM
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I have no idea. I love it when my male partners crossdress, wear makeup and / or have homosexual fantasies. To me, this is one of the traits that makes a man boyfriend material.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:25 AM
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OK let me phrase it differently then: I, and many other women, want a man who focuses 100% on us. Therefore, TRP philosophy is not beneficial to women, since it encourages men to pursue other interests other than the Woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 03:11 PM
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trp teaches men to have a goal and not focus only on women How is this beneficial to women? As a woman, I would not want a man who doesn't focus 100% on me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:04 PM
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I think it's their loss. When I was a virgin and in the following years as a low n count young girl in a relationship my eyes wandered a lot. I was curious about how different types of men were in bed and even cheated on my boyfriends because I couldn't take a relationship seriously, being so young and inexperienced. However ppd seems to think that this is an ideal scenario for a young woman? In my last relationship as a "high n count" woman according to the OP, not only did my eyes not wander, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:52 AM
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OK sure but what about a high n count woman who wants a virgin / low n count man who is younger & more attractive than her? Does it sound reasonable to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:06 AM
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It depends on the woman. I think a man who has slept with more than 5 women is used up, I wouldn't be comfortable with the idea that he knows the naked bodies and how the insides of 5 other women feel like. But I wouldn't mind him having a gay/bisexual past, hell I don't mind being cheated on with another man as long as I get to watch. It's other women I don't want him to even look at, why would I mind other men? Also I'd consider a man to be mentally used up if he watches porn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:54 AM
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My solution was to be the woman no man wants. I became disgusting, unattractive, overweight, stopped putting effort in my appearance, and stopped removing body hair. If any man feels even slightly attracted to me, he will also feel disgusted with himself and that makes me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:40 AM
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I don't know about that. I've got a female friend in her late 20s who has a body count of 1. Has only dated 1 man in her entire life but he traumatised her enough that she is now bitter and resentful towards all men and compares all of them to him. She hasn't dated since because she finds faults and revives her trauma in all guys who try to get close to her. On the other hand another friend in her mid 30s has had a very interesting and colorful sex life, has been with most of her close male frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:38 AM
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Their loss. I'm huge and hairy. They would feel disgusted with themselves afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:27 PM
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Well, kinda. But never making physical efforts and focusing on the pleasure aspects of Life sound more of a superior class kind of thing, so I'm totally on board. If men are gonna treat us like children at least try to make the most of it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:55 AM
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No shit, I'm not a savage, I wouldn't kill anything. That's a man's job, since they're biologically closer to animals lel I'm childfree so no thanks. Only comfort and free time for me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:26 AM
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Of course I can't do the work that men do. I'm supposed to be comfortable and worshipped, not a worker drone. Of course I need men for sex. Unfortunately, I'm heterosexual. That doesn't mean I want men for more than that in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:00 AM
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We don't, but it's better to leave the dirty uncomfortable jobs to men. We deserve to be worshipped and to live in absolute comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:33 AM
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Men & the cosmetic and fashion industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:13 PM
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I'm already worthy as a human being. I don't care about my worth as a "woman" whatever that means
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:12 PM
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Of course not centering men at the core of our existence is misandry
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:12 PM
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Pink pill feminism. Radical feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:51 PM
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They've been brainwashed to think that. We've all been. Once we undo female socialisation we prefer to be our natural selves
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:46 PM
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Lel no that's just a cope for women who haven't taken the pink pill We've been socialized into thinking that. We do it because of social pressure
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:45 PM
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Yeah sure just be confident if you're a man. If you're a woman you're trash if you dare not do all that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:38 PM
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Haha, I don't mean not wearing a nice dress. I mean completely being my natural self. Full on body hair, monobrow, no makeup. Let's see how well I'm being treated. I wish I was treated as invisible. But men feel the need to let us know how unattractive / attractive they think we are and bully us in public if we're not up to par. I've been bullied at a public pool and in public transport for having hair on my legs as a female human.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:35 PM
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Yeah that's what they say but actually we do it because of social pressure and because we are treated like garbage if we dare to be unattractive in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:28 PM
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Don't threaten us with a good time. As a woman myself I would be 100% better off in a woman only society, using men only for labor and/or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:18 PM
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Obviously it was going to come to this. Imagine spending time and money on body hair removal, makeup, underwear just to have some one pump chump use you as a flashlight for a few mins while having the expectation for you to act like a pornstar. No wonder women are choosing vibrators over this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:15 PM
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Yes, when I start dating someone, I am able to close all my social media, avoid looking at the opposite sex, and limit my socialisation with other people only to the strictly necessary interactions like at work or with service people. I am 100% loyal in thought and in action therefore I expect the same. Yes I have talked to a psychologist and they straight up told me I'm toxic and other things about anxious attachment style. Another reason I took myself out of the dating pool. Relationships make…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:23 AM
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Same thing. This is why I'm volcel, I can't handle my partner having even the smallest attraction towards anyone else. It's unrealistic so I just stay away from men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:50 AM
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I like big doe eyes. Hunter eyes are scary and makes me not trust the man. Big doe eyes, plump lips, delicate surprised eyebrows
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:49 AM
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I feel hurt because looking at other women's bodies creates desire in the man's mind. Having desire for other women = cheating. When I used to watch porn I'd feel desire and attraction towards the male actors. Same with Instagram models. I sometimes look at them and desire is created in my mind: I wish to touch them, to feel them, to smell them. I don't want my partner to feel the same regarding other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:47 AM
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It depends on what kind of man they're after. My former partner didn't like me having a soft frame because he preferred me to take the lead in the relationship. There was a balance between us. My opinion is that you just have to find someone that completes you. If your sister is after men with strong frame, she might struggle. A softer, more submissive man might be a better fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 09:56 AM
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Good. I'm almost 30 and I wish FDS was around 10 years ago. I focused on the men in my life since I was 16. I helped my high school boyfriend get good grades at the expense of my own. Later, I didn't pursue a better college what was farther away because of my second boyfriend, because I didn't want to leave him. I literally focused on the wrong people between 16-24 and I'm very angry for it. I hope FDS will save future generations of girls from these mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/22 07:23 AM
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What the hell did I just read. I can't believe someone could think like this. Please tell me it's not real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 08:33 AM
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Nothing, really. I already know that I'm unattractive and I'm more comfortable being unkempt, so I don't even put in the effort. It's a lot simpler to just exist and not care about your appearance - I wish more women did this. However, OP is right on one thing. My attractive friends who spend a lot of time and money on their appearances are always insecure and feel ugly. It's like nothing can satisfy their level of want to be beautiful and attractive. Once you free yourself, as a woman, of this …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:54 AM
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Yes. The only acceptable form of sex a man should give is vanilla. Unconventional sex acts are okay only if wanted by the woman and focusing solely on her pleasure and wellbeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:28 AM
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Based and pinkpilled
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:23 AM
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That's because she is. The pinkpill movement is the best thing that happened to feminism in the past few years. Liberal feminism is a sham and is not in the best interest of women. All women should be aware of the dangers posed by men in their day to day life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:21 AM
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Exactly. In our relationship he was the caring, nurturing one (even had a job working with children). Might have something to do also with his father always putting pressure on him to be more masculine and outspoken when he just wanted to be chill and peaceful and help people. For me, his small frame represented protection and peace, and for him, my protection and peace was what brought him happiness. So, win win for both parties. You're right, it depends on the perspective. For most men this wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:55 AM
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Idk, my ex bf didn't seem to mind. He enjoyed me telling him that I felt safe around him & finally dating a girl who didn't mind (even preferred) him being short.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:43 AM
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women are far weaker than men And this exactly proves my point. The weaker my partner is, the easier it would be to protect myself. I don't care about him protecting me from other men. My partner is the main man I have to worry about. Femicide and violence against women is mostly perpetrated by the men most close to us. I don't want to stick to taller men because they scare me. I can't be in a relationship with someone who causes me terror just by being next to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:37 AM
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Yes I've dated a 6'2" inch man but his height did nothing for me; at best, it scared me and I could never feel 100% relaxed next to this guy. If he is so much taller than me, who knows what can happen to my safety in case he got angry? Fortunately, he never did, but I've been dating under 5'7" men since then (my own height) and I feel sooo much safer. It's just better to be with a smaller, lighter man because you can defend yourself more easily in case they throw a testosterone tantrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:41 AM
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I think the real question is why is he casually dating at 26. He should be preparing to become a high value husband before his balls get too saggy. No lady will want him after he hits the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 09:50 AM
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Preferences Height: a bit shorter than me or the same height (5'7") Body: small and skinny or ottermode. Not fat. No belly rolls or beer belly. A bit of muscle but he should be smaller than me ideally Hair: I prefer guys with long hair, but shorter hair is fine as long as it's curly or cutesy styled Eyes: green or brown Other preferences: hippie/bohemian like dressing style, tattoos, piercings, facial hair, big hands, big feet, muscly calves, speaks clearly and won't stutter or pronounce words i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:38 PM
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I'd feel disgusted & I'd break up instantly. Not disgusted that he saw a sex worker. I don't support SW but I support women doing whatever they want or need to survive, so I can't judge. I just don't want to be involved with a man who prefers the easy way to get sex instead of paying for dates and getting to know women long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:31 PM
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No but I was threatened to not get over a certain weight or he'll dump me. Also, I was not allowed to cut my hair shorter than shoulder length.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 04:48 AM
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We sat in silence on the couch enjoying our different hobbies 🤢 This is scrotese for 'I don't care enough about my gf to spend quality time with her in a meaningful way, so I keep her around as decoration because that's how I see women!' It's things like these that make me so, so glad to be out of the dating scene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:37 AM
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I like guys who are naturally charming, funny, etc. Not having read "strategies" on how to achieve it. If you are a man who needs strategies to convince the opposite sex to sleep with you maybe you shouldn't be mating at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:31 AM
5

If you assume that he's doing nice things to get in your pants, you're a misandrist and a crazy feminist that hates all men. If you assume he's a nice person who wants to genuinely help, you're too naive, you should have known better. You deserved whatever he or other men did to you, because you weren't weary enough. In conclusion, it's better to stay away from men altogether. Don't befriend, don't treat nicely, don't even be mean (too much energy spent). Treat as NPCs only if absolutely necessa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 08:50 AM
1

I mean, yeah. They should be meek and know their place. If they are needed for anything, we'll just let them know. It's a simple concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 03:44 AM
1

Don't sleep with her unless you're sure that you want a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 03:41 AM
4

Wow this hit so close to home. I was in a similar situation. It was always my fault that he was abusive. I must have been doing something wrong at all times, he was always right and the victim. If I called him out on something, I was being mean and evil, but he was allowed to even insult me, cause I deserved it. And just like you said, I was in charge of managing other men's feelings towards me, so I just became the most boring, hostile and bland version of myself to appease his insecurity. Glad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:59 AM
1

MGK is too blonde and conventionally attractive to be my type but Pete Davidson is top tier for me. I've actually dated a guy who has a similar face and to me it's like an archetype for a handsome guy. He has a nice, kind face, kissable lips, the eyes of a good man. I also have a thing for dark circles around the eyes, it's an instant turn on. Also seems so down to earth and relatable and not arrogant. I don't like serious, arrogant, too put together men. Even if I am a biological female I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 06:14 AM
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Because I get horny sometimes and casual sex just doesn't cut it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 07:20 AM
2

I completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:27 PM
14

Physical and emotional colonisation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 11:50 AM
2

Absolutely not - the moment my partner started to cry in front of me was when I realized he truly trusts and loves me and can be himself in front of me. I kissed his tears and held him and reassured him as he calmed down. It's never a problem for me, I feel that he trusts me if he cries in front of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:36 AM
1

1 year and a half of my last relationship was sex I didn't want because my partner was high libido and threatened to cheat on me if I didn't fulfill his needs. I'm still traumatized from this 3 years later & angry at myself for putting myself through this and not leaving at the first threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:03 AM
14

This. I've been overweight, lost the weight and now I gained it all back after quarantine. It's like I was a different person in their eyes as a thinner woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:59 AM
79

I'm overweight and I am not attracted to overweight men... I never was and I was called an hypocrite and having double standards for it. I will never apologize for what I am attracted to. There never was a shortage of ottermode /built men that were into me, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:16 AM
1

I don't want a man with sexual success. They should be as pure as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 08:49 AM
210

Normalize telling men to fuck off when they bother us - online and offline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:15 PM
91

The only people who told me not to look into the mirror on shrooms were men. They said they had seen an ugly, scary reflection of themselves. I didn't listen, and just like you, I looked and saw the most beautiful glowing woman I had ever seen. I don't think this is a coincidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:05 AM
4

I'm a messy woman and always have been. Unless there's garbage in the way and unwashed dishes for a week - making it difficult for me to cook or move around my place - I will not clean because if literally does not bother me. Mold and dust are virtually invisible to me. You should have seen my live-in ex boyfriend lose his shit because he was used to the women in his family cleaning everything up after him and maintaining said cleanliness throughout the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 08:58 AM
10

Yes, I think it's all about reactive abuse. In my worst relationship with a narcissist he played with my head and twisted my reality so much that I'd start hitting myself and screaming. Of course he made me out to be the crazy one because he could speak in a flat monotonous tone but I had emotions so I was crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:39 AM
123

I literally said this out loud then I scrolled down to see your comment 🤣 It looks like a worm 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:58 PM
2

I was young, hormonal, constantly horny and curious what it's like to have a ONS. Also I wanted to impress my female friends since the early 2010s were riddled with liberal feminism "sleeping around is empowering!!!" propaganda and many of us fell for it. Looking back, I wouldn't even flirt with those guys with my actual mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 09:47 AM
3

I absolutely love Angelica. Aside from spitting truths on tiktok, she also has a super funny ASMR channel on YT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:30 AM
87

Because we live in Eastern Europe and unfortunately many women are handmaidens/enablers for such behavior and men profit from it fully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:51 AM
48

Haha, exactly. Well he hasn't bought it cash down, he's paying a mortgage on it, but still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:10 AM
366

I have a male friend who is also 27 who has had his own flat for a few years. He hasn't lived there more than a few weeks at a time because he finds it easier to live at home where his mother cooks and cleans up after him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:52 AM
3

For some of us, preselection is more a turn off than a good thing. I am more comfortable dating a man who has a low n-count & not too many ex girlfriends (preferably none).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 09:51 AM
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This made me angry. This is what I was like in my early 20s before meeting my narc ex. He taught me to walk on eggshells and be overly analytical and panicked about everything all the time. He took all the fun and spontaneity out of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:45 PM
2

There are women that get offended that their partner won't come? Lol who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:51 AM
21

Yes, this should be a series!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:10 AM
2

As more women in this thread have mentioned, the longer the relationship and deeper the bond, the better the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:08 PM
58

This is true. I was inappropriately touched by a drunk homeless man. Once I started screaming and making a scene he left (while calling ME crazy, of course).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:21 AM
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I am attracted to younger men who are also smaller physically (shorter, lighter, hopefully less strong). I feel a lot safer with this type of man because I can defend myself in case we are alone and he might get violent. And yes, I do feel semi-motherly about these guys, but I am not a motherly person in general and do not want kids. I am happy to offer what crumbs of maternal instincts I have and will never use on a child, to a guy like I have described, as long as he makes me feel safe (by bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:12 AM
1

Yes, this situation would actually be preferable to me than the opposite. I've always dated younger men and I do hate domestic chores, so I'd love to come home to a young, skinny, short domestic man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:21 PM
1

I see my career as a vehicle to avoid sex and reproduction with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:18 PM
3

it's his cousin for god sake, you're OvVeRrEaCtInG most porn nowadays is incest porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:42 AM
47

So true - if society truly were fair this would be the norm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:15 PM
10

I've been doing this for years. To me it comes naturally and I feel that it makes our sisterly bonds stronger. However I had to be socially conditioned into treating men well since I remember I was scared/slightly disgusted by them since I was little. Now I know that's okay to ignore them and don't cater around their needs every moment of our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:55 AM
2

I don't understand where this assumption that women are hitching and unhappy about being single is coming from. I have never met a woman complaining about being single. Most of us (yes, even average looking, fat, over 30) have men orbiting - we can get sex or affeftion or financial goods from these men with no strings attached. Men on the other hand, I've noticed that suffer the most from being single. And let's not forget how most men become totally dysfunctional members of society after a brea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 03:10 AM
50

Same here. Once when I was 14...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:04 AM
1

As a woman who has previously had a male virginity fetish and initiated a few guys sexually in my time, I can attest that there is nothing inherently wrong with male virginity. At least for me, providing the first sexual experience to someone felt magical and it felt like I had been given the chance to provide a great and hard to forget experience. My own first time was really shitty so I wanted to at least provide others with what I hadn't received myself. It's okay being a male virgin, but the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:48 AM
1

That women only want big strong tall men. I wouldn't be alone in a room with a man who is taller or stronger than me. I wouldn't ever sleep with such a man. I only feel safe with, and attracted to men who are shorter and weaker physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:47 PM
1

My ex boyfriends were between 20-22 years old while dating me - I was the same age. The couple I mentioned were 17 when they got together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 07:58 AM
1

Yes I dated 2 male virgins as a non virgin. First one: used humour to cope with my sexual history and would make jokes with his roommate about it in front of me. We broke up quickly. Stayed fwb for a while. Second one: threw the ocassional tantrum about how inadequate he feels being with an experienced woman and how he should cheat on me to reach my level of experience. He confessed it was because he felt insecure about "not being the best I'd ever had". I mean of course you won't be the best I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 04:37 AM
1

Male virgins are great but mostly only for casual sex. In relationships they get frustrated if their partner is more experienced and want to go out and gain experience themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 01:24 AM
3

For women, a relationship with a man is always a risk. She is at risk of pregnancy, being raped/beaten, and statistically her quality of life and life expectancy lowers, thus the presence of a man is a liability to her. Therefore, she is entitled to the best male she can have. For men, a female presence in their lives/marriage raises their quality of life and puts them at no real risk. Therefore, they aren't even supposed to have standards at all - just try to be their best self so that they don…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 11:38 PM
12

All my ex bfs (except 1) got a boner/turned on when I cried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:12 AM
96

Wtf is this why why just why are women nowadays sinking this low to accept BS like this. Guys like this should be blocked en masse so that they know they are not to have this audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:43 AM
1

Never. I can only feel sexual attraction with a man I already met, befriended, and trust 100%. Example: my last boyfriend, years ago, was a good friend of mine whom I knew for a fact had low libido and was shorter and smaller than me physically - but even with him I'd sometimes fear unpredictable testosterone surges. The only spark I felt right after meeting a new man would be "he seems interesting and decent and he seems worth befriending, but I still need to consider if the risk of being raped…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 06:29 AM
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I think it's because they want to be like those instagram models because they want to be validated and feel beautiful and attractive - this has become like a goal to accomplish for many women. As someone who used to have an Instagram and deleted it a few months after discovering FDS, I can attest to the fact that I was looking up to Instagram models and wanted to be as admired and followed like them (especially since I grew up with very low self esteem).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:47 AM
4

More like abuse of power couple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:51 AM
71

I'd rather be labeled a sensitive prude than be complicit in my own oppression and abuse. Unfortunately I learned this a bit too late, but it's better than never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:36 AM
16

Lol my last sexual partner, like 2 years ago, left shit stained boxers in full view. I was disgusted and couldn't believe that a man in mid 20s would be so unhygienic. He was as surprised as I was: 'wait, you mean you don't get those?'... UMM NO?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:01 AM
75

It never ceases to amaze and scare me, how literally ALL of the women I know (myself included) have been catcalled starting ages 10+ and it suddenly stopped after mid 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:14 PM
62

You don't even need to do all this stuff. Men will be attracted to a woman even if she hasn't washed in weeks and is wearing a garbage bag as clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:56 PM
28

Yeah it does come off as a coping mechanism. Like they know they're going to be abused either way so might as well convince themselves to think it's enjoyable :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:14 AM
63

I'm happy to see messages like this reach the mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:13 PM
18

My narc ex looked like he was having his mugshot taken in every pic he appeared. He thought smiling might make him look silly so he was careful to look threatening and serious. Also, he hated when I'd put my arm around his body and my hand would be seen wrapped around his waist. I did that unconsciously when we'd take pictures but he would blow up about emasculating him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:30 AM
2

I can completely empathise. The worst part of it was that back then I was still a libfem and thought painful sex is empowering and that I would be a prude not to do it. But then, the same abusive boyfriend would call me a sl*t for doing these things he wanted me to do under the threat of leaving me. 2 years of such confusing messages and cognitive dissonance really fucked with my brain and now it's better to just stay single altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:59 AM
21

This is the phrase my narcissistic ex used on me when I was younger and insecure. It worked and I spent 2 years in abuse, hating him and myself, thinking this is what relationships should feel like. I now have sexual intimacy issues and I feel dirty and traumatised about sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:56 AM
22

Bullshit propaganda like this made caused me to enter abusive situationships in my late teens and early 20s. I'm glad to see women all around the world waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:27 AM
383

That dog at the end probably loves her more than her boyfriend does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:19 PM
102

Porn has ruined high school uniforms unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:37 PM
5

I found out at age 16 that women don't pee out of their vaginas - from my then-boyfriend, aged 19, who had a pee fetish. This is the state of sex education and awareness of female biology in this clown world. It's only important when it benefits the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:58 PM
58

The men I got when I was at my prettiest and thinnest were absolute fuckboys. I went for nerds as well, thinking they would be better boyfriends, but no...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:43 PM
14

Because they can't just ignore what they don't agree with. They have to let everybody know what they want and feel entitled to being pleased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:41 PM
5

So true! Also my narc ex was OBSESSED with me, himself and everyone finding 'their true potential' yet he made me so miserable I wanted to just disappear during that relationship... Even if he pretended to want me to reach that potential he was stopping me himself...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:15 PM
96

YES. I can't stress this enough. I had the option to attend university in a better country with financial help from my parents. I didn't do it because I was a pickme and didn't want to leave my boyfriend who stayed here. I'm still in my home country now and I did get an education here but I think about all the opportunities I have missed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:07 AM
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I love you OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:56 PM
58

I agree with OP. If we as women continue to coddle and let men be incompetent parents because we don't trust them with our children, they will never step up and never learn how to be a proper parent. They're too comfortable with the status quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:21 PM
17

There are even comments sexualizing her an talking about how they got a boner from the picture... I'm speechless, I just want to be celibate forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:51 AM
211

I hope libfems are finally waking up after a decade of bad sex and disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:50 AM
39

I encourage all women to spend some time uninvolved with men. I've been celibate for almost a year and this is the most comfortable and happy I've ever felt with my body. The emotional and psychological benefits of staying away from men are incredible. My body is doing great as well, never had a better immune system and healthy menstrual cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:07 AM
26

I've heard this before from a mysoginistic narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:43 PM
1

Yes, I choose to live like this to protect myself and avoid being hurt. I also live in a country known for normalising domestic abuse and mysoginy being a trait of day to day life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 08:40 AM
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You are right, it sounds like I contradicted myself. The thing is I trust them enough to consider them friends and hang out in public. Rationally, I don't think they would ever physically hurt me, so on the surface I do trust them. Subconsciously, I can't. They are men, after all, and if their testosterone surges, they can even be a threat to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 08:37 AM
2

We've been friends for 10 years and they've earned my trust. They have never physically hurt me not even as a joke. Also, they are on the shorter, lighter side.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 12:19 PM
2

I think it's more about the fact that I feel safer with them. Yes, I know most women prefer a stronger man who will keep them safe from other men - but I just can't see it like this. I believe the ones closest to me have the most power to hurt me, so I must keep myself safe from my male partner first and the others afterwards. I have never been seriously physically assaulted by a male partner before but I have been hit lightly 'as a joke' or immobilised, and those things may turn sour fast if co…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 11:02 AM
2

I only get turned on after I develop feelings for someone, and I couldn't get feelings for a taller strong man because I'd be too scared for my life. Last time I developed feelings and was in a relationship he was shorter, lighter and younger than me... And he did turn me on, so yes. I had a tall well built man hit on me a few times during the relationship and he was always confused as to how I prefered my actual partner and not him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 10:42 AM
2

No, I don't watch porn. And as for IRL sexual preferences I'm what people nowadays call vanilla.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 10:33 AM
2

There is no /s - statistically men who are closest to women are the ones most prone to hurting them. At least I have more chances of defending myself if I can come close to their physical strength. In my experience men have had very unpredictable emotions so it's better to stay safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 10:31 AM
3

As a woman I agree. I am scared of most men that I see. I can't trust even my male friends or relatives. I choose to associate only with men physically weaker than I.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 05:50 AM
4

Not OP, but I don't - I just want to avoid being bullied on the street, at work, etc. For example I work in a place where I interact with people all day long and I have to look well groomed to not scare customers away. Do you propose I change my entire career and work in a hidden cubicle from now on? Sometimes we have to perform femininity in order to be accepted socially. Most of us wear makeup, remove body hair etc only for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 08:39 AM
17

Came here to say this. I literally do things for my looks to avoid being bullied by men. If I lived in a woman only community I'd be hairy, unkempt and not focusing on my looks at all. Before anyone comes forward with 'yes but women bully other women for their looks more than men!' - for me this has never been the case. Even if a woman were to notice and say I haven't given enough attention to my appearance, I'd be like - I didn't feel good today - and they'd understand. Or I'd be like - I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 04:25 AM
7

You're right - meanwhile, I've changed my strategy as well. When this happened I was in my early 20s and had really bad pickmeisha tendencies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:35 AM
17

Lol, my narcissistic ex was angry at me during the whole relationship because I had been coerced into sex by a guy a few months before I started dating him. Of course he wasn't angry at me being traumatised and pained after the experience. He was angry that I had been 'reckless' and 'put myself in that situation'. Well, this is the same guy that, when I'd tell him I got catcalled on the street, his first questions were 'what were you wearing/what did you do to provoke them?' Phew, glad I got rid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:34 AM
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I noticed this pattern in LVM - when you have girlfriends they just assume they are there to pair up with their lowlife buddies. No asking if they are interested in meeting a man, they just assume women are always open to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:03 AM
37

Yes yes yes! I give this advice to all younger women who come to me for guidance or to talk to me about their insecurities. My first boyfriend was obsessed with nordic type women with blonde hair and blue eyes - I'd also torture myself with this idea, never feeling good enough, etc. The worst part is that his ex was like that and he indirectly made me compete against her by asking me why I'm not more like her, why I at least don't dye my hair blonde (my eyes are dark brown so no chance there...)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:37 PM
13

Women, not good at planning? All the events or outings or traveling I've ever done in my life, even if it involved males, were planned by women. If something goes wrong, a woman always has a plan for it. I mean yeah all that he said there was wrong but this really struck me because my life experience says men are the ones with 0 planning and a 'go with the flow, see what happens' in most situations, ranging from a simple date/outing to their actual careers and future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:03 PM
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Sounds like that tactic with men saying " x girls should not wear y" (y usually being a skimpy/male gazey outfit) knowing that pickmeishas will start posting photos of said outfits to 'prove them wrong' but it will only give LVMs the satisfaction of looking at their bodies and knowing the girls are thirsty for their validation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:24 AM
8

This struck a chord for me. I used to be a kinkmeisha and thought I enjoyed choking and violence in bed and considered it normal to not have an orgasm from sex. Then I discovered fds & pinkpill feminism, took a step back and realized it had all been taught to me and I'd become trained to do those things through repeated exposure through porn and releasing dopamine while watching violent stuff. It was also around this time when I was still with my ex, who never accepted doing those things to me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:50 AM
14

Wow story of my life. I'd always had pornified, rough sex ending with mostly orgasms from the guys and none from me - I thought it was normal since it was the only sex I'd ever had and seen in porn. And then I met my ex and he was like, "but I don't want to hurt you, I want you to feel good and relaxed". I was taken aback at first but now thanks to him and fds I will never tolerate any violent, non-sentimental sex again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:46 AM
4

Libfem propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:33 PM
3

Emotionally and psychologically speaking my dad is still a fuckboy who couldn't resist fucking around and having multiple children with different women. He's in his 60s and he flirts with every woman he comes in contact with... However he always helped us financially and buys me expensive gifts a few times a year. He has a successful career and is always well dressed and put together. He's even tried to be more friendly and encouraging towards me but he thinks I'm a pickmeisha and only gives me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:09 AM
28

Hahaha I'm a fellow simmer and I love this comment. Even in the Sims 2, in order to have a nice date, wants have to be fulfilled and activities have to be done, including dining out together. Dates in TS2 are better than IRL ones sometimes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:03 AM
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I feel the same! I've been doing my part this year. I've gone wgtow and I put as much effort in my appearance as I feel like (I prefer a low-effort look and feel better like this) I don't care about the male gaze anymore. Men in my country, especially the dirty and out of shape ones will parade in public spaces with their man boobs and huge bellies and hairy chests on full display and they don't even think about the female gaze. I've seen so many males bent over with their asscrack visible as th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:47 AM
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I don't know why but for me it completely feels written by a man... Or I'm just too innocent & refuse to believe a woman would subject herself to something like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:55 AM
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Yes this is very annoying and slightly patronising. I have tokophobia (fear of pregnancy and childbirth) and I used to have former work colleagues joke about being pregnant when I was nauseous or bloated at work. It's really uncomfortable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:30 PM
4

Happened to me. Whenever I didn't orgasm he'd take it personally and blame me for emasculating him and not being into him enough. He had a really porny rough style, so I suggested some massage, candles and more eating me out (very rare). He took it as an insult, that I wanted to make him a 'simp'. I was just asking for my needs and trying to get to an orgasm, just like he wanted...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:52 AM
4

OK I just got second-hand anger from this video. I could literally feel the rage and frustration in her voice. Heartbreaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:38 PM
27

Yes, there is literally a current of men becoming attracted to penises because of the emphasis on them in porn. They start self-inserting as the women in the films and gradually become penissexual (but still consider themselves straight). Hence the rise in 'trap' porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:57 AM
48

Eastern European men are mostly LV. Many of them just leave their mommies directly into the arms of their new wifemommy and still have the audacity to want to be considered the head of the family. They might seem intense at the beginning but they become controlling and possessive soon enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:00 AM
15

I completely relate. I had my first lesbian sexual encounter a month ago and while I definitely enjoyed it, I can't say I felt the same attraction and sexual need that, unfortunately, I feel towards men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:00 PM
42

Ah yes, the old 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' of female existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:53 PM
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And now most comments are lashing out at her for not trying to mAkE iT wOrK and being a terrible unkind woman! I'm honestly loving this influx of women on relationship advice who realize what they deserve and leave these dead relationships. They're getting so much hate because the bar is getting raised finally and this means even more men will be single and alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:07 AM
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Omg me too. In my most abusive relationship with a narc I let him abuse me sexually because he treated me so badly I thought I deserved it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:23 AM
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I've dated at least 2 guys that got a boner when I was crying and couldn't console me or make me feel better because they got too turned on from seeing me like that. At the moment I just thought it was a bit wierd but now I realize it's downright disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:21 AM
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This reminds me of when pics of Bad Bunny and his gf came out, and people were like 'how the hell is he dating such an average girl omg'. Please look them up. She's literally leagues above him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 10:28 AM
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Oh, and apparently the reversed version, banmalehatesubs, is still up. I can't believe this. I'm scared and extremely disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:10 PM
46

I've noticed that r/banfemalehatesubs is gone too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:03 PM
22

I'm the same. I've never been downright assaulted or raped but I have been: gaslighted coerced into sex acts I didn't truly want but made to feel guilty if I didn't do them put down insulted 'jokingly' restrained and called too sensitive and can't take a joke when I panicked and told him to stop body shamed received 'joking' physical attacks such as having my jaw held tight or light slaps over the face asked for nudes repeatedly had my achievements undermined shamed regarding my past future fake…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:29 AM
15

I LOVE THIS. Years ago I dated this guy who seemed too good to be true in the beginning, but as time went on my attraction went away since he started to bore me pretty quick. Later, I found out that he had practised PUA and was involved in online 'seduction' communities. Since he met me as a total pickme it worked in the beginning but in time his true bland self was exposed. I remember spending nights till 4 AM on PUA and TRP forums to learn their strategies and games so that it would never happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:45 PM
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Didn't you know not getting involved with males means oppressing them? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:03 PM
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Yes, I found out 6 months after the breakup that he had cheated on me with a lot of girls, once even when I was in the same location. He had snuck to the bathroom with another girl. Whenever he was away he would disappear for hours and claim he had no battery on his phone. I'm just happy I came out of that relationship STD free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:51 AM
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Lol the ex I wanted to marry was sure that one day he would be in a famous band and get into Hells Angels or lead a new motorcycle club. Now he plays the guitar in the park and works as a child camp supervisor. Not a bad outcome but I was convinced when we broke up that he'd become this really famous rock singer motorcyclist and I'd hear him on the radio and cry years later. Also he got fat and is starting to bald.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:36 AM
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Definitely not weird. Go at your own pace and feel comfortable. Years ago before FDS and women exposing male sexual strategies, I used to browse TRP to learn the signs in order to weed out potentially bad partners. I remember that many of them were saying that if the woman won't have sex (!!!) with them by the 3rd date they'll be gone. So if these guys are gone the trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:10 PM
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I think it's better if they don't express their interest. I've always felt super uncomfortable and like a prey when I've been approached. It makes me despise and fear the man who initiates. It's a lot better to choose the men you're interested in and approach them first, allowing them to be interested on your own terms. I have nothing but disrespect and disgust for the men in my life who have expressed their interest for me before I have. The best guys I've dated, and felt most comfortable with,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 10:38 AM
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It's projection. Men accept the companionship and even sex with women they dislike because they're desperate for female attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:45 AM
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Oh wow, reminds me of my narc ex. We were in our early 20s. We both got jobs at the same time. He stopped attending classes because it was "too tiring". He'd come home and play video games and smoke weed and expect me to come over 2-3 times a week. I was working too, studying/attending classes to get my master's degree & was the class leader at the same time - assured communication between professors and other students and managed other administrative issues. Oh, and I was also going to the gym …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:49 AM
5

Did this thing even take place, after all? I always thought it was just a joke made up to rile women up and make these guys shit talk feminists even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:17 AM
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Something similar happened to me. Back in my pickmeisha days I was the "side piece" of a narc PUA asshole who had a main girlfriend he wasn't dumping because "she's going through family issues and I don't want to make it worse for her!" I was a terrible, immature girl back then and continued the affair. He would also cheat on her with other girls aside from me. Once I had one sexual encounter with someone other than him (even though it was CLEAR that we weren't exclusive - and he had the 'offici…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:54 AM
1

I was a serial monogamist in my teens and early twenties, with occasional hookups in between relationships. As a teenager I was obsessed with the idea of having a boyfriend and unless I was dating I felt worthless. Each relationship was difficult and damaged me. Once I started dating someone I'd center my whole life on that person and my needs would not matter anymore. This left me very easy to abuse. Then in my early 20s I met a guy who seemed to be The One. He was very relationship oriented an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/20 07:16 AM
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Once I sent my narc ex the Upgrade to Wife meme (the one with the text message exchange between a guy asking to be served breakfast naked and the woman replying 'Uh-oh, looks like you've made a wifey level request while still holding the standard bf package). He replied that a woman who won't prove herself good as a wife before marriage doesn't deserve the ring 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:09 AM
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Thank you for the last paragraph. I was with someone who, at the beginning, made me fall for the "I want us to grow together and evolve and be the best version of ourselves". The rest of the relationship was very similar to what you described. Nothing I did for him was good enough. None of my accomplishments were worth congratulating - if he thought I was doing better than him, he'd put me down and then accuse me of emasculating him. The more weight I was losing, he'd ask me how soon will I be l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:03 AM
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I've always thought making women panic about the wall and aging is a man-made thing in order to provoke the young women to be desperate for marriage while they are still inexperienced and can't tell a HVM from a LVM. I think it's a trap so that LVM can be assured they get a wife who can't tell that they are low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:44 AM
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I know a similar situation. I was with a group of guys a few years ago at a party and a friend of theirs was supposed to arrive later with his gf. These guys were fanboying all over the friend's gf and mentioning how hot she was. I was expecting some model tier girl or at least some exotic beauty to come along. She was super average with a crooked nose BUT she had long blonde hair, was thin and was smiling all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:10 PM
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I'm growing out my brows during quarantine and it's great - finally the sparse areas destroyed by my mediocre plucking skills are getting filled in. Men have no right to tell us how to take care of our bodies especially if they don't do the same things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:28 AM
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The downvotes on the anti-porn comments make me lose faith in humanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 09:00 AM
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This is so spot on it's scary. That's why I don't even go to men for advice or a shoulder to lean on anymore. They are emotionally stunted and incapable of empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 11:44 AM
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My abusive narc ex would manipulate me into doing stuff by saying "but all the other girls do it" and shaming me for not doing the certain thing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:26 AM
1

Makes sense. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 12:16 PM
1

'I consider myself attractive with or because of my extra pounds. Don't be judgemental.' Can someone explain what's wrong with this? I find it perfectly okay to consider yoruself attractive and ask for a non judgemental partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 10:32 AM
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I was about to consider wasting my time trying to get to know a guy but then he posted a meme of a character hanging from a ceiling fan with the caption 'The floor is vanilla sex'. Into the trash he went.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:24 AM
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I told a guy friend that one of my standards for a future boyfriend is that he doesn't watch porn and he laughed in my face and flat out told me it's next to impossible to find such a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:05 PM
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I was in a very bad abusive narcissistic relationship. I was also very young and my sex drive had completely vanished. This happened because the guy I was dating, who was as young as I was, was angry at the fact that he had been a virgin while I had had previous experiences, LTR and ONS as well. He used to shame me almost daily for my past and spit out passive aggressive remainders of "how slutty I had been before him". Basically I started to self hate my sexuality, my ability to get turned on, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:33 AM
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Hahaha oh my god I thought it meant that she was on drugs (not a native English speaker)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:37 PM
3

In my experience, the man who remembered everything about me was a narcissistic abuser who did so in order to rub things in my face or use them against me when it was convenient for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:35 AM
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I don't remove any body hair. If they say anything I'm like okay, if I shave you shave, or I ask for money to go to the salon if they are so bothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:58 AM
4

Jesus... I had the same problem with a narcissistic ex. I'm thick, have a small waist and medium sized breasts. He wouldn't be comfortable with me wearing tight clothes (he'd say I was doing it for external validation and male attention). He wouldn't let me wear ripped tights or fishnets because "only strippers and prostitutes wear those" (it's just my style - I've been wearing these forever and not even my family has ever commented). The steady decline towards breakup was when I ditched wearing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:30 AM
7

Thank you for sharing your story. I am also from a part of the world that sounds exactly like you described. I grew up with no male figure and I have dated very low quality men because it's very difficult for me to vet and establish boundaries and high standards for myself, which is why I'm taking a break from dating/male interactions for a while. This, plus l really hate the typology of the average man around here. In my country the majority of men don't take proper care of themselves but expec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:21 PM
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This sub saved me from a shitty low quality fuckbuddies arrangement that was only benefiting the LVM in question. I'm so thankful - it's been about a month and I am THRIVING!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:05 PM
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Yes. As a young teenager I was obese and kind of unkempt and my level of pickme was incredible. I was literally imagining a life together with any guy that would interact with me. I lost almost 60 pounds in high school as an attempt to get noticed by the oneitis I had back then. He still didn't notice me. However a few years later a friend of his I met on the subway told me that my high school oneitis saw my recent pictures on social media and said "I was so stupid to not go for her back then" H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:24 AM
3

When my ex boyfriend first fingered me he rubbed me for 10 minutes and didn't believe I wasn't cumming yet. He told me "every girl I've fingered came in like a few minutes!" and made me feel really self conscious and then couldn't cum at all... I told him afterwards that I think those girls had faked it and he didn't care, he was really indifferent about it. But well, this is the same guy that used to fuck me for like 5 minutes and when I'd tell him I wasn't satisfied he was like "but I like it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 12:26 PM
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Actually I am very thankful for you and the other posters here taking the time to reply and help me in this way. After getting a only few replies on that thread I made on r/relationships back in December, I was certainly not expecting such an influx of comments! When I imagine him giving me happiness, I imagine him trusting me fully as to let me feel free in this relationship, to have the social life I wish for and to make me feel like it's natural to act RPW and not making me miserable. It's ha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 05:24 PM
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I thought that maintaining this relationship and making him happy would make me happy as well. That's what he told me, if I give him happiness he will give it back to me. I'm not feeling it, though... My close friends say that when I am with him, I am changed, I look like I am holding something inside and that I am not happy. They have all advised me to break up. He didn't suggest anything, he told me to write whatever I thought was good and bad about myself, and even write more than 5 good thin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 05:03 PM
2

No, I'm not as fulfilled now as I used to be when I would go out all the time, but I convinced myself that it's for the good of my relationship. No, he didn't choose my friends, they are my closest friends to which I limited myself to even though I used to have the need to meet new people all the time. I have only two examples in my mind right now. Once, he told me to make 2 lists: one with 5 good things about me and one with 5 bad things. He told me to hang the one with the good things next to …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 04:41 PM
2

I no longer feel socially isolated because I stopped wanting to be social and meet new people. I have limited myself to a few friends now and he seems to approve of it. He thinks I should be confident mainly because he is my boyfriend, and says that I should work on myself and my self development in order to feel that confidence. He has given me some tips on how to feel better about myself and how to focus on my strengths and not my weaknesses.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 04:25 PM
2

If he wants me to doubt myself and keep me as a pet, why is he always stressing the fact that he wants me to be as confident as possible?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 04:16 PM
1

Thank you for your reply. I don't consider him weak or beta - and I think he leads, but after reading all of the replies I am not sure anymore what leading and being a good Captain actually means. The thing is that he is not doing anything wrong, so there would be no reasons for me to not feel good in the relationship. But my instincts say otherwise. This is exactly the problem, I think - there is nothing technically wrong that he does that I can blame for my misery. I feel that I am the only pe…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 03:11 PM
2

That's true... I feel like I have to, I never actually wished to change myself in such a drastic manner. Of course, I wanted to be a good girlfriend. But I never imagined it would make me this miserable. Also, I am not sure what exactly 'treating me like a queen' would mean - he doesn't do anything wrong, but he doesn't actually actively do good things for me. What is an example of a good treatment by a Captain? Are you okay with giving me some examples from your own relationship, so that I can …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:24 PM
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Thank you for your reply. That is the problem: technically, this guy is not actively doing douchebag stuff. Everything that he does that I feel is against me, he justifies by being what's best for the relationship and for me as a girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:22 PM
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I feel like I am used by him I guess... I feel like I am forced to do all these nice things and shut myself up and change into a different person. Technically, I am not forced, since he has always given me the choice to do anything I wanted, but has always responded accordingly and when I was 'myself' it was not good.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:20 PM
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Thank you for the reply. I was hoping that my last post would not be discovered, or if it did, it would be discarded. I consider that post made by the 'before' me, when I was more rebellious and outspoken about my wishes, before he let me know that they are not right and are too much of a single person's desires. I successfully annihilated my social desires and after I got the job I did not have any time left for a social life anyway, so my time was either spent at work, at college or with the b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:18 PM
1

Thank you for all the comments. I am not sure if he is actively doing something or being a good Captain, but what is certain is that he's not doing anything wrong. I have been trying to change actively for a few months, not just a few days, so the results that I expect aren't immediate - I am not even sure what kind of results I expect, actually. He's been manifesting his thankfulness to me but it's still making me miserable.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:14 PM
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