jesper_lundqvist Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
69	Feynman Sexist Pig!	Science	jesper_lundqvist	/r/TheRedPill	08/06/18 11:15 PM

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2	Ending first date with kiss? You are right in saying that not every girl whose attracted to you will let you take her home after a first date. However if there is sexual tension between you through the night, it will be more awkward for you not to kiss. Your mixed results may be because some girls aren't into you, they think you're not into them and then bam - you've tried to kiss her out of the blue and the whole thing becomes awkward. I'd say it's more important for you to get sensitive to the cues girls give off when the…	/r/askTRP	30/09/18 08:08 PM
6	Sliding in the DMs You're getting girls making the first move on you on social media and you're really wondering how to respond? Compared to matching up on Tinder and having to make the conversation happen, this should be like shooting fish in a barrel. If you're interested, your response should tend towards screening them for logistics, ie. where are you based/maybe we have met before but I wouldn't know for certain unless I saw you in person. In an era of mass social media and constant smartphone updates, girls …	/r/askTRP	29/09/18 10:26 PM
6	[FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple times Others have already covered most of the things that need to be said, and in very good detail too. What I would add is that if you think a girl wants to be kissed and you're not quite sure, you can take a lock of her hair and place it behind her ear. If she doesn't pull back, you're good to go. It's not strictly necessary, but it's handy because pretty much every girl understands what it means and if you're less experienced and misread her cues it's a much less awkward way for her to push you bac…	/r/TheRedPill	29/09/18 10:17 PM
1	[FR] Date ended on a sour note after she resisted escalation multiple times "or should 'have left if she was late'" I wouldn't treat that as gospel. One can get a little too autistic reading into why someone is late when it could be something as banal as the bus was late. Unless you have a good reason to think they're disrespecting you, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt. People normally reveal their attitudes pretty quickly in person anyway.	/r/TheRedPill	29/09/18 09:49 PM
3	Will getting a "fun" job (versus office) kill my SMV? No, not in the slightest. As far as women are concerned, there's nothing more boring than a corporate drone working in a 9-to-5 sausage fest and whose thoughts and actions are tailored to her approval (though he may well make a good "provider" husband, but that's precisely the kind of thinking this subreddit is trying to snap you out of). People with boring but stable jobs tend to end up as boring but stable people. The reality is that women don't notice the technicals or even the fundamentals o…	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 11:02 PM
1	American guy visiting UK (London Edinburgh Dublin). How to maximize SMV? Yeah, Glasgow is in the UK, but Scotland's kind of schizophrenic. The lowlanders are generally British but the highlanders are Celtic, Celto-Norse the farther North you go. Glasgow is pretty split and in the independence referendum they voted to remain in the UK by a slight margin. As I said, Irish people generally don't hook up with strangers unless they're over 35 and desperate, and most groups that go out together have no intention of meeting new people. If all else fails, Coppers will get yo…	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 10:28 PM
2	American guy visiting UK (London Edinburgh Dublin). How to maximize SMV? Dublin is not in the UK. Irish girls rarely hook up with people who don't "get" Irish culture and the fact you think Dublin is in the UK has you off to a very poor start. I wouldn't suggest hitting the clubs or bars unless you plan on hooking up with Brazilians or Spanish because most clubs Irish people actually go to are by word of mouth. Your best bet is Tinder because Irish girls are much looser if they know they'll never see you again, but for the love of God don't put "visiting the UK for a…	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 09:41 PM
5	How to get the girl? Probably means she has other options but doesn't want to rule you out entirely. Best just forget about her for now and if she shows actual interest respond accordingly.	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 01:18 PM
2	Does smoking cigarettes make you look like a bad boy/tough guy? Smoking is like getting tattoos, a long time ago it was an edgy habit of rebels, outcasts and tough guys, now everyone and their dog is doing it, thinking they look cool when they're actually lame as hell. My advice is to quit smoking now, otherwise you'll have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp by the time you're 40.	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 12:26 PM
13	How to get the girl? If you think a girl is interested in you, the last thing you want to do is make small talk. Either she will think you're not interested or she'll get creeped out because you're giving out contradictory signals. She was probably trying to save face by excusing herself. What you should have done is ask for her number/suggest meeting some other time because girls know exactly what this means and her response will tell you if she's interested without saying it outright. In this situation, you don't …	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 12:17 PM
6	I Can't Bring Myself to Cold Approach Anyone and I'm Frustrated Yeah, cold approach is hard and not very beneficial if you don't have a good level of inner congruence. You know full well you're cold approaching that girl (for example) because you want to get into her trousers and you feel uneasy about it, which makes her feel uneasy too because women notice these things very quickly. Until you develop the ability to drop an unconditional hook of conversation, I'd stick with warm approaches (people you have a "valid reason" to approach). This will make you mo…	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 12:07 PM
1	I fucked up and my girlfriend reprimanded me like a child. How to proceed? Then why are you letting her lecture you for sitting around the house doing nothing when you're not? Should have just said you had more important things to do than go along to this class, such as exercise, conversation over.	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 07:12 PM
1	Got fucked drunk and fucked a random girl and i regret it big time Are you really crying over 500 million spilt sperm cells?	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 04:01 PM
1	I fucked up and my girlfriend reprimanded me like a child. How to proceed? Go running and do some bodyweight training. It's free and will get you out of the house.	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 02:05 PM
1	What to make of this situation? You're feeling lust, not love. Remember that love is specific to a particular girl whereas lust only needs a girl to satisfy itself (provided she is not a landwhale of course). I wouldn't wait for her to take the initiative, if she's in any way interested that's what she's waiting for you to do. Text her (not date-related) and you'll quickly get a sense of whether or not she's up for meeting; but do keep talking to other girls, your tunnel vision may be making you pass up good opportunities.	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 01:49 PM
2	What to make of this situation? You have it backwards, you shouldn't be trying to secure a girl into a relationship, it should be her who does that. Your commitment is not something you should dish out lightly and should be reserved for people who are not going to flake on you. Women sense quickly that a man who gives away his commitment like that has few options and probably little to give either. On a side note, why haven't you made a move already? For girls it's more awkward if you are clearly interested but don't ask them …	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 01:15 PM
14	How to deal with: Tinder girls that reply too fast? In what world is a girl messaging back too fast a problem? She's excited about you, this should be one of your easiest lays ever.	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 11:50 AM
3	I fucked up and my girlfriend reprimanded me like a child. How to proceed? You really did box yourself into a corner by being a lazy slob (If what you say is true). If you were exercising regularly instead you wouldn't even be having this conversation. It sounds like if it weren't this it would be something else. The idea that going along to these classes is depriving her of things to bitch and somehow means you've kept frame is the wrong way to think about it. Compliance to avoid breaking frame is itself breaking frame. On the other hand, doing nothing would give her …	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 11:45 AM
2	What do you do to build confidence, to become funny and edgy, to build charisma etc? Do funny and edgy stuff. It will get you out of your comfort zone and connect you with your animalistic nature. Go on rollercoaster (all the better if you do it on your own). Do running, rock climbing and swimming. Hit a dancefloor sober and stay there. Your human intellectual personality is all well and good, but most people find it boring most of the time. Your sense of edge and wit is what allows you to communicate animal to animal and you can only do this is if you do things that force the a…	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 09:39 AM
1	How to compete at workplace? I would be careful about competing at work, this is not school where you'll get ahead of your peers while never competing with the teachers. At work, you are in a sense competing with everyone and the higher ups are more than happy to dangle a carrot in front of you to ensure your compliance while never actually threatening their positions. This is especially true in corporations where working hard is only ever rewarded with more work. The days of vertical mobility are gone. If you are serious a…	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 09:34 AM
12	[M25] How to get a better circle when you know literally no one? Being alone is not the issue, it's how you come across as alone that is. Most people who turn up alone to stuff are desperate and have nothing to offer the other people there. That's how you end up with these meetups that are flooded with randomers whose only thing in common is their lack of anything specific in common. Do not approach going out like these people because they will sense your neediness immediately and give you a wide berth. The way to approach going to stuff alone is do be willin…	/r/askTRP	13/09/18 09:20 AM
6	moment of weakness after losing a plate Flaking on her was a dick move, no wonder she said goodbye and left. This is what I don't like about the to-the-letter esteem TRP has for I-don't-give-a-fuck. You shouldn't give no fucks at all, just no fucks about stuff that isn't important. It's just one girl, it isn't worth becoming invested in someone who can walk away from you at a moment's notice but it's not a license to deliberately waste someone else's time unless you're willing to deal with the consequences of that. You're not a beta f…	/r/askTRP	10/09/18 05:20 PM
2	How do you go about approaching a woman in a nightclub where it's loud and hard to talk and you're there by yourself? Not that I know of, most Youtube dancing videos are more structured dancing, which is fine for formal occasions (stuff like salsa) but doesn't have the energy you need for a more primal stage. There are videos for dancing at clubs, but they tend to encourage you to be non-descript/ask a girl to dance (verbally) which is not what you want in that environment. I also think Youtube videos aren't very helpful because the way you dance depends on the type of place, music, age, country, etc. Most girl…	/r/askTRP	10/09/18 04:23 PM
1	How do you go about approaching a woman in a nightclub where it's loud and hard to talk and you're there by yourself? Clubs aren't for talking and making friends. They're for going out and acting like animals. If you can dance properly and communicate with your body, you don't need to bother with any of the social conventions you're concerned about. When it comes down to it: -the music is a conductor for people's moods. The awkward shufflers dance out of sync, which makes them even more awkward. People who let their bodies become batons for the time don't have to focus on dancing, so they relax and enjoy it -Hi…	/r/askTRP	10/09/18 02:47 PM
3	Improving SMV: unidimensional vs holistic It's more important that you don't have glaring weaknesses than it is that you max out a few strengths. There is a surprising number of ripped gymcels out there who have neglected other important things like cultivating an edge to their personality or using that killer instinct at the right time. It doesn't matter how successful you are in a particular dimension if you mess up something like logistics. You're better off eliminating your weaknesses than you are maximising your strengths.	/r/askTRP	10/09/18 02:21 PM
0	Social circle game fuck-up? They probably don't think they're meeting you for a date, girls in college have a very broad definition for "just friends". It sounds like you've done sliding into DMs the right way, but unless there was sexual tension before, meeting up is going to be one of those speculative things where you don't know if there's any real attraction until you're there. Going out as a group would be best here because it's just faster at screening who's interested and who's not.	/r/askTRP	10/09/18 02:09 PM
1	Direct Game Vs. Indirect Game - Which Is Better? Because the approach itself is what drives them off. Any girl who stays around when you are that direct is clearly attracted to you so that is a "great indicator" as you say, but it is also an extremely inefficient way of picking up girls. The PUA scene is full of guys who have undergone reams and reams of rejections and come out with very little to show for it. Their problem is clearly goes beyond screening.	/r/TheRedPill	09/09/18 03:36 AM
4	Direct Game Vs. Indirect Game - Which Is Better? Chris Rock said when the average guy talks to a girl he finds attractive, any sentence he said can be replaced with, "Want some dick?" That sums up about 99% of cold approaches and why they fail. The intent is clear from the outset even though neither party explicitly acknowledges it. Women don't so much want the dick as much as the man who's attached to it, which is why women screen men through shit tests and the like. There's tons of thirsty guys that have nothing to offer her, so why would sh…	/r/TheRedPill	07/09/18 03:17 PM
22	Direct Game Vs. Indirect Game - Which Is Better? I don't think direct game and indirect game is the right way to think about it except for some very specific circumstances. For direct game: a guy who is direct with a woman about sex is the equivalent of a woman who is direct with a guy about relationships. Talk of either provokes an anxiety in men and women about locking themselves into a bad decision. That's why women have last minute resistance about sex and also why men have fear of commitment to a relationship (and these two fears are seld…	/r/TheRedPill	07/09/18 09:40 AM
2	Women react to Drake hugging 18 y.o model It's not so much what they say about other women but also what it implies about the men who hook up with them (that they're opportunistic creeps). Highlighting this kind of shaming gossip makes it easier to recognise and dismiss when it comes up.	/r/TheRedPill	27/08/18 09:20 AM
26	Women react to Drake hugging 18 y.o model I notice when women get older (and also men, but especially women) they speak in a heavier, sterner more war weary way. There are exceptions but it is a psychological aging as well as a physical aging. What women don't realise is that we can look past a few lines on their face (which we probably won't notice anyway) if they act genuinely youthfully. They think that the reason we don't want to fuck them is because of their age when really it is because they are not feminine anymore. Some middle a…	/r/TheRedPill	27/08/18 09:12 AM
6	Why Millennial Men are failing The millennial rabbit hole is a deep one. Every generation gets stick from the generations above it but I think millennials are unique in blaming their woes on every generation above them (particularly boomers). You can blame your elders for preparing you poorly for the world (which this post accurately pinpoints) but that wears really thin after the age of about twenty. Most millennials are in their 30s now and yet their Facebook posts are still full of autistic screeching about how somebody el…	/r/TheRedPill	24/08/18 12:44 PM
3	They were never oppressed, they were bored You're nitpicking here. He said nothing about the underlying motivations of people who design domestic appliances, just that their products are intended to make women's lives easier. If they didn't, they wouldn't sell.	/r/TheRedPill	25/07/18 02:31 PM
2	Regarding the endless Debate between PUA and TRP: Just pick one and do it. Ah yes you're right, it was Chris Rock. While being the best man you can be is not enough, I disagree that Silicon Valley geeks are demonstrative of why that's not enough. On the surface, their game with women is crap and most of them don't even know it, so it would seem that game/PUA stuff would help them. The problem is that these guys (who often end up looking up PUAs in the first place) focus on only one dimension of excellence (maybe two) to the neglect of the rest. If the standards you hol…	/r/TheRedPill	05/07/18 11:23 PM
8	Regarding the endless Debate between PUA and TRP: Just pick one and do it. PUA stuff feels weird and awkward to the uninitiated because the way you act is at odds with who you are - and women are much more sensitive to your emotions than you are. The successful guys either act out a more exaggerated version of themselves or they're good actors. It's not something for the average guy to emulate because the whole conversation is a thinly-veiled way of saying, "How about some dick?" (to quote a comedian whose name eludes me). It's difficult for most people to keep up that…	/r/TheRedPill	05/07/18 10:19 PM
5	Felt like a god This post reeks of wannabe-alpha validation-seeking. Cancelling a date to go to the bar is not an abundance mentality, it's a low-value behaviour and bragging about IDGAF and having sex carries little weight if you actually have to spell it out. Those three couples have pretty low standards if they're impressed by the kind of boasting that any bog-standard PUA can pull off. Nothing Red Pill about this post.	/r/TheRedPill	02/07/18 12:55 AM
4	The bitch face I don't know what country you're in, but it sounds like she was up for sex but didn't want to spell it right out for fear of getting a reputation as the town bicycle. Your asking what about her roommates probably demanded her to be much more clear about her intentions than she was comfortable with, so it's hard to see her saying anything other than it's just a beer. After all, sex is perfectly acceptable, as long as "it just happened".	/r/TheRedPill	01/07/18 12:20 AM
1	Girls to be beware of Yeah, she's got a thing for men with small dicks.	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 02:37 PM
1	Girls to be beware of Aye, tis a good step up from screwing your sister!	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 02:03 PM
1	Girls to be beware of Well they say to pay attention to what women do, not what they say. Maybe the same should apply to you as well. I might have taken you seriously if you had made the same point in a calm and detached manner, but your sheer level of hostility and invective leaves me in no doubt that your jimmies have been thoroughly rustled.	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 12:13 PM
1	Girls to be beware of If you weren't in the anger phase, you wouldn't have got so butthurt when you were called out on it.	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 11:28 AM
1	Why is oneitis bad, but not meaning in life? Why is TRP not fully red pill? TRP is amoral. It does not make judgements on ethics, it is merely a manual for action. This is very basic stuff. Life is hard. TRP is not like clinging on to a log in the sea, it's like learning to swim so that you don't rely on the log or the boat in the first place. The moment you take control of your circumstances and cease to live your life on terms you don't want is the moment you cease to be a bitch.	/r/askTRP	22/06/18 09:03 AM
1	Can one make a comeback from being a beta-boyfriend? I think this is an interesting question. One of the things I have noticed about men is that we are nowhere near as hierarchical as society would lead us to believe. Our circles don't need hierarchies to function, they're simply convenient to have. There's a considerable degree of fluidity in how men place relative to each other. Look at football where the saying is, "You're only as good as your last game." Results count much more than reputation, so we happily sacrifice the latter for the sake o…	/r/askTRP	21/06/18 10:33 PM
1	Why is oneitis bad, but not meaning in life? Why is TRP not fully red pill? I don't know if you're trolling or just naive. I'm going to be charitable and assume the latter. If that holds true, then isn't TRP acting like the blue pill in regards to meaning in life? TRP makes no claim about meaning in life. It only provides the manual to make pursuit of meaning possible. If you're physically fit and socially dextrous, you can at least come to your own conclusions about meaning because you had the tools to investigate it. Settling for physical, mental and sexual mediocrity…	/r/askTRP	21/06/18 08:53 PM
2	Why am I attracted to unavailable sluts? I hope you sleep with enough unattainable whores to see that the tail truly does wag the dog. Once the spell is broken, it's broken forever.	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 10:39 PM
1	"Send me my pictures" This is a blatant shit test, if you comply then she'll only have more reason to treat you like a doormat. If she were concerned about the photos for any other reason she would have phrased her text very differently or she wouldn't have agreed to be photographed in the first place. Best to ignore or at least withhold them until the next time you're in the bedroom.	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 01:41 AM
3	Isn't the guy who is talking the most and doing the most that holds the frame? Absolutely not. I notice that's the image of an alpha dog you see on American TV, but in real life the person who is in control is the one who exercises his will as of and when he needs it, not for the sake of displaying dominance or other such nonsense. Anyone over the age of 20 should be able to tell when someone is posturing.	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 01:30 AM
1	Going to EDM music festivsl for first time I definitely recommend the camping festivals, though. It might be different in America, but over here people are only beginning to loosen up on the first night. Most of the action is on the second night from my experience. Enjoy.	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 01:25 AM
1	When should you comment on how beautiful a girl is? As a general rule, don't, just don't. She might say it's sweet if you're lucky, but deep down she'll find it creepy. Saying she's beautiful is an indirect way of saying you'd like to have sex with her, and if she's not already attracted to or trusts you, that's a very threatening proposition. Since this is never outright said in a compliment but rather is implied, she feels ambiguity about the threat, so she feels unsettled and will try to avoid you afterwards. Not a good way to go. That is not …	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 01:07 AM
2	Why am I attracted to unavailable sluts? The fact you felt the need to clarify you're not a beta bitch is as much evidence as we need that you're a beta bitch and you know it. Why do you desire that girls you call date whores settle down and commit to you? Forget pursuing unicorns, you want them to become unicorns. You can't claim to have emotions for these girls yet still dismiss them as sluts. It sounds more like your emotions for them are unrequited and you're trying to outsource the fault to them. Don't do that, either gun for bett…	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 12:53 AM
3	Going to EDM music festivsl for first time This depends on where you are. I can only speak for Northern Europe, but if you're going to be shirtless, I assume you're in a hotter country. The only advice I'll give you is to hit the dancefloor and hit it hard. Festivals aren't like pubs and clubs where you're surrounded by hordes of sexually-frustrated 9-to-5ers who have no weekend hobbies and hence spend the night grinding into a resting bitch-face. The atmosphere is very different: more intense, but less tense, if you get me. The people a…	/r/askTRP	19/06/18 12:29 AM
5	Is online dating "beta"? I looked up this book and it says it was published in 2010. Back then, I think he did have a point because online dating was still relatively new and mainly used as a digital version of lonely hearts columns. Deftly translated, that means people who can't get a partner in real life. All this stuff involving filling out questionnaires and specifying what you seek in a partner was little more than attempting to negotiate attraction, which is absolutely low-value behaviour. Online dating was gather…	/r/TheRedPill	16/06/18 10:57 PM
1	I see you're kinda new here ... Yeah, you have to get off the fence sooner or later, which is why I think a year of lurking is a bit extreme. I think what Peterson is getting at is to emphasise humility of judgement until you've got your hands dirty with a lot of things and struck upon things that work and until then, a post we think is retarded might actually have merit (and vice-versa). I was never more arrogant about my political views than when I was intermediate at college debating.	/r/TheRedPill	10/06/18 08:47 PM
0	I see you're kinda new here ... Although a lot of the dross around here is posted by newer accounts, I don't think you should be so quick to make pronouncements about inexperienced posters when you have only been following TRP for not long over a year yourself. You may be the one walking forwards today, but tomorrow you could be the one shitting his trousers. As Jordan Peterson says, make sure you have your own house in order before you criticise others.	/r/TheRedPill	10/06/18 05:22 PM
7	Anti-Big Tobacco and Male $ Good luck lifting when you've got lung cancer.	/r/TheRedPill	08/06/18 11:26 PM
2	What if we flipped the script here? Would they assault her and call the police? It's all well and good for them to harrumph and disapprove, but if a guy had done it, they certainly wouldn't be willing to settle for mere disparagement.	/r/TheRedPill	07/06/18 11:09 PM
4	The Frame for cheating Yeah, keeping your head when you're caught cheating certainly helps to prevent a bad situation from becoming worse, but I don't think this should be an excuse to be cavalier about having affairs. The power of dread game comes from the threat that you might be having an affair, but she has nothing concrete to back up her suspicions. Her actions have an impact because in her mind, she can prevent an affair (or more precisely the need for an affair) by cleaning up her act, the latter of which is pr…	/r/TheRedPill	07/06/18 10:22 PM
2	Lessons learned after 90 day ban from TRP If you want motivation, why don't you think of how shitty your life will be in ten years if you don't get up off your arse? Just look around at random older people then you and ask yourself if you'd be content to be like them when you're their age. The guy who posts Instagram photos and Facebook stati that almost nobody cares about? The dad with the beer belly who barely has sex with a wife who let herself go? The corporate drone who lives and breathes project management jargon and has forgotten…	/r/TheRedPill	07/06/18 09:53 PM
3	Lessons learned after 90 day ban from TRP You're not apologising for something you got genuinely wrong before, you're apologising in advance for something insignificant that probably no one noticed in the first place. You see the way nice guys become doormats by being afraid of what people might think of them? They end up adapting their behaviour to appease other people and end up not being respected as a result. If someone complains about the format, you can cross that bridge when you get to it; but pre-emptively apologising makes peop…	/r/TheRedPill	07/06/18 09:44 PM
2	"Lifting" Is Not Enough Yeah, lifting is definitely given a higher emphasis than it should, but only because it's just one facet of physical fitness, and other facets are very important as well. I would say every man should grow a balanced trinity of athletics, upper body training and self defence. Some men lift because they're insecure and want to become the dog's bollocks, but men who do all three are likely to reap the full mental benefits of doing it for the right reasons, which carries over into how they deal with…	/r/TheRedPill	04/06/18 02:05 PM
26	"Lifting" Is Not Enough "You're using your physique as an excuse. You're making a scapegoat out of your body. "I didn't pull tonight: I guess I need to work more on my incline bench press."" If someone concludes they didn't pull because of one shortcoming out of a whole range of factors, he's completely missed the point of self-improvement, which is to target your weaknesses and eliminate them. It is, however, just the case that some factors hold more weight (pun very much not intended) than others. You might think it …	/r/TheRedPill	04/06/18 11:30 AM
4	UK Labour Party Spokesman gets called out live on radio by his feminist daughter for calling women "birds" "I have given it some thought and I really struggle to see how else he could have responded better though." "Your mother never objected when I called her a bird..." Shut her down and embarrass her in front of her friends? Two birds with one stone indeed.	/r/TheRedPill	03/06/18 09:22 PM
7	If you find yourself arguing with women, you are a weak target. I used to be quite bothered by the feminist girls in college because they used all the usual passive-aggressive terminology like "patriarchy", "male privilege" and "toxic masculinity" and I thought it a very egregious narrow-mindedness, especially when they became very invested in this stuff (the personal is political, as feminists used to say). Over time, however, I realised that there was no point in getting wound up by stuff like this, because they were arguing from emotions, not from reality…	/r/TheRedPill	25/05/18 06:42 PM
9	Making Friends as an Adult Yeah, making friends after college is no small task. At 21 you can easily go from having the social life of an 18 year old to the social life of a 35 year old overnight (and that's while still in college). Even if you set aside those who go abroad, people who were previously spontaneous start focusing on their careers and develop the kind of routines that are anathemous to genuine excitement. It's a big shock because in college you're guaranteed to meet boys and girls who are in the same boat as…	/r/TheRedPill	25/05/18 06:25 PM
1	The Basis of Female Attraction I was making the same point as the original poster, so if you weren't responding to that, then I have no idea what you were splitting hairs about.	/r/TheRedPill	22/05/18 08:51 PM
3	Only thing women got going on for them are their bodies?? As has probably been said many times, there was no point in getting angry at here, not even the slightest. It's like shouting at the wind for blowing in your face. Reserve your anger for people who fail to live up to their standards. It sounds like you could have easily turned the tables on her in the opposite way and bedded her; but if she's the kind of person who would accuse you of sexual harassment, maybe that was a bit risky to begin with, but losing your rag certainly made it sketchier.	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/18 01:34 AM
2	The Basis of Female Attraction You're missing the point - women feel emotions for you in response to the way you live your life and the original post is pretty much a call not to be a boring 9-5er who gives her everything on a platter. I'm not sure why you're splitting hairs on what "make her feel emotions" means, I think it's pretty obvious it means don't be a stick.	/r/TheRedPill	19/05/18 07:53 PM
1	Are the women that approach you a good indicator of how attractive you are? I would say that polygamy is a male instinct and hypergamy a female one. Tinder exacerbates both of these instincts. You would think that these would balance each other out, but it seems that increased female hypergamy is being funnelled into a smaller proportion of polygamous males. It wouldn't surprise me if Tinder's halfway split is 85%-15% or more.	/r/TheRedPill	18/05/18 09:54 AM
1	Are the women that approach you a good indicator of how attractive you are? Because some of those guys have approach anxiety too (albeit not as crippling as yours is). Just because they lift doesn't mean they know how to get women in the sack. You'd be surprised how much a bit of testicular fortitude would set you ahead. You're right about not cold approaching women at the gym, because she's there to exercise, not chat; just don't pass off a girl if it seems she's interested.	/r/TheRedPill	18/05/18 09:12 AM
0	Are the women that approach you a good indicator of how attractive you are? Bear in mind that the Pareto distribution is a continuum limit of large numbers and that there will be deviations from this in low sample sizes (such as the gym). Bear in mind also the saying about birds of a feather - where there are unattractive men, unattractive women will go and still have the pick of the bunch (nerd groups, etc.). Similarly, where there are attractive men, women will push themselves to be attractive too. If you're a typical nerd in the anime club, then you're going to have …	/r/TheRedPill	18/05/18 06:55 AM
3	The Basis of Female Attraction That's why I said don't give her your emotions...	/r/TheRedPill	18/05/18 06:33 AM
1	Are the women that approach you a good indicator of how attractive you are? As is well-known, male sexual success is pareto-distributed. As can be seen in this 2009 OKCupid study (https://archive.is/rSfFA), men's rating of women was a Gaussian curve with 50% being above average and below average whereas women's rating of men had 20% rated above average and 80% below. This means an average man will attract well-below average women. That's not to say you're average (though it's also not to say that you're not); just that the bar is high if you want to attract girls on you…	/r/TheRedPill	18/05/18 06:28 AM
22	The Three Types of Red Pill Haters That last category really shows the fundamental tension between women's conscious and unconscious desires. On one hand, they dislike weak men and yearn for someone strong both in body and mind; on the other hand, weak men are easy to control and give them all the validation they need while men with strong frame are resistant to short-changing and mind games. It really is a double-edged sword for women. It's almost as if the "women like nice guys" line is an attempt to leverage the best of both w…	/r/TheRedPill	17/05/18 07:08 PM
3	Dread, while a powerful tool in a red pilled man's arsenal, doesn't work until you have her hooked in. The crux of the dread is that you could line up a load of women in the wings if you wanted to - but you leave that to the imagination of the target. Nowhere ought you explicitly say you have all these options or other girls lined up. Dread should never be an offensive measure to make a girl work hard to please you, it should be a defensive measure to falling standards and taking things for granted.	/r/TheRedPill	17/05/18 01:45 AM
1	Tinder Is The Embodiment Of Why Most Girls Will Never Deserve You Tinder is hypergamy unleashed. You would think that this would be balanced out by male polygamy, but it isn't; male success on Tinder is highly pareto-distributed, so only the top men really benefit from instant access to attractive women, whereas any girl can swipe until she's got matches and then remove the top slice. The lack of any real rejection makes it very low risk, so every man and his dog can now "approach" women: but in return, it means you have to have an excellent profile to rise ab…	/r/TheRedPill	16/05/18 03:08 PM
12	The Basis of Female Attraction You've missed his point - make women feel emotions, not give them your own. That's pretty much what you did to that girl because power generates attraction (in the sense you said) precisely because of the emotions it invokes in women. In summary, evoke her emotions but discipline your own.	/r/TheRedPill	16/05/18 10:24 AM
18	You're in High School and you just found TRP - a guide Your teens is in one sense the hardest time of your life to orientate yourself as a guy because you're still halfway between child and man, but in another sense, it is the best time to take ownership of your masculinity. Quite simply, almost none of the other guys know what they're doing at that age, and most girls are only beginning to understand the power they hold over their male peers. Anyone who can bring order out of that form of chaos is unstoppable at that age. On a practical level, when…	/r/TheRedPill	16/05/18 02:37 AM
29	Man tries to win his wife's love by giving her Teslas and expensive vacations. She returns the favor by - you guessed it - having an orgy with randos when he's gone. What you have to bear in mind is that the author is (almost) certainly blue-pilled, so he wouldn't have noticed those red flags because they were invisible to him. As far as he was concerned, he was just fulfilling the obligations of a husband in the 21st century. He only saw cause for concern when confronted with warning signs no reasonable person could ignore. That's not to say that there weren't warning signs that we would find very clear; just that they likely wouldn't have been suspicious t…	/r/TheRedPill	16/05/18 02:18 AM
33	TRP is an ace up your sleeve that is not to be shared with others. It is extremely difficult to change someone's mind in a debate. The type of conversation that happens is one where two people talk past each other rather than with each other. When push comes to shove however, reality speaks for itself. The Red Pill as a concept is too abstract and high-level to sell to someone who has a vested interest in their current worldview without significant resistance. I think certain specific instantiations of the Red Pill such as frame and handling shit-tests can be s…	/r/TheRedPill	15/05/18 03:26 AM
66	'She Wants Something More' It just goes to show the saying: women are gatekeepers of sex, men are gatekeepers of relationships. Any girl with her wits about her wouldn't let herself get short-changed by a low quality pump-and-dump, so by the same token, any guy with his wits about him won't let himself get short-changed in the manner you described. Having other options and not being desperate is crucial to both of these situations.	/r/TheRedPill	15/05/18 03:08 AM
8	#MeToo aims to make men criminally liable for all of women's negative post-sex feelings. I think it just goes to show that for women, consent is a state of mind rather than a concrete intention. In what other world would a woman be able to retroactively withdraw consent and have it taken seriously? If anything, it underlines that it's not having sex which is important, it's the manner in which you have it, because that's ultimately what will determine her state of mind the next day when she returns to day-to-day life. I notice that it is not so much the masculine, forthright men who…	/r/TheRedPill	14/05/18 01:28 AM
1	Am I the only lurker here that finds the intense focus on sex a little counterproductive? Sexual strategy is very important to reflect upon because even if that's not your target, it still underlies a considerable core of the interactions between men and women. In fact, it's not clear that the two can be disentangled at all. I would say the crux of the escape from the blue pill is that when men follow society's new blueprint (pun not intended) of "non-toxic masculinity", they open themselves to be exploited and walked over like a doormat. What's more, these same behaviours don't just…	/r/TheRedPill	14/05/18 12:44 AM
7	Create Value Using the red pill to have sex with women is a classic case of the journey being more important than the destination. Men don't reach the peak of their abilities by attracting women, they attract women by reaching the peak of their abilities. That's what women use to select for men, which is why the two can't be untangled. To aim for one is to aim for the other. This is why the whole pick-up artistry approach rings hollow (and I'm not saying that's what your advocating, just referring back to th…	/r/TheRedPill	13/05/18 06:10 PM