jentheleo Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
160	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?	STRATEGY	jentheleo	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/02/21 11:58 PM

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36	This is an important, straight-forward explanation that anyone who may be new here needs to listen to. It may be a hard pill to swallow at first, but really you should recognize this realization as your own freedom from a system designed to oppress you. Yes they are sooo jealous and its honestly kind of scary. My ex even admitted to me that he was jealous because people like me 🙄 and the last guy I dealt with gave me jealous vibes too. He told me that all the guys wanted me but then tried to make me feel so bad about myself in every way possible. I think jealousy coming from men is worse than if it comes from a woman because they will try to ruin your life and blame it all on you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/03/21 02:14 PM
11	Literally every guy I meet that I’m nice too thinks this. It’s why they hate women who are snarky. Unkind women are the worst thing on the planet according to them. I’m in the same boat and honestly the only thing we can do is to start paying very close attention to people and how they react to you refusing them and see them for who they really are.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/21 12:01 AM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? You did mention to avoid dating anyone that had a bad childhood but I dont see how that would be fair since nobody has a perfect childhood, not even me so thats the only thing I somewhat disagree with.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:17 PM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? Yes this is true! I have learned to be avoidant because when I was emotional to my parents, I always felt like they would use it against me. I also am the oldest sibling so I had this hidden responsibility to be the “protector” of sorts. Oddly enough, I tend to spill my heart out to my friends and romantic partners in hopes that someone will understand me. The bad part about that is that a lot of people (moreso the romantic partners) will use that against me too JUST LIKE MY PARENTS DID. Oh and …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:14 PM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? same 😭😭	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:10 PM
3	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? This is very true!! My parents aren’t “bad” people but they display some narcissistic traits and I cant trust them with anything. I never made the connection between my relationship with my parents and romantic partners until now. Thank you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:09 PM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? This is all great advice and yes I fear intimacy so bad because EVERY guy that I have been intimate with has used it against me, so I would rather be alone 🤷🏾‍♀️ at least I know I can trust myself	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:08 PM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? Same!! Except I dont love being avoidant because now I feel like every guy out there is trying to “prey” on me to eventually break down my barriers and then abuse me even more. Its really awful :(	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:07 PM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? Yeah I would rather be avoidant than anxious too but I’m still in between both of those, especially when I’m really into a guy. But in reality, I have always dealt with narcissists so thats probably why. I cant wait until I meet a guy that makes me feel secure. Until then, I’m going to continue working on myself!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:05 PM
1	Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt? Sorry for replying late, I couldnt respond to people because I didnt have a “flair” on this subreddit for days but anyway....yes I struggle A LOT with cutting people off but I have gotten better at it. Honestly I’m debating on cutting my guy friend off right now but I’m struggling 😩 It’s tiring dealing with people that are not up to par anymore.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 08:03 PM
5	How I've been feeling. Yes I feel the exact same way these days 😔	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/21 03:46 PM
42	I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women. I’m definitely a lib dem and I will even say that this hookup culture is a scam for women!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/21 01:48 PM
3	FR Date after Cold approach K-close THANK YOU!! Omg I was seriously wondering wtf is wrong with people. There’s nothing that OP could of done better except the trying to overstay his welcome at her place part. Next time he needs to take a hint and not worry about how long it will take to get inside her house (and in her pants). This is why women should never invite a guy over unless they are actually dating. Also, two weeks is way too long. She will think you don’t like her and move on long before two weeks is up. I would be annoy…	/r/seduction	18/01/21 05:35 PM