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Question For Menjerrywheels/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:13 PM
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Nope: my guy friends who are single have significant issues. You can tell they have terrible social skills. Or drug and alcohol problems. Sadly, Im the only woman most of them have ever been friends with. They are much worse at interacting with women. And many of them have tested MY boundaries much too often. And I am simply an acquaintance/Casual friend. Furthermore, my male friends who DO have gfs also have significant issues. They just have cars and a little more confidence. I fully expect th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:13 PM
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Lol well I mean even if women get married they are still likely to die alone. My grandma outlived her husband by 45 years! She had a whole other life after him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:28 PM
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I totally think this is it. Even in the last decade, and especially since Covid, my community has degraded and people have isolated themselves. Young Men and women both seem to have mental and emotional issues mixed in with heavy substance abuse. Most men don’t wanna be husbands either! At least young ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:25 PM
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I loved this one guy since we were young and his mental illness just got progressively worse as we aged to the point where he is now like that. He became disgusting to me. Wouldn’t quite say it’s hardwired for women to love this behaviour, it was really a terrible experience to watch someone I cared about become completely dead inside lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 09:24 PM
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Yuuuuup I live in a rural poor area and there is just not a lot of options. Many people are addicted and abusive. Or at the very least traumatized from living in a violent and drug riddled city. And things like verbal/physical abuse, cheating, stealing, manipulation are common… it’s all just a part of the lifestyle. What do you expect if you know no better? Growing up in this environment, it’s absolutely hard to claw your way out and start asking for respect. Especially as a low earning woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 09:12 PM
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On the plus side, everyone in your dating field is older, hence less looks orientated anyways. My grandma is 70 and overweight has had better luck dating than I have lately lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 01:00 AM
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Still misleading and shows poor morals
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 09:52 PM
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But life isn’t static like that. People change their consistency and routines and goals all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 08:59 PM
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Ur comment hits the nail on the head. Society en masse seems to see teen/young women as fully mature, socially vindictive creatures. When really they are just kids too. There’s such a push to get teen girls to become sexual (broad example, the creepy countdowns young celebs get for their 18th bdays) and then when some of them give in to that ‘slut’ image, men turn the table and make it their mission to punish them for it. It’s so sad there’s this idea that young women know exactly what they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 08:57 PM
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Just the way he worded it, it seemed like he was referencing virgins. What am I missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 08:43 PM
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Yeah I agree, that’s exactly why men shouldn’t have long term sex with women they dislike :D
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 08:24 PM
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Cos these men are LIAAAARS lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:28 AM
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Nah you men could shame these other guys for treating young women like dog shit. But instead chads are idolized. And y’all tell women to choose better, as if that’s easy for young girls in this world, most of whom have never seen examples of ‘good’ men. The best part is even the ‘good’ guys can switch up and be insanely abusive. As a woman, you never know what you are getting into.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:26 AM
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By ur logic all ‘good’ men are looking for virgins?I severely doubt that. None of my girlfriends are virgins and no men have ever rejected them as relationships/marriage material. There’s a difference between being a porn star or prostitute and like, having a few boyfriends as a teen/young adult lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 06:07 AM
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I was attracted to an ‘bad boy’ once upon a time but he definitely put on a nice facade for me. And then I found out about the shit he did to other people/women and I was like WTF LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 05:49 PM
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But it is LOL. It’s immoral to hide your intentions, and frankly desperate to continually resort to deceptive intimate relations
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 11:05 PM
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Men are lazy and won’t do what’s needed to finalize it most of the time. Would rather stay for the benefits and have open ended situations, with the security of the wife back home
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:38 AM
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Fair. I too need to be attracted to someone. But I don’t necessarily need to LIKE their personalities. It’s so much better if they are likeable and hot though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:14 PM
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Yeah I think that people can get comfortable and just keep it goin for too long. But relationships are a little different. If she was just a casual booty call to you, would you have pursued it for as long?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:13 PM
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Sounds like she loves Your dick. Specifically. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:48 AM
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Meh just wondering opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:42 AM
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Ah I don’t think they are evil per se. B) indifferent to the repercussions of having a child, yes. Careless. Lazy. Men stick it anywhere and don’t think a second thought. And young women are naive and fold easily when it comes to protection and recognizing shitty men in general. And then there’s some poor kid who’s parents hate each other, cycle continues. men can and literally do just run away lol. It’s not evil, but cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:42 AM
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So how long do you, as a man, sleep with her for? In either situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:53 AM
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Straight up, I bet you this man/situation-ship is killing her self esteem for real
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:51 AM
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I mean in both scenarios you give, a man is wanting to have sex with a woman he sees no future with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:09 AM
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I agree that letting her go is for the best absolutely. When do you think you grew out of that phase?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:57 AM
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So even though you had a great time with this girl, why not commit? What was holding you back? The bad outfits?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:32 PM
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do you seek them out? Or do you let them come to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:12 PM
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So theoretically some of the men who go back in for more must care on some level?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:53 PM
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Ok so once the drama starts you back out right?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:52 PM
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I agree. It breaks my brain trying to imagine why someone would want one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:50 PM
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So do you ever plan on settling down? And do these women like you? Or are they aware of the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:40 PM
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So it’s just easier for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:38 PM
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So why not just fuck those girls instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:35 PM
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Is it better when you do like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:31 PM
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Yeah this is where dudes get it wrong. Don’t pillow talk a woman you don’t care about, even if she is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:30 PM
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Hahaha yes I can see that from both sides. Marriage is a strange thing, but the commitment is there at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:30 PM
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Oh definitely not born again virgin here lol. Just taking a break. I don’t expect celibacy from any future partners, and this is why I say I don’t plan on making a man wait until marriage. I understand that my past prevents me from being a lil trad girl wife, I just want someone who understands that I do not want sex with them until we love and trust each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:28 PM
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It is sad I think :( men can be very extreme and sometimes take RP too far, and I think it really takes over those good parts of masculinity and replaces them with distrust of women, selfishness, loneliness. It’s one thing to have many women want to sleep with you, but its just not nearly as deep and fulfilling as one woman who loves you despite anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:25 PM
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Nope, I’m not raised in a religious part of the world, and I literally know no voluntarily celibate people at all. I tried dating, and (full disclosure) sex, and have decided that i don’t want to participate until I find someone who I love and trust. I’m probably not going to wait until marriage to have sex again, but I want a serious relationship, because I’ve learned that I take sex seriously, even if most other people around me don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:20 PM
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I guess, some women are able to feel this way. I personally would be crushed if I was her. That’s too damn long to be having sex without any love lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:16 PM
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Why
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:14 PM
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From what I observe, men aren’t even good at casual relationships. They often future fake and get lovey dovey, and of course it confuses the women. And surely is a reason to be mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:13 PM
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All I’m saying is, seems precarious, and there are probably more feelings involved than you are aware of. Women love sex, I’m upset I have to withhold it, lest I be treated like shit lol. But that’s the way of the world right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:09 PM
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Yup some young men seem to have no standards. It’s sad for everyone. I was in a similar situation with male roommates and they were sleeping with women they didn’t love and it was uncomfortable for everyone, including us other tenants who were grossed out by the general level of depravity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:07 PM
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I agree if a man loses his empathy, he loses his humanity too. How do you live and love without empathy? Bleak
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:04 PM
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Same I am now voluntarily celibate lol. I am doooone with dating without purpose, but it’s pretty popular among young people it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:01 PM
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True lol, but I still assume they are doing some sort of convincing, to get these women in this state at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:55 PM
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Can relate
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:51 PM
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Well these young women obviously lol? And these men always seem to stick around for a lil while, future fake until the kid is born and then take off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:50 PM
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I genuinely think it’s a mix of both. Men are like ‘yeah she wanted to bang me so hard bro she was begging for it’ to their friends but meanwhile he was the one who reached out, acted like a simp and made false statements just so he could hit again lol. I am friends with both genders and I see their relationships from both sides and it’s wild 😂 my guy friends do this shit to their hookups and exes all the time. And yea it comes off as manipulative, especially when I hear their gfs side
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:45 PM
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Lol 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:31 PM
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But you wouldn’t be the one to seek it out? Just let her come to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:21 PM
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That’s true too most men have zero idea what they are doing in bed. Good luck out there though, wouldn’t be surprised if that one does a baby trap or somethin on ur ass eventually lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:20 PM
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Also not to mention men that settle for some mid wife, treat her like shit and STILL don’t want her to leave. This situation happens in so many different combos
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:17 PM
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I’m young, I see other young women doing this shit all the time. A lot of pretty, successful and other wise smart women holding out for a young man who’s using his youth as an excuse to not give full commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:14 PM
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Oh boy I doubt you are doin that woman any favours lol. It always blows up eventually, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:13 PM
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Oh yeah people definitely delude themselves into hoping for more, men and women. And that’s a problem. But it’s also a problem when the desired person knows they feel that way and continues to keep stoking the fire and leading them on, it makes it soooo much harder to move forward, especially when you get those little breadcrumbs of hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:11 PM
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All pussy under like 40 is pre much guaranteed to be wet. Why bother the same girl over and over
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:07 PM
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That’s what I am learning at 22. Men will tip toe around what they really want you for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:06 PM
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You sure about that bud lol. I suspect you are gonna get an earful sooner or later
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:05 PM
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Idk easy sex I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:04 PM
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I see men do this all the time. They have the understanding that this woman isn’t relationship material, and they assume bc they treat the woman with little effort that she also understands. It seems men do a bad job of really saying their intentions, hence the temper tantrums that scorned women give after wasting ten years having sex with the same dude. Because a one time ‘I’m not ready for a relationship’ statement is really not enough, especially if the dude just keeps coming back for more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:04 PM
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I’m 22 so I’m just leaving that phase of life. But still see many young men acting a fool and playing around, having unprotected sex with women they don’t care for. Lots of girls I know have become single moms in the last two years lol. Seems many dudes aren’t ready to step up or act with honesty just yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:57 PM
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I haven’t mentioned the friend zone but it’s very much like the fuck zone in some ways. I agree that women should not lead on their male friends and give them false hope, just as men shouldn’t fuck women and give them false hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:53 PM
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I guess for me I’m rather conservative. I quickly learned to not have sex with people I wouldn’t want a kid with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:51 PM
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Well from what I have witnessed in Reality… yes. Men will have malicious intent and go to great lengths to keep women that they KNOW they don’t love under their thumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:50 PM
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I agree that it’s on the woman if the man clearly states his feelings. In an ideal world everyone would be more honest (like this) about their intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:49 PM
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So basically use girls you DONT like for sex because it’s safer
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:48 PM
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Oh both are bad but one is worse than the other for sure. And in this case, I feel like leading on the same woman for longer than six months is worse for her ‘value’
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:47 PM
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So like do you keep having sex and put off the truth that you don’t like her? So you can keep it going?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:46 PM
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Thanks! I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:45 PM
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So these men who avoid that initial rejection, avoid any emotional convos, are they just putting it off because they know once they fess up that they are getting the boot?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:43 PM
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Ok. You meet a girl when ur young, you guys fuck around on and off for years. She clearly cares. Maybe she’s a little immature or cold though. She’s hot gets ur rocks off but you don’t want to commit. Do you keep hitting her up? Despite knowing she wants more?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:41 PM
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Well it does come down to the fact that is often brought up here, she’s on a bio timer and you are not. So yes you can give her a good time and basic respect as a fuck buddy, but after that you can pack up and find a younger woman to marry and support and impregnate. But depending on how long you carry that relationship on, she might not have the ability to get her shit together and do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:39 PM
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So why prevent her from moving on. Seems immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:36 PM
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Nah like hot but maybe a lil crazy. Clean record and Pussy. Do you keep doin it until she goes off the deep end?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:34 PM
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See this is more reasonable to me. I can understand this, you have some fun, know there aren’t feelings, so you move on. Let her move on too. What I can’t understand is men who come back for yeaaaaars and still can’t swing commitment. Like they must like these women on some level, to swing back and keep them on the hook.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:32 PM
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Exactly what you are doin right now. So she’s hot, but she’s young and doesn’t have her shit together. How long do you plan on keeping this goin? Until she ages out and never has hope for recovering and finding a good ltr?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:30 PM
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Ok so do you still have sex with the same woman for years and never offer commitment? Or do you just move on?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:27 PM
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So you aren’t gonna string her a long for years? Or do you just keep her in the contacts for those lonely nights lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:27 PM
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Say she’s hot though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:25 PM
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Hilarious. Exactly what I said, bag of bricks. Almost everything in that list, are things that men are notorious for doing. You ask a woman out, she might check 1 or 2. MAYBE. I ask a man out and I am risking 4 or more. Don’t play stupid and act like men don’t make up the majority of alcoholics, criminals, and abusers. Or absent parents for that matter. I’m sure I could find you sources but you could also… go outside and look around at the world lol. And for your inquiry, I absolutely have pursu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:05 AM
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it’s like talking to a bag of bricks trying to explain over and over how: many men are boring, many men are obese, many men don’t brush their teeth, many men don’t have jobs, many men will rape you (even your husband), many men would abuse you, many men don’t know how to clean, many men would cheat, many men would leave if you got cancer, many men will trade for a younger wife, many men would abandon their families, many men are alcoholics. THESE are the things women deal with when dating. This …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:18 AM
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23 and just dating and sex in general. Men seem to be put off if I show too much initiative, def get treated better when I let men approach and let them feel like they are in charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:51 AM
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Every time I as a woman try to take the lead… men don’t like it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:08 PM
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Some of my friends are cheaters and while I have not excommunicated them, I do give them shit for it, coz it’s pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 02:57 PM
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Yeah I’m a 5’6 woman and even this seems to be enough to intimidate even some tall dudes. Kinda fckin sucks bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:39 PM
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I’m still calling ur bluff, if sex was ‘just like pissing’ for men they would not seek it out so often or tie their self worth so strongly to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:55 AM
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I don’t see how you can cheat and still love someone. When you cheat you put ur partner at considerable risk, whether health wise with stds, emotionally by getting attached to another partner, or financially when the man stupidly knocks up his side piece. Ur notion that men are built for this is wrong and built on selfishness, low morality and chimp science.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:26 PM
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Also I’m confused what your argument is, how do women not control their urges? In every sense, they do control their urges better than men. They are much less likely to rape or fight or be involved in illegal activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:44 PM
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Bio soup bullshit. Men and women both have to control their urges, and if they are a decent person they do. If not, well, man or woman they are in for a life of no love and lies in exchange for multiple sex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:39 PM
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So back in the day I was a real nerd and read a lot of fanfic. Specifically gay man fanfic. Funnily, majority of these homoerotic fanfics were written by young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:57 PM
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Only like 15% of them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:45 PM
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No, women liking tall men is more of a preference. Hell, my hot cousin married a 5’4 man. I didn’t say men shouldn’t have preferences. Absolutely men should date and procreate with women they think are good looking, it would be pathetic to sleep with a woman you find gross. I said Men should stop acting like they can’t control themselves. Because y’all can. Ur not programmed to nut in ten women. You could, but you would be acting like a chimp. And I would say we should all strive against being p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:51 PM
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This argument just pushes the idea that men are like clueless chimps that can’t control themselves lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:26 AM
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As an avoidant person, yeah ur gonna have to take the initiative and be more secure
/r/seduction23/10/22 05:03 AM
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Seriously, everyday chads become like dildos at a certain point. After you deal with them it becomes pretty obvious they don’t have that much going on except sex and like, a beer league sports team.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:05 PM
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Men go craziest for me when I bleach my hair. This has been at every age thus far, I always get the most attention after I dye it blonde.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:50 PM
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Absolutely agree with you on the sadistic nature. Many men I have known are like this (friends, roommates, coworkers and partners) … they have a pattern of attempting to undermine my good opportunities and trying to one up me. We are their scapegoats. Many seem to want women to fail because it reinforces that built-in male superiority complex. It’s so annoying it drives me crazy. I will say I do love winning debates against my dude friends though, it’s enjoyable seeing their defeat after popping…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 06:45 PM
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This line doesn’t work for women bc most men don’t respect us on the most basic human level. women were keeping sweet to the men forever before now out of necessity. You can’t change the world being ‘nice’ 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 06:05 PM
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I am so extraordinarily grateful I have had the chance to explore my sexuality and was not forced into marriage and children with the first man I had sex with, unlike almost every women before my time (and many women even today!), it is such a privilege. I guess many men don’t understand sexual compatibility the same, as they would, as the joke goes, have sex with a junior chicken sandwich. But I’ve been able to learn through sex and a few relationships what I want and what I don’t want. And som…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:02 PM
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THIS good sir, is a cop out. Men can work out, men can can get plastic surgery (women do under this expectation of trying), men can learn how to dress stylishly and take care of their teeth and skin. But overwhelmingly they don’t, because society has said it’s for some reason okay for men to not try at all if they don’t immediately succeed with women. My lady friend for example; fat, not working and mentally ill. She got a boyfriend who was quite in her league: also mentally Ill and not working,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:27 PM
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But they aren’t though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 04:47 PM
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Yeah he judged me for wanting to buy my own house and not just move in with him after two months lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 04:47 PM
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No it’s not common. I’m 22 dated a 30 year old and all my friends hated it. It was okay at first but then he revealed that he was jealous and also wanted to move way too fast. We were at way different points of life and he wanted to pretend that it wasn’t an issue between us, meanwhile we had nothing in common. Also a lot of 30 year olds don’t even HAVE more resources; this guy didn’t at least. So it was pretty much the same as dating a younger man, except this guy was balding and had a mortgage…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:29 PM
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Im genuinely shocked, so you are saying ALL women in your whole life just want to use you? Seems like a stretch, I’ve just never seen this in real life. Sure here and there a man gets asked to change a tire or move a book shelf but not nearly en masse like your life. Maybe the women I know are just more competent at life. I think more traditional communities or families infantilize women and keep them out of garages and construction zones, which in turn makes the women rely on men for these thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 06:07 PM
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Yikes you have shitty woman friends lol. My friend group is both men and women and no one gets used for labour.. if anything the guys in the group use each other to fix their crappy cars. Our hangouts consist of game nights, camping and beers. Sorry you have such terrible luck making friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:39 PM
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Why do all the dads keep disappearing then? I myself have my father in my life but he was not really ‘present’ in child rearing, and pretty much ignored us while growing up. Never came on vacations, didn’t want to go to the park, etc. Felt like I had a single mom a lot of the time. He spoils my brothers and encourages them to act on their aggression which I don’t agree with. Nor does he think they need to learn how to clean or cook. I think both moms and dads are usually very unprepared on how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:36 AM
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Women like sex too though? I understand not wanting someone with a super high body count but western society encourages both genders to experiment and have sex, why should women be shamed and men celebrated?
/r/seduction14/09/22 03:29 AM
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Ur getting downvoted but like low key think ur right. Men want ‘innocent’ and I think this is rooted in Pedophilic tendencies. Not even to mention how many 30+ men on Reddit are chasing after 18-20 yr old women, claiming they are ‘most fertile’ and prime breeding age. Pedophilia runs deeeeeep.
/r/seduction14/09/22 03:28 AM
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As a young woman who’s doing pretty okay for myself; I notice some men my age who aren’t doing quite as well (say, living at home, no job experience) almost try to … punish me ? It’s as if they are jealous I have moved out and try to support myself. One man actually discouraged me from getting my education. Weaponized sex, getting kicks out of abandoning me. Many weird vibes dating young men in this day and age. I really think the internet and porn have sent young men down a dangerous path. It’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 03:04 AM
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Every time I date a man I feel as I am pawed at by a dog. Hounded for sex and disappointed by reality. Zero concept of personal space and time too. The last man I dated would drink soda right before bed and didn’t see why he should brush his teeth… was astounded when I dumped him. I’m sorry, you are 30, you should know better than to be drinking sugary drinks, avoiding personal hygiene, and trying to hump me after I explicitly say no. I’m young (22), fit, hardworking and care for my looks. I’m n…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:58 AM
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Interesting to see how big he has blown up, this can only lead to an even larger increase in narc men coming, as young men watch and idealize these disordered traits. I fear for the future
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 09:05 PM
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Three men I have dated wanted long term commitment. All were content to sit at home and watch Netflix and order takeout as SOON as we were in an established relationship. Also, judged me for wanting alone time with my family and friends. Two even going so far as to try to guilt and isolate me for this desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 09:02 PM
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‘Dark triad man’ is such a joke. Narc men are a dime a dozen. The ones who succeed are hot, and that’s why they get sex, not because of their diabolical leanings. One thing ugly and hot narc men DO have in common: a lack of fulfilling relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:59 PM
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I am fearful to get married to a man. I have guy friends too and I see how many of them think of women so interchangeably. And these are average dudes. I would rather be financially independent and alone than be left on the curb like that one day. Or, how so many men change for worse after having children, becoming lazy and cruel and letting themselves go. Terrifying thoughts, and you never can really know someone’s true nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:13 PM
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Meh narc men pull drama stunts ALL the time. I think this is more of a personal thing rather than gendered. People who grow up in chaos tend to keep seeking that out as adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:55 PM
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narcs ARE easy to spot once you’ve dealt with a couple. In fact, NPDs act in almost textbook manner. I think the internet and social isolation is making more narcs, both men and women. It is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:48 PM
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I think I will still prefer men my own age, at least within a four year range. I dated a man 8 years older and there was too much of a culture gap lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 05:55 AM
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As a 21 year old woman, no. I prefer men my own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:45 AM
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My grandma is old and fat and still has men chasing her. I plan to take care of my body and skin and am not too concerned. At 21, I have tried dating older men and they suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 11:03 PM
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Hate to break the news but older and average looking men are just as unhinged and terrible as attractive young ones. Not sure why you assume I’ve only been dating chads. In fact, the most ugly man I have dated happened to make me feel the craziest and most insecure, due to his mental health issues, which are a dime a dozen these days. And 30 year olds just look at me like a trophy piece that they want to knock up immediately, they couldn’t care less about my personality. Which is concerning as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:47 PM
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Men either are way too clingy or totally distant. Like, ‘move in with me’ after two months or ‘you just some dumb slut’ after knowing them for ten years. Both genders cheating. I am a woman (22) and I have had an awful experience dating. The guys are so obsessed and controlling sometimes, it makes me want to be alone. And the one I really cared about went narc ego crazy so he just detached from me and tries to float in and out of my life. I think the internet ruined us all, men and women are all…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:09 PM
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God I miss my ugly lil dicked ex boyfriend. Sadly he (almost) played pro sports and it inflated his ego to monstrous levels so he just started sleeping wit ALL the ladies. Dick size is not that important for slaying puss
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:56 PM
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Obviously I could tell. It ended our relationship. I’m just saying this is what will men do. Very vulnerable position to be in (naked and upset) and I was lucky enough that I could walk away. Many woman get raped or coerced into raw sex in these situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:25 AM
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https://maps.reproductiverights.org/worldabortionlaws Looks like it’s about half the world who can access on request… the rest is varying levels of illegality. Ireland just legalized abortions a couple of years ago.. after they forced a mother to carry dead fetus to term which in turn gave her an infection and killed her. I hate this narrative that all women have abortion at their fingertips 24/7.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 06:13 PM
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Yea but that’s a part of it too… just another responsibility that falls all on the women. Countless times my male partners have whined about condoms.. one even pretended to put one on as I was worried about pregnancy. No responsibility and no respect for the consequences. Disdain.. for if I was to get pregnant it would be all my fault right.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 06:09 PM
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My man friends even admitted this shit, they said they automatically think women are less intelligent and hysterical in general, and baseline take her much less seriously than a random man. Even if she hasn’t done anything crazy yet. But also said they would not want a woman who was too smart or educated because then they would feel emasculated. LOL. So women are boring and dumb and not funny… but when they do happen to be these things, some men get turned off because they need to be superior. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:52 PM
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Any young woman who’s having sex is going to be dealing with the side effects and possibility of unwanted pregnancy tho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:30 PM
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The vast majority of women around the world do not have access to birth control or abortions. Basically only western woman have this privilege and it is being taken away for some of them as well (hello, Texas!). Most woman do not get the choice and I wish men would look at the facts and admit this. Childbirth is still a leading cause of death for young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 05:38 PM
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A mans perps- add everything that has two eyes, offer the cheapest most low effort dates possible, and then get upset when the one or two women who did match and actually put effort in don’t want to have sex immediately after meeting. Don’t forget to lie about important things like; your height, smoking status, unemployment, etc. Woman are superficial if they care about that shit anyways!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 05:32 PM
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As a woman I have had the exact opposite effect. When I make the first move the mans ego blows up and he thinks I’m desperate lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 05:13 PM
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I sincerely doubt that stat is true lol but I too would love to see that source
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 06:06 PM
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Yup they gotta have those disability glasses on
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 06:02 PM
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I agree, it’s not invisible. Average women aren’t. Really ugly women are. But the op said average and I am rather invisible to most men in my age, weight and social standing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 05:59 PM
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Tried dating apps but it sucks, got decent amount of matches but not realized I’m not interested in texting strangers Yes, it has worked sometimes Yes, he used it to his advantage and then dumped after, or try to make me a regular booty call Lol Part of majority I’m hot enough for men to still want to fuck. But the only men who really compliment me are old or drunk. I had a few guys want to date in high-school. Since then it’s been pretty lonely. Most of it has been pandemic though. Tried a ‘fwb…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 10:58 PM
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Lol hot women also have cars, gym memberships and careers that they pay for on top of the beauty shit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 08:20 PM
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LOL yeah lower to standards to smash and dash. Women aren’t gonna bother with that game
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 11:46 PM
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Staying single lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 02:57 AM
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This is how I feel about dating men as well 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:06 AM
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This lol. Everyone here be mad about the facts of life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 08:38 PM
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men string along women they hate just to have sex all the time too, but spending 30$ on an Applebee’s date is worse I guess eh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 05:09 AM
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I have only fucked good looking, tall, lean men. But I am also thin and tall. And when they start pulling asshole Behavior they got dumped so fast. So yes to the muscles no to the bad boy. Bad boys were hot in highschool, but here we are five years later, and a man who is emotionally stunted and sells drugs looks pathetic more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:01 PM
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Actually as a woman who got abused, many guys do tell me this. They judge me for picking the wrong ones. Not like these guys were putting on a whole fake persona for months or anything, right? I truly believe many men are great at manipulation. They are giving their all for the first three months in a relationship, and then it completely back slides and the abuse comes out. I really feel women are more, you get what you see, especially because they are more emotionally open to just about everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:22 PM
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Again, being used for a 20 dollar Panera date is not equal to getting used for sex . A simple rejection is not lying. Most women are not saying ‘You are so so cute and awesome and I would date you but I just can’t right now lawl’. They are ignoring or polite decline already.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:16 PM
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So what do you suggest women do? Shut up and fuck the ugly guys? Because every other option is met with complaints from guys like you. No ones lying when they say, yeah he’s cool but he’s not for me. That’s not rude. It’s not lying. Listen, women get rejected too. It’s just after future faking and being used for sex for months lol, then men like to go ‘I always thought you were terrible, I was just taking what I could get’. Personally, I’d rather a man politely say, No thanks, then use me and le…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:59 PM
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Didn’t say that. I said a divorce rape like Heard vs Depp is literally impossible for the average person. Completely off the table. Yeah you might get abused if you pick a mentally unstable woman, or worse, use red pill tactics to MAKE a woman crazy.... but no average man is getting amber crazy, because no average man is Johnny depp. you aren’t a millionaire. Vast majority of women don’t want your money. They also have to work and make their own
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:55 PM
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Oh my god we are in 2021 we know people don’t choose homosexuality. I can’t choose to date women, because unlike men, to do sexual acts with someone I am Unattracted to is repulsive. But possibly one day, I might live with female friends and create a home with them, as it might be more healthy and stable than with a husband. I still won’t be having sex with her LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:51 PM
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LOL i don’t know any women who pretend dudes they find ugly are getting a chance. No female that’s past high school acts like this. The truth is of course looks matter, but if a guy doesn’t have the personality to back it up he’s eventually getting dumped as well. Women don’t bother ugly men the same way men treat ugly women. Like what do you want women to do? Woman bad for being nice to ugly man, woman bad for not paying attention to ugly man >:( seems woman has no option
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:46 PM
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Heard vs depp is such an outlier case. The average man and woman (chad or not) is not high profile or rich enough for this scenario to be a realistic concern lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 07:29 AM
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This whole sub seems very red lately
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:42 AM
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Men don’t acknowledge ugly women either. Are you forgetting ugly women exist? And they don’t get sex at all either. Ugly women are seen as mutants to men. Personally as a quite average woman I feel like most men don’t see me as a ‘person’ anyways, whether they were crazy for me, or thought I was butt ugly. I’ve definitely been objectified and treated sub-humanly both ways. The interesting thing here is that men on both sides like to engage, by treating me as fresh meat, or the other ones, who tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:51 AM
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LOLOLOLOL at all the people who think wasting 50$ on a couple of dates is more ‘dehumanizing’ than being banged and strung along (for years sometimes) by a man who is pretending to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:30 AM
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This has been my exact experience initiating as a woman. Never again lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:57 AM
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As a woman who has initiated, men just see me as desperate.. even when I had been literally celibate for years and waiting for someone like them to come around and show interest in me. My Ex did flirt with me first, and I reciprocated too much interest early on, so he just took advantage because I was around and interested. And then I deal with the fallout of a ruined self esteem. Sure some women will take advantage of men’s initiating and attention but vast majority of them won’t get into bed a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:49 AM
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Young women also show high rates of sexless ness these days. we can look into China for that. When the average looking women is of higher education, higher pay, and higher maturity than the average looking man it is a problem. Why, most men these days are bringing NOTHING of value to young women. Hence why we see the younger Chinese women purposely choosing to stay celibate. Hell I see it in North America too. At 22 years old, the men my age, in my area, are vastly unemployed, uneducated, with n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:18 AM
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I feel like the video games and porn have helped to decrease the average man’s market value. It boosts egos, makes them expect more from women sexually, while at the same time instilling disrespect towards women. Plus, How many Jokes and posts about men putting video games and porn before their own girlfriends, children, etc... it’s a legit problem even for men who GET regular sex. I agree it sedates men to an extent. But I think this entertainment is doing more sinister things to their brains t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:05 AM
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Idk my fugly loser men friends pull women pretty easily. Deck out a Jetta, have an obnoxious level of confidence, buy some drinks for slightly younger ladies... and they score.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 10:25 PM
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This is a good comment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:55 PM
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What if you are a tall woman? Should I settle for a man the same height as me?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:53 PM
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My dad is ten years older than mom, they were both good looking. The problem is twenty years down the line, my dad is kind of an asshole. My mom def is healthier and contributes more to the household and children. And she has stuck by him regardless of his general laziness and negativity towards life. I know she’s had men hit on her even still but she’s never acted on it, and in fact my dad is the one who goes out and actually parties with friends still. And does all the demanding. Yet is still …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:27 PM
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Bruhhhh I’ve had a dude PRETEND to put a condom on. Said no to sex and had them five minutes later trying to stick it in. One ‘friend’ waited till everyone else had left the party to force himself on me while wasted... “Stop” is not a word a lot of men understand in my experience. Coerced ‘consent’ is real
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 02:46 AM
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Yeah and once they get the puss they treat their women WORSE than random men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 01:56 AM
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Lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 01:53 AM
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ur already verging on too old for these girls
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 06:29 AM
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I LOVE how men will get so stressed by the sight of a ‘what are we’ text that they immediately jump ship... so averse to clear communication
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:32 AM
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So yes young men have healthier sperm. Also, if they want to actually be a present parent it’s a lot easier to chase and play with kids when you are 25-35 than 40+. My father had me when he was young and my siblings when he was 45. He was not wanting to run around and play ball with them by the time he hit 50.
/r/askTRP08/09/20 05:53 PM
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https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/fact-or-fiction-men-have-biological-clocks/ https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/05/190513081409.htm
/r/askTRP08/09/20 05:49 AM
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Well young men DO produce healthier sperm
/r/askTRP08/09/20 04:32 AM
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I think everyone is getting sick of online dating at this point
/r/askTRP03/09/20 05:59 PM
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She just saying the truth, not all women are gonna be attracted to the fuckboi persona
/r/askTRP15/08/20 06:57 PM
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Just not sure how any of us are going to ever build healthy relationships when every interaction is a intangible ‘game’ lol.. real foolishness
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 06:30 PM
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It’s not cute and I’ve dumped men for this sort of behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 04:53 PM
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Are women actually asking you to do this for them? I have yet to meet one that expects this from a man
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 06:35 AM
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I dunno, a lot of men in my life seem to be playing this game that you speak of... maybe they do it because they think like you, that the women around them aren’t being genuine or honest. But in my experience, I’ve been extremely upfront with men and a lot of them are still trying to slither beneath a bar that’s already been set sooo low. And I’ve noticed men will also take the liberty of making a game of how much they can get away with. So I guess women ‘play the field’ and have back up options…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 06:31 AM
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Yea it’s rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 07:49 PM
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As a lady I do always seem to go for dudes who confuse me.
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